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5 Most divorces are preventable and not every divorce is solely caused by the Devil. 1. The Foundation: Many people flock to the altar to get married without knowing the originator of the marriage institution. God instituted the marriage institution and to succeed at marriage is to know and involve God from the very beginning. When we make God the foundation of our homes, He would solidify our homes and when challenges come, He would give us the grace to overcome them. Don’t be deceived, challenges must come but your foundation and attitude will determine if you’ll make it through. 2. Lack of Adequate Information: "My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge".....Hosea 4:6. When preparing to get married, many people are usually more interested on the wedding day than on the marriage (Post wedding life). People have more information on wedding cakes, dresses, venues etc than they do on the post wedding life. They invest all their time and resources on the wedding and fail to invest on the marriage. Failure to invest in books, prayers, seminars, workshops and other vital resources will liken you to the soldier who was so eager to go to war that he wore his uniform and forgot to carry a weapon. You can marry God’s will for you and still end up in divorce if you fail to play your part, equip
yourself with adequate information. It is easier to get married than to stay married……equip your self! 3. Selfishness: Millions of singles around the globe go into a relationship and eventually get married mainly because they want their needs met. This need could be emotional, financial, sexual, physical, material etc. Getting married mainly to have a need in your life met is catastrophic. Naturally, marriage brings a lot of benefits to parties involved and that is fine but to marry just to have a need in your life met is selfish. Most people who cheat on their spouses, get hooked on drugs/alcohol and abuse their kids often think only of themselves when they do so. They are oblivious to how their spouses, children, family and people in their lives would feel as a result of their actions. To succeed in a relationship or marriage, selflessness is vital. Learn to put your spouse first, after God. TO BE CONTINUED NEXT EDITION
CJ MAMA-A woman of many parts...!
C.J MAMA EXCELLING WHERE OTHERS FAILED
rystal Jane Cosmas Osakwe, popularly known as CJ Mama of Radio Nigeria Treasure 98.5fm in Port Harcourt city is a writer, a Poet, a musician, a dancer, public speaker and above all, a proud mother of six with a loving and supportive husband. She is also called The Bishop of The Airwaves. The Niger Deltan born broadcaster started out her life as a front desk receptionist with Image & Slogans Consultant in Owerri, Nigeria. Right there as a receptionist, one of the broadcasters of that time, Late Chief Chike Egbuna, popularly known as “Mr Soul” was the first to notice her flare and talent. He was the general manager of Imo Broadcasting Corporation, IBC Owerri then, and he gave her the first audition of her life. This opportunity by “Mr Soul” gave her the strength and confidence to believe in her talent that was noticed back in her Secondary School days at Daughters of Divine Love, Abakpa-Nike Enugu. Through the years that followed, she got full time into Journalism “the print media,” she became the editor of Life on the family Magazine, sub-editor for Snoopers Magazine, a soft sell and sub-editor for Punch news papers alongside Mr Felix Ofou. Her career as a print Journalist took another turn when she worked with NZE Akachukwu Nwankpo of Think LTD, who is presently the Senior Special Adviser to President Goodluck Jonathan on special duties who influenced her life largely. Working with Think LTD brought her in contact with former head of State, General Yakubu Gowon, and Late Senator Milford Obiene Okilo, two times Governor of the old Rivers State. This man Melford Obiene Okilo was to have the greatest influence over her life as she worked closely with him. He introduced her to the University of Science and Philosophy, Virginia Where she was to learn the true philosophy of life “Living Philosophy” as he called it. This was the turning point in her whole life; a defining period that shaped and moulded her completely. She was also to head the College of Science and Philosophy here in Nigeria, the affiliate of University of Science and Philosophy whose founders were Walter and Lao Russell. This lady popularly known as CJ Mama has had her own share of life troubles and challenges and in that, she found God and God also, through those troubles found her, shaped her, helped her and celebrated her. Through the help of God, in the past four years, she has won several awards national and international. To mention but few: .Three times consecutive winner of the Niger Deltan Advancement Awards 2007, 2008, 2009. That saw her to the champion planet and she was banned from contesting till 3years elapses.
• Sir Henry Dunant’s Red Cross Society of Nigeria Best Media Presenter. 2008. • Radio play Award Best Media in Excellent award • Omega Legend Award Best Radio Personality. • Rivers State Music/Theatre/Movie Awards Best Media. • Elshadai Awards Best Radio Presenter. • African Bible Missionary Awards [Best Radio] • Education Trend-Best Radio Presenter. • Toast Masters USA Certified Speaking Professional Inducted 2008-Best Radio. • Best Local Female Contributor General. • PHC Fashion Show-Best Dressed Radio Presenter. • Catholic Women Organization award as a distinguished daughter of the land with the title Eziada Di Oramma. “The daughter in whom everyone is well pleased” Conferred on her by her own people and community. . Golden Mother Award by the Catholic Women Organization, Port Harcourt. . Doctorate Degree in Philosophy from Tate Memorial Institute, Philadelphia, USA. • The Reggae Movement conferred on her The Queen of Rastas “Empress CJ Mama” She’s made the front pages of Magazines, speaks professionally in Churches and Schools. She is also the founder of An N.G.O called, “The Seven & the Eight Club” singles and strong for young growing people to get a strong grip on their lives for the moms. She’s the matron of many societies and groups. She’s said to have had the greatest and biggest influence on music artistes in the Niger Delta because of the promotion she gives their music on air. CJ Mama has gone fully back into music which was what took her to Radio Nigeria in the first place. She has her full Album titled “STAY WITH ME” Out now; a fifteen track package. She’s presently shooting her musical Videos, and some of the Videos like, “Cell fone love” is playing in different TV Stations in and out of the country. You can’t afford to miss this Album and of course, we will miss her sonorous voice on Radio Nigeria, Treasure 98.5fm, PHC as she is now presently, the General Manager for Love FM 103.9, Umuahia, Abia State. She continues to do what she loves most-broadcasting and music. She’s ever smiling, kind hearted, loving and always a joy to be with. She’s a must meet person if you can get to do it.
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he secrets of champions they say are in their stories. What stories are you accumulating right now for the Glory ahead of you? Even Christ Himself, who was for the “GLORY” set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame. Keep holding on; every success and great achievement is a refinement of debris of failure, and in every shame and pain of today lies the fame and gain of tomorrow. I give all Glory and Adoration to God Almighty who has made this Edition a reality. We suffered a delay before its actualisation simply because we had difficulties in getting Adverts and even those we advertised for in our last edition, many are yet to respond positively. But in all and all, God is still faithful because we know, no Glory without story, no promotion without examination, no testimony without a test. I woke up this morning, somehow dejected about the disappointments here and there, especially, from those we looked up to for encouragement. But when I remembered His promises, I picked up my pen again and started working because am sure the owner of the vision will surely make provision. It may tarry; it will surely come, and it will not tarry. Beloved, is there any vision or project you have been instructed by God to embark on? Are there still mountains of impossibility on your way? Are you still waiting for God to push you to jump before you take the first step? Why not jump and allow God to catch you instead of waiting for Him to push you? Remember, every “if I perish I perish” in the Bible never perished-Esther, Job, Abraham, Nehemiah, David, Daniel, Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego and many others. They all put their trust in God and none was put to shame even when all hope seemed lost. The owner of the vision will surely make provision! God is not after your inability, He’s after your availability; when you are available, He makes you able. Remember until you take charge you can never be in charge and not to be in charge is to be discharged even without a charge. And when you over wait for things to happen, you may ultimately waste before things happen. You can never be a REFERENCE until you have accumulated REFERENCES. Keep keeping on, no GLORY without STORY. This Edition is specially packaged for you with a visit to Ogori-Magongo in Kogi State of Nigeria on our Cultural Heritage, couple with some wonderful articles like, Four stages
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A GOOD RACE
I Corinthians 9:24 “Know ye not that they which run in a race run all, but one receiveth the prize? So run that ye may obtain.”
n athletics several things can disqualify a competitor. Take track events for example. A false start can bar an athlete from competing. A false start is when a competitor takes off from the starting block before the gun or the whistle. If you ask those who have been disqualified for this offence you are probably going to be told it was due to their anxiety. Most of the wrong moves people make can be traced to unmitigated agitation. Those whose past year wasn’t quite brilliant are running to make for lost ground. And those who have done well want extra feather to their cap. Either way, people work themselves to frenzy. The words of Jesus should come to the rescue here; He taught us not to be anxious for anything. The guarantee for a good race is to commit everything to God in prayer.
Athletes also get disqualified by straying into other people’s lane. No matter how fast a sprinter is, unless he keeps to his track he stands the risk of running in vain. Paul stated expressly that he was not fighting as beating the air or running in uncertain direction; he was running to win. But he didn’t come to this state by accident. From the time he met the Lord on the way to Damascus he asked for what heaven had in store for him. It is a wise thing, if we can ask heaven what kind of race God would have us run this season. Not all battles are meant for you to fight; nor are you called to run in all direction. God has something specific for you. Go for it!
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With ...BECOMING A LIFE CHANGER WITH YOUR DREAM.
MOTIVATED TREASURE TIMI DARE (DOUBLE T)
want to start by asking a question, Can you Change life with your Dream? Iâ€™m sure you are pondering on the question but do you know that every better comfort around us today is a dream comes true for someone who thirsted for a dream, got the dream and paid the price? The world we live in today has without any doubt, become better than the world that existed before it. The evidence of civilization that surround us today with varieties of equipments of comfort are once again proves of what dreams can transform a society into. Take for example the act of cooking, it may look easy in this age but it was not that easy at the beginning of creation. It was the traditional method of knocking two stones against each other, gathering dry leaves and wood together and creating flame with patience for the cooking process to begin. Then suddenly, after living with this method for so long, someone desired a change, needed a dream on how this process can be simplified; how to create flame without the use of traditional stone. Did the dreamer succeed? The existence of the matches that you have in little and big packets all over the world today is the answer you need. Then someone else took it from there and dreamt new dreams and now we can experience the comfort of lighters and electric cookers that have no need of matches. Every better comfort around us today is a dream comes true for someone who thirsted for it. Got the dream and paid the price until the dream became a reality. To proceed further, it will do us some good to define what we mean by a dream. If you and I are going to get our dreams fulfilled, we need to have some clear understanding of what a dream is, in the context of this write up. A DREAM is a picture of a desirable and wonderful future within the mind. It is a vision, an imagination or a train of thoughts in the mind of any person about the better possibilities of the future.
TREASURE TIMI DARE (DOUBLE T)
In other words, no one needs to possess all the answer or possess all the resources required to translate a dream into fulfilment before he can dream. There are different stages that every dream has to pass through before it becomes a reality but the beginning is for the mind of the dreamer to have a strong conviction about the possibility in a new and better way of doing things or living life. Once any mind is on that frequency, a dream is a great possibility. To be continued in next Edition.
gori-Magongo is a combination of two different towns that have so many things in common including Culture, Festivals, Dressing, Language, Names etc. And the only two towns that made up a very unique Local Government Area in Kogi State of Nigeria. (OgoriMagongo Local Government) The two towns are located at a distance of approximately five kilometers from the neighboring Edo State. A part of the former Kwara
influence and affluence; making great impacts home and abroad that originated from this blessed land includes, Hon. Ayaga Daudu, The Present Chairman Ogori-Magongo LGA, Professor Olu Akerejuola, The Former Director General Industrial Training Fund [ITF], SAN J.B Daudu, National President NBA, Professor Olugbemiro Jegede, The Former Vice Chancellor, National Open University of Nigeria [NOUN], Bar. Chief Ayo Nathaniel, Chief Registrar Federal High Court of Nigeria, Bar. Jobi Orifunmishe, High Court Judge. Primate Olabayo, The Founder/General Overseer Evangelical Church of
FESTIVALS Her Festivals are quite numerous and include; Ukpe, Eke, Idu, Igilofifi, Isudokoto,Ikpen, Edebibo, Iyibi, Ekomorire and Ovia-Osese. Of these, Ovia-Osese is the most popular, a yearly celebration of womanhood which always attracts international audience and being projected in NTA Network News and some International Televisions home and abroad. OVIA OSESE The Ovia-Osese is an annual cultural festival, it marks the celebration of Womanhood and it’s been celebrat-
OGORI - MAGONGO: Home of Great Achievers!
