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SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE Tim & Rachel Hughes spell out the facts

BEING THE ANSWER! Frog Orr-Ewing on sticking with church

MONEY PROBLEMS? Liza Hoeksma on dealing with your finances

Mike Pilavachi and Jo Saxton discuss whether female leaders need to become more masculine to be accepted as leaders within the church and see how Jesus’ example turns our culture’s ideas of leadership on its head...

ALSO INSIDE Our best music, film and TV of 2010 !


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EDITORIAL By Mike Pilavachi

HAPPY NEW YEAR! WE WANTED TO START 2011 BY DROPPING THROUGH YOUR LETTER BOX TO SAY HELLO! WE HOPE YOU HAD A GREAT CHRISTMAS AND ARE FEELING EXCITED ABOUT THE YEAR AHEAD. We’re really pleased to kick off this new year with our first ever Momentum weekend away; we hope it will be the first of many! You can find out all about it by logging on to our brand new Momentum website www.soulsurvivor.com/momentum. We love spending time with you guys and are already getting excited about what God will do among us when we get together in the summer. In the meantime we want to keep encouraging you in your faith so we hope this little mag gives you some inspiration and things to think about. If there’s stuff you’d like us to cover in future editions (or you have any other comments about it) please do drop us a line at editor@soulsurvivor.com Grab all the opportunities that this year brings with both hands! Our prayer for you and for ourselves is that we do all we can to finish this year knowing and loving Jesus that little bit more – what better way could we invest our time? With love

Mike Pilavachi heads up all things Soul Survivor and Momentum. He’s a Manchester United supporting , Facebook-loving church leader, speaker and writer who lives in the lovely town of Watford.


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FEATURING

MOMENTUM IS PART OF THE SOUL SURVIVOR FAMILY!

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SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE Tim & Rach Hughes lay spell out the facts!

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BEING THE ANSWER! Tim & Rach Hughes lay spell out the facts!

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Is this still a man’s world?

MONEY PROBLEMS? Tim & Rach Hughes lay spell out the facts!

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Mike Pilavachi and Jo Saxton discuss whether female leaders need to become more masculine to be accepted as leaders within the church and see how Jesus’ example turns blah de blah de blah!...

NEW YEAR, NEW YOU Will Van Der Hart explores how January can be full of new starts... but old you!

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ALSO INSIDE Our best music, film and TV of 2010 !

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The Momentum Mini Mag is

WOMEN IN LEADERSHIP Jo Saxton and Mike Pilavachi get to grips with leadership and gender.

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SAVING SEX FOR MARRIAGE Tim and Rachel Hughes get honest about waiting ‘til your wedding day.

produced by the Soul Survivor UK. It’s a bit of a in-house job and so all the content and design is put together by Liza, Sarah and Dan (the Soul Survivor Communications team) and editorial oversight is

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given by Mike, Andy and Ali. The Mini Mag is free to anyone who would like to receive it and we send

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BEING THE ANSWER Frog Orr Ewing on how we can adapt our attitudes towards church.

MONEY, MONEY, MONEY Liza Hoeksma gets practical with advice on controlling your finances.

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LOOKING FOR A GOOD READ? Recommendations from some of the Soul Survivor gang.

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WHAT’S HAPPENING IN 2011? All the Soul Survivor 2011 dates. Get your diary out!

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SOUL SURVIVOR GOODIES New year treats fro our shop !

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OUR BEST BITS OF 2010 Some of the things we loved about the last 12 months....

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NEW YEAR, NEW YOU? By Will Van Der Hart

EVERY YEAR BEGINS WITH A SENSE OF EXPECTATION ABOUT WHAT IS TO COME IN THE YEAR AHEAD. RECENTLY WHEN I WAS WAXING LYRICAL ABOUT PLANS AND DREAMS FOR THE NEW YEAR ONE OF MY CLOSE FRIENDS TOLD ME THAT SHE HOPED ONLY TO ‘SURVIVE’ THE NEXT 12 MONTHS. This reminded me of two common pit falls relating to aspirations: the first is that the past is not part of who we are, the second is that the past is all of who we are. As we enter this new year, some people will treat it purely as a continuum of all of the pain and distress of the last one, whilst others will hope that a change in the calendar offers them a new identity, waistline, career and emotional make up. New Year offers a new beginning, in the sense that it is a helpful marker to distinguish one passage of time from another. It enables us to reflect back on what has gone and think about what is coming. I believe that these passages of time are part of God’s created order. We need to be aware of the fact that the marking of the years is very important for our psychological wellbeing. As we grow and mature, or go through seasons of suffering and hardship these delineations offer us the opportunity for respite and reflection. The New Year also offers us the opportunity to engage with our hopes and dreams again, regardless of how disappointed and pessimistic we may have become. We can use the New Year as an opportunity to renew hope and in doing so we must remember two essential caveats. The first is that we are on a journey with God; the hardships and failings of the past have been important in shaping our identity. They cannot and must not be expunged from our history in an attempt to assume a new identity. You cannot retain who you have become if you deny how you have got there. Equally holding on to your past too tightly can

Will Van Der Hart is the Vicar of St Peter’s church in Harrow, London.

deny you the changes that you desire. Jesus is the Lord of new beginnings. Each time we come to him in prayer we are offered a fresh start, complete forgiveness and an opportunity to move forward. Becoming a new creation in Christ is the work of God’s salvation joined with our acceptance of his work.

