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WELCOME TO Generation



f you don’t like broccoli, Generation Boomer is a don’t force yourself to familiar face we encourage eat it for good health... you get to know. Katie That word comes from an Pace, a Regional 8-decade old study that says Representative for U.S. the leafy green vegetable Senator Dean Heller, is may not improve your making good strides helpchances of living a longer ing constituents. Baby life. The Longevity Project, boomers with questions written by Howard S. about Social Security Friedman and Leslie R. claims, Medicare, Medicaid, Martin draws rather and health care in general intriguing findings from a will find her a wealth of huge study that followed information. Katie and the lives of 1,500 people. In husband Dwight Pace are the quest to improve our the owner’s of Pace’s Pizza chances of hitting 100, The Balls. The restaurant, a Longevity Project will ques- brainchild of Dwight and tion everything you’ve learned about good health. For those who believe exercise is good for us, Joyce Swanson Hall writes a story about serious workouts. Boot camps as they are known, provide challenging routines that feature core and cardio exercise, and weight training. Classes target Katie Pace giving Senatorial Recognition muscle building and and certificates to organizers of “Be a Santa endurance. Those who to a Senior.” Looking on is Washoe County find the classes difficult Commissioner Kitty Jung and Washoe County Senior Services Director Grady are urged to adapt to lower impact exercises, Tarbutton. and work within the proper brother David, offers pizza heart rate for age. Classes variations in a golden crustheld in the area generally ed ball. The different flaare open to all age groups, vors are as fun to eat as its and work to improve fitness name sounds. Pace’s Pizza and overall health. Balls is located in The Profiled in this issue of Summit in Reno. 4 / / 2012

Myth Buster


The Longevity Project Who Will Live Longest? Can We Predict Our Chances of Reaching 100?


oomers today are asking themselves that age -old question how can they live longer? What determines how to live better? Do genes, lifestyle, or environment play a role? The authors of “The Longevity Project,” Howard S. Friedman, Ph.D., and Leslie R. Martin, Ph.D., have followed a selected group of people for 20 years to find answers. Using data gathered over a lifetime from the large Terman Study, Friedman and Martin (University of California, Riverside) examined the factors that contribute to

— and perhaps predict — good health and long life. In 1921, Stanford University psychologist, Dr. Lewis Terman began to document the lives of 1,500 Californians born around 1910, from childhood to death. Dr. Terman sought gifted children, and selected the brightest in a class around age 10. Eighty years later Friedman and Martin, using data from Dr. Terman’s study, investigated why some people live into old age and others die prematurely. They discovered many common health recommendations are ill-advised or simply wrong. “We’ve replaced those with more accurate guideposts to a longer, healthier life,” they write in the publication. (Longevity Project page 8) / 5

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Outlook Surprisingly, the long-lived among them did not find the secret to health in broccoli, medical tests, vitamins, or jogging. Rather, they were individuals with certain constellations of habits and patterns of living. Their personalities, career trajectories, and social lives proved highly relevant to their long-term health, often in ways we did not expect.” “Exercise, diet, stress, and weight are indeed relevant to health, but in ways that vary

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from person to person. Lists of dos and don’ts are nearly impossible for most of us to follow for days, months, and years. Thankfully, the Terman study participants showed us that struggling with lists of specific health rules is unnecessary. The Terman men and women were born decades before running shoes, designer spas, and fancy medical tests were invented, yet many lived long, healthy lives.” Friedman and Martin

explain that most people who live longer lives are generally healthier throughout their lives. “We found that those who are healthier tend to be happier, and those who are happier tend to be healthier — but not for the reasons you might first imagine! The lives of the Terman participants open a new window to understanding the intriguing relationship between health and happiness.” A few of the authors’ intriguing findings: The top personality trait that predicts a long, healthy life is "conscientiousness" — the "qualities of a prudent, persistent, well-organized person." Do happiness and optimism predict a longer life? The authors show that a positive outlook can reduce stress and encourage healthy behaviors. But they also conjecture that a person who is overly optimistic may be more likely to take risks. In the same way, we have long known that sociability promotes healthy aging. And yet, some highly social individuals are more inclined to drink and smoke. The authors found that the area of sociability correlating most closely to longevity is the trait of helping other people. The book includes a set of self-assessment questionnaires for those

readers who would like to see how they personally stack up against the Terman Study subjects. And while interpretation of the data is an inexact science, the authors stress that their findings serve best as a set of prompts to encourage us to examine our own lives. They remind us that the quantity of our life — how long we live — is not as important as the quality. The authors conclude, "Predicting your own health and longevity from that of your parents is mediocre at best. While tendencies toward certain diseases run in families, and some diseases have clear genetic cause, it is not a predictor of whether you will have a heart attack or live a long life? The experience of your relatives is not very precise. Your own life path matters more." ("The Longevity Project: Surprising Discoveries for Health and Long Life from the Landmark Eight-Decade Study," Howard S. Friedman, Ph.D., and Leslie R. Martin, Ph.D., Hudson Street Press )


Not everything grows equally.

Plant your financial future with the AARP Retirement Calculator.


any retirees assume that Social Security Income (SSI) is tax-free. This is not necessarily the case. The Social Security Amendments of 1983 opened the door for some SSI to be taxable, depending on the amount of other income someone earns in a calendar year.

How much do you need to live comfortably through your retirement? It’s a complex question. Thankfully, AARP can help you get the answers you need with its retirement calculator. And because it’s from AARP, it’s advice you can trust. Visit to get started. Tell your friends and family about the AARP Retirement Calculator.

First, let’s explore a couple of Social Security myths that endanger the system’s public support. Myth #1 – Social Security is going bankrupt. No, it is not! Even in the unlikely event that nothing changes and the program’s entire surplus runs out in 2036, as projected, checks would keep coming. Payroll taxes at current rates would cover 77 percent of all the future benefits promised. That’s true for young and old alike, and includes inflation adjustments. Myth #2 – I’d be better off if I’d kept my Social Security taxes in my own investment account. HMMMMM-you’re assuming that you would faithfully put that money aside, year after year of your working life, in a mix of stocks and bonds, without ever skipping a year, drawing on it for

emergencies, or selling when the market dropped. Would you, or could you, really do that? So, how much could your SSI be taxed? As much as 85 percent of it! Three factors determine how much of it will be taxed. Those three factors are: 1) The total amount of income that you earn, 2) Where it comes from, and 3) Your provisional income – this is a Modified Adjusted Gross Income (MAGI) calculation. This calculation can be figured out using Worksheet 34-1 of IRS Publication 915 or the Social Security benefits worksheet included in the Form 1040 Instructions booklet.

