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Back in the early years of She, in about our third or fourth year of publishing, I got a package in the mail containing a CD with a handwritten note. The note said: “Dear Editor, I wanted to share this demo with you. It’s a song I wrote and recorded that’s just won a songwriting award. I think you might like it. It’s called ‘She.’” I popped the CD into the drive and gave it a listen purely out of curiosity since we didn’t feature artists unless they had at least an album out there. When the song was over, I said out loud, “This girl is going to be a rock star, and this song is gonna make a big difference to a lot of people.” Seriously. I have witnesses. The next day, we went to press with a short write-up in the magazine—that one and only time—based on nothing but a demo of the song “She,” written and performed by Jen Foster. My ex and I had been married for about a year at that time. Back then, the idea of legalized gay marriage was nothing more than a pipedream, but in all honesty, I didn’t care. To me, marriage was a promise made between me and the woman I loved, before God, our family and friends. I didn’t need a piece of paper from the government to tell me my marriage was real because I knew that if you looked in the Bible, you didn’t see people needing to pay a courthouse money to put a stamp of validity on their union. To me, it was the promise of the heart that really mattered. And from the moment I said, “I do,” I always called her my wife. If anyone questioned it, I simply replied, “With as much as I paid for that wedding, I bought the word ‘wife.’” Somehow, that line was always enough to settle the discussion. Fast forward to April 2013. The Supreme Court of the United States of America prepares to issue a decision that sets the stage for gay marriage to become a legally recognized reality for all Americans. It has now heard arguments that will cause it to rule that California’s legalized gay marriage stands, and those who have wed in other states with legalized gay marriage must begin to receive federal marriage beneﬁts. Meanwhile, in Puerto Vallarta, out lesbian, indie rock star and multi-award-winning songwriter Jen Foster tells me over dinner that she has taken the song “She,” which has been a staple wedding song for lesbians over the last decade, and turned into a dance mix, gone into a cooperative partnership with some of the heaviest hitters and organizations in the country, and is set to release this new version and video, worldwide, as an anthem and PSA for marriage equality. After dinner, she shows me the demo of the idea for the new video. My eyes well up with tears as I realize that not only has this girl become a rock star, but the song—that amazing song that has meant so much to so many people over the last decade-plus—is going to make an even bigger difference than I could have ever predicted. The next day, based on nothing but a demo… See you next month.
Tina Sordellini Managing Executive Editor
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july 2013 / VOLUME 15 / ISSUE 6
IN THIS ISSUE
16 WEDDING ALBUM 1
Celebrating the married lesbian couples.
Entérate lo que sucede en nuestros países.
18 WEDDING ALBUM 2
See more married lesbian couples.
20 JEN FOSTER
“...it’s time to shine a spotlight on it, and with the song, the video and the help of the HRC, it just feels right to be doing it now.”
26 THE SCOTUS RULING
Understanding what it all means for Florida as well as other states where we don’t yet have marriage equality.
06 DIRECTOR’S CHAIR 10 MULTIMEDIA 14 IN THE NEWS 15 CALENDAR OF EVENTS
31 YO SOY MUJER
photos 04 SHE SCENE 12 GIRLS IN WONDERLAND 1 29 OLIVIA’S PUNTA CANA 32 GIRLS IN WONDERLAND 2
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24 SHE GIRL
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34 ON THE SHELVES 34 ARCHIVES
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with tara farquhar
The great comedienne Wanda Sykes is bringing an all-female cast of comics to OWN with Herlarious. The reason why she is doing it: Because Oprah asked her to. “When Oprah asks you to do something, you move!” Sykes said. The cast showcases OWN’s own Kym Whitley along with Andi Smith, Marina Franklin, Gloria Bigelow, Tracey Ashley, Dominique Witten and Carmen Lynch and features comedy shorts and new material. It airs on July 13 and July 20 at 10PM.
Sandra Bullock and Mellissa McCarthy warm up a little mayhem in the movie The Heat. Bullock plays a serious and straightlaced FBI agent, Sarah Ashburn, who gets stuck working with an outrageously unbalanced Boston cop, Shannon Mullins, played by McCarthy. The two who have never had a partner—or really even a friend—try to work together to wipe out a powerful drug lord in this funny and slapstick womance. The Heat is currently in theaters.
Ciara’s fifth-studio album, Ciara reaches beyond music. “It’s about my life,” she said. “I’m more open to change. I’m learning so much about myself, and I’ve become really comfortable and free.” She describes the album as a “surge of fresh energy” and a push to be “even more creative.” The singer-songwriter and Grammy Award winner is also a producer and actress who is known worldwide for her multiple Billboard hits. Look for her newest 10-track album July 9.
Sarah Bareilles embraces her fears, monsters and a year of difficulties on her 12-track album The Blessed Unrest. “2012 was a year of deconstruction for me personally,” the singer-songwriter said. “The songs on this album are a true reflection of everything I’ve come to experience in recent months.” The third fulllength release features the song “Brave,” cowritten by Bareilles and Jack Antonoff of the band Fun. The album is available July 16.
HBO’s documentary The OUT List brings us a close-up look at the varied inner and outer lives of those who are “out.” Through thoughtful stories of love, loss, trial and triumph, this diverse group of trailblazing individuals share personal insight into what it means to be out in their lives, their community and their country. The documentary features Lady Bunny, Ellen DeGeneres, Janet Mock, Cynthia Nixon, Suze Orman and many others. The show airs on HBO beginning on July 3.
The “Retired and Extremely Dangerous” return for another round of action in RED 2. Bruce Willis’s Frank Moses, after attempting to lay low and enjoy retired life, comes back with his motley crew—including more scenes with the much-loved Helen Mirren as Victoria—in order to find a missing nuclear device before it falls into the wrong hands. Anthony Hopkins, John Malkovich and Mary-Louise Parker also star in this red-hot film that opens July 19.