State later incorporated as part of Kogi State after the creation of Kogi state in 1990. Akpafa is the headquarters of Ogori-Magongo Local Government Area in Kogi State; it’s situated at the centre of the two towns. The primary language spoken is ‘Oko’ as it is called by the Ogori people and ‘osayin' by the Magongo people while Yoruba is their secondary language. Ogori-Magongo, though small in size geographically, but the thickness of her culture/festivals cannot be overlooked. More importantly, the quality of men and women that have emanated from her bosom which has really attracted both national and international attention are numerous in number. To mention but few, great men of
Yahweh, Prof. J.S Aliu, A.B.U Zaria, Chief Segun Abrams, Publisher/Editor-in-chief Fresh Fact News Paper & Poverty Control Magazine, Her Excellency, Lady Ussein Osunbor, Wife of the Former Governor, Edo-State, Hon. Osiyi Godwin, Member Kogi State House of Assembly, Mr Bade Bakare, General Manager Total Oil Company, Major Albert Soje, Former Majority Leader Kogi State House of Assembly/The Former Commissioner For Agriculture & Mineral Resourses, Prince Edward Akpata, Former DLG Dekina LG/Ogori-Magongo LG/The Present Commissioner For Culture and Tourism, and off course, Ayo Adebayo, Haywhy himself- the great Entertainer and the very Publisher/ Editor-in-chief of this Publication/ The President/Commander in Chief of The Federal Republic of Nigeria in Embryo… Don’t doubt it!
ed two weeks after Easter celebration in Ogori, and two weeks after Ogori celebration in Magongo. The traditional female chief "Iyaodina" is in charge of the festival rites. The maidens that have reached the age of initiation are secluded at the Iyaodina's palace for a period of time. On the day of the Osese, the maidens dance and sing traditional songs in a large field to signify their coming of age. The girls are adorned in many beads around their necks, and in their headdress. Traditionally, the girls would be bare chested with only a cloth around their waist. But as times have changed, they now cover their breasts as well. On their ankles, they
wear a band that makes a sound when they stomp their feet. This Cultural festival which holds in Ogori/Magongo in Kogi state has been described as a revered festival which is one of the few festivals that preserve our culture and values. The Director General of Nigerian Tourism Development Corporation, Otunba Olusegun Runsewe made the observation during the courtesy visit by a delegation of Ogori Descendant Union ODU. The NTDC's boss said the Ovia Osese festival stood out as one of the festivals that are highly regarded in the country. Otunba Runsewe gave the assurance that the NTDC would support the event both materially and technically adding that a team from NTDC would be present at the festival. "We assure you of our unconditional support for the festival," he added. Otunba Runsewe also assured the delegation of NTDC support for the hosting of a website for the festival particularly for marketing and promotion both locally and abroad for the festival. The delegation had solicited the assistance of NTDC to help the community internationalize the festival lamenting that in spite of the potentialities of the festival to the community and the nation, the community was incapable of taking the festival to the world alone. "The hosting of the festival in spite of its great potentials has remained solely the responsibility of the community. This has often hampered its scope and organization". Adding, "It is our plan to take the festival to the world and we believe you can help us in this regard." The Ovia Osese cultural festival has a history of close to a century; it is one festival that has annually attracted thousands to her land including foreigners. IDU FESTIVAL Idu is celebrated as the beginning of the commencement of harvest season as concerns Yam. Traditionally, yam is referred as the primary and major staple food.
IGILOFIFI In this festival, age groups gather to perform hunting and communal work. After that they are dressed in palm fronts and perform a bonfiredance around roasted yams. Youths that bend down to pick the yams are beaten with horsewhips on their back, a sheer display of youthful exuberance ERIMI This is a masquerade used in celebrating the death of an aged man. LANGUAGE The origin of Ogori-Magongo and her gradual development into a distinct minority tribe with its own distinct identity and custom is very interesting; there is no doubt that as a new language; itâ€™s a hybrid of old and new languages formed by combination of words. It is an interesting fact that everybody in Ogori-Magongo also speaks Yoruba as a second language. This is not unconnected with the Yoruba ancestry. Many people within the town also speak the language of the neighboring towns in Kogi and Edo States due to socio-economic interactions with these people. DRESSING Owing to the Yoruba ancestry of these people, their dressing mode is Yoruba in nature. The women wear "Iro and Buba" which is a local blouse with wrapper. The hair is interwoven with or without beads and occasionally covered with scarf or head tie called "gele". Gele is particularly used during occasions. Native ornaments worn by women include beads of different sizes, designs and cost. Men wear "buba and soro" which could be sown in different ways and styles. Other forms of dressing for men include "Dansiki" and "Agbada," both are a kind of gown for men, while Dansiki is a mini gown, agbada is a luxurious overflowing gown. As a dressing compliment for the head, men normally cover their heads with caps. There are different kinds of caps worn by the men, some caps are ordinary and could be worn
by anybody while some are symbolic. Symbolic beaded caps are Yoruba crowns worn by kings and chieftaincy title holders. Title holders also wear beads on their wrists. Clothing types include different kinds of locally woven clothes like Kitipa, Aso-Oke and Campala. Exotic clothing materials include Damask, Ankara and divers kinds of Lace materials. MONARCHY The traditional ruler of the Ogori town is the Ologori, while the Olumagongo rules the affairs of Magongo. This monarch institute has existed for more than a hundred years. The Monarch is supported by a class of titled Barons, these are the Ekekaros. This group of Barons is made up of the Otaros (high chiefs) and Eyas (Chiefs). The traditional council consists of the following chiefs: Otaro-Idu Obin is the king. Otaro-Senior: Daudu or heir presumptive. Also serves as the regent Otaro senior: Deputy Premier Otaro: Other rank and file, these are equivalent to Barons and form the council of the senate. Uburo Osiako Oya Orenyanada Odina: Distributor of gifts and loots from wars Ogbajiri: field commander or War commandant Uya: Executioner Ojogbe: Group or clan errand men or emissaries Sodje: Osama: Otaro's bodyguard or adviser Asigiri: Diviner Iya-odina This wonderful land flowing with milk and honey has raised great people home and abroad. Indeed! Home of great achievers. COMPILED AND EDITED BY AYO ADEBAYO-HAYWHY
A poem about nothing
I want nothing else than to be with you, And nothing else but you will ever do. Nothing they say will make this change, ‘Cause there's nothing if we ever turn that page. My friends think our love is nothing, But nothing's what I hear when they're talking. I tell them, nothing's ever gonna come between you and I, ‘Cause nothing's really ever gonna reach that high. They say I always talk about you, but that’s only nothing, ‘Cause nothing stops every second's thought from being about you, And nothing even feels remotely better than you do. I'm smiling even when nothings funny, But when they ask, I simply say there's nothing. The money means nothing, It’s simply your love or nothing, ‘Cause nothing else makes any sense, And nothing will ever make these words past tense. See, I've got words, but I realize they're nothing, When I'm trying to find the right ones but nothing even comes close. I've got nothing without you, But with you, nothing will ever do.
It Couldn’t be Done Edgar
Somebody said that it couldn't be done, But, he with a chuckle replied That "maybe it couldn't" but he would be one Who wouldn't say so till he'd tried. So he buckled right in with the trace of a grin On his face. If he worried he hid it. He started to sing as he tackled the thing That couldn't be done, as he did it. Somebody scoffed: "Oh, you'll never do that; At least no one we know has done it"; But he took off his coat and he took off his hat, And the first thing we knew he'd begun it. With a lift of his chin and a bit of a grin, Without any doubting or quiddit, He started to sing as he tackled the thing That couldn't be done, and he did it. There are thousands to tell you it cannot be done, There are thousands to prophesy failure; There are thousands to point out to you, one by one, The dangers that wait to assail you. But just buckle right in with a bit of a grin, Just take off your coat and go to it; Just start to sing as you tackle the thing That cannot be done, and you'll do it
If by Rudyard Kipling
If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you. If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too; If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don't deal in lies, Or being hated, don't give way to hating, And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise: If you can dream - and not make dreams your master; If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat these two impostors just the same; If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools: If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breathe a word about your loss; If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone, And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!' If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, Or walk with Kings - nor lose the common touch, If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, If all men count with you, but none too much; If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds' worth of distance run, Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it, And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!
Godâ€™s Rhema For The End Times By Debbie King
elcome to another very interesting, illuminating and thought provoking edition of our magazine; and this column of the magazine, especially!
In our past editions, we had been discussing on the need to first all be connected to the God who only can see us through these times and bring us out victoriously and alive and well. That is by connecting to Him We have been looking for the past few edithrough his son Jesus Christ! Talking about tions, at the mind of God for us in this endtimes! That is to say, what is God saying to us the need to be born again. Acts 4;12. Jn. and what are His expectations for and from 3;16. Jn. 3;3. We took our cue from Dan. 11; 32b, which helps us understand that in the us? Judging from Biblical prophecies, how are we expected to handle the challenges of last days, it is only those who do know their these times, and how can we in fact survive God that will be strong and do exploits! We them? And finally, how does the Lord expect therefore, reasoned that if this be the case , us to prepare for the second coming of our then there is a need for us, and a very pertinent one to seek to know and connect with Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ and how can we as Christians in these end-times, despite this great God. And from the Holy Scriptures as stated above, we discovered that the only the challenges of the times still be able to run our race to the finish without backslidway to achieve this is by receiving the gift of ing or falling victim of salvation through His the times, and be able son. ( i.e, by getting still to fulfill purpose born-again.). Having properly established and destiny in grand and thoroughly dealt style. Thank you for with this fact in our joining us once again as we progress in our last editions, let us expositions in equiplook at what the Lord ping and preparing is saying to us in this edition. ourselves for the times we are in! continue on page 31
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The 10 signs below are currently considered as the urgent signs confirming that the coming of Jesus is imminent! Natural disasters across the globe. Iran’s nuclear program. The supply of oil is running out. Global food crisis. The declining value of the dollar will pave way for the Anti-christ’s world currency. China’s growing economic and military might. Global Terrorism. Various National ID initiatives will pave way for the common 666 identity. Tension between Israel and Syria. 10 Putin’s grab for power in Russia with a strong support for Iran.
ible students know that these world events are marching us towards the D-day of Jesus’ return and you must allow God to use this message to prepare you for home. The parable of the ten virgins, (Matt. 25; 1-13) warns us of the painful fate of those who are guilty of the sin of; Assumption That There is Time! Why do you keep thinking there is time? Why are you still living in that secret sin? Five of those virgins were wise; they had kept their integrity and their lamps were still burning; their robes were without spot and blemish. The other five were foolish, for their lamps had gone out. They were backslidden. Please check your oil level! When the saints go marching in, may you not miss heaven in Jesus’ holy name. Amen! May all your labour for all these years in His vineyard not be in vain at last! May I see you in heaven and together we shall sing; ‘Oh Sister Debbie, at last, at last, we made it by grace.’ Amen and Amen! Whether we like it or not, Jesus is coming soon and I tell you it’s closer than we all think and know, so there is a need to prepare. Let us not live our lives like the people in the days of my brother Noah who hardened their hearts to the voice and instructions of the Lord. They simply refused to heed God’s warnings as delivered to them by His servant Noah and at the end, were all destroyed in the flood. Remember that the Bible records that those things were written to us for an example. My prayer is that you, (reading this particular column today) and I, will not be found wanting on that day in Jesus holy name Amen! Because as the Bible states, it’s going to be very terrible for those that will be left behind after the rapture! But like I said earlier, that will not be our portion in Jesus name. But there is a need to prepare. And prepare we must! Until I join you again in the next edition, have a wonderful and fulfill 2012 in Jesus Holy name. Amen! Peace!!!
