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Project 3 Theme: Relationship 1


Attraction

Week 1

Intro

Q. What do you find attractive in a man or a woman? What most men find attractive in a woman 1. looks 2. anything sexy 3. anything slightly sexy 4. a fun personality 5. intelligence and style

What most women find attractive in a man 1. looks 2. self confidence 3. a sense of humor 4. intelligence 5. status and style

適切な動詞を入れましょう

1. 2. 3. 4. 5.

My ideal man _______ good looks. He _____ self confident. He _________ a sense of humor He ________ intelligent He ________ status

6. 7. 8. 9.

My ideal woman _______ physically attractive. She _____ really sexy. She _________ a fun personality She ________ intelligent


G and V 自分は「こういう男性・女性が好きだ」と英語で表現するために必要な文法

Grammar SVOC ●I find him attractive SVOCで大切なポイントはOとCです。上記の文では、him (o) とattractive (c)です。himと attractiveが並んでいますが、him=attractiveと考えましょう。 使役構文/知覚構文もSVOCです。He made me mad. (me=mad) 文章がSVOC、SVC、SVOになるかは、その文の動詞によります。ここでは、文型を意識し ないで、動詞

find

を使いこなす練習だけを集中しましょう。

findは気づく、思う、という意味です。 He is attractiveと言うよりI find him attractiveと言った方がカッコイイですよ。 The movie was boring というより I found the movie boringと言いましょう。 This grammar point is easy ----> Brad Pitt is irresistible (非常に魅力的) ----> This room is cozy (くつろげる) ----> My friend is sincere (正直) ----> The movie is ridiculous(バカバカしい) ----> Windows computer is difficult to use --->

●I find men / women (who ___________) attractive. ( )の間に以下の言葉を入れて文を完成させましょう

good looks / self confident / sense of humor / intelligent / status / sexy fun personality


Expanding

G and V

Looks tall, average height, short in shape <---> out of shape buff <----> slim a hot body <---> rounded fashionable <----> unfashionable in style <----> out of style

Connectors 文と文を繋げる言葉 For example For instance Like...... Also,

Self confidence not offended(hurt) easily <----> has insecurities (自信喪失) comfortable in his skin (自分を受け入れてる) not shy to speak his mind can take a joke (自分のことを笑える) gives you eye contact Sense of humor doesn t take himself seriously witty can make people laugh can tell appropriate jokes (適切なジョークが言える) Intelligence has an academic background can communicate in various topics has an expertise / knowledgeable(専門知識を持っている) is able to relate to others  (共感出来る) Status a company president high social position high income earner respected socially Sexy hunk / hottie Fun personality looks good with his shirt off / look good in a bikini

... has got to be... Preferably, in other words..... What I want to say is..... ...can t be.... ...shouldn t be....

Fun personality fun to be around adventurous exciting contagious


G and V 「このような特徴は自分にとって大切ではない」と英語で主張したいとき

It doesn t (really) matter to me whether he / she _______________ Ex. It doesn t matter to me whether (if) he is good looking 見た目は私にとって大切ではない I don t really care that _______________  Ex. I don t really care whether (if) he is intelligent or not 能力は私にとって大切ではない Who cares whether ________________!  Ex Who cares whether (if) he has money or not お金がなくても全然構わない!

What s important is ____________________ Ex. What s important is he is loving and caring 彼が愛情と思いやりがあれば As long as __________________ Ex. As long as he loves me. 愛してさえくれれば

ここで使える言葉 loving and caring honest and sincere committed doesn t sleep around / cheat attentive hardworking


Homework What women really want in a man

Reading

Good looks - How men look are very important for the ladies.

Facial features,

height, and weight are how people judge you. Who are we kidding to say that looks are not important.

Self confidence - One of the most important qualities to have in life. Women are masters at reading body language. If you are not self confident, your body language will show your inner insecurities. You will not make a good first impression unless you are walking tall.

