Eulogies • Gather information. Talk with family members,
• Become familiar with your speech so you can
close friends, and co-workers to get important
recite it without making it look like you’re
information on the deceased. Some important
reading from a script. The more you practice the
information to include in the eulogy is the family
more comfortable you will feel.
and other close relationships, their education/ career, hobbies or special interests, places
• Make them laugh, but be respectful. A funeral is
the person lived or traveled, and any special
not a roast, however there is room for humor in
accomplishments.
your eulogy. Fondly remember a story about the person and keep it appropriate. Laughter is truly
• Organize your thoughts and jot down your
the best medicine, and some well-placed humor
ideas. Create an outline of your speech, and fill
will help people cope, and will bring back fond
in the information that you gathered about the
memories of the deceased.
person. • Don’t be afraid to show emotion. Funerals are • Write it down. This is not a toast at a wedding
an extremely emotional event, nobody expects
where you can make off-the-cuff remarks, and
you not to shed a few tears. However, if you feel
you should not ad-lib a eulogy. Writing it all
that you will be too strongly overcome by your
down allows you to include and remember
emotions, have a back-up plan in place where
every detail you wanted in your eulogy. When
someone you trust can deliver the eulogy for
you bring a copy of your eulogy to the podium
you. Give them a copy well in advance if you
make sure it is easy to read, print it out in a
feel this could be an issue. Always have a glass
large font, or if it is hand-written leave a few
of water as well as tissues handy.
spaces between the lines. Keep in mind your time constraints, it’s best to keep things on the short side. • Review and Revise. Your first draft will not be the last. When you think you are done, sleep on it and look it over in the morning when it is fresh again, that will be the time to make any necessary revisions. • Practice, Practice, Practice. Read over your eulogy several times in order to become familiar with it. Practice in front of a mirror, read it over to some friends or family and have them give you feedback.
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