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THE VOICE OF GENERATION J Grandfather’s Memory, by Tali Feen

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CHILD DEVELOPMENT BABY: Cry Baby CHILD: School stuff TWEEN: Monkey See, Monkey Do TEEN: Licensing Teens to Drive

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BOOK REVIEW 36 Emotional Muscle: Strong Parents Strong Children By Terry Bloomberg OOPS TOP 10

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DADDY & ME Generation Why

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CALENDAR 44 RABBI TO PARENT Rabbi Andrea Goldstein

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FROM THE DOCTOR Allergies, Asthma and Summer Vacations, By Shobha Bhaskar, MD

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FROM THE CONCIERGE’S DESK An interview with Maraani Diamant

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LETTER FROM THE

EDITOR

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decided to drive to Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, where we lived for ten years before moving to STL, for my close friend’s second son’s Bar Mitzvah. It was a 10 hour drive there, and a 9 hour drive back. I can definitely say that 19 hours in the car provide lots of time to think. One of the things I thought about was how I would never have missed this milestone in the life of my friend’s family. I was there for both Brihot. I was there for her older son’s Bar Mitzvah. I know I would go for any major milestone because of the importance of friendship and knowing that she is family despite not having a “blood” connection. When I was in Pittsburgh, I drove past our old house and houses of other friends and people who had become like family. We had been transplants there as well. Some of our “adoptive family” have passed, and the memories were bittersweet. All of the people I either stayed with, or stopped in to see welcomed me with open arms, as if I had been away for a few days, instead of five years. It felt good. The connections I made were genuine and long- lasting. These are “forever-friendships”, that just pick up where they had stalled, without judgment or resentment, based on mutual understanding and respect. These connections are crucial to healthy, adult human development. When I arrived home in Saint Louis, many people asked me if I would consider moving back to Pittsburgh. My answer surprised even me. I realized that once I put my children in schools that were good fits for them, be it pre-school or day school, I started making connections, similar to what I had in Pittsburgh. I realized how lucky I was to have what I know are friendships that will become “forever-friendships”. When the Voice of Generation J and the Rabbi to Parent articles were submitted to me this month, I read them and thought, “There is a common theme emerging, but I don’t even think these two people know each other.” Then I received an article from Jennifer Newfeld that will run in the July issue, and the interview with Maraani Diamant. All of these articles discuss deep human connections, and ways that memories are reflections of love, respect, and the willingness to listen to one another. I also realized that one of my goals for the Saint Louis Jewish Parents magazine is to help readers find “forever friendships” and connectedness based on understanding and respect, through an almost grass-roots type of support for both the magazine and for local Jewish community. Forever-friendships start with simple connections. Stephanie Berk, Ph.D.


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Tali Feen

7th Grade, Saul Mirowitz Jewish Community School

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THE VOICE OF GENERATION J OUR GENERATION OUR FUTURE

by Tali Feen Hello, my name is Tali Feen and I am thirteen years old. I will be entering eighth grade this August at the Saul Mirowitz Jewish Community School. Writing for St. Louis Jewish Parents magazine is an honor for me. I was asked to write about something that is important to me, and the most important thing I could think of is my grandfather’s memory.

Grandfather’s Memory [continued pg 10]

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Voice of Generation J [Voice of Generation J, from pg 9]

When I was 9, my grandfather’s cancer became worse.

When I arrived back in St. Louis, I thought about what my

Fortunately, before my grandpa became weak, he

grandfather and I liked to do together. He taught me to

traveled all the way from South Africa to visit me here

play Casino, and that card games are games of chance,

in St. Louis. We went to see the movie Horton Hears a

just like health and sickness. One time he bought me

Who. It was really good to spend time with him because

a travel set of chess, we played, and I beat him. But he

he made me feel special. My grandpa bought delicious

could not beat cancer.

candy and we laughed together. We talked about what would happen if we were like Horton and heard a town

Even though my grandfather’s death makes me sad, we

in a flower. I felt excited and happy to be with him. After

had so many fun memories. He lived far away across

a few months the doctor said that he could not be cured,

the world, but he made me feel so special that it felt like

and all my relatives and I became very upset.

he just was across the street. When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.

When my grandpa passed away we traveled to South

It’s hard to forget someone who gave you so much to

Africa for the funeral. I was relieved that I did not have to

remember..

go to the service because I was so young. I did not have to see my family cry, and I did not have to cry myself at that time. When everyone got back from the funeral, friends came to sit shiva to help comfort my grandma, uncle, and aunts. Everyone was bawling, and I felt big tears drip down my face. Ezra, my younger brother was turning 6, and since all of our friends were there I brought ice cream and games back to celebrate his birthday, which cheered us all up. I tried to comfort my grandma and aunts with hugs, and by doing puzzles with them to pass the time. When I think back to this, I now realize that puzzles have such a big connection to life and death. Death is a puzzle because in most cases no one knows when they are going to die. Life is temporary, and just like a puzzle, you put it together one piece at a time and try to figure out what goes where. When both are done with, you are left with pieces.  

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CRY BABY There are at least 3 things that first-time parents know, but don’t really KNOW about their baby:

1: Babies sleep

a lot, but not necessarily when you want them to.

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2: Nursing

is not always easy.

3: Babies cry.


It is this third one that can make a parent or caregiver feel overwhelmed, helpless and frustrated. Crying is one of the main triggers for adults to violently shake an infant, causing Shaken Baby Syndrome, AKA Abusive Head Trauma, which can lead to permanent brain damage and death. Infants, 6 months and under, are at the highest risk, but children up to 3 years of age are also at risk. The reaction of “urgency to calm” the crying baby is normal, and potentially beneficial in an evolutionary biology way: A crying baby needs to be taken care of. A baby that is cared for has better odds of reaching adulthood and reproducing. However, as a parent/caregiver, when your baby won’t stop crying, and your heart and thoughts start to race, your palms get sweaty, and you feel panicky, you can become less in control. This is when it is best to go into “follow the checklist” mode. Try to NOT think, and just follow: ]] Change baby’s diaper (regardless of how recently it was done.) ]] Swaddle baby ]] Feed baby ]] Offer a pacifier if using one. ]] Sing song after song while walking with, or rocking baby ]] Repeat to yourself, “Getting stronger lungs. Baby is exercising lungs.”

Sometimes there is no fixable reason for why a baby is crying, and by the time the above checklist is completed, either the baby will be asleep, or it will be time to start the checklist again. Two to three hours of crying EVERY day is actually considered normal for a healthy baby; some cry even more. For those times when the crying gets to be too much, and the checklist mantra is not working, go outside to calm both the baby and yourself. It is harder to violently shake a baby in a public place, and there might be a neighbor outside who can come help. Another good recourse is to designate a friend who can be called to come over whenever a break is needed from the crying. Being prepared with how to calm yourself, is one of the best ways of how to calm the baby.

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School has just finished for the year. The children, their backpacks, projects, and random papers are all home. Some families will be going away on vacation, some will be preparing their children for summer camp, be it day or sleep away, and some families will have a summer sitter to watch the children. Regardless of what the summer plans are, the first question should be:

easy

access

fun

planning

What do we do with all of the school stuff that has just arrived?

There are many ways that parents have sent in for how to deal with it all. Here are three that could have gone into the “Oops moments”: Sorting the paperwork in front of the child, saying, “Garbage, garbage, garbage”, as you throw away the papers. Waiting for the child to go to sleep, then sorting the papers, throwing out most of them, but forgetting to take the garbage out before the child wakes up in the morning and finds all of his/her precious work thrown away. Making a judgment call on the importance of each piece, such that the child feels that s/he wasted time and paper all year. [continued pg 18]

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Child Development: CHILD

[Cont. from pg 17]

Putting it all in piles or in a box is also a tempting idea, but only delays the inevitable. The sooner the papers are dealt with, the less likely the clutter will become permanent. To help deal with all

Pick a time to work with your child. Have him/her go through the papers, deciding what to keep and what to toss. Sort papers into piles of different subjects. Recycle what is no longer needed. Look for the diamonds in the rough, keeping only treasured tests, programs, awards, etc.

of the children’s work that has come home all year, Jodi Granok, MSW, a professional organizer, member of NAPO, and the owner of Organizing Magic, LLC - a professional organizing company in St. Louis, Missouri, has the

Take a picture of larger school projects, and add the picture to the “keepable” items, or in an online folder. Then dispose of the project. Create a memory box with ONE banker’s box. Beginning in Kindergarten, place favorite schoolwork and other memorabilia in the box. As the box fills, review the contents, weeding out “stuff”, so that the box holds things from K- 12th grade.

following suggestions. If there is a piece of artwork that you, or your child especially love, there are local galleries, such as Prints Charming, that will work with you on framing the art for display in your home, the child’s room, or turning it into a gift for relatives and family friends. Summer sorting does not have to be awful!

