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By Sergio Candido, sergio.candido@sfgn.com September 19, 2012 • Volume 3 • Issue 38

The Most Talked About Stories on SFGN.com

Editorial Offices

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Transgender Group Slams New Anderson Cooper Show The National Center for Transgender Equality is outraged about an interview on Anderson Cooper’s new daytime show, Anderson Live, of a man that claimed an anti-baldness drug made him transgender. All of us here at the National Center for Transgender Equality are surprised, saddened and disappointed that a respected show like Anderson Live would give credence to this type of sensationalism and misinformation, said Mara Keisling, executive director at the National Center for Transgender Equality.  This segment is just another case of sensationalizing an already marginalized population plain and simple. According to the show’s website, Mandi, who was born male, says  that a hair loss treatment caused him to become transgender. Mandi is joined by her ex-wife, Michele, who opens up about how Mandi’s identity transformation has affected their son. How is this even possible? We will explore the latest research on Finasteride, the common compound found in most medical treatments used to treat male pattern baldness, says the show’s description of the upcoming segment. Keisling added that what most damaging about the story is that it will misinform the public about the causality of transgender identity.

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Anderson Cooper knows better than this. Anderson’s team is better than this, said Keisling.

Brad Pitt: ‘Gay Marriage Is Inevitable’ Brad Pitt probably didn’t get his political views from his anti-gay mother. The actor has once again reiterated his support for gay marriage in an interview with The Telegraph. “Gay marriage is inevitable. The next generation, they get it. It is just a matter of time before it becomes a reality,” he told The Telegraph at a screening of his new film “Killing Them Softly” in London. Pitt also said he supports Barack Obama and will vote for him in the upcoming November presidential election.“I am an Obama supporter and I’m backing his election campaign,” he said. Pitt’s pro-gay comments contrast those made by his mother, Jane Pitt, in a letter to the Springfield News-Leader last July.“Any Christian who does not vote or writes in a name is casting a vote for Romney’s opponent, Barack Hussein Obama -a man who sat in Jeremiah Wright’s church for years, did not hold a public ceremony to mark the National Day of Prayer, and is a liberal who supports the killing of unborn babies and samesex marriage,” Jane wrote in her controversial letter. Last year, Pitt told People magazine: “No state should decide who can marry and who cannot.”

Senior Features Correspondents . . . . . . . . . . T  ony Adams Jesse Monteagudo

Aaron Belkin

Study: DADT Repeal Hasn’t Negatively Affected the Military

Jackson Will Marry Same-Sex

Couples F Barbara Walters to host ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ Repeal Anniversary Celebration F Gay Real Estate: How Do I Ensure my Partner Inherits our Home? F Transgender Murder Victim in Philadelphia Identified F Central Florida School district, Unions Negotiate Domestic Partner Benefits

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F Maryland and Washington Battle Referendums Against Gay Marriage Legislation F British Producer of Gay Play in Uganda Held in Jail COMMENTARY: Keeping Your Hard Earned Gay Money COMMENTARY: We, Including LGBT, Are Successful When We Help Each Other