NOT TO BE MISSED: The highly-anticipated season premiere of Covert Affairs, starring the gorgeous and charismatic Piper Parabo as Agent Annie Walker. The super-sexy spy is back on July 16 at 9pm on USA Network. SHE - 10 - 07/13
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lots of fun at the saturday & sunday pool parties, splash & pumps vs pants, during girls in wonderland at their new host hotel, sheraton lake buena vista in orlando. photos by boi4life.com & grace chu view more photos at www.shemag.com
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in the news National LGBT Advocacy Groups Issue Guide to Same-Sex Couples After Historic Ruling on DOMA In the wake of the US Supreme Court’s historic decision to strike down Section Three of the discriminatory Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), 11 national LGBT advocacy organizations jointly issued a series of factsheets to provide guidance to same-sex couples and their families as they navigate accessing federal rights, benefits, and protections. “After DOMA: What it Means For You” LGBT Organizations Fact Sheet Series details many of the ways federal agencies accord legal respect to married same-sex couples. The
guide includes 14 factsheets on the following topics: Bankruptcy, Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA), Federal Employee Benefits, Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA), Immigration, Medicaid, Medicare, Military Spousal Benefits, Private Employment Benefits, Social Security, Supplemental Security Income, Taxes, Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF), and Veteran Spousal Benefits. There are more than 1,100 places in federal law where a protection or responsibility is based on marital status. The fact sheets are intended to provide general information regarding major areas of federal marriage-based rights and protections offered by federal agencies. Before making a decision, it is essential that same-sex couples consult an attorney for individualized legal advice. People must make careful decisions when and where to marry, even as advocates work towards equality.
The fact sheet series produced together by: American Civil Liberties Union, Center for American Progress, Family Equality Council, Freedom to Marry, Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders, Human Rights Campaign, Immigration Equality, Lambda Legal, National Center for Lesbian Rights, National Gay and Lesbian Task Force and OutServe-SLDN. To download, visit www.shemag.com
The ruling in Hollingsworth v. Perry opened marriage to a same-sex spouse for California’s estimated 1.1 million LGBT adults and nearly 200,000 individuals who are already part of a same-sex couple, but leave 5.5 million LGBT Americans, including more than 800,000 who are part of a same-sex couple, living in states without marriage equality. Institute research suggests that California will gain approximately $46 million in tax and fee revenue from the weddings of same-sex couples, and the state’s economy will gain $492 million in business revenue over the next three years. —The Williams Institute
what they said on 6/26/13 about... “The debate over marriage equality is about fairness – about whether gay and lesbian Americans deserve to be treated just like their family members, their friends, and their neighbors. It’s about opportunity – about whether every American gets to dream the same dreams, chase the same ambitions, and have the same shot at success. And it’s about freedom–the freedom to love, the freedom to commit, the freedom to build a family. Most of all, it’s about whether the progress our country has made will be reflected in our laws.” —U.S. Senator Tammy Baldwin
“This is the most consequential way they could have chosen to rule in a pro-gay-rights way...This is a very big deal ruling...The federal ban on recognizing same-sex marriages is dead. California’s ban on recognizing same-sex marriages is dead. There are 12 states in the country where this is now legal, and the political winds on this are blowing so hard in one direction that the idea that we will go back is almost unimaginable in any state in the country ... This is now decided as a nation. The argument is won.” —MSNBC host Rachel Maddow
“i look forward to exercising my American civil liberties... and getting fully, completely and legally married this year to my true love of over three years, Linda Wallem.” —Melissa Etheridge
“By overturning the Defense of Marriage Act, the Court recognized that discrimination towards any group holds us all back in our efforts to form a more perfect union. We are also encouraged that marriage equality may soon return to California. We applaud the hard work of the advocates who have fought so relentlessly for this day, and congratulate Edie Windsor on her historic victory.” —President and Secretary Clinton “Today makes clear why we have a constitution. We all deserve equal protection under the law.” —Roberta Kaplan, lawyer who argued DOMA case “I wanna go to Stonewall right now!” —Edie Windsor
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EQUALITY FLORIDA LAUNCHES WHAT TO DO “GET ENGAGED!” WHERE A STATEWIDE CALL TO ACTION ON MARRIAGE EQUALITY
Equality Florida, the largest civil rights organization dedicated to securing full equality for Florida’s lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community, has launched Get Engaged!, a statewide call to action with the goal of securing full marriage equality in the state of Florida. The campaign kicked off as the nation awaited the US Supreme Court rulings on marriage and as a growing majority of Florida voters now support the freedom to marry for gay couples. The heart of this campaign will be to engage Floridians in honest conversations about the harm inflicted on real families who are denied the freedom of marriage equality, including our friends, neighbors, family, politicians, celebrities and athletes; standing up and proclaiming their support for marriage equality. Similar public education campaigns in states across the country have moved public opinion dramatically and have been the prelude to victory. Get Engaged! will accelerate the conversation throughout the state of Florida. Freedom to Marry, the campaign to win marriage nationwide, is partnering with Equality Florida on the public education campaign. Together they have launched a website that includes valuable resources to spark conversations that change hearts and minds. Regardless of the recent victory with the Supreme Court ruling on marriage equality, Florida has a constitutional amendment that bans marriage for gay couples, denying LGBT Floridians the right to marry in their home state and to receive key federal protections for their families. Yet, attitudes have fundamentally shifted, with more and more Americans speaking out, “evolving” in their support for marriage equality. Florida has changed dramatically since 2008 when just over 60% of voters embedded marriage discrimination into the constitution. Today Florida is a leader in the South, with 54% of voters in support of marriage for same-sex couples. In fact, only 23% of Floridians now oppose gay couples having ALL of the rights and benefits of marriage. Despite these dramatic gains, polls indicate that 63% of voters don’t realize that the majority supports marriage