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Issue 26 • October 2018

Making feeding

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triggers & tips for postnatal depression

Understand & address unacceptable behaviour

Sister Lilian's top tips for Colic Teething Nose-blowing

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Do you have breast oedema or engorgement Are newborn hats necessary Is it measles or not


Contents

16 Toddler hotspot 16 Signs which may indicate ADHD

Teaching your tot to blow his nose Is it measles or not? 17 Understanding sibling rivalry It's fun in the sun season

2 Dear Moms & Dads – from Sister Lilian to you 4 Dear Sister Lilian – answering your questions about

offering Baby a dummy, caps for newborn heads, and nipple piercings' effects on breastfeeding

18 Plugged-in parent

6 Baby and toddler feeding

18 Hair loss after birth

6 Why there are so many problems

Slow parenting is sensible parenting 19 Is it breast engorgement or breast oedema?

7 All about baby feeding 8 Toddlers and their tummies

9 Baby bytes 9 Forming a exible routine

Three parenting tips Sister Lilian's colic guide 10 Teething tips Finding Baby's fontanelles

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11 Is it postnatal depression? 12 Horizons

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Fennel for milk supply A lemon a day Carob vs chocolate

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13 Baby and child behaviour 13 Sister Lilian’s behaviour ABC’s 14 Six golden guidelines for better behaviour 15 Crisis time and handling habits

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Core Team Editor Sister Lilian Sub-editor Kelly Norwood-Young, Hello Hello Business manager Alan Paramor Advertising sales Gillian Richards Design Gretchen Chamberlain, UltraDesign Email magazines@sisterlilian.co.za Call +27 12 809 3342 Fax2email +27 86 691 2485 Snailmail PO Box 11156, Silver Lakes, Pretoria, 0054 Published by Sister Lilian Centre® Copyright: Sister Lilian Centre® No part of eBaby online magazine may be reproduced in any format without written consent of the publisher. All rights reserved. Every precaution has been taken to ensure correctness of information, but advice given and opinions expressed in eBaby do not replace a consultation with a health practitioner, nor can responsibility be taken for individual readers' experiences. However, the publishers and editorial team set great store by ethical, responsible baby and child care advice and rmly believe that the content found here will help improve your parenting experience.

Moms and Dads Are you also breathing in summer positivity right now?

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round this time of year, it's almost as if there's a palpable lightening of the collective mood, regardless of any personal, work and community concerns. I think it must have to do with the new year lurking just a few months away, spring hinting at summer, and the fabulous light of long days and cheerful sunshine. The mid-year months have their attractions, but there's nothing as wonderful as seasonal renewal, and emotional and physical recuperation, promised by the end-of-theyear down time. Our wish for you is that your family enjoy every moment.

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Dear Sister Lilian We have a newborn baby who isn't interested in a dummy. I'd like it to stay that way. Any suggestions? Marion Dummies have been used for thousands of years, early versions even having been made from clay, silver, coral and pearl! Generally speaking, with a more relaxed parenting style, unscheduled breastfeeding, and physical and emotional closeness, it is less likely that any baby will 'need' a dummy. Rather use these approaches to satisfy Baby's bio-emotional needs, and don't even offer a dummy. If you do at any stage use a dummy, know that while babies may prefer the softer latex ones to those made of silicon, these become worn more easily and can tear, posing risks of infection and choking, so they will need to be replaced regularly. All dummies should be kept squeaky clean. I have nipple piercings but want to nurse my baby – will I be able to? Buhle Yes, you will. Nipple piercings don't affect your ability to breastfeed, though some women nd them uncomfortable during pregnancy. You'll need to remove them while your baby nurses. Not only can they make latching and suckling more difcult for your baby, which could make you more prone to engorgement and even mastitis, but they are a choking hazard.

