This book is dedicated to every transgender and queer young person in the South and beyond – and the family members, friends, and caregivers who support them along their journeys.
Design by Liz Williams, Creative Director of Southern Equality Studios, a program of the Campaign for Southern Equality. Messages featured were submitted by supporters of transgender equality from around the
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AT THE CAMPAIGN FOR SOUTHERN EQUALITY, we believe in the inherent dignity and humanity of every person, and we are working to ensure that every LGBTQ+ person across the South has the support and resources that they need to thrive.
The majority of Americans agree, and public support continues to grow for transgender and queer youth across the country and throughout the South. And it’s so important that young people feel this support every single day, especially as lawmakers in many states advance cruel and dangerous legislation.
That’s why in 2023, supporters of the Campaign for Southern Equality have shared these messages of love, support, and solidarity for trans and queer youth. This book features just a few of the many hundreds of messages that poured in from around the world. When you or your loved one need a moment of strength or a pick-me-up, please open this book, read a few of the messages, and know that there is a vast, strong, diverse community with you every single step of the way. Remember that you are powerful and you are loved.
If you are the family member of a transgender young person who has lost access to gender-affirming healthcare because of anti-transgender laws, please contact us. Through our Southern Trans Youth Emergency Project, the Campaign for Southern Equality, in partnership with local and state partners in every Southern state, provides patient navigation and emergency funding to the families of trans youth. Learn more at www.southernequality.org/STYEP.
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To all trans youth and their families – for what it’s worth, I am with you. I’m sorry that some politicians have been attacking you, but please know that our little Texan family and I are on your side! We will continue to stand beside you to fight for equal rights. Trans kids deserve the same healthcare, safety, dignity, freedom, and respect as anyone else and we support you 100 percent!
The Moores | Austin, TX
Laura M. | Asheville, NC
Things may be hard right now and there are a lot of people that don’t understand – but please know that for every person who doesn’t understand, there are more of us that are with you and that love you. You are seen! Be you! Stand up for what you believe in! Love yourself for who you are!
April M. | Apopka, FL
We see you, we care about you. You matter. Much love!
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I came out at 12 years old as a boy, at 14 I started hormone therapy. I am 21 now. I have never regretted the choice to be me. I have never regretted being a transgender kid and I don’t feel shame in being a transgender adult. I know right now is scary, but I haven’t stopped fighting, and I won’t stop until you have the opportunities I had and so much more than any of us could have ever dreamed of. The older generation of trans folks are still here and we won’t abandon you. We love you so, so much. You are our future and we are proud of you no matter what happens. You are not alone, and as long as I am alive I won’t ever let you be.
I can’t imagine how frightening this time must be for you. Please know that for every hateful, fear-mongering politician spouting their nonsense on TV or the internet, there is an army of allies ready to fight for you. We see you, we love you, and we will win.
Dylan R.T. | Kingsport, TN
Regardless of how bad things really are for you right now I just want you to know that you’re loved, you’re valid, we will get through this terrible time together. It’s ok to be scared right now – we all are. We’ve existed throughout all of history, and we’re going to continue to do so. We’re all fighting for you too.
Katie M. | Utica, NY
You are loved by so many!
Mary L. | Omaha, NE
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Dear Trans Youth,
I know it’s been pretty scary right now to hear how much the person you are is being questioned.
You are gorgeous, you are special, and you are so very strong. I am proud of you for being your authentic self. Hang in there hon. Just know that there is a mom in Arizona who loves you just as you are.
I’m a 26-year-old trans man who also identifies as nonbinary. I am a young professional, artist and a human-rights activist. You have my support in all the ways possible.
Shelly M. | Tucson, AZ
You all are so strong, and I am so proud of each and every one of you; for not only living up to your truth — but remaining strong.
We do grow up and we can thrive. We can and we will make history, and you have this fellow transgender adult’s support. I promise me and many other trans adults and amazing allies have your back, and will keep legislation in check.
You are the FUTURE. You know yourself better than anybody else. Keep shining.
You are not alone and will not be ignored! You are seen, and loved, and valued. Keep hope in your heart and joy in your soul, we will get through this together. I love you and I will fight for you. Stay strong and never let anyone take your fire!
Rebekah F. | Asheville, NC
Tristan K. | Westminster, CO
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Please hang in there! You got this! I was in a bad place too, I came out as a trans female when I was 14 and had a lot of problems with school policies, legal issues, depression, bullying, and trying to access gender affirming healthcare. I didn’t think I would make it where I am today but here I am, 26 years old now. I’m telling you that you can too!
No matter what anyone says or what laws are passed, you are loved, you have people that care about you, I don’t know who you are, where you’re from, or who’s going to read this but I send nothing but my support and empathy to you in this difficult time. It can feel lonely and frustrating and like everything is against you but there are others out there fighting tooth and nail for you. They want to see you succeed. I want to see you succeed. I want you to follow your dreams. Whether you want to be an artist, social worker, a doctor, a writer, a businessperson, or anything else. Because you are not some bogeyman and are more what people paint us out to be.