“Take a picture of larger school projects “

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VILLAGE PEOPLE I can’t sing. Not at all.  My daughter used to be the one person on the planet who thought I had a great voice, but even she has come to the realization that my version of a lullaby is not comforting.   I didn’t always know that I couldn’t sing. In fact, I grew up singing loudly and

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proudly alongside my more vocally-inclined friends in a place where I felt accepted for who I was.... tone deaf and all. Where was this magical place?  It was at my camp, which happened to be in Utica, Mississippi.   I grew up heading to Utica

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JENNIFER BAER LOTSOFF Jennifer Baer Lotsoff is the PJ Library

every summer- four weeks at first,

reason for being. Interacting with

then begging for eight weeks.

the world in a voice of one’s own

Those I called my friends are still

is a blessing.” As I remember

by my side, whether in person or

those incredible summers at Camp

in Psychology from the University of

via Facebook.  

Jacobs I feel so blessed to have

Texas in Austin and a Master’s degree in

experienced that early sense of

Coordinator in St. Louis and has worked in the non-profit sector for nearly twenty years. Born in Memphis, she holds a B.A.

Social Work from Washington University. Jennifer works with professionals and

These days my community has

community...where dodge ball was

expanded, and I am reminded every

taught to me by Israeli scouts, called

day how it takes a village to raise a

machanayim... where I belted out

child. I feel the support of my own

tunes during song session.... and

version of the village people in all

where my Jewish voice was born.

organizations to use the vehicle of PJ

kinds of situations. We try to go

I can’t wait to hear my daughter

Library books to meet families wherever

camping at least once each summer

sing when she gets back..

and my tent skills are a little rusty.  I am always beyond appreciative to have friends who come to my

lay leaders to build a vibrant Jewish community by encouraging collaboration through creative, fun experiences. With programs in secular and Jewish spaces, Jennifer encourages all community

they are on their Jewish journey. Jennifer is a passionate connector of ideas, people, and institutions, and she credits her kids for bringing daily doses of humor to her life and endless crumbs to her car.

aid. Even if you are an ace at tent construction, raising kids in general isn’t a one-person job. My “village” consists of a variety of people, including the neighbor who gives me insider tips, like telling me about those stickers you have to put on your lawn bags or they won’t get picked up.   These folks help me maintain some semblance of normalcy in my life, and I’ll turn to my village for support this summer when my daughter heads to overnight camp for the first time.  There’s a PJ Library book called Noah’s Bark where each of the animals has a unique sound (kind of like my singing voice!).  The message on the inside flap tells how “Each of us has a unique

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“I love B’nai Amoona ECC because it’s not just a place where people are “babysitting” our kids. My kids come home excited to share what they did that day and the new things they are learning about each week. I know my kids are getting a quality preschool education, while also getting the love and attention they both require. The staff, teachers, and director make this school the best!”

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CHILD DEVELOPMENT

TWEEN

MONKEY

SEE

When your child is an “only”, it is YOU the parent who controls what is watched on television, seen on the computer, and heard in regular conversation.

Consider the following interaction between a mom of an

Most tweens want to be more independent, given more

11 year old girl and a 5 year old girl:

responsibility, and enjoy being looked up to by younger children. However, in many ways, the tweens don’t

Mom to 11 yr old: “Please go clean your room.”

realize that younger children will copy EVERYTHING-

11 year old: “I wih-ill!”

both good and bad.

Mom: “Please do it now.” 11 year old: “FINE!” as she storms up the stairs, slamming

More to the point, most tweens won’t even think

the door to her room.

about who is seeing and hearing their dialogues and

Next heard by Mom, from 5 year old: “Fine!” and

behaviors. So what should a parent do to foster family

stomping feet, followed by a door slam.

communication and dialogues that keep the younger ones children, but allow the older ones to be tweens?

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MONKEY

DO

However, when there is a younger sibling, it is often the older sibling whose behaviors, language, and emotions that are mimicked- Monkey see, monkey do.

Three Tips to Try: ~~ Take the older child(ren) out, either for a walk or to a

~~ Talk with the youngest one. Explain that sometimes,

favorite coffee shop. With everything peaceful, explain

bigger kids and adults say things that they shouldn’t

that you have seen the younger one copying the

because they THINK that is how other adults speak.

tween’s behaviors and words. Ask if they have seen it

Ask him/her if that behavior is okay, or if a “timeout”

too? If the answer is “no”, continue with “I thought that

is needed. Most little ones will say that the bigger

might be the case, but I know you will look out for it.”

ones’ behavior requires a punishment of sorts. Then

If they say “yes” or “maybe”, then continue with “ I am

respond with, “You are right. Come tell me when

glad you’ve seen it too. We need to come up with a

they need a timeout. Don’t do what they are doing

key code phrase that, when said, we all pay attention

because you will be in timeout too.”

to what is happening in front of the younger one, and stop there.” The word “monkey” as short for “Monkey see, Monkey do” is a good one to use.

~~ Pay attention to your own tone and wording. Choose

only to use what you would want your older children to use with the younger ones.

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FROM THE DOCTOR

ALLERGIES, ASTHMA AND SUMMER VACATIONS BY SHOBHA BHASKAR, MD

Shobha Bhaskar, MD is a

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention,

pediatric hospitalist with St.

as many as 15 million people in the U.S. have food allergies and about 25

Louis Children’s Hospital and

million have asthma; about 125 people die each year from food-induced

Washington University School of Medicine. Our allergists are

anaphylaxis, the most severe outcome of a food allergy, while more than

seeing patients now both at

3,300 die as a result of asthma. Physicians are giving parents and patients

St. Louis Children’s Hospital in

prescriptions for these lifesaving medications but are they being clear and

the Central West End, and at the

detailed with the instructions? Are the families asking enough questions

new St. Louis Children’s Hospital Specialty Care Center at Mason Road and I-64/Hwy 40 in West

about the proper use of these devices? Are the kids who are instructed to use these medications being given proper training?

County.

Allergic reactions and asthma are definitely conditions where proper Call 314.454.KIDS (5437) for more information or to make an appointment.

technique and timely administration of medications can make a huge difference in the outcome and can be lifesaving in many instances. Incorrect use of the epipens in severe allergies and inhalers during asthma attacks, can keep patients from getting the medication they need to prevent disastrous outcomes. The study indicated that a meager 16 percent of patients used epinephrine injectors the right way, while only 7 percent used asthma inhalers as intended. The study looked at more than 145 patients with allergy/asthma and who use epinephrine auto injectors or inhalers.

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With summer vacations just around the corner, I know doctors’ offices and emergency rooms will soon be filled with food allergies and asthma episodes. Traveling families run out of medications, forget medical devices, and accidentally leave behind epipens (epinephrine autoinjector) and inhalers, or use their medications but don’t improve.

Using your inhaler: Take off the cap and shake the inhaler well. Breathe out as much as you can, Use your inhaler with a spacer attached. Press down on the inhaler and within 5 seconds, breathe in slowly. Keep slowly breathing in, deeply. If you can, hold your breath for the count of 10. Follow instructions for how many puffs prescribed. If your inhaler has a steroid, rinse out your mouth, and spit after each use. If unsure, ask your doctor or nurse to watch you do it once.

With the use of epipens, the most common error patients made was holding the device in place for at least 10 seconds after triggering the injection. Other documented errors included not placing the “active” end of the autoinjector on the thigh, and not exerting enough force to trigger the injection. With the patients who used asthma inhalers, only 7% used the device correctly, while 63% missed at least 3 steps, the most common being not completely and forcefully exhaling before administering the medication. The next most common misstep was not shaking the inhaler before taking a dose. Age, education level and family history did not impact a patient’s likelihood to use the device correctly. Asthma and anaphylaxis can be fatal, especially if the medications are not given soon enough and with correct use of the medical devices. A little extra effort and time spent by physicians to teach, and the patients/families to learn, the correct techniques and getting hands-on practice with these devices can go a long way in the outcome of these conditions and can potentially save lives.

Using your EpiPen: (From www.epipen.com) EpiPen Auto-Injector has a yellow carrier cap. EpiPen Jr has a green carrier cap, and the EpiPen Trainer has a gray cap. The EpiPen trainer has no medicine and no needle. Remove auto-injector from clear carrier tube. With orange tip pointing down, hold the EpiPen in one hand. Use the other hand to remove the blue safety release. Pull straight up; no twisting or bending. The needle comes out of the orange side. Make sure not to inject your hand or fingers. To administer, hold the EpiPen with the orange tip facing the outer thigh, at a 90 degree angle. (You do not need to remove clothing to administer.) Swing and firmly push the orange tip against the outer thigh, until you hear a click. Hold it there, orange cap against thigh for 10 seconds. Remove the EpiPen from the thigh. Massage the area where the orange cap was, for 10 seconds. Get medical help right away, bringing them the used EpiPen for them to check out.

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CHILD DEVELOPMENT

TEEN

LICEN

SING TE

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Getting your driver’s license in MO can be tricky with all of the rules for teen drivers. You can find even more information at the Department of Motor Vehicles website and office.

STEP STEP 1

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Intermediate Eligible age is 16-18 years, cost is $7.50, valid for up to 2 years. Instruction Permit had to be obtained at least 182 days prior. No alcohol-related offenses, and no traffic convictions in the previous 6 months. Qualified person must accompany teen to the license office to verify the required 40 hours of driving instruction, including a minimum of 10 hours of nighttime driving instruction. Vision, road sign recognition, and written tests must be passed, if previous results are more than one year old. Driving test must be passed.

