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Publisher & Editorial Director La Juan Hines-Rome Managing Director Jordan Rome Production Director Ayo Clark Contributing Writers She’Matters GIRLS: Ayo Clark Teja McKinney Jordan Rome Jaden Shields A'Georre ―Gigi‖ Williams Distribution Manager Destynie Davis This edition published by She‘Matters GIRLS, LLC in 2013. 1014 W. 35th Street Norfolk, VA 23508 Copyright © She‘Matters GIRLS, LLC 2013

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Circulation Manager A'GeorreWilliams Newsstand Coordinator Danielle Sanchez Contributing Writers: Parent Corner: Lucila ―Lulu‖ Algarin Keesha McKinney Annette Myrick Michelle Williams

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Be Your Own Unique! Magazine is a literary publication for tween and teen girls, offering news and information they can use.

What about something less tangible, such as to end world hunger or for all to be happy? What about you? Did you wish for your own happiness?

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It‘s a new year and the focus for YOU should be ACCOMPLISHMENT! You may ask the simple question, ―Why am I not happy?‖ Before answering, evaluate your life and your journey. Include in that vision, your circle of friends. What does it look like? Are they negative thinkers? Are they dream stealers or dream makers? Now evaluate the direction in which YOU are steering your boat? If you‘re stuck in a job, a college major , a friendship or a relationship in which you don‘t see as prosperous or you feel is limiting, it‘s up to you to make a change. Step out and fulfill that wish to follow your dreams! Sometimes God will answer your wish with a dream! Our dreams are used to motivate us, encourage and drive us to reach what we may have considered unattainable. Our dreams can inspire and cultivate a different life for us; one in which we never imagined possible. Yet in some cases, our dreams can push us to greatness but scare someone else. And that‘s okay! For we know the plans He made for us are to grow and prosper us.


ne! Two! Three!, Okay, now close your eyes and make a wish. Blow out your candles! Then silence. Now everyone‘s watching and waiting for you to open your eyes. As soon as they‘re open, you hear, ―What did you wish?‖ Question is, would you ever tell your wish? Does it compare to your dreams? What was it: to purchase a new car, clothes, a new home, no more debt or new shoes?

So I challenge you in this new year, to step outside your comfort zone and dabble a bit in fulfilling your dreams. If that means taking an evening class at a business or community college to fine tune your skills, sacrifice the time and finances to do so. If it means, ending a relationship that has not been good for you, be bold and remove yourself from it! We only have ONE life so commit to making that life worth living. I challenge you to the following 1.

Awake everyday with a strategic plan of how you will accomplish one small piece to achieving

your dream for that day. 2.


Begin to journal your plans. Write them out so you can see what you plan to accomplish for that day, that week and ultimately, that month. Before you know it, 2014 will be here and you will have accomplished much. Get around other dream makers. See yourself blessed and prosperous living out your dream. Know that small minded people, dream small dreams and they can be jealous of your dreams.


When you‘re comfortable, share your plans with someone you know believes in you. A great friend will hold you accountable and assist you in reaching your goals.


Network with others who can assist you. Communicate your ideas with those you know are versed in your area.. They can help position you in the right direction. Rome wasn‘t built in one day and neither will your plan. So plan ahead!

Tell us on She‘Matters GIRLS webpage at, Facebook or Twitter how you will fulfill your dreams in 2013. If you know of a tween or teen girl who would benefit from being involved with She‘Matters GIRLS, refer her to our website or have her contact us via email at

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February 2013 Theme: Dreams begin as thoughts, images and emotions. This issue is dedicated to “SUENOs”, the Spanish word for dreams. What are they, what happens when they’re mentored, grow and accomplished? Find out our answers in this issue. Let our experiences inspire you to achieve your DREAMS!

Inside this issue: Founder‘s Notes


Freedom Papers


Mentoring a Dream


Jaden‘s Beat


Volunteer … WHY?


Parent Corner


La Juan Hines-Rome Editor in Chief Moments in History





Book Feature





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e are Girls who Inspire and Refine Limitless Standards in our lives, families, schools and communities. We are intelligent, talented and a dynamic group of young ladies between the ages of 10-19 years old who are motivated to achieve our life's greatness! Our participation with She'Matters GIRLS, LLC has made a huge difference in our lives. As inspired young ladies, we are focused on knowing who and whose we are, developing our self-worth, improving our self-esteem and giving back to make a difference in our communities. Most of us are in middle school or maturing through high school. Having this platform to confidently voice our concerns of issues and our growing needs has become a relevant platform for us to grow and develop into stronger, more confident young ladies. We are our SISTER'S KEEPERS! Independently, we are self-assured, poised, persistent and determined to make a difference in our lives and in the lives of those around us.

Our vision is to empower teen girls everywhere to become powerful, selfmotivated and inspired young ladies. With a focus to refine limitless standards and provide opportunities for all girls to connect through fellowship and interact with others, is our goal. Sharing life experiences and offering words of encouragement to build selfesteem, accountability and responsibility and to become productive citizens is what we intend to do. --- Collaborative quotes from the Tweens & Teens of SMGIRLS, LLC

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La Juan Hines-Rome, Founder & Executive Director. Educator and mother of five. La Juan is a writer at heart and enjoys working with youth.

Annette Myrick, Deputy Director. Retail management and the mother of two. Annette is a humanitarian and youth advocate.

Jan House, Program Developer. Spouse of Ernest House, mother of 2 & Grandmother of 8. She‘s dedicated her entire adult life to servitude: community resource & senior citizens advocate, youth mentor and role model.

―A lot of my friends were proud

of me, but there was a few who were jealous that I was the first out of the bunch to receive my license.‖

Building tomorrow’s future! Changing lives one step at a time!

