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September’s full moon was called the Full Corn Moon by Native Americans because it corresponded with the fall harvest. Don’t forget to look up on the 4th and feel blessed by all you have.

Striving to become a community and business leader? The yW empowerment center at the YWCA of Greenville offers leadership, mentorship, and self-esteem and business skills to women of all ages in Greenville County.


Who will be the next SpiritFest Legend? Come find out at the 18th Annual SpiritFest featuring Lee Williams, James Fortune, Beverly Crawford, the Canton Spirituals, and the Gospel 4.

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Blame It on triple threat Jamie Fox when his much-anticipated tour comes to the Bi-Lo Center. It’s Ladies Night Out every Thursday at Stellar Restaurant & Wine Bar in downtown Greenville!

Taylor Swift is Fearless in her sold-out concert with special guests Kellie Pickler and Gloriana.

5.2: See Catfish Moon. The old fishing pier out on the end of Cypress Lake was the favorite hangout for three best friends when they were kids. In the midst of catching the biggest fish of all time, life brings them back to a painful reality.

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Foothills Family Resources will hold its first annual MOONSHINERS’ BALL at the Upcountry History Museum. Featuring bluegrass music by Drover’s Old Time Medicine Show, a BBQ dinner catered by Sticky Fingers, a silent auction, and, of course, the featured drink—“shine.”

Get creative at Heirloom Production’s Greenville Rubber Stamp and Paper Arts Festival at the Carolina First Center.

Calling all brides! The Greer Station Bridal Expo will feature local wedding vendors, giveaways, and best of all? Tickets are only $5!

Michael Frayn’s hilarious backstage farce, Noises Off, is one of the funniest plays ever written. A play within a play...three times!

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“The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live.”

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Join Strossner Bakery for a fun-filled Oktoberfest where soft pretzels and beer flow freely!

Go glamour camping this month and stay in a luxurious Gypsy Faire sleeping tent (with personal bathrooms!) at The Martyn House in Ellijay, GA, in the North Georgia mountains. Plus gourmet meals and outdoor adventures.

Run for it at the 2009 Camperdown Academy 5K Run and Family Fun Walk for Dyslexia.

Look for the new book by Sue Monk Kidd and her daughter, Ann Taylor Kidd (a41 former skirt! staffer) out this month.

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Pomegranates is a memoir told in both of their remarkable voices. It’s all about myth, place, inspiration, confidence and discovering who you are...a guidebook for the soul in transition.

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the Finish Line In every yoga class I take, I know I’m coming into the home stretch when the standing poses are done. Once I’ve wobbled in Tree or flapped around like a

cover artist Sophie Blackall has illustrated fifteen and a half children’s books (including Ruby’s Wish, Meet Wild Boars, Wombat Walkabout and the Ivy and Bean series), and her work has

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wounded bird during Eagle, I can breathe a sigh of relief knowing that I’ve survived the hardest part of the hour and can spend the rest of it on my belly or back or even upside down in a Shoulder Stand. But no matter how many yoga classes I take, I can’t seem to lose my fear of the

and newspapers (including The New York Times, Food & Wine and Town & Country). She is a collector of rotten old dolls and Victorian children’s shoes, a fancier of moths and shadows and indexes and other people’s shopping lists. Native to Australia, she now lives in Brooklyn with her two children and a stuffed owl. See her work at & you Crowd Pleaser Join the fastest growing group of creative bloggers, become a skirt!setter today! Sign up at

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balancing poses and spend the first half of the class anticipating them, dreading them, convincing myself I’ll fail in front of everyone. I’m so obsessed with the challenge to come that I can’t stay in the moment. This is an unfortunate trait that afflicts any difficult endeavor

