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The Meaning of the Number 10

Meaning of the number 10

Completeness of order, marking the entire round of anything, is therefore, the ever-present signification of the number ten, It implies that nothing is wanting; that the number and order are perfect; that the whole cycle is complete. The Ten Commandments contain all that is necessary, and no more than is necessary, both as to their number and their order, while the Lord’s Prayer is complete in ten clauses.

Meaning of the number 10 Completeness of order, marking the entire round of anything, is therefore, the ever-present signification of the number ten, It implies that

nothing is wanting;

that

the number and order are perfect; that the whole cycle is complete. The Ten Commandments contain all that is necessary, and no more than is necessary, both as to their number and their order, while the Lord’s Prayer is complete in ten clauses.

Meaning of the number 10 Completeness of order, marking the entire round of anything, is therefore, the ever-present signification of the number ten, It implies that nothing is wanting; that the number and order are

The Ten Commandments contain all that is necessary, and no more than is necessary, both as to their number and their order, while the Lord’s Prayer is complete in ten clauses.. clauses perfect; that the whole cycle is complete.


FROM THE DESK OF B.DA I thought I was saved before But I was fooling myself Thought I was ruling myself To the chagrin of my soul’s health Baptized in the lake of fire Faith refined like pure gold Don’t need man to validate me I AM THAT I AM has made me whole Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth Is my soul necessity And the time has come for me to proclaim Just how awesome God can really be It’s all about relationship Religion is not the place where I dwell Treat me like a child with no understanding Feed me milk and I suck titty All the way to hell The onus is on me to prove I am able That I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me No longer looking outside myself to find God I’m walking in the knowledge that His spirit dwells in me I have radical beliefs I serve a radical God The land of milk and honey is filling me to the brim I’m operating in a New Jerusalem state of mind 2010 Is the rebirth of I… www.bda-oso-starchild.com Through HIM


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CONTENTS The Year of Judgment Revisited By B.da Oso StarChild 5 True Definition of Star By: B.da Oso StarChild 7 2010 Challenge for the Ladies By: Lilletta Thompson 10 SHINING STAR: Neko Cheri 13 STARCHILD INK – Boonka and B.da 20 THE SPOTLIGHT – Angel and Marcus 23 Trip Into the Wilderness By: B.da Oso StarChild 27 Ten Things You Should Never Apologize For 30 EARGASMS: Some UnHoly War – Amy Winehouse 31 VERBATIMS 32 OUTAKES 33 Outro 34

Cover Photography Provided By: LC Golladay of Focus One Photography 708.799.4375 Cover Model: B.da Oso StarChild


The Year of Judgment REVISITED

by: brandee cartwright-jones 2009 was the year of judgment. A year when we were numerically admonished to make serious judgment calls within our lives. This was a year to take the magnifying glass of self reflection and examine friendships, relationships, business choices, career, financial matters, residency, and other pertinent areas of our lives.

and give it a slap on the wrist sentence in spite of its guilt (i.e. investing another 9 years of your life working there). Or you can throw the book at it and quit tomorrow (which might be considered a harsh and irrational sentencing). The key thing to remember: the choice is yours. You and God alone are the judge AND jury.

Imagine yourself as a judge; black robe, gavel and all. And envision your job (you know, the one you hate going to?) standing before you, pleading its case as to why you should stay. Do the pros outweigh the cons? Or is the only pro a steady paycheck? Is this job growing you as a person? Or is it stifling your spirit? If the majority of the questions you ask of your job result in an overtly negative response, it’s time to come to grips with the fact that the gavel has already been banged and it’s been found guilty. But as judge of your own situation, final sentencing rests in your hands. You can allow justice to continue to be perverted in your life,

It’s not so much about making the “right” choice or the “wrong” choice. What seems to be the right decision today can become one of the worst decisions you ever made when you look back on it 10 years from now. But God honors our free will. He allows us the freedom to make choices, and then manages our decision through His grace and mercy. So that even when we make “dumb” decisions, more often than not we come out unscathed, unharmed, wiser and bubbling with a testimony we can share to help others.


