Inside Styled Right MAGAZINE 15 Advice from Clinton Kelly
The host of TLC’s What Not To Wear shares the lessons he learned from coordinating hundreds of makeovers.
16 Goodwill Glam
Our team tackles the ultimate style challenge: we recreate designer runway looks with clothing from Seattle Goodwill--you won’t believe the results!
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• Get glowing skin • Eat healthy this holiday • Dos and don’ts of dressing for the holidays • Dating advice from Lindzi Cox of ABC’s The Bachelor • Portable party essentials
24 Thrifting with Kim Holcomb The KING-5 Evening Magazine host shares her best secrets for finding treasures at thrift stores.
36 Your Holiday Style Guide
Affordable holiday style throughout. Plus! Learn how to transition from work to party in a few easy steps.
Get to know the ultra talented and passionate recording artist poised to make her mark on the music industry. Vicci Martinez offers a rare and honest glimpse into her rockstar life. STYLEDRIGHT 3
Editor-in-Chief Darcy Camden Fashion Director Sherri Garcia Fashion Assistants Anne Etter Sheryl Lee Beauty Editor Tiffany Lowry Contributors to the issue Rosemary Wagner Susan Grace Lindzi Cox Kim Holcomb Deborah Enos Stephanie Rush and Gary Werden, Editors Cover Vicci Martinez, cover model Emily Himmelright, graphic artist Tiffany Lowry, hair and make-up Rosemary Wagner, photographer Special Thanks ADOR Macyâ€™s Brides Against Breast Cancer Skoah Seattle Goodwill Amanda Howse photography For advertising inquiries: email@example.com Styled Right Magazine c/o Styled Seattle 3430 NE 45th, ste 101 Seattle, WA 98105
From your stylist
he weekend after Halloween, I spent a day at Macy’s in Downtown Seattle. I was there to meet and interview style expert Clinton Kelly, one of my personal heros (I credit Clinton and Stacy London for introducing America to the idea of makeovers and generally making Style seem possible to us all...but I digress). The month of November sort of creeped up on me, and I was so excited to meet Clinton, that I was completely blindsided by an unexpected sensory overload at Macy’s: the smell of gingerbread, the sight of sparkly Christmas trees, and the unmistakeable melody of “It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like Christmas.” It confused me for a moment, until I did a quick mental tally and realized: it IS beginning to look and feel a lot like Christmas. The weather is getting colder, requiring thick coats and fun accessories, like gloves and pretty scarves (no complaints here!). My clients are all seeking the perfect party dress--something they can wear more than once, hopefully!--and my team at Styled Seattle is busily preparing holiday-themed style segments for “New Day Northwest,” which means we are researching fun things like cozy sweaters and sparkly outfits under $100. Yes, the holidays are upon us! This issue is packed with great holiday advice: we’ve got beauty tips to keep your skin looking perfect, even in frigid winter air; we’ve got healthy eating tips to help you battle the holiday buffet table; and we’ve got dating, shopping and, of course, style tips! Finally, I am so excited to share our exclusive interview with singer/songwriter Vicci Martinez, someone who will surely be an internationally well-known artist within the next year. Don’t miss the exclusive behind-the-scenes video we shot during her photo shoot at The Crocodile when Vicci grabbed her guitar and played one of her new songs. Her beautful voice and inspirational work ethic are a true gift. Wishing everyone a happy, healthy and fabulous holiday season and new year! We sincerely hope you enjoy the issue, and we’ll see you again in 2014!
Warmly, Darcy Camden @darcycamden
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(B)ESTHETICIAN Seattle’s top facialist Susan Grace of Suite 300 in Ballard answers your most pressing skincare questions “I have zero loyalty or consistency when it comes to skincare products. I buy whatever is on sale or new at the drugstore. I use all different brands of face lotion, face wash, eye cream--whatever I can find. How bad is this? Should I stick to one brand, or can I mix it up?” K.L., Seattle, WA
Susan says: Most skin care product lines work together synergistically so that their combined effect is superior to their individual effect. What you’re doing by choosing random products for your skin care regimen isn’t horrible, but you are absolutely depriving yourself of the benefits you would experience by using products that are designed to provide optimum results when used together as a system.