Baby City makes it possible for you to ask Sister Lilian for advice about your baby or toddler

Everyone says my baby must have a cap put on his head the moment he is born. Why? Martina Babies lose heat through the skin of their heads because this is a relatively large surface area. Any hair on their heads might stay moist after birth for longer too, cooling them down further. One of Baby's initial challenges outside the womb is adapting to ambient temperature. If he becomes cold, he will shiver and use up very important energy reserves. However, gently patting Baby's head dry with a soft towel, holding him skin-to-skin on your chest, and draping yourselves with a light blanket or towel will do all and more for heat conservation and generation – and research now conrms this. So, warmth and dryness (not rubbing off any vernix) is important, but a cap is not a must!

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Baby and toddler feeding It should be easy as pie!

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here really is no need for a fuss, or ghting, when it comes to feeding babies and toddlers, and parents do not need to be nutritional specialists to get it right. The main reasons why feeding causes so much anxiety are: Maternal instinct and common sense are doubted Professional opinion is often divided and confuses parents Nutritional propaganda is rife Solids are started too early The food-related causes of problems are not adequately addressed First foods are chosen unwisely Quantity and variety are increased too soon Eating is wrongly seen as a milestone of success (out of context)

Step 2: Get the food right Fruits and vegetables will supply Baby with all the energy she needs in a mineral-, vitamin- and nutrient-rich package. Prepare fresh food daily; leave store-bought baby foods for busy and difcult times. Good starter foods include: Fruits like pears, papino, apples, avocado, mango, and peaches Vegetables like butternut, hubbard and gem squash, pumpkin and carrots As Baby grows, include heavier vegtables like potato and sweet potato, and nely chopped green vegetables Step 3: Introduce the food properly If you choose a baby-led approach, letting Baby initiate the need for rst foods from six months onwards, you might even skip the purée stage altogether. Offer rst foods between milk feeds, when Baby is a little hungry but not ravenous and is in a good, inquisitive mood. Mid-morning or midafternoon usually works best. Only introduce one new food at a time. Prepare a few cubed pieces of fruit, and place them in front of your baby, who will soon get the hang of self-service. Lightly steam or purée vegetables; let Baby self-serve while you give a spoonful every now and then as well. Meat and other animal products are not important in Baby's rst year. Never force Baby to eat, and don't resort to bribing him with unhealthy 'treats'. Don't add butter, sugar or salt to a baby's food, or cereal to Baby's bottle. Oats and wheat cereals should only be introduced after 18 months.

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If you offer your baby healthy foods after six months old, and allow her to set her own pace, she'll eat when she's ready to do so. Follow these three simple steps: Step 1: Get the timing right Assess Baby's readiness for solids carefully (age is an inaccurate indicator!) – let Baby take the lead. She'll probably show interest in your food when she's ready to eat. If she suddenly demands more bottle or breast feeds, she may simply need more milk, so increase the number or length of feeds for a week to see if things settle. Most babies don't need solids before six months, with a few exceptions. Remember, milk is food – the only important food from birth until six months. Some babies take a few weeks more to achieve full food-readiness, and that too need not be a concern.

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What can I give my baby to drink? If Baby is younger than six months, she won't need anything other than her milk. From six months, you can offer Baby small quantities of water or weak rooibos tea between milk and solid feeds.

TODDLERS AND THEIR TUMMIES As your baby blossoms into a toddler, his dietary needs are going to change, and understanding this could help to end mealtime battles. Here are ve ways your toddler's eating patterns may well change: 1. Because their growth rate slows down, toddlers may eat less food than they did as babies. 2. At this age, solids become more important than milk, and you can gradually introduce your child to a variety of healthy foods. 3. Most toddlers prefer to snack on small meals throughout the day, instead of eating three meals at set times. This is ne, so long as you only offer her healthy snacks, such as fruit, veggies, rice cakes, leftover healthy meals, or unsalted popcorn for toddlers older than two years. 4. Toddlers often go through six-week cycles of enjoying certain foods, then suddenly not enjoying them. As long as the foods she does eat are healthy, try not to stress about this – she'll instinctively eat those that offer her the nutrients she needs. 5. Toddlers often enjoy either fruit or veggies, but not both. This isn't a problem; simply give your little one more of the fruit or veg he loves!