Growing or Groaning? “…both literature and history are replete with man’s unending quest to break free from internal imperialism.”Leadership failure in Nigeria has been a major impediment in our march to nationhood and real independence. Year after year, decade after decade, administration after administration, system after system, policies after policies, have all pointed to one singular fact: our leaders are purpose-barren and vision-finished. As we celebrate independence annually, we the followers, go home after every 1st of October, bowing our heads down in shame, in agony and in tears. Sure, we have been unsuccessful and unworthy of emulation; even if we have leaders who would dispute this with their “white papers.” Sometimes I wonder, “What is wrong with our land?” “Is it in our land even?” But as I contemplate further, I remember Shakespeare, who once said that, “The fault is not in our stars, but in ourselves, that we’re underlings” (Julius Caesar, I, ii, 140-141). Sincerely, neither our colonial masters nor fate is responsible for the prolonged poverty, corruption, maladministration that have plagued us as a country in the past fifty, I mean, fifty good years; but the selfish and dishonest leadership style we have had in the past fifty years. One major undoing of our country is that we have always had leaders who never feel what the masses are feeling. They feign ignorant of our collective pain. Like the proverbial elephant who stepped on a poisonous thorn, but made light of this thorn deeply imbedded in his foot, judging his size, as his strength and resistance; unmindful of the fact that as time wore on, this thorn became infected right inside his body and eventually led to his death. In the same way, Nigerian leaders have shown a carefree, indeed an “I dey kampe” attitude to the numerous thorns that are about to put out our national life. That our shame and tears are brought upon us by
own leaders are no longer debatable. Like many African writers have lamented and insisted, through fiction after fiction, play after play, verse after verse, that: Nigerians and only Nigerians can clean up this country. Citing Chinua Achebe’s The Trouble with Nigeria, a little book I read during my undergraduate days, Achebe proved that our leaders should be held accountable and responsible: “Corruption goes with power, therefore to hold any useful discussion of corruption; we must first locate it where it properly belongs---in the ranks of the powerful” (38). In this 63-page work published in the 80s’, I feel, he had submitted a guide on how to recover our beloved country. Yes, Nigerians have gained a global reputation for being densely corrupt, owing to the blatant display of wealth by our politicians and public office holders, without any sense of accountability. This has further heightened the lust for political positions by almost every Tom Dick and Harry. In summary, a better Nigeria is possible. Our leaders must show a sincere commitment to serving the people and re-building our fatherland. We must have a national re-orientation; where our motive for leadership would be redefined: to build a strong, secured and economically- buoyant nation. A nation where our children can smile again, a nation where our youths can see hope in promises and willingly let down their arms; a nation where a vast population of our people could live their dream. Truly and really, We will make it, if only we choose to. God Bless Nigeria! Uche Ohagwam, is a strong campaigner for A Better Nigeria He is an alumnus of the University of Port Harcourt. email@example.com
very successful Nigerian Man in Holland parked his brand-new Lexus in front of his office, ready to show it off to his colleagues. As he got out, a truck passed too close and completely tore off the door on the driver's side. The man immediately grabbed his cell phone, called the cops, and within minutes a policeman pulled up. Before the officer had a chance to ask any questions, the Nigerian man started screaming hysterically. His Lexus, which he had just picked up the day before, was now completely ruined and would never be the same, no matter what the body shop did to it. When the man finally wound down from his ranting and raving, the officer shook his head in disgust and disbelief. "I can't believe how materialistic you Nigerians are", he said. "You are so focused on your possessions that you don't notice anything else." "How can you say such a thing?" asked the Nigerian man. The cop replied, "Don't you know that your left arm is missing from the elbow down? It must have been torn off when the truck hit you." "My God!" screamed the man. "Where's my Rolex?
here is this Rev father who was very fond of stopping a particular Rev. Sister after every 6:00am mass. He strikes a conversation and makes her talk while he stares steadily at her vast B**bs. After many days of the same thing, the following discussion ensued: Rev. Sis :- Father, sorry to ask, but why do you always stare at my natural gift every morning? Rev. Father: - Oh! Sorry sister. (Father tries to walk away embarrassed) Rev. Sis :- Seriously, please I would like to know. Did God speak to you about it? Rev. Father: - oh yes! He tells me every night that He would sweeten my mouth with milk and honey. I've seen the honey and was hoping you might be able to provide the milk.
man was upset because he had lost his favorite hat. Instead of buying a new one, he decided that he would go to church that Sunday and steal one from the vestibule. Unfortunately, the usher saw the man come in and before he could go into the vestibule, the usher led him to a pew, where the preacher was just beginning a sermon on the Ten Commandments. After church, the man went up to the preacher and, shook his hand and said: "I want to thank you for saving my soul today. I came to church to steal a hat, but after hearing your sermon on the Ten Commandments, I changed my mind." "Why, that's wonderful," the preacher said: "So the commandment 'Thou shalt not steal' changed your mind, did it?" "No, it wasnâ€™t that commandment," the man said: "It was the one about adultery. It reminded me where I left my hat!"
priest was preparing a man for his long day's journey into night. Whispering firmly, the priest said: "Denounce the devil! Let him know how little you think of his evil!" The dying man said nothing, so the priest repeated his order. Still, the dying man said nothing. The priest asked: "Why do you refuse to denounce the devil and his evil?" The dying man said: "Until I know where I'm heading, I don't think I ought to aggravate anybody."
man walked up to a farmer's house and knocked on the door. When a woman opened the door, the man asked if she knew how to make love. Not amused, she slammed the door. Again, the man knocked, and again asked the same question. Again, not amused, she screamed: "Get the hell away!â€? Later, she told her husband of the incident. He said he would stay
home the following day just in case. Sure enough, the next day the same man returned. The husband hid with his gun while the lady answered the door. When she was asked again if she knew how to make love, she said: "Yes." The man replied: "Great! Give some to your husband the next time you see him, and tell him to stay the hell away from my wife!"
he visiting minister was surprised when he went into the pulpit to find just one person in the congregation -- an old farmer. He went down to him and said: "Is it worth proceeding?" "What do you mean?" asked the farmer. "Well," said the minister: "Is it worth having a service for such a small congregation?" "When I take the bucket of food to the hens and only one turns up I don't send it away hungry," the farmer replied. Moved by this simple analogy, the minister went back to the pulpit and went through the whole service, including a long and very forceful sermon. When he had finished he went down to the farmer and asked: "Was that OK?" The farmer rather tersely replied: "When I take the bucket of food to the hens and only one turns up, I don't give it the whole bucketâ€?
nable to attend his father's funeral, a son who lived far away called his brother who lived near his father and said: "Do something nice for Dad and send me the bill." The next month, he got a bill for $200.00, which he paid. But the next month, he got another bill for $200.00, which he also paid, assuming it was some incidental expense. But when the third month yet another bill for $200.00 arrived, he finally called his brother to see what was going on. "Well," said the brother: "You said 'do something nice for Dad,' so I did. I rented him a tuxedo.
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THE GREATS R
alph Waldo Emerson’s daughter was away from home attending school. In corresponding with her famous father, she made it clear to him that she was brooding over a past mistake that had left her with a troubled conscience. Emerson wrote his daughter and said, “Finish everyday and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in, but get rid of them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you should never encumber its potentialities and invitations with the dread of the past. You should not waste a moment of today on the rottenness of yesterday.
li Whitney was laughed at when he showed his cotton gin. Thomas Edison had to install his electric light for free of charge in an office building before anyone would even look at it. The first sewing machine was smashed by Boston mob. People scoffed at the idea of railroads. People thought that traveling thirty miles an hour (in an automobile) would stop circulation of blood. Samuel Morse had to plead before ten congresses before they would even look at his telegraph Anonymous
ou can have it all. You just can’t have it all at once – Oprah Winfrey. The highest paid TV personality.
on’t expect to be a megastar overnight. I’ve always said that it takes 10 years to become an actor. Far too many actors are far too young to handle major roles – Christopher Lee-Veteran. (actor with over 244 acknowledged film and TV roles out of atleast 358 screen credits)
he hands of men, no matter how evil, strong or powerful do not have the authority to halt our destiny. In fact, their evil intentions put us in the path of destiny. Remember Joseph? – Collins Oluniyi Agboju
’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost 3000 games. Twenty-six times I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot…and missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that’s why I succeed. – Michael Jordan (arguably the greatest basketball player ever)
ne thousand friends are not enough, one bad friend is too much – Late Arch Bishop Benson Idahosa. (Father of Nigeria Pentecostal Movement)
am what I am, both as a result of people who respected me and helped me, and those who did not respect me and treated me badly – Nelson Mandela
15 rules of
1- Even the boss must get his fingernails dirty. Don't make the people under you do things you haven't done or aren't willing to do. If you're a leader, then lead by example.
2- A handful of favor is better than a mountain of wisdom. This simply means, don't underestimate the power of being at the right place at the right time. 3- Never reveal 100% of anything to anyone. If you have a great idea on how to become a millionaire, never tell anyone all the details of your plan. Always hold something back. 4- Never make a decision when you're angry. Smart, careful men realize they must have a clear head to think. When you're angry, you make threats you often can't deliver on, or decisions you come to regret. Don't say I didn't warn you. 5- A man is nothing without his word. One of the few things even a poor man has is his word. Your word should never be broken, always keep your promises. The minute someone doesn't trust you is the minute you lose them. 6- Keep your mouth shut. If you have to lie, keep it short and simple. If you don't have anything smart to say, don't say anything at all. A short and sweet lie is easier to defend and remember than some elaborate stories about how some transvestite got lipstick on your tie.