“I travel a lot for work, and it really has a bad effect on my skin. I’m not sure if it’s the air on the planes or the change in temperature/altitude, because I travel all around the country. Is there something I can do to prevent dry skin and breakouts that always seem to plague me? I would love some secrets to keep my skin looking great and a recommendation for a great travel skin care regimen.” P.K., Tacoma, WA Susan says: It is true that air travel sucks the life force out of your skin. Fortunately, there are ways to protect yourself from plane dehydration. First and foremost, take preventative measures: make sure to thoroughly exfoliate and moisturize the
day before you travel. You can either DIY at home or make an appointment with your skin care professional for a pre-flight skin-saving treatment, such as a facial. Conditioning and moisturizing your skin will provide a barrier against the recycled air and altitude. Another little helper is to pack an Air Repair Skin Travel Kit into your carry on bag. The kit includes products to help maintain the integrity of your skin before, during and after flying. “Is there REALLY anything (non surgical) that can be done to erase existing wrinkles? I see a lot of wrinkle creams and hear a lot of advertising promising to ‘turn back the clock,’ but I’m wondering if it’s even possible to get rid of wrinkles that have already formed? Should I be trying to erase wrinkles I have or should I rather focus on preventing new ones from forming, if I can?” R.W., Bellevue, WA Susan says: The answer is yes! There are many ingredients that can cause fine lines and creases to soften. Retinol, polymer acids and peptides are some of the ingredients you should look for when selecting an anti-aging cream. My absolute favorite is the peptide Matrixyl which stimulates fibroblasts in the lower levels of the skin, promoting the healing of damaged tissue. Look for it in products like Partly Sunny Smooth Well moisturizer, it will leave the skin firm and bouncy. STYLEDRIGHT 11
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RunWAY Designer-inspired looks from Seattle Goodwill
This fall, the editors of Styled Right challenged ourselves to recreate our favorite looks from New York Fashion Week entirely from local second-hand treasures. We succeeded, proving that designer style doesn’t have to cost a fortune. KING-5’s Evening Magazine followed us as we styled the looks and took them out to the streets, turning Seattle’s bustling King Street station into a high fashion runway. Tune in to Evening Magazine Thursday, Nov. 14 at 7:30pm to watch an exclusive behindthe-scenes video of this photo shoot with stylists, models and editors at Seattle Goodwill on Dearborn Ave. STYLEDRIGHT 16
Photography: Rosemary Wagner Hair and Make-up: Tiffany Lowry Wardrobe: Darcy Camden, Sherri Garcia, Sheryl Lee Location: Sound Transit King Street Station
Wardrobe styling: Sherri Garcia Hair and Make-up:Tiffany Lowry Photography: Rosemary Wagner
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Top Left to Right: Jil Sander, DKNY, Yves Saint Laurent Bottom Left to Right: Giambattista Valli, Stella McCartney, Michael Kors
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Kim Holcomb Poppin’ tags with Seattle’s Queen of Thrift. See why Kim Holcomb’s “Thrifting Thursdays” series on KING-5’s Evening Magazine has made second-hand shopping fun and trendy.
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Styled Right: Have you always been thrifty? When did you start thrifting? Kim Holcomb: I was raised to be thrifty. My mom shopped at Ross Dress For Less and the like, so I followed suit. I used to drive to Venice Beach, CA in high school and buy used denim at a vintage store. But I didn’t begin seriously thrifting until about 7 years ago, when I moved to Washington state and my sister-in-law introduced me to the process.
more and more people are proud--and even brag!--about how much they saved. KH: Honestly, I think we have to credit Macklemore with helping it go mainstream. The world shifts along with pop culture, and his song “Thrift Shop” made thrifting cool, and alternately, made buying retail seem wasteful and ridiculous. I also think a shift toward sustainability helps. At its heart, thrifting is recycling on a fashionable level.
SR: How long have you been doing “Thrifting Thursdays” on Evening Magazine? KH: I came up with the idea in late spring and began doing the weekly segments in the beginning of the summer .