TODDLER DIETARY TROUBLESHOOTING If your toddler … Solution Has excess Feed him fewer dairy- or mucus, skin rened grain-based foods. rashes, Avoid sugary treats and constipation overly processed foods. or allergies Only eats unhealthy foods Seems never to eat

Simply stop giving them to him, and his preference for healthy food will return!

Is a fussy eater

Be unconventional and give soup for breakfast, for example!

If he's eating well at crèche, this may affect his appetite at home – don't stress! Ill babies often lose their appetite; however, make sure he drinks enough uids. Leave bite-sized pieces of food in a place your tot can easily reach. Add up all the bites he does eat, and you may be surprised at how much it is!

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Dos and don'ts of drinks for tots

Toddler eating tricks and tips These ve tips usually solve any further food resistance from toddlers – just make sure you're rst taking note of all the other feeding advice and perspectives: 1. Encourage safe DIY cooking – if a toddler has 'helped' stir the pot, peel the fruit or cut the veggies, she'll be much more eager to eat; this improves hand-eye co-ordination too! 2. Offer cocktail and kebab meals – toddlers are often more willing to eat cubed veggies and fruit when they're on a stick. 3. Make a food picture – faces, houses, trains, tractors, cars and animals, innovatively shaped out of healthy foods, go down a treat. 4. Have a picnic – get your toddler to help you pack a basket full of delicious healthy foods, and set up a picnic, even if it's right in your own living room or garden. 5. Share from your plate – toddlers are copy-cats, so they'll often eat from your plate more readily than their own. Remember, the best way to get your toddler to eat a healthy diet is to lead by example!

Toddlers only need about 400–500ml of milk, and 300–500ml of other uids, a day. Breast milk is still nature's perfect beverage; you won't nd a healthier drink for your tot! Apart from that: Water should be your child's main thirst quencher. Although little ones should learn that you eat fruit and drink water, a little freshly squeezed fruit juice is also a healthy beverage option. Rooibos tea is healthy, and can be given warm or cool. Plant-based milks such as almond or coconut milk are very tasty and healthier than cow's milk, but need only be used as occasional treats. Adding sugar or other avourants to milk, water or tea is likely to cause future dental problems, and your little one may refuse to drink plain water in the future. In addition: Don't give your tot any type of cool drink that contains preservatives, as these can trigger allergies. Never give a child zzy soda drinks. Coffee and 'normal' tea contain caffeine and are not suitable for small children. Excessive thirst may be an indication of a condition like diabetes or allergies, so if you're worried, rather get this checked out.

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Sister Lilian's colic guide

Forming a flexible routine Here's how to develop a exible yet workable routine: 1. Remember that Baby is an individual. The best routine is a exible one built around your child's individual patterns. Watch Baby carefully during his rst few weeks to get a good idea of his sleep needs, feeding patterns, and other biological functions. 2. Plan ahead. Plan for difcult times like late afternoons by completing your chores at a different time, rather than forcing Baby's inherent routine into your schedule. Spend that difcult time in active interaction with your child. 3. Work out a 'wind-down pattern'. At the end of the day, play physical games. Gradually move on to quieter activities like bathing, massage, storytelling, rocking, a last feed, and then bedtime.

If Baby has angry, intense colic, his face will turn a deep red and often scrunch up; he'll ball his sts tightly, cry loudly, burp sour milk and pass wind frequently. To help, feed on demand, and give the tissue salt Nat phos. If Baby has fretful, cry-baby colic, she's likely to have a peevish, fretful, impatient, high-need temperament; she'll cry at any time and for quite long; her stools may be quite loose; and she'll sleep less than most babies. To help, feed her while relaxing together in a warm bath, massage her tummy clockwise, keep her warmly dressed, and give her homeopathic chamomilla. If Baby has spasmodic colic, he'll twitch quite often and hiccup regularly; his abdomen will feel rigid while crying; his colic spells will be predictable; and he'll pass stools explosively and posit forcefully after feeds. To help, apply a warm cloth to his abdomen, give him the tissue salt Mag phos 3–5 times daily, and massage the instep of both his feet.

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Don't regularly buy treats or toys for your child to assuage any parenting guilt you may be feeling – interact instead. Camping or self-catering holidays provide more opportunity for communication with your little ones. Don't resist when your child wants to sleep in your bedroom – this closeness will forge lasting bonds.

