On The Run
Who wants that perfect love story anyway? Empowered Women, Empower Women Lâ€™homme et la ville The Man and the City
How To Build Or Break Any Habit Constructive Criticism:
Blending the boundaries of fine art & craft
A photo collection
How & Why To Create Genuine Connections
TABLE OF CONTENTS
C O N T R I B U T O R S
LETTER FROM THE EDITOR
CHANGE 4 THE BETTER
Lâ€™ H O M M E E T L A V I L L E
ON THE RUN
EMPOWERED WOMEN, EMPOWER WOMEN
CREATING GENUINE CONNECTIONS
CONTRIBUTORS Special Thanks To: Jean Vintayen Bernarr Merriett Ace Bing Bryce Bieniek Michelle Song Regina Canatsey Trey Augustine Janae Williams Oh Man! Clothing TasteBreakers Laâ€™Saye Hommes Tim Grasint Kirth Anthony Josh Sobel Romekamera Leo Babauta Ahmed Carter Tabata, Arty Chauve Henna by Rabiya Global Art Daily Nasrah Omar Yuri Chujo Lucia Kramarczuk The Lonely Heart Club Bella Olazabal
We’re over a month into the new year, and I hope it’s going well for you. Even if it’s not, and you’ve already hit obstacles and challenges (pretty much all of us have) that are getting you down, remember you can turn that around. Set your goals for 2018 and keep inching forward, step-by-step, day-by-day. In this issue you’ll find some empowering content that will motivate you, help you take action and inspire you for the better. You’ll also find visually stimulating fashion and beauty editorials put together by talented and passionate creatives. Self-reflection was a priority for me toward the end of 2017, and I spent a lot of time thinking about my relationships and how to nurture them, what beauty means to me and how to turn my pain into power. Here are some thoughts: • In a world where we can have thousands of Facebook friends, work virtually through Google Hangouts, or even find a date via Tinder, being easily accessible to one another and instant-gratification have given us a false sense of connection. We all long for meaningful relationships. It’s necessary to nurture genuine connections, whether they be with a select group of family or friends, or a stranger you just met. Remember that developing a genuine connection is more than a thumbs up on a status or a like on a photo. Don’t get me wrong, I love social media as an innovative tool, but to really get to know someone, I like to see them, touch them, smell them, feel their energy, and taste their personality! In the pages ahead, we talk about why and how to nurture genuine connections. • A big goal and focus for me this year is how I can turn my pain into power. Like many, I sometimes have a hard time letting go of the past. I don’t want to see myself as a victim. I am a fighter, a fucking Woman Warrior. So I’m asking myself all year, “What can I do to let go of my past mistakes and traumatic experiences? How can I heal and help others heal too? How can we turn our pain into power?” • Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It truly is. Beauty to me is less about surface appearance and more about what’s going on inside. Expression is beautiful. Emotion is beautiful. Vulnerability is beautiful. Confidence is beautiful. What is beauty to you? The creative team behind the ‘Beauty is’ editorial challenges us to explore beauty through minimalism and lines, circles and dots that accentuate the natural angles and curvature of a human face. Habits have also been a huge focus for me in the start of this year. I’ve noticed things with my mental, physical and spiritual health that don’t align with what I feel is my true self. So I, like many of you, am constantly trying to change my habits. Shed the old to make way for the new. Why are habits important and how do we change them? There’s no on-off switch that we can press to make a habit appear or disappear. Honestly, it’s consistency and accountability. Recently, I changed a big habit by making small, daily steps. I felt so empowered that I changed this habit that it made me think, “what other habits can I break and what other habits can I build?” It opened up so many possibilities for me and can for you too. In this issue, we talk about actionable ways you can form any habit. Speaking of feeling empowered, are you feeling the feminine shift in the world like I am? For so long, many societies, including ours here in America, have been dominated by masculine energies, causing an imbalance in our world. We see this everywhere, from politics, to advertising, television, and more. But something is changing, whether we want it to or not. We’re seeing the rise of women not just nationwide, but worldwide. We’re seeing the rise of feminists and a