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FACTS ABOUT TEEN DRIVERS IN MISSOURI (from dor.mo.gov/drivers/teens):

STEP 3

Under 21 Full Dri ver

2 License: RESTRICTIONS: 1) During the first 6 months, you may only have one passenger who is under 19 years old and not a member of your immediate family. 2) After the first 6 months, you are allowed up to three passengers who are under 19 years old and not members of your immediate family. 3) No driving alone between 1am and 5 am except to and from a school activity, job, or for an emergency.

License:

Eligible age is 18 years, cost is $1 0, valid for up to 3 years. Driving privilege cannot have been suspended, revo denied at time of ked or application. No alcohol relate d offenses or tra ffic convictions previous 12 mon within the ths. Must pass the vi sion and road si gn recognition te need to take the sts. You do not written and driv ing test if alread y completed.

So when does driving instruction begin? Truthfully, driving instruction begins when the child is old enough to comment about a parent’s driving, e.g. 5 years old. However, at approximately the age of 12 years, it is important for adults to start discussing rules of the road and good driving practices with their tween and teen passengers. Even 13 year olds can know about defensive driving practices, when to cross yellow lines, making a right on red, not texting, and more. All of these good practices stick in their heads, making them safer drivers when they take to the road.

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FROM THE

CONCIERGE’S DESK JAYNE LANGSAM A concierge is someone

Mara is interning at Saint Louis Jewish Parents magazine, with the

who assists people who are

goal of helping to make the magazine an anticipated resource for

not in their native city, find

our International Jewish families. Following is an interview with Mara.

their way around so that they are comfortable. As the Concierge for Jewish Families with Young Children in St. Louis, I feel strongly about helping everyone feel welcome, connected, and at

Q: A:

Hi. We are so glad that you have chosen to come live in Saint Louis. When did you move here, and why?

Hi! It is my pleasure. We really love Saint Louis. It is quite a new experience for us to see all four seasons. Coming from

Brazil, we do not have snow in the winter or leafs falling. We moved to the United States in 2010, and we came to Saint Louis in 2012 as

home here. In addition to

a part of Susan Polgar’s National Winning Chess team to be a part of

my being a contributor, one

Webster University, together with our teammates.

of the ways I can do this is to

Q:

invite guest writers to author this column. Another way is to introduce upcoming contributing columnists. I would like to introduce Maraani Diamant, a Brazilian, Jewish, mom of a 6 year old boy who moved to Saint Louis with her husband and son to attend college and Susan Polgar’s Institute of Chess Excellence.

It is great that you are going to be able to use your education, and add to it, with your internship at the

magazine. Do you think that there is importance to having an International Column? If so, what?

A:

Moving to a different country is a big challenge, particularly with kids. This is exactly what happened to me and my

family. We came from Brazil in 2010, when our son was 19 months old, to Texas. The United States was, for us, a huge cultural shock. It was a different language, culture, routine and home. We only knew one person, our chess coach. Even the move from Texas to Saint Louis was difficult. Our son was older and we had new things to worry about for him. Finding ways to connect with people who had answers was not easy. Having a magazine that addresses the concerns and interests that I had, and still have, would be very helpful.

[continued pg 34]

[Photo by: Spoonful of Sugar Photography ]

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Maraani Diamant

Intern

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From the Concierge’s Desk [Cont. from pg 32]

Q: A:

Do you think that International Jewish families would like to know about what the Saint Louis Jewish Community is doing?

Yes! The first few months are for adapting and settling in. However, even if we are not really observant, the one thing that we can rely on

to make us feel welcome is the Jewish Community. On our first Shabbat, our coach took us to the Synagogue. Everyone was nice, and we immediately made some new friends. It made our adapting period much easier, and we had who to ask questions of. We had lots of questions, including: “How can I get my son to school?”, “Do I need a car?”, “How does tax return work?”, “Where do I take my son when he gets sick?”

Q: A:

What do you hope to do as the magazine’s first intern?

“Finding ways to connect with people who had answers was not easy. “

I hope to be able to create ongoing connections with, and safe places for international Jewish families. I have graduated in International

Relations and I am currently working on my masters in International Business. With both my education and experience traveling with chess, I hope to bring to the International column a way to make the many International Jews welcome and connected, while answering questions that most of us had when we first came to the United States. Thank you Mara.

Starting in July, Mara will be writing her own column, answering questions that are emailed to her, or some of the questions that she had during her first 2 years here. Please email her at mara@stlouisjewishparents.com to say hello, ask questions, tell about experiences, and get information about how to connect to the Jewish community of Saint Louis.

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KIDS COOK CORNER

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BOOK REVIEW

EMOTIONAL MUSCLE: STRONG PARENTS STRONG CHILDREN Kerry Kelly Novick and Jack Novick

BY TERRY BLOOMBERG

No one gets in shape overnight! Most books available for families about child development don’t stress the developing child at each age. The Novicks, (in my favorite gift for new parents) in their book Emotional Muscle, emphasize the ordinary and extraordinary challenges that both children, and their parents need to develop at each stage. Jack is a psychologist and Kerry, a psychoanalyst (also Gene Kelly’s daughter). Twice a month since 1994 they consult with parents at a preschool in Michigan. They recognize that life is messier than portrayed in books, and hope to help parents think about how best to help their children grow strong and healthy. When babies have intense feelings, parents sometimes feel helpless. Helplessness is hard to handle so parents often get frustrated with the baby. This book suggests © Copyright 2010 Kerry Kelly Novick & Jack Novick

ways to implement THOUGHTFUL PARENTING so adults can learn and use a positive cycle of confidence, competence and mastery.

Adults need to learn to: ~~ Tolerate their own uncertainty. ~~ Use their feelings as a signal that they have a problem to solve. ~~ Ask for help, and together generate solutions.

In each chapter from infancy through age five, the Novicks discuss what children, and likewise, their parents need to learn. They advocate for and distinguish between a preferred open (authoritative) system of authentic authority and a closed (authoritarian) stance based on power.

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level and find pleasure and pride (with a tinge of sadness and letting go) in their growth. Decide what character goals you want to offer your child and model that behavior. Both parents and children want the child to be able to be independent and competent one day. The Novicks remind parents to turn daily power struggles into collaborative steps on the path to growth. Love is the ultimate emotional muscle. Loving and letting go is a real challenge for parents. The Novicks write that the more you use your loving muscle, the stronger it grows and the more you can love.

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Where Judaism Meets Experiential Learning

Oh, what a beautiful world! Four- and five-year-olds celebrate Eart h Day as part of April’s “What a Beautiful World” theme. Each month Shirlee Green Preschool ‘s curriculum focuses on a different theme, middot and mitzvot project for all ages. For April, the middah was “Trust in God,” the mitzvah project w as the organization Safe Kids.

SCHOOL SPOTLIGHT

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SHIRLEE GREEN PRESCHOOL at Congregation Shaare Emeth


Exploration Center

E xperiential learning and

Three-year-olds plant seedlings for replanting in the Mitzvah Garden.

Early Childhood Education at its Best

T

here are moments in early childhood education when a child grasps a concept, connects with a teacher, overcomes an obstacle or reaches a significant milestone. Those standout moments happen frequently at Shirlee Green Preschool. Through a nurturing, individually tailored curriculum that combines Judaics with experiential learning, children from six weeks to pre-K develop and become part of a loving community, all framed within a progressive learning track.

AGE RANGE Six weeks to Pre-K. Part– and full-time schedules

exploration are the centerpieces of Shirlee Green Preschool’s curriculum, whether the subject is art, Judaism, math, science or literature. The Exploration Center is an interactive sciencebased learning space that also engages children in the caregiving of animals. Learning takes place indoors and outdoors. The Center allows children to take safe risks in exploring the world around them and takes advantage of the seasons, increasing available learning tools . For instance, after a rainy day teachers will notice that worms are visible on the sidewalks and grass. They use magnifying glasses to let children examine the worms, learn about the function of worms in the ecosystem, read stories about worms and feed a worm to the axolotl, an amphibian native to Mexico.

Above: Interacting with box turtles is a favorite activity. Below: Microscopes help children gather in-depth knowledge about nature and the environ ment.

Left: Four guinea pigs, two parakeets, a leopard gecko, tarantula, Axolotl amp hibian, two box turtles, Madagascar hissing cockroaches and an array of visiting animals, amphibians and reptiles make up part of the Preschool’s beloved Exploration Center.

LOCATION 11645 Ladue Rd. Creve Coeur, MO 63141 www.shaare-emeth.org

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SHIRLEE GREEN PRESCHOOL at

Outdoor Classroom

A

n Outdoor Classroom is the newest project in the works at the Preschool. It will allow children to move freely in a stimulating environment. Outdoor learning helps improve vision, promotes social skills, increases attention span, reduces stress and provides ample vitamin D for children. Crossing the Red Sea. All ages learn through Torah Alive, which brings Jewish stories to life.

Torah Alive

isiting the V past and learning about

Three-year-olds create Israeli flags to celebrate Israel Independence Day.