7- When you can't win a war by playing fair, bend the rules. Better yet, break them. Winning doesn't mean you have to play by the rules; it means winning. 8- Whenever you're in doubt about whether an enemy should respect or fear you, always choose fear. Respect is great, fear is better. 9- Behind every great man is a great woman. You need the stability of a great woman to be great. A man without a family can never be a complete man. 10- Nothing lasts forever. Whether it's love, good fortune, success in business, your looks, or your hair, nothing lasts forever. 11- Never give a tip to someone who isn't looking. Whether you're in a bar being served by a hot waitress or giving a stock tip to someone at your office, don't give a big tip if the waitress isn't even looking at you or going to know it's from you. 12- If you go to war, always strike first. Strike hard, and hope it's the only strike you need. When a conflict or fight is inevitable, always strike the first blow. You will knock your enemy off balance. 13- When in doubt, follow your gut. Instincts were given to us so that we can make a decision when all the elements in a decision-making process aren't obvious. Listen to your gut; it'll save you more often than it'll hurt you. 14- Keep your friends close, your enemies closer. People always misunderstand this saying. It doesn't mean you have to be best friends with your enemy, it just means you should do everything in your power to keep tabs on your enemy. Have someone you trust in his organization. Know his moves, predict his thoughts, and capitalize on his weaknesses. 15- To make money, you have to spend money. Don't be afraid to spend money if it will bring you more. Take a loan at the bank if you have a great idea for a business. Pay a good employee a decent salary. Pay for expert advice. If you are a smart businessman, you will always come out on top.
YOUR SKILL WILL PAY YOUR BILL
“To understand one thing well is better than understanding many things by halves.” The concept of skill plays an important role in personal and national growth and development. Experience has shown that it is the man of skill, not the muscular man that will always and eventually win the competition and fulfill the task life brings before us. It is the man of skill that can successfully beat deadlines. Skill, by definition is the learned capacity to carry out an assignment for excellent results, often with the minimum outlay of time, energy, or both. According to Longman Dictionary of Contemporary English, Skill is put forward as, ‘an ability to do something well, especially because you have learned and practiced it. Put differently, skill is a reserve of knowledge, experience, and ability. It is business tactics that guarantee efficiency and positive excellence. A simple classification of skill gives us: • General and • Specific skills Taking the work place for example, in the work environment, some general skills would include time management, teamwork and leadership, self motivation and others, whereas specific skills would be useful only for a certain job. Skill usually requires certain environmental stimuli and situations to assess the level of skill being shown and used. There is nothing you can ever get done well without knowing how to do it. More so, the quality of your skill will determine the quality of your output, your worth and your growth in whichever environment you find yourself. The truth is, every man’s skill, if rightly used is capable of paying his bill. Unfortunately, some folks around us are ignorant of the power of skill, and this is a major undoing of our time. The Nigerian society and more specifically, people from oil-bearing communities do not believe in skill acquisition but in “money accumulation.” Regrettably, even the few who
have indicated some form of interest in skills acquisition are still not fully convinced on why they should be submissive to a non-indigene, who has the skill and is willing to pass it on to them via training. Hence, they end up with half-baked or zero training. Even among some of our religious friends, there is an erroneous conception that fasting, prayers and other religious activities are equal to skill, indeed, could substitute for it. But no sooner had they become addicted to these, than they will realize that these activities, though strong and effective, are poor substitute for skill. Skill is not a gift, so you can neither pray it nor covet it; it is not tricks, which is the “strength” of today’s traders; it is not natural resources, which we as indigenes can lay claim to. It is ideas and specific knowledge that are consciously acquired through training for results. Deutshe Bank has this interesting slogan which holds that, “ideas are wealth, and the rest is money.” So, if this be true, then, skills, ideas, knowledge will continue to be fundamental for our country, if we mean to actualize the vision 20:2020. We must shun tricks and discontinue with all these “mouthing” and lazy outlook on life. As an individual, you must expunge tricks from your business dealings. As a student, if all you are using at present is tricks, then, be sure that you will have the paper, but you won’t have much relevance in this knowledge-driven society. So, if skill is this vital, then how can I acquire it? HOW TO ACQUIRE SKILL By Training: There is a saying that the more you know, the more you are known. So, stops living your life to chance, because you will soon be so frustrated to realize that you don’t have chance after all. It doesn’t matter what you know, there is much more that you don’t know than all you have ever known. I fully agree with Mark Twain that, “There is nothing training cannot do. Nothing is above its reach. It can turn bad morals to good; it can destroy bad principles and recreate good ones; it can lift men to ‘angelship.” In life, whenever you’re being trained, you’re expected to learn and if you learn well, you will not only sell yourself at a very high price, but you will also employ yourself and by extension, pay your bills.
Uche Ohagwam 08066003427 firstname.lastname@example.org
WHAT A SENATOR EARNS IN NIGERIA What a Senator Earns In Nigeria N29, 479, 749.00 Per Year.
Accommodation @ 200% of BS N4, 968, 509.00.
Basic Salary N2, 484, 245.50.
Utilities @ 30% of BS N828, 081.83.
Hardship Allowance @ 50% of Basic Salary N1, 242, 122.70 ( I love this kind of hardship)
Domestic Staff @ 35% of BS N863, 184.12.
Consistuency allowance @ 200% of BS N4, 968, 509.00 Furniture Allowance @ 300% of BSN7, 452, 736.50 Newspaper allowance @ 50% of BS N1, 242, 122.70 ( Which kind newspaper be this shey na online or hard copy). Wardrobe allowance @ 25% of BS N621, 061.37 Recess Allowance@ 10% of BS N248, 424.55
Entertainment @ 30% of BS N828, 081.83. Personal Assistance @ 25% of BS N621, 061.37. Vehicle Maintenance Allowance @ 75% of BS N1, 863, 184.12. Leave Allowance @10% of BSN248, 424.55. One off payments @ 300% of BS N7, 452, 736.50 (Once they get fired.) Motor Vehicle Allowance @ 400% of BS N9, 936, 982.00 - Every Four Years
Senators Salary per month. N2, 456, 647.7 Total = N29, 479, 749.00 i.e. $193,945 * 109 Senators Grand Total = N 3, 264, 329, 264.10 i.e. $21,475,850 A feeding frenzy!!! Salary of U.S. President: $250,000/ yr. GDP U.S. Economy: $13Trillion/ yr. Allowance Nig. Senator: $1,500,000/yr GDP Nig. Economy: $45 Billion/yr. And they want more.
Doctors, teachers, civil servants can't boast of N1m a year and these guys want N30m every month SAY NO TO THIS OPEN LOOTING OF NIGERIA...!
Characteristics of Every Successful Entrepreneur
I could sit here and start listing randomly "good sounding" characteristics such as ambition, integrity, boldness, drive, motivation, etc. But beyond all these, here are other 5 characteristics of every successful entrepreneurs that I have ever met, known and read about. First: A successful entrepreneur can do the impossible - create a huge enterprise out of an idea that millions of other people believe can never work. He/she can make something out of nothing. Many people who start with nothing end with nothing. An entrepreneur does not follow this norm. No matter the disadvantages or set backs, a successful entrepreneur can change his/her situation to anything he/she wants. A successful entrepreneur can change his/her destiny.
These examples include, Dele Momodu who started the Ovation International that you know today from a small space in Mushin (I guess you know that place in Lagos) and Mark Zuckerberg, an Harvard drop-out who started Facebook from his personal laptop. Second: A successful entrepreneur knows how to seize opportunity. This one sounds easy, but in reality, many people let some of the best opportunities slide by unnoticed. Contrary to popular belief, "opportunity" does not magically appear at your doorstep and wait for your response. Opportunity is something that a person has to go out and find. You have to seek it out like a jungle treasure hunt and conquer the traps set along the way. A successful entrepreneur knows this and does this daily. Third: A successful entrepreneur has to network. True, there are many "anonymous millionaires," and although anonymous to you and me, they are not anonymous to the people that played a part in creating that millionaire's wealth. You do not have to be world famous, but you do have to know a couple people in the particular "money making circle" of your interest if you want to achieve large amounts of wealth. Therefore, for example, if you want to start a entertainment company, it would be nice to know someone like Obi Asika of Storm Records, Audu Maikori of Chocolate City and others. You will benefit a lot from their wealth of experience and they will help you to easily find your way around. Fourth: A successful entrepreneur knows when to walk away. There is going to be a time when you have to cut your losses because down time will always come. A successful entrepreneur knows when that time occurs. Remember, these are not the high seas. You do not have to go down with the ship! You may think that this characteristic contradicts the first characteristic I mentioned. However, the first characteristic relates to an entrepreneurs personal life and this point relates to business. Last: Once an entrepreneur has achieved large amounts of wealth, he/she gives back to those who have need of it. A successful entrepreneur uses his/her wealth to help change the world for the better. A good example is Bill Gates who is giving all his money away to charities all over the world. These are vital parts of the characteristics of every successful entrepreneur through the history. If you apply them properly, they will work for you the way they have worked for them. I strongly believe in you!