“You cannot retain who you have become if you deny how you have got there. Equally holding on to your past too tightly can deny you the changes that you desire. Jesus is Lord of new beginnings” As you walk into 2011 you have an opportunity to reaffirm your faith in his ability to lead you into a new place this year. His heart is for you so make this your prayer: “Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long” Psalm 25:5


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BEGIN 2011 BY READING YOUR BIBLE. CHECK OUT OUR BIBLE BLOG AT soulsurvivor.com/ bibleinoneyear


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SAVING SEX FOR MARRIAGE By Tim & Rachel Hughes

SAVING SEX FOR MARRIAGE IS EASIER SAID THAN DONE! WE HAD A CHAT WITH TIM & RACHEL HUGHES TO FIND OUT HOW WE CAN MAKE THAT A REALITY…. When we started dating we knew we wanted to wait until we were married until we had sex. But any of you who’ve been in the same position can understand it’s not always that easy! God created sex, he gave us the desires we feel and when you fall in love with someone it’s natural to want to be physically intimate with them. So we can feel torn, especially when the rest of the world is telling us we’re abnormal if we’re not having sex all the time! Most of us have heard the youth group talk about ‘don’t touch what you haven’t got’ but this still leaves us all with a lot of questions about how do we put a high value on sex and how do we practically put in boundaries that help us keep sex for marriage. First of all you need to have an honest conversation with your boyfriend/girlfriend about all this stuff; it’s unlikely to be something

that happens by default! Secondly, keeping our eyes fixed on Jesus may sound like an obvious or even cheesy thing to say, but we really do need to be keeping our focus on him through prayer, reading our Bibles and worshipping. Thirdly, we need to exercise some selfcontrol which never sounds like the most fun thing, but is vitally important if we’re to walk in God’s ways in so many areas of our lives, not just when it comes to sex. Culture tells us that the best human experience is to do what you want, when you want; that we’re narrowing our lives by not doing whatever we feel like doing. As Christians we know that God says we find fullness of life in him and in his ways. He’s not into denying us pleasure; he knows what is best for us and by his grace we can stick to his plans: “For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live selfcontrolled, upright and godly lives in this present age.” Titus2 v11-12 We need God’s wisdom to help us make wise decisions and we need his grace to help us say no to things we want to do in the moment, for the sake of the things we know are right in the bigger picture. We also need to take some practical steps to help us keep from slipping up.

Tim & Rachel are good friends of Soul Survivor and have been involved in speaking and leading worship at our summer events for many years. They have been married for six years, have three children and are based at Holy Trinity Brompton in London.


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These are a couple of guidelines we think are helpful for couples who are dating; we’re not saying they’re written in the Bible (clearly they’re not!) but they are things we found useful and we hope you will too: • Set clear physical boundaries ahead of time. This isn’t a decision to be made in a moment of passion when everything is telling you to go further! Decide, together, what your boundaries are and then both take responsibility for keeping them. • Be careful about alcohol intake. When we drink too much we make silly decisions so decide before you start drinking what your limit is that allows you to remain in complete control. • Don’t share a room over-night, even when you’re engaged. • Don’t feed lust by looking at unhelpful images and films. • Don’t undress each other. • Be accountable. Choose friends you can both share

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your struggles with, give them permission to ask you at anytime how things are going in this area of your relationship. Make sure you pick someone who will not only challenge you, but will love you and help you in this process.

“There’s often a lot of guilt over sexual sin... and we need to learn to get past these things, receive God’s forgiveness and know that he loves us.” Let’s be honest: some of these things probably sound like a real hassle, and the reality is, some of them are! When we were dating/ engaged there were lots of time it would have been easy to stay over at each other’s houses instead of driving home but we knew it wouldn’t be helpful for either of us and we were really serious about wanting to keep sex for marriage. One of the things lots of people were asking us over the summer at Momentum, was about times they’d

messed up and gone further sexually than they intended to. There’s often a lot of guilt over sexual sin (often more than other types of mistakes we make) and we need to learn to get past these things, receive God’s forgiveness and know that he loves us. Every time we say sorry, we start afresh with a clean slate and we don’t need to keep raking over the same stuff. Just one of the reasons why it’s brilliant to keep this stuff under control is that it really allows you to get to know each other. If you spend all your time kissing it can cover up the fact you don’t have that much to talk about! This is especially important when you’re thinking about getting engaged. Ideally you want to marry someone you find fascinating, who you have interesting conversations with, someone who stirs your thinking as well as someone you find attractive. Physical intimacy plays an important part but if we don’t control it, it can cloud our judgement. Although like we say, some of these practical things may seem like a hassle, it’s so worth it to keep sex for the way God intended it. It’ll be worth the wait!

