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The month of April has been designated Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM) in the United States. The goal of SAAM is to raise public awareness about sexual violence and to educate communities and individuals on how to prevent sexual vio-

lence. The Shelter Home offers a powerful prevention and recognition curriculum titled “Darkness to Light: Stewards of Children” to groups desiring to have an impact on the prevention of sexual abuse of children. The “Choose Re-

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spect” presentation is offered for middle and high school age young people. If you are interested in hearing more about how YOU can make a difference, contact Lily Moody or Lisa Triplett at (828) 7580888 or email at

Board of Directors Nancy Martin Chair Morris Reaves Vice-Chair Chris Cole Secretary Margaret Cannon Treasurer Kim Britt Tom Deighton Debra Eller Laura Gentry Lida Martinat Terri Neiderhammer Shell Pearce Rose Reighard Dr. Jane Roberts Nancy Rogers Sandra Williams Shelter Home Phone Numbers: Main Number: (828) 758-0888 Crisis Line: (828) 758-7088 24 hours a day

Monday April 16, 2012 from 12:30pm -4:00pm J. E. Broyhill Civic Center 1913 Hickory Boulevard Southeast Hudson, NC 28638-2672 (828) 726-2407

The public is cordially invited to attend this FREE presentation of her story “Scared Silent”.

Mildred Muhammad, the former wife of convicted DC sniper John Muhammad, breaks her silence about the domestic violence she suffered in their marriage and the tragic events that occurred after their divorce, which led up to the October 2002 sniper killings in DC. Mildred witnessed firsthand John's bizarre

behavior after he returned from the Gulf War, but no one-including her family, friends, and local police--took her warnings seriously. Even when John kidnapped their three children for eighteen months, changed their identities and lived with them on the run in Antigua, or when he threatened to kill Mildred-- her pleas for help went unanswered and she was forced to live undercover for eight months in a women's shelter. Everyone knew John as a charming and intelligent man. No one could fathom that he posed a serious threat to Mildred, let alone the 11 innocent victims he and his 15-year-old accom-

plice, Lee Malvo, would later kill to carry out John's heinous plot to get custody of his and Mildred's children... permanently. What began as a domestic case eventually victimized millions. It has taken years for Mildred and her children to heal from the fear and psychological trauma they endured. Mildred shares her personal story to show how domestic violence devastates entire families, including the children, and hopes that what she reveals will give new insight on this national social ill.



The Shelter Home Board and staff are grateful to Z.Smith Reynolds for their support of this program!

Child Advocate Program Lori Jarvis is the new Child Advocate for The Shelter Home thanks to a grant from the Z. Smith Reynolds Foundation. We are so excited to bring this program back to offer child-focused advocacy to our clients. Lori is originally from Caldwell County and is a graduate of

South Caldwell High School. She is a graduate of UNC Chapel Hill with a BA in earl childhood education. Lori taught in the public school system, later was a teacher and director of a Christian School in Cleveland, North Carolina. Lori and her husband, Mack moved back to Hudson last year as Mack accepted

the position of Pastor with Hudson First Baptist. We look forward to being able to better serve the women and children at the Shelter Home and in our community, with this new service. Lori can be reached at (828) 758-0888 or by email

Of all the gifts to the human race, what is sweeter than a child?

What Happens to Your Donations? Ever wonder what happens to your donations after you drop them off at The Shelter Home Of Caldwell County?

Here is a brief break down. Donations are first processed and sorted by type and use. All clothing items are sorted by size and stored in our clothing closet. Our ladies and children then “shop� the clothing closet free of charge. Many of our clients come in with nothing. So all the clothing they will have will come from this closet supported by your generosity. Household items such as furniture, dishes, pictures etc. are sorted and stored in one of our buildings until we have a client move out. When our clients move out, we try to help them furnish their apartment or home. We try to meet their every need from dishes to towels, furniture, washer/dryer to beds sheets This helps give them a new start to a better life. Starting over with nothing is a real hardship. THANKS to our community, our clients have your help in taking that next step toward a safer life for themselves and their children.