I undertake. It applies equally to sprints in spinning class and the long middle slog of writing a piece when it all sounds like gibberish. My mind anticipates obstacles ahead instead of concentrating on what I’m doing right now in order to build up for the steep hills to come—whether they’re jumps in spinning or transition paragraphs in an essay. I want the byline and the shower after the workout, not the sweat it takes to get there. It’s partly laziness, but mostly it’s the deep-down fear that I don’t have what it takes— I’m not strong enough, smart enough, disciplined enough to tough it out. I’m trying to correct that fault line so that the finish line is not my only goal. The only way I know to do that is one word at a


time, one step at a time, one yoga pose at a time. And before I know it, it will be time for a shower.

from the editor I hit my almost six-foot height when I was three years old. Well maybe not at three, but I was really quite young. Like many Amazon-tall girls, I was encouraged to use my height (translation: play basketball) and for one brief shining-from-sweat season, I did. To say that I was not athletically inclined is an understatement. Later in life I figured out that even though sports are not my forte, being above average in height does come in handy when that last must-have is perversely located on the tippy-top shelf at the store. In our Finish Line issue, we feature strong women, both physically and mentally. One such woman—the amazing Ashley—cited this inspiring quote: “Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well-preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming—WOW—What a Ride!” For those us who are graceless (read: klutzy), there’s always yoga where awkward poses are encouraged, as well as other finish lines in life that we hopefully cross to cheering crowds.


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Suitcase How could I be so stupid? What signs had I missed? Why would someone treat me this way?

Kim Salyer


ast year, I fell in love with a man I had known for two years, a dear friend who lived and worked in San Francisco. We had talked and written and become so close during those two years, that being together felt more like the next step than a risky venture. We met in person, were mad for each other from moment one, and after a few months we decided I would move to San Francisco. We looked for a place to live, made plans for a life together and were both giddy at the thought of it all. And then, in the most cruel way imaginable, I found out he had been living with another woman the entire time we made all these plans, the entire time we had written to each other as friends, the entire time we were seeing each other. After I found out, he abruptly cut off all communication with me and never showed a flicker of remorse or sorrow. I fell apart in ways I am embarrassed to think of now, completely losing my footing and my confidence. A great deal of my sorrow was just over the fact that one person could do such a thing to another. Especially to someone who had shown them only kindness and love. And why? Why had he drawn me into his life, made these plans while living with someone? How could I be so stupid? What signs had I missed? Why would someone treat me this way? I needed answers and never got them. I wanted to understand how this could happen, but there was no explanation. When I came home from that trip—my last trip to see him—I put my suitcase in my extra bedroom and ignored it. I felt that if I opened it and saw the things I had packed for what I thought would be a wonderful, special trip, the pain would be too much to bear. And day after day, I let the suitcase sit there, haunting me. I replaced all the toiletries, my curling iron, my electric toothbrush, just so I wouldn’t have to open it. Weeks went by and then months, until I was in another season and didn’t miss or need anything inside it. And then, a few weeks ago, I moved to a new apartment. As I carried random boxes, lamps and other items out of the spare bedroom, the suitcase stood in the corner. I realized it had been almost a year since I left it in that same spot, in that same position. My heart hurt remembering how it felt coming home that night. I looked at this bag, and thought of just adding it to the trash pile outside. But I remembered a few things inside it that I had loved. The French shoes I had bought

