- Student Team Guide -
How to run an accountability group 1. Find one or two friends whom you trust and who will challenge and encourage you in your life 2. Meet at least twice a month 3. The Accountability groups are not mixed gender. 4. There is no leader, only a facilitator (take turns each time you meet) 5. Begin your session with prayer, scripture and/or check out the 100 day Bible Challenge (see churchforstudents.com) 6. Go through the Accountability Group Handbook â€“ Booklets are available from churchforstudents.com 7. Review Accountability Group twice a year and seek advice from the Student Team/Cluster Leader
A Balanced Lifestyle
Description Jesus lived a balanced lifestyle… He spent time with his Father (UP), He spent time with his disciples (IN), and He reached the community around Him (OUT). Maintaining a balanced lifestyle is often difficult but essential.
Accountability Discussion 1. Draw a triangle. 2. Spend 30secs thinking about your UP, IN and OUT. Use a scale of 1-10 to score yourself on each one (you cannot use 5!). 3. Spend some time reflecting on your scores as a group. Do you have a balance of UP, IN and OUT? 4. Discuss whether your scores are healthy and what you can do to improve them and hold one another accountable.
Student Team Tip It’s good to acknowledge that you will experience different seasons in your life. Sometimes your OUT will be higher than your IN. Or your UP will be lower than your IN. This is normal. Don’t panic! However, if over the months a consistent pattern emerges that is not healthy, action needs to be encouraged (see section 6 for help)
Work and Rest
Description Life can often feel hectic. Finding a balance between work and rest is often difficult. We should always work from a place of rest rather than resting from work. The semi circle illustrates this balanceâ€Ś
Accountability Questions 1. How is your balance? 2. How do you rest? 3. Have you planned any rest into your daily, weekly and monthly diary? 4. Is your lack of work or rest affecting your relationship with God and others?
H.A.L.T Description We all have areas in our lives that do not reflect God. It is often useful to STOP and reflect (with others) what these areas are and how we can begin to be more like Christ. At ChurchforStudents we use this simple tool to aid us in our discussion: Are you…Hungry? Are you…Angry? Are you…Lonely? Are you…Tired?
It is often when we feel one or more of these that we are most susceptible to temptations.
Student Top Tip:
1. Spend 1min in personal reflection.
2. Share your HALT with your accountability group. 3. Now begin to go deeper: Why are you feeling like this? What is the root of your situation/feeling? 4. Go around the Learning Circle (see section 6). 5. Pray for each other.
Read Luke 4. Here we find Jesus being tempted by the devil. Throughout this trial, Jesus looks to His Father and replies with the Truth. When you face trials in your life, trust that Christ is with you. He will give you the peace that you need and the strengths to overcome the trials and temptations.
Matthew 18:15 â€“ Confrontation
In Matthew 18 Jesus tells us how to deal with confrontation. He tells us to go to the person directly and speak to them first. This helps to prevent gossip and talking behind each otherâ€™s backs. The flow chart below shows you what Jesus teaches us.
Person of Peace
Description A person of peace is anyone you have a relationship with that is open and prepared to hear the message of Jesus.
Bible Reference Luke 10:1-17
Who are your P.O.P? 1. Spend some time thinking about who your P.O.P are; Course mates? House mates? Family? 2. Share the names of the P.O.P with one another and talk about ways in which you can invest in their lives.
Discussion questions How do you plan on spending time this week with your POP? What are things that your POP needs prayer for? Is discipleship happening with your POP?
Student Teams tips
Pray daily for P.O.P Invite to Cluster Have them round for a meal Bring them to a Student Event Go for coffee with them
The Learning Circle Description The learning circle is a tool to help you make the big decisions in life (also known as Kairos moments). What has God been saying to you and what needs to change? Take your challenges of life through the circle.
What is a Kairos? A Kairos is a significant moment (positive or negative) that leaves an impact on your life, signalling an opportunity for spiritual or emotional growth in your life.
Observe: What happened and how did you react/feel? Reflect: On your observations, why did you feel that way? What does that say about you? Is there an unhealthy pattern in your life? Discuss: What do your other accountability partners think? Do your observation and reflections make sense? Do you see a place for growth in this situation? Plan: What are some of the practical steps you need to take to see change? Create a strategy to put this into action. Account: Your accountability partner will hold you accountable. Look back over the last week to see if you are seeing change, and to see if your plan is working. If not use the circle again. Act-Just do it!
Student team tips If you are not seeing changes in your life, go through the circle and make a new plan or increase accountability