Sweet T’s On Main

Sweet T’s On Main was Hiring women from The Shelter Home even before its doors were opened.

Coffee Creamer Sugar CANNED FOOD Diapers Size 3, 4 and 5 Twin vinyl mattress covers Vinyl pillow covers New bed pillows and twin sheet sets

Charlie’s Lunch Charile's Lunchboxes, along with Lee Ann Luman, Winifred Thurkill, and Margaret Ann Luman donated 30 lunchboxes filled with goodies to The Shelter Home. Thank you, Ladies.


Long before Sweet T’s On Main even opened its door, Its owner Ms. Terry Coleman was forming a bond with the women of The Shelter Home. During the remodeling process Terry hired her first Shelter Home Employee Alexis Lawson. Alexis was referred to Terry by another business owner. Terry said Alexis was a very motivated woman, with a strong desire to work. Since opening its doors 3 1/2 months ago, Terry has hired 3 more women from The Shelter Home of Caldwell County. When asked “If she would recommend other businesses to hire women from The Shelter Home?” Terry said “Without hesitation, yes I would.” Terry shared that her reasons for opening Sweet T’s was because she wanted to stay here in Caldwell County, and in order to do that she had to make her own way, so she opened her restaurant. She believes as a community we have to help each other and for that reason she supports other local businesses and nonprofits. Thank you, Terry, for having faith in our clients. We encourage others to follow your lead. If you have questions contact, Lisa Triplett at 828-758-0888 for information.

Shelter Home Wish List Household Items Paper Towels Toilet Paper Paper Plates Bleach Kleenex Laundry Baskets Dryer Sheets Cleaning products Trash Bags Hand Soap Brooms and Mops Towels


Gift Cards: Gasoline, Wal -Mart, Grocery Stores Personal Items Hair Spray Hairbrushes Shaving Cream Deodorant New Bras Bedroom Slippers Ladies and Children’s PJs Miscellaneous Items Alarm Clocks Small Kitchen Appliances

Charlie's Lunch is a Christian, evangelical ministry aimed at ministering to the world's neediest children and their f a m i l i e s . S e e or charlies-lunch/ for more information.

On behalf of our clients, we accept gently used clothing, furniture, dishes and appliances. Our greatest wish for the Wish List is donated time from volunteers. If you are interested in becoming a part of the mission and work that is the Shelter Home of Caldwell County, contact Hope Bumgarner at (828) 758-0888


Flowers in Life’s Garden


The other day I overheard a conversation between a client and a staff member. That staff member was telling the client how proud she was of her for how she had grown since coming to the shelter. After hearing this I was thinking about flowers and how our ladies are like flowers in life's garden. Our ladies come in as straggly little seeds. They , like flow-

ers need to be tended. We plant them with care and we shower them with love. Before long you start to see them grow. Then we fertilize them with knowledge and empower them to grow stronger. Then, we teach them to pull the weeds around them and look for their own path. Sometimes this is a difficult process, as it often is a total life change. Next thing you

know you have this strong beautiful flower that has the strength to endure the hardships of life . You then have a woman who can make it on her own and continues to bloom. -by Hope Bumgarner

Renovation and Expansion Plans have been finalized and the project is soon to be underway. A renovation and expansion capital project will renew the existing 4.500 square foot structure, and will add 5,000 square feet of new construction to double the size of the

facility and double the resident capacity. We will grow from a 21 bed facility to a 40 bed facility. The growth, however, is in more than space. The programs will also grow to help meet the needs of families or individuals who are rebuilding as

they recover from the chaos of domestic violence or sexual abuse and become survivors – not victims. Your continued support is still needed. If you’d like the opportunity to help, use the pledge card below. Thank You!