Mitzvah Garden

T

he Mitzvah Garden is a fully operational vegetable garden that is planted and maintained by children enrolled in Preschool. It serves as a food source for the students and for community members who are less fortunate, including families without homes that stay overnight at the Temple through Room at the Inn.

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Reform Judaism is integrated into the core curriculum through: • Knowledge—acquiring concepts through formal learning and past experience. • Activity—applying • knowledge to a “real world” setting. • Reflection—breaking down complex topics into smaller parts and uniting smaller concepts into a bigger picture to create knowledge.

Through collaboration on projects outdoors, children learn patience and respect for teachers, class mates and nature. Pumpkins harvested from the mitzvah garden decorate sukkot at the Temple. Cucu mbers and tomatoes become students’ favorite foods after trying them for the first time fresh from the garden.

School Spotlight: SHIRLEE GREEN PRESCHOOL at Congregation Shaare Emeth


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Oops, perhaps I should not have had my 8 yr old son flush his dead pet fish down the potty himself. Oops, perhaps I should have listened to my son who said, just following a course of antibiotics for Strep throat, that he wasn’t feeling well. He ended up in bed for 4 days. Oops, embarrassing your teenager by not knowing how to work your phone camera during a small graduation ceremony is not a great idea, especially when all eyes turn to you. Oops, I should have checked the start and end times of the birthday party that my daughter REALLY wanted to go to. Although we had the gift and clothing ready beforehand, I brought her as the party was ending. Oops. Telling your child with food allergies that all cookies at the grocery store have things he is allergic to, works great to prevent him from becoming a junk food junkie. A good idea, that is, until he learns to read! Oops. I can’t believe I sent my 4 yr old to school with his 2 yr old brother’s shirt as his extra shirt. His teachers all joked that he looked “disco era”, as he wore a half shirt all day. Oops. Perhaps I should not have jokingly told my 16 year old new driver that she only had to stop at stop signs that didn’t have a white border. The police officer was not amused. Oops. When my 10 year old saw my friend put her dog outside for bad behavior, he said to her in a matter of fact way, “Hmm. When my brothers or I misbehave, Daddy puts us outside too.” Oops. Before going to the movies, I went to Target, got candy, and put it in the children’s waistbands. When we got there my new readers read the big sign that said, “No outside candy allowed.” For the next half hour I had to explain why it was okay to break some rules, but not others. Oops. I can’t believe I declared to my children that I resigned from my job as mother, stormed into my room, and went to bed- leaving them to take care of themselves. In the morning my youngest had a contract ready with favorable terms to be discussed, if I would agree to stay on as Mother.

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As a group, today’s teenagers take fewer illegal drugs, have fewer sexual partners, volunteer more, and have higher educational aspirations than teens of the past two generations. Teens say that civility and manners are very important in their lives, and they look up to their parents more than celebrities or athletes as role models. Naturally, their parents are terrified.

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It doesn’t matter what teens do or

As hard as it is to remind myself,

As a parent, I try not to worry, but I

don’t do—all the parents I know

the things parents think may be

do. What have I done that my child

are vexed. If their teen is socially

problems are exactly those things

will one day tell a therapist? And

active, parents panic: do they have

that will become our kids’ future

I mean what I have I done today.

the wrong kinds of friends? Are they

sources of strength and identity. I

The poem’s last line commands

taking drugs? I hate driving them

am who I am today because of the

the reader to “Get out as early

everywhere at all hours of the day

comics I read, the heavy metal I

as you can/And don’t have any

and night. Which isn’t a question and

played, and the monster movies

kids yourself.” Larkin didn’t. But

isn’t meant to be. They wish their

I loved as a teen. In the 1950s,

I didn’t listen to Larkin. “This Be

teen would stay home. If their teens,

comics were blamed for juvenile

the Verse” was published in 1971,

like mine, are homebodies, they

delinquency and the subject of a

the year I was born, so I can’t help

say—OK, I—want them to go out

Senate hearing. In the 1980s, the

but be grateful that my parents

more. We ask, Do they have friends?

alleged harm of heavy metal led

didn’t listen, either. In 1988, when I

Are they taking drugs? Can we drive

to another Senate hearing and

was a teen, Will Smith rapped that

them anywhere? No? Maybe you’d

court cases. And horror films were

parents just don’t understand. Now

like to have some friends over?

considered hazardous to your heart.

he’s 46 and a celebrity parent of

No? Not even for pizza? If they’re

The online obsessions and social

two celebrity teens, whom I doubt

involved with extracurriculars, we

media mania parents bemoan now

he understands. I know I don’t

say Buckle down and get serious

will drive the next decades, and our

understand his kids. But I keep

about schoolwork. Focused on

kids will be at the wheel.

working to understand mine, or at

grades? Time to broaden horizons,

least accept who they are. Maybe

live a little. Seeing someone? Too

It’s easy for adults to lose sight

The Who, whose members—the

young to be tied down. Not seeing

of what it was like to be a teen.

surviving ones—are now old enough

anyone? Isn’t it about time? Messy?

The first line of one of my favorite

to be grandparents, were on to

Clean up that room! Neat? Actually,

poems, “This Be the Verse” by

something back in 1965. The kids

that’s never happened. Still, parents

Englishman Philip Larkin, may be the

are alright. They were then, and they

will tailor a cliché to fit any figure.

most depressing yet funny take on

are now.

being an adult child, and parenting, you’ll ever read. Unfortunately, it’s also not printable in a family magazine. To put it mildly, Larkin isn’t optimistic about the prospect of parenthood. As a person, one who has occasionally even been around other people, I chuckle: “They”— meaning parents—“fill you with the faults they had/And add some extra, just for you.” We worry about our kids because they are us, and because they’re not.

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Monday Lantern Festival: Magic Reimagined

Tuesday

2

5/23-8/23 6pm-10pm The Missouri Botanical Garden will play host to an international exhibition of 22 lighted works of art from Zigong, China when it debuts “Lantern Festival: Magic Reimagined” in 2015. the Garden has commissioned new sets crafted from silk and steel to once again offer visitors from around the world the opportunity to see an event rarely staged outside of Asia. SEE WEBSITE FOR PRICING

Mighty Micah Mini-Camp 5/22-6/5

Options from 7am- 6pm

Parents working? On Spring break? Come to camp, SHIRLEE GREEN PRESCHOOL: 11645 LADUE RD, ST. LOUIS, MISSOURI 63141 CALL FOR INFO, Hannah, hdayan@shaare-emeth.org, 314-569-0048

Celebrating Missouri – Hands-on 10:00am-2:00pm Ages 6 to 12. Celebrating Missouri. Spend as much or as little time as you would like. MISSOURI HISTORY MUSEUM, LINDELL BOULEVARD AND DEBALIVIER, ST. LOUIS, MO, 63112 FREE

Secular

(314) 746-4599 http://www.mohistory.org/calendar/ step-inside

Open play at the J 10:30am-11:30am 5 yrs and younger with an adult, play with others in a relaxed, nonstructured environment

Jewish

JCC/SFC, 2 MILLSTONE CAMPUS DRIVE FREE

Full Moon Opening Water Tower Open to the Public 5:30pm Celebrate the Full Moon at the historic Compton Hill Water Tower. Climb 198 stairs to the top of one of the highest points in St. Louis for a breathtaking 360 degree view of the city. COMPTON HILL WATER TOWER PARK AND PRESERVATION SOCIETY, ST. LOUIS, MO, 63158 $5 (CASH ONLY) PER PERSON FOR ADULTS, CHILDREN 5 AND UNDER ARE FREE. FREE FOR MEMBERS

info@watertowerfoundation.org

Breakfast with Baby at the Chess Hall of Fame 9:00am Ages 0 to 2. Explore baby signs, scribbling and drawing, and learn tips and techniques for developing early verbal and pre-literacy skills!

Schools & Synagogues

WORLD CHESS HALL OF FAME - 4652 MARYLAND AVENUE, ST LOUIS, MO 63108 $5 PER ADULT/CHILD PAIR; FREE FOR CHESS HALL OF FAME MEMBERS

CALENDAR

RSVP to events@worldchesshof.org.

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Thursday

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Friday

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Saturday

Chess Club, hands-on lesson Wehrenberg Family Summer Movie Series 10:00am Wehrenberg Theatres once again hosts its popular Family Summer Series for parents looking for family entertainment while the kids are out of school. WEHRENBERG THEATRES LOCATIONS IN ST. LOUIS $1 PER TICKET

http://www.wehrenberg.com/ presenting.aspx

Art Museum Stroller Tour 9:00am-10:00am Ages 0 to 2. Roll out the strollers for a guided tour of the exhibitions— designed for parents and caregivers who love contemporary art and want to engage in interesting conversations with other art lovers. Vocal babies are encouraged! CONTEMPORARY ART MUSEUM ST. LOUIS 3750 WASHINGTON BLVD ST. LOUIS , MO, 63108 FREE AND OPEN TO THE PUBLIC. COMPLIMENTARY COFFEE AND BAKED GOODS.