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Teething tips The most common teething symptoms – although they can be normal baby behaviour too – are increased drooling, causing a rash around the mouth; restless nights and fretful crying; going off solids and wanting more milk; a mild fever – no higher than 38°C; and red, swollen gums. To ease Baby's discomfort: 1. Keep his face dry and apply calendula cream to any rash. 2. Make an ice-lolly by freezing rooibos tea, or freeze a clean facecloth to hold against his gums. 3. Use homeopathic remedies – especially those containing chamomilla. 4. Use counter pressure to relieve pain – rub and press Baby's gums with a clean nger. You can also use teething rings – just don't hang anything around Baby's neck!

Finding Baby's fontanelles Babies have fontanelles (the soft spots where the skull bones join) to enable the skull bones to mold over each other for an easier birth, and so that the brain can continue its rapid growth after birth without hindrance by a rigid bone structure. The largest is the anterior fontanelle (bregma) on top and slightly to the front of the head; it measures 3x2cm and will close between six and 18 months. The second largest is the posterior fontanelle (lambda), on the midline of the curved rear surface of the skull; it will close by 6–8 weeks. There are two even smaller fontanelles on the sides of the head but to most these are not even detectable. 10

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Is it postnatal depression? blues' symptoms don't clear up within I fa'baby week or two, or seem particularly severe,

3. Incessant crying A colicky baby often cries non-stop, you may have postnatal depression (PND). The which can trigger anxiety, exhaustion and symptoms can be mild or very severe, including: depression! Follow baby-led feeding and Hostility towards or disinterest in Baby sleeping cues instead of rigid schedules, use natural remedies for niggles, and arrange Lack of concern for yourself outings with other moms. Feeling sad and unable to enjoy things like before 4. Relationship strain Lack of energy and motivation Communication is vital so that you and your partner understand what each of you is A change in appetite or sleep patterns experiencing after Baby's birth. Rather view Thinking about dying or committing suicide parenting as a team project as this can help combat depression. Seven triggers and treatment tips 5. Sleep deprivation 1. False expectations Baby's sleep requirements can't be predicted The reality of post-baby life can cause depression, or controlled but co-sleeping can instantly especially if you are used to running your work and 'cure' your tiredness and be very effective personal life efciently and this approach now in treating PND. doesn't work. Cultivate a more relaxed style – 6. Anaemia after all your baby isn't a project! It can also help Blood loss after birth can lead to anaemia … to talk things through with experienced moms. and depression. The body usually corrects 2. Hormones mild anaemia itself, although it's a good Hormonal changes may cause women to feel to use a gentle iron supplement. far more emotional, but usually the body adapts 7. A depressive personality quickly. If these feelings get progressively stronger Some women are more prone to depression. or develop weeks or months after the birth, you There is help for this from both the natural may require treatment. remedy and medical elds. 11

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Fennel for milk supply? Fennel, a herb commonly used in cooking, is also believed be help increase breast milk supply. Although there has been no conclusive research on this, many breastfeeding mothers who have used it say that the herb does have some effect. One recent study found that the perceived effectiveness of herbal remedies to boost milk supply actually boosts mothers' condence and results in psychological benets, which in turn, benets breastfeeding. While there are no studies that show adverse side effects from consuming fennel while breastfeeding, you should avoid using the herb excessively if you have a family history of breast or ovarian cancer, and if you (or Baby) has a food allergy to carrot, celery or coriander (which are part of the same family as fennel).

A lemon a day Of course, we know that lemons are good for our health, but did you know that lemons may prevent cancer? On the CANSA website, it is stated that: 'Although CANSA believes that lemons can't cure cancer, we acknowledge that they play an important role in the overall prevention of cancer.' This is based on research ndings which conclude that molecules found in lemons like limonin (specically in the peel) can arrest the growth of certain tumours in humans, and may act as cancer-preventative agents by killing cancer cells.