Single or married? This article probably wasn’t a whole lot of help to you – sorry about that! To make it up to you, you can have a listen (for free!) to Annie Kirke’s talk on Singleness from last summer’s Momentum or Roger & Maggie Ellis’ talk ‘Staying in love’ on our website instead!


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OUR BEST BITS OF 2010!

HOW WAS 2010 FOR YOU? THESE ARE SOME OF OUR BEST BITS…

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DAN’S BEST TUNES

Writer and designer Dan spends most of his time in the office with his headphones on, so here are his top sounds of 2010…

ROBBIE’S TOP FILMS

Film buff Robbie spends most of July and August driving fork lift trucks and lifting heavy things during our summer events, so he likes to hibernate in winter with a good movie. Here are his top picks of the year just gone! 1. AVATAR Blue Aliens, 3D, spaceships. One word, two syllables; immense

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INCEPTION

You won’t want to go to sleep for a week. Awesome!

3. SOCIAL NETWORK

1. THE NATIONAL HIGH VIOLET It was never going to be a bad album, but believe the hype, it’s awesome.

2. THE TALLEST MAN ON EARTH THE WILD HUNT Imagine Bob Dylan dying and being reborn as a Swedish legend. Bootiful.

3. MIDLAKE THE COURAGE OF OTHERS It makes us think of medieval England and troubadours playing the lute. Don’t be put off, it’s ace.

What’s better than Facebook? That’s right, learning how it was made.

MERSAULT ALL CREATURES WILL MAKE MERRY

4. HARRY POTTER 7

A little bit of Scottish electro folk to warm your cockles.

Mathematically proven to be seven times better than the first one. Fact!

5. ECLIPSE A secret guilty pleasure, curl up and cheer on Edwin and Jethro or Edward and the other one…

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5. ARCHAEOLOGY MEMORIAL An album to make you smile and think of warmer times. It sounds like the Australian outback by a band from rainy Oregon.


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WHAT’S EXCITING US ABOUT 2011!

There’s loads to look forward to this year too like: THE MOMENTUM WEEKEND We’re kicking off 2011 with a weekend in the country with about 350 of you!

THE ROYAL WEDDING Get your Union Jack dusted off and ready for 29th April – it’s an extra Bank Holiday – yes!

SARAH’S BEST TV!

Our top Marketing bod, Sarah loves a bit of party telly on the weekend! Her fave way to while away an evening in 2010 has been in front of these shows: 1. GLEE High School musical for adults!

2. BIG BROTHER

OTHER GOOD STUFF THAT WENT OFF IN 2010

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BEST GOOD NEWS STORY

The last ever Big Brother captivated all of us, especially with Josie and John James hooking up!

The Chilean miners rescue – we’re not ashamed to say that a few tears were shed as we watched the news that day!

3. X FACTOR

2. BEST GADGET

The Christmas number one hit making machine swallowed whole weekends!

We couldn’t find a reason to justify getting one for the office but we love the look of the iPad!

4. KIRSTY’S HOMEMADE HOME

3. THE BIBLE IN ONE YEAR

Craft-aware Kirsty turns shabby into chic for a few lucky viewers and their middle-class houses

We were blown away that 20,000 of you got on board with the idea of reading the Bible together and we’ve loved getting stuck in to God’s word every day.

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JAMIE OLIVER

Geezer chef Jamie had a busy 2010… he taught a whole town in the States how to eat healthily, travelled the world learning about different cuisines then showed us all how to cook up a feast in 30 minutes (though an hour and a half is our best effort… never mind).

THE PREMIERSHIP SEASON Who on earth will claim the title this season? Chelsea hit selfdestruct back in November and December, Manchester United could only draw, Arsenal keep giving away leads and none of us really believe Tottenham are good enough! Could a blue moon be rising over Manchester?

THE CENSUS Back in the 2001 census nearly 400,000 people claimed Jedi as their religion (that’s nearly 2% of the population). This year why don’t we all say that the title of our main job is ‘Mike Pilavachi impersonator’? That’d throw the stats (there are currently only two Mike P impersonators on the books).

4. MOMENTUM 2010

MOMENTUM 2011 FRI 19TH – TUE 23RD AUG

We loved every minute of it! From listening to the brilliant Ellie Mumford, to singing our hearts out in worship to God, to hearing how he met with you all in so many different and amazing ways. We can’t for next year!

Bring it on! Five days for us to get together, to be inspired, to hear from God, to get equipped, to worship, to hang out over BBQs in beautiful sunshine (we hope) and to have a lot of fun. Are you in?


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CAN’T COOK... WON’T COOK?

THIS TIME OF YEAR WE ALL CRAVE A FILLING WINTER WARMER. THAT’S ALL VERY WELL IF YOU’RE JAMIE OLIVER, BUT WHAT DO YOU DO IF YOU DON’T KNOW YOUR BALSAMIC FROM A BANANA? WHETHER YOU’RE AFTER A CHEAPO UNIVERSITY DINNER OR A SPEEDY WORKING LUNCH, WE RECKON EVEN THE MOST RUBBISH OF COOKS CAN RUSTLE UP ONE OF THESE EASY TREATS.