SR: What are some of the best tips you’ve learned from other thrifting experts you’ve featured on Thrifting Thursdays? KH: First, know your brands. Austin Deppa, who owns Seattle’s most exclusive consignment company, once found an HerSR: What is your ultimate BEST, most surmes scarf in a thrift store! Also, go often. prising treasure that you’ve found at a thrift The staff at Boot Girl in Ballard stocks new store? inventory multiple times a week, so stopKH: It’s a toss-up! I found a vintage Celine ping in often can help you find the perfect bag at the Goodwill Glitter Sale for $50, thing. Lastly, always pay attention to tags. which was fantastic. But my best find might At Seattle Goodwill, you can save 50% if be a wicker clutch by Italian brand Rodo. your tag is the color of the day, and if the I paid $7.99 at Seattle Goodwill’s South item is a black tag and has been on the Lake Union location. I’m 99% certain it’s shelf for more than a month, they’ll also authentic, which means it’s worth several mark it down. Just ask. hundred dollars. Not that I’d sell it, it’s my trophy purse! SR: Where is YOUR favorite place to thrift shop? SR: Can you share a story of a thrifting Fail? KH: I love Seattle Goodwill in South Lake KH: I recently paid too much for a Michael Union and Crossroads Trading Co. on CapKors shirt at a consignment store in NYC. itol Hill (thanks to Darcy Camden)! It’s cute, but I spent $35 and regret it. I was shopping with friends and got caught up SR: What would you say to someone who in the moment, a huge mistake! You have has never been to a thrift store but wants to keep your head about you when thriftto start thrifting? ing, otherwise it’s easy to buy things you KH: Go with someone who’s passionate don’t need or spend too much. about it, and let them show you the ropes. It can initially feel overwhelming, but the SR: Why do you think thrifting is trendy thrill is in the hunt. Be patient. Be picky. right now? It seems like it used to be a little And when you finally find something taboo, like no one would ever admit if they good, you won’t be able to stop yourself bought something second hand, and now from bragging, “I thrifted it!” STYLEDRIGHT 25
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vicci martinez Get to know the Pacific Northwest talent who became a household name on NBCâ€™s The Voice and is steadily working her way to the top. Styled Right gives you a glimpse behind the music and into the life of a rising star. by Darcy Camden
Photograpy: Rosemary Wagner Hair and Make-up: Tiffany Lowry Location: The Crocodile Seattle, WA STYLEDRIGHT 29
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an impromptu live acoustic performance Vicci Martinez performs a new brand song
VICCI M A R T I N E Z
It’s not every day the team at Styled Right gets to hang out with rock stars, so we didn’t know what to expect when Vicci Martinez arrived for her cover shoot. Would she show up with an entourage? Would she be demanding or difficult? Would she be cold and impossible to talk to?
uckily, none of the above is true about Vicci Martinez. She drove herself to the shoot and arrived solo with a very heavy, very large suitcase. She warned us in advance about the suitcase, explaining that she lugs her entire life--clothes, shoes, everything--around the world with her. Vicci, originally from Tacoma, WA, now resides in L.A. but spends much time on the road, traveling wherever she needs to be to pursue her passion and make music. Vicci slipped comfortably into the hair and make-up chair and chatted easily with Beauty Editor Tiffany Lowry about beauty products, music and, of course, Adam Levine (“He’s great!”). At one point, Vicci ran to her giant suitcase to pull out a can of Oribe Texturizing Spray declaring it her favorite product and sharing it with everyone on the
set. “Smell this!” Vicci said. “I love the scent, I use this instead of wearing perfume.” Vicci wore her own clothes throughout the shoot (we encouraged her to style herself), including a pair of custom-made leather pants, minimal jewelry and the ultimate Seattle grunge accessory: Doc Marten’s. She was a pro in front of the camera, giving everyone the impression that she, like most recording artists, had been through many photo shoots. “Not true,” she said. In fact, she admitted that she was so stiff and uncomfortable at a recent photo
shoot organized by her label that all of the photos turned out unusable, and she ended up coordinating another shoot herself at her home. “This is my first cover shoot for a magazine,” she said humbly.
Things got really fun on set when she whipped out her phone and asked to play some music. “You guys want to hear my new shit?” Um, YES! As the camera clicked, she played two of her new songs, singing and air guitaring along with the words, providing cool commentary (“at this part, someone like Wiz Khalifa would come in and rap.”) and personal stories behind the lyrics. Her passion for the music was as infectious as the dance beats.
that. Oh well.” Here are the best parts of Vicci’s interview. If you want to know more, download her album and look out for her new songs. Vicci Martinez’s music will tell you everything you need to know. Styled Right: When did you first know you wanted to be a musician? Vicci Martinez: When I had my first violin recital, at 6 years old. Later, when I was a teenager, I saw Dave Matthews play at The Gorge. I saw the way the audience was experiencing the music, how emotionally connected they were, and I knew, “I want to do that.”
