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Co n t a c t The Parish Magazine

St. Mary's Church Ilkeston

the church in the market place

May 2017


Thank You and Farewell During April, we said a fond farewell to our Vicar for the past six years Rev. Michael Petitt and his wife Stella. Michael has suffered ill health for some time and although a diagnosis has now been made and treatment is being administered, the Bishop has agreed to Michael’s early retirement. Michael and Stella leave with our very best wishes and our thanks for their work and ministry whilst here in Ilkeston. We pray that Michael soon returns to full health and with Stella is able to enjoy a long and healthy retirement. (An interim Vicar is due to take up the reins in May).

Who’s who at St. Mary’s……. Readers:

Andrea Swarbrick, Tel: 932 6523 7 Drummond Rd, Ilkeston email: John Puxty Tel: 930 1601 32 Summerfield Way, Shipley View email:


Peter Hodson

Tel: 932 2974


Sue Attenborough Tel: 930 4140

Cantelupe Centre:

James New Tel: 932 1329 email:


Trevor Beighton Tel: 932 0480 email:


Contact Magazine Content submissions: Garth Newton 3

Letter from Michael and Stella I always thought that Ilkeston would be my last parish before retirement but I didn’t think it would be quite as soon as this! Having said that I believe that early retirement, while accurate, is a bit extreme since I will be 65 just next year anyway. Although clergy can go on to 67 with the Bishop’s permission; which I may or may not have done. The six years we have shared ministry with you have, for me, been very fulfilling and, dare I say, enjoyable. And working closely with our Wardens and Readers I have never felt isolated or alone in ministry. It is worth saying that because I do know some clergy who have experienced being quite alone in their parish. I have served the church, ordained for 36 years, almost entirely as a parish priest (I was a Prison Chaplain for a short time) and have never really wanted to do anything else. Retirement is going to be odd to get used to! I was very pleased to learn that the Diocese isn’t leaving St. Mary’s in the lurch and I’m sure that, in the Revd Carol Lloyd, you will find a very capable Priest. The people of St. Mary’s will remain in my prayers in this time of transition. Parish work is the bedrock and lifeblood of the church. With due respect to them, you can have as many Bishops and Archdeacons as you want, but without parishes and parish priests and congregations it is all a waste of time. Yes, the church’s influence in society has diminished but it is still gratifying to know that being a parish priest and wearing the dog­collar can still get you a welcome into most places and most people’s homes. And its then only one more step to getting people into church. One thing I wish to put on record is that St. Mary’s congregation is a very welcoming and unthreatening wonderful group of people and long may that be the case. Carry on the good work! 4

Now, something from my lovely wife, Stella… I have really enjoyed being at St Mary’s and all the friends I have made here. I am delighted that the magazine will carry on and I’m sure it will benefit from a change in editorship ­ fresh ideas and outlook – it’s all positive! Both of us are really grateful for the gifts and good wishes we received at the last service we attended on April the 2nd – the flowers and plants were lovely (I will have to do my best to help the plants to flourish!!!) and we will really enjoy spending the vouchers too. All our love and best wishes, Stella and Michael #­#­#­#­#­#­#­#­#­#­#­#­#­#­#­#­#­#

Who’s been good? A father of five young children won a toy at a raffle. Back home, he called his children together to let them determine which one should have the present. ‘Who is the most obedient?’ he asked. ‘Who never talks back to Mother? Who does everything she says? Five small voices answered in unison: ‘You do, Daddy!’


May Dates For Your Diary May dates for your diary (in addition to the regular Sunday & Wednesday Services) 1st May Day 8th Julian of Norwich 21st Rogation Sunday 24th John and Charles Wesley 25th Ascension Day 31st Visit of the Blessed Virgin Mary to Elizabeth

May 24th ­ John & Charles Wesley: Let’s Sing a Hymn by Canon David Winter

John Wesley’s great gift to the Christian cause was the little matter of founding the world­wide movement known as Methodism. His brother Charles had an equally profound impact through his hymns. He actually wrote over 500, most of which aren’t sung nowadays, but among the ones we do still sing are all­time favourites – ‘Love divine, all loves excelling’, ‘O for a thousand tongues to sing’. ‘Jesu lover of my soul’, ‘Hark the herald angels sing’ – and scores more. 40 years ago almost everybody knew quite a lot of hymns, but sadly that’s no longer true. Traditional hymns aren’t usually sung at school assemblies, not even in church schools, and while the audience for ‘Songs of Praise’ on BBC TV is substantial, most of those watching are over 50. With only about ten per cent of the population even irregular church­goers there is inevitably a lack of familiarity with hymns of any kind. Christmas carols are an exception, as is ‘Jerusalem’ and ‘Amazing Grace’, because they are frequently heard outside church. Singing hymns is a wonderful experience at its best – just ask a Welsh rugby crowd singing ‘Bread of heaven’! It seems a pity to lose it. It’s not a bad idea to take ten minutes and think what is your favourite hymn, and why – ancient or modern doesn’t matter. Then try singing it in the bath or under the shower – a very purifying experience. 6