Senses of humor ‒ Ladies want to be around guys who are fun and adventurous. Being funny will leave a big impression on her. It also shows you are comfortable in your skin

Intelligence - Women find it very attractive when a man is an expert or knowledgeable in a particular field. Some women enjoy talking about world issues and you will be ahead of the game if you can speak eloquently about a broad range of topics. Emotional intelligence is particulary important. You must understand and be able to relate to someone s emotion in order to communicate effectively.

Status ‒ I believe women are naturally attracted to leaders and men in positions of power. These men have the ability to survive. Think back to high school, the quarterback and team captains usually had the pick of the females. These men were early leaders and had a high social position Style ‒ Most guys fail here miserably. Guys have you ever thought about how meticulous women are about their appearance? They will go shopping for three hours for the perfect outfit and shoes. They will then spend 2.5 hours getting ready for a night out. Compare that to your 20 minute of preparation and I think you get the point.


Homework facial features who are we kidding

Reading

顔の特徴 【直訳】私は誰に冗談を言っているのでしょうか?  Who are we kidding to say....... ∼を言うことは冗談になってしまう。

qualities

〔人の〕資質、素養、人柄

masters at insecurities unless walking tall adventurous

 ∼の名人 自信喪失 ∼でない限り  自信を持つ   胸を張っている 大胆な、冒険心のある

comfortable in his skin

自分をありのままに受け入れられる心のゆとりがある

expert / expertise

expert 専門家 / expertise〔ある分野の〕専門知識

knowledgeable in a particular field ある分野の知識が豊富にある world issues 世界の出来事 ahead of the game 有利な立場 speak eloquently かっこうよく話す broad range  広範囲 able to relate 共感できる effectively              効果的 quarterback

 アメリカンフットボールのポジションの一つ

high social position

 社会的地位の高い

miserably

 情けなく

meticulous

 丁寧に、注意深く

appearance you get the point

 外見  わかるでしょ


Homework What man really want in a woman

Reading

Looks Here are facts about what Western men think is attractive The age is about the same age as the man Occasional gym goer She has wavy shoulder-length hair The favorite color of hair is brunette The ideal body shape is an hour glass Sex The type of ladies men are first attracted to is the type that will appeal to our sexual desires. Men like sex, men like variety. Men like women that enjoy sex. Men don t like women s entertainment. They would rather eat glass than watch Bridget Jones, but they have watched it because they want sex after the movie.

Personality The best type of personality is to be cheerful, outgoing and excited about life. What do you think are the 3 words that really gets guys hooked on a woman? Answer: I am excited . As in, "I'm excited to see you tonight" or "I'm excited about our trip next weekend" It's probably the best thing you can say to your boyfriend or husband. Even better than I love you. How come? "When we know you're excited about spending time with us, it makes us excited about spending time with you," says relationship experts. He adds that letting your boyfriend or husband know he's doing a good job motivates him to be at his best. The phrase is especially powerful on someone you've been with for years. Experts explain that it's easy for couples to fall into a routine and forget they have the ability to excite their partners. You start to think that the most you can offer the other person is stability and comfort, and excitement becomes sort of a foreign idea. But dropping the phrase reminds him he can still get you excited, and in turn, keeps him from letting the romance slide. Intelligence Men want somebody that can carry a conversation. Communication becomes more important as the relationship deepens. Looks and sex are important but we eventually want somebody that will relate to us intellectually and emotionally.


Homework

Reading

gym-goer

ジムに行く人   ex. movie goer

brunette

ダークブラウン[焦げ茶色]の髪の女性

hourglass

砂時計(のようにくびれた形の)

appeal to

∼訴える

sexual desire

性欲

hooked on

∼に夢中である

let your boyfriend know especially

彼に知らせる 特に

fall into a routine

型にはまった行動に陥る

have the ability to

∼する能力がある

stability and comfort

安定と

sort of

やや

foreign idea reminds in return romance slide carry a conversation deepens relate to us

かけ離れた考え 思い出す ∼を引き換えに ロマンがおろそかになる 会話が出来る 深まる 共感してくれる

快適さ


Homework

Listening

Please listen to the recording couple of times to understand everything. Write down any words you do not know. 1. What does Lev find attractive? 2. What does Shin find attractive? 3. What does Shin and Lev agree on? 4. What is skin deep?

