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Relax, don’t over ‘do’ it! Simplicity is the key when it comes to hair for brides and bridesmaids this season, writes Emma Connolly Bows & ribbons

In line with the simple and pared back trend which is influencing all aspects of 2020 weddings, the elegant bow is having a bit of a moment. A stark black ribbon around a loose pony tail is the ultimate in effortless chic with strong Vera Wang overtones. Or why not inject a pop of colour to show off some of your personality? Just don’t match it to your bridesmaids or groomsmen’s ties as that would just be #naff. For something more elaborate, braid the ribbon through a plait – yes, it might be a little My Little Pony-ish but everyone loved them for a reason!

Beaded hairbands

These really came into their own over Christmas and had a strong presence on international catwalks for spring/summer, so it’s no surprise they’ve veered into the wonderful world of weddings where they’re officially the new tiara (which in case you needed reminding, has very much had its day). You can go as basic or as bespoke as you wish with the hairband but the good news is that they’re really easy to wear with your veil. Speaking of which …

Veils

They are huge this year. Not ‘huge’ as in very popular, but ‘huge’ as in voluminous, long, wide, extra and then some more. For lots of brides, the veil is going to be more important than

the gown itself which is why it’s extra important your locks are extra luscious. We’re stating the obvious but don’t forget to have a six-month lead-in (or more) to the big day where you schedule your colours and cuts; invest in salon shampoo and conditioner (which naturally your hubbie-to-be is banned from using) and go easy on the straighteners.

Hair jewellery

Hair clips may seem a little ’90s but they’ve got a retro vibe we’re loving and have been deemed a hot trend for 2020 brides. The obvious choice is something glittery but there are lots more original options out there for the fashion-forward bride. There’s also the chance to have some fun here by getting something custom designed for your big day with your own logo or initials.

Hair bouquets

We’re not sure who decides these things, but ‘someone on high’ has declared hair bouquets to be where it’s at this year! Interpret as you wish, but be warned this look is not one for shrinking violets. Either wear a full-on floral crown or adorn your do with blooms of your choice. It's a very girly and feminine look, we’re just not sure if it would stand the pace of a typical Irish wedding!

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Plaited crowns

Channel your inner Rapunzel with thick braids worn in a crown-like way, most likely with the help of hair pieces. This would be amazing for a boho-style wedding, or for a bride who wants to have one look for her ceremony and another for the after party.

Relaxed hair

Step away from the hair spray, because ‘unfussy’ best sums up bridal hair trends for 2020. In all honesty though, you will probably want a gallon of hair spray to achieve the look but the vibe is relaxed and undone as opposed to uptight and unnatural. That could be a simple but super blow dry; loose cascading curls or a gentle up-do – just definitely nothing that requires eight million hair clips that are pinned so tight that will give you the worst headache of your life – something many 90s brides had to tolerate!

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You will be so sick of being told to ‘be the best version of you’ on your day, but it’s important. It’s easy to get blindsided in a world of Instagram, Pinterest etc. Don’t over think things. Married life can be complicated enough – your bridal hair needn’t be!

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Saying thank you HOW do you thank all those who helped make your special day one to remember, and what are options to consider when it comes to thank-you gifts for your bridesmaids, groomsmen and best man? Bridesmaids ‘The traditional gift for a bridesmaid has always been a piece of jewellery, just to say thank you for all your help and as a reminder of the special day,’ Miriam Hilser-Foley of Hilsers Jewellers in Bandon says. ‘A silver necklace with a stone matching the colour of the bridesmaids dresses is always popular as are matching drop earrings. But a bracelet is also a lovely option, again with matching colour stones with a silver disc that can be engraved with the date of the wedding.’ For John Lowney of Lowney Jewellers in Clonakilty, pendant and earring sets are proving extremely popular at the moment when it comes to bridesmaid gifts. ‘Silver and white gold are most popular when it comes to these gifts,’ John explains. ‘I think that if you are giving gifts to your bridesmaids and best man and so on, it should be something that they can wear after the big day.'