Katrina Garrett, Youth & Teen Coordinator. Systems Analyst. She enjoys empowering others to recognize their greatness that dwells with in each of us. Cynthia Johnson, Intern & Public Relations Assistant. Enjoys helping others, serving and encouraging the youth. Receiving degree from Tidewater Community College.

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P. Vanessa Woodard, Financial Advisor (Not Pictured)

“In a time in our country when young people are targets, & going in many directions, … She’Matters is an organization that caters to young girls with a positive reflection. … She’Matters sets out to help young girls become successful, and focus at a young age through teaching by example.” Comments from Internet article by LaBarbara Mack, the, 3/27/12.

Citizens of The Digital Age The age and advantages of technology are rapidly growing. Teens have grabbed on to the coat tails of the latest gadget and are running with it, but do we understand the repercussions of our Internet activity when posting images? Everyone with a handheld device has the ability to snap a photo and sometimes a video of their surrounding activity. Using digital mediums in a class setting to help recall information of a class activity or to record a class discussion to help with homework is okay. However, it‘s not okay to snap a picture of your ―besties‖

posing in the halls between classes and expose the faces of others in the background who are not supposed to have their photos taken; for instance, students in the foster care system. When doing this, it‘s very possible, we‘ve just put another person‘s safety at risk especially if that photo is posted to a social media network.

Enjoy our commentary? Check out our blog coming soon to She‘Matters GIRLS Website!

So next time, we must promise to be more aware of our background when taking pictures. We must also promise not to take anyone‘s picture without asking their permission first.

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Happy New Year; From the She‘Matters GIRLS Family, we‘d like to wish each of you an abundantly blessed and prosperous New Year. Allow 2013 to be the year you make a difference in someone else‘s life. Whether it‘s a large or small deed, a kind word or a simple gesture, be the one to encourage and uplift another this year. She‘Matters is ascending to new heights in 2013, and I assure you that you don't want to let it pass you by! We encourage you to tell a friend, as we work diligently to empower a community of young ladies to realize their potential and self worth. We strive for SMGiRLS to understand their value. Realizing they are our future, actions must begin NOW to inspire, encourage and motivate them forward! It may be a sacrifice but I promise you that the reward will be far greater than you can ever imagine! Now is the time, to embrace the vision of SMG as we shape the future of our daughters and prepare a legacy for nothing less than greatness in all we say and do! She‘Matters GIRLS is committed to grooming natural leaders and dedicated to making a difference in the lives of our daughters! Warmest regards for an awesome year, The Executive Advisory Board She‘Matters GIRLS, LLC For upcoming events and to see where the GIRLS will be next, visit our new website at Or join our facebook page at She‘Matters GIRLS,, LLC or follow us on Twitter at hashtag @SheMattersGIRLS .

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Mentoring A Dream Mentoring a Dream has a variety of different meanings. This issue is dedicated to Sueno, the Spanish word for “DREAMS”. We’ve asked two of our parents to share their accounts on this topic.

Mentoring a Dream and what it means to me…


o mentor a dream is to bring your dreams to fruition. Dreams are our thoughts and feelings that arise while we sleep. Usually these are things we want to say or do in our lives. However, out of fear or daily struggles of life we suppress those feelings. Often times we say we want things in life but are not willing to put in the work for it. I always say if you want something you have to work hard for it. Know that in life challenges and obstacles will come your way but we must overcome them and keep pushing forward. We have to learn to nurture our dreams, and not ignore them. That‘s just what I plan to do this year! Contract Specialist


entoring a Dream is more than helping our youth achieve their goals. It‘s taking an interest in someone other than ourselves; it‘s a non-selfish act of love, a kindness, its wisdom and a type of boldness. It embodies the true passion we have for our youth. The drive we have to help them grow up believing in themselves and knowing there is nothing they cannot accomplish as long as they believe it and their heart is in it. Mentoring a Dream is having the responsibility to teach our youth that no matter how hard it may seem, obstacles are just a winding course they can overcome. We‘ve learned to mentor our dream by giving our children that extra push when they are overwhelmed. Standing in the gap and praying with and for them, has helped them mentor their dreams. Teaching them how to deal with frustrations and showing them how to go to God in prayer has given us all strength and knowledge. Mentoring a Dream is not a job it‘s a passion, a calling that we‘ve learned to practice often.

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Active Parenting “The importance of being an active parent in your child’s life makes all the difference in the world to your child and the outcome!” As a child in elementary school, I recall my 5th grade teacher telling me and one other student that if our parents did not attend the upcoming parent conference, both of us would fail that grade. For me, this was devastating. I couldn‘t wait to get home to tell my Mom and Grandmother. As I explained what seemed to me, to be the end of my world story, both my Mom and Grandmother listened carefully. Not many questions were asked. Not much was said. The next morning, I awoke to prepare for school thinking someone would say something to me about coming to my school. A part of me really wanted to scream at the top of my lungs, ―didn‘t you hear what I told you yesterday? Why aren‘t you talking about seeing her today?‖ But I knew my place! They told me not to worry about it; so I did my best to be obedient. I finished my breakfast and went off to school.

As my day advanced, I did my best not to think of what would happen if my Mom and Grandmother did not show. I knew I‘d had some ―unsatisfactory‖ grades in reading and writing and the teacher said I talked too much but I never thought I was doing that awful. Yet again, I pushed it out of my mind. After lunch, I heard a knock at the classroom door and saw the top of my Mother‘s head through the door window. Relief rushed through me immediately, but was instantly replaced with trepidation and the question, they‘re here, now what? Without hesitation, I walked to the door to follow my teacher but was instructed by my Grandmother to return to my seat. Before I knew it, they were gone and the teacher was back at the front of the class talking as if nothing had occurred. What happened was never really explained to me. All I knew was that my afterschool routine was different. I could no longer breeze through my homework and run outside to play

with friends, I spent most of my evenings at the kitchen table going over work I‘d learned in school that day with my Grandmother‘s guidance. My Grandmother was very stern with me and made sure I answered every question giving her justifications of why I selected that answer. She never said I was right or wrong. What I didn‘t know then was that she only held a primary school education herself. Long story short, at the end of that school year, my report card home announced PROMOTED; my friends said RETAIN. Her parents never showed for parent conference and after that school year, we saw less and less of each other. NOTE Parents, your face gives a resounding value with your child‘s teachers and those who work with him/her daily. Seeing you in the classroom and knowing that you are interested in and involved with their education, lets the teacher know you‘re serious about your child‘s academics and keeps your child on his/her toes.