John & Charles Wesley John and Charles Wesley were the founders of Methodism. Two of 19 children born to Samuel and Susannah Wesley of Epworth Rectory in Lincolnshire in 1703 and 1707, their father was the local rector, while their mother was a spiritual inspiration to her many children. Both John and Charles went to Christ Church, Oxford (1720 and 1726). John was ordained, and Charles and some friends formed a “Holy Club” dedicated to Bible study, prayer, fasting and good works. Such regular disciplines soon earned Charles the nickname ‘Methodist’. The name stuck. Both Charles and John felt called to the mission field, and so in 1735 they sailed to Georgia. Their time among Indians in America was not a success. Feeling failures, they returned to England in some depression where they made friends with some Moravians who stressed that salvation cannot be earned, but must be received by grace through faith in Christ. Charles was the first to experience this ‘true’ conversion, when on Pentecost Sunday, 21st May 1738, he wrote that the Spirit of God “chased away the darkness of my unbelief.” Only three days later, on 24th May, 1738, it was John’s turn. He wrote in his journal: “In the evening I went very unwillingly to a society in Aldersgate Street …. I felt my heart strangely warmed.” John and Charles devoted the rest of their lives to sharing the Good News of Jesus Christ. When the established Church threw John out, he took to the fields, preaching to coal miners and commoners and attracted some 120,000 followers by the time of his death. Charles became the most prolific and skilled hymn­writer in English history, writing hymns that are sung widely today. And their legacy of the brothers lives on. As well as Methodism, their teaching has widely impacted the holiness movement, the Pentecostal movement, and the charismatic movement.


Favourite Hymns by Garth Newton

The Church calendar celebrates the lives of the Wesley brothers on May 24th and on page 7 is an article by Canon David Winter in which he says “It’s not a bad idea to take ten minutes and think what is your favourite hymn” That was something I was prompted to do way back in the 1993 when the Minister of the church I was attending asked the congregation to list their three favourite hymns. I put pen to paper (or rather fingers to keyboard) and wrote an article expounding my deliberations before coming up with three – and it took far longer than ten minutes!. The following is an edited version of that piece. “It is no secret the ‘Dear Lord and Father’ is my favourite hymn and has been for a long time. It was no surprise either when it came number one in a BBC Top Ten Hymns poll on ‘Songs of Praise’. I even suggested it for our wedding ceremony but “…forgive our foolish ways’ did not seem appropriate. I first remember it from my schooldays when sung heartily by some four hundred boys who perhaps did not get the right intonation to go with the words singing ‘O still small voice of calm” with gusto but the ‘Repton’ melody coupled with the words still instil a feeling of peace and tranquillity. The first choice then was no problem but what about numbers two and three? As a regular at Sunday School and later Chapel services at Kensington Mission (now demolished but it stood where the new entrance to Morrisons is on Nottingham Road) I am familiar with the hymns in the ‘Sankey’ and ‘Redemption’ hymn books that were used there. I perused the books and listed well­ loved hymns ending up with over thirty from which I needed only two. This was not getting any easier. How could I pick between ‘O Jesus I have promised’ and ‘How sweet the name of Jesus sounds’; between ‘Shall we gather at the river’ and ‘Jesus is all the world to me’? There were a lot more choices so I decided to sleep on it. All of the songs listed brought back precious memories of the 8

Mission; of Anniversary and Prize Giving days; of the Youth Club; of annual outings to Matlock, Drayton Manor Park and the abortive trip to Markeaton Park when it poured with rain. On that occasion we returned to Chapel to eat our picnic teas and play parlour games like ‘Spinning the Plate’. The list of memories was as long as the list of hymns and I was still no nearer to picking my second and third favourites. As time went by I thought long and hard referring to the list regularly but at last I reached a decision. The tune that kept going round in my head was to a hymn that appears in both ‘Redemption’ and ‘Sankey’ that begins ‘When we walk with the Lord’. the chorus being: ‘Trust and obey; for there’s no other way, To be happy in Jesus, But to trust and obey’ – a simple message but an everlasting and undeniable truth for all who believe. Second choice made and the third was now easy. It’s a song that did not even appear on my list but is one that stems from those Anniversary Day memories. It starts ‘The chimes of time ring out the news’ so I’ll finish as I started “It is no secret’.”