equality. Many people have written off the South as the last place in which justice will eventually trickle down, but organizers say it is time for all who believe in equality and fairness to take a clear stand on the right side of history. While the fastest path to marriage equality in Florida is not yet certain, the goal of Get Engaged! is to win marriage equality, and all options are on the table, including new legal challenges and the possibility of going back to the ballot to overturn Florida’s discriminatory ban. No matter which strategy emerges, this campaign begins now with a clear call to action for Floridians to be visibly on the side of the freedom to marry for gay couples. Every state that has won marriage has done so by engaging in a public education effort based on honest conversations about “Why Marriage Matters?” Get Engaged! provides a platform for people to stand and publicly voice their support for marriage equality for all Americans. Get Engaged! is calling on elected leaders, opinion leaders, celebrities and straight allies in Florida to speak up. But most of all, Get Engaged! calls on the growing number of Floridians who support equal rights and the freedom to marry to act on their beliefs. www.ImEngaged.org • www.eqfl.org
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1- Nicki & Nadine, married on September 15, 2012/Stratford, CT 2- Yodalsy & Christie, married on October 21, 2012/Hollywood, FL 3- Kayla & Natalie, married on November 11, 2011/Los Angeles,CA 4- Tina and Angela, married on September 13, 2008/Conyers, GA 5- Karina Iglesias and Jacquie, married on November 11, 2011/Miramar, FL 6- Wanda and Marcella, married on April 9, 2011/Tampa, FL 7- Kristin and Val, married on July 17, 2013/Denver, CO 8- Liebra and Leticia, married on October 25, 2010/Pompano Beach, FL 9- Monique and Dawn right after signing their marriage certificate. 10- Christina and Debbie, married on January 27, 2013/Seattle, WA 11- Jessica and Amy, married on June 14, 2011/ Wellington, FL 12- Amanda and Jana, married on December 14, 2012/Port Orange, FL 13- Brooke and Rhiannon, married on May 31, 2013/Dearborn, MI 14- Cassandra & Mary Kay, married on April 23, 2012/Boston, MA. SHE - 16 - 7/13
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1- Sally and Stix, married on May 19, 2012/Charlotte, NC 2- Adeline & Johnna, married on June 15, 2013/Philadelphia, PA 3- Tamyra and Bree, married on October 8, 2010/Manchester, CT 4- Carrie and Tonya, married on June 16, 2013/Maryland 5- Justina and Melissa, married on June 4, 2011/Oviedo, FL 6- Lisa & Becca, married on March 26, 2007/Trenton, NJ 7- Kealey and Vicki, married on March 19, 2011/ Longwood, FL 8- Jen and Amy, married on December 20, 2012/Ft. Lauderdale, FL 9- Elizabeth & Jennifer, married on January 2, 2011/West Sacramento, CA 10- Jen and Amanda, married on September 3, 2010/Colfax, IA 11- Nikki and Mara, married in 2008/Miami, FL 12- Courtni and Jenni, married on July 13, 2011/Creston, OH 13- Claudia and Paulette, married on February 15, 2003/Homestead, FL 14- Shae and Aliya, married on April 20, 2010/Long Beach, CA. SHE - 18 - 7/13
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by denise warner
from the cover
photos by Rodney Bursiel edited by Kayleigh Hawes
it’s time to shine a spotlight on it, and with the song, the video and the help of the HRC, it just feels right to be doing it now”.
Things are heating up, ladies, and the reason is:Jen Foster! This talented musician has kicked off the fun at LA Pride, but she’s got more in store! We got a hot minute to catch up with Jen before she’s off again, working on all kinds of things that will make your summer spark!
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Jen, your summer lineup is about to explode! Let’s talk a little about that, but first, tell me how incredible it was to play the LA Pride kick-off party last month.
It was insanity! It was awesome! You know LA. The gay guys were out in their boas and chaps. There was a guy who was pretty much naked. So yeah, it’s always a little crazy. It was great. I played the kick-off party at a club called “Eleven” for the HRC, and I got to sing for the committee and a bunch of people who support their cause. It was intimate and special, and I got to meet so many great people. And now, you’ve partnered with the HRC to support and promote your new dance remix of the song “She” that’s soon to be released.
Yes, we’re finalizing the details now, and there’s such good energy between us. The idea too is that I’m making a video for the song, and we’ll cross promote it with the HRC because it’s just so timely, the topic of gay marriage and rights. And, you know, I’ve been out for quite some time, basically since day one, and now all of a sudden it’s “cool” to be gay. So, it’s time to shine a spotlight on it, and with the song, the video and the help of the HRC, it just feels right to be doing it now. In the earlier part of your career, did you ever consider working with a LGBT organizations, or was it just all about the music back then?
Well, yeah, kind of. When I was younger, it was all about being out on the road, making music. I just wanted to be writing and playing my music and connecting with people, and as I’ve been doing this longer and longer, I started think-
ing, “How do I get these messages out there? How can I reach a bigger audience?” And, it’s occurred to me over the past few years as I started connecting with people who share my same values that these partnerships just happen organically because of the similarities in our shared values. So, thisproject with the HRC was a no-brainer. Why not work with people I love and whose values I share? It’s just developed that way, and it allows all of us to reach a bigger audience together. And you’ve got music heavy hitter Eve Nelson onboard, who’s produced the remix of “She.”
Yeah, Eve is amazing! In fact, Eve just finished working with Chaka Khan on her latest record. She is literally in the studio with Paul McCartney and Carlos Santana, and she managed to find the time to do this with me. I was so lucky really. I met her through “Venice,” and we talked about doing this dance remix of “She.” She knew the song and loved the song. So again, things just developed very organically.
my vocals sound like a chipmunk. But, I got to thinking, “Wow, maybe this could be a dance remix someday.” So, I sent the video to Eve, and she totally got it. She told me she could work with it.She laid down the track, and I got into the studio and sang the vocals. And, it just happened. It felt really good from the start. And it’s interesting that it was inspired by a simple YouTube video! I think because of your fan base being so loyal and feeling so connected that they can share things with you, videos, letters and ideas. It’s only natural that some of your inspiration does come from them.
Oh yeah, my fans are the best. I don’t even like calling them “fans” because they’re so much more to me than that. They tell me what venues are in their areas; they send me things about opportunities for gigs, TV spots, and they do share ideas and thoughts with me, especially with social media being what it is today. I can engage with them so easily now. So, through them and through just living my life and connecting with people, I get inspired all the time to do what I do.