Contributing Columnists. . . Wayne Besen

Brian McNaught Victoria Michaels Leslie Robinson Dana Rudolph David Webb

One year after the repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” the law that banned openly gay people from serving in the military, a study Health Columnist. . . . . . . . . Peter Jackson Finance Columnist. . . . . . . . Ric Reily has found the repeal legislation hasn’t had Trans News Editor. . . . . . . . Victoria Michaels a negative effect on the U.S. Army. The new study was conducted by the Palm Center, Calendar Editor. . . . . . . . . . Brian Swinford a research branch of the Williams Institute at University of California Los Angeles Law Editorial Cartoonists. . . . . . . Karl Hampe Darryl Smith School, found that there has been no overall negative impact on military readiness, Staff Photographer. . . . . . . . Dani Justice unit cohesion, recruitment, retention or morale. The Palm Center observed several Sales Director. . . . . . . . John Fugate military units and administered several Marketing Sales Manager. . . . . . . . . . . . Mike Trottier surveys, analyzed relevant media articles Sales Associates . . . . . . . . . . . Edwin Neimann published during the research period Justin Wyse Ryan Dixon and conducted secondary source analysis of surveys independently administered Sales Representative . . . . . . . Rivendell Media by outside groups, according to a press National todd@rivendellmedia.com release. “For almost twenty years, experts Distribution Manager. . . . . . .JR Davis predicted that allowing gays and lesbians South Florida Gay News.com is published weekly on to serve openly would harm the military,” Our paper is a member of the Associated Press. said Aaron Belkin, the founding director Wednesdays. The views and opinions expressed within this publication, in of the Palm Center and lead author bylined columns, stories, and letters to the editor are those of the expressing them. They do not represent the opinions of of the study. “Now the evidence is in, writers South Florida Gay News.com, Inc., or the Publisher. They are and the conclusion is clear: repealing included to promote free speech and diversity of thought. You should not presume the sexual orientation of individuals ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ did not harm the based on their names or pictorial representations in SFGN, and it military, and if anything made it easier would be careless to do so. For the sake of readable newswriting, the for the Pentagon to pursue its mission.” word “gay” in SFGN should, when relevant, be interpreted to be inclu-

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Tea Party Theorist: Obama is Gay Jerome Corsi, a right wing author has recently published an article arguing that President Barack Obama is in reality a closeted gay man who used to frequent Chicago’s gay bars and bathhouses.The proof? Corsi cites Kevin DuJan, a former Chicagobased gossip columnist who apparently tracked Obama’s gay years.  “If you just hang out at these bars, the older guys who have been frequenting these gay bars for 25 years will tell you these stories. Obama used to go to the gay bars during the week, most often on Wednesday, and they said he was very much into older white guys,” said DuJan, who describes himself as a “conservative, Christian File Photo

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gay man,” according to this his website. Corsi’s story also cites investigative reporter Wayne Madsen, who told Corsi Obama’s visits to local gay bars and bathhouses was “common knowledge” in the community. This is not the first time Corsi poses the question about Obama’s sexuality. Last month, Corsi said that Obama was not only gay, but may have also been married to a former roommate.“Obama had all these roommate pictures [where he] seems to be sitting about on the guy’s lap,” Corsi said at the time. “I’ve not seen a lot of roommate pictures where two guys are that chummy.” Corsi also claimed Obama had been photographed wearing a wedding band years before his marriage:  “Was he married to a guy, I mean, what’s the deal?”

Google Removes ‘Bisexual’ From Banned Words List

Gay Lover, Husband Suspects in Wife’s Murder

You probably noticed how Google tries to finish off your search queries for you by completing your words or sentences, however, if you were looking for something related to the word “bisexual,” that wasn’t the case. The word had been blocked from Google’s Auto Complete and Instant Search features since being placed on a list of banned words in 2009. But thanks to a campaign spearheaded by BiNet USA, a bisexual advocacy group, the word has now been “unlocked.” “It’s not every day one of the biggest companies in the world changes its mind, but we are thankful that Google now sees bisexual people just like everyone else,” BiNet USA President Faith Cheltenham said on the group’s website.  “It will take time for bisexual search terms to be ranked as they were before the ban, but now bisexual people and their allies have a fighting chance to be seen, heard, and understood.” The change might seem like something minor, but for bisexuals, it brings more visibility to the often isolated and sometimes misunderstood part of the LGBT community. “When the No. 1 search engine in the world makes it harder to find information and a community, it is terribly unfortunate, Jim Larsen, Secretary/ Treasurer of the Bisexual Organizing Project, told Cheltenham in a Huffington Post story.