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However, the everyday wrist watch is also a popular gift for the men and you can get these engraved as well.’ But of course, the range of gifts for the men on the day doesn’t end with hip flasks, pocket watches and cuff links. ‘Tie-bars are proving popular, especially in sets with cuff links,’ John Lowney says. ‘However, we are seeing more and more people going for a good Cross pen, again engraved, as a special gift.’

choice for the bridesmaids surely the choices available for the best man and groomsmen are a little more defined? Not so, according to Miriam Hilser-Foley. ‘The most popular gifts for the best man and groomsmen these days are hip flasks engraved with their name and the date of the wedding. And thanks to the TV show ‘Peaky Blinders’ pocket watches are becoming more and more popular.’ In Skibbereen it’s all about cuff links when it comes to the ideal gift for the men on the day. ‘While cuff links have always been popular in silver and white gold, it’s the novelty cuff links, for example those that we can get featuring people's favourite tractor, that are now extremely sought after, especially among the farmers out there,’ says Jim Seymour of Seymour’s Jewellers in Skibbereen. ‘And, with the rise of the three-piece suit, we are seeing more and more requests for pocket watches.

Flower girls and page boys ‘Engraved identity bracelets and necklaces are idea gifts for the flower girls,’ Miriam Hilser explains. ‘Or as with the bridesmaids perhaps an engraved silver identity bracelet with a stone matching the dress?' For the page boys, watches are the preferred gift. ‘We have a large selection of watches for kids and they can make a very special gift as perhaps this could be their first watch and with an engraving

Groomsmen and the best man While jewellery is always a welcome

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on it to remind them of the special day,’ Jim Seymour says. Mothers and fathers Of course the happy couple can’t forget their mothers and fathers. ‘The traditional gift for your mother or mother-in-law is a banquet of flowers but for something a little special that will of course last a lot longer, more and more couples are turning to a silver photo frame as the ideal gift,’ Miriam says. ‘For the fathers and fathers-in-law, once again the engraved hip flasks are welcome gifts,’ John Lowney said. ‘But giving a personalised pen is also very popular, engraved or embossed with his favourite team for example.’ ‘There are lots of different ideas for gifts,’ Jim Seymour concludes. ‘It all depends on the couple themselves, but whether it’s a bracelet, an engraved hip flask or a set of Massey Ferguson cuff links there is something available for everyone as a reminder of the big day.’


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Lookin’ good lads ... Subtle, simple tricks can really enhance an otherwise traditional look for the groom, without upstaging his beautiful bride, writes Emma Connolly

WHILE a groom should never upstage his bride, he should definitely stand out from his groomsmen, and his guests, and be the most stylish man at his wedding. That’s according to Sean Murray of Sean Murray Fashions and Lady M’s in Skibbereen, who with vast years of experience dressing grooms, knows what he’s talking about. And while in lots of ways, it’s far easier for the groom to get kitted out than the bride to say ‘I do,’ looking just that bit different can present a slight challenge to the uninitiated. It’s ok for the hipster groom who’ll just go for it with gusto with a statement look, perhaps wearing ankle grazing trousers (sorry we can’t help but cringe) and no socks; foregoing a blazer and maybe even sporting a hat of some description. That look is either something you can pull off or not. And being honest, most men can’t. So for those who’ll stick to the traditional tried and tested suit, here are Sean’s tips to look your best if you’re headed up the aisle in 2020:

Fit and colour

It’s all about a tapered fit, three-piece suit for 2020, Sean advises. The fashion conscious groom should be thinking in terms of French Blue, Navy, Grey and Charcoal, he says. But of course the more classic shades are always going to go down well. A groom might have one colour in mind when he arrives in

a shop but it’s still important he has an open mind and tries on a few different options to see what works with his skin tone and colouring. Yes, that is a consideration for blokes too!

Stand out

To make sure they have their moment in the spotlight, and aren’t mixed up with any dapper groomsmen, there’s plenty the man of the moment can do. ‘A lot of grooms are buying their own suit in a plain or subtle check while the groomsmen either rent or buy suits to blend in with the main man,’ Sean says. The ‘mix and match’ look is also very popular in Sean’s store where check jackets are popular for the groom, and his groomsmen can have the same check waistcoats to blend in with him. Mixing things up is easy, Sean says: ‘The groom can go also go for a contrasting waistcoat to his groomsmen, similar but different just to give him the edge.’ The terms ‘blend,’ and 'not upstaging’ are what you want to aim for at all times! It definitely doesn’t have to be a ‘one look for all’. Individual outfits for bridesmaids has been a trend for the past few years and it’s now popular for the groomsmen as well. It adds a bit of variety and fun to the event, just be careful that the look doesn’t get ‘too busy’ which is every photographer’s nightmare!

Accessorise

In terms of accessories, it’s back to the regular collar shirts and skinny tie or dickie bow. Finishing off your look with a pocket square is a must, Sean insists! Shoes is where lots of men in general, not just grooms, trip up. Burgundy, navy, brown and tan shoes with a matching belt are what’s hot for 2020, says Sean. And unless you’re an out and out hipster, don’t forget your socks!