This song was released a while ago, and it’s such a celebration of love and freedom. So many people know it and have used it for their weddings. What made you think to do a dance remix of it?
Social media is just incredible now. God bless the youth!
The way it came together was kind of funny. I’ve had some fans that have written to me and said, “I wish there was a dance mix of this song,” and like you said, the song has been out for a while, being used at commitment ceremonies and weddings. But, I was getting a lot of mail about doing something else with it. So, I saw this YouTube video where someone literally just sped up the song–and this girl lip synched to it at high speed [laughs], which made
Yeah, I know, right? The youth are the ones driving it. It’s so challenging to keep up with it when you’re like me from the old school where I listened to vinyls growing up! But, look what it’s done for independent artists. It’s a whole new world, and it’s such a good thing. We can now spread the word about our music without a major label backing us. We can do it ourselves. We have websites, and Kickstarter and crowd funding platforms. There are so many new op-
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tions to help us make a living doing something we love. you mentioned doing a video along with the release of “She.” How much input will you have in creating that?
This particular video, I have a feeling, will be more of a collective collaboration because we’re actually engaging with the HRC, the NoH8 campaign and several entities to make this happen. But, the idea is to bring as many of these groups and organizations that share our values of equal rights, love and tolerance into the fold to help spread the message–because it really is about the message, not just the song. That’s the reason I care so much about getting it out there–because I believe in what it says. I believe in the message and what it stands for. And you know what? I have to say a big “Thank you” to She Magazine because Tina was onboard from the beginning. She did a piece on the first version of “She” before anyone even knew about it. Here we are all this time later, and because of that little seed of press, we were able to grow and become this really big project that’s so timely right now. It’s summer. It’s Pride time, and as it rolls on, the release of the song and
the video is just going to be a perfect culmination of the season.
Yeah, I’m so excited! We’ve got such great support with the HRC, NoH8, Wolfe Video, She, MyLesbianRadio and a bunch of LGBT press outlets. They’ve just been so good to us, giving us an opportunity to talk about what we’re doing, and I can’t tell you how happy that makes me. I just love you guys! you also recently became involved with Otessa Ghada’s “Go Orange” campaign with your song “This Is Me” being the theme to Otessa’s TAPESTRY project?
Yes! It’s all happening! I’ve been working with Otessa, sending her music, and the hope is that more songs get woven into her web series “Orange Juice in Bishop’s Garden,” which is becoming really big and deals with all kinds of youth and teen-oriented issues like bullying, coming out and family problems. I’m really looking forward to it and would love to write some original songs for it too. I heard that Otessa will be directing and producing your video for “This Is Me.” Can you tell us a little about what to expect with that?
Yeah, it’s another thing we’re working on. I’m
hoping to use something out of this inspiration from a recent gig. I was playing a really small, intimate house party, and we were all sitting around. It was such an easy, open atmosphere, and I asked if anyone would share his or her coming out experiences. It was just amazing. There were some tears, some laughs, and it all created such a bond like an AA meeting. But, [laughs] it was more of a GAYGAY meeting! It just felt really special, and I thought that if we could film this kind of thing with all the different experiences to show the good and the bad–because, honestly Denise, it blows my mind that in this day and age there are still struggles with just being yourself. We’ve made big strides but there are still issues with ignorance, tolerance, religion and fear. The fact that you can create a place where people feel comfortable and secure enough to be able to talk about their feelings is a true testament to you, Jen, and the more research I did on the Otessa TAPESTRY project, the more I get the feeling that’s the common factor: It’s a safe zone for younger people to talk, share and just BE who they are. So, it seems like another project that’s
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a perfect partnership.
Yeah, exactly! It’s about just that–young people connecting with each other, being open and finding a place where no one is telling them “how to be” or “how it was.” They can find their own way in a like-minded environment. between all this and even playing a Sweet Travel vacation gig in the midst of it, you’re out on tour in August and September! How are you managing, girl?
Oh, I’ve learned when things get this hectic that taking care of myself becomes a priority, eating right, trying to get enough sleep. It’s a whole different ballgame when you get older! When you’re younger, you’re up late in smoky clubs, drinking, eating bad food, but as I get older, I find I feel better if I just take care of myself a little more and make some better choices so I can stay alert and focused. Don’t get me wrong. It’s a constant effort. I still want a big juicy burger every now and then! But the pay off is I’m better prepared, and I feel better because I’m not young anymore! [Laughs] I’ve worked a long time, and it’s a slow build up, over time, by word of mouth, with social media and without the help of a major label. So, it’s a lot of work, and I have to keep myself on track. But, you’re doing it. You’re out there doing your thing. It’s all clicking and jiving for you, and things are really moving along, aren’t they?
Yeah, It’s amazing how we get to connect with people all over the world now because of the internet, digital media and outlets like this (She Magazine) after everything being so localized just a few years ago. I got a letter from a girl in Afghanistan whose girlfriend sent her my CD, and she said she listens to it every morning in her tent to get herself going everyday. It just blows me away. It never gets old. I’m so grateful. I wouldn’t be able to do this without these people who care, and I’m so thankful that I get to do what I love because of them. I love that it’s all happening now, especially with the marriage equality and civil rights being in the spotlight. Everyone is coming together, bringing his or her stuff to the table, and you’re inspiring that in people with these upcoming projects and with your music.
Thank you! It’s true. Everyone is sharing what they have, their gifts and talent, and I love the ideas and their creativity. We all have our little gifts that we’re contributing to try and do something special here. I’m just so grateful to have a gift to contribute at all really. www.jenfoster.com
It’s about...young people connecting with each other, being open and finding a place where no one is telling them ‘how to be’ or ‘how it was.’”
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see more photos at www.shemag.com / by verónica espinal i live in: Miami Beach, FL. relationsip status: Single. My occupation: Exotic car rentals, actress & model. Dream Girl: Beautiful, with good teeth, nice legs, hard-working,
down-to-earth and faithful. Dream Job: A nonprofit organization for youth on drugs. My mother thinks I: Am a go-getter and a good girl. Turn-ons: Working as a team with others, people helping
each other. Turn-offs: Pretentious people and violence. My Best Quality: I am very friendly, very honest and easy-
going. my pet: Molli, my Chihuaha. I am sure he is gay or transgender.