You are a person first and foremost that is deserving of nothing less than dignity, safety, security, love, acceptance, and celebration of who you are. Never forget that or lose sight of that. We will make it through this. We will overcome!
If things get tough and you feel like no one’s listening and it gets overwhelming, know there’s help out there. You got this! <3
Christina G. | Boynton Beach, FL
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My name is Oliver. I am 33-year-old queer transmasculine person that grew up in the South between Tennessee and rural western North Carolina. I was assigned female at birth and began medically transitioning in my early 20s right after I finished college. I do not regret my transition in anyway, but I did fear for a long time about how I would be treated if I ever returned to the small rural town I grew up in.
The politicians spearheading these anti-trans bills and voting them into law want you to think that this is what most of the people in the South want, but it isn’t true. I know this because I did return to the small rural town I grew up in. While almost everyone has been initially surprised and confused by how much I have changed, far more people have embraced me with kindness than those whose immediate reaction is to hate me. The people who have embraced my existence have stepped in more than once to defend me.
While it may not seem like it, the rise of these anti-trans politics is a sign of progress because we, trans and gender diverse people, have gained enough power to be seen as a threat to those with the most power — white heterosexual cisgender men. Unfortunately, there was always going to be a fight because that is how those with power stay in power. The patriarchal system we exist in is thousands of years old, making it impossible to overthrow in a day. Large cultural change like we are seeing now takes time, but these small minded people can’t stop the gender revolution that has begun.
Gender diverse people have existed throughout time and we will persist just as those before us have. In my lifetime, I’ve seen trans people go from being invisible — misrepresented at best — to the visibility that we have now.
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There are accurately represented trans people in TV shows and movies now. I never thought I’d ever see representation that came anywhere near close to a person like me, but it exists now. I’ve even been fortunate enough to meet some of my trans idols and contribute to the work they started.
I also don’t want to lie to you. My life has not been all sunshine and rainbows, far from it. I’ve experienced my fair share of hate and hardship. Being trans is by no means easy and I know that from firsthand experience. I want you to know this because I want to validate that there is nothing wrong with not being okay. It just makes sense with what is going on in the world right now with the addition of whatever is going on in your personal life. The negative emotions are just as important to honor and sit with as the positive ones.
I believe the most important thing to keep in mind during this time is that your existence and your continued existence is powerful. You have far more power than you realize and no one can take that away from you, especially not these politicians who are in denial of reality. While it may be from a distance, there are so many people in this world who support you and want more than anything for you to thrive.If nothing else, a tool I’ve used is to exist and be authentic out of spite because sometimes being told you shouldn’t is a better motivator than anything else.
Ultimately, I want you to know that you are loved and there are people that will love you for exactly who you are, regardless of what makes you different. In fact, the best people will love you for everything that makes you unique and different from anyone else. All I want is for you to continue being you in whatever form that takes. I don’t expect you to get good grades in school, become famous, achieve some sort of grand success, or even actively participate in this fight. Quite simply, your continued existence is more than enough .
Oliver S. | Burnsville, NC
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Nothing is more important than your truth. You know yourself, better than anyone else can ever claim they do. I wish I could say that things will always be easy, that you will always be surrounded by love, but it would be ignorant to pretend that things aren’t hard right now.
But they won’t always be. Trans people have existed for millennia — and we will continue to exist long after anti-trans hate is buried and gone.
Even if things are hard now, remember that no matter what anyone tries to tell you, you ARE being fought for, you ARE loved, and your truest, most honest sense of self is something you deserve in this world. You deserve happiness. And I, and many millions of others, are fighting to let you find your peace.
Don’t give up. Find yourself, love yourself, and be yourself. And we will protect you in every way we can.
Hugo J. | Raleigh, NC
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SHINE ON YOU BEAUTIFUL DIAMOND!
You are my hero! I am so proud of you for standing strong during this very hard time in your life. It is because of your strength and perseverance that my 13-year-old transgender grandson will be able to live wherever he wants later in life.
You are trudging this road for yourself, but it’s your continued determination to be treated with love and respect that is paving the way for those coming out behind you. Don’t give up!
You are loved by many, including me.
Annette M. | Napa, CA
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There are so many people who support you and are fighting for your rights to be who you truly are. Please know you are loved and you matter!
Ashley Rose | North Port, FL
Hello, Dear One!
My friend, I affirm who you are. Your life is precious, and I celebrate you.
I encourage you to find your tribe. May you surround yourself with people who see you and know you. Perhaps you already have people like this in your life, and if so, lean into those relationships. Encourage one another. You need people willing to walk with you as you grow and deepen in your understanding of what it means to be the spectacular person you are. You are more than enough. You are great.
If you are still looking for your people, I want to tell you that there are those out there who want good things for you. There are people who will affirm you, walk with you, and love you. You are not alone. I want to tell you that there are those out there who want good things for you. There are people who will affirm you, walk with you, and love you.
I know many states are making ugly laws that limit healthcare and resources for trans, gender diverse and non-binary young people. I’m so very sorry. Here is my commitment to you: I and others are working both locally and nationally to make this a country where you are safe and can live authentically. You deserve that. Be well, friend.