Vicci is an open book. We asked her to tell us a cool story, and she told us about a time when Stevie Nicks--Stevie freakin’ Nicks!--pulled Vicci aside, looked her in the eye and called her “the future of music.” Vicci also spoke honestly about her struggles with music labels, money and traveling around the world. She said it’s not always glamorous; for example, on a recent trip to Spokane, WA, she stayed with her band at a motel that was so dirty she literally found rat droppings under her pillow.
SR: Can you describe your first public performance? VM: My very first was a violin recital, but my first singing-my-own-music performance was in Tacoma, WA at the Antique Sandwich Company’s Open Mic Night. I was super nervous! I remember my ears got really hot, but it went great, and I even met another musician and started my first band. I was thirteen.
Vicci’s honesty and no-bullshit approach to everything, including her interview with us, was unexpected. At several points during the afternoon, we had to remind her gently that she was on the record and being recorded. “Oops, I probably shouldn’t have said
SR: Describe how you got onto The Voice. What were you doing in your career at the time you started the show? What was the audition process like? VM: They found me and asked me to audition. I was just touring around doSTYLEDRIGHT 33 35
ing gigs and making music, like I have done my whole life. The audition was very comfortable. No pressure. I felt like I was what they were looking for from the beginning, which felt really special. SR: How did being on The Voice change the trajectory of your music career? VM: Obviously, it gave me exposure and a bigger audience immediately. And it got my music on radio stations across the country, which was amazing!
anything in your career that you would do differently? VM: Yes I would. Would I do anything differently? Maybe I could have planned or strategized better. And it would have been nice to have a choice about which music label to sign with.
SR: How would you describe your music? VM: Real. My music is everything I love, all mixed together. Some people get it and some people don’t. I want to always evolve and heal myself [through my music], and I want to help SR: What was the best and worst part others who may be experiencing the of being on The Voice? same feelings. VM: The best for me was the overall experience. I was able to develop a SR: How has your music evolved over friendship with all of the contestants the years? and coaches and everyone who VM: (Laughs) Life! It just changes. worked on the show. It was like sum- Whatever I’m feeling, I try it out in my mer camp, just a fun time and you music. I’ve been funk, I’ve been soul, don’t want to go home. The worst I’ve been folk, pop, blues. I just play thing, I think, for me, was just how dif- what I like. It’s just me. ficult it was to get on major tours after I released my album [after the show SR: Who inspires you the most? ended]. I think a lot of people just atVM: My mom. She’s a strong, comtached me to The Voice [and thought mitted woman. of me as] just a lucky girl who was on TV. Nobody realized that I’ve been SR: What is the best advice you’ve working my ass off--probably more ever received? than anyone else!--for fifteen years. VM: My dad told me, “Whatever That’s some real fucking experience. choices you make in life, make sure you are okay with the best and the SR: If you could do it all over again, worst that could result.” (Cont’d page 48) would you go on The Voice? Is there STYLEDRIGHT 35
How to transition your outfit from day to night in a few easy steps.
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Stylist says: “All bright colors are festive, not just red and green. Bright pink, dynamic blue or a pop of yellow will turn heads and instantly dress up any outfit.”
Your holiday party shopping list: • A peplum top. Wear it tucked in to a pencil skirt for day, and belted at night.
• A metallic shoe. The opposite of your practical, comfortable work shoe.
• A statement necklace. Don’t skimp on the glitz! A single sparkly and dramatic accessory will dress up any outfit.
• A clutch. See “Stylist says” page 39. STYLEDRIGHT 37
Stylist says: “Never carry a big purse to a party. Always downsize to a pretty clutch. Even if you change nothing else, a great clutch will make you appear dressed for the occasion.”
After Dos and Don’ts of Holiday Dressing:
Don’t overaccessorize. It can be tempting to layer on the jewels, but stick to one statement piece (so you don’t look like a Christmas tree!)
Do think about outerwear. A dress coat, gloves and a pretty scarf will top off any look.
Do repurpose your basic wardrobe staples. With the
right styling, your favorite black pencil skirt or black pants can be just as festive as a cocktail dress. STYLEDRIGHT 39
SURVIVING the HOLIDAYS Making smart choices before, during and after your parties by Deborah Enos, certified nutritionist
hen I was overweight and unhealthy, holidays were tough for me. While I loved the family time, I found the food really challenging. One of my problems was that I never felt full, so I thought about food all the time. When it came to parties, I found myself looking more forward to hitting the buffet than visiting with friends. Food was always on my mind and quite honestly, I felt like my thoughts of food were taking over my life.
for nutritionistAfter years of trying different types of programs to manage my holiday approved holiday overeating, I finally achieved sucdessert recipes! cess. Here is what I now do before My favorite protein-packed a party, holiday event or any other breakfast? Eggs and toast. time when I might be tempted to gorge: Exercise in the morning. I always walk or jog on the day of a “food event”. Exercise boosts my endorphins, which gives me more control over my appetite throughout the day. Even 15 minutes of exercise is helpful.