He is very feminine! the last book i read: Lo Oculto. I have a weakness for: Someone crying. I like to wear: Colorful clothes and a lot of white. If you could have one super power, what would it be and why?: I would like to be invisible to go inside the Vati-
can to find out their secrets and inside our government offices to find out what they are not telling us about Area 51. my favorite flower: Blue/Black rose i first kissed a girl at the age of?: 23 What breakfast cereal best describes you?: Frosted Flakes. If my life were made into a movie, my part will be played by: Nicole Kidman. my greatest accomplishment: Being in the place I am
now, personally and professionally, and always being able to move forward in life. my favorite quote: “Hacer el bien sin mirar a quién” (Do good to others without caring who it is.) If I could have one wish granted, I would wish:
For no more problems for immigrants and no more war in South America. Celebrity’s butt I would most like to squeeze: P!nk. The cartoon character I am most like: Angelica Pickles from The Rugrats. The strangest place I’ve ever been naked: Outside a cemetery. I just won a million dollars. The FIRST thing I am going to buy is: A home to help others. My favorite TV show: Ghost Hunters French Fries, French Vanilla, French Toast or French Manicure?: French Fries. My most memorable date: At the beach roller skating with
soneone special. My coming out was: A big relief, perfect timing. At first it was
hard with my family and some friends, but it got better. If you were to become an activist in the LGBT community, which organization would you choose and why: The Switchboard of Miami’s LGBT Helpline, because
I love helping others. I think the LGBT community needs: To trust ourselves
and be proud of who we are.
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feature son of government decree, in visible and public ways.” “By its great reach DOMA touches many aspects of married life from the mundane to the profound,” he added. Keep In Mind: • If you live in a state that discriminates against married samesex couples, the Supreme Court decision does not mean that your state must respect your marriage or that you will be eligible for all marriage-based federal benefits. • The ruling applies only to the federal government. It does not change discriminatory state laws excluding same-sex couples from state-conferred marriage rights. • The ruling will not be effective until 25 days from the decision. Even when effective it may take some time to change forms, implement procedures, train personnel, and efficiently incorporate same-sex couples into the spousal-based system. • Until same-sex couples can marry in every state in the nation, there will be uncertainty about the extent to which same-sex spouses will receive federal marital-based protections nationwide. For federal programs that assess marital status based
The Supreme Court handed down two remarkable rulings last month bolstering same-sex marriage, by ruling section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional, and allowing a lower court ruling to stand that struck down California’s Proposition 8 ballot initiative, which defines marriage as between one man and one woman. As more information develops on taxes, health insurance, federal benefits and immigration to name a few, here are some points you should keep in mind.
About the DOMA Ruling In the first decision, the court ruled that a portion of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which denies federal benefits to same-sex couples, is unconstitutional. Justice Anthony Kennedy wrote the opinion for the court striking down section 3 of DOMA in a 5-4 decision. “DOMA violates basic due process and equal protection principles applicable to the federal government,” Kennedy said. “Under DOMA same-sex married couples have their lives burdened, by rea-
on the law of a state that does not respect marriages of samesex couples, those state laws will likely pose obstacles for legally married couples and surviving spouses in accessing federal protections and responsibilities. • Before making a decision, it is essential that you consult an attorney for individualized legal advice. This is particularly important for people who are on certain public benefits, as getting married may jeopardize your eligibility without providing you the full measure of protections other married couples enjoy. In addition, couples who travel to another place to marry and then return to live in a state that does not respect their marriage may be unfairly unable to obtain a divorce, which can lead to serious negative legal and financial consequences.
About the Prop 8 Ruling The Supreme Court declined to rule on the constitutionality of California’s Proposition 8 that bans gay marriage, and instead dismissed the case on procedural grounds. The court held that sup-
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porters of the ballot initiative—who stepped in to defend Prop 8 when California officials refused to do so—did not have the legal right to be in court. The ruling leaves the lower-court decision that struck down the law in place. Chief Justice John Roberts writing for 5-4 said decision, “We have never before upheld the standing of a private party to defend the constitutionality of a state statute when state officials have chosen not to. We decline to do so for the first time here. Because petitioners have not satisfied their burden to demonstrate standing to appeal the judgment of the District Court, the Ninth Circuit was without jurisdiction to consider the appeal.” Keep In Mind: • The Supreme Court’s decision alone doesn’t legalize gay marriage, or speak to the validity of gay marriage bans. It only means that the lower court decision overturning Prop 8 still stands. • The Supreme Court’s ruling is considered finalized after 25 days. While California’s Attorney General has stated that she will urge the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals to act as soon as possible, the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals said it will wait 25 days to lift its stay. The court does have the option to lift the stay before then. If the court waits, it’s likely that same-sex marriages may not resume until about a month from now. It is also possible that the 9th Circuit Court could keep the stay in place, barring
“…it’s a great day in our state for equal protection under law for all people. And you know, I look at the issue from a number of perspectives, including the fact that we have 50,000 children in California who are the children of those same-sex couples, and those children are looking up at their parents and us as the leaders of their community, and saying why can’t my parents and their marriage be considered as legitimate under the law, as those of my classmates? And what we know as of today is that very soon in California we’re going to be able to look down at those children and say, yes, your parents are equal to any other parents and we will sanctify and we will recognize them as a married couple under the law with all the rights that come with that.” —Attorney general kamala harris,, california
gay marriages beyond the 25-day period, if Prop 8 proponents ask for a rehearing on their appeal. • There is a possibility that opponents of Prop 8 could qualify to attempt an appeal. It’s also possible, though unlikely, that the State of California, the potential appellant with true standing, could choose to appeal the district court ruling overturning Prop 8.
