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A Nurtured Life With Lorella Doherty PARENTING IS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS

tionship at the core of how they parent, and the teaching stuff waaaay to the outside (if it even needs to enter at all).

For many of us as parents, we feel we have a job to do raising our children.

Does it really feel fulfilling, and like we are nurturing a loving relationship by standing above our children? Instead of beside them, as their best friend rather than their boss.

We feel we have to teach them right from wrong, teach them what they should and shouldn’t do, and teach them how to be one-day-adults. My hand is flying up for having been here before (in fact I do still visit here from time to time - it’s a continuous work in progress when we are rewriting parenting blueprints). But the truth is - first of all, kids certainly don’t need to be taught much at all. They are learning pro’s in fact. They learn all they need to know, when they need to know, by simply living and being. They pick up all the do’s and the don’ts, the rights and the wrongs, the should and should not’s, when it is right for them; and in the way that is right for them. If given the time, trust and space to (aka freedom). But the crux is, parenting is first and foremost about RELATIONSHIPS. Which might sound pretty obvious to you. But obvious or not, I can’t help but witness a whole lot of relationships between parent and child that do not have the focus of their rela-

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Issue #18 | The Inspired Guide | December 1st 2020

Yes, boundaries are extremely important. They are crucial to any relationship, and they are the way of not only protecting and loving ourselves and others, but clear boundaries can certainly be done in a loving, clear and compassionate way (without the boss hat). Have you ever had a beautiful sit down with your children, even when they are toddlers, and explained at their level why something is important to you? It’s pretty amazing what they comprehend and honour! And let’s be honest, other times they do not. Which means they are taking on the role of being our biggest teacher - helping us to set clear boundaries for ourself; helping us love ourselves in fact. So I wonder what you could do to nurture this relationship; so it is strong, healthy and playful?

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