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I recommend giving yourself plenty of time before the big day to go looking for your suits, aroun d eight to 10 weeks. • Go looking wi th the bride to be or the best man. Try to avoid bringing all the wedding party to look at the suits initially as this often causes confusion. • Don’t be afraid to have some flair – and fun! Consider match ing flashy socks, coloured cuff links , pattern dickie bo w and pocket square s. • If you are going for a coordinated group look, if possi ble, bring a small swatch of the bride smaid’s dress to help get the suit an d neckwear shade spot on.


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Be bold, be adventurous Weddings | The Southern Star | Spring/Summer 2020

Face jewellery, white eye liner and purple lips for 2020 brides – Emma Connolly isn’t making it up! Make-up free look Lots of couples are opting for sustainable and eco-friendly weddings, and the vibe is certainly influencing dress and make-up trends. Make-up artists say lots of brides are now asking for a bare, minimalist look on their big day, but the experts warn it isn’t something that can be delivered automatically on the day. To pull this off, brides have to be prepared to put in the work in the months leading up to the wedding, and invest time and money in their skin so it’s prepped like a prime canvas for make-up experts to work their magic.

Purple lips Depending on who you ask, or what Google search you do, you can basically come up with a million answers to this one, but for 2020 the consensus seems to that the lips should be more purple than pale, and more glossy than matt. That might change again next week. Watch this space. And don’t blame us if we’ve got it wrong!

Face jewellery Yes, this is a little over the top and it definitely won’t be for everyone, but for the bride who likes to have a bit of fun or who likes to follow trends, this is one worth looking into. It’s basically little diamonds (or whatever) stuck on your face or around your eyes and is far nicer than it actually sounds so don’t dismiss it automatically. I mean given the option, which wedding would you be more interested in going to? One where the bride wore sparkles on her cheeks, or the one where she wore pearl studs? Exactly!

Everything’s rosy Who doesn’t want to look all fresh-faced and dewy on their big day? And every day for that matter. Bridal make up this year is all about a light finish, with girly blush hues, that enhances rather than disguises. As you might have guessed, around eight million products and five layers of make up will have to be applied to achieve this but the result will be incredible! Beautique by Ashling Daly, Skibbereen has plenty of experience priming brides for their big day and is happy to help brides find looks that won’t date and will allow their personality to shine through.

White eye liner If you like the idea of face jewellery, you’re going to like this one, and if not, skip on. Futuristic white eye liner is a big 2020 bridal make-up trend. It can be as subtle or as dramatic as you wish and can even be something you add for your after-party. Glittery nails This is going to be as big a trend as French polish was in the ’90s, we kid you not! Glitter nails, or glitter nail art is how lots of brides are expressing their personality in a subtle but stylish way and we love it. Go for full on sparkle or something more discreet along the cuticle, or on every second nail. We’re all for classic bridal looks but sometimes it can become a bit of a yawn and something like this injects a bit of fun factor. Skibbereen Nails by Anna would be happy to advise on bridal looks from the classic to the more fashion forward.

For pluck’s sake Step back from the tweezers as you’ll want to be saying ‘I do’ with full, but not scary, brows this year. Take the advice of a good brow artist and work together on achieving a thick, but still groomed, looking brow that will frame your face beautifully. You can fluff them up on the day for extra style kudos.

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Special memories

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Katrina Murphy from Macroom and Victor O'Neill from Fermoy married on 6th September 2019. They held their ceremony in Inchydoney Island Lodge & Spa, Clonakilty followed by reception in Monks Lane, Timoleague. Photo by photographer Anna Groniecka. www.annagroniecka.com.

Ciara Crowley (nĂŠe Deasy) from Union Hall & Shane Crowley from Skibbereen were married on 21st December 2019 at St. Bridget's Church, Union Hall and held their reception in Fernhill House Hotel, Clonakilty. Photo by Ray Terry Photography. www.rayterryphotography.com

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Laura Corcoran (nĂŠe McCarthy) from Reenascreena & Dan Corcoran from Bandon married in Ballinspittle Church on 20th September 2019. They held their reception afterwards in Fernhill House Hotel, Clonakilty where the couple originally met at a wedding a few years ago when Dan's button from his waistcoat got stuck in Laura's dress! Photo by Clonakilty-based photographer Dermot Sullivan. See www.dermotsullivan.com for more