Now it’s your turn. Simply fill in your three favourite hymns below, add your name, cut out the slip and leave it in the box at the back of church. Alternatively email your selection to My three favourite hymns are: 1……………………………………………………………………... 2……………………………………………………………………... 3...…………………………………………………………………… Name ……………………………………………………….



Our Verger Sue Attenborough is recovering well from her recent knee replacement surgery and is back on her feet again. She has also celebrated a significant birthday “At Home” with family and friends. Instead of presents Sue requested that donations be made to a favourite charity and in doing so, raised some £300 for her own favourite, the Mission to Seafarers. Sue’s son John of course, who we know well at St Mary’s, works as the Port Chaplain at Southampton carrying out the Mission’s prime objective of delivering professional welfare services for seafarers at the front line. Well done Sue and “Many Happy Returns”.



A Prayer for Peace Most gracious God and Father in whose will is our peace: turn our hearts and the hearts of all to yourself, that by the power of your Spirit the peace which is founded on righteousness may be established throughout the whole world; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.


by Derek Wheatley Specially written for St John’s booklet after reading John Benjamin ‘Church Poems’ {My thanks and apologies to him} Vicars preaching in their cassocks As congregation kneel on hassocks The vergers hand out the hymn books To choir boys with funny looks Christmas, Easter, Whitsun feasts Are special days for flocks and priests Christening parties round the font, To join God’s family’s what they want Some come to hear the organ play To search for God, to kneel and pray Drawn to the church by peal of bells In many houses where God dwells At early morn or Evensong, They come come in droves, the many throng Kneeling in communion line To eat the bread and drink the wine Jesus rose up from the dead From the cross above your head God sacrificed his own son


To show the war o’er death is won This was done for all our sakes To help redeem our past mistakes All earthly men are full of sin Cast out the bad, for good must win Fill your hearts with faith and love And put your trust in God above As sermons from the pulpit ring at harvest time their gifts they bring Some don’t come unless they must When ash to ash turns dust to dust Some only come when they need to use No matter what their point of views Come any time of year or season, No matter why or what the rearson. Look to find the poor church mouse, Who lives right there in God’s house. Tell him I know where he’s at And you’ve been talking to the cat

Mothering Sunday Many years ago domestic servants were given a day off to visit their mother church and their families during Lent. The youngsters who were "in service" used to pick wild flowers on their way home either to take to church or give to their mothers. This led to the middle Sunday of Lent becoming known as Mothering Sunday. St Mary's continued the tradition of giving flowers and marked the occasion this year by giving posies to all the ladies in church at the services on March 26th.







“I went into a church ….” In the 1990s I penned a number of articles for a magazine series called “I Went In A Church ….”. Others also contributed articles and we amassed twenty three such pieces before the series came to a close. I mentioned this to several people at St Mary’s and suggested we might embark on a similar project inviting readers of the “Contact” magazine to contribute. Mary Hawkins has already taken up the challenge and submitted the first article. Now it’s up to you – the only stipulation is that the article must start with the words “I went into a church”. Where it goes from there is entirely up to you but it could be “to a wedding”, “on holiday”, “in London”, “whilst visiting friends”, “at Easter or Christmas”. The possibilities are endless. Ideally they should be about 500 words long wiith illustrations/photos if possible. If you feel you could contribute to the series please send/give your submissions to me or any member of the Editorial Team (Mary Hawkins, Carol Gregson) by hand or send by email to Thank you. Garth Newton

Part 1 by Mary Hawkins I went into a church in Coventry on the 26th May 1962. I was overcome by the magnificent new cathedral and the memory of the visit stayed with me for the next fifty five years. I came from a small town and had never experienced a new modern church, It was (and is) overwhelmingly beautiful. The day before, the 25th, the Queen had attended the Dedication Service. There were rumours that she would attend the evening performance in Stratford, but disappointingly she didn’t appear. As we entered the cathedral the organ was being played, the sun shone through the Baptistry windows, the colours reflected in the new highly polished floor. As we moved up the nave, we read the eight Tablets of the Word, Christian truths 20

of God and Man carved in irregular shaped letters denoting that they were the work of man not machine. The angled windows allow the morning and evening sun to stream in onto the white walls, the tablets and the black marble floor. The full glory of these windows is only revealed as we stand before the altar looking west, denoting our Christian journey from Baptism to fulfilment through instruction and our discipleship. The Great Glass Screen at the west end is a huge expanse of engraved glass. Angels, Patriarchs, Apostles and Martyrs symbolise the close affinity between the life of Christians on earth and the heavenly realms surrounding us. The Cathedral stands for the reconciliation with Christ and is embodied in the seventy two feet high tapestry at the east end instead of the traditional east window. Designed by Graham Sutherland it was given anonymously by a resident of Coventry. It is majestic and overwhelming. There is a wealth of symbolism captured in the many sculptures, chapels and the bombed remains of the original cathedral. If you have never visited the cathedral, do go. I know that it will speak to you of our Christian faith as it did for me all those years ago.