Speaking After you have read and listened to the assigned homework, please think of what you find attractive in a man or a woman. Try to use the grammar and vocabulary of the text. 2 3 min speech

Discussion After hearing everyone s speeches, agree and disagree on the points that the other students have made. Try to work on talking as a group and not individually. Do you think what s attractive in Japan is not very attractive abroad and vice versa? What do you like about Japanese men or women? What do you like about Western men or women?


Signs of attraction

Week 2

Intro

Q1. How do you tell if a man or a woman is flirting with you? Q2. How do you let someone know you are attracted to him/ her

1. 2. 3. 4.

Proximity (how close they are) Touch Body (lean in) Smiling

1. 2. 3. 4.

eye contact looks at you head to toe fiddles with her hair or jewelry talks to you or asks you questions

Vocabulary 訳 flirt

好きな人に示すしぐさ、いちゃつく She flirts with everyone

make a move (on)  口説く  hit on   口説く come on to 口説く make a pass at 口説く

He made a move on me He hit on me Are you coming on to me? Are you making a pass at me?

digs you 好き into you 恋している in love with     恋している have a crush on   片思い have the hots for 性的魅力を感じる

He really digs you She s really into him I m in love with her He has a crush on his classmate She has the hots for him


G and V

Practice 好きな人に示すしぐさ いちゃつく

 She ____ with everyone

口説く  口説く 口説く 口説く

He _______ a move on me He _____ on me Are you _________ on to me? Are you _________ a pass at me?

好き 恋している 恋している 片思い 性的魅力を感じる

He really _____ you She s really _______ him I m ___ _______with her He has a _________ _____ his classmate She has the ________ ____ him

Tell the difference ここで使われるtellは「分かる」ということ。正しい表現はTell the difference 「違いが分かる」 例: A) I have a crush on Stacey. 僕は、ステーシーに片思いしている B) Yeah, I can tell.   それは、分かるよ(知ってるよ)

I can tell

by the way の様子で

he he he he he

looked at me talked to me smiled at me touched me acted around me

that he was in love with me

何かのしぐさ、話し方、振る舞い方で人のことを分かるときがあります。そんなとき にこの表現を使います I I I I I I

can can can can can can

tell tell tell tell tell tell

by by by by by by

the way he clinched his fist that... the way he drove that.......... the way he raised his voice that.............. the way he wrote that .............. the way he flirted that....... they way he spoke that.............


G and V Generally, how do you know someone s into you?

You can tell by (the way.....)

closeness touch body language smile eye contact looks language

Connectors Well, It s hard to notice but.... It s very obvious........

There s no way to tell. You just have a hunch. (直感)

How did you know your current boyfriend or girlfriend or ex was into you. How did it lead up to the first date? What happened on the first date? play hard to get

その気のないふりをする

tell tale signs sweet talk love at first sight hit it off (great) click got shot down

兆候 甘い言葉をかける 一目惚れ 相性がいい 異性にビビット感じる 却下される

How do you let someone know you have a crush on him / her?

When it comes to

making a move on someone, (口説く) seducing someone, (口説く) confessing how you feel. (告白する) telling someone you like them, (好きだと言う)

I get nervous I get tongue tied I sweat I m not myself I feel insecure

I m bold I m confident / I can be myself It s not sweat

(お安いご用だ)

It s a walk in the park (たやすいこと) It s a piece of cake (ちょろい)


Homework

Reading

How can you tell if a man is flirting with you? Proximity You can tell by how close he is to you if he likes you or not. If a man is always finding ways to get close to a you, it is a sign that man digs you. Touch You can tell by the way he touches your hand or your back that he is flirting with you. A man in love will try to find a way to touch you as much as possible. Body Watch the way he acts around you. Does he always lean in when you are talking to him? Usually men will position his chest and shoulders towards the thing he is most interested in even if he s looking at something else. Whatever a boy aims his upper body at is the most meaningful thing the room for him. If you study his body language, you ll already know who he s after. Smiles If he is always giving you a full smile, he is interested in a real relationship. If he is just giving you a half a smile, watch out! There s a good chance this guy just wants a no-strings attached sex. A sneer like grin is an sign that he s not being sincere with you.