in San Francisco that made me feel as though I was walking on cobblestones instead of concrete. The little black and white dress that made me feel beautiful, even sexy. The journal that I had kept for years before meeting him. I took the handle in my hand and loaded the suitcase in the back of my car. A few nights later, I finally screwed up my courage and opened it. The first thing that greeted me was the scent of the perfume I had worn, that I loved, but hadn’t used since then. I was determined not to cry, but it happened before I could think. I wept. For a moment, I thought again of just closing the suitcase and trashing everything. But I made myself keep going. I found the French shoes, the dress, my favorite bathing suit, my journal, jewelry I adore that I had almost forgotten about, clothing I feel my best in and some short stories I had written. I sat there with these things all around me, still in tears. And slowly, I began to introduce the things from the suitcase back into my life. I wore the shoes to work, brought the perfume out of hibernation and washed all the clothes and returned them to my closet. My necklaces, bracelets and rings went back into my mirrored jewelry box and the writing into my desk with my other work. I performed the cleaning ritual I used to do after my business trips, vacuuming the whole suitcase, spritzing some Febreeze and returning it to my closet. I was fine with the contents out, but the suitcase itself bothered me. I couldn’t look at it without thinking of the pain of that last trip, the pain that kept me from opening it for a year. I tossed the suitcase in the back of my car, figuring I would happen upon a dumpster while I was out. One day, while driving around for work, I saw two women behind a table with containers and stacks of odd items surrounding them. A sign read “Donations” and listed the name of a women’s shelter. I returned to my car and pulled out the suitcase and quietly added it to the stacks of donations. As I walked away, I thought of some woman starting her life over, exiting from pain, heading somewhere new and safe. I thought of her packing things in this suitcase, beginning anew and associating the suitcase with happiness. At least that’s what I hoped, and it seemed to clear my head and my heart. Keeping that suitcase in my house, however hidden, was almost like he was still around. Breaking it open, taking the parts that were the best of myself out of it and then doing something positive with it freed me. Maybe it sounds dramatic and maybe no one else can understand, but it makes perfect sense to me. It’s been almost a year since I could say that about anything.

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com), exploring issues multiracial kids face in today’s culture. “They are the largest growing segment of the population, and we saw a void in children’s literature. We wanted to present characters our nieces and nephews could relate to,” Kim says. “All children need a positive role model.” Though she’s now working on a musical about the lives of three middle school-aged girls, Kim hasn’t shut the door to more acting gigs. “I’m one of these go-withthe-flow girls,” she says. “I never imagined all the things I’ve been able to do. I try to stay open to all the possibilities.”




I was one of the lucky ten who had made the squad...I had no idea how this could be so. Who had helped me?


Stacy Appel

n the fall of eighth grade, I wanted a great many impossible things. I wanted my older brother to like me, or at least to talk to me without rolling his eyes, and to invite me along to the movies on Saturday nights with his friends. I wanted a closet full of the raspberry or moss-green Villager sweaters, skirts and blouses which all the most popular girls wore to school, instead of a couple of pairs of Villager-brand knee socks, the only items my mother felt we could afford. I wanted a pair of white Courreges boots, a kidney-shaped swimming pool in the backyard like my friend Lois and pierced ears with tiny pearl studs. I wanted permission to wear makeup. “Fire and Ice” lipstick was the frosty pinnacle of glamour that year, applied casually while standing in front of one’s locker between classes with friends, watching for this boy or that to saunter by and wave on his way to basketball practice. I wanted Steve Gunther to pass notes to me instead of to Sally Wells in French class, and I wanted to stop getting the hiccups when I laughed too hard. Most of all, I longed to be able to do a cartwheel. Without a cartwheel, I might as well throw in the towel on my eighth grade year in general and in specific, cheerleading tryouts. I’d probably have to give up on Steve Gunther, too. Mastering this one elegant maneuver, a non-negotiable requirement for every would-be cheerleader on the squad, was the raffle ticket necessary for a chance at instant junior high glory. I watched most of the other girls execute cartwheels effortlessly in gym class or at after-school practice—why hadn’t I learned over the summer, instead of hanging around at the pool with a bunch of magazines? I didn’t dare ask for help. Some consolation was afforded by realizing that I had the yells and songs and dance routines memorized nicely, or so it seemed when I performed them out of sight of my brother’s withering looks. But as Tryout Day drew nearer, my anxiety soared out of bounds. My humiliating, aching secret was that I couldn’t manage a cartwheel in any recognizable form. Unlike the splits, which I’d first done badly and then very well by the end of seventh grade, this particular stunt was not the sort to be perfected while looking in the full-length hall mirror at home. As the key dramatic element of several rousing cheers, a cartwheel couldn’t be faked, forgotten or bungled. Somehow, I supposed, one had to sort of pitch one’s self toward the floor, take leave of gravity while standing on one’s hands, and trust that one was wheeling gracefully through the air, which I most definitely was not. Despite my most earnest intentions, time after time I started out in an upright position only to end desolate, bent over on all fours, scrabbling around on the living room rug or the grass like a drunken bear. “Are you trying to do a somersault?” asked my mother, when she saw me scowling, having landed on my hands and knees one afternoon as always. “Why, that’s not so hard! Let me show you,” she said, starting to take off her suit coat.