Jeff W. | Jericho, VT
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Hi, I’m a Texan non-binary trans man, and I’m here to remind you of your inner strength because now is when you need it most. Trans and queer people will never fade away, and you will get to live a free liberated life. We will win, and we will get to live fully autonomous lives, together. We won’t stop fighting for your right to exist. Now and forever, your community will be here for you. You are loved.
Orion S. | Lewisville, TX
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YOU WILL PERSEVERE, BECAUSE YOU ARE STRONGER THAN ANY HATRED OR IGNORANCE.
I BELIEVE IN ALL OF YOU. KEEP PUTTING ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER.
PENNY R. | BALATON, MN
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JUST WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE LOVED & SEEN. BEING YOUNG IS HARD ENOUGH AND I WANT YOU TO KNOW I AM PROUD OF YOU. YOU ARE STRONG & YOU ARE LOVED. I AM FIGHTING FOR YOU & THINKING OF YOU EVERY DAY. KEEP BEING YOUR WONDERFUL
BEAUTIFUL SELF!
MICHELLA B. | LOUISVILLE, KY
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I hope this message finds you feeling strong, resilient, and embraced by the love and support you truly deserve. I wanted to reach out today to remind you of something incredibly important: You are valid, you are courageous, and you are not alone.
We live in a time when individuals like yourself are paving the way for greater acceptance and inclusivity, breaking down barriers that have long held people back from embracing their true identities. I want you to know that your journey matters, and your experiences are a testament to your incredible strength.
Remember, your happiness and well-being are of utmost importance. Take care of yourself, both physically and emotionally. It’s important to prioritize self-care, engage in activities that bring you joy, and seek support when needed. Your journey is not defined by others’ opinions or prejudices but by the strength and authenticity that lies within you.
Please remember that your identity is yours to define, and no one has the right to diminish or invalidate who you are. Embrace your truth, and never apologize for being true to yourself. Your uniqueness is what makes this world a diverse and vibrant place.
Ally S. | Covington, KY
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Hello y’all!
It’s been a tough time lately, but we are all so proud of you. Not just for anything you’ve done or will do, but also just for being; that is resistance and it is beautiful! You are powerful in being true to yourself and your knowing, even when there are hateful voices all around. Stay authentic and stunning! Lots and lots and lots and lots of hugs and love and support from your Appalachian pals.
Katie & Elena | Cleveland, OH
Please don’t lose hope. Hold that beautiful queer chin up. You are worthy, you are wonderful, you are loved, and you deserve much better.
Trish O. | Batesville, AR
As a trans masculine adult, I just want to see our youth be able to know that you can make it. You are worthy of every single ounce of support you can get. I can tell you that things do get better. You are not alone in this world and you never will be. Trans people have always and will always exist. In a world surrounded by hate, we must push back with love.
Eli A. | Charlotte, NC
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My daughter is transgender, and I see firsthand how heavily this hatefulness weighs on the mind and the heart. I tell her to hang in there, which is easy enough to say, I know. I’m cynical by nature, but I think that there really are more of “us” than “them.” It’s time to drown their ugly noises out so that you kids can just live your lives authentically.
Amy P. | Carolina Beach, NC
Hello! You are the bravest person I know! I am so sorry for the hurt you’ve been going through. I want you to know you have an army behind you who tears up at the thought of your tears and becomes enraged at the thought of your pain. Support is all around you, I hope you know that. It may not feel like it, but the first baby step you can take is reaching out. Whether you find an amazing friend, a progressive adult, or unconditionally loving family member, take in their love. Know that there are doors that will be wide open for you –you just have to knock.
Stranger, I love you. I wish you the absolute best. I’m sending all of the love I have in me from all the way in El Paso, Texas. I quiver with fear here in my home state too, but I never stop fighting. And sometimes fighting means self care and spreading the love I have to give.
You’re my hero, thank you.
Maria Z. | El Paso, Texas
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Hello little sibling, I’m not going to sugarcoat things: Your fears and anxieties, your anger at the injustice of how trans people are being treated, are all valid. Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re overreacting or making things up or that your concerns don’t matter.
I only ask, dear friend I haven’t met, that you don’t turn that anger and fear against yourself. You deserve to be able to use your true name and pronouns, and have them respected by others. You deserve to dress in the way that best expresses who you are, and you deserve to make your body into a body that feels safe and true to you. You haven’t done anything wrong by wanting these things. You are an amazing people with so much to give the world and so much to receive.
The people in power want us to hate ourselves. You can fight back by loving yourself... You can fight back by being in community with other trans people. You can fight back by staying here, even when it’s hard and painful.
I’m writing from Minnesota, where our governor has just signed a law making us a Trans Refuge State. I realize I’m in an incredibly lucky and privileged position. But so wanted you to know that even here, as far away as I am, there are people thinking of you and fighting for you. There are people all over the country doing all they can to protect trans rights and trans lives. We are all in this fight together. You are so loved by us, and by the trans ancestors watching. Stay strong, my friend. This too shall pass.