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Clock-wise from top left Deirdre O'Donovan (nĂŠe Crowley) from Dunmanway and Daniel O'Donovan from Leap were married on 27th September 2019 and held their ceremony and reception in Fernhill House Hotel, Clonakilty. This humerous photo was Deirdre's idea and was taken in Clonakilty Church. The couple now live in Dunmanway. Photo by Clonakilty-based photographer Dermot Sullivan. See www.dermotsullivan.com for more John O'Driscoll from Skibbereen & Yvonne O'Brien from Doon, Co. Limerick were married on 16th August 2019 in St. Finbarr's Oratory, Gougane Barra and enjoyed their reception with family and friends at the West Cork Hotel, Skibbereen. The happy couple are pictured at nearby Lough Hyne. Photo by Baltimore-based Ayna O'Driscoll. See Facebook @aynaodriscollphotography Noreen Lenihan & Kevin McInerney from Nenagh, Tipperary married in Gougane Barra on 31st October 2019 followed by reception at the Mills Inn pub, Ballyvourney. Pictures taken by photographer Anna Groniecka. www.annagroniecka.com Michael Connolly, Lissanuhig, Skibbereen and Gretta Whooley, Ballylinch, Baltimore were married in the Sacred Heart Church, Rath on 28th September 2019 followed by reception at Fernhill House Hotel, Clonakilty. Photo by Baltimore-based Ayna O'Driscoll. See Facebook @aynaodriscollphotography Victoria Johnson & Chris Banas from Grande Prairie, Alberta, Canada married in the picturesque Gougane Barra on 11th June 2019. Photo by photographer Anna Groniecka. www.annagroniecka.com Corinne Wilson (nĂŠe Collins), originally from Union Hall, and Ray Wilson are pictured with their daughter Tess Wilson on their wedding day in St. Bridget's Church, Union Hall on 14th September 2019. Afterwards they enjoyed a reception in Dunmore House Hotel, Clonakilty. The family now live in Cobh. Photo by Clonakilty-based photographer Dermot Sullivan. See www.dermotsullivan.com for more.

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It's all about the two of you Your honeymoon is your chance to unwind, relax and find yourselves all over again after the madness and pressure of planning your wedding. It's all about the two of you – no worries about guest lists, menus or who's sitting next to who – so the advice is to make it as enjoyable and romantic as possible from the minute you leave home to the point at which you return.

Where?

The world is your oyster! Trips to exotic and far-flung destinations are often the dream, and why not? But don’t forget that the further you go, the more time you’ll need once you’ve factored in travelling time, jet lag etc. Some people just want to get away, get relaxed and focus on their time together, so the idea of staying a little closer to home is always worth considering. Remember, if you’re travelling straight away after your wedding, you’ll be coming off the back of a fairly intense period in the run up to the big day etc, and the last thing some people want then is to face into the logistics of travelling. A lot of people prefer to go on a simple, short break in the ‘aftermath’ of the wedding and then they’ll head off on their ‘once in a lifetime’ trip at a later date. One other thing…take note of the time of year you plan to travel – not only in terms of how it might affect travel and accommodation costs, but also in terms of the weather in your destination.

When?

If at all possible, start planning your honeymoon as far in advance as possible. This allows time, not only to figure out your budget and put a few coins in the ‘honeymoon’ jar, but also to get things booked, sort out paperwork, visas, passports, travel insurance etc. If you’re thinking of a multi-faceted trip to different destinations or with an assortment of activities, it’s best to talk to an experienced travel consultant to make sure you’ve covered all the bases.

Agree!

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Have your cake ...

Paula Burns finds out what’s popular on the wedding cake front at the moment In the past wedding cakes took centre stage. Our parents' generation went with the more-is-more attitude resulting in four to five-tier embellished cakes that were made to be noticed. Tradition was at the heart where a fruitcake reigned supreme. A wedding cake was more than just dessert for the big day. It was a representation of the marriage and the milestones that the future would behold. Hence the choice of a fruitcake. The top tier would be kept to use later as the christening cake for your first child – just as the wedding dress would be altered to be the christening robe. It turns out sustainability lay at the heart of tradition. As tradition has lost its kudos so has the fruitcake. In his 32 years of making wedding cakes, Kevin O’Regan of Fields Bakery in Skibbereen, has seen all the traditions come and go. 'The traditional fruit cake of older generations are a thing of the past,' explains Kevin. 'Every decade or so