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Wordsearch ­ King George VI The coronation of King George VI and Queen Elizabeth took place at Westminster Abbey 80 years ago this month, on 12th May 1937. It should have been for Edward, of course, but he abdicated. That occasion marked the BBC’s first official TV outdoor broadcast. It was the first coronation to be filmed: the 40­strong camera crew inside the Abbey had to wear evening dress. As in the film The King’s Speech, there was concern about the King’s stutter, but he delivered his speech without a problem. He later wrote to the Archbishop: “I felt I was being helped all the time by Someone Else, as you said I would.” Coronation King George Queen Elizabeth Westminster Abbey Eighty Edward Abdicated Bbc Outdoor Broadcast Filmed Camera Crew Evening Dress Speech Stutter Delivered Problem Helped Someone else

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From Palm Sunday to Easter Day The 10am Palm Sunday service began outside St Mary’s as the congregation held aloft palm crosses before filing into the church whilst singing “Ride on, ride on in majesty”. Special Compline services were on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday as well as the usual Holy Communion service on Wednesday morning. Tuesday evening also saw the final meeting of those attending the Lent course which had been led by our Reader John Puxty. The course ran for six weeks and the theme was “Studying Prayer”. Sue Attenborough who attended all the sessions summarised the course by thanking John for his leadership and asking “Are we quiet enough to let God speak to us?” She added that one good thing among many others that came from the course was learning how to add the Daily Prayer app to her phone. It has Morning Compline and Night Prayers along with the Collect and Bible readings for each day. (You can read more about Sue’s reflection on the Lent Course on Page 28) Another special service for Holy Week took place on Maundy Thursday and on Good Friday, Christians of all denominations gathered in St Mary’s at the start of the annual Silent Walk of Witness. The theme this year was “Choices” and a short service before the walk included a sermon on that theme. The congregation then assembled in the Market Place to begin the walk through the town centre including several stops on the way for readings, dramatic presentations and hymn singing. Placards displaying choices such as “Love or Hate”, “War or Peace”, “Hope or Fear”, “Happy or Sad” were interspersed with others proclaiming “Choose Jesus” as the procession proceeded slowly from the Market Place down Bath Street in silence save for the beat of a solitary drum.


Although the crucifixion is no laughing matter, the dramatic presentations by Contagious, a youth led worship group put a modern day slant on the events of 2000 years ago. The group of talented youngsters certainly brought a smile to many a face with and their excellent and enthusiastic performances. The walk concluded at St Andrew’s Methodist Church with another dramatic performance by the group outside the church. The event closed with a rousing finale of Sydney Carter’s “I danced in the morning” and following a blessing many of the walkers enjoyed the refreshments that were available in St Andrew’s. On Saturday some of the ladies at St Mary’s spent the morning preparing flower arrangements and decorating the church for the following day’s services on one of the most important in the Christian calendar – Easter Day. Pictured here are Sue Bell and Sue Attenborough at work on one of their magnificent flower arrangements and below the result of their labours on the Easter Candle. Early risers on Easter Day continued their Christian witness by travelling to the ruins of Dale Abbey for a Dawn Service.



Studying Prayer

Some thoughts on the Lent Course by Sue Attenborough. The “Studying Prayer” Lent Course was led by John Puxty and in the first week we looked at Psalm 46 and Matthew 4, 1­11. “What is prayer and why pray?” For most people there will be a different answer to these questions as it can be for personal reasons. For me, prayer has grown over these last few years, as I learnt the power of prayer. Whilst Barrie was ill and at the time of his death, I received over one hundred cards and yes, all those prayers holding my family and myself. Yes I did feel that power. It’s often in moments of vulnerability that we need to hold people and situations in prayer. So to spend six weeks studying prayer I said “Bring it on!” Week Two. Psalm 54, Jeremiah 29, 1 and 4 – 14. “Imagination and Prayer” As we sat in the Cantelupe Centre we were led in our imaginations around the town centre; our church; pub to pub; the Town Hall where births, marriages and deaths are registered; the old Co­Op; the Library; people catching buses; users of the Cantelupe and workers. This was very powerful. Week Three. Psalms 61 & 62, Romans 8, 26 – end. Praying with the Reading We read the Romans reading three times. What spoke to us from doing this? I found this a different exercise to do but sometimes we get ourselves low we find it difficult to pray. Sometimes we can’t find the right words to say and feel tongue tied. So to read a passage from the Bible several times can hold you and your loved ones in prayer. Week Four. Psalm 80, Exodus 2, 23 – 3, 20 “Prayer Stories” We studied the story of Moses and after John gave some explanation, we shared our personal prayer experiences. Week Five. Psalm 100, Romans 12. “Praying Together” Looking at our Sunday service and its layout, one question was “When are we not praying?” Week Six. “Prayerful Reflections” After Compline and praying for each other or the person sitting next to us we asked “Are we quiet enough to let God speak to us?” John gave us lots of explanations throughout the six weeks, much more than be expressed here but it was very good to learn and explore more about prayer. Thank you John