It could be a story out of the pages of an Agatha Christie book: A Chinese woman gets a $1.1 million fortune from a divorce settlement, she remarries, and then disappears after just months into her second marriage. That was 11 years ago. Now a new inquest into the case points to her second husband and his gay lovers as the architects of what Australian authorities think to be a murder. According to The Sydney Morning Herald, a coronial inquest into Wei Hong Guo’s disappearance heard her brother’s claims that Yong Wei Gao, the husband, and He Huang, the gay lover, had something to do with it. “It is the belief of the brother of the missing person, Xian Guo, that both Gao and Huang had something to do with the disappearance of Guo in order to get her money,” said counsel assisting Sergeant Deb Williamson in her opening statement on Sept. 10. Her brother, Xian Guo, pointed to the fact that Gao did not report his wife missing for eight months and that he was unable to answer basic questions about their finances as evidence that he was involved in the killing of his sister, the Sydney Morning Herald reports.

September 19, 2012 • SouthFloridaGayNews.com

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LOCAL NEWS

COMMUNITY NEWS

Brushing Cancer Away Wilton Manors workshop for those affected by cancer

Local Lesbians Land $10 Million Jackpot

Coral Springs LGBT Couple Wins Lottery

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A few of the Touched by Cancer workshop participants show off their finished products.

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n Sept. 5, a dozen people showed up to the Manor on the Drive with one common denominator — they had been affected by cancer. It’s called Touched by Cancer, and it’s designed to give participants an outlet to express themselves visually. “It really isn’t an art workshop. It’s a selfexpression workshop about people’s journey with cancer,” said Sam Budyszenick, program director for Gilda’s Club South Florida, which hosted the event. “This medium is really disarming.” Gilda’s used funds it got in the form of a grant from the Community Foundation of Broward County to run this event, which spanned a two sessions for participants to complete their projects (three hours on both Sept. 5 and Sept. 12), and an exhibition on Saturday, Sept. 29. The first two sessions took place at the Manor, whose general manager Jason Tamanini accepted Gilda’s without hesitation. “We’re really lucky that we got this grant,” Budyszenick said. “[Tamanini] welcomed us with open arms. Literally, I mentioned Gilda’s Club and he said ‘yes.’” Looking over the participants and teaching them the art of collage, which is the medium of expression fo the workshop was Janet Gold, an award-winning artist and wife of Roy Gold, mayor of Coral Springs. “I’m a collage artist, so working with collage with cancer patients was the perfect answer. You don’t need to be able to draw or

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paint, you just find images from magazines,” she said. “It was really poignant working with these people and giving them a break from their everyday lives. It was enlightening.” Budyszenick said the idea for the workshop came from the fact that many of those affected by cancer have a hard time expressing themselves. Specifically, he mentioned one of the participants who’d recently lost his father to cancer and was diagnosed with it himself. “This was the first time he’d ever been able to express it. He didn’t have family that really wanted to talk about it, and friends shied away from the subject,” Budyszenick said. “That’s why it’s always important to find these unique avenues of expression.” Gilda’s also offers yoga and water colors, among other activities, as mediums of expression. “The key thing is that opportunities like these come about because of things like the Community Foundation and places like the Manor. This is a collaboration,” Budyzenick added. “We had gay men, gay women, transgender individuals. We’re lucky we were able to meet all of their individual needs.” The attendees came up with titles for their pieces. The pieces will be on display at Gilda’s Club on Sept. 29, all 18 collages. “These are people who had no artistic background,” Gold said. “You’ll get to see it all.”