Judgment cont’d…

Now some judgment calls will be pretty cut and dry. Or they should be at least. If you’re questioning whether or not to stay involved with your married lover or if you should stop stealing from the job you hate before you get caught, let me help you with that one. Any situation that does not align with the Word of God won’t prosper and will only bring about confusion. The longer you take to call a spade a spade is the more time you spend stuck in that situation, further diverting your attention away from your own greatness. The hardest of the judgments to make, in my opinion, is that of friendships and close relationships. Co-dependency, past history and feelings of indebtedness oftentimes prevent us from seeing people as they truly are. Our misguided heart doesn’t want to accept the fact that, in order to go to the next level, we must leave some people behind. It might be a manipulative parent, it could be an obsessively negative pal, it could be the significant other who takes you for granted, or the dream killer who never supports anything you do. And although toxic relationships are a hindrance, how do you tell your dad or best friend since childhood to basically, “kick rocks?” The answer: you don’t. What I’ve learned in my 33 years of life is that spewing off at the mouth to someone about how

much they suck is hardly ever beneficial. It’s not your job to judge the person, but it is your responsibility to judge how the person is impacting your life. Instead of seeing yourself as the judge now, see yourself as a lawyer. Put this “friend” or “relative” on trial and see if the evidence proves he is really an asset to your life. Don’t give in to the fallacy of history; believing that since they “used to be” pro-you, you still owe them your friendship. Maybe they cleaned up your puke that time you got drunk and hurled on yourself when you turned 21. Or when you were facing eviction, they let you crash on their couch. Or 3 years ago you two had a baby together. While all of these accomplishments got kudos at the time, the fact remains that those were your glory days and they really haven’t done anything noteworthy since. True, God blessed you to have a baby via this woman, but if she’s not who you plan to spend the rest of your life with, why continue to have sex with her? And yes, they may have cleaned up your puke so long ago, but ever since then their actions toward you have made you feel like you want to vomit. Think about it like this: if the peach tree in your backyard only bore fruit for 2 years and then stopped, how good of a peach tree would it be? What if you sold peaches and your livelihood depended on this tree? Would you let it remain because of sentimental value? Or would you cut it down and make way for

new peach trees? The beautiful thing about this whole friendship judgment process is that the hardest part is simply admitting to yourself that you need to cut them loose. Once you have come to grips with that decision, simply begin to distance yourself from them. No need to make a grand announcement that you and this person are no longer cool. No need to post blogs on facebook and myspace declaring your independence from (or hatred of) this person. By simply backing off from you and this person’s usual routine, they’ll get the hint. Worst case scenario, they’ll confront you as to why you are acting unfamiliar. Best case scenario, they won’t even notice the change in you until you have fully accepted the change yourself. Whatever the case, it’s not too late to prevent 2009 from being a lukewarm year. Choose wisely the situations and people you plan to roll with. Although our lives have already been written, it is up to us to turn the pages. The key thing to remember: the choice is yours. And you deserve what you accept.


do you know what the star means? For us Everyone knows what a star is, but

here at StarChild, it signifies greatness. Purpose. Our story has already been written and we are merely actors playing our dutiful role. We are the ones who help give life meaning. We are the ones who equate being “normal” with mediocrity. We are the ones that sacrifice on behalf of the better good. We go against the grain. We are the remnant. We are the chosen. Our light shines bright so that a people years away can still see it. Even once we’ve burned out. We are creating our mark. We are living legends. We validate one another. We help one another rise. We are the fearless. We are the believers in Christ. We ARE StarChild.


Greetings ladies.. So here we are- about to go into the next year… Here is the challenge for us.. Let me know if you accept this challenge for the New year….

Mental health: In 2010 I will do more to take care of my mental health. I will talk more openly about my feelings of depression and/or anxiety with trusted loved ones. If I have periods of extended sadness I will talk to my doctor, realizing that there is no shame in getting help. I will treat myself several times this year to times that are just for me…

Physical Health: In 2010 I will start/continue taking care of my health which means: I will get my annual checkups; I will exercise and eat a balanced healthy diet. I will work on shedding extra pounds but I will love my body through the journey. When I’m tired, I will pay attention to my body, and get rest. If I’m dealing with an illness/disease/disorder- I will follow my doctor’s treatment plan, and will keep my mental health strong so that my physical health can be at its best.