Felix R. | Saint Paul, MN
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To the beautiful trans or nonbinary person that will get this message, I hope that you feel the love and support from those that are fighting against the political backlash that we are currently seeing. You deserve
Progress is happening. You *are* the progress, and your capacity to terrify narrow-minded people should not be understated. Stay safe, stay well, and keep being who you are and have every right to be.
Aspen R. | Eugene, OR
E. | Asheville, NC
I want you to know that I am writing and calling legislators everywhere to join me in supporting all Trans people. It is critical that inclusion in all their legislation is a PRIORITY!
This journey you are traveling has my love and full support!
Wishing you all the best, Sharen V. | San Jose, CA
love, peace, safety, and the ability to be who you are.
Kimberly
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Trans people are pure magic. I know this to be true. Transness is the light in the darkness, the fight is not over though. We’ll keep fighting for your safety, and your right to be exactly who you want to be. No matter what, I got your back. Your trans-ness is beautiful and you are important to protect. You are the magic we need in this world.
Hannah K. | New Orleans, LA
Please know that you are loved deeply by wise human hearts that wish for you fierce protection and support that you may find and radiate your true nature in all its myriad beauty. Please consider the truth and power in your body, mind, and spirit, however it wants to express itself — and please find truly safe spaces to nurture yourself as you grow into that power. Loving you all.
Jody M. | Berkeley, CA
Hi there, I’m thinking of you so much right now and radiating love and care. You matter so much to our world. I can’t imagine a society without a beautiful spectrum of people, all unique. Hate is cowardice and lazy. It’s not about you. It’s about fearful people wanting to stay in power. Know you have so many millions of people ready to fight for your safety, freedom and happiness. In solidarity!
Elizabeth N. | Portland, OR
I am thinking of you and standing with you from afar. We will fight for you! Sending you love and strength. I believe that for every sad politician trying to make laws from a place of hate (that stems from fear, and their own untended wounds), there are many, many more people that love you, see you, and have your back! We will get through this.
Ani K. | Grass Valley, CA
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Every time you live boldly instead of caving to the evil and oppression around you, you take just a little more power away from those who would wish to take your rights you.
It’s hard right now. It’s so hard. And it might seem like we’re never going to get to a state of liberation. Who knows what the future will bring? I can’t know and can’t promise what the governments of years hence will do. But I can promise that you will have love and kindness and understanding and support.
More importantly, trans help networks are being established every day. Remember this as the fear eats at you — don’t let that fear paralyze you. Keep yourself as whole as you can.
I don’t know you, but I love you.
Sata P. | Dekalb, IL
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Dear Trans Youth in the South,
Firstly, I want to affirm to you that you are valued, you are seen, and you are loved exactly as you are. Your identity is valid, your existence is precious, and your experiences matter. These are trying times for many of you. We see the rise of antitrans legislation and the hostility that has come with it. However, let me assure you: These challenges are not a reflection of your worth or your humanity. You are not defined by the prejudices and misconceptions of others.
You have every right to be who you are, to live freely and authentically, and to express yourself in the way that feels most genuine to you. Remember, you are not alone in this journey. Across the globe, there is a diverse community standing with you, championing your rights, and fighting for your visibility and inclusion. Each day, they are striving to make this world a safer, more accepting place for everyone.
While we work to change the laws and attitudes that oppress, let’s also focus on nurturing resilience. Find your tribe, your community, the people who understand and uplift you. Reach out to local and national organizations that support trans youth. There are many resources available, including mental health services, peer-support groups, and advocacy networks. Don’t hesitate to use them. Know that there is help and that there is hope.
Remember, it’s okay to feel overwhelmed sometimes. It’s okay to be scared. It’s okay to be angry. These feelings don’t make you any less strong or less valid. Let them out, talk about them, write them down, express them in your own unique way. Don’t carry this burden alone. Reach out to those you trust. And most importantly, keep dreaming, keep creating, keep pushing forward. You have a unique story to tell, a perspective to share, and a journey that is invaluable. Your presence enriches our world, your voice makes it more diverse, and your resilience makes it stronger.
You are brave, and you are strong, far stronger than you know. You are a part of a vibrant and resilient community, one that has overcome countless challenges throughout history. Just by being you, you are contributing to that legacy. Stand tall. Stand proud. We are with you, today and always. The world is changing, slowly but surely, and it is changing because of people like you. Keep shining your light, even in the face of adversity. Your courage inspires us all.
With love and solidarity, Camilo
A. | Gainesville, FL
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Don’t despair. We see you. We are fighting for you. You are beautiful the way you are. There are always battles, but you regroup to fight on with allies at your side and back. The war will be won.
Bright Blessings, Love & Light!
Robyn F. | Graniteville, SC
Hi friend, You matter. No matter what, you matter. I see you. I am here for you. And I will always fight for our trans dignity, identities, and lives. I was at a drag show last night dancing and singing my heart out for all of us. Our community is alive and well, no matter what.