1. CHEESY BEANS 2. PIZZA AND TOAST DIPPERS TOAST

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WHIP THIS UP IN JUST 5 MINUTES

ON YOUR PLATE IN LESS THAN 5 MINUTES

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• 2 slices of bread (to toast) • Pasta sauce (you’ll need about two spoonfuls) • A handful of cheese

½ tin of beans A handful of cheese Knob of butter 2 slices of bread (to toast)

1 Pop your beans in a small bowl, add grated cheese and a knob of butter plus some salt and pepper to taste. 2 Cover the bowl and heat it up in the microwave (if you use a largish plate to cover it then it also helps to warm the plate up!). 3 Stir occasionally and heat until really hot. In the meantime, make some toast, spread with butter (or cream cheese) and cut into small triangles.

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4 Arrange triangles and bowl of beans on your plate. Use toast triangles to scoop up beans. Yum.

1 Toast your bread until its lightly golden on both sides – it doesn’t need to be brown as you’re going to cook it some more under the grill. (Toasting it first stops it getting too soggy) 2 Spread the toast with a nice thick layer of pasta sauce. 3 Sprinkle with cheese and pop it under the grill until the cheese has melted and then you’re done! Why not experiment with using bread muffins or crumpets instead of toast – and try it out with sliced mushrooms, a cheeky Pepperami, sliced ham or some tasty veg.


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SAUSAGE AND MASH CHEESY PASTA BAKE TAKES AROUND 20 MINUTES

TAKES AROUND 30 MINUTES

• 300g of white potatoes (or one large potato like the sort you’d have as a baked potato) • Sausages (or veggie alternative –two or three depending on how hungry you are). • Half a red onion (for super yummy gravy) – white onion would do if that’s all you’ve got. • Ready mix gravy (Bisto or similar)

• Pasta – use a bowl to measure out a portion. If in doubt use slightly less than you think as it will puff up when cooked. • Packet of cheesy sauce mix (you’ll most likely need to get extra milk to go with this). • Extra cheese • 2 slices of bread – crusts are fine, bread doesn’t have to be super fresh.

1 Sausages will probably take about 15 minutes to cook so stick them under the grill (follow the instructions on the pack!) and chop your potatoes up in to medium chunks. Don’t bother peeling the potatoes as the skins will be tasty! Pop in a pan and cover with boiling water and cook until soft. 2 Peel and chop half an onion and fry it up with a little bit of oil. 3 Make up some gravy mix (following the instructions on the packet) and add the onions to the gravy. 4 When the potatoes are soft, take them off the heat and tip out the water. Crush the potatoes with a fork and add in a knob of butter and some salt and pepper. If you like your mash really creamy then use a proper masher and add a little bit of milk as well. 5 Pile your mash on your plate, stick your sausages on top and cover the whole lot in your steaming gravy! There you have it! Ta da.

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1 Boil up the pasta as per the instructions 2 Make up the cheese sauce mix – a whole packet will be enough for about 4 portions of pasta so use less than half the packet if you’re just cooking for one – or make up the whole lot and save the rest for another day! 3 When the pasta is cooked, strain it and add it to the pan with the cheese sauce. Mix the two together well and add some salt and pepper. 4 Pour the cheesy pasta into a baking dish. Sprinkle with grated cheese. Grab the two slices of bread and grate them over the top of the mixture (this might get a bit messy!). 5 Pop the whole lot in the oven until the top is a golden crunchy brown. 6 Serve with salad, crusty bread or just a nice dollop of ketchup.

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• Weetabix and hot milk • Baked potato with cheese and/or beans (Top Tip for speedy baked potatoes - cook the potato in the microwave until it’s soft and then transfer to the oven to get crispy!) • Soup (homemade if you’re fancy!) • Hot chocolate • Stuffed hot croissants – with baked beans, bacon and cheese


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BEING THE ANSWER By Frog Orr-Ewing

CHURCH CAN BE A BIT TRICKY, BUT FROG ORR-EWING CHALLENGES US TO THINK: NOW THAT WE’RE GETTING ON A BIT, SHOULD WE BE COMPLAINING OR BEING PART OF THE ANSWER? So - time is moving on... William is off the market, now that he and Kate are engaged; you are getting older...you remember the first few seasons of X factor and mobile phones before touch screens.  The youth group talks sound like repeats of Friends on E4.  And church? There are ups and downs. Gone are the days when you could sit at the back and complain about how uncool church is - you are it. Adulthood is upon you and it won’t go away.  If there are problems to moan about, there’s no running away from it... you are now the solution.   Apparently, Generation Y (those born after 1980) don’t go to church that much (some say only 2% of us are committed Christians). If you are reading this mini-mag, then the chances are you are one of those bucking the trend.   Lots of students and people in their twenties love and serve their church, love Jesus, enjoy the embrace of the Father, and the presence and the gifts of the Holy Spirit.  Many of us want to grow as leaders, change the world, challenge injustice and evil, save the planet, lose weight, find the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend, have enough disposable income to be generous but not too much to be flashy, get on in our careers, and still have a life! Community makes us tick. We love small groups, mid-sized groups and large gatherings, mentoring, one-to-ones and being in teams.  We want to see real Christianity modeled in real life, introduce our friends to Jesus and be involved in the miraculous.  

