Durham Magazine Dec/Jan 2021

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promise of a liberated tomorrow.” There’s My daughter composes songs on her ukulele, also eye-catching yellow and green woven and my son drums. It will be interesting to see mkeka (mats), a wooden kinara (candle what song we add to our repertoire.” holder) adorned with adinkra (a philosophical message) and a goblet-like kikombe cha ‘NOTHING COULD EVER umoja (unity cup). Every year, they buy new STOP THE ENJOYMENT’ mishumaa saba (the seven candles representing im Langsam, mom to Leo, 8, and the seven principles of Kwanzaa). Then, on Maya, 6, strives to make Hanukkah Dec. 26, Funmi and DeLacey race through the celebrations special every year for her house to meet their mom and dad at the table. family. Along with sufganiyot (jelly The children squabble over who lights the first doughnuts) and latkes (potato pancakes) – candle. The family laughs. They sing. “Nothing could ever stop the enjoyment of Those timeless memories-turned-tradition traditional Hanukkah foods!” – Kim plans will carry on this year, even among the many to continue with themed games, movies and changes in their lives. There’s obviously volunteering over the eight days of the Jewish the coronavirus to consider, which will holiday. She prefers to take the emphasis away prevent the them from celebrating with any from presents and focus on creating memories extended family and friends. But beyond of togetherness instead. that, renovations to the family’s home were In a normal year, Kim, her husband, Drew delayed – mainly due to setbacks with Langsam, and their kids celebrate at some deliveries and other imports – and they of Durham’s Jewish institutions, including THE PRIDE THAT COMES were forced to temporarily move into an Lerner Jewish Community Day School, where FROM Airbnb. It will be the first time in more than Leo and Maya learn about the miracle of MAKING five years that they celebrate the seven-day Hanukkah, the history behind its traditions SOMETHING holiday at home. Aya and Teli are both major and the songs of the holiday, and where they WITH OUR contributors to the annual Hayti Legacy also create “the awesome art that makes our HANDS TO THEN GIVE AS Kwanzaa, among other Kwanzaa events. house feel festive!” Kim says. A GIFT IS SO Last year, they partnered with Exotique and This year, the family will opt out of all of SATISFYING.” Pittsboro-based Clapping Hands Farm to the community components – which are – AYA SHABU offer a zawadi (gift)-making workshop for inarguably the most important to them – “and, kids and their families. to be honest, takes so much of the burden off “I would like to continue the tradition of of me to create all aspects of a meaningful making zawadi with my family,” Aya says. “The holiday,” Kim says. “With young kids and pride that comes from making something with so many distractions, celebrations by Zoom our hands to then give as a gift is so satisfying.” haven’t worked for us.” Bringing together and celebrating community While the family won’t host its annual has been important to Aya since she moved to North Carolina backyard party, they’ll have a smaller gathering with one other in 2003 to be a touring dancer with the African American Dance family, and continue their tradition of playing “ChanuGaga,” a family Ensemble. The pandemic has put that on hold, but Aya says that dodgeball tournament (with masks this year). They’ll also connect Funmi and DeLacey are grateful to spend a more relaxing holiday with their fellow congregants through virtual programming put on with their parents this year. by Beth El Synagogue and Jewish for Good. “I’ll miss drumming and dancing with my community, but I also “Overall, I’m trying not to put too much pressure on myself this look forward to drumming and dancing more at home with my year for super meaningful celebrations,” Kim says. “We will do what family,” Aya says. “We have been wanting to give our community we can reasonably do, given the pandemic and our low tolerance for a new Kwanzaa song for many years. Our family is very musical. Zoom, and hope that this year is just an anomaly.”






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