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Hi there! My name is Jaden Shields. I’m a 12 year old, 7th grader at Plaza Middle School in Virginia Beach. It’s the International Baccalaureate Middle Years Program, but we call it the MYP at an IB World School. Here’s an account of my experiences. SCHOOL: My school program is relatively new and has gotten even better over the years. As a student in the MYP program, graduates have the option to continue in the IB Program at the High School level. It‘s a rigorous program, but it helps me keep an open-mind and teach me how to accept other‘s culture. Being in the MYP has made me a better communicator and it keeps me reflective on how to improve situations the next go around.


oday is a B day and for me, that means I have Algebra and Social Studies, my two most boring morning classes; when I‘m still drowsy. Being tired and a little confused with this unit doesn‘t help matters much especially when Mrs. Patterson asks me to do a few problems from lastnight‘s homework on the Smart Board. I was a little nervous, but my best friend, Aaliyah, Will and other classmates coached me through the problems. Their encouragement quickly made me feel better. Right now, we‘re all looking forward to Christmas break at the end of the week. Later on that day, I was nervous about my Spanish test. I thought I was ready for it, so I didn't study. My friend Abigail disagreed and thought I should have studied just in case. I told how our brains work a little bit differently and she nodded as if she understood. She then came up with the great idea to quiz me on the new vocabulary in Chorus during 5th bell. When Chorus rolled around and she quizzed me, I got them all right. She told me she was jealous of how fast I learned new things but in a good way. Once I got home, I took a nap. I deserved it! I passed my Spanish test.


ola! Today is December 18, 2012 and it is Tuesday. I slept a little later than I was supposed to. I think it did me good. After I dressed, I ate toast for breakfast, which was good because I normally don't have time. At school today is an A day, my favorite. I have English and Science and these classes are my most enjoyable and are the easiest for me. Ms. Sadler, my English homeroom teacher says she loves us. Why wouldn't she? My class is great! In Science, Mr. Carroll who is also known as the Cookie Monster lets us eat in class, but will often take some of our food in the funniest way. He makes learning fun and we leave class busting at the seams with information. These are good examples of the classroom environments that the teachers in the MYP set for us. They ensure that everyone excels in each subject. Mr. Carroll pushes us to try our hardest and to be confident in ourselves not just in his classroom. I really enjoy his class and the way it makes me feel about Science. I guess that‘s why, it‘s one of my favorite classes. After Science, is lunch. Once lunch was over, I head to the gymnasium for P.E. I was having trouble handling the ball, but I suppose I was in the same boat as my peers. Mrs. O'Neal says I have the great ability of laughing at myself when I do badly as opposed to getting frustrated. After a lot of hard work and falling on my butt more than once, I finally got the hang of it. I never gave up and I taught other people. Nonetheless, this was a pretty good day.


―Mr. Carroll pushes us to try our hardest and to be confident in ourselves not just in his classroom‖.

oday is December 19, 2012 and it is Wednesday. My friend Erika stayed the night and today she‘s going again Algebra. Boring! Plus we‘re learnhome so I am a little sad. Although I'm sure I will get over it because I will see her again tomorrow, we ing something new. Aggghh! Oh well, had fun hanging out, acting silly and doing our homework. Winter break is approaching fast and we back to the books. are all excited but now we have more pressure to finish up all our schoolwork. Today is a B day and

My Experience with SMG


joined She‘Matters Girls in 2012. I didn‘t quite know what I was stepping into, but I knew it was going to give me a new outcome on the world. My first event with these young ladies was an eye-opening experience. I {learned} how hair and body products may affect me…. Ever since that moment, I look at my life and body in a different way. SMG isn‘t just a group that has conferences and {teaches} new things, but we also go out and have fun events, such as beach blasts, sleepovers, and other things that bring girls closer together.

As a member of this family, I have enjoyed working with the girls and parents as a mentor and as one of the young ladies. I’m looking forward to new experiences in my life and with SMG! Article reprinted from SMG’s Pillow Talk Newsletter.

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Article written by: Blaire Edwards (16), a She‘Matters GIRLS Teen at Grassfield High School. Blaire aspires to become a n entrepreneur.

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NORFOLK, VA (514.50) – This is the auspicious number being celebrated in the days, weeks and months to come of all the SMGiRLS, Supporters, Friends and SMG Family for their hard work, dedication and continuous efforts to uplift, inspire, empower and assist in building their community. It‘s amazing! In less than 12 months, the She‘Matters GIRLS organization has achieved much with reaching back and paying it forward! They have earned over 514.50 volunteer hours providing services with and for the She‘Matters organizations and various community and youth organizations and camps. Volunteering has, ―helped me make friends, learn new skills, expand my career options and remain healthy,‖ says Jordan R., a 7th grader at Ghent School.

―Volunteering is a commodity where people contribute their time and their talents,‖ comments a loyal SMG Supporter. ―It‘s an intrinsic value for the organization.‖ She‘Matters GIRLS, LLC is a youth leadership initiative working with young girls ages 10 – 19 years old. Their focus is on social poise and etiquette, helping girls to improve selfesteem and recognizing their self-worth. Through various activities, they have accomplished that and so much more in making the necessary sacrifices to serve while participating in their community.