Carob vs chocolate If you have a weakness for chocolate, you'll be pleased to know that carob is a healthy alternative, which (unlike chocolate) does not contain caffeine. We know that caffeine can be addictive, and has side-effects such as anxiety, nervousness, nausea and palpitations. Excessive caffeine intake stimulates release of the body's stored energy, releasing sugars into the bloodstream with risk for diabetes, obesity and possibly excessive mood swings. Caffeine can be transmitted through breast milk and pregnant women should restrict their caffeine intake.

Carob is also free from phenylethylamine, which can trigger migraines and allergic reactions, and has no oxalic acid, whereas the presence of oxalic acid in chocolate may be connected to the onset of acne in teenagers. Carob has up to 8% protein and also contains vitamins A, B, B2, B3 and D. It's rich in calcium, phosphorus, potassium and magnesium and also contains iron, manganese, barium, copper and nickel.

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Understanding

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hen it comes to pondering how little ones behave, you may question whether the 'problem' is innate (nature) or the result of the child's environment (nurture). Ultimately, both nature and nurture have a role to play in children's behaviour, but just as important is considering whether behaviour is truly 'bad'. In the toddler years, the list of behaviours needing 'improving' seems never-ending: stubbornness, tantrums, ghting, swearing, bullying, quarrelling, nose-picking, thumb-sucking, genital play … Ultimately, it is helpful to accept that your tot is an individual who does some things differently to what you may expect. Remember, too, that by their nature, little ones are self-centred (it takes time to see the importance of others and their activities), irrational (which means that they don't yet understand that certain types of behaviour are not socially acceptable), curious (they will often not be able to help themselves and want to explore things their parents would prefer them not to) and messy (for them, grubbiness is seldom a problem and only time sorts this one out).

Sister Lilian's behaviour ABCs When parents understand why their child is acting in a certain way, they not only have empathy but they can address the behaviour in a positive way. Here are several reasons for acting out: Attention seeking – remember, wanting attention isn't wrong. Tots quickly learn which buttons to push to get parents' undivided attention, even if it's in the form of their anger (isn't that sad?). Boredom – idle hands tend to nd their way to mouths, noses, and genitalia, so keep little hands busy. Comfort – habits you don't like can still be comforting for your child because they provide a sense of the familiar, and bad behaviour can be a reaction to your stress, especially in unsettled times. Maybe all your tot needs is a bit of extra nurturing from you. Determining boundaries – most toddlers will nd a way to test your limits; that's their job, just as yours is to set wise boundaries.

Example – little ones are excellent copy cats, so make sure you're giving them a positive example to mimic. Family traits – some habits are genetic and difcult to 'mend'. This is where Sister Lilian's golden guidelines (see page 14) will help you, seasoned with a bit of understanding and wisdom. Continued on page 14 >

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6. Learn and use the skill of distraction This teaches self-discipline. Helping your child to rather channel negative energy into something pleasant or constructive teaches the lesson that you do not always need to do what you feel compelled to right then, and that your mood can improve a great deal while you pace yourself by consciously doing some other activity. The key to successful distraction is noticing the build-up of negative patterns in time and drawing their attention away by offering a compelling enough alternate activity. Generally, if this involves animals, water, mud or bubbles, most little ones will willingly leave their negative behaviour. Keep a handy 'wit's end' list stuck to your fridge to consult when you simply cannot think of an effective distraction.

Six golden guidelines for better behaviour Unacceptable behaviour requires parents to examine the situation honestly and to acknowledge that it's not necessarily a bad thing for a child to have a strong will or an excitable personality. For all forms of so-called 'negative behaviour' in children, follow Sister Lilian's six tried-and-tested guidelines: 1. Your behavioural example is all-important Consider your own actions and reactions as parents and individuals. Do you swear? Are you bossy? 'Discipline' derives from the word 'disciple', which means 'follower', and small children will especially copy their parents' behaviour! 2. Spend signicant time with your child, often! This means nothing must disrupt your time together. Close contact in the baby stage (e.g. co-sleeping) sets you up for good results down the line. Rediscover the joy and fantasy of a childhood world with your toddler … with no invasion by cell phones and tablets. Your tangible attention is their birthright and they're going to do anything to get it – sadly, they'd often rather risk your anger than no attention at all. 3. Reward 'positive behaviour' Every child does cute, loveable things. Acknowledge and reinforce this by interacting with your child at such times too, instead of only noticing when he behaves badly. Your little one will increasingly display positive behaviour. 4. Have a few wise, loving, consistent house rules They should recognise the nature of a child (so they mustn't be too-adult-like!), be agreed upon by both parents, and not disputed in front of the child. Good rules foster a sense of security for children but harsh ones engender anxiety. 5. Use the word 'no' as seldom as possible It will carry no weight if overused, and especially if not backed up with action. Don't let it become just another background sound. Reserve a rm 'no' for matters to do with your child's safety, and respect for other people and their values and property. There'll then be no need to explain repeatedly to your child why you said 'no' – they'll know why and accept it.