“No, that’s all right, Mom,” I said in a hurry, before she could get down on the floor beside me. “I was looking for a bead that fell off my bracelet. Let me know if you see it, okay?” I ran to my room. Tryouts were held in the vast school gym on a Saturday morning. We all huddled together in little clusters, giggling and then falling silent as a row of teachers and gym coaches took their places in the bleachers, faces somber above their clipboards. Ten at a time, rows of hopeful girls took their places, tossed their hair back, and bravely navigated the three complex routines before the next group was called. My assigned number put me in one of the last groups to perform, and by then I was so terrified at my fatal flaw being exposed that my knees were shaking. The music began. Somehow everyone’s arms and legs moved just as we had supposed they would, in the ways we had all practiced for weeks. The last cheer ended with a cartwheel and then a plunge to one knee before standing up, hands on hips, with a final war cry. And then, incredibly, it was over, the moment receding behind me. My hands were on my hips, cheeks flaming, throat raw with the echo of that last big yell. I had no memory of the last cheer—it was as if I simply woke up out of a dream when it was over to find myself standing drenched in the middle of the gymnasium. And yet no one was laughing at me, no one shook her head in disbelief or watched me with pity. Hours later, my name was called out from the podium. I was one of the lucky ten who had made the squad. According to the judges and onlookers, I had done a nearly perfect cartwheel. I had no idea how this could be so. Who had helped me? Tangled at the bottom of my jewelry box is a miniature silver megaphone on a slender chain, a tarnished emblem of those two long-ago years on the cheerleading squad. Talisman of two anxiety-filled tryouts with happy endings, two years of feeling noticed and admired after eight of feeling invisible. I felt grateful for almost every bit of it, and perplexed by the mystery—not just my continued ability to perform cartwheels at every game, but the way my life had seemed to change overnight. Suddenly the mailbox filled with party invitations from this classmate or that, the phone rang for me in the evenings and I was so involved with the Friday night games and team practice and get-togethers that I found I didn’t mind so much about my brother’s friends, who had nevertheless begun to recognize me in the hallway at school and even smiled at me. I got my ears pierced, and Lois even gave me a Villager sweater for my birthday. I convinced my mother that all the cheerleaders were supposed to wear lipstick on game days, a broad fib she kindly managed to overlook. Steve Gunther never abandoned Sally Wells on my behalf, but I didn’t hold it against him or whoever had made the magic begin in the first place. Later, it seemed to me that much of my joy might actually hinge on being willing to be turned upside down for a moment or two, and that some important things have a way of turning right side up again all by themselves. Though I can’t, for the life of me, tell you how it’s done.

Stacy Appel is a writer in California whose work has been featured in the Chicago Tribune and other publications. She has also written for National Public Radio. She is a contributor to the book You Know You’re a Writer When… by Adair Lara. Contact Stacy at 16 





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Young women don’t need phony assurances about how easy it is to be both a mother and an individual, to maintain both a family and a career, to win in both the office and the house. Such platitudes can only lead to disillusionment and anger— unless the next decade brings about sane maternity leaves, affordable childcare, universal health insurance and family-friendly work environments.