Sending you all of the love and peace over here from New Jersey. Your trans older sibling, Lou M. | Chatham, NJ
You matter. You deserve the kind of love people write songs about. You are a divine and spiritual being. You are loved, cherished, and adored by the universe. You are more than good enough. Choose yourself, and your mental health over everything else. You are strong. You have worth. You have value. You deserve a life filled with health and happiness. You are worthy of love, abundance, success, happiness, and fulfillment. Everything you are going through is planting something valuable in you, and allowing you to grow in different ways. Allow your soul the time and space you need to restore yourself. You deserve the same respect you give others. You will be someone’s sun, moon, & stars. I love you.
Andronike G. | Chicago, IL
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Be strong, never give up on your true self! Sometimes you have to live for a long while before being able to fulfill certain things but the wait is worth it, I assure you! I lived for 37 years before I started to live my truth and I have experienced so many great things since then and have never been happier in my life! Be patient, know that you have people that believe in you and that love you unconditionally for who you truly are! You will get there, believe in that and work hard to make it happen! I know it hurts having to wait even a moment longer but choosing to live to make it to that point will bring you the happiness, love, and joy that you deserve! You’ve got this, I promise you!
Love,
Jenna M. | San Pablo, CA
We see you, we love you, and you are worthy. I personally promise to take every step I can to reverse these discriminatory practices.
Hello all you beautiful people! No matter what is happening in your life right now please remember that you and only you have the power to persevere. Stay true to yourself and hold your head high. March to the beat of your own drum. Remember to treat others as you want to be treated. Laugh often, love openly and live your best life.
Ann Clark | Fort Wayne, IN
Jennifer D | Deltona, FL
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I’m a Momma to a non-binary trans adult who I adore. It takes guts to come out and be who you really are. You should be celebrated for your strength. Instead, cowardly lawmakers who are failing their constituency have made the choice to turn on you. It is NOT about you. It is a reflection on them and their inability to get anything done and their need for a scapegoat. You are everything that is right with this world and don’t forget it. It gets better. I live in FL, and my kid was raised in rural TN but they have a fabulous life in Chicago now. Great job, good friends, long term relationship. They and their partner are visiting me this weekend. It is wonderful to see all of the smiles. It gets better!! You are loved. Lots of us Momma Bears are out here fighting for your rights and ready to hug you any time. Keep being you.
Kimberley A. | Jacksonville, FL
Hello from a nurse and a human who will do everything I can do make sure you receive the love and care that you deserve! Gender affirming care is a human right!
Heather G. | New Orleans, LA
William B. | Otway, OH andforgetanyone who saysotherwise . Youridentityis valid, your lifematters , You have my undyingsupport .
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You are loved for exactly who you are. People can try to legislate being trans out of existence but they can’t eliminate you. I know life is very hard and discouraging right now. This will pass. The majority of Americans want the anti-trans bullying to stop. You are not alone. You are loved for exactly who you are.
Julie R. | Waukesha, WI
As a trans person, I am writing to tell you that your community is here for you, whether from near or afar, we are fighting for you. Never believe anyone who tells you that your existence in the world is invalid. You are strong and courageous. Being trans gives you the wisdom of knowing yourself far greater than your cisgender peers could understand at this age. To thrive in this oppressive society is an act of resistance. Stay true to yourself and nourish the inspirations and passions that drive you to live every day.
Ray M. | Santa Rosa, CA
I can’t imagine how frightening this time must be for you. Please know that for every hateful, fear-mongering politician spouting their nonsense on TV or the internet, there is an army of allies ready to fight for you. We see you, we love you, and we will win.
Lara
L. | Winston Salem, NC
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Dear Friend,
I am a nonbinary adult in Tennessee and I want you to know that you are not alone here in the South. My trans (and cis friends and I will not stop fighting for you. Something that gives me hope is hearing about trans people who are older than me, out there living their lives. So I want to share a little bit about myself.
I have returned to school and graduated with my associates degree in social work. I am going to university this fall to finish my bachelor’s degree and I am so excited! I also run a small business selling handmade clothes/accessories at local markets. My shop is always a safe space for queer people to hang out; I love making custom Pride jewelry for them on the spot.
The time when I thought I’d never be accepted as my real trans self seems so distant now. There are SO many people who love and accept trans people. If you haven’t found them yet, I know you will soon. The things that are happening right now are terrifying and frustrating. But they will not take away our community and our joy.
In case anyone hasn’t told you recently, you are not unnatural, there is nothing wrong with you. You deserve love. And you deserve rest. Sometimes just existing is enough.
In solidarity, AMB | Soddy Daisy, TN
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Hang in there! I didn’t really come out fully until I was 30. It’s amazing to have accepting families. If your family (somewhat like mine) or government doesn’t understand, you’re still worth it. I will always support gender-affirming care & therapies. You can identify however you choose.
Peace and love from a Queer Punk Trans Guy, Juls G. | Portland, OR
You are loved, seen, and needed in this world. You are worthy and deserve every right and acknowledgment as any other person. Be yourself proudly, live out loud, and change this world to fit you.
Matthew W. | Richmond, VA
There are those of us who wholeheartedly support you in the South, who are voting for gender-affirming care and bodily rights. I am on your side, always. Keep your head up, keep advocating, and find those people who support you and keep them close.
Ashly W. | Carrollton, GA
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I know it seems things are crazy right now, but we will get it right.