'The naked cake is very popular at the moment,' says Kevin. 'This would be a sponge with fresh strawberries or summer fruits. There would be little or no decoration.' Thanks to our love of all things social media, especially Instagram and Pinterest, choosing a #nofilterneeded cake is a must. Just as the entire theme of the wedding needs to capture the Insta crowd, so too does the cake. However less is more. Where tiered cakes were once the norm, Kevin has seen a shift to the more modest style of having the cakes stacked. 'Most couples have an idea of what they want when they come in. They will have a picture from the internet. The trend tends to be quite plain with the colours of the cake matching that of the flowers and the theme of the wedding. Mostly the cake is just for the pictures,' explains Kevin. 'Decorative details would be simple like fresh flowers or berries.' Getting the ‘look’ right is so im-

native type of wedding cake. It is the cheesecake. Not to be confused with the American-style biscuit cheesecake, this is a wedding cake made from actual wheels of cheese. 'In the past three to four years cheese wedding cakes have really taken off,' explains Kevin Collins. 'They’re popular because they are tailor-made and are seasonal too. For a Christmas wedding we would use red berries or for Halloween there would be toffee apples and for summer we use summer fruits.' Kevin has seen their popularity rise with that of the country house wedding. 'They work really well with a country house theme. A cheese wedding cake kills two birds with one stone as it can used for dessert as opposed to a cheese board,' explains Kevin. 'It’s creating something savoury rather then sweet which is different to the traditional.'

The naked cake is very popular at the moment the trends change. About 15 years ago carrot cake was huge. It was an American thing that became very popular. Nearly every cake was a carrot cake but I haven’t made one in years.' Kevin has noticed the trend these days is on the more reserved side. The extra embellishments of yesteryear have been replaced by a more simple approach to decorating a wedding cake.

portant for some that Kevin has been asked to create dummy cakes just so the shot is perfect. 'There have been times when maybe it’s a small wedding and I have made two out of three of the tiers dummy cakes made out of aeroboard,' explains Kevin. 'They still want the picture to share on social media.' When it comes to flavours, chocolate biscuit cake remains a firm favourite along with red velvet and vanilla. For 2020 the vegan cake is sure to have its moment. While Kevin has seen the cupcake lose favour, the doughnut is currently a rising star. “Doughnuts are becoming a more popular choice with couples asking for a variety of fillings from the traditional jam to chocolate, apple or custard etc.' says Kevin. In the deli section of Fields another Kevin is inundated with requests for an alter-

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At Fields, Kevin has an ample range of cheeses to choose from. He will work with you to create the most delicious combination from hard cheeses to soft to discovering if Gubbeen works with Stilton and so on. It is this personalisation that Kevin attributes to the popularity of cheese cakes. 'Every cheese wedding cake is a personal choice. We can include anything from fresh fruits to a pork pie in the middle. It’s completely your choice,” says Kevin. Just as with any wedding cake, the cheese wedding cake can be decorated to work with the theme of your wedding. It seems keeping it simple with a mix of the individual are all the ingredients required for the perfect wedding cake.


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A touch of class

Stag and hen parties have become much classier affairs in recent years writes Paula Burns It can be tempting to pack up your old kit bag and head off to sunnier climates for your hen and stag weekend. But why bother with the hassle of to priority board or not when everything you could want is just a stone's throw from home? Here are our just some of our favourites from West Cork.

way to relax and spend quality time with your friends and family before you embark on the journey into marriage. The Eccles Hotel in Glengarriff is a stunning setting to unwind. Enjoy a choice of spa treatments and even a dip in their outdoor hot tub. Check out www.eccleshotel.com

Getting crafty

Cocktail hour

If being crafty is your thing, why not incorporate it into your hen party celebrations? You not only get to have a bit of craic but you also make a personalised memento from the day. At Cré Pottery Studio in Skibbereen you can channel your inner Kirstie Allsop by painting and glazing a piece of pottery to mark your day. Throw in some bubbles and nibbles and it’s the perfect start to the weekend fun. Check out: www.crepotterystudio.com

Self love

In the midst of the crazy wedding planning sometimes it’s nice to sit back and indulge in some self-love. A pampering weekend is the perfect

Just as a trip to Martha’s Vineyard wouldn’t be complete without wine tasting, visiting Clonakilty Distillery is a must for any visit to West Cork. A drink that was once famous for being Queen Elizabeth’s favourite tipple, gin is having a resurgence that shows no sign of fading. If you love gin then a gin-making class is a must to kickstart your party weekend. Here you get the chance to craft your own personalised gin that you can take home. As part of the package you also get a tour and the chance to enjoy your freshly made gin overlooking the beautiful views of Clonakilty. Check out www.clonakiltydistillery.ie

The Eccles Hotel in Glengarriff boasts a relaxing outdoor hot tub and a range of spa treatments – perfect for a hen party with a difference.

