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Well Being With Sarah Noble HOW TO BE AUTHENTICALLY YOU Humans are wired for connection. We ALL want to feel seen, heard. We all want to be loved for who we are. But, somewhere along the way, we conform. We follow the crowd, we dull our real selves, to fit in, to please others, to not rock the boat, to seem a certain way. Our focus shifts from being authentically us as a child, to re-shaping and moulding ourselves to please others as an adult. There is only so much of pretending to be someone we are not, that we can tolerate before we decide enough is enough. The journey starts with YOU. For you to feel comfortable being your authentic self around anyone, anywhere, you first must feel comfortable within yourself. You must love and accept every part of you, the good, the bad and the ugly. Take some time and journey within, get to know yourself, the real you. Who are you? Beneath the layers, the masks, the labels. What are your values? Who do you want to spend time with? What lights you up? It can take some time to discover who we are, especially if we have been pretending to be someone else for so long. It can be uncomfortable. It takes A LOT of patience and compassion. Some things you can do to discover who you really are: • Have o1pen conversations with loved ones, who you can talk to about anything. Explore! • Journal - free write or use prompts like “why do I feel as though I cannot be myself?” or, “If I could live my authentic life, what would that look like?” • Spend time alone – often. No devices, preferably in nature, or some sort of grounding activity like yoga or meditation. • Once you have discovered who you are, it’s time to accept. Accept yourself as you are right now. As you were in the past, and as you will be in 84

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the ever-changing future. Accept your quirks, your (perceived) flaws. You are a unique individual, what a beautiful gift. The more you accept who you are, love who you are, the easier it will be to be yourself. The more comfortable you will feel being 100% YOU, and the more uncomfortable it will feel to NOT be you! What’s next? Practise! Get out there, in different situations, with different people and practise being you. Express yourself, state your opinions and views – unapologetically. Have FUN! Being you is a gift – celebrate it!! Remember to be kind and compassionate – if you step back briefly into putting on a mask, dulling your shine, or conforming, forgive yourself and try again! You will slip back in your journey, that’s ok. Just keep going, and eventually being you will be automatic, non-negotiable. Now, when you go on this epic adventure of Authenticity, it WILL be uncomfortable, it will make others uncomfortable. You may have to leave a job, move house, loose friends – remember, this is all part of the journey. When you step into your authenticity, you may outgrow some people. You are making room for those to enter your life that from the get-go, will love, appreciate and respect you for being 100%, authentic YOU. That’s what you want, so don’t let losing some things stop you from pursuing your authentic life. The more you are your authentic self, the more people/jobs/situations you will attract into your life, that align with the real you. That which does not will fall away. You will be born again, and you will never look back. Sarah Noble Mindfully You

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