Are we being overly ambitious?  Perhaps we need a healthy dose of disillusionment?  Could any church meet all of these hopes, dreams and desires?  Are we too stressed out, a bit fragile, and still a bit messed up from our parents divorce to be any use for at least five years?  

“If there are problems to moan about, there’s no running away from it... you are now the solution” No! It’s good to gear yourself up for holiness and service today, and not wait another minute.  As Paul said to Timothy: “Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.  Until I come, devote yourself to the public reading of Scripture, to preaching and to teaching.” 1 Timothy 4v12-13


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HERE ARE A FEW SUGGESTIONS FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO GET STUCK INTO LOVING AND SERVING THEIR CHURCH:

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FIRSTLY, FIND A LOCAL CHURCH AND STICK WITH IT. It won’t be perfect, but if possible seek one out whose leaders love God in a way that inspires you, love people in a way that encourages you, and love the Bible in a way that equips you.  And by sticking with it, I mean make weekly church a top priority, join a small (medium or large!) group, and start serving and giving regularly. If at the moment you are struggling to feel mentally and/or spiritually fed through the preaching at church, then find ways to fill the gaps so you are being equipped, challenged and built up.  Fill up your iPod with sermons online, and take time to seek out satisfying answers to the questions you or your friends might have. (Try this website for starters www.rzim.eu).  Aim to come to church ready to give, having maintained your daily Bible reading and devotional life.  Why not buy a tiny Bible and carry it everywhere with you, or keep a Bible app on your phone and keep it in your pocket! SECONDLY, FIND WAYS TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE AND GROW AS A LEADER.   See if there is an area you can serve in, and then pour your prayer, energy and attention into growing and caring for that thing.  It doesn’t matter how small or large that responsibility is, give it your best shot, and don’t give up. Find others who inspire you, and work on things together.

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THIRDLY - EXPECT HARDSHIP, STRESS, SUFFERING AND MORE THAN A FEW MOMENTS OF DESPERATION AND TEARS. If you are committed to mission, evangelism and justice, it will not come easily, and you will occasionally suffer wounds on the battlefield of life.  You might feel hurt by church, by unkind words, by politics and

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squabbles, but before you huff off, exasperated and sad, bring it before the Lord honestly in prayer, and see if you are able to find healing and forgiveness. If you are angry with God - he can take it.  If there is someone you can trust, who you can pour your heart out to, that can help as well.  Paul’s advice to Timothy is that he needs to model the kind of Christian lifestyle to others as soon as he can, to those both younger and older than himself.

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LASTLY- IN PARTICULAR, HOLD ON TO VISIONS OF THE CHURCH AS YOU WOULD LOVE TO SEE HER THRIVING TEN YEARS FROM NOW. Ask yourself ‘what might I be able to do to make a difference?’Gather a few likeminded friends together and be strategic, faithful and positive about the future.  Don’t let people look down on you because of your age; you have a lifetime of worldchanging to be getting on with - there’s no time to waste.

Frog is the Chaplain and Missioner to the Oxford Centre for Christian Apologetics, and Rector of Latimer Minster – a church plant in Buckinghamshire.


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LOOKING FOR A GOOD BOOK? STUCK FOR IDEAS? WE ASKED THE TEAM WHAT THEY’VE BEEN READING AND WHAT RESOURCES THEY’VE FOUND HELPFUL RECENTLY FOR SOME INSPIRATION!

MIKE P THE FORGOTTEN WAYS By Alan Hirsch

This is a stunning book with great analysis of how the church can be missional in the 21st century. Although I wasn’t always completely convinced by his practical illustrations at the end of the chapters, in general it’s brilliantly argued and has a great use of scripture.

TEAM OF RIVALS –THE POLITICAL GENIUS OF ABRAHAM LINCOLN By Doris Kearns Goodwin

This is a fantastic book, that is brilliant for anyone interested in leadership or who just fancies a compelling historical read.


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ANDY CROFT

BETH CROFT

ALI MARTIN

COUNTERFEIT GODS By Tim Keller

RISE UP & SING

BIBLE GATEWAY

(Anything by Tim Keller is worth reading; he’s been described as the C.S. Lewis of our day.)

Tim pastors a church of 5000 in New York and in this brilliant book unpacks some of the idols that plague many of us today. It gives great biblical and relevant teaching on how we should approach love, power, success, money and so on. One of the best books I’ve read for a while.

C.T. STUDD By Norman Grubb

This is an old book that I had to buy second but it’s totally worth it if you love reading Christian biographies. C.T. Studd gave up money, fame and sporting success to be a missionary in China and Africa, founding the global missionary movement WEC. It’s challenging, moving and inspiring.