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Outlook How is the “provisional” income determined? In simple terms, this is calculated using your Adjusted Gross Income (AGI), minus one-half (1/2) of your Social Security benefits. Note, tax-free interest from investments, such as, municipal bonds also is added into provisional income. How much income can you earn before your SSI is taxable? The 2011 limits are pretty straightforward: ➢ Single Person – up to 50 percent of your SSI can be taxed if your provisional income is greater than $25,000, and up to 85 percent of your SSI can be taxed if your provisional income exceeds $34,000. ➢ Married or Head of Household – up to 50 percent of your SSI can be taxed if your provisional income is greater than $32,000, and up to 85 percent of your SSI can be taxed if your provisional income exceeds $44,000.

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Who does not have to worry about these taxes? If your only source of income is Social Security or equivalent retirement railroad benefits, it is unlikely that your SSI will be taxed and you may not even need to file a federal return. In 2011, Social Security benefits are tax-exempt for single taxpayers with provisional income under $25,000 and married/head of household taxpayers with provisional income under $32,000. What can be done to reduce (or avoid) the tax? If you are close to hitting either the 50 percent or 85 percent taxable levels, you may want to think twice about moves that could take your provisional income over the threshold – for example, receiving a sizable chunk of profit from selling stock, or converting a traditional IRA to a Roth IRA. Here are some common moves you could make with the input of a qualified tax professional:

➢ Delaying some investment income, rental income or pension income until the following year. ➢ Shifting assets from accounts or investments producing reportable income (CD’s, etc) into: • tax-deferred alternatives • Working less • Ramping up pre-tax contributions to an IRA 401(k) or 403(b) Before April rolls around, it would be wise to consider the different ways to manage taxes on your Social Security benefits. Some new SSI recipients may be taken aback by the tax they end up paying; alternatively, you can plan on ways to reduce this tax burden. Planning for 2012 and future years should be done now, not later, with the help of a qualified tax professional. Jerry Jones is a CERTIFIED PUBLIC ACCOUNTANT in Reno. He can be reached at 775-828-0767 or

AARP Tax-Aide Provides Free Tax Preparation in Northern Nevada


Deborah Jaquith, AARP Nevada Director of Communications

incomes of less than $30,000. Most of those who use Tax Aide indicate that they would have paid to have their returns prepared without the program. When you go to a Tax Aide site to have your taxes done, you’ll want to bring a copy of last year’s return, all W-2 and 1099 forms (including SSA-1099 for Social Security benefits paid, property tax records if applicable), all receipts and canceled checks (if itemizing), Social Security cards for yourself and dependents, and if applicable, dependent care provider information including name, employer, and Social Security number. Don’t worry, if you forget an important document, our tax preparers will work with you to assure you complete your tax documents.


s tax season rolls around again, are you dreading filling out your forms? Perhaps the AARP Tax Aide program can help.

The AARP Tax Aide provides tax preparation assistance from February 6 through April 16. You do NOT need to be a member of AARP or a retiree to use AARP’s free tax service available to taxpayers with middle and lower incomes of all ages. We all know that tax law can be confusing. AARP Tax Aide volunteers can make the process of filling out tax returns a whole lot easier. AARP volunteers have gone through a rigorous training program offered in conjunction with the Internal Revenue Service, and have the skills to prepare your return while taking advantage of money saving provisions of the tax code. Well-trained AARP Tax Aide volunteers will offer assistance with personal income tax returns; and to speed your refund, most of our sites file returns electronically. During the 2010 tax season, 236 AARP Tax-Aide volunteers helped more than 23,000 Nevada residents file their income tax returns statewide. The program is offered at 16 public sites in northern Nevada (and many sites in Southern Nevada) such as senior centers, libraries and other places convenient to the general public. Visit our Website for a complete list of the northern Nevada sites, Who uses Tax Aide? People like you. According to research, about 4 out of 5 (78%) Tax Aide clients nationwide are 60 or older, 63 percent are women, and more than half have annual

AARP Tax-Aide is offered through the AARP Foundation in conjunction with the IRS. For more information visit or call toll-free 1-888-AARP-NOW.

Wanted: Washoe County’s best people 55 and older Washoe County’s Retired and Senior Volunteer Program (RSVP) has scores of fun and rewarding volunteer positions waiting just for you. Learn more RSVP has a monthly open information session for people curious about volunteering. Come hear what’s available. Every 4th Wednesday of the month 3 - 4:30 p.m. Sanford Center for Aging Center for Molecular Medicine University of Nevada, Reno Campus tSTWQ!VOSFEV Call or email for more information & directions RSVP is sponsored by the University of Nevada, Reno Sanford Center for Aging and funded by the Corporation for National & Community Service and the Nevada Aging and Disability Services Division. / 11


Financial Issues for Long-Distance Caregivers Kathy DiCenso DiCenso & Associates


s older friends and relatives increasingly need our help, it’s not always possible for us to move back to personally oversee their care. The same goes for younger loved ones who face sudden illness or injury that robs them of their ability to care for themselves. How can we be in charge when we can’t be onsite? It takes a plan, one best made well ahead of the time when there’s a real need. In reality, caregiving issues should be part of any person’s long-term financial plan if there’s even the remotest chance that a spouse, parent, or friend may need our care. Statistics suggest that the possibility may not be all that remote, particularly

as Americans live longer. In a 2009 Report, The National Alliance for Caregivers, in collaboration with AARP and the MetLife Foundation, reported that currently 29 percent of the U.S. adult population, or 65.7 million people, are caregivers, including 31 percent of all households. Those numbers are expected to grow largely due to the aging Baby Boomer demographic. Where to start? A good first stop is a qualified financial planner who can look at your overall financial picture and the financial picture for your loved one. Then you can determine how much help you can offer from a money perspective, either in direct care, travel expenses or expenses for

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Are their legal documents in place? Does this parent, relative or friend have a will and necessary health directives in place? Health directives name a single individual to manage all key health decisions if a patient cannot make them; a will depending on their assets and lifestyle situation – if they have kids to raise or a business to run, for example – check to see what detailed legal instructions they have in place to manage their finances or run their business if they are incapacitated. Do you know their financial situation? It’s rarely easy to talk about money even in the closest relationships. But once care preferences are known, then it’s time to discuss the loved one’s own financial preparations because one of the biggest misperceptions about

long-term care is that the government provides financial support for nursing or home-based care. A qualified financial planner can be an important mediator in this very detailed discussion, asking both sides critical questions to illuminate what financial resources are available and might be needed. Who should handle what? Bigger families and groups can share responsibilities, and that can make the caregiving job easier. But if you are soloing as the financial and health power of attorney, it’s important to devise ways to do remote tasks efficiently and bring in help when necessary to supervise effectively from afar. Consider a geriatric care manager: The National Association of Professional Geriatric Care Managers is

an organization of on-theground caregivers and caregiving coordinators with skills that include nursing, gerontology, social work and psychology. [] Develop a paperwork system: The sheer amount of paperwork associated with caring for a sick or disabled person can shake the most organized individual. A trained financial expert can help you set up a system for collecting and sorting all the medical and care-based paperwork during your loved one’s care. What if I need to move? Never say never – this is the reality of a caregiver’s life. Particularly as loved ones get to the end stage of their lives or suffer emergencies, supervising caregivers need to plan for anything. / 13