Relationships – Females: I will work on being a better friend to my girlfriend / wife. When she needs to talk, I’ll listen. I will be more open and honest about how I feel. When my girlfriend /wife succeeds, I will congratulate her, and support her, no jealousy this year!

Relationships - Men If I am in a healthy relationship, and dealing with a man that really tries - I will show him respect. I will remember that it s not good to have a power struggle with my man. If he shows his emotions, I will allow him share without judgment. I won’t stalk his page, I won’t check his phone, I won’t search for reasons to fuel my insecurities that lie within me. I will give him space to

be him and to have friends. I will realize that sometimes it’s best to keep my mouth shut, and allow him to be the man he is trying to be- However, if I am in an unhealthy relationship, I will work very hard to end it. I will realize that true love doesn’t have to be fought for. If my man puts me down, emotionally, physically, mentally- I will view these as red flags and get help and get out of the relationship. I will honor the voice of my kids, when they express concern about how he treats me or them. I will allow myself to love hard, but not at the compromise of loving myself and my children. Also, if a man is married, no matter how much he tells me he isn't happy at home, I will realize that I'm better than being woman number 2, number 3 etc... If I was in a "relationship" with a married man in 09- I will pray that I can get the strength and courage to walk away, not stay because i'm desperate, starving for love and affection.... I'll know that being by myself with my dignity will be better than being a mistress and feeling like crap.

Personal Image: No matter how bad I feel I will do my best to keep myself looking great! Not for the man in my life (though he will appreciate it) but because I want to look my best and feel my best at any moment I’m alive. I will keep my hair done, keep my hygiene up, and dress in clothing that fits me at the size I am at currently. In summary: I know this year will bring me loss. I may lose a job, I may lose my man, I may lose a loved one to death, I may lose my stable life, but no matter how much I lose I will TRY to always focus on what I still have. I will count not the quantity of blessings but the quality of my blessing- Even at my lowest darkest moment; I will rely on my faith. I will laugh a lot, love a lot and learn a lot! Now…. Who is in with me?


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Celebrating the journey of entrepreneurs as they travel the road of success.


O U T R O

Neko Cheri: Author, Radio Personality, and Entrepreneur

Owner of Koneko Media Group, Inc. / Author "It's Not Him, It's You"

When did you start your business? I started last summer, but because I am a natural entrepreneur it's actually the 3rd successful business that I have had.

What

is

the

purpose

of

your

business?

The purpose of my business was originally to promote healthy relationships between women and men with my relationship guide "It's Not Him, It's You". My purpose has since expanded to address a variety of subjects as they pertain to men and women alike.

What prompted you to start your business? I started my business with the focus of inspiring, motivating and encouraging women and people after I had a devastating break-up in 2008. I wanted to share my perspective and lessons with other people. Out of the ashes rises a Phoenix they say, so I picked up a pen, started writing my best-selling book, started my radio show, created my magazine and registered for school.

What has been your biggest challenge with your company? That's an easy one. Having a team of people who are motivated by success not money. It has been a challenge getting people to understand that it's easier said than done but it's easier done once said. I have always been self-motivated but I can't do it all by myself. no successful person can. So my challenge is to keep motivating and challenging others.

What has been your greatest triumph to date? Touching the lives of so many people. I use to watch people on tv saying "I'm just glad to make a difference in someone's life" and think it was crap (excuse my French). It's funny because now I'm that person and the truth is there is nothing better than changing people's lives. I love my fans and supporters and I often get emails from them expressing their gratitude and it really makes me feel good.

What will you accomplish in 2010? So much that people will think I'm crazy and unrealistic! I have a magazine for business women coming out first quarter 2010 called NCMag. My radio show is going am/fm. I’m developing an online relationship television show, another book, purchasing a new home and getting my play written all while going to school. It's called vision, purpose and drive. Whew!

What advice do you have to others who seek to start their own business? There are three crucial points that I will make. The first is focus. There has to be a purpose to what you want to accomplish. Second, faith is the evidence of things not seen but your vision will guide you. Third is drive and determination are the gas that keeps the machine (you) going. People see me and think that things have come so easy they admire the presentation of my hard work. Yes that Mercedes looks shiny and new but it didn't start out that way it was built from metal scraps, nuts/bolts, and fire. I love to show the finished product to people but never forget that hard work, blood, sweat and real tears will bring you true success.