YOU MATTER!
Hang in there and be who you are. I wish nothing but the best for you.
Much love & support.
Sharon B. | Moore, SC
There are a lot of people in the South who do support you and will stand with you. We deeply care about you being able to live as who you truly are and long for the day when everyone is able to be their authentic self. It breaks my heart to see the challenges being put up all around you.
Tom P. | Bella Vista, AR
I love you no matter what.
You are wonderful and I am so proud of you. You could never disappoint me and there is nothing you could do that would change my mind about you. You are precious and my family and I are so grateful for you. You are proof that there is so much more out there for all of us.
Tamsen T. | North Charleston, SC
Marceline N. | Fairmont, WV
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Stay strong. You are beautiful.
Hi friends! I first want to say that I am a youth educator that lives in the heart of the Deep South... born and raised. Always remember that you were born to be you. Nobody gets to tell you who that “YOU” is... that is up to you and you alone! Times are hard for everyone sometimes, especially as a youth. It will get better, and you will find your way and your people! You are NOT alone! You are LOVED! Take some deep breaths and focus on finding YOUR SPARK - what makes YOU happy. Then make a plan to move forward and use your spark to make your world (and mine) a better place. I’m counting on you! You got this!
Love & light, Mirandi R.W. | Collinsville, AL
Don’t let this small minority, even if they’re in power now, bring you down. There are people who love you and are fighting to get your rights back. It won’t be quick, but we’re not going away. We support you. Stay strong, and if not feeling it, reach out. Know you are not alone!
Natalie P. | Port Richey, FL
I haven’t met you, I don’t know you, but this much is true: There are people out here that love, accept, and support you. Your life has meaning, you are a value to society, and you make this world a better place. Live your truth, love who you want, and be who you want to be, be who you are. We are fighting the good fight with you and for you.
Sending you the biggest virtual hug I can.
Lori G.
| Greensboro, NC
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Remember that this will actually be just a small amount of time in your long life to come. The fear that these idiots spread will end and you will be able to become who you were meant to be. While patience may be virtue, it is difficult to have when you are being attacked. Know that there are those of us out here who are fighting for you and care about you. Don’t lose hope!
Susan W. | Weaverville, NC
I offer you my love, prayers, all good energies, and support today and always.... All of the same things I offer to my own grandchild who faces the very same challenges. May the hearts of the bigots and haters be opened to see that we are all one and deserve equality in every way. May you have love, peace, ease, and comfort from this day forward. All good blessings for each and every one of you.
~A grandma who cares deeply. Patricia S. | Leesburg, IN
You were created with a fingerprint that cannot be duplicated. You are a one -of-akind masterpiece. Live in your truth, as loudly as you desire. Be who you are, because the world needs to experience all that is placed within you. When others try to dim your light, choose to increase your watts. I love you just the way you are!
Phyllis D. | Portland, OR
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To you, you awesome golden glittery unicorn of a human, I just want you to know that I know this is a tough time. But I see you. I stand with you. I am you, and that’s how I know that even though it’s tough out there, there are people who cherish you for exactly who you are, because who you are is beautiful. Know that without even knowing you, I know you are special and important and beautiful, and I am glad you’re here!
With love from a fellow unicorn,
KC B. | Lynnwood, WA
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As an older trans person who also is from the South, I can’t tell you how proud of y’all I am. You are showing up and standing up for yourselves — and when you get right down to it — for me, too!
You are amazing, worthy, and beautiful no matter what any government says or does. Your authenticity and beauty can be seen by all of us. They are afraid of how amazing you are. But there are more of us who love you for you. Hang in there. You can do this.
Trans folks are SACRED. YOU are SACRED. LOVE YOU ALL!
Rae S. | Tucson, AZ
I am so happy you are here! Being yourself is the most beautiful thing in the world and I am so glad that you exist. Your light and energy is exactly what we need right now, so please don’t let anyone take that away from you. You are strong, brilliant, kind, wonderful and amazing.
Alyssa P. | Portland, OR
I stand in solidarity with all of you. My home is a safe space and my door is open as well as my heart. I don’t support the legislation being passed to deny rights to medical care for trans youth or adults. We all have an inalienable right to live our lives as we want in this country under our own Constitution! I will protest, support, sign petitions, and vote out anyone who denies human rights to anyone in this country!
Sending you love in solidarity!
Priscilla S. | Huntington, WV
From a trans adultIt will be okay. Hang in there. You won’t be a child forever, you can eventually do whatever you need to live as fully and authentically you as you can. For now, persevere. You can do it.
I believe in you.
Caleb K. | Louisville, KY
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Hello! I hope this letter finds you well. I know things are difficult right now, but I want you to know that there are people out there who care for you, your safety, your health, and your well-being. Also, as someone who was born and raised and still lives in Tennessee, I also want you to know that there are still people here and all over the South rooting for you. I hope these words help, and I hope something fantastic happens to you soon!