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Katie Pace

My Generation


atie Pace is a familiar face in northern Nevada and someone to get to know. The Regional Representative in U.S. Senator Dean Heller’s Reno office, Katie works on Social Security, Medicare, and a host of matters facing seniors and boomers in our community. Working in the constituent office is just a part of her story. The Pace name is also recognized with the local eatery Pace’s Pizza Balls which opened in 2009 at The Summit in Reno. Pace’s Pizza Balls is the creation of husband Dwight and his brother David, and it is not unusual to find Katie serving pizza balls to frequent patrons. Today Dwight is opening Pace’s Pizza Balls in Charleston, South Carolina. Taking on a partner, he hopes to make a franchise of the business. A mother of two and now a grandparent, Katie loves working with people in the community. She developed those skills working in the family’s business, which focused on aging and geriatric care. Eymann Publications, named after father Ken Eymann, produced 11 newsletters that reached a promotional list of 50,000 readers in nursing homes and hospitals. Katie says the publication specialized in health care issues addressing geriatric education, and providing a director’s and nursing guide. Eymann, who will turn 90 in March and lives in Reno, opened the family business in 1969 after working as a journalist for a health publication in Minneapolis. He did a promotion and decided it was a good idea for a business reaching the nursing home industry for in-service training, and educational materials on quality care issues,

Katie Pace in her Reno office where she works on constituent issues for U.S. Senator Dean Heller.

activities, death, and psychology. Eymann moved to Reno in 1974 with a young family. Katie and her sister Mary Pat began working the family business after college specializing in printing, customer relations, and promotions; the 18-years also gave Katie time to raise her children at home. Katie and Dwight placed Ashley and Jessica in Catholic schools, and both volunteered their spare time in their children’s sports activities. He coached basketball at Our Lady of the Snows all through elemen-

tary school, while she served as team mom for elementary, high school and traveling volleyball teams. A few years later, Katie, a Manogue graduate, was hired as Manogue’s Internship Coordinator. Graduating from UNR with a degree in Child Development and Family Life, and working at the National Judicial College, she was a natural. “I set up internships outside of school,” she explained. “We had kids going to doctor’s offices, learning graphic design, all sorts of areas.” / 15

My Generation Postal Service, event scheduling for staff, Senatorial Recognition, certificates, and the Intern Program. “Social Security entails anything from retirement to disability benefits, Supplemental Security income, and claims. There are a lot of instances where people are elderly or disabled and don’t know what to do because the process is extremely complicated. For example, just knowing what form to fill out can be stressful.” Pace says she acts as a liaison between the constituent and the federal agency.

and telephone activity. “We listen to the constituent’s concerns, take down their contact information, and send it to the senator and our Washington, DC staff. They record and respond to all opinions and relay to the constituent where the senator stands on an issue. Senator Heller values all constituent input.”

Pace must also know the ever changing rules coming out of the federal government on Medicare or Social Security. And she will keep pulse of community issues by attending seminars, senior coalitions, advocacy organization meetings, nonprofits, and a wide host of community events to remain informed. “If there is a problem we want to be ready to address the concerns,” she said.

Katie Pace can be reached at 400 S. Virginia Street, #738, Reno, NV 89501, or by calling 775-686-5770, or

Katie and many others on staff all perform casework in the constituent office regarding claims and claim status. “People get Katie Pace awarding UNR graduate students Senatorial frustrated. Recognition and certificates for accomplishment. They don’t She placed 45 kids a semester in all know where their types of businesses, on average 90 stuclaim is or where dents a year. to turn. If there is dire need we try to In February of 2007, Katie joined expedite it.” then Congressman Dean Heller’s office The Senatorial in Reno. Katie now works in constituent office also serves as services in the Senate office (since a conduit for con2011). She is a good resource for stituent opinion. boomers who are just entering retireWhen major legisment and those with disabilities. Her lation comes up, duties include: Social Security, Senator Heller’s Medicare, mortgage issues, Housing & office receives Urban Development, the United States plenty of e-mails 16 / / 2012

Ironically, Katie Pace has never been a political person. As much as she loves her job, when asked she says of politics, “I vote.” Constituent issues are nonpartisan so no one should be deterred from contacting the office for assistance, information, or resources.

Side Bar


Pace’s Pizza Balls, located in The Summit, is a popular restaurant and a hit with Wolf Pack fans who can dine on the Wolf Pack Ball in support of UNR. The brainchild of Dwight and David Pace, Pace’s Pizza Balls is now expanding in Charleston, South Carolina. (Continued page 19)

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Spare Time February 11- May 20 Out of the Forest Art Nouveau Lamps, Nevada Museum of Art

January 23 – March 9 Victoria Veedell’s Atmospheric Conditions will be displayed at the Metro Gallery, located in City Hall. Amy Hunter’s Altered Abstraction will be displayed at the McKinley

East Gallery, located in the McKinley Arts and Culture Center, free. February - April 1- Benise, Eldorado Hotel Casino, downtown Reno (775) 7865700.

February 11 - Electric Catfish, 7 p.m., Bartley Ranch Regional Park, $3 donation, (775) 828-6612. February 11 - LeAnn Rimes, Silver Legacy Resort Casino, 8 p.m. February 11 - Reno Vampire Crawl, downtown Reno. February 11 - A Spicy, Sizzling-Style Show, Café del Rio, C Street, Virginia City, vintage clothing. The Jazzy 4 D’s Collectibles in collaboration with local merchants, a south of the boarder cooking treat, 11:30 a.m., call (775) 741-2973. February 14 - Mid-Week Snow Train, Donner Pass Route, Valentine’s Sweethearts; Feb. 21 - 50’s Sock Hop; Feb. 28 - Fat Tuesday; March 6 - Classic County, (800) 783-0783. February 18 - Richard Elloyan, 7 p.m., Bartley Ranch Regional Park, $3 donation, (775) 828-6612. February 19 - Landscape Futures, Nevada Museum of Art.

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February 25 - Contraband, 7 p.m., Bartley Ranch Regional Park, $3 donation, (775) 828-6612.