What would you like people to know about Neko the woman? People should not be so quick to judge. Men and women alike look at me and make-up their minds about who I am and what I represent based on what they see. I am a business woman, mother, friend, daughter, sister, aunt and much more to a lot of people. Most importantly I am happy with being who I am. I believe that I have a message especially for women and young girls which is "You can be who you want to be as long as you respect and love yourself." Growing up I was called ugly, black, and ignorant but I knew deep down inside that I was so much more than that. As a result you all get me. The good and the not so good; but it's who I am and who can be judgmental about that?

Last question, How can people get in touch with you? My website is www.nekocheri.com, my radio site is www.blogtalkradio.com/nekocherilive, my magazine site is www.NCMagOnline.com and of course there is facebook and twitter!


What you don’t know on DAY ONE, you will on DAY SEVEN.

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The road to being STARTASTIC begins with having a holistic mindset. It’s accepting that no one can be a better you than you, and maximizing each component that makes you who you are.

Startastic isnt about being, it’s about KNOWING. Learning to let your light shine is the journey. Being a star is the destination. Feel free to shoot me an email with your feedback and comments: bda@starchildmagazine.com Read and be blessed.


“It is only the women whose eyes have been washed clear with tears who get the broad vision that makes them little sisters to all the world.” – Dorothy Dix Show us YOUR stars! If you or someone you know has a star tattoo and would like to be featured in StarChild Ink, send us a picture to starchild.pub@gmail.com.


NEKO CHERI The HOTTEST Star on Internet Radio www.blogtalkradio.com/NekoCheriLIVE D.I.V.A. EXTRAORDINAIRE

Wednesday’s @ 8:30 8:30pm (EST) Author of the best selling book…

Sassy. SEXY. Classic.


Do I have tattoos or piercings: Yes I do I have 5 tattoo's. I have 5 stars on my right thigh connected with vines. I have an anklet around my left ankle with a money charm. I have my name "Angel" on my left wrist. I have my X on my upper back and my astrology sign on my lower back.

My friends would say my best qualities are: They would say that I'm very ambitious and dedicated to what I love. And I love to entertain‌ singing, dancing, modeling, or acting. I know I have what it takes, and I won't stop until everyone knows who I am.


ANGEL

North Carolina

MARCUS Topics off limit to me at a party are: None Do I have tattoos or piercings: Nope The weirdest thing about me is: My personality


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It’s Not Him, It’s YOU

"It's sexy. It's classy. Full of humor & quick wit for today's modern woman... A MUST Read! M. Kelley Ivey (MLIS), Ivey League Book Review.


trip into the wilderness

by: b.da oso starchild

In the wilderness, following hard after God (or what I think is God). Enticed by the lusts of the flesh, I scurry on. Trying hard to keep up with the bright and beautiful ray of light before me. I finally catch up to the light, and when I touch it, it burns me and tries to leave me for dead. "The enemy comes to kill, steal and destroy", I hear a voice remind me. Realizing I was following after fools gold, I cry and beat myself over the head for being so, being so, being so dumb. After my temper tantrum is over, I realize I'm stuck in the middle of a thicket, with no one now to lead me. I question what got me here. I question what I was following. I question if the path I'm even on is the right one. I ram my head into a tree to compensate for my stupidity. My head begins bleeding heavily and I've given myself a headache. I'm lost in a thicket (a wilderness) and I don't know where I'm going or how to get out. I'm 2 seconds away from panicking when a dove lands in the tree beside me. I try not to pay it any attention, but it looks odd (and beautiful) amid the thorns and bushels that surround me on every side. "What's the matter?" the dove asks me. "I think I made the wrong decision. I think I followed the devil here. He was on the path in front of me and he enticed me and lead me to this place. I'm afraid I've disappointed God; and even more afraid I'm lost." "Doesn't really matter if you followed the devil here" says the dove, knowingly. “ at the end of the day, it is God who owns the wilderness."