FOUR STAGES OF A MAN’S LIFE… A
s we get older, we start to look back at our lives and wonder, what if? What if I had scored that broad? What if I had placed that bet? What if I had whacked that stool pigeon when I had the chance? What if…? But I’m going to let you in on a little secret. No matter how many “what if” scenarios you play out in that small head of yours, you’ll always have regrets in life because you’ll never appreciate what you have until it’s too late. Why? Simple! Because we go through stages, stages in which we change from boys to men, and eventually to grumpy old men who act like boys again. Where do you fit in? Those stages are the real schools of life, no matter what that fancy piece-of-crap Ivy League degree says. Why is this important for you to remember? Because if you don’t realize what stage of life you’re in, you won’t know when it’s time to speak and when it’s time to listen. STAGE 1
Young, dumb & full of impulses. In this stage: You think with your heart. Your mentor: Nobody. We'll consider the first stage of a man's life as approximately the first 25 youthful years. In this stage, you're far from being a man. Everything you do is reckless and not planned out. You're a risk-taker because you don't know how dangerous the risks are. You don't think about the consequences of your actions. You think of your needs, your desires. You're a selfish man. You have no need or respect for authority. Worse, you think you know everything there is to know about life, yet you know nothing. You could be smart, but you're not smart enough. You're blinded by your inexperience and stupidity. You chase skirts like a baboon. You're a kid in a candy store. What should you be doing in this stage? Keeping your mouth shut and learning from others. Plain and simple! You will fall down. Just make sure you're falling down a flight of stairs, not the Grand Canyon. Be smart about your risks because burning people you might need in the future is not smart. Cement friendships, cement loyalties. You're too dumb and stupid to orchestrate a revolution; learn what you need to know to do that in the next stage of a man's life. Stay ambitious, but have a plan for that ambition. Find a good woman who will clean and cook for you... you need a strong foundation. Biggest strength: You're fearless and ambitious. Biggest weakness: You think you know it all, yet you don't even know your own elbow. STAGE 2 Older, smarter, but not wise yet. In this stage: You think with your heart and brain. Your mentor: People who have accomplished what you want to achieve. The second stage of life starts when things just start to "click." Things that weren't clear before suddenly come into focus. You
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guys with power and money mean anything because they control all the chips in the world. In the game of life, they're always the players at the table who make the decisions. You realize that life is a game, and that even though there are rules, it is those who bend them to the extreme who get ahead. At times, if there are no rules in the game, that's OK too, and you learn how to play along. You realize the world is great but corrupt, and you must adapt. You're gaining a bit of wisdom. If you don't know what I'm talking about, you're still in Stage 1, even if your driver's license says you were born in 1952. Those who know what I'm talking about know that I don't need to explain what these "rules" are. There is no damn instruction booklet you get on your 30th birthday. They know what they are because they understand the ways of the world. In this stage of life, you start to respect and appreciate authority. At this point in your life, you've come to appreciate and respect the need for structure, for authority. You begin to fear things such as the risk of failure, the consequences of actions, of not being right. But it doesn't stop you from trying to execute your ambition. You're just smarter about how you accomplish your goals. You still love women, but you don't chase them anymore. By now you've picked the three women in your life: your wife, your mistress and your girlfriend. What should you be doing in this stage? You should still be learning and listening, but now you're taking action too. You realize that you're not going to be a trainee for life; you will be a student and then become a teacher. You start figuring things out and start delivering results. This is the enlightenment stage of your life and you revel in the chance to fulfill your destiny as a man. Most importantly, you stop being a cafone. You don't make dumb mistakes anymore. You make smart mistakes. Biggest strength: You come to realize that you're a student, and life is your teacher. Biggest weakness: You're still not a complete man; your legacy is unclear. STAGE 3 The wise, older man. In this stage: You think with your brain. Your mentor: No one, you're the mentor. The third stage of life occurs when you have acquired wisdom. If you haven't reached this stage by your 50th birthday, move to Boca Raton now and buy yourself a dozen pairs of white knee socks, and get the hell out of my way on the parkway. The third stage is the greatest stage in life because this is where you come to terms with what you have and haven't accomplished in life. You accept your shortcomings and failures, and enjoy your victories. You're now ready to pass your wisdom and life experience on to others. You're always learning, but now you do it because you enjoy it, not because you need it. You become a teacher. You're no longer
a wise guy; you're a wise man. You don't have time for BS anymore. You're a don. At this point, you've learned and mastered all the lessons I've written about in my articles. Everything makes sense; you understand how everything in life works. Best of all, mistakes disappear, and you ration your words so that when you speak, everyone listens. You command respect and deserve it. This is when you have the opportunity to be cocky; to say "I know it all." But, of course, you're too smart to do that. You stop fearing death -- you accept it. You realize that you won't master Latin, but you come to accept that too and deal with what you do know. What should you be doing in this stage? I don't have to tell you, you know. Life is good. Biggest strength: You are wise. You are made. Biggest weakness: You don't take many risks. But who needs to take risks when you have a Filipina mistress and a house in Arizona next to a golf course? On to the last stage of a man's life, the one that comes right before you dieâ€Ś STAGE 4 The bitter, old man. In this stage: You don't think with your brain, you're senile. Your mentor: Frank Sinatra. The fourth stage in a man's life is a sad stage because you start to regress. You can't go up; you can't become wiser, so you go down and get stupid again. Despite your wisdom, despite your experience, despite what you've accomplished, the consensus is that you did that back when people didn't have refrigerators. Your wisdom and your understanding of the ways of the world have become outdated. You become irrelevant and you can't stand it because you were once so highly respected. So you become bitter and start bitching about it, like a kid. At its worst, you reverse your growth and go back to having the same characteristics of the young fool. You become emotional, irrational, "no one shows me respect; no one cares about me; back in the old days we knew what it was like to suffer," etc. You fear no one (except guys in white jackets) because you have Alzheimer's. You still teach, but people don't listen like they used to. If you were the Boss of your "family," you become the retired boss, a symbolic figurehead because someone else is calling the shots and you haven't finished writing up your will yet. You start chasing skirts again -- nurses with skirts. What should you be doing in this stage? What does it matter? You're going to die soon. Here's a tip: don't pee on the carpet when you visit your daughter-in-law. Biggest strength: You likely become an intermediary in disputes. You will be sought out for your unbiased (if outdated) opinion. Biggest weakness: You're becoming irrelevant and don't know it.
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veryday, married guys are told that they've given up their freedom or that they've been emasculated. But you know what? Married men don't actually mind all the ribbing. They can take the jokes from the media, and from all of their immature, misogynistic friends. They can handle it all because, in truth, they know they have it way better than the single guys do.
No.1 - Marriage makes you a better man. If you're a smart guy, you'll choose to be with a woman who is insightful, opinionated and honest. That's the kind of companion who can make you a better person. She can bring out the best in you. She can challenge you to be the best version of yourself. On top of that, through marriage you'll learn the true meaning of self-sacrifice and compromise. In short, marriage will make you a better man. No.2 - Married people are happier. A recent study done at an Australian university shows that married men are happier than single men. In fact, married men are 135% more likely to report a high happiness score than single men. That's an astounding figure. Marriage offers a man the kind of stability and support that allows him to succeed in all other aspects of life. Think about it: How much more could you accomplish if all the drama from crazy women and bad breakups was replaced by the presence of a loving and caring partner? No.3 - Marriage means better sex. One-night stands are exciting because of the thrill of the chase, granted, but often -- too often -- once the two of you get naked you find yourselves fumbling and bumbling unable to anticipate each othersâ€™ moves and unaware of what gets the other off. Married couples know each other; they have a feel for each othersâ€™ bodies and are aware of their partner's fantasies. Consequently, married sex is better than single sex. Further, a long, stable relationship lends itself to sexual experimentation. Admit it; there are things you'd love to try in bed that you've never told anyone because you were afraid of being judged. But in a long-term relationship founded on trust, you can give voice to your innermost desires. No.4 - Marriage means more sex. Married men have more sex than single men do. It's a fact -supported by study after study. A study done by the Kinsey Institute, for example, suggests that 23% of non-married men periodically go a year without sex, while only 1% of married men experience 12-month dry spells. Similarly, while 19% of single guys have sex two to three times a week, 36% of married men have sex that often. So, while single guys are out at the clubs, spending their pay checks just to get a girl's attention, married men are home having sex with their wives.
No.5 - Marriage brings financial benefits. There are numerous financial benefits associated with matrimony. For starters, there are tax breaks for married couples as well as for families. Getting married might also mean getting access to things like her premium health insurance plan. Like it or not, society is designed to make life easier for married couples. If you're single, you're out of luck. That's another argument in our top 10 reasons to get married. No.6 - Marriage makes you more attractive. As our own Justin Prugh covered in his article, Why Do Single Women Like Taken married Men? Married men are more attractive to other women. Now, we're not suggesting that you should get married purely because it will make it easier to score with other women, but we are suggesting that marriage makes you appealing to the opposite sex. Because getting attention from beautiful women feels good, it's a confidence booster. Plus, when you go out with all of your single buddies, all of the hot women will be hitting on you. Who's laughing now? No.7 - Marriage prevents you from dying alone. Sure, you're on a hot streak right now, dating 20-year-old yoga instructors and bi-curious baristas, but we both know that's not going to last forever. How's being single going to work out for you when you're 60, when you have hair in all of the wrong places and no one can stand to look at you? Marriage is an investment in your future. Sure, you sacrifice some of your sweet single years, but in exchange you get to make a long-term investment in one person, building a deep, abiding love that has the potential to last a lifetime. No.8 - Marriage gives you a platform to build your bloodline on OK, so technically you don't need to be married to have a family, but marriage is still the standard method for starting a family. The nuclear family, despite its flaws, remains a sought-after model. That's why having kids is another argument in our top 10 reasons to get married. Being a father is a dimension of manhood that just about every guy wants to experience -- and marriage is the most stable and secure environment in which to start a family. No.9 - Marriage increases your earning power. You know that big-screen TV you've been saving for? Well, if you were married, you'd probably own it by now. Being married means sharing expenses and splitting the costs of major purchases. You cynics out there gripe about the money women cost you, but the money you'd spend on dinner dates and the occasional gift is dwarfed by the prospect of having an extra income in the household. Marriage means you can afford the things you could never afford on your own; it means a better home, a better car, a better vacation, and cooler stuff. NO.10 - MARRIAGE MAKES YOU LIVE LONGER. One of the ways that getting married improves your life is by making it last longer. Various studies have indicated that happily married men tend to outlast their single counterparts. For example, a 2006 study performed by University of California researchers contended that single people are five times more likely to die of infectious disease, nearly 40% more likely to die of heart disease and twice as likely to die accidentally. Other studies suggest that the rate of mortality is a whopping 250% higher among single men than it is among married men.
Have you ever come across anyone who did nothing to become something? Here is a simple but powerful principle for greatness. To do nothing is the way to be nothing! People judge you by actions, not by intentions.
our life story is not written with a pen, but with your actions. Do you have a dream? Work on it. Do you have an idea? Act on it. Do you have a goal? Reach it now! Life that is void of action will be void of significance. Move out of your comfort zone and stop daydreaming. Move from the future you desire into the future you deserve. I discovered that people have intentions but lack contentions. They intend but don’t contend. Yes, they pray but don’t pass that level. Prayer should never be an excuse for inaction. Success awaits you, meet it. Never wait for it, rather work for it, fight for it, if need be sweat for it. Not in haste but with faith. Never stop if it steeps, never quit, it will hit. You’ve got to zoom after it with full capacity and sagacity. Refuse to be stopped by pain or past. Refuse to be restricted by persisted fear or doubt. And you will be amazed to see the result of your actions. Don’t be afraid to take great stride that seems too risky. Risk every risk because it might be too risky not to take a risk. So take risk. Take action. Never procrastinate. Just do it! Stop wishing for a change, start working for it. Life is 10% inspiration and 90% perspiration. Therefore perspire if you don’t want to expire. Never fold your hands waiting for a perfect condition because you may not get anything done. Get this fact, those who wait, waste!! Don’t be lazy! Laziness keeps on and on, but soon enough it arrives at poverty. Hard work brings prosperity while playing around brings pov-
erty. Do not belittle yourself because nothing is more exhausting than searching for an easy way to make a living. Know what you want and go for it. Pursuit comes before possession. Nothing is ever possessed without pursuit. Nothing! Pursue your vision in life as if your life depends on it because it truly does. Until you move, nothing moves for you. Irrespective of the books you have read, the seminars you have attended and the prayers you have made, until you take resourceful and practical steps, your dreams will be weak. We are the weakest when we try to get something for nothing. Get started. Get busy. It is better to fall in doing something than to succeed in doing nothing. Let me ask you this: What are you known for? Just as Kirk Franklin is known to be a musician and Wright Brothers are known as engineers. In the next five years, what will you like to be known for? Friends, I am an advocate of change and not a day dreamer of success, therefore I enjoin you to stop wishing for change rather start working for it. The top belongs to those who will dare to do something about their dreams and aspirations. See you at the top because the bottom is crowded!