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Crisis time If you've consistently implemented these six steps, yet your little one still displays truly unacceptable behaviour, simply say a rm 'no', turn around and walk away, not making any further eye contact or conversation. By removing the audience (you), the actor (your child) has no reason to perform. Obviously, this technique will need to be adapted if you are out and about, but if you are consistent at home, tricky situations will occur less frequently elsewhere.

Handling habits Discipline is all about an approach from the baby days, although of course you should adapt the way you implement rules and norms in accordance with age and individual circumstances. After all, is the purpose of instilling discipline not all about raising condent, caring, compassionate, socially well-adjusted children through to a selfdisciplined young adulthood, rather than to see whose will is stronger through a form of imposed discipline? Some annoying mannerisms turn into habits, especially when they provide comfort or pleasure. For this reason, it is worthwhile to undertake the handy hints already mentioned as early as possible so that the habit component has little time to kick in. Also: You can choose to ignore any innocent habits – focusing attention on them will often just increase their occurrence. If the habit increases in intensity and appears to be compulsive, see your doctor. Keep in mind that some habits or misbehaviours occur because of emotional upheaval in a child's life, so ask yourself if something could be upsetting your child, and address the cause. 15

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Toddler Teaching your tot to blow her nose 2. Older toddlers Some toddlers take to it like a duck to water, others don't. Here are two and preschoolers techniques to try: sometimes relate 1. Encourage your toddler to take to the idea that a deep breath, stand at her full height mucus must be with her tummy pulled in, and shut her 'snorted' out all mouth tightly. Then she needs to push the way from air forcefully out her nose while bending the feet, up her knees and hunching forwards. Draw the legs, a few pictures of re-blowing dragons around the doing this move, and show your child just corner and which 'dragon snort' she managed to do! through the nose.

Is it measles or not? Are you worried that your little one may have Attention Decit and Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)? Look out for these common signs and seek an assessment if necessary: Highly excitable Impulsive Needs his demands met immediately Talks excessively Is unable to keep still for substantial periods of time Has difculty staying focused at school

Measles starts with symptoms like a runny nose, red eyes and a cough; your child will generally feel unwell, and may complain of headache. Other common symptoms of this sometimesserious contagious viral childhood disease include: Fever, which may rise to 40°C Sensitivity to light Koplik spots – numerous small, white spots on a granular red base inside the cheeks, appearing two days after the start of symptoms Four days after start of symptoms, a red or pink blotchy rash that can be both seen and felt, starting on the face and neck and slowly spreading down to the abdomen, hands and feet; initially it appears as separate spots, progressing to give the skin a blotchy appearance Your child will become increasingly ill with the onset of the rash Over a period of 3–4 days the rash fades, the temperature drops and your child starts feeling better The rash normally disappears within a week but occasionally post-measles skin staining and peeling may follow

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Toddler There are very few homes that are not plagued by the noisy quarrelling of siblings, often based on rivalry. Small children want what they want now and will often protest loudly with scant regard for their siblings. As they slowly reach the age of reason, around four years old, the impulsive nature of ghts might give way to what looks like calculated nastiness. Their verbal ability improves, and they often say cruel things to each other, but no matter how intense the quarrelling, most children recover remarkably quickly and can just as quickly be best of friends again. Of course, if there is frequent conict in the home, children will often follow this example and it may lead to bullying which of course must be dealt with rmly and immediately.