gender-fluid generation, where people question the social construct of gender identity and other societal labels and conditionings that shape our perspectives of ourselves and each other. We’re seeing brave women speak up against sexual abuse and discrimination. We’re seeing more women take leadership roles in government and in our communities. We are seeing women raise courageous, compassionate and empowered children. We are seeing women continue to dedicate their lives to fight for human rights. Just last year The Women’s March became the largest mass protest in American history, with over 4.2 million amazing women in over 600 cities protesting in support of equality everywhere. Wow. With that said, I hope you are feeling empowered, inspired and motivated. I hope you enjoy the content within these pages and KEEP SLAYING QUEEN! I’d love to hear from you on what you think about this issue and if you have any suggestions for what you’d like to see or read about in the next issue. You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. With love,
Photographer: Nasrah Omar Makeup:Yuri Chujo Stylist: Lucia Kramarczuk Model: Bella Olazabal Wardrobe: The Lonely Heart Club
onstructive Criticism chronicles the navigation of a manufactured landscape. The objects within the landscape begin to transform from being functional to becoming pieces of artistic expression blending the boundaries of fine art and craft. Extension cords transform into line work, construction paper in sculptural forms. The model navigates the landscape as a curious creative explorer open to discovery and creative play.
Photographer: Nasrah Omar Makeup:Yuri Chujo Stylist: Lucia Kramarczuk Model: Bella Olazabal Wardrobe: The Lonely Heart Club
CHANGE4 THE BETTER 5 Keys to Forming Any Habit
Author/Editor: Leo B.| Jean V.
We all struggle with our habits — sticking to them, staying motivated, getting started, dealing with disruptions, it can become a big struggle. And yet, to change our habits is to change our lives. If we can’t make habit changes, we will be stuck in our current way of doing things, which might not be so helpful. If you want to lose weight, beat procrastination, write a book, get fit, live mindfully … you have
to develop habits, shedding the ones that no longer serve you, while maturing the ones that will grow you. Luckily, the process is simpler than most people realize. Simple, not easy: you have to be committed and really want to make the change. Otherwise you’ll just quit when things get difficult.
Here’s the first thing to keep in mind: just choose one habit for now. Yes, you’ll want to change a bunch of things. Don’t ignore this advice. Later, you can form more, but for now, focus on just one.
1.START SUPER SMALL. Think: step-by-step, and remind yourself this every single morning. Do one habit at a time, and do it super small. How small? Focus on just breathing for 2 minutes, that’s the start of meditation. Write for 5 minutes before bed. Do 5 pushups or 5 squats. Eat just one vegetable today, or cut out just one piece of candy today. If you start small, you remove the resistance to starting, which is the hardest part. I used to tell myself, “just browse Pinterest for pics of tasty, easy meatless recipes.” And that’s how I gradually changed my eating habit, which changed my life for the better. For meditation I tell myself, “just sit and close your eyes for a few deep breaths.” For writing, “just get a piece of paper and pen and start writing anything: thoughts, words, scribbles, ideas, wants, hates, your day. anything.”
2.START SUPER SMALL. Don’t think about it — make a decision ahead of time to do it every day at the same time for at least a month, then each day, don’t make it a decision. Just start. Have a trigger that’s already in your daily life (like waking up, or showering, brushing your teeth, starting the coffee maker, eating lunch, whatever) and use that as the trigger for an when/then statement: “When I wake up, I’ll meditate for 2 minutes.” Put written reminders near where the trigger happens. The main point is: make the decision to do it every day, and then just do it without thinking. Don’t beat yourself up when you make a mistake or miss the mark. Get up, find your trigger, and try again. Habits form by repetition.
3.GET SOME ACCOUNTABILITY. Have at least one person you report to — an accountability partner. Or a group of friends. Or a walking/running partner. It doesn’t matter how you set it up, but having someone to report to means you are much more likely to push yourself past resistance when it comes up. My partner and I live a part, but we’ve made a promise to stay on top of each other and hold each other accountable in making sure we’ve accomplished our mental, physical and spiritual goals. There are great ways to find accountability partners such as joining clubs/teams, meetup groups in the community, even social media or online support groups.