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a mile of the college where my husband teaches, I’ve met a lot of college students. Some are babysitters for our three young sons; others come to a Sundayevening house fellowship that we’ve been hosting in our basement. I’ve especially enjoyed getting to know the women; they’re smart, thoughtful, creative and confident. They are forever leaving to or returning from study abroad service terms in places like Costa Rica or Northern Ireland; they speak multiple languages; they go rock-climbing; they read books about postmodern theology just for fun. One of them is building her own straw-bale house. They have big plans and big questions and big hearts. In fact, they remind me a lot of myself when I was in college. They also threaten the hell out of me. “Threatened” isn’t actually the right word for the vague anxiety I have when I’m with them. It’s more like one part nostalgia (they remind me of my former, more radical self); one part shame (I didn’t change the world, and now I’m now a mostly-at-home mother of three); and one part jealousy (I can’t play Frisbee every Sunday afternoon anymore). Basically, it’s a competitive instinct that I just can’t seem to put to rest. Adventure, success, activism and travel win; motherhood loses. Whatever the word is for my feeling when I’m with them, it’s certainly divine retribution. I spent much of my college career feeling pity and mild contempt for those sweet-natured education and nursing majors who wanted to have babies and live in split-levels—unlike me and my friends, the slightly transgressive and (we thought) brainy writers and activists. I’m not sure my friends and I ever imagined ourselves as mothers, or what we’d do about health insurance and childcare while we and our comrades-in-arms husbands continued with our slightly transgressive and brainy work. All I knew then was that women who were eager to stay home with children deserved pity for their vocational losses and anger for betraying the movement.



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I’m proud of neither my former judgmentalism nor my current paranoia about being judged. Both my mommy-track classmates 15 years ago and my doppelgänger young friends at present have done nothing to earn my rancor. Plus, I’m schooled enough in feminism to know that animosity between women can be its undoing, and that the purported “mommy wars” are just one more way to pit women against each other in a game no one can win. So while I can forgive my 20-something self for not having the wherewithal to befriend classmates I saw as threatening to women’s progress, you’d think I’d know by now that college students need 30-something women like me as mentors, not competitors. You’d think. And I do so love to imagine myself in that mentor scenario: in it, I take the college women out for coffee at a café, listen to their dreams for the future and then gently impart my I’m-older-enough-than-you-to-bewiser-but-not-so-old-as-to-be-uncool advice. In my daydream, the young women always walk back to their dorm rooms feeling elated that such a successful and compassionate woman took an interest in them. Maybe someday I’ll be mentor material. Right now, however, I’m still too worried that these young women are going to pass me in the next lane. Right now, I’m too busy running kids to cello lessons and baseball practice, trying not to resent my husband for his professional successes and figuring out how I’m going to get a job someday with nine blank years in my resume. Right now, I’m too tired to do much of anything. But I still wonder if I should warn them. It’s not what mentors do—except perhaps deranged ones—but here’s my other daydream, sans hip café. In this fantasy, we’re in my basement strewn with couch pillows and toys and peopled by screaming children. I pull the college women aside, fix them with a steady gaze and whisper in a conspiratorial voice: I was once like you. I baked bread in Germany and walked through streams in Nicaragua. I worked for a magazine and had a company credit card and wrote editorials that shocked people. I got married to a man willing to clean bathrooms, and we lived in a city and walked to market and protested the death penalty. And then I had a baby. Here I pause, then raise my eyebrows. And two years later another. Another significant pause. And two years later, yet another. I stop for awhile, until they think I’ve made my point and begin to sidle away. Then I begin again: Each child is an earthquake that hurls your identity off the shelf, I say. You will spend years picking yourself off the floor, along with everyone else’s socks and Play-Doh. You will no longer know who really wins: the one who goes to the office all day, or the one who stays home with the kids. You will feel guilty about each choice that takes you away from your children, and resentful of each choice that takes you away from your calling. And here I grab them by their scrawny elbows and bring it home: And you will never, ever judge a housewife again! Then I take a deep breath and walk away, perhaps tripping over a Lego but clothed with the strange dignity that comes with both speaking the truth and coming unhinged. The college women will stumble wide-eyed back to their psychology textbooks and smart roommates, trying to figure out a diagnosis. Neither of my scenarios is accurate, I’m sure, despite how much I relish both of them. I doubt I’ll ever be self-actualized enough to truly mentor anyone, but I’ll never have the nerve to do the insane housewife routine either. Come to think of it, neither scenario would do college women much good anyway. Young women don’t need phony assurances about how easy it is to be both a mother and an individual, to maintain both a family and a career, to win in both the office and the house. Such platitudes can only lead to disillusionment and anger—unless the next decade brings about sane maternity leaves, affordable childcare, universal health insurance and familyfriendly work environments. (I’m not holding my breath.) Or maybe, if they have children, they and their partners will find better ways to navigate these days of early parenthood—some way to change the world, change gendered patterns and still change diapers. I’ll be the first to cheer them on (provided I’m not too jealous). On the other hand, maybe some college women will end up like me: bewildered, exhausted, not sure whether they’ve won or not or whether they even trust the society that’s keeping the score. Indeed, maybe college women need me a little bit like I need them: as a prompt to reexamine how we calibrate wins and losses, and as a reminder that when it comes to motherhood and work, winning and losing are categories that no longer make an iota of sense.