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Coral Springs woman has claimed a $10 million lottery win -- the largest haul of the year so far in Broward and Palm Beach counties Tara Tuttle, 35, of Coral Springs, claimed the $10 million top prize in the Billion Dollar Blockbust Scratch-off game at Florida Lottery headquarters in Tallahassee. Her ticket cost $20 (yep, 20 bucks. But the lottery officials note that scratch-off payback is about 70 percent compared to 50 percent for the draw games). Tuttle told lottery officials she carried around the winning ticket for more than a month before she actually scratched it and noticed she won the $10 million top prize. “I had a feeling that it was a lucky ticket but I didn’t want to find out quite yet,” she told them. She told them she’s going to look into starting a charitable organization for those affected with cancer, but couldn’t be reached for further details. Five $10 million and 74 $1 million prizes still remain in the scratch-off game. While Powerball and the Florida Lotto are the games known to most casual lottery players,

Tara Tuttle (Right) and her wife, Cary Tullis, claiming their $10 million check.

scratch-offs make for about 57 percent of statewide sales, lottery officials say. Tuttle (pictured with her wife, Cary Tullis on the left) chose the one-time, lump-sum payment option of $6.5 million The winning ticket was purchased from Publix, located at 2201 N. University Drive in Coral Springs. The largest win before Tuttle’s was a $6 million Florida Lotto win in January. No Floridian has taken home the top Powerball prize this year.

For more information, go to www.gildasclubsouthflorida.com.

September 19, 2012 • SouthFloridaGayNews.com


LOCAL NEWS

Finding an LGBT-esque House Realtors group to teach nuts and bolts of LGBT house buying By SFGN Staff The LGBT seminar will feature a panel discussion on what LGBT residents do to the communities in which they live. Government officials will delve into anti-discrimination. Realtors will talk of the consumerism and culturalism of the LGBT community as it affects the business. And finally, lawyers and accountants will jump into legal challenges that arise out of items like financing and joint ownership of houses. “Recognizing this through our seminar series will help make GFLR members aware of the needs of our diverse community, as well as help our multi-ethnic and multi-cultural residents develop a better understanding of the process leading to home ownership and retention in Broward County,” O’Bryant said.

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t’s called “Diversity in Home Buying,” a series of lectures and seminars intended to feature real estate, financial, government and legal experts that will advise and teach both agents and home buyers on the intricacies of the nation’s diverse populations. The first seminar comes on Sept. 24, and focuses on South Florida’s Caribbean communities. The second comes Monday, Oct. 1, and focuses on the region’s LGBT community. It’ll be held at Hagen Park in Wilton Manors. The series is the brainchild of the Greater Fort Lauderdale Realtors (GFLR), Broward’s largest professional association of real estate brokers. “The seminars are intended to help both real estate professionals and potential homebuyers understand the cultural nuances of working with and finding homes for people of Caribbean descent, and people who are from the GLBT community,” said Thomas O’Bryant, GFLR’s chief operating officer. “For [realtors], the seminars will help facilitate an understanding of how to address and be sensitive to the needs of people from both communities. People of Caribbean heritage and Caribbean nationals will find the seminars helpful to understand how immigration laws and banking rules may apply to buying homes in Broward County. GLBT individuals will come away with an understanding of the law and some of the financial issues that a same-gender couple should consider with home ownership.”

If you go Diversity in Home Buying Series: A Focus on the Caribbean Community When: Monday, September 24, 2012 Where: Central Broward Regional Park & Stadium 700 NW 11th Place • Lauderhill, FL How Much: Free

Diversity in Home Buying Series: A Focus on the GLBT Community When:

Monday, October 1, 2012

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Hagen Park Community Center 2020 Wilton Drive Wilton Manors, FL 33305

How Much: Free

September 19, 2012 • SouthFloridaGayNews.com

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Task Force Hits Home

National Gay and Lesbian Task Force holds fundraiser in Fort Lauderdale By Gideon Grudo

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back to 2005, when the latter took over the production of the two aforementioned fundraising events in South Florida. These two events used to be run by the Gay Human Rights Foundation, but it went bankrupt in 2004. The Task Force’s executive director at the time didn’t want to lose the events, seeing as that might bring an end to a major source of funding for the South Florida community.