Ida McCall info@camstl.org

Nursing Mom's Group 12:30PM Connect with other nursing mothers and babies, learn tips and techniques, share experiences and experiences. KANGARAOO KIDS, FREE

An Inside Look at Shaw Nature ReserveBluebirds: 20 years and counting 10:00am-12:00pm Climb aboard the Wilderness Wagon for a 3-mile ride to learn about the Eastern Bluebird monitoring program here. SHAW NATURE RESERVE HWY. 100 AND I-44 GRAY SUMMIT, MO 63039 $5 MISSOURI BOTANICAL GARDEN MEMBERS AND SHAW NATURE RESERVE PASSHOLDERS $7 GENERAL PUBLIC, (636) 451-3512

Wehrenberg Family Summer Movie Series 10:00am Wehrenberg Theatres once again hosts its popular Family Summer Series for parents looking for family entertainment while the kids are out of school. WEHRENBERG THEATRES LOCATIONS IN ST. LOUIS, $1 PER TICKET

http://www.wehrenberg.com/ presenting.aspx

Open play at the J 10:30am-11:30am 5 yrs and younger with an adult, play with others in a relaxed, nonstructured environment, JCC/SFC, 2 MILLSTONE CAMPUS DR, FREE

From Overwhelmed to Organized! 7pm-8:30pm Tips and tricks on how to organize any room in your home, creating an efficient filing system for mail and important papers, and more BRENTWOOD CITY HALL $15 PER PERSON, To register, call

10:00am-12:00pm

Free Family Fridays at the Old Courthouse The Gateway Arch

Come play chess every Saturday from 10:00 a.m. - 12:00 p.m. Don't know how? We will teach you! All ages welcome. Free!

10:00am-11:00am

ST. LOUIS COUNTY LIBRARY - INDIAN TRAILS BRANCH 8400 DELPORT DR. ST. LOUIS , MO, 63114-5904 FREE

The National Park Service presents Free Family Fridays at the Old Courthouse, an hour-long, themebased program offering participants of all ages hands-on opportunities to learn about St. Louis and westward expansion during the 1800s.

http://www.slcl.org webmaster@ slcl.org

Nursing Mom's Group 10am

THE OLD COURTHOUSE, 11 NORTH 4TH STREET, ST. LOUIS, MO, 63102 FREE, Reservations can be made by

Connect with other nursing mothers and babies, learn tips and techniques, share experiences and experiences.

calling 877-982-1410.

KANGARAOO KIDS FREE

Open play at the J 10:30am-11:30am

Saturday Family Days at World Chess Hall of Fame

5 yrs & younger with an adult, play with others in a relaxed, nonstructured environment, JCC/FOX FREE

11:00am or 1:00pm12:00pm or 2:00pm

First Fridays Shabbat Service

Saturday Family Days are designed for families with children ages 5-12 and feature a kid-friendly tour of the current exhibits and related art or movement activity!

6pm Full Friday evening Shabbat service for all generations. Those celebrating a birthday this month are invited to the bema for a special birthday blessing and treat! Following the blessing, children ages 7 and under and an accompanying adult attend a special program held in the preschool.

WORLD CHESS HALL OF FAME - 4652 MARYLAND AVENUE, ST LOUIS, MO 63108 FREE FOR FAMILY-LEVEL MEMBERS OF THE WCHOF, $5 PER CHILD FOR NON-MEMBERS.

RSVP to events@worldchesshof. org.

CONGREGATION SHAARE EMETH, 11645 LADUE RD., ST. LOUIS, MO 63141 FREE

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Tot Shabbat 6pm-7pm Shabbat service for young children TEMPLE ISRAEL, FREE

Robots the movie at Saint Louis Science Center 6/5-6/7,

times vary

ROBOTS is a sneak peek into the future at what might be possible. This new film from National Geographic takes you on an amazing tour of what’s going on in robotics labs around the world. SAINT LOUIS SCIENCE CENTER 5050 OAKLAND AVENUE ST. LOUIS, MO, 63110 $9 ADULT, CHILD/SENIOR $8, 314-289-4439 http://www.slsc.org

314-963-8688 by June 2nd. St. Louis Jewish Parents

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Sunday

Monday

Lantern Festival: Magic Reimagined 5/23-8/23 6pm-10pm

St. Louis Jewish Film Festival 6/7-6/11, varied times 20th Annual Jewish Film Festival LANDMARK PLAZA FRONTENAC CINEMA (CLSYTON RD AND LINDBERGH) VARIED

For more info go to www. stljewishfilmfestival.org

Robots the movie at Saint Louis Science Center 6/5-6/7,

times vary

ROBOTS is a sneak peek into the future at what might be possible. This new film from National Geographic takes you on an amazing tour of what’s going on in robotics labs around the world. SAINT LOUIS SCIENCE CENTER 5050 OAKLAND AVENUE ST. LOUIS, MO, 63110 $9 ADULT, CHILD/SENIOR $8, 314-289-4439 http://www.slsc.org

Secular

Kimmswick Strawberry Festival 6/6-6/7,

10:00am-5:00pm

This years Strawberry Festival will offer a Petting Zoo, Pony Rides, Horse Drawn Carriage Rides, a Jazz Festival, and even a Polka Band. Be sure to make plans today to attend this family friendly event. KIMMSWICK VISITOR CENTER 314 MARKET ST KIMMSWICK, MO, 63053 FREE ADMISSION

Schools & Synagogues

Jewish

(636) 464-7407 festivals@cityofkimmswick.org

CALENDAR

Tuesday

St. Louis Renaissance Faire 6/6-6/7,

10:00am-6:00pm

Travel back in time as you step into the beautifully wooded, 16th century French village we call Petit Lyon! Children will love the petting zoo, games, and daily free activities. ROTARY PARK 2577 W. MEYER ROAD FORISTELL, MO, 63348 FREE PARKING

(800) 373-0357 info@stlrenfest.com

Keeper Talks 6/6-6/7,

9:00am-10:00am

Meet outside the Wildlife Hospital at 9 am and join our keepers as they feed and water our birds. Learn what they are, how they got here, and what they all eat. WORLD BIRD SANCTUARY 125 BALD EAGLE RIDGE ROAD VALLEY PARK, MO, 63088 FREE

info@worldbirdsanctuary.org

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Preschool Science Series at the Saint Louis Science Center 10:00am-11:00am Engineer a paper aircraft, sturdy house, and steady bridge using recycled materials. Preschool age children and their adult partner will explore, investigate, and do science together. SAINT LOUIS SCIENCE CENTER 5050 OAKLAND AVENUE ST. LOUIS, MO, 63110 $30 PER CHILD AGES 3+ FOR ONE MONTH OF SESSIONS (3 SESSIONS/ MONTH). $25 PER CHILD FOR MEMBERS.

314-289-4439 http://www.slsc.org

Open play at the J 10:30am-11:30am 5 yrs and younger with an adult, play with others in a relaxed, nonstructured environment JCC/SFC, 2 MILLSTONE CAMPUS DRIVE FREE

Knitting at Sachs 7:00pm-8:30pm Join us to knit, crochet or work on other fiber arts. Bring in a project you have already begun, start a new one, or share ideas and techniques with experienced knitters. Bring your needles and yarn. ST. LOUIS COUNTY LIBRARY - SAMUEL C. SACHS BRANCH 16400 BURKHARDT PL. CHESTERFIELD, MO, 63017 FREE

No registration required webmaster@slcl.org

Creative Kids: Tin Can Robots 3:00pm-4:00pm Make a craft. Grades K-5. Groups of 5 or more register in advance. ST. LOUIS PUBLIC LIBRARY - SCHLAFLY 225 NORTH EUCLID AVENUE ST. LOUIS, MO, 63108 FREE

314-367-4120 krakers@slpl.org Krista Rakers

Staying Home Alone 6:30pm-8pm This class will help parents and children determine the child's readiness-physically, mentally, socially and emotionally to stay home by themselves and help prepare them for this experience.  Course includes three workbooks.  SUNSET HILLS COMMUNITY CENTER, 3915 S. LINDBERGH BLVD., SAPPINGTON 63127 $25 PER FAMILY

Breakfast with Baby at the Chess Hall of Fame 9:00am Ages 0 to 2. Explore baby signs, scribbling and drawing, and learn tips and techniques for developing early verbal and pre-literacy skills! WORLD CHESS HALL OF FAME - 4652 MARYLAND AVENUE, ST LOUIS, MO 63108 $5 PER ADULT/CHILD PAIR; FREE FOR CHESS HALL OF FAME MEMBERS

RSVP to events@worldchesshof. org.