March 3 - Blarney Band, 7 p.m., Bartley Ranch Regional Park, $3 donation, (775) 828-6612. March 6 - Newcomers Club of Reno-Sparks, informational Coffee, 9:30 a.m., first Tuesday of each month, Best Western Airport Plaza Hotel. Call (775) 881-2040 for reservations or Next meeting: April 3 -April Coffee; May 1 --May Coffee; June 5 --June Coffee March 7 - 11 - Shooting The West, a unique photography symposium in Winnemucca, presentations, exhibits, vendor booths, contests, field trips, and musical performances,, (877) 623-3501. March 10 - Reno Youth Jazz Orchestra, 7 p.m., Bartley Ranch Regional Park, $3 donation, (775) 828-6612. March 16 and 17 - Willie Nelson, 8 p.m. Tickets are $65/premium seating $80. Visit or (775) 325-7401.

What’s a



ace's Pizza Balls is the brainchild of brothers Dwight and David Pace, drawing from memories of their childhood in Erie, PA eating pepperoni balls at the local pizza shop. Baked dough with pepperoni and cheese inside, the two indulged in the spherical treats as often as they could manage. Many years later, and after long, long periods of trial and error, Pace's Pizza Balls was born in 2009. Located at The Summit

sauce and cheese, and can include one topping. Options range from a traditional combination-style named the Wolf Pack Ball in support of the University of Nevada, to the popular Meat Ball featuring pepperoni, sausage and salami, to more adventurous concoctions such as the Fowl Ball, packed with BBQ chicken, red bell pepper and red onion. (The cost of each ball is 4.25) Pace's Pizza Balls also offers a full selection of appetizer and dessert items (like the Goof Ball, which is filled with peanut butter and M&Ms) along with bottled drinks, fountain soda and a great selection of beer and


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A picture of Dwight at a radio show – Nevada Matters

shopping center in South Reno, these are no simple pepperoni balls as Dwight has provided over 15 traditional and innovative combinations to keep even the most eclectic of eaters satisfied. Each ball comes about the size of a baseball, with all of your favorite pizza toppings uniquely packed into a delicious golden crust, handmade to order. They also offer a T-Ball, a smaller size perfect for kids that contains

wine. Check out Pace's Pizza Balls complete menu online at, or “like us” on Facebook at facebook/pizzaballs, or twitter @pizzaballs1, or you can contact the store at (775) 853-3760. Pizza Balls are a unique and truly local creation taking pizza to a new dimension! Stop by Pace’s Pizza Balls in February and mention that you read this article, and you will receive a 10% discount! / 19

The Boutique Named

The Jazzy Four-D’s Collectable in Virginia City

by Debbie Prince Lewis


iggles and laughs are just two of the ingredients that make up the boutique that recently opened in the Antique Attic within the

Virginia City Antique Mall on C Street. Old, new, and repurposed collectibles adorn every nook and cranny 20/ / 2012

in the space three Reno women have created. Designing and decorating eye candy for shoppers is a natural for these three women. Opening the boutique gives new meaning to the meaning of the expression “Leap of Faith” especially opening up in Virginia City during the winter months. The warm environment of the boutique makes up for any cold weather the traveler may experience. So many treasures such as western gear, new and vintage clothing, and hats along with a jazzy girly look provide something for everyone. Original Nevada art finds a place to show off the state’s outback beauty. The concept of “oldies, but goodies” takes heart in this shop. Children are not left out and prices reflect the need families may have to stretch their dollar. Music welcomes both men and women to browse a bit. This group of ladies believes that having fun is critical to success. The owners of the Antique

Attic, Fred and Vicky, are having fun by sharing in the creation of a new look. The three Baby Boomers will be a hit for locals and visitors alike. After all, the atmosphere of Virginia City lends to a unique experience found only in Nevada. Please come by the antique mall in VC where “mall” has a new meaning because of its rustic appearance, creaking board walk planks and the charm of the Comstock is everywhere.

Wild horse photos by Debbie Prince Lewis will be on display at the Artist Co-op in Reno during the month of March. The show called, Photo Fandango VI, will feature the work of over 20 photographers.

Debbie Prince Lewis

Zulus in Nevada


ook, over there, wild horses! A small band of horses were clustered about 200 yards away in the Monitor Valley just north of Belmont, Nevada. Grazing peacefully against the stormy Nevada sky the horses were just visible to the naked eye. We stopped on the road with hopes of being able to catch a closer view of this beautiful sight. The horses were too far away to photograph so I started searching any way to get closer, but few paths lead out onto this vast range. All of a sudden the six started running. Not just slowly moving forward, but galloping full speed ahead. All were lined up in one single straight line with equal distance between each other, it seemed like there must been some kind of signal given to start their journey. Set against the snow covered mountains; the marching of the horses in orderly fashion was mesmerizing. Their relentless force began taking a course that was clearly going to intersect the road destination. Joy was overwhelming inside me as the realization that our paths would soon cross. The speed of the herd was kept at a constant pace, hoofs and manes flying in the wind in rhythm. All six were together now, heads pointed in one

direction, with determination on their faces. What had made them leap into action? Action with such precision and grace that it became a magical sight to witness. They moved with the wind, and they reminded me of Zulu warriors marching purposefully together, endlessly, tirelessly, toward an unseen destination as in a movie scene. They proceeded across the gravel road without even missing a beat. We sat on the road taking in the glory of this herd’s movement, but to them we seemed to be invisible. Not one took notice of us who had stopped to honor their graceful procession. Not one faltered in keeping the line straight and true. Five golden brown horses and one white made up this family. Beauty creatures who are so often misunderstood and rounded up and confined for hopefully adoption. But not today, they are the free animals of Nevada that courageously weather this Nevada desert life of heat and storms as well as guarding themselves from a variety of predators. To them it had just been another journey through the sage brush, but for us it had been a gift that had been given freely and was priceless. / 21

New Eyes ~ New World©

Healthy Living

Annette Childs, Ph.D.



hen I was a graduate student working on my Master’s Degree, I spent an entire semester working with a group of men at a mental health day-treatment center. As part of my training I was given the responsibility of running a weekly men’s group for those who suffered from anxiety disorders. Being given this task to manage on my own was a responsibility that gave me my own anxiety disorder. I was 23-years-old and very much still a student in my level of knowledge. Each day, as I headed to the treatment center, I carefully pulled my long blond hair up into a bun, and donned a pair of very weak prescription eyeglasses that I really didn’t need. I was uneasy with my youth so I was trying to hide it. As the group process began to work its magic, despite my lack of confidence, a transformation began to take place. The transformation was not due to any clinical expertise on my part; I was simply following the ‘group format’ sheet that my internship supervisor had provided me. And although the group felt a bit ‘clunky’ in the beginning, after about three