Lex Buckley’s book ‘Rise Up and Sing’ is a must-read for any women who feel called to worship leading, particularly those just starting out. It’s practical, heart-felt, challenging and encouraging. It’s also a great read for any guys who want to raise up women in this area of leadership. Lex launched a website alongside the book as an ongoing resource so visit femaleworshipleader.com for loads of brilliant articles and blogs from female worship leaders plus new songs from Lex too!

One resource that I don’t know how I’d live without is Bible Gateway (biblegateway. com) where you can search for any Bible passage in a whole host of translations. It provides commentary on some passages and you can listen to passages on audio as well if you prefer.

WHAT GOOD IS GOD? By Philip Yancey

This book follows Yancey’s journeys to many diverse destinations where he seeks to explore God’s goodness and grace in the context of questions and pain, as he meets persecuted Christians, sex slaves and students traumatised by a campus shooting. If you’ve read any of Yancey’s other books, you may recognise some of the material but this is still a great, engaging and encouraging read.


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WOMEN IN LEADERSHIP Mike Pilavachi & Jo Saxton AT LAST SUMMER’S MOMENTUM, WE REALISED THERE IS STILL A LOT OF CONFUSION AND HURT SURROUNDING THE ISSUE OF WOMEN IN LEADERSHIP. SO WE PUT A FEW QUESTIONS TO A MALE LEADER (MIKE P, WHO YOU MIGHT RECOGNISE ‘COS HE HEADS UP ALL THINGS SOUL SURVIVOR AND MOMENTUM!) AND A FEMALE LEADER (OUR FRIEND JO SAXTON WHO RAISES UP YOUNG LEADERS) TO SEE WHAT THEY HAD TO SAY...

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SOME OF THE HIGH PROFILE FEMALE-LEADERS (SUCH AS CONDOLEEZA RICE AND MARGARET THATCHER) ARE OFTEN THOUGHT TO HAVE MORE ‘MASCULINE’ CHARACTERISTICS. DO YOU THINK THAT WOMEN HAVE TO LEAD IN A TRADITIONALLY MASCULINE WAY?

MIKE:

I don’t believe a woman has to be stereotypically masculine or feminine to be a leader – she just has to be stereotypically human. Whether we’re male or female we need to be authentically ourselves. Some male leaders are ‘alpha males’ some male leaders aren’t. Some female leaders are very feminine and some aren’t. God wants to use all of us in all our great variety of personality.

JO:

I think perhaps our society and sections of the church have coded ‘strong’ leadership as masculine. It’s interesting to note that a closer look at the word translated

‘Helper’ in Genesis 2:18, describing Eve, is EZER a combination of two words:  one meaning to rescue/ to save and the other meaning to be strong.  Strength is seen in both men and women- which makes sense considering we’re both made in the image of God! I don’t feel I need to ‘be masculine’ to lead effectively; I’m quite comfortable with being a strong woman. Sometimes that means I’m bold and directive, at other times it will mean greater sensitivity, and compassion. My main aim is to continue to grow in being the woman God designed me to be.


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WOULD YOU LOOK FOR DIFFERENT CHARACTERISTICS IN A WOMAN LEADER?

“I’m quite comfortable with being a strong woman. Sometimes that means I’m bold and directive, at other times it will mean greater sensitivity, and compassion.” JO

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MIKE:

No, actually I would look for exactly the same characteristics in a female leader as in a male leader –a heart for God, a heart for people and a heart that’s teachable and humble.

JO:

No. I think the main thing a leader needs is a commitment to invest in their relationship with Jesus. Leadership will require a lot from us at times, sacrifice, serving, humility, courage, endurance - we’ll need his wisdom, his strength and his empowering to be and do the things that we can’t be by ourselves.

I also think it’s really important that leaders are working on their character. We all have struggles and they won’t necessarily disqualify someone from leading but we do need to recognise our brokenness and know that God wants to heal us because we’re his children. Wholeness will make you a healthier leader, and healthy leaders have the capacity and the stamina for the challenges and opportunities of leadership.

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WHAT DO YOU THINK JESUS’ EXAMPLE AND HIS STYLE OF LEADERSHIP ADDS TO THE DEBATE AROUND MEN AND WOMEN IN LEADERSHIP?

“Jesus showed us the whole package from bold words and overturning tables, through to tears and tender compassion. And there are so many things that Jesus teaches us about leadership.“ JO

MIKE:

Jesus led strongly and powerfully but with gentleness, meekness and grace so both male and female leaders need to learn to develop these traits whether they come naturally to us or not. It’s all part of our humanity; some of us will display some of those characteristics more or less and I think we’re learning in the church that the best leadership is authentic leadership and not a leadership that follows a particular stereotype. Jesus demonstrated that there is a righteous anger about injustice that should rise up in us; he showed tenderness when he raised the widow’s daughter from the dead; he led his disciples firmly and he showed vulnerability in the garden of Gethsemane. Some of these characteristics are now seen as masculine or feminine but Jesus showed us that they can all reflect God’s character and godly leadership if used well.