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Volunteer SMGirls Catrelle J. and new member Dejah B. paint their third red dress in recognition of the American Heart Association. Heart disease is the #1 killer of women, but it can be prevented.

On volunteering…. ―The ultimate expression of generosity is not in giving of what you have, but in giving of who you are.‖ Dr. Johnetta B. Cole

Joinus in our efforts! SMGiRL Danielle S. (10), Rosemont Elementary School, prepares the fourth stencil for the group to paint.


t takes special people to voluntarily give of their time or talents for charitable, educational, or other worthwhile activities. Volunteerism is crucial in that it brings people, businesses, and needs together. In commemoration of the American Heart Association, Go Red, heart attack and stroke awareness campaign, the young ladies of She Matters GIRLS volunteered to give of their time on Martin Luther King holiday and paint

"little red dresses" on local businesses. In the same way as they gave of their time freely, they received much more back than given. A "true" volunteer intentionally focuses on meeting the needs of someone other than themselves. There's gratification and satisfaction in giving back to a community in which you are a part of, and developing a deeper appreciation and compassion for others. Some of the benefits of volunteerism includes the opportunity to meet many new people which many times develops into lifelong friendships, partnerships and relationships. Volunteerism teaches children and teens humility, gratitude, compassion, and a good work ethic which are all great qualities of great leaders! Article written by Jan House, SMG‘s Program Developer

Members of She‘Matters GIRLS are pictured with District Coordinator, Mary Blackwood and District Manager, Dan Giddens after painting their red dresses on the doors of Sherwin Williams Paint Store, Ingelside Road, Norfolk, VA. (January 21, 2013).

Interested in VOLUNTEERING with She‘Matters GIRLS or becoming a member, contact us today at


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Always work to achieve higher standards.

Never settle for less! You are beautifully made and uniquely so, …. You have a right to be SUCCESSFUL!

Reach for it, Obtain it, &

Achieve it!

Article written by Jan House, SMG‘s Program Developer ―Thank you so much! I pray God's richest blessings and abundant favor upon you, the organization, and the many lives that will be impacted, minds that will be transformed, and spirits that will be renewed as a result of your obedience to the call upon your life. What an awesome privilege to serve in such a capacity.”

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Dreaming the Imaginable Dreamed of being a writer, Where my creativity could flow. Put my ideas to paper, And later I saw my words grow. Always practiced what I preached, Someone said I'd be a teacher, Yet I took a similar path; I envision myself now as a Leader. Dreamed of owning my own home, Signed the deed 3 years ago. He said "to conquer the land," God favored my dreams; There's no one greater!

Negative comments reminding me of my own confidence, Shattered my self-worth and self-esteem …. Something I never wish my girls to experience. But in this life, I know it will. With She'Matters GIRLS, my youngest will know! Know how to cope and fight back in boldness, With confidence she‘ll stand Ignoring the negativity, Acknowledging the positive and Moving forward in following her DREAMS! 1st Lady!!

Dreamed I be a better parent, Let my wisdom be their guide. Raised a blossoming young woman, My dreams and prayers were not denied. Dreamed I‘d teach them life lessons, Hoped they learn from my mistakes. She broke the cycle of teenage pregnancy, Dreams, met Reality, I believe I did just great! Now I dream my daughters‘ graduate college, And become Leaders in their professions. Dreams, I‘ve learned, can't be executed by ourselves, So I pray often for divine intervention. Had mentors and some naysayers, Who tried to say my dreams where impossible! Their comments often left me sadder, sadder than ever.

Visit our website at to see more of and follow 1st Lady ‗s poetry and inspiring words! Michelle R. Williams is the mother of Teora (20) and A‘Georre ―Gigi‖ Williams (10). Gigi is a She‘Matters GIRLS!

MUSIC!! We can‘t live without it! What a cliché! Do you think? I don‘t, music is all around us; in the sounds from the cars, to a baby‘s cries to the humming or beating tunes of the teen next to you on the bus. Music is everywhere! For some, music is a necessity. For others, it‘s a small commodity. What do you think? Let us hear from you.

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hen I turned fifteen on May 1, 2011, I could not wait to reach fifteen and six months. I was eager because this is the age Virginia requires to take the driving permit test. I couldn‘t wait to drive. For me, driving meant freedom! I wanted to be able to go where I wanted, whenever I wanted!

I knew I would be eligible to go to the DMV and take my permit test starting November 1, 2011, so I started studying the driver‘s manual right away. I read the book often and memorized the information. It taught me everything from the signs to the speed limits and what was expected of me when driving on certain roads, to the rules of the road. Finally, my day had come! After a week of begging my mother to take me, I took the test on November 11. When it was time to select the answers, I found I was very nervous and kept second guessing myself, which isn‘t good. However, all of my studying paid off, because I passed it on my first try! Words can‘t explain how happy I was that I could now actually drive a car. Once I got my driver‘s permit, I knew that I would have to wait at least nine months to get my official license. In order for you to get your license, you have to take and pass Behind the Wheel, which is a hands-on driving class. I passed the class my first try and received my temporary license shortly afterwards, so now I‘m waiting to go to the court on January 9, 2013 to get my official driver‘s license. When I shared with friends that I was going to get my driver‘s license, some people reacted differently. A lot of my friends were proud of me, but there was a few who were jealous that I was the first out of the bunch to receive my license. Their jealousy didn‘t bother me because I know that if they truly wanted their license, they would have been just as dedicated and determined to get it. My mother on the other hand, was obviously having a hard time. She‘s still slowly realizing that I‘m growing up! It‘s hard for her to grasp the fact that I don‘t need her for the little things anymore, such as driving me around all the time. Although she‘s slowly getting use to this new transition, she‘s been great with letting me borrow her car almost whenever I need it. It‘s going to take her a

while, but she will get used to it eventually. Thanks Mom! Now that I‘ve reached this milestone in my life, I feel more independent and mature! I‘m able to go places on my own and that is such a great feeling. I drive to the mall whenever I want a new outfit or to a restaurant whenever I‘m in the mood for a good meal. I feel FREE! My new goal for myself is to get a car! I love mom‘s car and all, but I want something that I can call my own. So hopefully the next time you see me I will be driving my own vehicle. Until then, I guess I will just have to stick to using my mom‘s.