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So he got the Task Force to pick them up and run with them, said the Task Force’s Events Director Michael Bath. David Price is the other local board member, and has chaired the recognition dinner for two years. He moved from Miami to Davie two years ago, around the time Rubin showed up with his partner. The two are largely responsible for local representation Submitted Photo

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he mood was festive on Saturday night, a night for the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force to celebrate accomplishment and honor members. The fundraiser brought in 130 people, each person asked to donate $50 for attendance. This is the event’s second year, and it took place at the home of Dr. Russell Sassani & Michael Schneider on Sept. 15, and was catered by Bacardi and Chili’s. “I have never seen the confluent of so much progress and so much at stake at the exact same time,” Task Force Executive Director Rea Carey told the crowd of attendees. “We have never, as a movement, as a people, as a country, seen a moment like this for gay, lesbian and transgender people.” She said that there’s still a lot of work to do, and that the Task Force is working for the day after equality is achieved. Local Lee Rubin, a Task Force board member, told SFGN that last year’s fundraiser, which was held at his Fort Lauderdale house, brought 80 attendees and $5,000 in donations. On top of fundraisers like this, the Task Force also holds events like the Recognition Dinner in early October and the Winter Party in March, bringing in 1,000 people and 6,000 people, respectively. Two-thirds of the proceeds from these events go to the Miami Foundation, which disseminates the funds to local LGBT groups. Miami Foundation’s relationship with the Task Force — which has resulted in more than $1.4 million of grants — goes

Rea Carey, Task Force Executive Director

and the South Florida scene. Before they showed up and took on the tri-county area, Task Force presence in South Florida was sparse. As of Monday, Sept. 17, Floridians Liebe Gadinsky and Roger Thomson were also elected to the national board. Gadinsky has worked with SAVE Dade, specifically to promote and defend the Miami Dade Human Rights Ordinance. She’s been with the Task Force since January 2010. “I am deeply inspired by the people of all ages and circumstance, from all backgrounds and parts of the country, who step up every day to create positive change in their communities,” she said. Thomson is the executive vice president, chief administrative officer and general counsel for Brinker International. He’s been with the Task Force since January 2012. “Critical battles are taking place to secure freedom and fairness for LGBT people,” he said. “It is both exciting and a privilege to be part of this effort through the work of the Task Force.” For more information, go to www.thetaskforce.org.

September 19, 2012 • SouthFloridaGayNews.com


COMMUNITY NEWS

Selzer & Weiss Law Firm Announce Move to Larger Digs Photo and Story By Dani Justice

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n Monday, September 10, the team from Selzer & Weiss, Attorneys At Law brought together their friends, clients, and business partners in the area, hosting a well-attended, open house networking event  The party spotlighted the office’s Personal Injury Department, and celebrates the announcement of the firm’s move across the street to a 4,100 square-foot space on NE 26th Street in Wilton Manors. The new office is nearly three times the size of their current one, and promises to be a state of the art new base of operations for the firm and everyone they reach. Jeff Selzer has been practicing for 28 years now in Fort Lauderdale and he and his firm now have the legal talent and resources to engage in varied litigation.  Joined with Scott Weiss, Esq. who is Jeff’s nephew and a growing team of legal professionals; the law firm

offers services in Estate Planning, Will and Trust Litigation, Estate and Trust Administration, as well as Personal Injury. Two and a half years ago he brought

on Dan Michael as a Personal Injury Paralegal. “I left 18 years of working auto insurance claims defense to advocate on behalf of plaintiffs due to having ethical issues with large insurance companies,

Jeff Selzer (Left) and Scott Weiss, dressed in handsome suits, hosted a community party for friends.

who have blatant business practices of sticking it to consumers.” says Dan. “Now alongside Jeff, I am proud to say we work extremely well together to not only maximize settlements for our clients but to expedite them.”   January 1, 2013 will bring a new Personal Injury Protection (PIP) law that makes drastic changes to your rights as a consumer, severely limiting your state mandated PIP coverage and medical treatment options. As a result Selzer & Weiss are now offering a new complimentary automobile insurance policy review service. “We are hoping people will skip the personal injury attorney referral services that we so often see and hear of,” states Selzer, “and seek the more ethical help of a reputable and well established law firm for their Personal Injury needs.” For more information, visit selzerandweiss.com