10 things you should never apologize for‌ Never apologize for pursuing what makes you happy. Even if you need to quit your job, transfer schools, or move across country, always do what you really want. Never apologize for giving your best in a relationship that just didn't work out. Never apologize for crying. Wear waterproof mascara and express yourself. Never apologize for being successful. Only haters want to keep you at their level. Never apologize for being frugal. Just because you save your money instead of blowing it on the latest fashion emergency doesn't mean you're cheap. Never apologize for treating yourself to something special. Sometimes you have to show yourself some appreciation. Never apologize for demanding respect. You are to always be treated as a queen. Never apologize for setting high standards in a relationship. You know what you can tolerate and what simply gets on your nerves.

Never apologize for being you! KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND KEEP MOVING FORWARD ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT GOD LOVES YOU AND HE ALWAYS HAS YOUR BACK


Some Unholy War By: Amy Winehouse

If my man was fighting Some unholy war I would be behind him Straight shook up beside him With strength he didn't know It's you I'm fighting for He can't lose with me in tow I refuse to let him go At his side and drunk on pride We wait for the blow We put it in writing But who you writing for Just us on kitchen floor Justice done Reciting my stomach standing still Like you're reading my will He still stands in spite of what his scars say I'll battle ‘til this bitter finale Just me, my dignity and this guitar case Yes my man is fighting some unholy war And I will stand beside you Who you fighting for I would have died too I'd of liked to If my man was fighting Some unholy war Click here to listen to the song: http://tinyurl.com/starchild-unholywar


“People are so worried about what they eat between Christmas and the New Year, but they really should be worried about what they eat between the New Year and Christmas� Anonymous

All men dream but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity; but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dream with open eyes to make it possible. T.E. Lawrence

When you say a situation or a person is hopeless, you are slamming the door in the face of God. Charles Allen

All men dream but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity; but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dream with open eyes to make it possible. T.E. Lawrence


OUTTAKES From this month’s photoshoot with L.C. Golladay; Hillside, Illinois

Mean face. Kinda.

He said: Looking back on this year, the last shoot of the year was a eye opener for me. Trying to bring Brandee out of her comfort zone, being that anger was not part of her personality was a curious challenge. Raising the swords and seeing that there was no conflict in her life at this time, but victory over all instead. What she later quoted to me in our communication about the shoot. I will take that into the new year and apply it whenever doubt sticks its ugly head into the scenario. Victory over defeat, always.


Del Padre, Del Hijo, Del Espiritu Santo, Mi Madre, Pelen (my sonshine), Walida Britton-McClendon and her family, Ella Britton, Terrence Bailey, Stephanie Graves, Ericka Hightower, The Singhs, Angila Faison, Lorraine Miller, Reginald Phillips, Angel Campbell, “A.Wa”, 2PAC, Aahmed Pryor,

PHI ETA PSI

Kyle Pryor, My Aunt Queen, Cherie Roberts, The Cartwright’s (ALL of them), Bermuda, Venezuela, Dallas, Paris, Las Vegas, Detroit, Northwest Indiana, HAMMOND, Chanelle Yarber, Deirdre Bailey-May, Temicka Moore, LaTreacha Blackmon, Helaynia Walker, Focus One Photography - LC Golladay, Tamika Lee, Marcus Jelks, The Matrix, Rico aka Roxie, MY FIFTY, BBK, 13WAYS, Muhammad Shabazz, Ric Jilla, Amberlicious, Did I thank A.Wa already…? 3000, Attorney Don Schlyer, CLYRIC, Denitria Lewis aka D.Nyree, George aka Redline99, Erin Cross, Neko Cheri (my twin), my beautiful neices Tanisha Sanders (Neicey Pooh) and Antoinesse Wooley (Pooh), Leslie Reid, They Who Shall Not Be Named, M. Natasha Reid, Erika James, Shamaya & Julien, Nashonna Griffin, Danielle Carter, Makresha, Takisha Smith, Stacie Alejandro, To-To Wilson, Deana Dean, K-Love, Khari the DiscoPoet, Angelique, Kareem & Diana Vaughn (Hi Kennebunny!) My Boo (444), Aaliyah, President Barack Obama and every other star, shining the world over….


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