proximity lean in whatever aim he s after no - strings attached sex

近いこと 傾ける 何であれ ∼に向ける 彼が狙っているもの 恋愛感情抜きのセックス

sneer

あざ笑う

grin sincere

はにかみ 誠実


Homework

Reading

How can you tell if a woman is flirting with you? Eye Contact This is the biggest tell-tale body-language signal a woman can give to a guy that she is interested in him. If a woman looks at you, keep eye contact with her. If she is still looking at you after two seconds, approach her because she wants you. Sometimes, any amount of eye contact is a strong enough signal of interest. She has dilated pupils. This technique is more for the advanced person aware of body-language. Nonverbal communication does not lie. A woman's pupils are a guaranteed way to tell if she likes you. I encourage you to look at her pupils when she makes eye contact with you to determine her level of attraction. The Cat Scan I came up with the "cat scan" term to describe the way a woman's eyes move up and down, or on and off a guy. If she repeatedly scans you with her eyes, approach her. Fiddling She fiddles with her hair or jewelry. Make sure you read the signs right. Sometimes girls do this out of nervousness. Or she does it to draw attention to her. Women will flick their hair backwards over their shoulder or move it to the side with their hand as a way to show the face better even if she only has short hair, apart from emphasizing their facial features they do this gesture because it allows them to lift up their arm and in the process expose their arm pit where the sex perfume known as pheromone scent is released for the male to smell

Conversation She initiates the conversation. Women make excuses to approach guys they like. They might comment on your height, your clothes, or where they saw you before. Whatever the reason a women approaches you, she does so because she wants to talk with you! Don't be ignorant of it.


Homework

tell - tale

兆候

approach

近づくこと

dilated pupil

大きく開いた瞳孔

guaranteed way

間違いのない方法

encourage

勧める

determine

決める

cat scan

CATスキャン

describe

言い表す

repeatedly

繰り返して

fiddles nervousness draw attention flick

いじる 緊張感 気を引く はじく

emphasize

強調する

facial features

顔の特徴

allows

余地がある

expose

∼をさらす

arm pit

脇の下

pheromone scent

フェロモン

initiate excuses whatever approach

初める 言い訳 何であろうと 近寄る

ignorant

無知な

Reading


Homework

Listening

What does Shin say about flirting? What does Lev say about flirting?

Speaking How do you know someone s interested in you? How did you know your current partner or ex was into you How do you let someone know you are into him / her?

Discussion Why is dating difficult in Japan? Would you like to date around more?


Making Relationship Work

Week 3

What are the lessons learned from your previous relationship?

Complete the sentence with the appropriate phrase from below

perfect working ok

You know the relationship is

just hanging on slipping away going down hill over a disaster on the rocks

you see eye to eye you can t stand each other you feel warm inside there s little romance and excitement you criticise your partner you don t see your partner often there s very little to talk about you start seeing diďŹ&#x20AC;erent people at each other s throats you start to feel comfortable around each other

when


How did you know that the relationship is over?

G and V

Talk about how your relationship ended

I knew the relationship was over when.......

didn t talk much the romance died didn t see each other we fought a lot we criticized each other small things your partner does bother you the most realized when you are not compatible

Go over the next page and do the ďŹ ll in the blanks

I should have / I could have

made a ___________________ eďŹ&#x20AC;ort to love had a deep and ________________ conversation shared what s _________________ in my life _______________time for being together spent time doing ____________________________ _________________ him for who he is chosen someone more _____________ with me


G and V Decide to love Make a conscious effort to love that person. Love is a verb. You have to work on it  Communicate Have deep and meaningful conversations once in a while. Share what's going on in your lives right now, whether social life, school life, or family life

Ideas on how you can make a relationship work?