―A lot of my friends were proud of me, but there was a few who were jealous that I was the first out of the bunch to receive my license.‖

Positive advice: To all of my future driving sisters, I just want you all to remember that if you want your license, go and get it! Don‘t let other‘s discourage you. You can do it if you believe you can. Just DON‘T PROCRASINATE! A lot the people I know did and now they are grown and still relying on others for rides because they can‘t drive themselves. Last but not least, I wish you all the best! I and everyone else know you can do it, so go make us proud! Happy Driving!

Article written by She‘Matters GIRLS Teja Wiggins-McKinney. Teja is a 16 year old Teen Advisor in the11th grade at the First Colonial High School Legal Studies Academy in Virginia Beach, VA.

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Do you know a young lady who’s a MOTIVATOR? HUMANITARIAN? Great LISTENER? An ENTERTAINER? COURAGEOUS? A SERVANT? Or CREATIVE? If so, NOMINATIONS are now being accepted to honor young ladies, ages 10 – 19, for the

She‘Matters GIRLS,


2013 HYPe Inspiration Award Join us as we honor young ladies in the Fall of 2013 for their servitude, leadership & ability to inspire others. Simple NOMINATION Process:

This award recognizes young ladies for their good deeds accomplished within the home, school, or community; in their ministries, social or civic organizations; academic excellence or academic improvement.

* Email a short paragraph describing the accomplishment(s) and the month in which it was achieved.

Nominate a Tween or Teen TODAY! Email entries to: Don‘t forget to include your name, age and a photo of yourself!

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Following their DREAMS... Dr. Johnnetta Betsch Cole Born October 19, 1936, Johnetta Cole is most remembered from 1987-1997 as the first African American female president of Spellman College, once a school for freed female slaves. During her tenure there, she positioned the university to raise over $113 million, more than $20 million over its determined goal and the largest amount ever raised by a historically black college. She was also the present of Bennett College from 2002—2007. At a very early age, Johnnetta Cole followed her dreams. When her friends were more than likely held a variety of other interests, she had greater plans. She wanted to begin her education career. By the age of 15, she enrolled in Fisk University and later transferred to Oberlin College, where she completed, in 1957, her B.A. Degree in anthropology. How fascinating? Wanting to learn about human origin, behavior, physical, social and the cultural development of humans. Was this an interest of yours when you were 15? Staying in school was the furtherest from my mind at this age.


tinue her education by attending graduate school at Northwestern University, where she earned her masters degree in 1959 and her Ph.D. in 1967. As a faithful humanitarian and philanthropist, Dr. Cole wears a kaleidoscope of community service hats. She was the first woman elected to the board of Coca Cola and from 2004-2006, she served as the Chair of the Board of Trustees of United Way of America and serves on the Board of Directors of the United Way of Greater Greensboro (NC). In a statement she shared with the last Spellman graduates under her tenure, “Go out and make this a better world! Be involved! Dr. Johnnette Cole whole heartily believed in reaching back to give back.

Now Helping our community grow stronger

Dr. Johnnetta Cole

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Today, Dr. Cole remains the Chair of the Johnnetta B. Cole Global Diversity & Inclusion Institute founded at Bennett College for Women. As she is also a prominent member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.

When many of her friends were contemplating continuing their education or entering the world of work, she decided to con-


tta James, was born January 25, 1938 in Los Angeles, California. Ms. James was what people in those days liked to call a "Gospel Prodigy". In 1954 she went back to LA, "The Wallflower." It was not until 1960 that her career began to take off. Despite her drug problems she earned a Grammy nomination for her 1973 eponymous album. In 2006 she released her soon to be known last album "All the Way". Two years later on January 20, 2012 in Riverside, California, Ms. James passed away. Ms. Etta James is remembered mostly for her music but also because of her beautiful personality and tributes.


llyson Michelle Felix, was born on November 18th, 1985 in Los Angeles, California. She first received her nickname "chicken legs" in 7th grade when she played basketball. In her same 7th grade year she decided to try out for the track team. She followed her dreams and desires and in 2003 Track & Field News named Allyson Felix its National girl "High School Athlete of the Year." At the U.S. Indoor Track & Field Championships she came in 2nd place in the 200 m. dash and in 2008, the Olympic Games in Beijing, Felix ran the personal best of 21.93 in the 200 meter. Felix continued to compete in the 4-by-100 meter relay. That year, Felix and her relay team sat a new world record for the time of 40.82 seconds. AWESOME!

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SMGiRLS dedicate our Fashion Page to one of our supporters, Mrs. Jonna Scott-Blakes of Naturally GLAM, LLC. Your style and grace inspires us! Thank you Mrs. Blakes for your continued love and support!

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nlike my mom and my dad, I was born to dream big. These are some of my dreams from when I was little until now. I dream for a fur coat, a sailboat, a butler, a chauffeur, a maid, and a chef. I dream to be rich and successful one day. I even search the Internet to find pictures of what my mansion will look like.

When I dream big, I know it will come true. So I‘ll be like Da Vinci and do a MonaLisa, and always go after my dreams!