What the DOMA decision means for Florida and states where gay marriage is not legal “In states that currently recognize
same-sex marriages, the benefits that are afforded to same-sex couples are vast: they include inheritance, tax benefits, medical decision making authority, adoption and foster parenting, immigration benefits, and a whole host of other rights. In states like Florida, same-sex couples will now be able to enjoy some of those federal benefits like immigration and some federal tax benefits, but many state-based benefits will continue to be denied.” “One important exception pertains to immigration. Bi-national same-sex couples will be treated as married so long as they were legally wed in a country or state with marriage equality. This means that Floridians with non-citizen spouses will be able to sponsor them for green cards, so long as they have been legally wed in another jurisdiction.” —Mark Daley, The National Gay & Lesbian Task Force
THE Steps that need to be taken to make gay marriage legal in Florida “There are two possible routes: The first is through a ballot measure amending Florida’s constitution to allow same-sex marriage. The second is through a federal court ruling finding the Florida state constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage in conflict with the federal constitution. Because Florida’s constitution requires a 60% majority of voters to approve SHE - 27 - 07/13
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an amendment, a successful ballot measure to amend the Florida constitution to allow same-sex marriage is difficult in the near future. By the same token, because many of the courts with jurisdiction over Florida are packed with conservative judges, it is a stretch to expect that a court case originating in Florida would result in a ruling making same-sex marriage legal here.” “The best bet to make same-sex marriage legal in Florida would be a court case originating in a state under the jurisdiction of more favorable courts that makes it up to the Supreme Court, which would then have to issue a ruling making same-sex marriage legal in all 50 states (and not just Florida). And as a matter of fact, there is litigation pending in other states, which has the potential to do just that a few years down the road. Another possible route is to have a case originate in South Florida (tried before a more favorable court in South Florida) that makes it to the Florida Supreme Court or US Supreme Court resulting in a ruling that overturns the ban at the state or national level.” “In the meantime, we should continue to educate the public in Florida about who we are as LGBT people to create a more favorable political environment so that a few years down the road, if court cases in other states don’t pan out the way we’d like, we can hopefully bring together a 60% majority of voters to approve a ballot measure amending Florida’s constitution to allow same-sex marriage.” —Devin Cordero, SAVE Dade To learn more about what you can do to achieve full equality for the LGBT Community here are just a few places where you can get involved: Equality Florida— Eqfl.org Get Engaged— ImEngaged.org National Gay and Lesbian Task Force — Thetaskforce.org Save Dade — Savedade.org Freedom to Marry — Freedomtomarry.org Human Rights Campaign — HRC.org National Center for Lesbian Rights — NCLR.org Lambda Legal — Lambdalegal.org American Civil Liberties Union — ACLU.org Doma Project—Domaproject.org
“This ruling is a victory for couples who have long fought for equal treatment under the law; for children whose parents’ marriages will now be recognized, rightly, as legitimate; for families that, at long last, will get the respect and protection they deserve; and for friends and supporters who have wanted nothing more than to see their loved ones treated fairly and have worked hard to persuade their nation to change for the better,” —president obama
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noticias Joven ecuatoriana, internada a la fuerza por su familia para “curar” su lesbianismo Hace unos días salió a la luz la historia de Zulema Constante, una joven ecuatoriana de 22 años que fue internada contra su voluntad, y por su propia familia, en un centro para “curar” su lesbianismo. Allí sufrió malos tratos físicos y psicológicos, de los que afortunadamente ha podido escapar. Por desgracia, su historia no es única en Ecuador. El 25 de marzo Zulema, estudiante de Psicología a punto de graduarse, contaba a sus padres que era lesbiana y que tenía una novia, Cinthya Rodríguez, de 21 años. Zulema pensó que su familia lo aceptaría de buen grado, pero no fue así. El rechazo fue inmediato. De nada sirvió que una psicóloga clínica les explicara que la homosexualidad no es una enfermedad y que debían trabajar en aceptarla. A raíz de aquello Zulema abandonó el hogar familiar para irse a vivir con su novia. El 17 de mayo, sin embargo, aceptó una invitación de su familia a almorzar “para arreglar las cosas”. Ese día Zulema era secuestrada. “Salía de mi trabajo y dos hombres me tomaron a la fuerza para meterme a un carro, mi papá observaba y repetía: todo es por tu bien mijita”, cuenta la propia Zulema, que permaneció esposada durante las varias horas que duró el viaje a la denominada Co-
munidad Terapéutica Femenina Esperanza, en la localidad de Tena (provincia de Napo). Allí permaneció 21 días durante los que sufrió maltrato físico y psicológico.
Afortunadamente su novia Cinthya, amigos de la pareja y la Asociación Lésbica Mujer & Mujer se movilizaron y divulgaron su desaparición, hasta el punto de que su familia se comprometió a demostrar que Zulema estaba bien. Ya libre, Zulema dio a conocer lo sucedido en rueda de prensa junto a su abogada, Silvia Buendía. La Comunidad Terapéutica Femenina Esperanza ha sido ya clausurada, según ha informado Lía Burbano, presidenta de la Asociación Mujer & Mujer. Pero son numerosas las “clínicas” de este tipo que parecen seguir abiertas en Ecuador.
Colombia habilitó el “contrato solemne”, un derecho con pocas garantías A partir del 20 de Junio las parejas del mismo sexo de Colombia pueden acudir a las notarías y juzgados para formalizar sus uniones a través de un “contrato solemne”. Se trata de un polémico derecho que ha sido criticado por la propia comunidad gay.
El contrato solemne fue creado por notarios en virtud de un fallo de la Corte Constitucional de julio de 2011, donde se empleaba el término de “solemne” ante una demanda de la comunidad gay. Mediante
ese fallo la Corte dejó en manos del Congreso la decisión final de legislar sobre los matrimonios de parejas del mismo sexo antes de junio de 2013. Sin embargo, la comunidad LGBTI de Colombia no está satisfecha con este nuevo instrumento. El colectivo Colombia Diversa está promoviendo que se evite el uso del contrato solemne y se siga utilizando el de las uniones de hecho que rigen también para los heterosexuales y que están amparadas en distintas leyes. Marcela Sánchez, representante de la organización, afirmó a Associated Press: “Yo no sé quién lo va a usar (el nuevo contrato), primero porque le tengo miedo a los riesgos (legales) y segundo por dignidad, nosotros no estamos luchando por un contratico sino por el derecho pleno al matrimonio”.