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Thursday

Wehrenberg Family Summer Movie Series 10:00am Wehrenberg Theatres once again hosts its popular Family Summer Series for parents looking for family entertainment while the kids are out of school. WEHRENBERG THEATRES LOCATIONS IN ST. LOUIS $1 PER TICKET

http://www.wehrenberg.com/ presenting.aspx

Magical BooksMake for a Magical Summer 4pm-5:30pm Kick off event for the Brodsky Summer Reading Club. Magician, PJ Library, Crafts BRODSKY LIBRARY FREE

Friday

Nursing Mom's Group 12:30PM Connect with other nursing mothers and babies, learn tips and techniques, share experiences and experiences. KANGARAOO KIDS, FREE

Wehrenberg Family Summer Movie Series 10:00am Wehrenberg Theatres once again hosts its popular Family Summer Series for parents looking for family entertainment while the kids are out of school. WEHRENBERG THEATRES LOCATIONS IN ST. LOUIS, $1 PER TICKET

http://www.wehrenberg.com/ presenting.aspx

Open play at the J 10:30am-11:30am

Fun in the Sun with your Little One 9:30am-11:30am 2 yrs and under, There will be art, music, discussion, snack, and lots of playtime! TEMPLE ISRAEL, BIG ROOM OF DECC 20

if you want more info please e-mail director of DECC Leslie Wolf at Lwolf@ti-stl.org

2015 Summer Children's Concert Series 9am "Bring on the Drums". The concerts are free to the public and seating is on a first-come, first-served basis. Light snacks and beverages will be served after the concert. PIPER PALM HOUSE IN TOWER GROVE PARK, FREE

5 yrs and younger with an adult, play with others in a relaxed, nonstructured environment

Saturday

Free Family Fridays at the Old Courthouse The Gateway Arch 10:00am-11:00am The National Park Service presents Free Family Fridays at the Old Courthouse, an hour-long, themebased program offering participants of all ages hands-on opportunities to learn about St. Louis and westward expansion during the 1800s. THE OLD COURTHOUSE, 11 NORTH 4TH STREET, ST. LOUIS, MO, 63102 FREE

Reservations can be made by calling 877-982-1410.

Open play at the J 10:30am-11:30am 5 yrs and younger with an adult, play with others in a relaxed, nonstructured environment JCC/FOX FREE

Family Shabbat Picnic 5:30pm-7:30pm

JCC/SFC, 2 MILLSTONE CAMPUS DRIVE, FREE

6yrs and under. Bring your own picnic dinner, recite Shabbat prayers, enjoy challah and grape juice, and more

Family Night: Superhero Science

SHAW PARK: NORTH SHELTER, TREETOP PLAYGROUND FREE

6:00pm-7:00pm Experiment with superhero powers, like flight, magnetism, and lightning. Families. Groups of 5 or more register in advance. ST. LOUIS PUBLIC LIBRARY - SCHLAFLY 225 NORTH EUCLID AVENUE ST. LOUIS, MO, 63108, FREE

RSVP and more info: contact Laura Fields at LFields@JFedSTL.org or Marianne Chervitz at MChervitz@ jccstl.org

Chess Club, hands-on lesson 10:00am-12:00pm Come play chess every Saturday from 10:00 a.m. - 12:00 p.m. Don't know how? We will teach you! All ages welcome. Free! ST. LOUIS COUNTY LIBRARY - INDIAN TRAILS BRANCH 8400 DELPORT DR. ST. LOUIS , MO, 63114-5904, FREE

http://www.slcl.org webmaster@ slcl.org

Nursing Mom's Group 10am Connect with other nursing mothers and babies, learn tips and techniques, share experiences and experiences. KANGARAOO KIDS, FREE

Saturday Family Days at World Chess Hall of Fame 11:00am or 1:00pm -12:00pm or 2:00pm Saturday Family Days are designed for families with children ages 5-12 and feature a kid-friendly tour of the current exhibits and related art or movement activity! WORLD CHESS HALL OF FAME - 4652 MARYLAND AVENUE, ST LOUIS, MO 63108 FREE FOR FAMILY-LEVEL MEMBERS OF THE WCHOF, $5 PER CHILD FOR NON-MEMBERS. RSVP to events@

worldchesshof.org.

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314-367-4120 krakers@slpl.org Krista Rakers

Family & Friends CPR 6:30pm-9:00pm Adults and adolescents (Kids ages 10-15 must be accompanied by an adult) MISSOURI BAPTIST MEDICAL CENTER, 3015 NORTH BALLAS ROAD, DES PERES, 63131, $25 PER PERSON

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Saturday

Sunday

Monday

Tuesday

Lantern Festival: Magic Reimagined 5/23-8/23 6pm-10pm

Keeper Talks 6/13-6/14

9:00am-10:00am

Meet outside the Wildlife Hospital at 9 am and join our keepers as they feed and water our birds. Learn what they are, how they got here, and what they all eat. WORLD BIRD SANCTUARY 125 BALD EAGLE RIDGE ROAD VALLEY PARK, MO, 63088, FREE

info@worldbirdsanctuary.org

St. Louis Renaissance Faire 6/13-6/14

10:00am-6:00pm

Travel back in time as you step into the beautifully wooded, 16th century French village we call Petit Lyon! Children will love the petting zoo, games, and daily free activities. ROTARY PARK 2577 W. MEYER ROAD FORISTELL, MO, 63348 FREE PARKING

(800) 373-0357 info@stlrenfest.com

Preschool Science Series at the Saint Louis Science Center 10:00am-11:00am Engineer a paper aircraft, sturdy house, and steady bridge using recycled materials. Preschool age children and their adult partner will explore, investigate, and do science together. SAINT LOUIS SCIENCE CENTER 5050 OAKLAND AVENUE ST. LOUIS, MO, 63110 $30 PER CHILD AGES 3+ FOR ONE MONTH OF SESSIONS (3 SESSIONS/ MONTH). $25 PER CHILD FOR MEMBERS.

314-289-4439 http://www.slsc.org

Secular

Nusach Hari's KidZone picnic and BBQ 5pm-7pm

Jewish

Enjoy an evening of fun for the whole family. Picnic features include a visit from an Olivette fire truck, water balloons, snow cones, and hot dogs and hamburgers for sale IRV ZEID PARK ON OLD BONHOMME IN OLIVETTE (JUST EAST OF PRICE.) IN CASE OF RAIN, THE FUN WILL MOVE NEXT DOOR TO NHBZ

CALENDAR

Schools & Synagogues

For more information, call 314-9912100, ext. 2

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Open play at the J 10:30am-11:30am 5 yrs and younger with an adult, play with others in a relaxed, nonstructured environment JCC/SFC, 2 MILLSTONE CAMPUS DRIVE FREE

Breakfast with Baby at the Chess Hall of Fame 9:00am Ages 0 to 2. Explore baby signs, scribbling and drawing, and learn tips and techniques for developing early verbal and pre-literacy skills! WORLD CHESS HALL OF FAME - 4652 MARYLAND AVENUE, ST LOUIS, MO 63108 $5 PER ADULT/CHILD PAIR; FREE FOR CHESS HALL OF FAME MEMBERS

RSVP to events@worldchesshof. org.

Babysitting 101 9:30am-1:30pm Adolescents/Teens (approx. 10 and up) ST. CHARLES CITY-COUNTY LIBRARY - KISKER ROAD BRANCH, 1000 KISKER ROAD, ST CHARLES 63304 $30 PER CHILD


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Thursday

Wehrenberg Family Summer Movie Series 10:00am Wehrenberg Theatres once again hosts its popular Family Summer Series for parents looking for family entertainment while the kids are out of school. WEHRENBERG THEATRES LOCATIONS IN ST. LOUIS $1 PER TICKET

http://www.wehrenberg.com/ presenting.aspx

Lego Club 3:00pm-4:00pm Play and create with Legos. Grades K-5. Groups of 5 or more register in advance. ST. LOUIS PUBLIC LIBRARY - SCHLAFLY 225 NORTH EUCLID AVENUE ST. LOUIS, MO, 63108 FREE

314-367-4120 krakers@slpl.org Krista Rakers

Nursing Mom's Group

9:30am-11:30am 2 yrs and under, There will be art, music, discussion, snack, and lots of playtime! TEMPLE ISRAEL, BIG ROOM OF DECC 20

if you want more info please e-mail director of DECC Leslie Wolf at Lwolf@ti-stl.org

Join us for hot dogs, hamburgers, veggie burgers and more

KANGARAOO KIDS, FREE

314-432-8050 smasin@ti-stl.org

Play and Ride at the St. Louis Carousel 10:00am-12:00pm Enjoy going back and forth from great activities in the playroom to unlimited rides on the carousel. Tailored for ages 5 and under. ST LOUIS CAROUSEL AT FAUST PARK 15189 OLIVE BLVD CHESTERFIELD, MO, 63017 $8/PER CHILD, PER CLASS (INCLUDES ARMBANDS FOR ATTENDING ADULT)

314-615-8383 toconnell@stlouisco. com Tonya O'Connell

Wehrenberg Family Summer Movie Series Wehrenberg Theatres once again hosts its popular Family Summer Series for parents looking for family entertainment while the kids are out of school. WEHRENBERG THEATRES LOCATIONS IN ST. LOUIS, $1 PER TICKET

http://www.wehrenberg.com/ presenting.aspx

Open play at the J 5 yrs and younger with an adult, play with others in a relaxed, nonstructured environment

9am "The Bull and the Bee". The concerts are free to the public and seating is on a first-come, first-served basis. Light snacks and beverages will be served after the concert.

5:15pm-6:30pm

Connect with other nursing mothers and babies, learn tips and techniques, share experiences and experiences.