4.MAKE IT FUN, FIND GRATITUDE. Don’t just do the habit as if it were a chore. See if you can enjoy it. How can you make it fun, play, joyous? Can you find gratitude in the middle of your workout? The habit is much more likely to stick if you focus on the parts you enjoy, rather than mindlessly try to check it off your to-do list.
5.BE COMMITTED. Why are you doing this habit? Reflect on this during the first week, as you do the habit. What deeper reason do you have? Are you doing this habit to help others? As an act of self-love, so that you can be healthier or happier? If you’re just doing it because you think you should, or because it sounds cool, you won’t really push past the resistance.
You can start with just the first item above, but I would recommend adding as many of the other four as you can during your first week or two, because you’ll be increasing your odds of success with each one. This is doable. You can change your old ways by consciously doing something new repeatedly, until it’s a habit. Take small steps to get started, remove choice so you don’t think about whether to start or not, get some accountability and understand your motivation so you push past resistance, and find gratitude in the midst of the action. One habit, done daily. Small steps with intention, support and a smile. It can make all the difference in the world.
Photographer: Ahmed Carter Model: Tabata, Arty Chauve Henna by Rabiya Wardrobe: Global Art Daily Location Abu Dhabi, United Arab Emirates 15
Photographer: Ahmed Carter Model: Tabata, Arty Chauve Henna by Rabiya Wardrobe: Global Art Daily Location Abu Dhabi, United Arab Emirates
Photo: Kirth Anthony Look: Nadashta Collective
Artist: La'Saye Hommes Listen Bruce Wang: https://www.soundcloud.com/lasayehommes/bruce-wang-prod-by-themusic
Photographers: Kirth Anthony (pg. 23-24, 35) Tim Grasint (pg. 25-29, 36-38) Romekamera (pg. 30-32) Josh Sobel (pg. 33-34) Model: La’Saye Hommes
L’ H O M M E ET V I
LA L L E
25-29 Photo: Tim Grasint Plaid Shearling Bomber: Supreme New York Shoes: Balenciaga
Photo: Tim Grasint Look: ATHRTY Amsterdam
30-32 Photo: Romekamera Look: ADYN Clothing Shoes: Fear of God
33-34 Photo: Josh Sobel Top: ГОША РУБЧИНСКИЙ Tracksuit: FILA UK Shoes: Raf Simons
Photographers: Kirth Anthony (pg. 23-24, 35) Tim Grasint (pg. 25-29, 36-38) Romekamera (pg. 30-32) Josh Sobel (pg. 33-34) Model: Laâ€™Saye Hommes
AND THE CITY
Photo: Kirth Anthony Top: Saint Laurent Paris Shoes: Fear of God
Photo: Tim Grasint Jacket: Supreme Shoes: Balenciaga
Photo: Tim Grasint Jacket: ProjectXParis
Photo: Tim Grasint Jacket: Supreme Shoes: Balenciaga
ON THE RUN Photographer: Michelle Song Hair/MUA: Regina Canatsey Models: Ace Bing Bryce Bieniek Director: Jean Vintayen Song Lyrics: Part II On The Run Jay-Z feat. Beyonce Magna Carta...Holy Grail (Left) His top:Hanes Hrt top: Ultra Flirt LA
“Boy meets girl, girl perfect woman Girl get to bustin’ before the cops come running Chucking deuces, chugging D’USSE Fuck what you say, boys in blue say”
Top: Nordstrom Coat: Topman Pants: Louis Raphael
His Coat: Forever 21 Womenâ€™s His Jeans: INC International Concepts His Shoes: Public Opinion Her Dress: Vintage Her Shoes: Michael Kors
“I hear sirens while we make love Loud as hell, but they don’t know They’re nowhere near us I will hold your heart and your gun I don’t care if they come, no I know it’s crazy but They can take me Now that I’ve found the places that you Take me”
B eYo n ce
His Top: Religion Clothing His Coat: Cole Haan Her Top: American Rag Menâ€™s Her Jacket: Oh Man! Clothing Her Shoes: Michael Kors
“They aint see potential in me girl, but you see it If it’s me and you against the world, then so be it”
“I don’t care if they give me life I get all of my life from you And if loving you had a price I would pay my life for you”
B eyo n ce
His Top & Jacket: INC International Concepts His Pants: Perry Ellis His Shoes: Giorgio Brutini His Hat: Forever 21 Her Romper: Star Wars Her Shoes: Michael Kors
Photographer: Michelle Song Hair/MUA: Regina Canatsey Models: Ace Bing Bryce Bieniek Director: Jean Vintayen
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I canâ€™t think of any better representaton of beauty than someone who is unafraid to be herself. - Emma Stone