Eat a high fiber snack an hour before the event. The fiber content will fill me up, allowing me to be more focused on friends than food. I will usually slice up an apple and snack on it as I’m getting dressed and doing my make-up.
Protein in the morning. I eat a high protein breakfast on the day of an event. The protein helps prevent sugar cravings later in the day. The protein will also fill up my tummy for a few hours, helping me to stay away from the appetizer tray.
Don’t wear pants that have an elastic waistband. If you wear something that will easily let your waistline expand, then it will be easier to overindulge. Wear a fitted dress or pants with a belt. (Cont’d page 49) STYLEDRIGHT 41
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(Clockwise, Top Left to Right) ADOR Launch Party at Black Bottle. Seattle fashionistas united to celebrate the launch of an exciting new fashion app. Macy’s Fall Fashion Event at Bellevue Square. Top fashion experts collaborated to host and style a fall fashion event featuring exclusive collections from the Macy’s Impluse Department. “I Am Hopeful” fashion event benefitting The Hope Heart Institute at EMP. Stylists, celebrities and retailers joined forces to celebrate survivors of heart disease. Bright Pink Power Hour at Westfield Southcenter. Girl Power Hour and Westfield Southcenter threw a fabulous and fashionable pink carpet event to benefit Bright Pink, a breast cancer awareness charity. STYLEDRIGHT STYLEDRIGHT43 43
Ask Lindzi You’ve seen her experience the ups and downs of dating on ABC’s The Bachelor and Bachelor Pad. Now, the fabulous Lindzi Cox answers your relationship questions and solves your real-life dating dilemmas. “Dear Lindzi, I’m embarrassed to admit this, but earlier this year I cheated on my boyfriend. He was really focused on a project at work, and I had a little fling with an old guy friend who came to town for the week. He doesn’t live in town, and I don’t have any plans to see him again. At the time, I honestly wasn’t sure if my boyfriend and I were going to stay together, but recently our relationship has really blossomed, and now we’re even talking about moving in together! I wonder if I should tell him about the brief affair. ALL of my friends say I should not. Do you agree?” --Molly, Portland, OR
Lindzi says: With all respect, I must disagree with your friends, even though I think they are just trying to spare you from having an uncomfortable conversation with your boyfriend. Personally, I would have this big, ugly cloud of a guilty conscience looming over me. I am a huge advocate of transparency and feel like this is a big thing to hide from your partner, especially if you are serious enough to be STYLEDRIGHT 44
talking about living together! The other thing that would terrify me is the thought of him finding out from someone else. It is a really small world. Freakishly small. Since you can’t guarantee he will never find out, you might as well be the one to tell him. Dear Lindzi, I’m single and most of my friends are married and have kids. I have more financial freedom, because I have a really great job, and I don’t have to worry about anyone else besides myself. I want to take a vacation (it doesn’t really matter where, I just have the travel bug and I want to go someplace cool). I asked my girl friends to go with me, but they all say things like ‘maybe if I didn’t have a family and responsibilities I could do that’ (I have responsibilities, too, btw!). Should I just go alone and plan a dream vacation with myself? --Sarah, Edmonds, WA
Lindzi says: First of all, sister, I hate when people play the ‘responsibilities’ card. We ALL have responsibilities, dang
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it! But to get to the main question here: to travel or not to travel? I say: Travel! Go, do it now, and don’t wait another minute! Seriously, there is something really liberating and life-changing about traveling, especially by yourself. You will really force yourself to step out of your comfort zone and experience new places, people and adventures. Do it for the story! You can tell your friends all about it, and maybe they will come next time! “Dear Lindzi, I am starting to develop feelings for my boss and I’m pretty sure he has feelings for me as well. There’s lots of flirting going on, and if I’m being honest I’m probably getting special attention. Here’s the thing: my boss and I are the same age, and I think we’re a really good match for each other! We are both single, we have similar hobbies and interests, and I can’t think of any reason--other than the fact that he is my boss--that we shouldn’t date. Is it really that bad for me to date my boss? I should note: I really love my job and don’t want to leave or jeopardize it.” --Britteny, Seattle, WA (Cont’d page 49)