JO:  

I would totally agree with Mike that Jesus showed us the whole package from bold words and overturning tables, through to tears and tender compassion. And there are so many things that Jesus teaches us about leadership. I’m struck continually that he only did what he saw his Father doing (John 5:19). He was a leader, but completely dependent on God for every plan he made, every direction he took. I want to follow in those footsteps. Jesus walked

in authority and power, attracting crowds of thousands. But he still found room for the outcast and despised, the unpopular the unlovely. He openly accepted those we might still struggle to embrace today. And even though He is the most phenomenal leader, he invested everything into his disciples, giving them opportunity, watching them fail and grow and become leaders themselves. I think Jesus’ example gives us the opportunity to ask ourselves some questions as leaders whether male or female: • How dependent are we on the Father’s guidance for how we lead - or is His direction lost in our own ambition and desires, our busyness or the latest trends? • Do we operate in God-given authority and power, or in the strength of our talent and personal charisma? • Can we walk away from the the crowd and love the outcast, even if it goes unrecognized? Will we befriend people the religious find unacceptable? • And can we give this all away? Invest all our talent and potential and time into another generation of leaders, empower them to go further than we have?

I don’t always like my honest answers to these questions - but by His Grace, I’m working on them!

Jo is a director for 3dministries which coaches church teams and young leaders in discipleship and mission. She is married to Chris a church pastor, and they have two amazing girls called Tia and Zoë. They live in Southern California.


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HOW DO WE MOVE FORWARD FROM THIS GENDER DEBATE? SHOULD ALL LEADERS LOOK THE SAME WHETHER THEY ARE MALE OR FEMALE?

“I’ll always be deficient on my own but the more we get together and rely on one another to bring the gifts and skills that we can’t, the more we will display true biblical leadership.” MIKE

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MIKE:

I think the key is leading in a team because in a team, between us we will display all the various characteristics needed for leadership. I will never be able to lead in a way that inspires, blesses and feeds all kinds of people. Neither will Ali Martin. But Ali Martin and I together, have a better chance of doing that. No one person is meant to display all of it. That’s part of the individualism of our society. We have to recover the sense that we’re a body. Not only is church plural, so is leadership. I’ll always be deficient on my own but the more we get together and rely on one another to bring the gifts and skills that we can’t, the more we will display true biblical leadership.

JO:

I think we all need to pursue being the leader God made us to be, rather than what we think we are supposed to look like. So take the time to discover your gifts and the skills you bring to the table, and invest in them, embrace them. Be the man God made you, not what you feel you ought to be; be the woman God made you, not what you feel you ought to be. It’s inspiring to see any man or woman secure in their God given identity, and living it out. It’s the kind of freedom that everybody wants. So whilst it’s great to learn a range of skills and qualities in leadership, be yourself.

WANT MORE?

1 DISCOVERING BIBLICAL EQUALITY

A collection of essays by various theologians and church leaders offering an in depth study of gender and leadership

2 WHY NOT WOMEN By Loren Cunnigham A theoretical and practical look at women and their place in the ministry of the Church.

3 Over the next few months we’ll be uploading a few free resources online on gender and leadership and holding a day for female leaders! More info coming soon...

Mike heads up Soul Survivor and has been involved in raising up leaders since he was a Youth Worker back in the 1980’s! As you may well know, he’s a writer, speaker, church leader and wannabe stand up comedian slash tour guide.


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MONEY MONEY MONEY By Liza Hoeksma

IT’S NOT VERY BRITISH TO TALK ABOUT MONEY IS IT? IT’S IMPROPER IF YOU HAVE IT AND UNCOMFORTABLE IF YOU DON’T. BUT JESUS DIDN’T HAVE A PROBLEM BRINGING IT UP AND CHALLENGING PEOPLE ABOUT THEIR WEALTH, RECOGNISING THAT IT IS ONE OF THE BIGGEST AREAS IN OUR LIFE THAT WE STRUGGLE TO SUBMIT TO GOD. We get obsessed with making it, keeping it and spending it. How we handle our money before God is probably one of the biggest challenges we face. He wants us to have freedom and not to be controlled by our cash so how do we make that a reality in today’s debt-ridden culture? It may seem excessive to think about all these things if you don’t feel like you have much cash. But if you work out your attitudes towards God and money before you start earning more, you’ll be more likely to get into good habits and succeed in managing your income in a godly way. The first thing as Christians that we need to do is to break the taboo. Talk about money with your friends and family and be honest about any areas where you struggle. Be accountable to other Christians whose wisdom you trust.


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BE IN THE KNOW

So many of us have a habit of putting everything on plastic, not looking at our statements and then living with a quiet fear that we have no idea how much money we have or how much we owe. Left like this we can easily spiral into debt (or live in needless fear if we do have enough money to cover our outgoings). Put together a budget detailing how much you have coming in every month and how much is going out. If you’re in debt, look at ways you can cut your spending and work out a plan to decrease your debt even if it’s only by a small amount each month. (Have a look online for budgeting advice & tips!)