Photographer/Director: Michelle Song Asst. Photographer: Will ChoiÂ Hair/MUA: Regina Canatsey Models: Janae Williams & Trey Augustine Co-Director: Jean Vintayen
V U L N E R A B I L I T Y
E X P R E S S I O N
C O N F I D E N C E
Empowered Women, Empower Women
Author: Jean V
BACKGROUND WOMEN’S EMPOWERMENT We’ve often heard this term used in recent decades, but what does it actually mean? Women’s Empowerment is subjective, it means different things to different people. But here are what some women are saying it means for them, “Equality, choice, opportunity, and self-love.” Women’s Empowerment doesn’t have one singular definition, but it is usually used to define and converse about gender equality, women’s rights, and more. There are complex definitions and simple definitions of women’s empowerment, so let’s look at the word “empower.” According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, to ‘empower’ means “to give official authority or legal power to, to enable, or to promote the self-actualization or influence of.” Get into it.
Some anthropological evidence shows that during prehistoric times, hunter-gatherer societies were egalitarian, meaning that men and women were socially equal. Yet, anthropologists and other scientists debate whether there has ever been a truly female-run, matriarchal society in prehistory. Today, there are modern matriarchal societies where women run the society, or where power and property are passed down through the mother’s lineage, a classification for femalesocieties, called matrilineal. For example, the Mosuo tribe of China is a matriarchal society in which inheritance is passed through the female line, and the grandmother is the most respected person in any household. The Mosuo have “walking marriages,” where it is normal for women to have multiple partners or marriages. Mosuo children take their mother’s name and their father’s may or may not raise them. Usually the uncles, brothers and male cousins of the women help raise the children. The women live in a large home with extended family and make the most important decisions.1
WOMEN EMPOWER WOMEN
IN AMERICA In 1777, a year after the Declaration of Independence was signed in America, all states passed laws that took away women’s right to vote. It wasn’t till 143 years later in 1920 that women would be allowed to legally
The problem though is that wom-
en everywhere still struggle with issues of equality, choice, opportunity, and self-love. In 1963, the Equal Pay Act was passed, stating that all employees must be paid equally for equal work, regardless of whether the employees are male or female.3 Yet in 2015, women earned only 83% of what men earned, according to a Pew Research Center analysis. That means that five decades after the Equal Pay Act was passed, women in all professions are still not earning the same pay as men. Women in America are significantly outnumbered by their male counterparts in leadership positions, including having representatives of only 8% U.S Governors, 19.1% U.S. House, 21% U.S. Senate, 5.4% Fortune 500 CEOs, and 26.4% College presidents.4 There are even some countries that have had women in positions of power for several years, but according to Pew Research the, “number of women leaders around the world has grown, but they’re still a small group."
• There are still over 225 million women around the world who don’t have access to the modern contraceptives.5 • Two-thirds of the world’s illiterate adults are women.6 • 35% of women worldwide have experienced either physical and/or sexual violence in their lifetime.7 • Child brides are more likely to have poor health due to having children so young, receive less education than male counterparts and live in poverty longer. More than 41,000 girls under the age of 18 marry every day.8 What does this mean? It means we have to continue to come together, continue to fight for one another, fight for our mothers, our daughters and our sisters. We have to fight for every girl, boy and they that have to grow up in a world where equality is only an ideal and not a statement of fact. I hope our children’s children can look back at this article and the devastating statistics and sigh in relief that their world is so vastly different, and more equal.