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'Putt' on a great stag

A golf weekend away with the lads is almost like a right of passage. Even if you’re less Padraig Harrington and more Happy Gilmore having the banter while attempting to putt without digging a WW2 trench is guaranteed to generate some stories. With Inish Beg Estate you have a choice of accommodation styles from their Courtyard Cottages to the Gypsy retreat, complete with Roma caravans and a barbecue. There’s even an outdoor roll top Victorian bath to soak your tired limbs. The package includes discounted golfing with Skibbereen and West Carbery Golf Club which is just in the road. Check out www.inishbeg.com

Setting new heights

Have you ever watched those people who tightrope between buildings and think, yeah that’s a bit of me? If an adrenaline rush is something you want from your stag or hen weekend then Clonakilty Park Adventure Centre will have you swinging from the nosebleed sections with an array of activities. You can arial trek across ropes or jump from great heights or enjoy some zip lining through the air. Check out www.clonakiltyparkhotel.ie

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A day at Eclipse Kenmare will put your survival skills to the test. If your having trouble choosing a best man, this maybe the perfect opportunity to wean out the weak, leaving dare we say it, the best man standing. This is the chance to star in your own version of SAS: Who Dares Wins. A gruelling day of learning how to survive in the wild is just the prep you need to win husband of the year. With a not so gentle nudge from military experienced instructors this will separate the men from the boys, leaving you with plenty of stories to laugh about. Those pints will be well deserved. Check out www.eclipseireland.com

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With the Atlantic Ocean on our doorstep, it would be a shame not to venture out to sea. If you have ever envisioned yourself decked out in white and navy and donning a captain's hat, then the yacht charter from West Cork Sailing could bring your marine dreams to life. You and your crew can set sail on the Jessy of Adrigole, enjoying the luxury of yachting life and the stunning surroundings. Or if being more hands on is your thing you can kayak with seals. The ocean is your oyster. Check out www.wildatlanticwildlife.ie

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How to be a good guest What to gift, what to wear, what to say, or more importantly what not to say – 'weddiquette' is an absolute minefield of potential disasters waiting to happen. Muck it up and you might never get an invite to a big day again … now there’s a thought! Here are some of Emma Connolly’s tips on how to be the perfect wedding guest … To start

Answer the invite promptly – or at least by the RSVP date – and supply the information requested by the bride and groom eg if you’re bringing a partner; any special dietary requirements; if you need them to book accommodation etc. Do not arrive with someone you’ve met the week before on Tinder if you haven’t already made this clear. Seating plans don’t respond well to last minute changes – neither do stressed-out brides. It’s a fine line though - give them the info they need but don’t bother them too much. The couple will have a lot to do in the run up to the big day and Google knows the answer to most things if you need to book a hair appointment; a taxi etc. You’ve got this (or at least your smart phone has).

Get it out of your system!

So it might be your sixth wedding this season and you’ve spent the equivalent of a luxury holiday in Bali on watching others say ‘I do’, but get any seething resentment out of your system in advance of the wedding day - do some yoga, go for a drink and bitch about the couple, whatever it takes. There will be video cameras around and you do not want to be that guest accessorising with a sour face. It’s easy for couples to get swept up in a ‘wedding bubble’ and to make what you might perceive as less than acceptable requests of their guests – eg make everyone travel from West Cork to Donegal for no other reason than ‘it’s a special place to them’ but just go with it or … Stay at home. Yes, you really can say no. Well, not if the person is in your close circle or your family but if for some reason you’ve landed an invite and you feel like it’s a ‘rent a crowd’ effort just politely decline. Now, doesn’t that feel better?

you get an ‘afters’ (‘insults?’) invite, you have to give a gesture of some kind (more than a scented candle, less than a food mixer). And like it or not you will be judged quite harshly on the calibre of your gift. I know a bride who can still recall who gave her what, 10 years later. Well maybe not everyone but definitely the couple who gifted a pair of champagne flutes. The general rule of thumb, and it sounds quite mercenary, is that you gift €100 per person, so if giving cash, a couple would have to give at least €200. Gift lists aren’t as popular as they used to be, but if you’re on a budget, what you spend is very clear for all to see. Go down the ‘thoughtful’ route if you’re watching your bucks – something framed, bespoke or homemade will get you extra brownie points (providing it doesn’t look too homemade and nothing with shells). Alternatively you could offer to mind the couple’s pet while on honeymoon; or do their table plan for them? Worth a shot (you cheapskate!).