Lucy K. | Knoxville, TN
I grew up in the South. Granted, a more liberal area, but not far from red country. I deeply loved my childhood: my relationships, and the culture of food, music, and love that I was surrounded by. So many people out there — like you, like me — are here to support you, and to fight back against the voices of those who tell you to hide. I am so… so insanely proud of you for simply being you. Never EVER allow anyone to make you disappear. You are so strong, and you are not, and never will be alone. Any time things get rough — whether it’s school, friends, politics, your community — whatever it is, I want you to close your eyes, take a deep breath, and remind yourself, “I deserve respect. I deserve love.” Choose respect. Choose love. You are so much more than worth it; never forget it, love.
Mira P. | Englewood, CO
Someone else’s insecurities and inabilities should not matter in regard to your right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. I am sorry that there are people in our country who are afraid of and/or threatened by you. You matter. Your identity matters. I am so proud of you for being true to yourself. I am so impressed by your strength and determination. I love you and wish you all the joy and happiness you can hold.
Jessyka D. | Ventura, CA
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You are so so so so loved! You are a gift to this world. You shine brighter than the stars! Our government is failing you right now. Nevertheless, you’re surrounded by love and your existence is inherently valid. I love you.
Yours sincerely, A parent of a trans kid
Janitza S. | Bitely, MI
I am outraged at the hate being directed at you. As a bi senior citizen I have come to learn bullies never change. I am so sorry that you are being hurt in body and soul. Know this. There are millions of people here in America willing to fight so you can have the equality you deserve. These laws must be overturned and they will. You will endure and prosper. You are unique and an essential person. Have faith in yourself and we who support you.
Rob R. | Fort Gratiot, MI
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Almost all youth have angst, feeling out the ups and downs of growing up. Almost all youth feel that their path is sometimes interrupted by well meaning adults. But you are special. You know that your landscape is diverse, your inner dimensions are complex, and you have unique perspectives to offer. Your truth of who you are and how your internal gender is expressed is a long term journey. Take Courage! For courage did not come on its own — it must be grasped and held. You are surrounded by a host of people who are rooting for you to succeed and are fighting to protect your rights. The uphill battle may be hard sometimes, but you are not your body or your thoughts. You are the deep, authentic, beautiful you — spiritual, unassailable, eternal. Do not let a negative thought today here on the ground distract you from the vast universe of stars above you. Be well. Sow good karma. Accept the love from the countless encouragement of your queer community and all of our wonderful allies.
Emmie P. | Saint Louis, MO
I’m so sorry for everything that is happening in this country. You deserve a community to grow up with the freedom and opportunity to be your authentic self. Any people who deny that, are toxic people who need to work through their own issues. They have issues, not you. Choose the spaces you can be in that bring you joy and don’t forget your queerness and transness are amazing attributes you have.
Jonathan M. Z. | Rochester, NY
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There’s no denying it. It’s a tough time to be trans. My daughter is 15. For the past 11 years, I’ve watched her thrive in a small community we formed that has been amazing to her and to us. But here we are. We’re watching our state’s elected officials unfairly shape our family’s future through a very narrow worldview. This focus on our community from people who don’t represent us or our values is super discouraging. It feels very isolating. Scary. Unfair. Unjust. Overwhelming. And yet it will not stop us from continuing to help her continue to be and become her best self as she deems fit.
I’m a dad, so I’m gonna dadsplain for a second if you’re okay with that. So I truly encourage you to concentrate on being your best self as you deem fit. Be you for you. Nobody else. We all have very public and very private aspects of our beings. Make sure you’re feeding both with good things and doing good things. Put down your phone if you’re doom scrolling (it feels good to leave it behind). Take a walk. Smile at a stranger. Write. Draw. Watch the sunrise. Listen to your favorite song. Let the people you love know it. Simple things, but they work. You can’t control the outside world, whether it’s a headline, a meme, or someone you know who doesn’t agree with your path. But you can control how you show up, who you aspire to be, and how you think. And those things nobody else should control. So don’t let them. And whatever you do, do not quit. You are loved. You have so much happiness ahead.
Tim B. | Charlotte, NC
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As cliché as it may sound, it truly does get better. Just a year ago I was terrified of the thought of coming out as a trans woman and thought there would never be a point I could possibly be perceived by others and by society as the woman I am. Fast forward to today, and I now know that couldn’t have been further from the truth. HRT does wonders. But it doesn’t matter whether you’re one of my binary or non-binary trans siblings, medically transitioning, socially transitioning, or still figuring out your place on the gender spectrum. No matter your path and your identity, you’re as beautiful as the rest of us. There is a mountain of research validating our existences and refuting every false piece of information being asserted by ignorant, miserable, hateful far-right politicians and their simple-minded pawns. That may not always be a comfort, but you can take comfort in knowing that there are people who truly care about you and will love you for who you are, whether or not you’ve found them yet. It wasn’t long ago that I had no other trans or queer friends and very few allies in my life, but once I gained the courage to traverse the world as my true self and began seeking out meaningful, validating relationships, that quickly changed. Every day living authentically as yourself, every ounce of joy you experience in life as a trans person, every time you choose to get out of bed and face the world are powerful acts of defiance to those in power seeking to erase us. As someone who is only 5 years into adulthood, I know it can be difficult to see outside of your current circumstances when you’re not yet an adult, but I promise you that once you get there you will be able to get what you want in life even if it isn’t easy. Keep your head held high, love yourself for who you are and find others that do as well, find beauty in the moments of respite and in the amazing, unique person you are, and do what you need to protect and care for yourself. We shouldn’t have to face all the obstacles we encounter in life that most others don’t, but you will find ways to adapt, overcome, and shine regardless of the circumstances — it’s what we’ve always done.