EMPOWERED WOMEN, EMPOWER WOMEN Something big is happening universally. We’ve seen this domino effect happening in the news and on
GET UPSET, THEN GET EMPOWERED
social media with all twhese brave women speak-
Yes, women in the modern world have obtained
wood figures, community leaders and more. Women
more leadership roles and higher pay than previous years. And yes, the world for women today is vastly different than back when America began. But we still have so much to fight for. We must keep going.
ing up against sexual abuse and discrimination by well-known and highly regarded politicians, Hollyof Hollywood made a loud statement at this years Golden Globes by wearing all black in support of the brave women coming forward and telling their stories. Oprah empowered us with a beautiful speech,
“What I know for sure is that speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we all have. And I’m especially proud and inspired by all the women who have felt strong enough and empowered enough to speak up and share their personal stories. Each of us in this room are celebrated because of the stories that we tell. And this year we became the story. But it’s not just a story affecting the entertainment industry. It’s one that transcends any culture, geography, race, religion, politics or workplace.”
-Oprah We’ve also made groundbreaking strides, with a
representatives, voice your opinion. Better yet,
woman being nominated for President of the United
RUN FOR OFFICE. Start that business. Go after
States in 2016, and over 100 Women in Congress at
that career. Teach your children to do the same by
once, neither of which has ever occurred before.
taking action. Heal from the past and let go. Look
Moreover, in January 2017,
forward to the future and imagine the possibilities.
over 4.2 million women gathered in over 600
Cry. Laugh. Feel. Be empowered to take action and
cities nationwide to form the largest, mass protest in
make change. Learn yourself. Embrace your femi-
ninity and masculinity, explore it. Look in the mirror every morning and say,
Gender roles are also changing, with younger generations embracing gender-fluidity and questioning
“I am woman, hear me ROAR!”
the social constructs of gender identity. More women worldwide are receiving education, contraceptives and taking a stand together for equal rights. But like I said, we still have much to fight for. How can we progress? Stop competing to compare and start competing to help each other grow. Empowered women, empower women. What can you do to empower the next woman? Love her, listen to her and support her. Share your skills and be open to learning hers. Get your friends and family together and talk about women’s empowerment and what it means to you. Educate yourself on women’s history and share the knowledge. Protest with men, women and non-binaries in support of women’s rights, because women’s rights IS human rights. Call your
Sources: 1.http://www.marieclaire.com/culture/a19105/matriarchies-still-exist-today/ 2. http://www.nwhp.org/resources/womens-rights-movement/detailed-timeline/ 3. http://civilrights.findlaw.com/civil-rights-overview/civil-rights-and-discrimination-glossary.html 4. http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2017/03/17/the-data-on-women-leaders/ 5. https://news.nationalgeographic.com/2017/02/opinion-melinda-gates-contraceptive-global/ 6. https://unstats.un.org/unsd/gender/chapter3/chapter3.html 7. http://www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs239/en/ 8. http://www.worldbank.org/en/topic/girlseducation
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Creating Genuine Connections What We All Long For
Author/Editor: Leo B.| Jean V.
e all long for genuine human connections, and even in a busy life with lots of people around us, these genuine connections can be hard to find. We live in the age of social media and instant-gratification, where many times we get caught up with posting snippets of our daily lives or scrolling through others’ posts that we forget to call Mom. We are easily accessible to each other at all times of the day, because let’s face it. We always have our phones on or near us. We socialize online, but that’s not always genuine. It’s harder to read emotion and body language via social media DM or text message, than to connect with someone in person. We work with people, but often that’s task-oriented and not human connection-oriented. We might have family and friends in our lives, but when we are busy or distracted by the online world, those connections might fade. In the last year or two, I’ve made it a point to have fewer friendships, but with deeper connections, while also being open to the miracle of a random encounter with another human being. This philosophy has paid off in more genuine connections with my family and friends, but less busy-ness, and less bullshit. Here are some reasons for creating genuine connections, and some strategies for creating them.