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TITHE

Honour God by giving away at least 10% of your income to your church. It doesn’t matter how much or how little you earn each month, tithing is a good principle and reminds us that everything we have is given to us by God; ‘freely you have received, freely give’! Matthew 10 v8

KNOW YOUR VALUES

Even if you have the money to pay for something it may not be wise stewardship to buy it. God didn’t put an appendix in the Bible telling us exactly how to spend our money. We have to work out in relationship with him what’s ok and what’s wasteful or extravagant. We won’t always get it right but it’s a vital part of our learning process that we keep asking him how we’re doing.

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BE GENEROUS

Generosity isn’t something we learn when we’re rich! You don’t have to have much to be generous (and being in control of your finances will help you know when you’re being generous and when your overdraft is!). If you can, set aside some money every month that you will use to bless others and think about ways you can have fun with this. You could give the money to charity (over and above your tithe), buy a friend a coffee/ meal with it, get a present for someone who’s having a rough time, or leave a generous tip in a restaurant. God loves a cheerful giver (2 Corinthians v7) so let this be something that you enjoy as part of your relationship with God, asking him to speak to you about ways you could use the money.

DON’T WORRY

Find security in God, not in the pursuit of a big bank balance. Saving is a great habit to get into but it’s a very different principle from hoarding which is what we tend to do when we’re living in fear. God as our Father delights in providing for us and doesn’t want us to pursue money as our first goal. He knows that we have practical needs and he delights in meeting those needs, but He is really clear that we need to seek the kingdom of God before anything else. I love this translation of Matthew 6 (v3133) from the Message: “What I’m trying to do here is to get you to relax, to not be so preoccupied with getting, so you can respond to God’s giving. People who don’t know God and the way he works fuss over these things, but you know both God and how he works. Steep your life in Godreality, God-initiative, Godprovisions. Don’t worry about missing out. You’ll find all your everyday human concerns will be met.”

START 2011 RIGHT!

Why not make it one of your goals this year to overhaul your finances and give God control? If you’re already doing brilliantly and have been living on a budget since you were 4, that’s fantastic! Maybe you could help a friend who’s struggling by helping them set up a budget and get on top of their finances. If things aren’t in such great shape for you then don’t panic! The best thing you can do is sit down and work everything out – you won’t be uncovering anything that isn’t already there and no problem is insurmountable. If you need some help, see if there is a CAP (Christians Against Poverty) Money course in your area – they help people get in control of their money and get out of debt (their courses are of course free!) Go to capmoney.org for more info.

Liza Hoeksma is part of the Soul Survivor communications team. She’s a writer, loves reading and is part of Soul Survivor Watford.


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WHAT’S HAPPENING IN 2011?!

ALL THE SOUL SURVIVOR DATES FOR YOU & YOUR MATES!

THERE’S LOADS COMING UP THAT WE’D LOVE TO SEE YOUR SMILING FACE AT! SATURDAY CELEBRATIONS!

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WATFORD ONE SATURDAY A MONTH Join us for times of worship, teaching and ministry - kicking off at 5pm and again at 8pm, yep that’s two celebrations on each date, on the following Saturdays: 29th Jan, 26th Mar and 30th Apr, 25th Jun, 23rd Jul, 17th Sept, 22nd Oct, 26th Nov. Entry is free!

SOUL SURVIVOR 2011

WEEK A: STAFFORD, 29TH  JULY – 2ND  AUGUST WEEK B: SOMERSET, 9TH – 13TH AUGUST WEEK C: SOMERSET, 14TH – 18TH AUGUST www.soulsurvivor.com/uk/ss2011

SOULNET RETREAT SHERWOOD FOREST 4TH – 6TH FEBRUARY A weekend away at Sherwood Forest Center Parcs for youth leaders.

NATURALLY SUPERNATURAL

WATFORD 24TH – 26TH FEBRUARY A chance to learn more about praying in the gifts of the Holy Spirit. Price is £45 for the full conference (day/evening tickets are available too).

MOMENTUM

SOMERSET, 19TH-23RD AUGUST It’s the big one! Keep an eye on our lovely new Momentum website and our Facebook page to get all the up-to-date news about whose coming and what we’ll be discussing. Don’t forget to book early to save some pennies too! If you book and pay in full by Friday 28th January, it will cost you just £81 (up to 29th April it will be £91; after that it will be £99 for online bookings or £104 for other bookings) www.soulsurvivor.com/momentum

Find out more and book for these events at www.soulsurvivor.com/uk, or give us a call on 0303 333 1333 . If you prefer to keep it digital then drop us an at info@soulsurvivor.com


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Day 4, Morning Meeting: Andy Croft Jesus - His Death

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Day 2, Evening Meeting: Mike Pilavachi The Other Two Disciples

Day 5, Morning Meeting: Mike Pilavachi Treasure in jars of clay

Day 3, Morning Meeting: Andy Croft Jesus-His Life

Day 5 Evening Meeting: Mike Pilavachi Testimonies & Closing Thoughts

Day 3, Evening Meeting: Mike Pilavachi Intercession

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