Spend time together / spend time apart Set aside time for being together. Spend time     talking with each other and going out on dates, and  doing other relationship-building activities Trust and accept  Learn to trust that person and accept them for  who they are. We have a tendency to want to  change and control people but that usually leads to  a bad relationship. Compatible? You don t share the same values. You should have chosen someone more compatible with you

conscious effort work on it once in a while what s going on set aside relationship-building activities  tendency compatible

意識的な努力 努力する たまに どうしたのか 取っておく 関係を深めること 傾向 相性がいい


Listening Shadowing

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fvqmo5TMyeQ&feature=related

Questions Why did these women think that they were never dumped before? How were they dumped? What do they recommend that you do when you get dumped?


Homework

Reading

How to know when a relationship is over

Starting to feel a distance When one person in the relationship starts to act distantly, it is sometimes a sign that they are no longer interested in the relationship. If a partner stops wanting to speak to you on the phone, starts to blow off your dates and generally seems indifferent towards you then there is probably a good chance the relationship is coming to an end. The spark A spark in a relationship is a very important factor. The spark is what keeps you attracted to each other, what distinguishes you from just being friends and what keeps the relationship exciting. It is a sad fact that sometimes relationships just lose this spark and you fall into a routine. When the spark goes it is important to try and get it back.

Not compatible You realize that you are not compatible with each other. The values that you have are different from your partner. If the fundamental point of view towards life is different, you are on a different wavelength. It s really difficult to work things out if that s the case.

distance blow off dates indifferent coming to an end spark factor distinguishes fall into a routine compatible point of view wavelength

距離感 無視する 無関心 終わりに近づく 元気、活気 要因 見分ける マンネリになる 相性 人生の見方 波長


Homework

Reading

Decide to love Attraction is typically what sparks loving relationships, but the excitement fades and warm feelings diminish unless both partners make conscious efforts to work on their relationship. Once love is established in a relationship, actively expressing love to each other will maintain and increase the loving feelings in both partners. If you are aiming for a longlasting, successful marriage, you need to commit to making your partner happy. Communicate Have deep and meaningful conversations once in a while. Share what's going on in your lives right now, whether social life, school life, or family life, and learn about each other's pasts and childhoods. Celebrate accomplishments, encourage goals and ambitions, and explore each other's values and beliefs. Share your deepest thoughts, needs, wishes, hopes, and dreams. Know each other inside and out.

Spend time together Set aside time for being together. Spend time talking with each other and going out on dates, and doing other relationship-building activities. Really get to know each other and build a connection between you that's strong and enduring. Make an effort to see each other (in-person) and talk on the phone maybe once a day or every few days. Spend time apart Be independent and keep your sense of self, never losing yourself or your voice in the relationship. Don't suffocate each other. You should each continue to grow as individualsâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;not just as a couple. You should have your own space, tooâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;physically and emotionally. Do your own things separately once in a while. Spend time with friends and family, and by yourself pursuing hobbies and other things. Just ensure that your first priority is to your partner Trust and accept

While occasional criticism and feedback is healthy in our relationships, too much of either can be very damaging. If you are constantly complaining or pointing out flaws in your partner's behavior, this can become annoying and unattractive.â&#x20AC;&#x192;Often, people will persist in being critical of their partners because they truly believe they are just trying to help them. However, there are usually deeper, more evil, motives at work. Many people simply want to fix, change, or control other people. They want to make them over to fit their own image or change their behavior to comply with their own standards. While this is a very common and understandable human tendency, it is another key pattern that is destructive in our relationships.


Homework

Reading

fades diminish establish maintain

消えていく 減少する はっきりする 維持する

long lasting

長続きする

commit accomplishments encourage goals and ambitions values and beliefs inside and out enduring independent

約束する 達成 目標ややる気を励ます 価値観と信念 完全に 長続きする 自立

sense of self

自意識

suffocate pursuing

首を絞める 追い求める

ensure

∼を確かにする

priority

優先すること

criticism feedback flaw

批判 評価 欠陥

persist

言い張る、しつこく主張する

evil motives fit their own image comply destructive

悪いこと 動機 自分の都合に合わせる 従う 破壊的な


Homework

Listening

What does Shin say about relationships? What does Lev say about relationships?

Speaking What are the lessons learned from your previous relationship? How did you know that the relationship was ending?

Discussion Why do you think a lot of marriages fail? Why is marriage a big deal in Japan?

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