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weeks of interaction this began to change. Postures relaxed, stories came forward, and we each began to soften and reveal ourselves to one another. Suddenly this group of eight men and I were acting in a cohesive manner and moving forward. Four months later, on the last day of my internship, there was genuine emotion as we held our last group together. Although I cannot recall any of their names, I can still see their faces, and I still remember bits and pieces of each of their stories. Even today, a part of me is still connected to that group. Did something unusual happen between us? Not likely. Many scientific theorists believe that all living organisms exist within a field of consciousness that can act as a connector between us. Examples of this can be seen in nature. Have you ever watched a school of fish move in unison, as if they were one body? Or peered skyward and marveled at a flock of starlings made up of thousands of tiny birds that quickly dart to and fro in an intricate pattern without a single bird colliding with another. How does that happen? According to biologist Rupert Sheldrake, this occurs because of morphic fields, an apparent web of energy that forms between living organisms. Sheldrake theorizes that these schools of fish and flocks of birds are simply responding to a collective wave of energy they are each a part of. Although this sounds like modernistic or perhaps new-age thinking, what Sheldrake and many others are postulating is simply that the whole is contained in each of its parts. It is the same thing that William James spoke of when he coined the term ‘collective unconscious.’ In short, what seems to be ‘out there’ is probably really ‘in here.’ I know, it’s a huge concept to try and digest, but this ‘field theory’ that has been hinted at by many great minds for quite some time, has probably borne the test of time for a reason. Field theory is something you may have to train yourself to see, but once you do, it becomes obvious. I see life through a lens of field theory. In my work, the stronger my rapport with a client, the stronger the field experiences seem to get. Sometimes it will look like simple synchronicity, and at other times it transcends the simple and becomes something that really pushes against the known, usual boundaries of time and space. An example of this came last year. I was driving down a local street that runs along a golf course. As I peered out at the course, I clearly saw one of my clients as he tapped a ball into the hole. I had been seeing him for grief therapy after the death of his wife. In the course of our work together we had been exploring this notion of field theory as a way for him to begin to find a sense of place for his now deceased soul mate. I honked my horn and waved my hand at him through the open window. He looked at me irritably but did not wave back. This prompted me to send him a quick text message that said, “Hey, hope you are enjoying your golf game! Annette.” With this began a quick volley of text mes-

sages which I recount below: Client: “Thanks, but how did you know I am golfing?” Me: “I am the one who just drove by you honking and waving.” Client: “No one drove by me.” Me: “Are you wearing a blue shirt and a white hat?” Client: “Yes.” Me: “At Washoe Golf Course, right?” Client: “No, I am at Somersett.” There were no more texts for a few minutes. We were ten miles apart. I think we were both trying to gather our collective consciousness! When we did talk, it was clear to both of us that I had not seen him golfing where I thought I saw him golfing. But the eerie fact remained that I had depicted him doing what he was doing, at the time he was doing it, in the attire he was doing it in. The odds of all of this make more sense when you factor in the topic of conversation between us at our prior appointment had been fields of consciousness, and how they connect us to one another even when time and distance interrupt. This odd event is one of thousands that have graced my path. Never do I lose my sense of wonder at these things. Each time something like this happens it just adds to my own sense of field theory. I like to believe that the web of connection that links each of us to those around us is strengthened by things like empathy, love, and compassion. When we feel deeply for someone, or with someone, the tendrils of this cosmic web grow stronger. My client’s raw grief, coupled with my deep compassion for his journey tied us together. Even

though rational information indicated that I had not just seen him, field information indicated that perhaps I just had. Moments like this have played a large part in our work together. Field theory mixed with direct experience of the same has become the foundation for his ability to forge a belief that his wife continues on in a realm that is just beyond the edge of his perceptions. I started this article with a reference to a men’s group that I ran many years ago, 21 years ago to be exact. I told you that although I could not remember any of those men’s names, they had each left their imprint on my life. I know this to be true. A few weeks ago I was on my way home from work. I was rushed and impatient, and when I could see the traffic slowing in front of me, I turned off onto a side street to try to find a faster route home. Just as I turned, a man on a bike emerged into the street in front of me and proceeded to slowly peddle his bike down the center of the road. I was unable to go around him, so I idled slowly behind him as he moved toward the next street. A moment before this I had been hasty and impatient, and without room for something like this, yet as I watched him from behind I felt my whole being swell with compassion. I let my world slow down to the same pace as his and I simply watched from behind. He had bags of groceries dangling from each handle bar, and was painstakingly trying to balance his bike as he slowly pedaled forward. I idled behind him, kind of surprised at my own wellspring of patience that had erupted out of nowhere, which is not my norm when I am driving. The street became wider at one (In the Field page 25) / 23

Healthy Living

Wellness A – Z

LuAnne Steininger

“N” – Nine Nice Ways to Say No


popular children’s DVD which teaches the letters of the alphabet has a humorous approach to the letter “N”. It is referred to as the naughty letter “N”, as in nothing, never and no. Its’ negative connotation is to refuse, deny or disagree. Culturally, many of us are taught to agree, accommodate and please others. Why is it so hard for some of us to say no? Perhaps we want to please, we are afraid of others being angry, we might have a fear of being rejected, or we think we are the only one who can do the job. How often have we said yes when we really wanted to say no? Can you remember a time you said yes and then resented it? Here are some phrases and statements from Meggin McIntosh, Ph.D., Emphasis on Excellence Inc., They are useful for almost any life or work situation. 1. No, but thanks for asking. 2. Not now. 3. Let me get back to you after I’ve checked on a few things. 4. I am busy right now, but let’s schedule a time to meet or to talk by phone. Meggin McIntosh 5. Let me verify some details with you about this project, request, meeting. 6. I want to clarify my conditions, parameters, and /or constraints, so that we are both in agreement. 7. I am not the right person for this, and here is a suggestion of who might be. 8. I cannot agree to the whole task, but I can agree to take

on one part. 9. No, I simply can’t say “Yes”. 10. I can easily say “Yes” to this because I know exactly what it entails. OK, there are more than nine phrases. There’s a bonus tip. Here are some suggestions to support you as you try these new statements. 1. Pick the phrase or phrases that you are most likely to try or make up one of your own. 2. Write them down and carry them with you. 3. Practice saying them out loud to yourself. Get comfortable with your own voice. 4. Pay attention to how you feel when someone makes a request of you. 5. Be willing to say exactly how you feel or what you are thinking. If you’re not sure, say so. If you want to say no but hesitate, perhaps say something like, “I want to say yes, but I’m hesitant. I’ll say no for now.” 6. Explore some of the reasons why it is hard to say no. Journaling or talking with a trusted friend can be helpful. 7. Keep track of the times you agree to do something when you really want to say no. Look for a pattern. Does it involve certain people or types of people, or certain situations? 8. Never explain unless it’s a simple answer like, “I’m out of town or I’m not available.” Tell the truth then you don’t have to remember what you said. 9. Don’t apologize. It weakens your response and leaves you open to being manipulated. 10. Decide to have a great life! Take steps in the direction of freedom. One step in this direction will propel you to live a life filled with purpose, intention and joy. The key to a healthy "no" is to remember the "yes" that "no" is making space for. - Alan Cohen