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“I know it’s early, but I have the perfect New Year’s Eve outfit planned. I bought a great dress at the end of summer. It’s a gold sequin mini dress. It has sleeves, but it’s nearly backless. I love the dress, but I’m now worried I will be too cold! Is there a way to style it to keep myself from freezing without ruining the look?” -J.K. Seattle, WA
Stylist Answer: I recommend wearing your dress with black opaque tights and black high heels. Not only will the tights keep you warm on a cold night, but color-coordinating your tights and shoes will make your legs look gorgeous and super long (which is the goal of a mini dress, right?). If you need something on your shoulders and arms, go for a cropped tuxedo blazer. The structure of the blazer will make your dress look edgy without swallowing you up. -Darcy Camden, Editor
VICCI MARTINEZ (Cont’d from page 37)
SR: What is the worst criticism you’ve ever received? VM: After I was on The Voice, I heard a few [negative] things, but I learned quickly to ignore them. Once, someone said I sounded like a dog, so I responded, “Woof!” SR: Did anyone ever tell you that you would never make it in the music business? VM: If they did, then I don’t remember or I never really heard it. That’s how determined I have been my whole life. When it comes to music, the word “No” did not and does not exist for me. SR: You just got back from Sweden, where you were working on new music. Where are you headed in the coming months and what are your travel essentials--what do you never leave home without? VM: I’m going to the East Coast, and maybe Europe again soon. I never leave without my travel garment steamer and my hair products, no way!
VM: I’m working on new music, and I’m very excited about it, so I hope that in the next year the whole world gets to hear this new music! For more information about Vicci Martinez, including album release and tour dates, visit viccimartinez.com.
(Cont’d from page 45)
Lindzi says: Is it bad? No. Is it risky? Yes. Is it worth it? There’s no way to know, unless you try it. I understand this is a really tough decision, so before you do anything, you should do some soul searching to make sure you are genuinely interested in him. I wouldn’t encourage you to jeopardize your career over a crush that could be gone next month. If you decide to make a move with your boss, try not to flirt with him in front of co-workers. Take the relationship out of the office. Go to dinner or coffee, and get to know each other to find out if you are genuinely interested in something more than flirting (if you’re not, you can still stay friendly and professional). Remember that if it doesn’t work out, he will still be your boss, so keep it mature.
“Dear Lindzi, I’m dating a guy, and I know for a fact that he is dating someone else, too. It’s ok, we’ve never said we wanted to be exclusive and the relationship is fairly new. He probably thinks I am dating other people, too, but I’m SR: We hate the question “Where do you not. I want to make my relationship with him see yourself in five years?” Let’s stick exclusive, but I’m afraid that if I ask him to with one year. What are your goals for choose between me and the other person he this coming year? is dating, he will not pick me. I’m enjoying our SR: Describe a perfect--or maybe a better word is successful--day. VM: Any day full of love, laughs and smiles.
time together, should I let things continue for awhile and not say anything or should I push him to make a decision?”--April, Seattle, WA Lindzi says: Hold on, you are afraid he won’t pick you? Girlfriend, if it’s a fragile enough relationship to be ruined just by asking what is going on, it’s not worth having. I promise. I totally understand the situation you are in: you think things are fine, and you don’t want to rock the boat. But, if you know he is dating someone else, why are you letting yourself be his lady on the side? The “other girl” never wins (Trust me, I once dated this guy who had 24 other girlfriends at the same time!), and you are just setting yourself up for heartbreak. By hanging around and emotionally investing in this guy, you are missing out on the plethora of other guys who would be thrilled to have you and only you!
SURVIVING the HOLIDAYS (Cont’d from page 41)
Carry a cup of hot herbal tea or decaf coffee. Hot liquid helps kill my appetite, which allows me to slow down and really enjoy my food. Drink enough water. I start my day with at least 8 ounces of water, and I drink water throughout the day. Dehydration can enhance the feelings of hunger, so staying hydrated helps you feel full. Not sure how much water you should be drinking? Look to the toilet bowl! Your urine should look almost clear. If your urine is dark, you are probably dehydrated (or you’ve just taken some vitamins). Treat yourself in moderation. If you’re going to splurge, go for a small portion of the best thing. You will feel much more satisfied and happy. STYLEDRIGHT 49
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