NATIONAL NEWS

Grab Your Cameras! Third annual A Day With HIV is Sept. 21 By SFGN Staff

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hree judges will sift through hundreds of photos, choosing the best ones to be published in the November edition of Positively Aware. It’s a bi-monthly magazine devoted to HIV treatment and wellness, so the pictures that you’ll submit will focus the world’s attention on the daily trials and triumphs of people living with HIV. Photographers don’t have to be positive, as many negative people see the effects of HIV on their friends, peers and environment. The day to send your photos is Friday, Sept. 21, which Positively Aware calls A Day With HIV. This year makes the third

The Judges Chuck Panozzo

Bass player for the band Styx www.chuckpanozzo.com

installment of the project. The idea is to remove the stigma of HIV and to advance an international community of care through the published portrait. There are barely any rules to the submissions, as long a “special image” is captured, a time with friends and family, at work or play, or any moment in the day that helps people better understand how HIV impacts people, loved ones, colleagues and communities. Submit your photos by Sept. 25 at www. adaywithhiv.com. For more information on Positively Aware, go to www.positivelyaware.com.

These are the people who’ll sift through the submitted photo and choose the best ones for publication at Positively Aware.

Sheryl Lee Ralph American actress, singer and activist www.sherylleeralph.com

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NATIONAL NEWS

Rejected? Gay Frat Turned Down Louisiana students challenging administration By Ryan Dixon

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ay and bisexual students at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette were seeking to form a progressive lifestyle Fraternity. It would be open to all students, actively seeking in particular gay, bisexual and transgender members, but not excluding straight students who are open minded to the idea of being in social organization where they may find themselves a minority as brothers, although still equal in every way. On Thursday Sept. 13, SFGN learned that the university ended those dreams with their rejection of the fraternity’s constitution. The fraternity would have been the first of its kind in Louisiana, with its primary goal of offering students who are questioning their sexuality, or oppressed as a result of it, a place where they can find support while they maneuver the regular obstacles faced by not only all students, such as leaving home for the first time and loneliness, but also bigotry and hate from students who might otherwise discriminate against them. SFGN spoke with former gay porn model and aspiring law student Jeremy Williams about the formation of the fraternity and why they were rejected. “It was to be a ‘progressive’ fraternity, open to anyone whether they were gay or straight, black or white” Williams said. When asked why not just be gay- or bisexual-inclusive, Williams said that “just like there are predominantly black fraternities on campus, you can’t turn someone away for membership just on the color of their skin, same thing with their sexuality. That’s why we call it a progressive fraternity.” Williams said UL is a forward thinking and progressive University. Williams himself came under fire several years back for his involvement in gay porn films. When a university political science professor threatened Williams with consequences for his career choices, UL sided with Williams. “The school handled it very professionally and gave me everything I asked for after the professor complained about me,” he said. Williams said the fraternity was very careful in the wording of their constitution to make sure it was focused on primarily gay students, but it didn’t exile any straight allies. Why the rejection then? Gay discrimination? “We can’t really claim gay discrimination.

This rejection has been on everyone’s minds since the school just approved an LGBT minor this semester for Liberal Arts. No other school in Louisiana has that,” Williams said. The fraternity’s president told Williams that the fraternity didn’t really get a reason as to why they were rejected. “Our hands are tied right now. Without a constitution we can’t do fundraising or even move forward with anything,” Williams said. Williams sent a text to SFGN on Friday, Sept. 14, saying that the fraternity had talked with their Greek advisor, faculty member Lindsey Hobbs.