10:30am-11:30am

2015 Summer Children's Concert Series

Saturday

BBQ Dinner for all ages

12:30PM

10:00am

Fun in the Sun with your Little One

PIPER PALM HOUSE IN TOWER GROVE PARK FREE

Friday

JCC/SFC, 2 MILLSTONE CAMPUS DRIVE, FREE

Sports Night of Fun with JOLT 6:30pm-8pm FIRST EVER Sports Night of Fun. Enjoy Israel sports, including Capture the Flag and Gaga, and sweet treats from the Ice Cream truck with JOLT staff members Subie Banaszynski and Andrew Goldfeder.

TEMPLE ISRAEL CONTACT SYNDEY MASIN

Free Family Fridays at the Old Courthouse The Gateway Arch 10:00am-11:00am The National Park Service presents Free Family Fridays at the Old Courthouse, an hour-long, themebased program offering participants of all ages hands-on opportunities to learn about St. Louis and westward expansion during the 1800s. THE OLD COURTHOUSE, 11 NORTH 4TH STREET, ST. LOUIS, MO, 63102 FREE

Reservations can be made by calling 877-982-1410.

Open play at the J 10:30am-11:30am 5 yrs and younger with an adult, play with others in a relaxed, nonstructured environment JCC/FOX FREE

Free Family Night at the Magic house 5:30pm-9:00pm

Chess Club, hands-on lesson 10:00am-12:00pm Come play chess every Saturday from 10:00 a.m. - 12:00 p.m. Don't know how? We will teach you! All ages welcome. Free! ST. LOUIS COUNTY LIBRARY - INDIAN TRAILS BRANCH 8400 DELPORT DR. ST. LOUIS , MO, 63114-5904, FREE

http://www.slcl.org webmaster@ slcl.org

Nursing Mom's Group 10am Connect with other nursing mothers and babies, learn tips and techniques, share experiences and experiences. KANGARAOO KIDS, FREE

Saturday Family Days at World Chess Hall of Fame 11:00am or 1:00pm12:00pm or 2:00pm Saturday Family Days are designed for families with children ages 5-12 and feature a kid-friendly tour of the current exhibits and related art or movement activity! WORLD CHESS HALL OF FAME - 4652 MARYLAND AVENUE, ST LOUIS, MO 63108 FREE FOR FAMILY-LEVEL MEMBERS OF THE WCHOF, $5 PER CHILD FOR NON-MEMBERS., RSVP to events@

worldchesshof.org.

Families (no more than 2 adults and 4 of their own children) can enjoy the Museum at no charge through the generosity of Emerson.

Kathy's Free Cloth Diapering Class

THE MAGIC HOUSE 516 S. KIRKWOOD RD. ST. LOUIS, MO, 63122 FREE

Learn about cloth diapering benefits, types, services, and more

carrie@magichouse.org Carrie Hutchcraft

2pm-3pm KANGAROO KIDS, FREE

RSVP 314-732-7009 or info@ babycarediaper.com

[Sat Cont. on pg 50]

TEMPLE EMANUEL

Register at www.cajestl.org

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Saturday

Sunday

5/23-8/23 6pm-10pm

6/20-6/21,

Open play at the J 9:00am-10:00am

5 yrs and younger with an adult, play with others in a relaxed, nonstructured environment

WORLD BIRD SANCTUARY 125 BALD EAGLE RIDGE ROAD VALLEY PARK, MO, 63088 FREE

info@worldbirdsanctuary.org

JCC/SFC, 2 MILLSTONE CAMPUS DRIVE FREE

Plaquey Wacky 5K & Obstacle Relay Race

Preschool Science Series at the Saint Louis Science Center

All American 5K and Fun Run

8:00am-12:00pm

Secular

WILLMORE PARK 6499 JAMIESON AVE ST. LOUIS, MO, 63109 FUNDRAISER

shannon@ddhtstl.org Shannon Woodcock

Father's Day Float 8:30am-1:00pm

Jewish

10:30am-11:30am

Meet outside the Wildlife Hospital at 9 am and join our keepers as they feed and water our birds. Learn what they are, how they got here, and what they all eat.

This event is fun for the whole family filled with lots of fun exercise, gross activities for the kids, an inflatable obstacle course, music, healthy snacks and great giveaways.

Schools & Synagogues

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Lantern Festival: Magic Reimagined

Keeper Talks

CALENDAR

Monday

Join Ballwin Parks and Recreation in honoring that special guy in your life on a scenic float down the Meramec River for Sherman Beach Park to Castlewood State Park. Once we pull into Castlewood sit down for lunch on us. CITY OF BALLWIN - PARKS AND RECREATION #1 BALLWIN COMMONS CIRCLE BALLWIN, MO, 63021 VIP $21/REG $24

jcrawley@ballwin.mo.us Jessica Crawley

EarthWays Center – The Butterfly House 9:00am-4:00pm While the Garden is a botanical institution focusing on plants themselves, the EarthWays Center zeroes in on what botanical researchers agree is the greatest threat to plants and the environment: people. EARTHWAYS CENTER 4651 SHAW BLVD. ST. LOUIS, MO, 63110, FREE

Joyce.Gorrell@mobot.org Joyce Gorell

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GO ST LOUIS 300 HUNTER AVE #107 ST. LOUIS, MO, 63124 5K • $25 (FEBRUARY 27 – APRIL 15) • $30 (APRIL 16 – JUNE 18) • $35 (JUNE 19-21) 1-MILE FUN RUN YOUTH (YOUTH IS 12 YEARS-OLD AND UNDER) • $10 (FEBRUARY 27 – APRIL 15) • $12 (APRIL 16 – JUNE 18) • $15 (JUNE 19-21)

(314) 727-0800 http://gostlouis.org

Dads free at the Magic House THE MAGIC HOUSE 516 S. KIRKWOOD RD. ST. LOUIS, MO, 63122 FREE

carrie@magichouse.org Carrie Hutchcraft

SAINT LOUIS SCIENCE CENTER 5050 OAKLAND AVENUE ST. LOUIS, MO, 63110 $30 PER CHILD AGES 3+ FOR ONE MONTH OF SESSIONS (3 SESSIONS/ MONTH). $25 PER CHILD FOR MEMBERS.

314-289-4439 http://www.slsc.org

Breakfast with Baby at the Chess Hall of Fame WORLD CHESS HALL OF FAME - 4652 MARYLAND AVENUE, ST LOUIS, MO 63108 $5 PER ADULT/CHILD PAIR; FREE FOR CHESS HALL OF FAME MEMBERS

RSVP to events@worldchesshof. org.

Karaoke ST. LOUIS PUBLIC LIBRARY - SCHLAFLY 225 NORTH EUCLID AVENUE ST. LOUIS, MO, 63108 FREE

314-367-4120 krakers@slpl.org Krista Rakers


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Family & Friends CPR

Nursing Mom's Group

6:30pm-9:00pm Adults and adolescents (Kids ages 10-15 must be accompanied by an adult) MISSOURI BAPTIST MEDICAL CENTER, 3015 NORTH BALLAS ROAD, DES PERES, 63131 $25 PER PERSON

Fun in the Sun with your Little One

Friday

KANGARAOO KIDS FREE

Open play at the J 10:30am-11:30am

9:30am-11:30am 2 yrs and under, There will be art, music, discussion, snack, and lots of playtime! TEMPLE ISRAEL, BIG ROOM OF DECC 20

if you want more info please e-mail director of DECC Leslie Wolf at Lwolf@ti-stl.org

5 yrs and younger with an adult, play with others in a relaxed, nonstructured environment JCC/SFC, 2 MILLSTONE CAMPUS DRIVE FREE

Wehrenberg Family Summer Movie Series WEHRENBERG THEATRES LOCATIONS IN ST. LOUIS $1 PER TICKET

2015 Summer Children's Concert Series 9am "Flashing Brass". The concerts are free to the public and seating is on a first-come, first-served basis. Light snacks and beverages will be served after the concert. PIPER PALM HOUSE IN TOWER GROVE PARK FREE

Shaw Family Adventurers: Letterboxing $7 PER CHILD, INCLUDES 1 ADULT MISSOURI BOTANICAL GARDEN MEMBERS AND SHAW NATURE RESERVE PASSHOLDERS $9 PER CHILD, INCLUDES 1 ADULT GENERAL PUBLIC

(636) 451-3512

Wehrenberg Family Summer Movie Series

Open play at the J

12:30pm Connect with other nursing mothers and babies, learn tips and techniques, share experiences and experiences.

http://www.wehrenberg.com/ presenting.aspx

Saturday

10:30am-11:30am

Keeper Talks 6/27-6/28

5 yrs and younger with an adult, play with others in a relaxed, nonstructured environment

WORLD BIRD SANCTUARY 125 BALD EAGLE RIDGE ROAD VALLEY PARK, MO, 63088, FREE

JCC/FOX FREE

info@worldbirdsanctuary.org

Free Family Fridays at the Old Courthouse The Gateway Arch THE OLD COURTHOUSE, 11 NORTH 4TH STREET, ST. LOUIS, MO, 63102 FREE

Reservations can be made by calling 877-982-1410.

