Ask Lindzi You’ve seen her experience the ups and downs of dating on ABC’s The Bachelor and Bachelor Pad. Now, the fabulous Lindzi Cox answers your relationship questions and solves your real-life dating dilemmas. “Dear Lindzi, I’m embarrassed to admit this, but earlier this year I cheated on my boyfriend. He was really focused on a project at work, and I had a little fling with an old guy friend who came to town for the week. He doesn’t live in town, and I don’t have any plans to see him again. At the time, I honestly wasn’t sure if my boyfriend and I were going to stay together, but recently our relationship has really blossomed, and now we’re even talking about moving in together! I wonder if I should tell him about the brief affair. ALL of my friends say I should not. Do you agree?” --Molly, Portland, OR
Lindzi says: With all respect, I must disagree with your friends, even though I think they are just trying to spare you from having an uncomfortable conversation with your boyfriend. Personally, I would have this big, ugly cloud of a guilty conscience looming over me. I am a huge advocate of transparency and feel like this is a big thing to hide from your partner, especially if you are serious enough to be STYLEDRIGHT 44
talking about living together! The other thing that would terrify me is the thought of him finding out from someone else. It is a really small world. Freakishly small. Since you can’t guarantee he will never find out, you might as well be the one to tell him. Dear Lindzi, I’m single and most of my friends are married and have kids. I have more financial freedom, because I have a really great job, and I don’t have to worry about anyone else besides myself. I want to take a vacation (it doesn’t really matter where, I just have the travel bug and I want to go someplace cool). I asked my girl friends to go with me, but they all say things like ‘maybe if I didn’t have a family and responsibilities I could do that’ (I have responsibilities, too, btw!). Should I just go alone and plan a dream vacation with myself? --Sarah, Edmonds, WA
Lindzi says: First of all, sister, I hate when people play the ‘responsibilities’ card. We ALL have responsibilities, dang