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LuAnne Steininger, B.S. Health Education, is the former Wellness Coordinator at the Sanford Center for Aging, University of Nevada, Reno. She is currently the Director of the R.S.V.P. Senior Kickers, a senior performing dance troupe sponsored by the Retired and Senior Volunteer Program of Washoe County. She is a TTrainer for the Chronic Disease Self-Management Program, and the Diabetes Self-Management Program, Stanford University Patient Education Center. She has enjoyed working with people ages 50+ since 1988.

The Field / page 23 point, and I was easily able to maneuver my car around him and resume a normal speed. As I did just that, I waved over my shoulder and caught his reflection in my rear view mirror. I was stunned to see the face of one of my group members from 20 years ago reflecting back at me. Although I could not recall his name, I was able to immediately recall his story. He was a war veteran who had suffered severe Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. A gentle soul, who was kind and amiable, but had horrible flashbacks anytime he was confronted by loud noises or hasty actions. Almost instantly, the what if ’s ran through my head . . . primarily, “What if I had laid on my horn, or hollered at him?” I was oh so thankful that compassion had overridden my haste, but I think my choice had less to do with my nature, and more to do with the morphic field that formed between us some twenty years ago. Some part of me recognized a kindred spirit in him, even when I had no conscious idea who he was. That day I felt a bit like a starling that was part of a huge flock of darting birds. And although my mind was in a hurry, trying to get me to fly faster and higher, somehow a field of compassion that was stronger than my haste took over to guide me so that there was no collision. One of my favorite Rumi quotes sums it up best: “Out beyond ideas of right and wrong doing, there is a field. I will meet you there.” I love meeting in the field. In my world, it’s the only place to be. Annette Childs holds a Ph.D. in psychology and is a state licensed therapist. Learn more about her work at or by calling (775) 853-4142. / 25

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Never Too Late for Healthy Resolutions Have you resolved to be healthier in 2012?


e all make resolutions for the New Year - lose weight, read more, learn a new skill… But while statistics show that most people abandon their New Year resolutions within a few short weeks, here are some health-related goals that will keep you healthy this year and for years to come. Even though we’re past New Year’s Eve, it’s not too late to make a few. Kick Butt in 2012 and live a longer tobacco-free life. Tobacco and smoking cause many chronic diseases, such as lung cancer and other forms of cancer; heart disease; and respiratory diseases, including emphysema, chronic bronchitis, and pneumonia. Each year in the United States, about 440,000 people die as a result of smoking. This is more than the entire county population of Washoe County. Smoking also affects the immune system, which

increases a person's risk for infections. Smoking increases the risk for fractures, dental diseases, sexual problems, eye diseases, and peptic ulcers. When people quit smoking, their bodies begin to recover, and their risk for smokingrelated diseases decreases over time. Take a step in the right direction and stay active. Whether it’s walking, jogging, climbing, ballroom dancing, or riding a bike, regular exercise helps improve your overall health and fitness and reduces your risk for many chronic diseases. Two and one-half hours of moderate activity weekly can change your outlook on life. Simple things like taking the stairs instead of the elevator, or riding a bike to school or work help you fitness-wise. Check yourself out! A health screening, check-up, or physical exam can help find problems before they start. They also can help find problems early, when your chances for treatment and cure are better. By getting the right

health services, screenings, and treatments you are taking steps that help your chances for living a longer, healthier life. Regular exams also insure that you and your significant others know when immunizations and other important tests are due, like mammograms and colorectal exams. Choose to snooze. Insufficient sleep is associated with a number of chronic diseases and conditions – such as diabetes, cardiovascular disease, obesity, and depression. How you feel and perform during the day is directly related to how much sleep you get the night before. Humans need between 7 – 14 hours of sleep a day depending on age. Remember sleep is a necessity, not a luxury. Protect yourself and family. Safeguard yourself and family from injury and disease by wearing seatbelts, bicycle and motorcycle helmets, sunscreen, and insect repellent when appropriate. Hundreds of thousands of hospital visits and billions of dollars in medical expenses can be avoided by using protective measures. Make 2012 a healthier year for you and your loved ones by keeping your New Year’s Resolutions.

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My Generation

By Joyce Swanson Hall

Boot Camp Means Serious Fitness

Photo: Joyce Swanson Hall

As personal trainer, Colleen Bannister (far right) looks in on the 6 Week Workout boot camp participants as they balance on their tailbones while tossing a ball back and forth.


ou’re going to sweat. Your heart rate will climb. The next day, your muscles will ache. But if you survive boot camp for at least a month, you can dramatically improve your fitness level. Boot camp integrates cardiovascular exercise with strength training and core exercises. This tough workout yields results because it demands participants push themselves beyond their comfort level. Yet results can be impressive. Ryan Golec, a 28 / / 2012

personal trainer at South Reno Athletic Club, said he’s seen people increase their fitness levels from 30 to 60 percent after six to eight weeks in boot camp. Golec takes weight and body measurements when people begin classes and again after several weeks. Participants lose weight and inches, and also progress to lifting heavier weights, he said. A 60-minute class begins with some kind of cardiovascular exercise to raise the heart rate. Trainers keep stu-

dents moving through strength and core exercises and then back to cardio to keep their heart rates elevated for the entire hour. Participants should be prepared to lift weights, do squats, work their core muscles, use a variety of exercise equipment and run, walk or cycle. Boot camp is the routine people try when they don’t get results from other types of exercise. “Women in particular will be

on a stair climber or treadmill, and see no progress,” said Colleen Bannister, personal trainer and owner of 6 Week Workout in Carson City. The cardio workout raises metabolism only while a person is exercising, she explained. “Resistance exercise will raise your metabolism for 24 hours afterward and build lean muscle. When you add lean muscle mass to your body, you’ll burn more calories.” Brooke Boyd, group fitness instructor at Anytime Fitness

in Sparks, explained how she adapts exercises for those new to her class. “You may not be able to do bicep curls with 10- or 15-pound weights. You might start at five pounds, or at the very bottom, with two pound weights.” Those who cannot jog or run can walk. If floor push-ups are too hard, it’s okay to do them against a wall. Boyd said boot camp’s goal is to create muscle fatigue and keep the heart rate at 80 to 90 percent of its maximum, which is the number of beats per minute the body can sustain during physical activity. Subtract your age from 220 to get an estimate. For example, a 50-year-old’s maximum heart rate is 170. In boot camp, that person’s target rate will be between 136 and 153 beats per minute. Classes typically meet at least two times a week for four to six weeks, but those seeking a real kick-start to their fitness can follow the example of Sparks resident Becky Blank, who plunged into a five-day-a-week camp. “I hadn’t been exercising much and a friend said ‘come along, you need to do this with me,’” Blank said. She was 53 at the time and boot camp sparked her motivation to continue working out. “I think I was the oldest one in the class. There were soccer teams in there and running teams and kids who went to school with my daughter,” Blank said. “I wasn’t going to try to compete with them. I was one of the slower ones and that was not a good feeling.”