When I grow up I want to be a professional runner. I will one day run all around the world. I want to see my picture on cereal boxes, my name on many trophies and to win a gold medal like Gabby Douglas. Also I dream to one day play the guitar with my eyes close and to remember the sheet-notes by heart. I also dream to be an actress in Hollywood. Acting is my passion! I was a member of the Hurrah Players acting school and here is where I had my first real acting part. One day I will probably be a comedian with my acting. I see myself standing on stage in front of many, making them laugh with my funnies. Being a member of the Hurrah Players, that was the best time of my life. When I get to Hollywood, my hope is to see my name on a star. Finally, I dream to help out my community and one day help out the world. She'Matters GIRLS has helped me in many ways and taught me how to willingly help others, give back to my community and to achieve my dreams. She'Matters teaches me how to build my confidence. I believe you need to have a lot of confidence to achieve your dreams. She'Matters allows me to be ME; a greater leader. I promise to always be a

A'Georre ―Gigi‖ W. (10) is a creative student and SMGirl. She‘s outgoing and passionately advocates for her rights and the rights of her peers. She aspires to become a professional runner and an actress.

strong leader in my community and soon for the entire world.


n my journey to accomplishing my goals, I was faced with many adversities. Instead of focusing on the negatives, I used it as motivation in continuation to accomplishing my goals. When you have made up your mind on what you hope to achieve, never allow anything or anyone to cause you to lose hope and faith. Keep your eyes on the prize, and know that you are one step closer. Surround yourself with positive people, stay motivated, determined, and focused. Remember that with God, ALL things are Kaberlyn D. (21), senior at Old Dominion University, Major possible. Psychology & Minor in Dance

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The holidays are over but the winter months are still here. Finding a great book to get lost in is all the rave at this time of the year. So grab a blanket, curl up and get cozy and take some time to enjoy the remainder of these cold winter days between the pages of a great novel. What‘s the title of your book?

In a recent poll of 35 Middle and High School students, here‘s their most frequently mentioned ―great reads‖. 1. Born Blue (Han Nolan) 2. Icy Sparks (Gwyn Hyman Rubio) 3. Stargirl (Jerry Spinelli) 4. The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants (Ann Brashares) 5. Fracture (Megan Miranda) 6. The Hunger Games Triology (Suzanne Collins) 7. The Giver (Lois Lowry)

Oh where, oh where is my Swallowtail?

How would you describe the book in one sentence?

A young girl goes on a wonderful journey in her backyard and needs your help to solve the mystery of the missing butterfly. This book is an easy read and comes with a CD and Quick Find bookmarks to help kids build vocabulary. What‘s the one greatest thing you rejoice about in writing this book? Every chance I get you can find me

outside exploring plants, critters, and insects. I love to share what I’m learning with anyone that will listen. I’m happy that I wrote about what I love to do so I can share and motivate others to get outside! What‘s your biggest regret? There isn’t enough hours

8. Unrest (Michelle Harrison) 9. Fahrenheit 451 (Ray Bradbury) 10. Incareron (Catherin Fisher)

in the day to explore. I have to stop to eat, sleep, and go to school. How would you encourage another to follow their dreams?

Many say they don’t know where to start or they think their idea or dream is not worth pursuing. I understand what they’re feeling. My message is “Dream It Do It” Words to live by? Please spread my message, “You

Can Turn Your Challenges Into Abilities!”

Featured Author: Kaleela Lorraine Thompson 13 years old, 8th grade, Hunter B. Andrews S.T.E.M School Visit the She‘Matters GIRLS website to learn more about our featured 4 eg aP author. Interested in seeing our book reviews, visit our website at

―The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today. Let us move forward with strong and active faith!‖ - Blaire Edwards, SMGiRLS/ FB Post/ 1.21.2013

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Lately, wearing natural hair styles have been a fashion hype. For some of our SMGiRLS, going without hair chemicals is not a fade, but has been a part of their life‘s choice since very young. Join us in following two of our BeOnique natural beauties.


hen I was very young I remember always asking my mother for a perm. I just yearned for straight hair and didn‘t know what came with getting a perm but my mother never gave me one. I was and still am very tender headed and the process of doing my hair was painful for both of us. As a result, my mother installed dreadlocks in my hair when I was at the age of 8 and I kept them until this past summer when I picked them out to start again with my loose natural hair. Although I didn‘t actually have a say in whether or not I wanted dreadlocks, I never disliked them and always embraced them. From time to time I would even receive compliments about them from other people. They were very low maintenance which was perfect for me and my mother because we wouldn‘t have to worry about doing my hair every week. However, around the time of the end of 7 th grade I decided that I was ready to take them out but my mother asked me to wait until the next summer, before I went to high school, so I did. I thought this was perfect because I was transitioning to a completely new place and was ready for a change. Prior to beginning the process of taking out my locks I did a large amount of research on natural hair using YouTube as my search engine. I felt informed and shortly after the school year ended I began picking out my locks. It was me, my mom, a comb, water, and a bottle of conditioner for three weeks until we finished. Once the picking was over and done with I had a lot of adjusting to do. I knew that I didn‘t want a relaxer because I had come to love my natural

I always say the beauty of natural hair is its versatility because there are numerous hair styles you can do from twist-outs to braidouts and bantu-knot outs. Some of my biggest influences for my natural hair are Tracee Ellis Ross and Corinne Bailey Rae. Today, some people question my decision to go natural but I‘m not really affected by it because I love my curls and it gives me a sense of empowerment! Wearing my hair in its natural state, I‘ve been able to embrace myself the way I was born. I‘ve never had a relaxer and I don‘t think I ever will!

hair texture so I was determined to learn how to adequately care for it. I spent my time looking at tons of videos and soaking up as much information as I possibly could. Now I am much more informed about my hair and I‘ve done pretty well with taking of it.

Ayo C., is a high school freshmen taking Honors classes. Her hair journey has given many of our SMGiRLS great inspiration to continue wearing their natural styles.