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hat do you focus on and prioritize as the leader of your business? Activity is not the same as productivity. Motion does not always signify progress. Activity is not necessarily accomplishment. Diligence is not necessarily effectiveness. Faithfulness is never the same as fruitfulness. Not all efforts bring about results. There is aworld of difference between getting things done (busy) and gettingresults (progress). Telling the difference is what this article is all about. Knowing the difference is what really makes some leaders more successful than others. Successful leaders are leaders with an eagle’s eye: they practice and live by the principle of focus and priority. They are not activity driven (busy), they are result driven (progress). They don’t care about knowing or doing everything; they are mostly concerned about knowing and doing the main things. Great leaders are not a repository of everything or anything; they are repositories of only what matters. They don’t see everything, they only see what matters. They don’t go after everything; they only pursue the main things. They see, not as we see; they see through the eyes of the eagle; they see based on priority and they focus only on their vision. They practice a different kind of leadership; not one based on execution (activity), but one based on contribution (productivity). This is a leadership built on focus
and priority; a leadership driven by vision and purpose. This kind of leadership is what I call ‘eagle eye leadership’. What is eagle eye leadership? Eagle eye leadership is a kind of leadership practiced mostly by successful leaders in any work of life. It is a kind of leadership based on focus and priority. In other words, eagle eye leadership is a kind of leadership based on focus and priority and is mostly prac iced by successful leaders in all works of life. Eagle eye leadership refers to a leadership hinged upon vision and purpose. It is leadership focused on vision and following a purpose. It’s a leadership pursuing a vision and obeying a purpose. It’s not a survival driven kind of leadership, but a significance driven kind of leadership. It’s not a kind of leadership built on diligence alone (hard work) but also essence (designed work). This kind of leadership doesn’t just ask “what is to be done?”, but also asks, “Why must it be done?” This kind of leadership doesn’t just work hard (diligence) but only works based on the vision it’s pursuing and a purpose it’s obeying (essence). Eagle eye leadership is not a reactive kind of leadership that is based on just doing (movement or motion), but a proactive leadership based on improving (progress or contribution). Eagle eye continue on page 38
continue from page 16 leadership weighs every decision, situation and action against its original vision, destination and intention. It asks “how does this decision, situation or action play out and affect my initial vision, destination or intention?” it asks, “what is the place or role of this decision, situation or action in my overall intention, destination or vision?” it doesn’t just do, but does only when it finds a purpose, a place or reason for what needs to be done in the overall scheme of things. Every move, decision and action is tied to a predetermined end, purpose or vision. It is interested in doing only what matters; such things that would significantly affect the bottom-line. That is; the original vision, purpose and objective initially agreed upon. It weighs every action, decision or situation against the ultimate goal, vision or purpose in mind. Eagle eye leadership is all about focus; a concentrated effort or attention on a particular thing (in this case, a vision) and priority; following or doing only the
things with the greatest returns and of the greatest importance (in this case, purpose). Therefore, eagle eye leadership is all about focusing on the vision only and making the fulfillment of the purpose your priority. In other words, you focus the vision and prioritize the purpose. That is to say, you make the vision your main emphasis and then you put the purpose above in front of all you do. This is what I mean; your task as the leader is to make the vision of the business your destination (focus) and make the purpose why you are in business your number one goal or objective (priority). Focus the vision The vision is the mental picture of the business in the mind of the leader, it could be an image or concept conceived through imagination. The vision often refers to where or what the leader perceives and sees
the business to be in the nearest future. The vision is a mental projection of the business, a mental destination for the business. It is usually future– bound. What tomorrow will look like, where we want to be in some year’s time, how big we hope to be. The vision is the mental picture of a better or preferable future for the business. This is what the leader must emphasize on. A business without a vision is a business without direction. There’s only one place such a business will end up; nowhere! Prioritize the Purpose The purpose is the original reason why the business was created. It is the initial intent of the founder of the business. The purpose is why the business exists; why they open up for business everyday, and why they ever considered starting up such a business in the first place. The purpose usually is determined in the past long before the business came into
existence. It is the foundation on which the business was built; this is why it’s seldom changed. The purpose dwells on the outcome of the business, it doesn’t focus on outputs. Outputs are the exact goods or services offered by the business to the market, while outcomes are those needs being met by the goods and services produced. While the vision of a business can always be changed since it’s something you project, the purpose most times remains unchanging unless it’s no longer of relevance to the market. The purpose is not something the leader sees and decides to obey or follow. The purpose of a business is often the need the business was created to meet or fulfill. So does your business have a purpose for its existence besides just making money?
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INTRODUCTION: ow much of abnormal things that have happened and are happening do you know? If you are hungry for some, follow me as I scribe the oddest of the oddest events that have ever happened and are happening. What you will read will leave you with speculations—whether they are true or false. This is the most interesting part of the show. When you are lost in the world of doubts, when you exhaust so much nervous energy weighing the truth value of the piece you will read, when you raise arguments, then and only then will my aim be achieved. I know your eyes are probably bulging in anticipation, I know you can’t wait for another second to read through this line and proceed to the next, just relax and take a deep breath and most importantly, bring out the doubting Thomas in you as I present in my own style the oddest of the oddest things that have ever happened and are happening..........
1 THE PSYCHIC HEALER WHO PERFORMED MAJOR SURGERY WITH JUST A RUSTY PENKNIFE: Does the name Arigo mean anything to you? Maybe its momentum won’t be felt in this part of the world but what about in South America , Brazil in particular? Some where in Congonhas do Campo was a heroic God-sent peasant farmer, Ze Arigo who was also known as The Surgeon Of The Rusty Knife. In him was the ability to carry out major surgical operations in seconds that conventional surgery will take hours to complete. No antisepsis was used and there was no ensuing infection, he was able to stop the flow of blood with just a verbal command; he attended to about 300 patients per day. He cured terminal diseases like cancer and leukemia; he cured leprosy; and many other severe conditions that conventional doctors have given up on. Believe it or not, Arigo was an ordinary peasant farmer; he never went beyond third grade and never studied medicine or any related subject yet he was able to write swiftly some of the most sophisticated prescriptions in modern pharmacology. His work was confirmed by prominent citizens such as President Kubitschek (builder of Brasilia), Singer Roberto Carlos, prominent Dr. Henry Puharich and Henry Belk (both U.S.A. ) among many others. The only tool used by Arigo was rusty, dirtylooking penknife and sometimes a black crucifix. When he was asked in court in October 1956, his words were: I am not the one who is doing this. I am just an intermediary between a spirit and the people. It is the spirit of Dr. Fritz. He insists that I help people, and I am just doing what God wants me to do. Arigo died on January 11, 1971 in an auto accident. 2 A 5-YEAR OLD PERUVIAN: WORLD’S YOUNGEST MOTHER: Into the hospital at Pisco ( Peru ) came a tired, ragged Indian woman from the foothills of the Andes . She led by the hand a shy little girl, scarcely three feet tall, with chestnut braids and an enormously bulging abdomen. Pointing to the frightened girl, the Indian begged Surgeon Geraldo Lozada to exorcise the evil spirits which have taken possession of her. Certain that little Lina Medina had an abdominal tumor, Dr, Lozada examined her, received the surprise of his life when he discovered that she was eight months pregnant. Dr. Lozada took her to Lima , the capital of Peru , prior to the surgery to have other specialists confirm
that Lina was in fact pregnant. A month and a half later, on May 14, 1939 ; she gave birth to a boy by a cesarean section necessitated by her small pelvis. The surgery was performed by Dr. Lozada, Dr. Busalleu, with Dr. Colretta providing anesthesia. Her case was reported in detail by Dr.Edmundo Escomel to La Presse Medicale, along with additional details that her menarche had occurred at 8 months of age, and that she had had prominent breasts development by the age of 4. By age 5 her figure displayed pelvic widening and advanced bone maturation. 3 MOROCCO’S CLIMBING GOATS: Goats climbing trees? FUNNY! BIZZARE! But it’s true. Goats on trees are found mostly in Morocco . The goats climb them because they like to eat the fruit of the argan tree, which is similar to an olive. Farmers actually follow the herds of goats as they move from tree to tree. Not because it is so strange to see goats in trees, but because the fruit of the tree has a nut inside which the goats can’t digest, so they spit it up or excrete it which the farmers collect. The nut contains 1-3 kernels which can be ground to make argan oil used in cooking and cosmetics. This oil has been collected by the people of the region for hundreds of years, but like many wild and useful things these days, the argan tree is slowly disappearing due to over harvesting for the tree’s wood and overgrazing by goats. That’s not all, I’ve got an avalanche of these stuffs that I intend to stir your brains with. Just allow this one to ricochet in your head as I pause writing until the next edition of this magazine. If you like what you’ve just read, ensure not to miss the next edition. BELIEVE IT OR NOT, THESE FACTS ARE REAL; THEY ARE AS REAL AS THE HEAVENS AND THE EARTH…….
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young man was getting ready to graduate from college. For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealer's showroom, and knowing his father could well afford it, he told him that was all he wanted.
As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited signs that his father had purchased the car. Finally, on the morning of his graduation, his father called him into his private study. His father told him how proud he was to have such a fine son, and told him how much he loved him. He handed his son a beautifully wrapped gift box. Curious, but somewhat disappointed, the young man opened the box and found a lovely, leather-bound Bible, with the young man's name embossed in gold. Angry, he raised his voice to his father and said "With all your money, you give me a Bible?" and stormed out of the house, leaving the Bible. Many years passed and the young man was very successful in business. He had a beautiful home and wonderful family, but realized his father was very old, and thought perhaps he should go to him. He had not seen him since that graduation day. Before he could make arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had passed away, and willed all of his possessions to his son. He needed to come home immediately and take care of things. When he arrived at his father's house, sudden sadness and regret filled his heart. He began to search through his father's important papers and saw the still new Bible, just as he had left it years ago. With tears, he opened the Bible and began to turn the pages. And as he did, a car key dropped from the back of the Bible. It had a tag with the dealer's name, the same dealer who had the sports car he had desired. On the tag was the date of his graduation, and the words PAID IN FULL.
ow many times do we miss God’s blessings and answers to our prayers because they do not arrive exactly as we have expected? Many times we even threaten to leave the faith and so many people have. God has answered our prayers. If you can’t see it with your eyes, look with your spirit. It’s there in His word. If you are challenged today, your answer is in His word. I challenge you to shun complain and open His word today. The key is in there.