El público gay es importante para Mónica Naranjo y Marta Sánchez Las cantantes españolas Mónica Naranjo y Marta Sánchez platicaron con la prensa sobre su tour “Ídolos”, el que presentaron el 28 de Junio en el Palacio de los Deportes. Debido a que el concierto se llevó a cabo un día antes de la Marcha del Orgullo LGBTTTI en el Distrito Federal, el portal de Internet, anodis.com, les preguntó que representa para ellas la comunidad LGBT, a lo que Marta Sánchez expresó: “Es un público demasiado importante para las dos, es de lo más fiel, siempre nos ha apoyado y haciendo que nuestra carrera sea de lo mejor”. En cuanto a la marcha gay dijo que “es un día de identificación e igualdad. Se debe manejar desde la tolerancia y respeto para los que somos gays, también me incluyó”, y expresó que aparte de ser una fiesta, “es un momento de reivindicación de los derechos, de la igualdad, eso es lo que realmente significa el día del orgullo gay, el día de la reivindicación por la igualdad”. Las próximas presentaciones de la gira “Ídolos” serán el 29 de agosto en Guadalajara, Ensenada el 31 de agosto y el primero de septiembre en Monterrey.
Republicanos seguirán luchando contra el matrimonio igualitario El senador de San Diego, Joel Anderson, advirtió que los legisladores republicanos mantendrán una batalla contra los matrimonios entre personas del mismo sexo luego de que la Suprema Corte restaurara los matrimonios igualitario en California el pasado 26 de junio. La bancada demócrata en el estado, en contraste, tuvo un flujo constante de declaraciones. Han alabado la decisión de la corte hasta ahora el presiente de la Asamblea o cámara baja de California, John Pérez, abiertamente homosexual; el senador Mark Leno, el vicegobernador estatal, Gavin Newsom, quien fue en San Francisco el primer alcalde que permitió los matrimonios gay en el país en 2004. Otra de las escasas reacciones republicanas fue la del senador Jim Nielsen. visitanos en internet, www.shemag.com
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El mes de Junio vino y se fue como un recién nacido: con la torta bajo el brazo. Además de celebrar el orgullo gay, voy a citar algunas fechas importantes: El 25 de Junio del 1978 fue cuando la bandera gay, diseñada por Gilbert Baker originalmente con ocho colores, hizo su debut en el pride de San Franciso. El 26 de Junio del 2013 ahora se ha convertido en la fecha cuando celebramos las decisiones de la Corte Suprema al aprobar derechos federales a las parejas del mismo sexo y el declara inconstitucional la previa ley de Defensa del Matrimonio. El 28 de Junio del 1969 se conmemora el aniversario de los disturbios en el Stonewall Inn de Nueva York, convirtiéndose en el Día Internacional del Orgullo Gay. Por añadidura diré que ese mismo día (28 de Junio del 2013), como Latina, celebramos la aprobación de la reforma migratoria por parte del Senado. Sé que una cosa no tiene nada que ver con otra, pero la comparación es válida ya que son dos comunidades buscando el reconocimiento de ciertos derechos y beneficios en este país. El 29 de Junio, a sólo 3 días después de las decisiones las parejas ya se pueden casar en California. Así lo hicieron Kristin Perry y Sandra Stier, la pareja de mujeres que entabló la demanda hacia la Proposición 8 de California y finalmente marcó la pauta para miles de parejas en ese estado. Los portales de Internet se inundaron dando la noticia; hubieron celebraciones en casi todos los estados; cientos de declara-
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ciones a favor, hasta que llegaron los opositores (en su inmensa mayoría Republicanos) diciendo que buscarían la forma de invalidar las decisiones de la Corte Suprema. En las estaciones de radio, aunque hubo mucho apoyo, no faltaban quienes hacían un llamado a la “moral” y a la religión para manifestarse en contra. “¿Y por qué tanta celebración?”, preguntaban algunos. La esperanza es que esa decisión marque la pauta para los otros 36 estados donde existe algún tipo de legislación que impide el matrimonio gay y los derechos federales no son reconocidos. Ese es el caso de la Florida, donde la organización Equal Marriage Florida ya ha empezado a reunir firmas con el propósito de introducir el matrimonio igualitario en la boleta del 2014 y dejar que sean los votantes quienes decidan. Uno de los argumentos que siempre sale a flote en cualquier panel de discusión sobre este tema, es la religión y el cómo el matrimonio gay deshace la familia. Tampoco puede faltar el argumento de que el matrimonio es entre hombre y mujer con el sólo propósito de procrear. ¿Y en qué nivel pondremos a las parejas de mujer y hombre que no pueden biológicamente procrear? ¿Serán acaso también personas que no deben tener ningún tipo de derechos porque no pueden llenar las expectativas de la definición de familia? ¿Y qué de los padres y madres solteras? Tal parece que estas personas se olvidan que en este país existe la separación entre iglesia y estado. ¿Quién está hablando de exigirles a
las iglesias que lleven a cabo los matrimonios gay? Acá lo único que pedimos son derechos federales para proteger a la persona amada. En las cortes no se exigen o exponen argumentos morales, sino legales. Pero, ¿qué es la moral? Eso depende de cada individuo. Hay para quienes el matrimonio civil de una pareja de hombres o mujeres que tienen años de convivir—que se respetan, son buenos seres humanos, trabajadores— puede ser “inmoral”. A mí, me resulta más “inmoral” un hombre o una mujer, con hijos, que aparenta ser “heterosexual” y mantiene una doble vida para satisfacer las exigencias de su familia o la sociedad misma. A mí, me parece mucho más “inmoral” y depravado aquel padre que abusa de su hija; aquel viejo que pretende ser un caballero y abusa de un niño; aquel maestro/a que abusa de su alumno/a; y definitivamente mucho más inmoral, aquel sacerdote que es capaz de juzgar—de forma sublime y con golpes de pecho—la conducta de sus fieles pero es capaz de abusar de un niño/a. Tal parece que el concepto de la moral para algunos es bastante ambiguo; todo depende con el ojo que se mire. Nada, como dice la canción: “Caminante no hay camino, se hace camino al andar”. Por ahora, seguiremos celebrando y seguiremos siendo testigos de las próximas fechas que marcan los logros que obtenemos, esos logros que años atrás hombres y mujeres gay soñaron tener.