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Boot camp participants at 6 Week Workout in Carson City perform sit ups with their arms linked.

Trainers and participants recommend observing or testing out various classes before committing to a particular boot camp. Some are geared toward a younger clientele, or serious fitness buffs. Greg Hendricks, now 56, started boot camp sessions several years ago when he wasn’t seeing results from his regular fitness routine. “I was way overweight, pushing 236 pounds, and I was in a high stress management job. I was trying to workout at a gym and getting no results on my treadmill and lifting weights for an hour. So I decided to try this and kick the cardio up,” said Hendricks, who now trains at 6 Week Workout. “It was more fun. I dropped down to 207. Then, I could do things like climb mountains and

ride 65-mile rides and things that I always wanted to do before but suffered when I did them.” Sally Zola wasn’t looking to climb mountains when she signed up for boot camp two years ago. “Two years ago, I fell and broke two ribs,” said Zola, 63, of Carson City. “That scared me because I wanted to get my body stronger. I have beginning stages of osteopenia and I also have asthma. I needed to go to a place that would bring me alternate exercises,” something boot camp allows. Blank summed up the boot camp experience: “It was tough to go every day, but it also was good because it helps you get into the habit of exercising.” Sources: South Reno Athletic Club,

9393 Gateway Drive, Reno, NV 89521 Phone: (775) 853-4050 Web site: 6 Week Workout 3476 Executive Pointe Way, Carson City, NV 89706 Phone: (775) 790-9679 Web site: Anytime Fitness 3170 Vista Blvd., Suite 106, Sparks, NV 89436 Phone: (775) 358-1144 Web site: Joyce Swanson Hall is a freelance writer and editor living in Sparks, Nevada, where she hikes the Spanish Springs hills nearly every day. Read her blog at Send fitness story ideas to / 29

Healthy Living

Leigh Hurst

Birthing a New Sexual You


or the past 15 years I have studied sexuality and aging. I am always looking for new ways to teach aging adults about sexuality. I recently received the opportunity to speak with Tziporah Kingsbury about a workshop I am bringing to Reno. I hope some of you will join me for the workshop on March 1618th. LH: Please tell us what it is you do. TK: Since 1996, I have been traveling throughout North America and Europe, as a Transformational Coach & Conscious Sensuality Guide. I had the opportunity facilitating groups & individuals on their personal journeys of transformation and intimate connections to self. My teachings weave experiences ranging from sacred sexuality, shamanic practices, and yoga, to 11 years of training and teaching integrative/transformational breath works. My intention is in creating a safe environment/container for individuals and couples to explore, and access deep levels of transformation through expanding ones consciousness. They are guided into the shadow areas of fear, shame, guilt, anger and judgments to find a new way of relating, expressing and ultimately actualizing the depths of intimacy more consciously in the world, in all relationships from family, business, intimate connections, with lovers and husbands/wives. People get to a certain place in their life and ask how did I get

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here, where are these thoughts and beliefs coming from. We realize the lack of presence in our relationships and interactions in life. One may experience disconnection from their own bodies. This sometimes happens with unconscious eating, unfulfilling sexual life styles, and lack of presence in our conversations/communication with others. It is like living very robotic, and sex simply becomes another way to check out and run away from life itself. One realizes they have spent so much of life focusing on the struggle of life. We were taught that life is hard. LH: How does sexuality affect our health and aging? TK: It is estimated that our bodies are made up of 60 to 70 percent of water. With this in mind, in order for our body to be in optimal health our body energy must flow as an open stream to all areas. When ones energy becomes constricted or functioning at a lower rate the body creates disease otherwise known as tensions, illness or imbalance in some way. Even thoughts and emotions become stagnant. Sexual energy is healing fuel for the body, mind and spirit. It expands and flows into all areas of our lives. Sexual energy in a healthy flow has the power to support healthy hormonal production, lower cholesterol and blood pressure. When sex glands are stimulated, this can enhance the hormones which are secreted by the endocrine glands such as our adrenals, thymus, and thyroid, pituitary and pineal. Touch and enhancing the flow of our sexual energy elevates many healthy chemicals within our brain chemistry. Not only does it affect our physical bodies, as stated earlier, it has a huge effect on our emotional wellbeing. Sexual energy in the east was considered a path toward health and vitality, and a way to connect intimately with the divine. I like to say it is an act of Devotion to the Divine Within and to the Divine within those we are relating with. LH: How many Days is this event you would like to do in Reno? TK: The event is called Birthing a New Sexual You – Opening to the Divine Within. This event “Playshop” is March 9 - 11th. After this weekend you will enter the world and your relationships with great confidence, deeper intimacy, and with more creativity within your sexuality. (For more information on Tziporah go to To register call (928) 274-6787.