of POWER Customer Relationship Management (CRM) By Eddy Kome Isikeh
ften referred to as a type of technology, customer relationship management (CRM) is first and foremost a business philosophy – a way to consistently treat your guest’s right. Technology is the enabler that helps get useful information into the hands of your management and staff so that they can more powerfully foster guest satisfaction and loyalty. The big payoff is increased revenue, increased profits and more targeted marketing efforts in the hospitality industry.. CRM solutions typically evolve from simple manual processes, to standalone software and eventually to fully integrated systems spanning all channels and guest touchpoints. The ability to analyze historical data in countless ways, including gives strategic decision makers the factual knowledge they need to guide the organization toward its goals, and gives front line staff the customer knowledge they need to treat their guests like gold. CRM technology has become an important force in many industries, hospitality included that can help give hotels the edge over competitors while maximizing profitability, revenue and customer satisfaction. Some organizations may be more technically advanced than others but the CRM journey is a continuous one. As more data is gathered over time, new insights are illuminated and acted upon. CRM Tools Hotels generally gather information through their PMS, uploading and retrieving information regularly from a CRM database. Some hotels can handle their CRM requirements directly from the PMS alone especially when upgraded with increasingly powerful modules that have query capabilities. But the more robust and powerful practice is to implement horizontal CRM systems designed specifically for the purpose of gathering data from multiple sources, scrubbing the information to enhance data integrity and analyzing data in a myriad of ways. The CRM must be fully integrated with existing CRS, PMS, Web site and other IT infrastructure and architecture. Benefits and Pitfalls When CRM is mastered, corporate benefits abound. Revenue and occupancy get a boost from
cross-selling and up-selling to existing loyal customers, attracting new customers and providing services through multi-channels making it easier for guests to purchase services. Differentiation occurs when you create customer loyalty by responding to customer needs and preferences in ways that enhance their lifetime value to you as an organization. Enhanced decision making helps top level management steer the company closer to its guest-centred vision. However, because CRM spans the entire organization it is only as good as its weakest link and is susceptible to failure mainly due to lack of buy-in, planning, training and overall leadership. To help CRM succeed in your organization, you need to remember these four basic tips: 1.) Share the vision and train with rigor to ensure data integrity. CRM is an enterprise-wide commitment encompassing all elements of the organization. Key leaders need to unfailingly convey the overall corporate vision of how they expect CRM to help achieve goals. CRM should ultimately give staff more decision-making power, helping them to anticipate customer needs more quickly and accurately. Feeding accurate information to the CRM ultimately rides on the shoulders of hotel management and staff. If data entry is inconsistent or inaccurate, the value of the CRM plummets. Proper training is the key to successful implementation of CRM. Standardized input is essential and ongoing monitoring and training is important to ensure that data entry standards remain high. 2.) Plan on all levels to foster buy-in and get perspective. Get feedback from all parts of the organization on how they interact with guests now and how they could see themselves delivering better service in the future. Map out all guest touch-points and re-evaluate key processes in light of improving the guest experience. Your plan should be aligned with your overall business and marketing strategies and outline how your property will build customer loyalty. Prepare a complete business case including solid ROI estimates when deciding on the tools you will use to collect your data. Review your IT skill level and how your technology outlook is aligned with overall corporate goals. Ensure that you’ve amply budgeted for training and change management to ensure that technology and processes are adopted successfully. Purchasing CRM systems can be a big ticket item. If you don’t have the skills in-house to objectively evaluate the multitude of options available, hire a consultant to take on the process for you. Often an outside objective third-party who is
not tied to a specific technology can quickly shortlist the key vendors that match your needs and help you develop the solution that works best. Experts can question vendors in areas where your basic systems know-how may be limited, saving you time and money in the long run. Don’t bite off more than you can chew. Work back from your vision and define achievable steps for implementing your new system. Work on basic elements first, and when achieved successfully, move onto the next stage. 3.) Optimally use data to enhance ROI. The two most important ways to use your CRM data are to enhance the guest experience and to leverage marketing strategies. Enhancing the guest experience with CRM technology helps you know what guests want before they even walk through the front door. Know which are your most important customers and treat them like gold. Your staff should have the knowledge to offer the right service at the right time to the right guests. To leverage marketing strategies, CRM provides powerful customer segmentation, marketing, advertising and media analysis. Truly knowing who your customers are can help you pinpoint communications more accurately improving your marketing ROI. You may find that some guests are more inclined to respond to discounts, while others prefer extras like room upgrades or dinner packages. By effectively targeting the right offers to the right guests, your revenue increases. Guests are less annoyed because you are marketing offers they are interested in and in the way they want be communicated with. 4) Constantly measure and fine-tune your strategies. I can’t overstate the importance of tracking results consistently and actually using the information to facilitate better business decisions. Keep a thorough contact history for each customer by tracking when, how and what their response was for each communication. For example, you can gauge the success of campaigns by tracking separate 800 numbers to decide which customers responded to which offers and why. Measurements provide constant feedback to help modify the CRM strategy and monitor the customer experience. Whether you use advanced CRM technology or not, focusing your attention on your guests in ways they appreciate can only help improve your revenue and ultimately the bottom line. Eddy ‘Kome Isikeh is a Hospitality Principal Consultant and the Managing Director / CEO of Broad Hospitality Solutions Ltd can be reached at 07034039219 for any Hospitality Solutions.
DON’T HOLD YOUR PRAISE By Shaunna Jackson - Agboju
“Through Jesus, therefore, let us continually offer to God a sacrifice of praise—the fruit of lips that openly profess his name.” Hebrews 13:15
ontinual praise is much easier to think about than to execute. Of course it is easy to praise God at the end of an experience, but while you go through…many of us would rather pout than praise. The Word of God says we are to continually offer praise, not because we are so good at it but because God wants us to focus on him… all the time! Our lives are consumed to distractions, challenges, setbacks, and worry and those things keep us from embracing the peace we would otherwise have by knowing and confessing that God is in control working things out on our behalf. Praise mutes the noise of everyday life. The Word of God also says, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” (Philippians 4:8) Praise, contrary to popular belief, is not just singing, or a particular tempo of music. Praise takes on many different forms; helping someone in need, prayer, choosing to forgive instead of holding a grudge, being happy for someone else’s gain, consistently and joyfully giving of your resources… So often we get embarrassed, or for whatever reason, choose to stifle praise, but remember that Luke 19 says, “…If they keep quiet, the stones will cry out.” In the moment we feel like shouting “why me, Lord?” instead, just whisper “Praise the Lord, he’s got this under control.” It doesn’t matter what you are up against, choosing to praise God instead of feeling rejected or insulted, could dramatically change the outcome of your situation. God can see you everywhere. Would you rather have him see you stomping your feet and whining, or throwing your hands toward him with shouts of hallelujah? Confess that Jesus is Lord of all, and that includes your life too! Whatever the enemy uses to distract you, smother it with praise. Don’t hold your praise, supersize it and let it become who you are. “Praise is what I do When I want to be close to you I lift my hands in praise Cause Praise is who I am I will praise him while I can And I'll bless him at all times I vow to praise you Through the good and the bad I'll praise you Whether happy or sad I'll praise you (Talk) This is my testimony In all that I go through (Talk) somebody say why I say Because praise is what I do Cause I owe it all to you…” ~Shekinah Glory Ministries~
CONFRONTING AN ABUSIVE P E R S O N
fter a busy day, I was famished and walked into a restaurant to eat dinner; no thanks to my singleness. I was working on a project the day before, and forgot to eat dinner until it was too late --- my stomach is not use to going two nights without a meal. On that day, no one needed to remind me to stop by the restaurant on my way home from the forum at which I gave a talk. Unfortunately the restaurant I chose was full, and after squeezing myself into a seat, I had to wait a little longer for my order to be taken. My mind was busy reflecting on my day; what I had said and what I forgot to say in my talk, when suddenly an argument brought me back to consciousness. “Give me my change na!” a guy who looked respectable, dressed in a designer white shirt yelled at a waitress. “I dey come.” She replied calmly as she asked her colleague to bring the change and then stopped by my table to take my order. The dude got impatient and shouted, “Hey! No waste my time. Wetin dey do this mumu girl sef?” This time, the waitress replied in a manner not expected of her, or at least the guy wasn’t expecting that from her, “Oga I don send for the change abeg. Take am easy!” and immediately mumbled, “This oga too do sef,” as she turned to me and took my order. Deep within me, I knew a scene was about to be created because the dude, though looking respectable, will not accept a response from a waitress in that manner. Forgive me for my unfairness in judgment. My opinion is based on his tone when he speaks to the waitress; the tone is chauvinistic - you know the type of man who thinks that women, especially waitresses should not talk to men that way. Another reason for my point of view is that his beautiful girlfriend sat beside him and from what I know about men; they tend to create a scene if they feel disrespected in the presence of their women. I feared for the waitress. . It wasn’t a surprise when he stood up and said, “Na me you dey talk to like that abi? I no blame you, stupid girl! See her like monkey!” The waitress ignored him and continued her work. I believe her silence provoked him the more and he continued to denigrate her in many words. “See me see trouble o! All these Calabar girls no get respect sef. See this ugly thing o! You dey craze you hear!” The guy continued angrily. I still couldn’t understand why the waitress held her tongue from replying even though it was obvious that she was fighting tears. Obviously some uneducated Calabar girls are more matured in controlling angry outbursts than some fine civilized dudes. I know a lot of women who would have preferred losing their jobs to give the dude a piece of their hearts rather than put up with such rudeness or insanity. I pitied her and uttered words of comfort to her and held her hands, but I am not the regular kind of person who is obsessed with correcting people publicly while defending another. Even if I mustered energy to say something I was too hungry and tired for a fight. I faced my business squarely, and that was to eat. If anyone should have controlled the excesses of the dude that night, it was his girlfriend, but she wasn’t saying anything, why should I? I don’t understand how some girls sleep well at night after watching their men abuse innocent and helpless
women publicly and do nothing in defense of her gender or even calm the man. “Na dem sabi sha.” I soliloquized. Meanwhile everyone in the restaurant, including me, pretended to be eating until the dude got his change, made for the door, and gave his deathblow. “Hey monkey, next time make you mind the way you dey talk to people like me you...” Before adding another adjective, the guy sitting next to my table was vexed and spoke up. “My guy shame no dey catch you? Leave this girl alone na.” As if everyone in the restaurant was waiting for a cue, they pounced on him in a manner of a rapist caught by a victim’s relatives. I ate my food quietly. Hey! Don’t consider me cruel. Cruel is what I call the “defender of the universe” who at this point were pouncing on the dude with equally unfair remarks. As usual, I also used the opportunity to study human behavior and response when hauled over the coals. I wanted to know if people will change when they are openly challenged by a mob and I got my answer that night. Did the jungle justice change this man? Negative. Before he left that place, he had upset more people and busted more bubbles. I had to snatch him away before they lynched him because he had made more people angry in the restaurant and the scene was degenerating into fisticuffs. Like every one of us when reprimanded, we tend to listen to the only person who seems to understand us, and I was that person for him that night. I wasn’t supportive of his act and indeed I condemned it. But I believe if a person should be rebuked, we should choose the style of Jesus when he said, “he who is without sin be the first to cast the stone” even though Jesus knew the woman to whom he spoke was in error. I believe the dude that night should be rebuked, but with an angry man jungle justice rarely works. He may be forced to shut up, but will end up leaving with resentment and ready to do worse in the future. At the time of writing this article, he had called me twice and we’re getting along … and yes, he’s admitted to me his regrets when I tried to explain the danger of his act. Nice guy I must say – just had a bad side, which can be managed with kindness, not with a loud jungle rod of correction. I know the guy has a bad side and it is unfortunate, but who doesn’t? I am not a judge, but I know that by being nice to him he would definitely change. Here is my point: Reprimanding a person in public, especially in the presence of their partner, would cause a violent response in the bid to protect their image. Does it stop there? No. He will offend more people and then the essence of correcting the person will not be achieved. Most people will not change or apologize when attacked like this. Would you? I don’t know much, but I know that no one likes to be rebuked like a baby – I don’t. On most occasions, we’re so wrapped up by our desires to correct and protect others that we equally become cruel to the angry person - like using violence to extinguish violence. It doesn’t work that way and that’s why most times we miss the opportunity to be the face of change; people become pigheaded when they could be changing. Finally, although there are times when it is necessary to stop someone physically from hurting another person, more often than not it is helpful that we show love and understanding to those lost in anger, allowing them to discover their tenderness, everyone of us possesses that good quality. When someone loses his temper or does something objectionable, it's up to us to extend love to them, not a “holier than thou” attitude. Only then can we make adequate change to someone who is lost in anger or offensive behavior.
Purest Love, Collins Oluniyi Agboju PS: This article is an actual experience written about two years ago.
10 THINGS YOUR MAN BRINGS INTO THE RELATIONSHIP 1 ave you ever wondered why men act in certain ways? H Have you ever used the phrase “all men are the same?” Are you among millions of women who are exasperated
in the journey to understanding their men? This article might help with some of the answers. Every woman wants to know the man she has chosen to date or marry. Women are relational beings and a lot in their dating and marriage depends on how much they KNOW their men. A man could care less about this but knowledge is at the core of the relationship for women. I have never met a woman who does not seek a better way to know her man. The problem is that a lot of women are looking at illusive angle. in this series, i am unveling 10 things you may need to consider looking at with the man you have chosen.
any women have been deceived into believing the concept that men think with “between their legs” or that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Unfortunately, more women are frustrated because this concept doesn’t work. It may apply to attracting some men but rarely keeps them. Think for a second, if all you need to do is feed him with your body and food, then relationships and marriages should be the most peaceful places on earth. or better still whores will be better wives. With the recent divorce rate and the arrow of satisfaction pointing downwards in many marriages, sex and food alone do not make men happy in their relationships. Something else does. And this is what the following article attempt to offer. When next you decide to get serious with a man, look for the following points. The more you can manage this, the closer you are to enjoying the man. Please note that this article is not offering tips on controlling your man but to enjoying the totality of the man you have chosen to be with.