Cantelupe Centre Roof Appeal The appeal has reached £25,000in just eight months. What a fantastic achievement! We are so grateful to all the different groups who have put so much effort into raising money for us. I have put all the names on the wall thermometer in the Cantelupe Centre foyer but would especially like to mention the Rutland Cottage who organised a Dar Rally/Easter Egg Hunt and raised £330 for us. It is really nice when “outside organisations” join us to help out. All the small donations from individuals from our “Penny Pot” and from the Saturday Coffee Bar are all helping to push the total up. Obviously there is still a way to go but I am racking my brains to come up with more ideas, so watch this space and help in any way you feel able. Advance notification – we should be having a Cake Stall again at the Ilkeston Carnival and we are intending to serve Cream Teas at the Vintage Car Event. Further details to follow nearer the date. Helen Crisp

From the Registers

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Funerals ­­ 10th April Kevan Purvis (Service taken by the Rev Geoffrey Halliday) 21st April Ila Cooper (Service taken by the Rev Geoffrey Halliday)


Rotas for May Please swap with someone if you are unable to make any of these dates. Thank you.

Sunday Service at 10am Date 7th May 14th May 21st May 28th May

Reader Sue Attenbr'gh Franklin Bishop Hilary Pearce To Follow

Intercessor Mary Hawkins John Puxty Sheila Spencer To Follow

Coffee Sharon Topping & Sue Attenborough Sue Bell & Mary Morton Graham & Sandra Neep Janet Reeve & Margaret Turner

Sunday Sides Persons Rota Date 7th May 14th May 21st May 28th May

8am Peter Brown Brian Spibey M Turner G Henshaw

10am G & S Neep D Bamford S Puxty S Attenborough

Wednesday Service at 9.30am Date 3rd May 10th May 17th May 24th May 31st May

Reader Patricia McHale Mary Hawkins Sandra Neep Janet Reeve Margaret Turner

Coffee Sue Attenborough & Margaret Turner Sue & John Bell Janet Reeve & To Follow Sue Attenborough & Margaret Turner Sue & John Bell

Tuesday ­ Mother and Toddler Drinks & Snacks Date 2nd May 9th May 16th May 23rd May 30th May

Betty Murphy Janet Reeve Joyce Rich Joyce Rich Spring Bank Holiday

Saturday Coffee Bar Date 6st May 13th May 20th May 27th May

Susan Bell, John Bell, Margaret Turner Sue Attenborough, Patricia McHale, James New Christian Aid Coffee Bar Sheila Spencer, Helen Crisp


Services at St Mary’s Church Sunday 8.00am Holy Communion (Book of Common Prayer) 10.00am Main Service ­ followed by Coffee and Fellowship First Sunday of the Month ­ J.C. Club and Creche

Wednesday 9.30am

Holy Communion (Common Worship) Followed by Coffee and Fellowship

Thursday 7.30pm ­9.00pm Bell Ringing Practice Contact: Colin Shaw – 0115 932 7072

Last Saturday of each month at 10am

Friends of St Mary’s Churchyard ­ Working Party (Mar­Oct)

Uniformed Groups

Rainbows Contact: Candy – 0115 932 8244 Brownies Contact: Brown Owl ­ Lynne Cresswell – 0115 877 1592 It’s that time of year again, when we ask you to contribute to the cost of your parish magazine. The year runs from April 2017 until March 2018 and there are 11 editions (July and August are joint). There are some brown envelopes near the pigeon­holes at the church door – please pick one up to put your contribution in (cheques, to St Mary’s PCC, please). These can be handed to one of the churchwardens or to Sandra Newton. Don’t forget to put your name on the front of the envelope.

Contact - May 2017 edition  
Contact - May 2017 edition  

The Parish magazine of St Mary's Church, Ilkeston, Derbyshire