Why Genuine Connections Are Important There are many reasons, but these are the ones that strike me as important: 1. We need it to be happy and fulfilled. All the money in the world, and the best job in the world, and all the material possessions in the world won’t matter much if you’re alone and have no genuine human connections. We have a human need for this kind of connection, and there’s no doubt that it makes us happier, even if it complicates our lives a bit. 2. It boosts creativity. I find that working in solitude is the best way to create, and having some time for solitude is important for reflecting on ideas, but having a genuine discussion with someone is really important for expanding on those ideas. When I
get together with a friend, or talk something over with my partner, I inevitably walk away with several new (or re-energized) ideas that excite me. 3. It creates opportunities. I am not in favor of “networking”, but when you make a connection with someone, new opportunities for collaboration and creation emerge that weren’t there before. I don’t know how many times I’ve met associates or friends of friends/family that have led to genuine, lifelong connections. These connections have in-turn opened up so many opportunities and possibilities. Life is better when you make genuine connections. You are happier, less isolated, more creative, with new opportunities. Let’s look at how to make these important connections.
How to Make Genuine Connections Here’s the thing … you can’t just force a connection to be what you want it to be. Many people make this mistake in different ways: they try to create a connection with someone who doesn’t want it, or hope the person responds in a certain way, or want the other person to be something they’re not, and so on. The key to an unforced, genuine connection is openness. So here’s what works for me: 1. Be open to random connections. While I accept fewer invitations these days than I did a couple years ago, when I randomly meet someone, I try not to be closed to them. This means opening up, wondering who they are and setting aside any prejudgements that happen, sharing who I am openly and with a smile. I don’t know if this will be a connection to last a lifetime, but it can be one to brighten a moment. Be open to meeting your friends’ and families’ contact when they recommend someone or bring them around. Be open to going somewhere new to find a connection you wouldn’t normally be presented with. Take the risk because it can lead to great reward. 2. Make time for the important relationships. For me it starts with my family. While work is important, it’s important to me to make time each day for them. Even just making a phone call, cooking for them, sending a funny pic through text, or Facetiming and talking about something — if the relationship is important, I’ll make time most days for it. But it also extends to a small circle of friends who I might not see every day, or even every week — if I can, I’ll make time for them. I love to catch up with my girls over dinner or boba or if they live far away, we’ll talk on the phone for an hour and catch each other up and plan our next get-together.
3. Be open to who they are. Try to notice your expectations of the other person, and let them go. Don’t pigeon-hole them, don’t try to make them someone they’re not, just explore who they are without knowing what you’ll find. Be curious. You’ll find the real them this way, and it’s much better than finding what you hoped to find. Remember we are all individuals and we are all different, and that’s what makes humanity beautiful. 4. Be open to what happens. Many people go into a meeting with someone else with an agenda, and try to get that done, like it’s a task that needs to be accomplished. But it’s not — a connection with someone else isn’t about productivity or goals. It’s about connection. It’s two very different human beings spending time together and merging their random personality traits into one experience. That’s true even if it’s a business meeting. Let your personality come out, and allow theirs to come out, and see what happens. It could be talking about a project, but it could be random topics and ideas, it could be a discussion of what’s been going on in your lives and what you have in common, it could be helping one or the other of you with a problem that you have, it could be a debate of ideas, and so on. Don’t try
to force it. 5. Be open about yourself. Often we try to present a certain good side of ourselves. We try to come across as competent, knowledgeable, interesting, accomplished, funny, smart, etc. But that’s a front. It’s only a part of who we are — the good part. If it’s true at all. Why bother trying to connect with someone when we’re just going to give them a false identity, just a façade? Might as well stay home. Much better is to open yourself up, to show the real you. This is scary. It means being vulnerable, and being willing to be embarrassed. That’s a huge amount of trust to put into a human being, especially if it’s not someone you know well. But it’s totally worth it. When you become vulnerable, you risk a lot, but you also get much, much more. You get trust from the other person. You get a deeper connection. You get a better friendship. They open up more too. And when you’ve done this a few times, you realize — there isn’t that much risk, because it never really ends up in a bad way. It’s pretty much all upside.
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