HIS JOB Right from genesis, men have been predictable by their jobs or what they spend their day doing. Hence show me a man’s job and I will tell you a little about how he relates with his woman. Men have always viewed relationships in term of their training or job. Trust, bonding or romance boils down to their choice of job. This should not be a surprise because men spend more time with their work (an average man spends 8-10 daily at his job, 6-8 hours sleeping and 4-6 hours with you). Sometimes they even carry the workload to the bedroom splitting your own time. The probability that your man will treat you as a client is close to 1. He does this by default and not deliberately. For instance, I am trained as a journalist, which means I ask questions for a living. Sometimes they may seem irrelevant to a woman but they mean a lot to me to establish trust and form a better conclusion. I want to know what happened in detail and the facts offered have to correlate. When they don’t match, I ask more questions. It’s not the issue of the absence of trust. In fact,
trust depends on truth, consistency and sincerity for journalists like me. Half truth, blocking or inconsistency means you are hiding something and this will destroy the relationship faster than you know. I advised that men remove their work suits at the door but it is very hard to achieve this 100% of the time. Attorneys and judges may show similar traits. If you understood that your man’s job is part of his life and he deals with your relationship SOMETIMES as his job, you will not hesitate to look closely at this point and chart a course for your relationship. A builder may have a yearning for planning, an accountant wants accountability, a doctor is quick to treat you etc. I am advising that you find how your man deals with you using his job as one of pointers because that’s a huge part of his life and he takes this with him even to the grave. Part 2 comes up next edition. watch out for it.
Collins Oluniyi Agboju
OF YOUR FEARS WILL NEVER HAPPEN Collins Oluniyi Agboju
e take risks everyday though we refer to most of them as events of our lives. Driving your car is a risky decision because you heard of someone who drove his SUV yesterday and perished in it. If you don’t have a car, walking is risky too. Did you see in the news how someone was killed while crossing the road? Investing your money in stocks, bonds, and real estate is risky, very risky. Those who have lost money on Wall Street and Main Street in the past year are better at telling this story. Women take risks to get pregnant and watch the babies grow; what if the children die at birth, or as infants? In everything we do, from waking up in the morning, drinking a coup of tea, going to work, and to sleeping at night, certain levels of risks are involved. Yet, these risks are taken because we believe they are part of living. Howbeit those who don't do these things are referred to as living corpse. No matter the risk we take daily; serious or not, every one of us accommodate certain fears. The degree of those fears is determined by temperament, personality type, beliefs, and often childhood conditioning. For instance, I was raised in a decent family where risks are too risky, and for the love of life, we had to settle for what was available. A lot of us have limits set in place (by us or by family) to restrict us from stretching beyond boarders. I have made huge mistakes by taking some risks, but I am better for it. What you fear is stronger than you, and that means you are a slave to your fears until you decide to break loose. Little wonder those who are timid, afraid to stretch, rarely succeed.
Life is built on the foundation of venturing and contending. God, in the beginning, ventured to create this world amidst difficult challenges as it is written; “…and the world was without form and void and darkness was upon the face of the deep. And God Said let there be light…” God wasn’t afraid of the darkness and the void he encountered while attempting to create this world – He ventured. If you care to add, He took the risk; you and I are the product of that risk. I dare say those who fear to take risks will always be at the mercy of those who do. Look through your window. I will tell you what you stand to see - the wide gap between those who are ready to take risks and the timid. Fear is the greatest unmaking of losers – the fear of “what if”. This alibi has kept me downtrodden for ages. The good news is that 92% of our fears will never happen. Here is the result of a research: * Roughly 40% of what we fear/worry about will never happen * 30% of what we fear/worry about has already happened * 23% of our fear/worry is about unfounded things that are still assumptions * Totally, 92% of things that we fear/ worry about will never on earth come to pass * Only 8% is possible to occur and if it happens, God has given us strength to handle it. Why then do you fear to venture?
The most prominent fear of this age is the fear to venture because of failed experiences in our past. This fear abounds in nearly every heart since we all have encountered one form of disappointment or another in our lives. I was a victim of many fears, but this fear’s huge and sadly, it spread to everything I do, eating me up like cancer. Many of us will dare stare the devil in the face or go into the proverbial Nigeria's evil forest (I don’t know if it really exists) but cannot risk falling in LOVE again. Possibly you keep asking, “Why should I fall in love when I stand the chance of heartbreak?” “Why travel through the rigors of that part when men are jerks and women are loose?” Why give someone my love when I am not sure if it’s not going to be trampled on?” Many and many more questions might ring in your head, but the truth remains that those who fear failure have failed already, because the hands of the timid attract failure. I speak also to people who have packed up businesses and ideas because it didn’t work the first time. In the making of an incandescent lamp, Thomas Edison failed about 10,000 times and yet he said, “I didn’t fail 10, 000 time. I successfully eliminated 10,000 errors and combination that couldn’t work.” Success responds to persistence. Take the risk again and who knows, this could be the time that the tide will turn in your favor. Shalom. Collins Agboju writes from the United States of America. Read more: www.dearagbocol.blospot.com
Dear AGBOCOL advice on life, love, and marriage
am a 2o year old woman in love with a man who is 19 years older than I am and he’s not married yet. He wants me to marry him. Is it proper? ge is the physical accumulation of numbers, which may have nothing to add to success and happiness in marriage. Yet more than numbers, age could mean a lot to marriage because a baby will create more problems in the home than an adult. As to if it’s wrong to marry a man that is 19 years older than you, nothing is wrong if God doesn’t condemn it. The answer is your conscience and your ability to handle situation at stake. You must take a closer look at the problems that could arise with such a wide age margin. Nancy Van Pelt, an international therapist on love matters says 8-10 age difference needs closer look at the challenges they’ll encounter in marriage. For instance, physical activities and interests may differ because the younger person will wish to go out more and enjoy what an older person has outgrown or consider waste of time. It is also possible that attitudes and approach toward life will be different because a younger person’s perspective about life might differ from an older person. Another case to consider is that the person you’re in love with at 20 may not be the person you’re in love with at 25. Changing personality could also be your problem in the future. But if in the reality you are able to cope with the differences you can begin marriage negotiations. To make matters easier for you I have decided to compile a simple acid test to give you a clearer picture of the challenges this age bracket could bring. The first is; do you really love this man as you’ve claimed? Think properly before you answer this question because your success in marriage needs this foundation. I must state that love is not a feeling to want to be with someone neither is it his generosity and kindness. It goes
deeper than this. It entails ability to stay with someone regardless differences and challenges. Ladies miss it a lot at this point. When a man gives you so much care and gifts, it doesn’t interpret love. It could be a lure. If your answer after much reasoning is in the affirmative, please answer the next question with utmost sincerity. Can you handle a marriage with a man whose thought level is far beyond yours? Do you think you’d be compactable in many ways and in many years to come? He’d be living in the 60s while your youthful nature desires to live in this century. I must say this because the things that mean much to a 20years old lady could be waste of time to a 39years old man. In simple terms love to a 20years old lady is different from love to a 39years old man. At 20 a lady is filled with fantasy and she’s crazy for expression while a 39 years old man is facing reality. Also, you need attention more than ever at your age. Can your man be able to meet up with your demands? If perchance he can, will he be available most time because at 39, a man is working full speed to make it before he turns a fool at forty. Can you take the risk because you might have clashes of interest when you are married? Here is another test: Can you freely look into his eyes and play with him like you’d do to someone slightly older without being scared? This is truly important because we all need to marry a friend who we can relate with without reservation. After you’ve answered these questions and you’re still positive I have yet another question for you. Will he be willing to treat you as a wife not as a daughter? Remember that if he had married at 19 or impregnated a girl at that age, which was possible, you could be have been his daughter. To decipher if he’s got that trait observe the way he does your thinking for you, rule you and demand respect. If this man displays such traits now, you may be getting married to a father not a friend.
If you have answered these entire questions and still see a need to go ahead with the marriage because you figure you’ll be happy with him, please try to concentrate on him and not what the world would say. A lot of people including your friends may think you’re crazy or something close to it. Please note that people’s opinion is as a result of their ignorance of your feelings and the treasures you’ve seen in your man. It cannot be relied on. But I want to assure you that love wins all battle even though it looks like first class insanity. Cheers. FOR INSTANCE : After discovering her at 19, Tommy Mottola divorced his wife and married Mariah Carey in one of the most expensive wedding the world has witnessed. The bride wore a tiara modeled on the one Princess Diana wore for her wedding and a 27ft train. She was 23 and he was 44. Mottola controlled every aspect of Carey's life and career. The couple built a hideous house in Bedford hills, with 12bedrooms, a recording studio, ballroom, helicopter and two swimming pools. He restricted her movement and gave her bodyguards to achieve his aim. Because a younger person wants to go out more and catch some fun, Mariah felt like a prisoner. She chafed against the restrictions and the couple divorced in 1998 after four years of marriage and 9 months of separation. My personal opinion: Mariah and Mottola lived in different generations and the level of understanding is minimal though they have magnetic chemistry.
gbocol is married and presently lives in the United States of America. He welcomes questions on life, love and marriage. Send your question to agbocol@gmail. com. To invite Agbocol to speak at your forum please send an email to the adress above. visit his blog for more; www.dearagbocol.blogspot.com
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REASONS WHY YOU ARE STILL SINGLE
Even though you want to be married!
elieving in lies â€“ sometimes it is obvious that people easily forget that one of the major characteristic of Satan is to tell lies. He is the father of lies .The universal constitution call him the source of lies. Because God instituted marriage, Satan does everything possible to deceive you not to be married. He whispers to you that to remain single is better. This is a Lie .challenges comes to every human being whether you are married or not. The Adventure of procrastination Procrastination is the spirit responsible for telling you to wait a little more even when the time is ripe. It tells you reasons to delay getting married even though the reasons are so wrong, fantasizing and unrealistic. Statistics shows that ninety five percent of one hundred singles have all had one or more or even countless opportunities to have been married at one time or the other. These opportunities were misappropriated because of the adventures of procrastination. A dream is most times not what you see of it; rather it is what you make out of it.
You should realize that the road you once passed, others also passed and may not neglect the beautiful oranges and fruits you had refused to pick and pluck, but you had in mind to pluck when returning from the journey. But it is undoubtedly obvious that others may pluck it before you return. Standardizing the marriage market â€“ You standardize by setting an unrealistic, frivolous standard for yourself that looks and sounds very childish in the ears of God .Nothing is wrong with setting standards but does it give glory to God ? so many singles pray , fast and profess that they really want to get married but they keep going in and out , near to materialize relationships. Most of the time they are even meant to believe that they have spiritual demonic problem where as in most cases it is their selfish standardization that has helped to keep them single. Most of these standards are canal , selfish and does not glorify God that is why you are still single even though you want to be married. See more on reasons and solutions next Edition.
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