Shelter Home of Caldwell County P.O. Box 426

I pledge to give:_____ $5,000 My pledge is

Pledge Card _____$2,500 _____ $1,000 _____$500 _____$100 or Other $_______

_____ a one time donation _____ Monthly _______Quarterly ______ Annual pledge of support for this Mission.

I would like to help victims of domestic violence and sexual assault find a safe, satisfying, and fulfilling life. I also want to support school and community programs which help prevent such violence from happening.

I have enclosed my donation of $______

Pledge is designated for: Shelter Operations____ Capital Project_____

Name: Address: Phone: E-mail:

This pledge is in honor of :__________________________________ Mail notification to:________________________________________ ________________________________________

___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________

The Shelter Home of Caldwell County, Inc. is a designated 501(c)3 private non-profit since 1978

Proud to be sponsored by the United Way of Caldwell County






Volunteers in Action Last year we had a monthly average of 26 volunteers each month putting in a total of 6,206 hours for the year. These volunteers assisted in many ways. We have volunteers that come in weekly for child care so that residents can attend group meetings. We have volunteers come in and sort clothing for the clothing closet, making it easier for our clients to find the clothing they need. Some of our volunteers (including the CCC&TI early College group) spent time painting the rooms and hallways inside the Shelter. We had men come in to mow and maintain our lawns.

Volunteers also come in CCC&TI to teach crafts and skills to Early our women and children. College Right now we have a vol- Students spent 6 Fridays unteer coming in and Volunteering. teaching our clients job and interview skills such a resume writing. We also have volunteers as receptionists, This is one of the most challenging volunteer activities, but has huge rewards. These volunteers have to learn how to take crisis calls among other duties. People from all walks Volunteer of life volunteer at The Sven Picton, Shelter Home for many difhangs a shelf in ferent reasons. one of If you would like to volunT-House teer contact-Community Apartments. Outreach Coordinator, Hope Bumgarner at (828) 758-0888.

Domestic Violence Program Corner What a great beginning to 2012. We have implemented a new program at The Shelter Home that will bring valuable information to our clients. We have reached out to the community and have several resources that are coming to us to deliver weekly “Work Shops.” Some of the agencies and the topics they are assisting in this new program are listed below. Family Resource Center – Separation Anxiety, Discipline, and Following Your Child’s Interests.

Liubov Skibo from Greer Labs is helping with job search skills includingHow to write a resume How to do a cover letter How to dress for an interview Conducting an interview and Role Playing where each person is a interviewee and interviewer. Olivia Haynes from Parkway Bank is teaching the basics of opening a checking and savings account, how to develop a budget and the importance of a good credit score.

These “Mini Workshops” will continue to be offered on a regular basis. I am so fortunate and so proud to be a member of such a caring community. We have heard the phrase “ It takes a village to raise a child.” It also takes a community with all the great resources and agencies building bridges with other agencies to meet the needs of the single women and the families that we serve. By: Lisa Triplett– DV Manager

“ It takes a village to raise a child.”


Shelter Home Staff The Shelter Home provides crisis services 24/7 and is able to do this because of the fine staff which is dedicated to making the Shelter Home a place of healing and hope. Sharon Poarch, Executive Director Jan Nash, Business Manager Jan Smith, Court Advocate Lily Moody, Rape & Sexual Assault/Child Advocate Lisa Triplett, Domestic Violence Program Manager Hope Bumgarner, Community Outreach Coordinator .............................................................................

Lori Jarvis, Child Advocate……………………………………………………………………………… Shelter Managers: Wilma Mikeal Barbara Price Tina Gilbert Anita Hicks…………………………………………………………………………………………………

E-mail us or Contact us at: 828-758-0888 Fax: 828-758-8949

We’re going GREEN- If you would like to help, Please request your newsletter be sent by email. Send request to or simply call (828) 758-0888 ask for Hope Bumgarner. Thank you!

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March Newsletter- Shelter Home Of Caldwell county  

This is the March Issue of Peacenotes published by The Shelter Home Of Caldwell County

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