Nursing Mom's Group 10am Connect with other nursing mothers and babies, learn tips and techniques, share experiences and experiences. KANGARAOO KIDS FREE

Chess Club, hands-on lesson ST. LOUIS COUNTY LIBRARY - INDIAN TRAILS BRANCH 8400 DELPORT DR. ST. LOUIS , MO, 63114-5904 FREE

http://www.slcl.org webmaster@ slcl.org

Saturday Family Days at World Chess Hall of Fame WORLD CHESS HALL OF FAME - 4652 MARYLAND AVENUE, ST LOUIS, MO 63108 FREE FOR FAMILY-LEVEL MEMBERS OF THE WCHOF, $5 PER CHILD FOR NON-MEMBERS.

RSVP to events@worldchesshof. org.

Tiger Feeding Tour CROWN RIDGE TIGER SANCTUARY 19620 CROWN RIDGE RD SAINTE GENEVIEVE, MO, 63670 $50 DONATION PER PERSON

Valerie Conaway vconaway@ crown-ridge.com 573-883-9909

WEHRENBERG THEATRES LOCATIONS IN ST. LOUIS, $1 PER TICKET

http://www.wehrenberg.com/ presenting.aspx

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Sunday

Monday

Tuesday

Lantern Festival: Magic Reimagined 5/23-8/23 6pm-10pm

Keeper Talks 6/27-6/28

Open play at the J 10:30am-11:30am

Breakfast with Baby at the Chess Hall of Fame

WORLD BIRD SANCTUARY 125 BALD EAGLE RIDGE ROAD VALLEY PARK, MO, 63088, FREE

5 yrs and younger with an adult, play with others in a relaxed, nonstructured environment

info@worldbirdsanctuary.org

JCC/SFC, 2 MILLSTONE CAMPUS DRIVE FREE

WORLD CHESS HALL OF FAME - 4652 MARYLAND AVENUE, ST LOUIS, MO 63108 $5 PER ADULT/CHILD PAIR; FREE FOR CHESS HALL OF FAME MEMBERS

Knitting at Sachs

RSVP to events@worldchesshof. org.

ST. LOUIS COUNTY LIBRARY - SAMUEL C. SACHS BRANCH 16400 BURKHARDT PL. CHESTERFIELD, MO, 63017 FREE

Schools & Synagogues

Jewish

Secular

No registration required webmaster@slcl.org

CALENDAR

WANT TO LIST YOUR EVENT HERE? EMAIL US AT:

INFO@STLOUISJEWISHPARENTS.COM

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RABBI

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My daughter talks to dead people. It’s not as morbid as it sounds. You see, my husband’s grandmother passed away a few years ago. Leoda was the matriarch and rock of her family, and she and my daughter, Lila, shared a special bond. Grandma Lee was known for many things including the color purple, her love of Wendy’s milkshakes, and her collection of fancy hats. After she died, her daughter gave each of Grandma Lee’s great grandchildren one of her special hats. Lila received a red, felt cloche dotted with rhinestones that she placed on a shelf in her room. It stayed there for a number months, but then one night, Lila asked for the hat when we were saying our prayers. She cradled the soft material in her arms as she asked God to bless all the people in her life, and when she finished listing all the members of our family Lila asked me, “Can I still bless Grandma Lee even though she died?” “Of course you can ask God to bless her,” I said. “Do you want to do that now?” Lila nodded. Holding the hat upside down by its brim, like a tiny red wishing well, she leaned over and began whispering into it. “What are you doing?” I asked her gently after a few moments had passed. “I’m talking to Grandma Lee,” she said. “I’m telling her my secrets.” And each night, after we read our books, say our prayers and sing our songs, after hugs and kisses, and lights out and extra drinks of water and last trips to the bathroom, my husband or I will walk by Lila’s room and see her snuggled under her covers with Grandma Lee’s hat, chattering away until she finally falls to sleep. I love that death doesn’t scare my daughter. That at nine years old, her imagination won’t allow her to see death as the end of her relationship with her great grandmother. When I was Lila’s age, the mere mention of someone dying sent me into panic mode. I held my breath driving past cemeteries. I had to be excused from Sunday school during the weeks we were learning about the Jewish rituals of death and dying because when the teacher began talking, I felt like the walls of the classroom were closing in on me. Death was something only to fear.

TO PARENT

RABBI ANDREA GOLDSTEIN Rabbi Andrea Goldstein was ordained from the Hebrew Union College - Jewish Institute of Religion in Cincinnati, Ohio in 1998. She has served as rabbi at Congregation Shaare Emeth, for the past 17 years. She is a graduate of the Institute for Jewish Spirituality’s Rabbinic Leadership Program, and is currently enrolled in the Jewish Mindfulness Meditation Teachers’ Training Program. She is married to Brett Goldstein and is the mother of Macey, Eli, and Lila.

But Lila seems to possess a deeper truth: that the death of a loved one does not mean the death of love. Watching and listening to Lila I am more and more convinced that our souls, the pure essences of who we are, are connected to one another across space and time in ways we may not always realize, but that are beautiful and mysterious, and real all the same. I know that, as parents, we are instructed to teach our children about Torah and mitzvot, about life and death. But sometimes, if we’re lucky and paying close attention, we learn just as much from our children as they ever learn from us.

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TapSnap 1151

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NORTHWEST CHAMBER OF COMMERCE

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The photo booth has evolved into the fun and interactive TapSnap Phototainment system. Your guests can take high-quality photos and make them their own, adding digital props, green screen backgrounds and personal messages with the touch of a fingertip.

We are one of the fastest growing Chambers in Missouri! We are a Chamber without borders. We provide unique opportunities to do business and build relationships. If you have any questions or are interested in the Chamber, give us a call!

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314-291-2131

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We offer advanced dentistry in a relaxed, caring atmosphere. Our philosophy is to treat our patients like our own family. That’s why we treat you with gentle, friendly care and offer you prompt appointments that respect your time. Whatever we can do to make your visit more comfortable and to give you a healthier, more attractive smile, we’ll strive to make it happen.

Rodan & Fields Consultant Skin Care Products

Publishing of high quality Parenting magazine for the St Louis Jewish community.

Stephanie Berk & Liz Sabol  412-251-6324  info@stlouisjewishparents.com  www.stlouisjewishparents.com 

Lindsey Glass  lindseyglass@hotmail.com  www.lglass.myrandf.com 

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Beach Body I focus on getting people closer to their fitness goals, either through various programs, or just by helping motivate and encourage them.

Dr. Sonu Muthuvalliappan  & Dr. Nabi

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LuLaRoe by Cozy Couture

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Creve Coeur Dentistry

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8944 St. Charles Rock Road, 3rd Floor info@northwestchamber.com www.northwestchamber.om

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A trendy, comfortable and affordable clothing line filled with colorful, fun fabrics. We bring the shopping to you! No need to order, no shipping cost, no formal presentation. Earn free clothing by hosting a party!

Elana Fendelman & Vicki Isakow 

Sara VanLinn 

LuLaRoe-by-Cozy-Couture 

516.457.2319 

Lularoecozycouture@gmail.com 

saravl@beachbodycoach.com 

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Take This Personally

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314-355-2000 

Jessica Litwack 

Small local business specializing in personalized gifts and party favors. Each item is created with the recipient in mind. We can make suggestions based on the occasion and popular themes. We can also work with you to create a unique gift or party favor.

Libby Goldman & Mich Hancock 

314-305-5723 

Stacey Lebo 

Libby@mypagemonkey.com 

jessica@stlouissleepcoach.com 

takethispersonally@gmail.com 

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www.stlouissleepcoach.com 

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sara.vanlinn 

smile@crevecoeurdentistry.com 

My Page Monkey

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Simple social media solutions for Chiropractors, Landscapers, Veterinarians, Auto Service and Dental/Orthodontists

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Jessica Manela Litwack

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beachbodycoach.com/saravl 

Gentle sleep coaching


“BABY” BUSINESSES Young start-ups help our community’s economy. Look here monthly to see what is new!

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Bakery specializing in traditional and unique gourmet Challahs.

We help small businesses learn how to use social media marketing to grow! We offer social media training and coaching, social media management, workshops, and will set-up, design, and optimize your social media pages. Steph Nissen  636-582-0524 

MaryAnne Smyly Sabin  and Mindy Woolf

Contact@NissenMedia.net 

314-629-2667 

NissenMedia 

challahlicious@gmail.com 

www.NissenMedia.net 

TO THIS SUCCESSFUL SPROUT WHO IS CELEBRATING ONE YEAR IN BUSINESS!

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Captured Moments by Jen Photographer

Jennifer Goldenberg  314-518-2558  capturedMomentsbyJengoldenberg 

Challahlicious 

Accessible Strategies Group, LLC

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Legal services, legal consulting services, accessibility consulting services, and management consulting services.

The Women in Biz

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A support and networking organization for entrepreneurial women that provides a resourceful website, online and live networking opportunities and coaching.

Bonnie Frank 

James B. Frost 

412-251-6324 

636-442-1461 

bonnie@thewomeninbiz.com 

accessiblestrategiesgroup@gmail.com 

http://thewomeninbiz.com 

New listings this month Companies listed last issue Companies turning 1 year old!

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Alayna Lerner

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Health, accident and health insurance

Alayna Lerner  314-517-8674 

alerner@myhst.com 

Want to be listed here or know of a new business? EMAIL US AT: INFO@STLOUISJEWISHPARENTS.COM

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