Kiran T. | Asheville, NC
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Listen. I have never met you, but I know who you are on the inside. I am like you. You have siblings all over this land and we are connecting together and talking together all the time. You may not be able to be with us just yet, but you will.
Being a teenager sucks and being a trans teen double sucks. The instruction manuals on growing up were all written for someone else; not for us.
The people around you who are attacking us are scared to death. They fear change. They fear their own shadows and they are striking out and anything and anyone who seems different. It’s not just you and it’s not just trans people. It’s everyone under the LGBT umbrella, immigrants, people of color. You are not alone.
I was in your situation growing up in Texas in the late 1960s. They didn’t have to write a law to forbid my treatment back then; the treatment and help I needed simply did not exist where I lived and I did not know where to go to get it.
Today the treatment exists in many places. It may not be where you are now, but it continues to exist elsewhere. There are places to go and ways to live that are much, much better. The kind of treatment and care you need will be waiting for you.
In 1972 without help at age 17, I ran away from home. I wanted help but did not know where to get it and I didn’t know how to tell someone what I needed. I ran away but I really had nowhere to run to. What I needed was only available in a few distant places and hard to find. For a long time I gave up hope.
Today is different because help is available in a lot of other places. I have finally gotten the treatment and assistance I needed long ago. Do not give up. You have plenty of allies out here. You can and will get the treatment you need and deserve.
Lari L. | Conway, SC
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Please. Take a deep breath. Take another. Look in the mirror. That person. That person that you see?
They are incredible! They are able!
They can persevere! You matter. You are loved.
Kelly H. | Litchfield, CT
1. FACT: these laws are cruel and immoral — but their hate is not about you/us. Many will try to pale your brilliance, small your power. In the face of oppression, the best revenge is to thrive — to love and liberate ourselves and others more fully and deeply than we imagined possible. Whether your light feels like a flickering flame or roaring fire, shine on!
2. You already are and always have been exactly who you’re meant to be. Yes, they come to break, steal, and trap our bodies, but our magic is too big to hold down. Things will change. Old ideas will die and broken systems will self-destruct because truth exists, love exists — we exist. Until then, I promise to fight and you promise to live so we can realize our purpose. No one said changing the world was easy, but that’s part of why you, why we, are here. There’s work to do, AND we got this!
Much love,
Michael H. | Asheville, NC
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there, I’m Naomi.
I am glad to be here. I am glad that you are here, too. Parts of life can be pretty rough right now. I think it’s important to celebrate the joyful parts too. I want you to know that I am okay — more than okay. My younger self would not believe that I am living this life. Tonight I’m going to watch drag race with 20 queer people and then go to a housewarming party for a lesbian couple. I have a date tomorrow with a lovely girl. And a game in my queer women’s basketball league on Sunday. I have a great job and I get to travel and I feel beautiful every day.
It hasn’t always been like this. Last year at this time, I was filled with fear. I didn’t know if I would be able to keep going, if I was going to be okay. But with help and hope, I am here today. And I’m glad you are here, too.
I can’t wait to see what you will write one day. You are going to be okay. I know you will. You are going to live a life filled with joy. Hold on tight. With love, Naomi
R. | New York, NY
Dear folks, my heart goes out to you in this time. I think about you every day. I think about how this culture of hate must be so scary for you and how absolutely incredibly strong and brave you are for facing the world with your true faces and screaming I AM HERE, DEAL WITH IT! Keep being loud. Keep demanding your rights. Keep fighting. I know you may feel like the whole world is against you but there are people out there advocating for you still. We hear you and we see you for who you truly are. We love you! Never give up!
Anonymous | New Bern, NC
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I can’t predict the future. I’m not going to tell you it’s not going to be the fight of your life. Instead, I’ll remind you, dear one, that you are not alone; not now, not ever. History has shown that even when times are most bleak, people will come together, and those in power will eventually be unseated, not by force, but by determination, community, and love. Protect your heart, young one. You will win this fight eventually. Rest when you can, but never, ever give up. Eventually, the world will be yours.
We love you.
Jared G. | Canton, Ohio
Hello, We are a trans and gendernonconforming, neurodivergent and disabled family in NC and we love you. We support you living your best life and being fully yourself now and always. We know how hard things are right now — that the world outside our community is full of ignorance and vitriol. But we have always found ways to thrive and shine and uplift one another, and we always will. We believe in you.
Love,
As the proud mom of an amazing nonbinary human, my heart is filled with love for transgender youth everywhere who are striving to be accepted and respected. Please know that you have strong allies who are advocating for you to live free of discrimination and harassment. YOU are loved!
Henri, Ash, and Raven | Arden, NC
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