Your outfit

And now for the six-million-dollar question … can you wear the same outfit to multiple weddings? It’s a 100% yes from us. Your best tactic is to in-

vest in a classic dress that won’t stand out in people’s memories – so no frills, flounces, in-your-face patterns (or cleavage) etc. Something that obviously looks great but doesn’t make too much of a statement. The trick then is groom yourself to within an inch of your life – get a great blow dry; impeccable make-up; perfect nails etc. The result is that while people might not remember what you wore, they will remember that you looked great (they will also remember if you took your shoes off at the end of the night – break through the pain barrier at all costs). The added bonus with a classic frock is that you can change up your accessories if you wish. Of course it goes without saying that you’ll have to (badly) apply a lorry load of fake tan – sure they’d say you didn’t make an effort otherwise!

Stick it out

We all live in fear of who we’ll be sitting beside for the usual six-hour wedding meal in a room that’s hotter than hell. But as tempted as you might be, do not ever switch name places. You will be caught, probably by the bride’s mother, and it will be spoken of for years to come. Take the wine top-ups when they come, and keep repeating to yourself ‘this too shall pass.’ Just beware though that all those wine top-ups will alter your behaviour dramatically. What you think are discreet whispers to the person beside you (a stranger two hours ago and now your BFF) on how overcooked you found the beef; how the bride never managed to lose the weight

The gift

Of course you’ll still have to send a gift – to do otherwise would be very rude. Even if

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or how you think the happy couple might not last the pace, might not be as discreet as you think. Remember those video (and phone) cameras.

The day after

It goes without saying that if you came on your own to a wedding, you should go home alone. If that chap/girl you met at the sandwich buffet at 2am still seems as enchanting the day after the wedding, it will be very easy to get his/her number. Sleep (alone) on it. Speaking of the day after, couples now expect their guests to celebrate with them for two days. If you’ve signed up for (the dreaded) Day Two, keep something in the tank or at least have a stash of pain killers and fizzy drinks to get you through. It’s a tricky event to get right and the newly-weds will thank those who make the effort when, most likely, they feel like crawling under a rock and dying (after getting a take-away). Above all, a guest should remember back to their own day and how full of love and hope they felt. Or rather how, for 24 hours only, it was all about them. So just go with it and offer no resistance, even if that means pulling silly faces in yet another photo booth. And if you haven’t had your day yet, just think how you’ll want your guests on side and feeling the love when it is. So be upstanding for the happy couple!


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Picture perfect Expert West Cork-based photographer Dermot Sullivan explains to Brian Moore why preparation is key to capturing great memories on your big day When it comes to ensuring that the photographic memories of your special day are all you wished for and more, all it takes is a little preparation and the support of an expert wedding photographer. Well-known West Cork photographer Dermot Sullivan believes the first things on the prep list should alway be research and a vision for the type of photo-memories you want.

Research

‘Look at as many different styles of wedding photography as you can find,’ he suggests. ‘Decide what style suits you – perhaps the traditional set up where there is a formula or maybe a documentary style where the photographer simply records what is happening on the day without engaging with the couple or setting up any formal photographs.’

Communication

‘Perhaps you have your own ideas and here is another extremely important tip – communication,' says Dermot. 'Make sure your photographer knows exactly what a you want.’ Another ‘must have’ for any wedding couple is a photographer that they trust and get along with. Not knowing what your photographer has in mind coupled with a lack of communication is not what an already-stressed couple needs on their big day. ‘Remember your photographer will be with you all day so make sure you get on with them and feel comfortable,’ Dermot says. ‘Before the morning of the wedding arrives make sure you have contacted your photographer at least two days before, for a run-through of the schedule and the plan for the day.’ ‘Another reason to check in with your photographer a few days before the wedding is to ensure that he or she has not been double-booked. This happens.’

Plan B

Make sure your photographer is familiar with the area, where the church or venue is located and most of all that he or she has an alternative location in mind for those outdoor photos should the weather turn nasty. ‘Having a ‘Plan B’ is extremely im-

It's important that you have a good relationship with your photographer – this will take a lot of the stress out the day. Right: Remember – your photographer will be with you all day so be sure to have a plan in place to get the most out of their skills and experience. portant especially for outdoor photos,’ Dermot said. ‘Beaches, the forest where you got engaged or anywhere outside make for wonderful photos but, make sure you run through the options available with the photographer and ensure that you are happy with the plan. If you have your heart set on a location but the weather is not the best where is your next choice?’ The lesson here is to know what you want, for example do you want the photos before or after the speeches? Who do you especially want in the photos? For example, those people who mean so much to you, granny, best friends, pets and so on – make sure the photographer is aware of these beforehand.

