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Matchmaker Are you one of those people who always tries to set up your friends? Can’t help but throw a dinner party when you have two single friends that you just know will be perfect together? Then the romanceinfused life of a professional matchmaker might just be for you! Your friends and family may call it meddling, but when you are a professional matchmaker running your own successful consultancy it’s not called meddling, it’s business. And don’t forget – professional matchmakers have existed in many different cultures for centuries. Taking many different forms depending on which culture you belong to, in times gone by a professional matchmaker might have travelled from village to village with a list of eligible bachelors and bachelorettes waiting to find their best match, assessing the genetic and family backgrounds of couples to ensure they were a suitable match. Of course, these days the game of love has changed considerably, with many cultures taking a more liberal view of marriage, seeing it as much more than an agreement to secure property, financial stability and genetic diversity. These days, people tend to want to marry for love and this is where modern matchmakers come in. Matchmakers usually run their own consultancy businesses, offering a boutique service for singles who are searching for ‘the one’ and don’t mind paying to secure the assistance of an expert. Despite the popularity of apps such as Tinder, all over the world old-fashioned matchmakers still operate, working their hardest to ensure Cupid’s arrow reaches its target. Professional matchmakers operate on the premise that they have many ‘high quality’ individuals on their books, so when you go to a professional matchmaker, you won’t have your time wasted by the riffraff and bottom feeders that dwell on online dating sites.

Facilitating introductions between two ‘high quality’ individuals with similar interests and worldviews isn’t as easy as it seems. Most matchmakers insist on all candidates filling out a lengthy questionnaire so they can get a good read on who you’d best suit, and some insist on face-to-face meetings before taking candidates on as clients (a good way to weed out liars, phonies and the delusional). These days, many savvy matchmakers fill niches by providing their services to specific groups of people. There are professional matchmakers for seniors, millionaires and the LGBTQI community. By focusing on one subset of the population, matchmakers have been able to provide specialised services to groups of people who often find dating harder than most (although surely the Tinder for Seniors app isn’t too far away). As a profession, matchmaking is a lot like headhunting, but for a partner rather than a new career. Apart from having the good business acumen required to run your own consultancy firm, modern matchmakers need to be patient, people-friendly and empathetic. The art of matchmaking is a high-stakes game where emotions run deep, so a calm demeanour is essential, as is a degree of pragmatism (for when things inevitably don’t work out between two clients). There would be an inherent amount of job satisfaction in knowing you’re bringing people together and changing the course of their lives, for better or worse.

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