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Bowl-a-thon during White Party • November, 2009. The Princess Affair by Nell Stark Nell Stark, one-half of the author duo responsible for the everafter series, gives us a delightful Cinderella story with The Princess Affair. Kerry Donovan, an Irish-American Rhodes scholar meets the black sheep of the royal family, Princess “Sassy” Sasha at a downtown London club. Sparks fly, of course, despite class and social differences, but you can smell the happy ending a mile away in this charming and smart lesbian take on a modern day fairy tale. If you love British romantic comedies, this is a perfect summer read.
Orphan Maker by D. Jordan Redhawk After the devastating plague known as “Orphan Maker” wiped out entire populations, Marissa Loomis has her hands full taking care of her brothers and sisters in their dilapidated cabin in Lindsay Crossing. When circumstances force her to take in Gwen, a newcomer from the devastated city, she stoically does her duty. Even though Gwen is a jaded city survivor and Marissa is a stoic leader, feelings develop between the very different women, against a background of past trauma and present deprivations. Orphan Maker is chilling, darkly romantic, and psychologically riveting.
The Selected Letters of Willa Cather edited by Andrew Jewell and Janis Stout The revered American author of My Antonia and O Pioneers!, Cather gives us an intimate glimpse of her views on politics, her love of women, and her literary friendships with luminaries such as Robert Frost and Sarah Orne Jewette, among others, in this collection of 566 letters. Wanting to be judged on her work alone, Cather forbade the publication of her letters, but now, sixty-five years after her death, her wit, humor, intelligence, and passion are all on display for the first time. SHE - 34 - 07/13
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scopes AQUARIUS JAN 21 - FEB 19
leo July 23 - aug 22
pisces feb 20 - mar 20 Reaffirm your commitment to your long term goals. Be flexible about how you get there from here. Avoid melodrama and opt for romantic-comedy-adventures instead. Try to express yourself with less intensity. Enjoy some summer fun in the sun with all of your loved ones. Be indulgent but watch you budget and your health. Have faith in yourself and your dreams of your future.
virgo aug 23 - sept 23
aries mar 21 - apr 20
libra sept 24 - oct 23
taurus apr 21 - may 21
scorpio oct 24 - nov 22
gemini may 22 - june 21
sagittarius nov 23 - dec 21
cancer June 22 - july 22
capricorn dec 22 - jan 20
Don’t allow the unsettling energies swirling around to undermine your financial and emotional security by over-reacting to circumstances that are beyond your control. The only thing you have any control over is your own reactions and consequent actions. Use this time to learn new skills and strategies in order to achieve your long-term goals. Use your energy on self-improvement instead.
Family and friends compete for attention with your career. You just want to be left alone for a minute and be free to do what you want to do. Be creative about getting the job and chores done quickly, but don’t cut corners. Take advantage of opportunities to enjoy fun in the sun and romantic-comedy-adventures, but leave the plastic home.
You want to make positive changes in all areas of your life, yet you feel confused and frustrated by having to deal with issues you thought were already resolved. Stay on target, especially when you feel insecure. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and speak your mind. Ask for what you need. Then, be patient or you’ll have to add disappointed to the list.
You’re more confused than ever about your current situation and strategies for achieving your goals. Use this time to re-energize yourself and recruit allies to your cause. Your career and finances need more of your attention but don’t ignore the rest of your life. Strive for balance in more than your checkbook. Make a realistic cash flow prediction and budget accordingly.
You get to reinvent yourself into whom actually want to be. Transformation takes real commitment. Have faith and strong desire for positive changes that will give you a better quality life to successfully achieve it. Work around stress, financial worries, and the random stuff with which the Universe will test you. You can handle it all and have a good time doing it.
Self-reflection will lead to self-actualization. This allows you to own your part in any power struggles. You still have financial, familial, and career responsibilities and restrictions. The Universe will present you with lots of social opportunities for you to network yourself, your skills, and your services. Take any and all opportunities to have fun. Go out and play.
You need to give yourself permission to relax and go with the flow the Universe is creating. Your goals haven’t changed very much, but the means for achieving them has changed considerably. Your future is assured. Anything and everything is possible. Be open to it all. By month’s end you’ll be moving and shaking again, so relax and recharge while you can.
You’ve got a trio of planets gifting you with a rosy vision of your future, the logic to create a strategy to turn the dream into reality, and the faith to keep you motivated and on track. Career options come up unexpectedly, but nothing will begin until after the 20th. Keep your financial responsibilities, your emotional needs, and your loved one’s needs and wants in proper balance.
Don’t allow self-doubt to undermine your determination to reach your stated goals. Instead, cultivate patience. Reckless behavior will not serve you at all. The planets are creating confusion where there was once clarity. Spend your time fine-tuning the grand plan and recharging yourself, so when the time is right you’ll be ready to take full advantage of the shift.
Use caution when the planets stir up emotions around sensitive issues like joint finances, emotional expectations and disappointments, and unexpected circumstances that must be dealt with. Ensure that what you said and what is heard is actually what you meant. Really listen to the response, not just wait to talk again. Cooperation and teamwork are called for in order to ensure you achieve mutual benefit.
Your relationships are highlighted this month. Be open and honest with the significant others in your life. Seek compromise to create a ‘win-win’ for all concerned. Don’t lock yourself into a position that is hard to defend and hold, causing you to lose both the battle and the war. What’s important is getting your needs met.
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