My Natural Hair Expedition


aving natural hair sometimes can be a struggle. Having to wake up every morning to twist, tuck and roll can be so tedious. Even though the results can be beautiful, sometimes it can end up being a mess! Since I‘m new to doing my own hair, I‘ve learned a few things along the way. The most important factor to having and keeping my natural healthy 24/7, is knowing how to maintain healthy treatment habits. This can become a daunting task, but I understand that it‘s worth it. I‘ve learned that I must make sure my hair is well moisturized daily. I moisturize at night so I can easily comb through and style it in the morning. About two years ago, I had an allergic reaction to mercury from a flu shot I received at

school. Little did I know that one experience would cause so much turmoil. My reaction caused severe hair breakage and damage in one spot in the back of my head. Keeping my hair moisturized by using the right products help prevent breakage and kept my hair soft and manageable, helping it to grow back. How I decide to style it; two sleek twist or an all out show of curly twist, is my choice. My style depends on my mood. Nothing more but definitely nothing less! I ROCK my natural with confidence! Why, because I‘m a SMGiRL and GIRLS ROCK! Whether it‘s your clothes, your shoes, whatever you decide is your style, you should always show off every inch of you! I do, because I am beautiful and know my own beauty is unique!

Jordan R., is a 7th Grade Honor student at Ghent School. She aspires to be an Entertainment Attorney.

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o Mentor a Dream is to be the air beneath its wings, giving it that ability to take flight. It means turning into element oxygen, giving those lungs the chance to breath. It‘s the belief in something so strongly, that you‘re willing to do whatever it takes to turn that dream into a reality.

As Deputy Director of She‘Matters GIRLS (SMG) confidence, ambition, trust and belief are all qualities I make sure we instill in our young ladies. In SMG, we want our girls to know that they‘re beautiful inside and out and have the drive to become anything they desire in life. In this day and age, teens have very few positive role models. That‘s why I find it so important to provide positive energy through conversations, projects, activities and events for our girls. Our goals are to instill strong selfimages, promote motivation and ensure that our daughters acknowledge their self worth and understand that they matter. Knowing that these young ladies receive and understand that knowledge is important to me because I believe in them, our girls, our daughters and their outcomes! Watching these insightful young seeds blossom into beautiful flowers is more than just volunteer work, it‘s larger than a just because cause, it‘s my dream and I‘m willing to go above and beyond to help pave the way for our young queens. For this is Mentoring both their and my Dreams. Sincerely She‘Matters GIRLS, LLC Group own,

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Guy T I‘ve known for two years now and we‘re cool laughing and hanging out during school. He‘s in my Japanese class and he‘s now my crush. What can I do to let him know I like him?

I‘m not a very forward person and spend a lot of time to myself. I‘m an awesome chess and tennis player. Since we don‘t have a TV in our house, my sister and I spend much of our free time reading books. Next year I start Middle School and I want to be able to fit in and talk about what the other girls talk about. How can I better fit with the other girls next school year? - Unsocial Butterfluter

- My Crush

Dear My Crush, Take time to get to know each other. Don’t fall over him just because you like him, get to know him first . If he responds when you spark a conversation with him, more than likely he’s noticed you too. After hanging out a bit and you feel comfortable, tell him how you feel. The worst thing that could happen is that he doesn’t like you back. You’ll never know. But even if he doesn’t, know that you’re still beautiful and life goes on. Stay focused on you and on your schoolwork, especially Japanese.

I just made the lacrosse team at school and I‘m so happy. But last week I heard a few of my so-call friends talking about me because I‘ve been hanging with a lot of guys lately. All of which are on the team. How do I handle the drama of my so-called friends who are talking about me? - Want it 2 Work

Dear Unsocial Butterfluter, Be yourself and everything will work out fine! What you shouldn’t do is single yourself out or compare yourself to other girls. Going to middle from primary school is a large transition but when you get there, you’ll see not much is different. The greatest difference you’ll find is less structure. If you don’t have a TV at home, there are computers and TVs at school if you’re interested in viewing. Most teachers utilize TVs as teaching tools also. Keep your options open and don’t try to fit in, be yourself. When you are able to make friends, talk about other things of interest. Some of us have TVs in our homes, but we don’t always spend hours watching it. Be who you are everything else will fall in place.

Dear Want it 2 Work, There is not a problem with what you’re doing. Its not unusual for boys to hang out with girls nor for girls to hang out with boys. There is no way to stop what people are saying or thinking about you. If you can’t take it then limit your time. Spend half the practice with the boys and the other half with girls. Good luck and let me know how it turns out!

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May 18 - Girls and Young Women Conference She’Matters GIRLS Upcoming Events— March 3 – Hampton Roads Gazeti Exemplar Award - Royal Courtyard (Virginia Beach, VA). She‘Matters GIRLS will serve as volunteers for host/hostess. Ticket Cost: $18--$25 at door. The Hampton Roads Gazeti is a monthly newspaper that's the voice of nonprofit organizations; not for profit but for community. Virginia Beach, VA. For more information on this event or for ticket purchase visit


The Hampton Roads Conference for Girls and Young Women was developed to educate and empower young women to become productive citizens. For one day, participants will be exposed to people, ideas and opportunities that will build leadership skills, facilitate career development and promote active and healthy lifestyles. - 5th Annual Conference on the campus of Old Dominion University (Webb Center) – She‘Matters GIRLS will attend this conference. Admission: Usually Free

Other Supporting Youth Organizations:

May 18 - Girls and Young Women Conference


The Hampton Roads Conference for Girls and Young Women was developed to educate and empower young women to become This conference is created to share pertinent information to productive citizens. For one day, participants will be exposed keep teens healthy and aware. It‘s presented by the Cooperto people, ideas and opportunities that will build leadership Mercer Institute. Teens will interact with peers in individual skills, facilitate career development and promote active and workshops, enjoy entertainment, and informational booths. healthy lifestyles. - 5th Annual Conference on the campus of Breakfast and lunch will be served. To register or for more Old Dominion University (Webb Center) – She‘Matters GIRLS information on the conference, e-mail phatconferwill attend this conference. Admission: Usually Free ence@gmail.comThis email address is being protected

March 23 – Promoting Healthy Active Teens (PHAT) Conference – Booker T. Washington High School (Norfolk, VA).

from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or go to Twitter @PhatConference, or on Facebook Saturday, April 6, 2013 - "Life Skills 101" @ 9am- 1pm (253 search PHAT or Cooper Mercer Town Center Dr. Virginia Beach, VA 23454 suite 1035)- Life Skills workshop for girls 10-18 March 23 – ―Sisters in Step‖ Women‘s Conference with NorMon. August 5 - Thurs. August 8, 2013 @ 9am - 4pm - 4 day folk State University WoMen's Economic Development Center – The focus is to enrich the commu- enrichment camp for girls 10-16. nity and increase the overall public health of families. A week of comprehensive activities to promote learning, inspiration and self-discovery are scheduled. During each event, select women in the community will be recognized for their community involvement. (Workshops held at 6-7:30pm in Brown Hall Little Theater) She‘Matters GIRLS will serve as hostess volunteers for the Grand Finale Brunch - Saturday, March 23, 2013, 11-1:30pm (Held in Scott-Dozier Dining Hall) Featuring: Dr. Gwendolyn Boyd, Executive Assistant to Chief of Staff Principal Professional Staff at John Hopkins University. Cost: $75.00 includes all three conference workshops and Brunch admission. Sponsorship opportunities available. For more information visit http://

She’Matters GIRLS SAVE the DATE Events – More information is to come regarding the following:

April 1-5 - Spring Break Camp - Vivian C. Mason Building, Norfolk, VA (Participants must register for this event) April 20 - HR Youth Leadership Conference – Booker T. Washington High School, Norfolk, VA (Participants must register for this event)

Saturday, August 10, 2013 @11am - Annual Luncheon for women & girls For more information about these and other events, contact Shene' V. Owens (201)838-1993 or email at Other Events: March 10-16, 2013 Teen Tech Week - : Materials for 2013 Teen Tech Week are currently available to order from the ALA Online Store. Teen Tech Week is a national initiative sponsored by the Young Adult Library Services Association and is aimed at teens, their parents, educators. Teen Tech Week encourages teens to use libraries' nonprint resources for education and recreation, Get Connected @ your library. Contact the ALA Young Adult Library Services Association (YALSA, a division of ALA) with questions. (Information received from Celebration Weeks and Promotional Events 2013-2014, conferencesevents/celebrationweeks)

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She'Matters GIRLS is a limited liability non-profit organization servicing young girls between the ages of 10 -19 years old. Our training focus centers on social poise and etiquette and the importance of understanding self-worth.

Contact us: Primary Business Address: 1014 W. 35th Street Norfolk, VA 23508

Integrity, Accountability, Honesty, Commitment to Serve!

757-214-1570 Main 757- 343-0562 Alternate Website: Email: Facebook: She‘Matters GIRLS, LLC Twitter: @ SheMattersGIRLS Instagram: smgis4me

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BeOnique Magazine is She‘Matters GIRLS official publication that focuses on the interests of tween and teen girls. Within the pages of this publication, you‘ll be able to pen articles covering topics that matter to you such as community service, social networking, fashion trends, relationships, music, running a business and so much more.

BeOnique is a quarterly publication. Don‘t miss out on the chance to showcase your savvy writing, photography, art or other talents in our May issue. Your words, experiences, suggestions and advice may help a fellow tween/teen girl build up her esteem, step into her power or become all she can be for herself, family and overall community.

For all YOU do, we say THANK YOU!


his month of February is identified as Black History Month. It is also our anniversary month and the month She’Matters GIRLS, LLC salutes those whose shoulders we stand! Thank you Madam C.J. Walker, the first Black woman millionaire in America. Her inventions and vision paved the way for women entrepreneurs in every profession, including hair care. Sojourner Truth, for advocating women’s rights and giving us a voice, Daisy Bates for her courageous role to integrating Central High School in Little Rock Arkansas (as Little Rock Nine), And Dr. Maya Angelou for so many phenomenal events in history, but most importantly for her words speaking directly to me and pushing me to follow my dreams to become a writer.

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Now I would be remised to only mention the women of history who followed there dreams and not the men, as our men in history have done wondrous things.

Obama. For Mentoring your Dreams, breaking the color barriers and diving into what some viewed as impossible and unattainable, we say THANK YOU!

Thank you to Booker T. Washington for You’re accomplishments demonstrate the becoming the first president of the Tuskegee reality of holding onto, believing in and workNormal and Industrial Institute in Tuskegee, ing toward making your DREAMS possible! Ala. His accomplishments set the pace for so many principals, deans and provost of current day colleges and universities. W.E.B. DuBois for publishing “The Souls of Black Folk”, what a challenging read for a college student, but for making sure we were always informed , considered and protected by founding the NAACP. Thank you Interested in receiving Langston Hughes for painting words information of upcomof color out loud and on a page and ing events or have sugfor Jesse Owens for setting several gestions for topics to consider for our next Olympic records. All of these and so issue, let us hear from many more set the tone for our curyou at rent accomplishers, President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle

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BeOnique Magazine!  

BeOnique Magazine! is She'Matters GIRLS official literary publication featuring articles, fashion updates, history moments and so much more...

BeOnique Magazine!  

BeOnique Magazine! is She'Matters GIRLS official literary publication featuring articles, fashion updates, history moments and so much more...