Williams said that Hobbs had reviewed their constitution and that “she said it looked good and didn’t exclude anyone which is our main focus.” All Hobbs was able to tell the fraternity was that she was going to find out the reason behind the rejection by Monday, Sept. 17. Williams went on to say that Hobbs did say the University was not happy with a clause in the constitution that banned members from dating each other, a clause that no other fraternity apparently has. At the time of the interview, Williams did say the fraternity was leery about contacting the press since their rejection two weeks ago. “We didn’t call anybody because we’re having such a hard time communicating with the university,” he said. SFGN spoke with university spokesman and Director of Communications, Aaron Martin. Martin said that both the offices of University President and Student Affairs have not seen the constitution and he doesn’t know of and organizational committee on campus that would have rejected the fraternity’s constitution.

September 19, 2012 • SouthFloridaGayNews.com


NATIONAL NEWS

Hershey Hammered in AIDS Bias Case A From the Associated Press

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“In order to protect our children in this unique environment,” the school said in December after the lawsuit was filed, “we cannot accommodate the needs of students with chronic communicable diseases that pose a direct threat to the health and safety of others.” The boy’s attorney countered that he Submitted Photo

HERSHEY, Pa. — 14-year-old boy and his mother will receive $700,000 from the settlement of an AIDS discrimination lawsuit against a private boarding school that refused to enroll him because he’s HIV-positive. The settlement was announced Wednesday by the AIDS Law Project of Pennsylvania and the Milton Hershey School, which is financed by a trust that holds the controlling interest in The Hershey Co. candy manufacturer. The settlement is subject to court approval. The school, for poor and socially disadvantaged students, also must pay $15,000 in civil penalties and provide HIV training for students and staff members. The Philadelphia-based AIDS Law Project sued the school in federal court last year after it refused to enroll the boy, an honor roll student from the Philadelphia area, on the grounds that he would be a threat to other students’ health and safety. The school initially defended its decision, saying it was difficult but appropriate under the circumstances.

The Milton Hershey School

required no special accommodations and controlled his HIV with medication that wouldn’t affect his school schedule. “This young man is a motivated, intelligent kid who poses no health risk to other students but is being denied an educational opportunity because of ignorance and fear about HIV and AIDS,” attorney Ronda Goldfein said then. In August, the school reversed its policy and announced it would treat applicants with HIV the same as others. The school, which has about 1,850 students in pre-kindergarten through 12th grade, also offered to admit the boy, identified in the lawsuit by the pseudonym Abraham Smith, but he and his mother decided he would seek other educational opportunities instead. The school was founded in 1909 by chocolate maker Milton Hershey, whose company’s products include Hershey’s Kisses and Kit Kat. It’s financed by the Milton Hershey School Trust and educates poor and socially disadvantaged students for free. The Los Angeles-based AIDS Healthcare Foundation, which says it provides medical care to people with HIV and AIDS all over the world and contributed money to the boy’s cause, welcomed news of the settlement. “No doubt, advocacy aided this young man’s quest for justice,” foundation president Michael Weinstein said in a statement. Around Easter, the foundation staged protests in San Francisco, New York City and Hershey, calling for a boycott of Hershey’s candy and asking the public to send the company a message: “No Kisses for Hershey.”

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NATIONAL NEWS

Problems in (Gay Republican) Paradise

LGBT politicians fight it out on the Right

By Lisa Keen, Keen News Service

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he presidential finish line is eight weeks off, and there’s little indication that the LGBT vote in this year’s presidential election will divide up any differently than it has in the past several: 3 to 1 for the Democrat. But it is not an entirely civil divide. A stinging barb from Rep. Barney Frank, characterizing Log Cabin Republicans as “Uncle Toms,” lingers on the LGBT body politic and will likely undermine efforts by the Obama campaign to win over gay Republicans. Frank made his remark in at least two places during the Democratic National Convention and defended his view this week, despite reactions from other LGBT leaders who expressed disappointment in his harsh criticism of gay Republicans. Speaking to the LGBT Caucus at the Democratic National Convention, Frank said, “When they tell us that they are happy to be Republicans because they are getting acceptance and civility, I gotta say that I am again inclined to think that they’re called the Log Cabin Club because their role