It's fun in the sun season Too much sun can cause permanent skin damage and increases the skin cancer risk. Try to stop sun damage by ensuring that everyone in your family: 1. Wears a wide-brimmed hat, protective swimwear and light, cool clothes that cover as much as possible 2. Remembers that sunburn also happens on overcast days 3. Realises that water doesn't offer protection; you can still burn while swimming 4. Sticks to midday shade as much as possible 5. Puts water-resistant sun cream on the ears, back of neck, face, the tops of feet, and partings in hair; reapplying every two hours and after swimming, sweating, or drying off with a towel 17

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Hair loss after birth During pregnancy, most women nd that their hair grows faster, and gets thicker and more lustrous. This is thanks to pregnancy's growth hormones. Once Baby is born, the hormones start to settle again and the extra hair falls out. Don't worry, you're not going bald – you're just losing the extra hair you gained while pregnant. The hair loss usually starts about three months after you've given birth and continues for a full nine months – just like pregnancy! It's usually more manageable for women with shorter hairstyles and seems much worse with long hair – this is just an optical illusion though. Many women notice other hair changes, with hair either getting straighter or curlier after pregnancy, or slightly changing colour. If you feel very tired and emotional as well, it might be a good idea to get a vitamin B complex supplement and take the Silicea tissue salt to help support the growth of healthy hair.

Slow parenting is sensible parenting If you are battling to deal with your baby's crying, if sleep in your household is a sensitive subject, if mealtimes are all about worry, fuss and ghting, what you need is to take a step back, do some introspection and think about the relevance of the advice your 'go to' people are giving you. This includes health professionals, your own family and even friends with little ones of the same age. For sure, raising babies and children takes courage, patience, humour and hard work. But let's be honest – leaving a baby to cry does not 'teach' the ability to 'self-soothe' without repercussions, invariably backring in another area of life; forcing a rigid sleep routine on babies seldom works and cannot be achieved without being harsh; and ghts over feeding can lead to negative emotional associations with food. Dire predictions that your child will be spoilt and forever dependent if you hold

and rock them when crying, co-sleep, and allow feeding to be baby- and toddler-led, are quite simply not true! There is increasing research and evidence to prove this, and any health or parenting professional who tells you differently has not updated their expertise. It may seem as if it takes more effort from moms and dads to do this 'slow parenting' – especially if you work outside the home too. But the truth is that not only is it possible and better, it is also easier for everyone!

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Is it breast engorgement or breast oedema? Painful, swollen breasts used to be considered a 'normal' postnatal condition in the days of routine separation after delivery, putting Baby in the nursery, and breastfeeding according to a restricted schedule. While some fullness will occur as mother's milk starts 'coming in' on Day 3, painful engorgement can be prevented by not delaying the rst feed; optimal positioning and attachment at the breast; unrestricted breastfeeds, both in frequency and duration; responding to Baby's early feeding cues; not giving any non-human milk feeds or other uids; and not expressing breast milk unnecessarily in the early days. Breast oedema (tissue swelling) lasts up to two weeks and is seen mostly in moms who receive excessive intravenous uids, usually in a more medicalised birth like inductions, epidurals and C-sections. It's also made worse by the inappropriate use of breast pumps, to relieve what is thought to be engorgement, but which draws extra uids in breast tissue towards the areola, making latching and milk ow difcult. Breast oedema requires a long-term prevention strategy to decrease medicalisation of birth, but engorgement will at least be helped by: ● gently massaging the breast before a feed ● applying cool cloths or compresses to the breasts between feeds ● limiting the use of heat or warm compresses to only a few minutes before feeding ● expressing only very little and only if necessary

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eBaby October 2018 Issue 26  

eBaby – Fuss-free feeding guide; how to mend bad behaviour; tips for routine, teething, colic, nose-blowing, postnatal depression & much mor...

eBaby October 2018 Issue 26  

eBaby – Fuss-free feeding guide; how to mend bad behaviour; tips for routine, teething, colic, nose-blowing, postnatal depression & much mor...

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