40 years is “Only Forever” Chef Joe Marsola Eidem


an you remember what you were doing in 1972? I was making $7,000 per year as a respiratory therapist at San Gabriel Community Hospital. I was paying $.36 cents per gallon for gas. Richard Nixon was President. My rent was $175 per month for a real nice one bedroom apartment right across from the pool. I just broke off a longterm relationship and was living a good bachelor life while working at a hospital were 86 percent of the staff were women, and mostly young and single. Since I was just out of a relationship I had no plans to bring in the new year with a date. However a few of the nurses at the hospital had different plans. They encouraged me to ask a friend, a young patient care tech, out on a date. You need to know I was young, single and it was the age of free love. I liked my women a little on the trashy side. Big hair, long fancy nails, short skirts and spiked heels. So I went to see this gal they wanted me to ask out for New Years. “They must have been joking!” I thought. “Sterile white uniform,

nurse’s cap with hair pulled back, no makeup, plain as they come. I even wondered if she ever had been on a date before. Ok, I don't have a date and I guess I can do a charity date for one night.” I was such a jerk! Well, there are two sides to this story, and that was my side. This is her side. She was told there is a guy in respiratory therapy who does not have a date, and would like to ask her out. Her first thoughts of me as I walked proudly in my white lab coat with a stethoscope around my neck were not good. “Look at this guy, he must be divorced, he thinks he’s all that, but has to be a loser. Nope not my kind of guy.” We both went back to our mutual friends and said, "are you kidding?" no way would I go out with him/her. We both were told, ‘Look, he/she doesn't have a date and neither do you. So go, it's only one night. We are all going to the same house party. After the date dump him/her.’ Ok, I asked and she agreed. I even threw in dinner at my family’s restaurant to be a nice guy. I arrived at her home on New Year’s Eve and could not believe the

location, only two blocks from my ex fiancée. I went up to the door, lot’s of noise on the other side, sounds like a big family. My thoughts were “I hope this evening

“damn I am stuck with her sister!” “Hello, I am here to pick up Valery”. The most beautiful words I heard, “I am Valery.” I was thinking “what

Joe and Valery Marsola Eidem in the early years of their relationship.

goes fast!” The door opens and there was the most beautiful girl I have ever seen, long dark hair, just the right amount of makeup. An orange mini skirt with hot pants. Wow, my first thoughts were

happen to that plane Jane from work? Who cares! She is HOT!” We went to dinner and during dinner she informed me she and her sister went to Knott’s Berry Farm for her 21st birthday. “So she is 21, / 31

great, cocktails.” We arrived at the party and boy was everyone surprised to see my date. I didn’t let her out of my site. At 12 midnight the clock struck and my life changed forever; we kissed and boy did we kiss. Yes it is a fairy tale story. My head was spinning for the next few weeks; I could not see her enough. I did something I never did with other girls I dated, I asked her if she would like to go to Sunday Mass with me and she agreed. It was just the right thing to do taking her to church. January and February were great months, we spent every minute together and saw each other at work during breaks. Our friends at work warned us we were going too fast, this was only supposed to be one date. They really warned her about me as I had a reputation of being a “player”. On leap day, February 29, 1972 she had some other plans and I was really lonely without her. We ended up calling each other that night and before our conversation was over we agreed to meet in the morning, and see a

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priest to discuss wedding plans, yes we were officially engaged. Well now that we were “officially” engaged, to me that meant that all was good to do whatever we wanted. Understand, it was the end of the “Free Love” generation. But NO, she felt it would be best to wait until we were officially married. “Wait, wait? Who waits? Ok but we are getting married ASAP.” So on April 15, 1972 we were married in a Catholic Church in South Pasadena. I am sure without a doubt she never could imagine what her life was about to become. She married a respiratory therapist who had a good job. We bought a little home in West Covina California, and all of a sudden we found out we were expecting our first of three baby boys. Then I surprised her, I wanted to move to Portland, Oregon. She did not like selling our home, but she agreed. Once in Portland I was working at the VA hospital. Valery knows I loved to cook and all my family were in the restaurant business. Then one day, I came home with

the great news that I was transferring from the surgical intensive care unit to the kitchen. I was going to be a chef. She thought I was crazy. What happen to the therapist she married? A year or so later I informed her I got a transfer to Reno, Nevada as the Chef of the VA hospital. “What leave Portland? Go to Nevada?” Was Reno the right Joe and Valery on their wedding day place to bring up three boys? “No worries,” I we were married I told her told her, “it’s only for two “this day is only forever.” As years.” That was in 1982, we we again plan to go out this still live in Reno. New Year’s Eve I will say it The past 40 years have again, this day is “Only been one adventure after Forever”. another. Our three sons God Bless all of you who have blessed us with seven grandchildren. I took being a chef to the highest level, and Valery just celebrated her 29th year with the VA hospital. I know I have gotten very old these last 40 years. I have not aged well and for the most part I have not taken very Joe and Valery Marsola Eidem good care of my body. But I have been have been blessed with a blessed, every morning I partner who is “only forever”. wake and see the same beau- Thank you to my wonderful tiful young girl in the orange beautiful wife who has stuck mini skirt with that angel of by me “only forever”. a smile that I took out on Eat well & stay healthy! New Year’s Eve. On the day Chef Joe Marsola Eidem / 33

IPad Apps


y husband and I just returned from a two -week cruise of the Mediterranean. I took my iPad and so did many Baby Boomers. It was indispensable. With or without WiFi, I have found these apps to be worth looking at and they are all free! You may already have some of these but if you don’t, go for it! Apps – for most apps, go to the app store and press on that key. Then enter a search word. Automatically, the keyboard pops up. Textfree and textfree with voice - Not only can I text but also I can include a picture from my photos. But how do I set up my contacts? Go to the already installed app, Contacts. Press +. Type in a name, just first name is okay, and type in a cell number. The contacts will show up when you enter the textfree app. Pandora – A neighbor turned me onto this one. It’s like a satellite radio. You choose singing groups or individuals and it will play their songs. This does require WiFi. PianoFree – Since I play the piano, I had to try this. Songs can play by themselves or I can use a keyboard and play myself. You choose the size of the keys, the group of notes you want to use and can even have a double layer keyboard. Travel apps – Just type in a city and maps, things to do, places to dine, etc., all appear. Just remember, to install apps, you need to be WiFi capable. This helped us out in so many cities. Kindle- Install books on your kindle or iPad at the same time or use the iBooks app. Once you have installed books, you can read them anywhere, even without WiFi. You can do the same with movies. Weather – the weather channel keeps up with weather around the world. 34 / / 2012

Eydie Scher

News – I installed USA Today and the RGJ. They require WiFi for the latest news. PS Express – Did you ever take a picture you don’t like or it’s too dark. This app lets you change the picture. It also can add dynamics like I did with my daisy plant. No, it won’t airbrush you. That would be in the paid version. Games - Go to the app store and search for specific games. Can I challenge you to scrabble? Yes, you may play against friends on Facebook. I installed a tennis game, Angry Birds that some of you know, and numerous others. The games, with the exception of Scrabble, will work anywhere, without WiFi. I found the cutest hangman game yet. It’s called UHangmanF. You can choose categories or make up your own. You can play by yourself, with someone else, or with multi-players. If you lose, you get hung graphically. Dictionary – Of course to play scrabble or any of the word games, you might need to use a dictionary. I chose to install Merriam Webster. The above is just the tip of the iceberg but will get you going. I am learning new apps every day. Enjoy your iPad! Comments can be sent to Eydie at

Generation Boomer Magazine Volume IV 2012  

Generation Boomer Magazine Volume IV 2012