Time

‘The most important element is time – the more you have for photos, the less stressful things will be on the day,’ Dermot said. ‘For example, and this happens more often than you think, if you want

a special photo with, let' s say, Granny, the most important thing, after arranging this in advance with the photographer, is to ensure that Granny is aware of your wishes and doesn’t go missing, leaving you stressed trying to find her. This goes for other family and friends as well.’

Insurance

Another important detail to consider when choosing a photographer, especially if you want to have photos taken at local beauty spots that are on private or OPW sites – e.g. Charles Fort in Kinsale or on Garinish Island in Bantry Bay – is that your photographer has public liability insurance. ‘It is vital that wedding photographers have insurance,’ Dermot said. While the happy couple can’t possibly plan for every eventuality or every unexpected delay, dilemma or drama, the key elements when it comes to your photos is to know what you want, communicate this to your photographer and give yourself plenty of time.

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‘This is why it is vital that you like your photographer’s work to begin with and that you get on,’ Dermot said. 'The photographer will be with you for the entire day, from photos at the house, to the church or venue and on to the hotel.’ ‘And remember,' Dermot concludes, 'your photographer is there for you, so have your plan set out, have a Plan B in place just in case, contact your photographer in advance of the big day for one final run through and then let his or her experience make your special day one to remember.’

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from the Sea. Seaview Hotel is West Cork’s finest multimature gardens set Setback within four acres ofHouse beautifully manicured and award winning Country Manor Escape. This is a perfect location for back from the Sea. Seaview House Hotel is West Cork’s finest multi discovering some of the worlds most spectacular scenery along the Wild award winning Country Manor Escape. This is a perfect location for Atlantic Way. Ballylickey, Bantry, Co. Cork. | Tel: 027 discovering some50073 of the worlds most spectacular scenery along the Wild Relax after your exploring in our Award Winning Restaurant, which Atlantic Way. produce. Our www.seaviewhousehotel.com | info@seaviewhousehotel.com prides itself on its excellent seafood and locally sourced

opened027 Seaweed Bath House will also help you relax and Ballylickey, Bantry, Co. Cork. newly | Tel: 50073 Relax after your exploring in our Award Winning Restaurant, which www.seaviewhousehotel.com | info@seaviewhousehotel.com prides itself on its excellent seafood and locally sourced produce. Our

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Since 1935 Fields of Skibbereen Bakers & Confectioners have been making high quality cakes to suit all types of weddings. We offer traditional, contemporary and novelty wedding cakes tailor made to order to suit your wedding day. We cater for all shapes, sizes & themes according to your budget. Special Dietary requirements such as Gluten Free & Spelt can also be catered for. Traditional royal icing, roll-on & almond pasting is a speciality. We can also provide dummy display cakes in line with your chosen wedding cake. Also available: An assortment of cake stands & full range of cake accessories.

A wide variety of cake flavours & fillings includes Madeira Toffee Real Belgian Chocolate Red Velvet Chocolate Biscuit Lemon Carrot Traditional Fruit Coffee And many more Or an alternative cake idea - cheese cake made with layers of your choice of delicious cheeses, decorated with fresh fruit, crackers, berries, leaves etc.

Call Kevin on 028 23040 to discuss your ideal wedding cake or email us at fieldskibbereen@supervalu.ie 30


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INISH BEG ESTATE

An Unforgettable Waterfront Wedding Venue If your dream wedding is private, elegant and highly personal, Inish Beg Estate is just what you’re looking for! The 97-acre island estate is home to countless beautiful spaces that are just perfect for ceremonies, drinks receptions, evening receptions and even day-two parties! You can create a unique and unforgettable wedding celebration here at Inish Beg. Photo: Shane O’Neill of Aspect Photography

A space to suit every style of wedding, whether you’re planning on having 50 guests or 250 The stylish and incredibly popular Octagon Marquee is ideal for up to 175 guests.

The idyllic, stone Boat House There’s an indoor pool and is perfect for smaller intimate steam room with luxury on-site wedding celebrations. accommodation for up to 52 guests.

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Just drop us a line, and we will happily arrange a private viewing for you. Email us at weddings@inishbeg.com, call on +353 (0)28 21745, or complete our handy online wedding enquiry form on www.inishbeg.com Inish Beg Estate, Baltimore, West Cork

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