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True Blood HBO Series Soundtrack Lungs Florence & the Machine

Page Turners Not All Black Girls Know How to Eat: A Story of Bulimia Stephanie Covington Armstrong

Think bulimia and anorexia are white girl diseases? This soul-searching true tale of one woman’s love/hate relationship with food and her search for self-esteem will make you realize that addiction is universal and colorblind. Sheril Bennett Turner, Editor

Old Friend from Far Away: The Practice of Writing Memoir Natalie Goldberg

I don’t like to read memoirs (is everyone a victim of bad parents these days?), and I don’t want to write one. But Goldberg’s books make me want to write—period. Reading a few sections before I start writing helps me invoke a muse and jump-start my words. Nikki Hardin, Publisher

At a Glance Wisdom Andrew Zuckerman

Inspired by the idea of one generation transmitting the wisdom gained from experience to the next, this book offers insights from trailblazing luminaries over 65. (Wisdom © Andrew Zuckerman. Published by Harry. N. Abrams.)



planetnikki a visual journal

I’ve been pining for this vintage Buddha statue in one of my favorite local shops for months. When it went on sale, I couldn’t hold out any longer. I love that there’s a slot in the back for prayers... I’ll make good use of that.

“a movable feast” I’m a Dusk person, not a Dawn person. For an insomniac I’m Saturday Night Live versus CBS Sunday Morning. like me, this CD is I hate the Damocles sword of an alarm clock hanging over the equivalent of the celestial concept of my consciousness when I go to bed. I find it hard to make the music of it to early morning meetings. I almost have to sleep in my the spheres. workout clothes in order to get to an a.m. spinning class. I try to eat breakfast every day, but I don’t really love solid food before my soul has had time to resettle in my body after wandering all night God knows where. But when the day begins to wind down, I wake up. I look forward to leaving my shoes at the door, taking a shower, putting on PJs and sautéing onions in olive oil when I come home from I love Susanna’s work. If I go out, the conviviality of Happy Hour makes me Winged Messengers feel like I’m living in Hemingway’s Paris. I love the evening (susannassketchbook., meant news, technicolor sunsets in winter, dinner parties, gentle to be posted in public shadows that soothe the tired earth, reading until 2a.m., places to give people a lift and make them thunderstorms that wake me up in the dark stop and think. The and night-owl guardian angels who watch over me ones she sent me are already out in the when I finally turn out the lights. world.



I pasted tiny squares of images that I like in my journal and on the opposite page gave myself an assignment to write about the word “red.”



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