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model is Uncle Tom.” He made essentially the same remark during an interview at the convention with Sirius OutQ News interviewer Michelangelo Signorile. After a number of LGBT leaders, including Human Rights Campaign President Chad Griffin, issued statements expressing disappointment in the harshness of Frank’s attack, National Stonewall Democrats Executive Director Jerame Davis punched back: “The Log Cabin Republicans are the most weak-kneed, sycophantic apologists I’ve ever encountered. After their dismal performance at the RNC convention driving the GOP platform even farther to the right, they should give back all the money they’ve fleeced from their donors and close the doors.” Keen News sent a question to Frank on Monday night via e-mail, asking whether his

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unhappiness with Log Cabin Republicans was just over their giving Republicans their money and votes and whether he saw any value in having LGBT people working inside the party to try and change it. Frank issued a long written response Tuesday, saying “my use of ‘Uncle Tom’ was based not simply on this awful fact that they have chosen to be actively on the wrong side of an election that will have an enormous impact on our right to equality, both in fact and in the public perception of the popularity of that cause.” “If the Log Cabin Republicans – or their even more outlandish cousins, the oddly-named GOProud –were honestly to acknowledge that they let their own economic interests, or their opposition to strong environmental policies, or their belief that we need to be spending far more on the military or some other reason ahead of any commitment to LGBT equality, and on that ground have decided to prefer the anti-LGBT candidate to the supportive one, I would disagree with the values expressed, but would have no complaint about their logic.” “The damaging aspect of the Log Cabin argument, to repeat the most important point,” said Frank, “is that they may mislead people who do not share their view that tax cuts for the wealthy are more important than LGBT rights into thinking that they are somehow helping the latter by supporting Mitt Romney and his Rick Santorum platform. “It is a good thing for Republicans to try to influence other Republicans to be supportive of LGBT rights,” said Frank. “The problem is when they pretend to be successful when they haven’t been, and urge people to join them in rewarding the Republicans when they have in fact continued their anti-LGBT stance.  I have been hearing the Log Cabin Republicans proclaim for years that they were improving the view of that party towards our legal equality.  In fact, over the past 20 years, things have gotten worse, not better.  Most recently, on DOMA, when the House Republicans offered an amendment to reaffirm it, they voted 98% in favor of it, while Democrats voted more than 90% against the amendment. And it is not surprising that they have not been successful. Giving strong political support to people who are maintaining their antiLGBT stance is hardly an effective strategy for getting them to change it.” There is no question but that the Republican Party at its presidential nominating convention in Tampa presented a carefully coded hostility to gays in the military, gays getting married, and gays being seen as citizens in the constitution. That could be seen as an improvement, if compared with the 1992 GOP convention

when keynote speaker Pat Buchanan derided Democrats for allowing a “militant leader of the homosexual rights movement” call the Democratic presidential ticket (ClintonGore) the most pro-gay ticket in history. That’s the year Buchanan used his high profile speech to declare a religious and cultural war with Republicans on one side and “homosexuals” on the other. Republican nominee Mitt Romney did not himself make an explicit statement against same-sex marriage or gays. Instead, he said, “I will honor the institution of marriage.” But the party’s platform and the nominee’s surrogates before a national television audience each took thinly veiled jabs at LGBT people whenever they had the chance. Running mate Paul Ryan praised Romney as “Not only a defender of marriage, he offers an example of marriage at its best.” Failed presidential contender Rick Santorum once again railed against what he perceives to be the “assault on marriage.” A New York Times editorial characterized the GOP platform as, “more aggressive in its opposition to women’s reproductive rights and to gay rights than any in memory.” By contrast, the Democratic Party, through

The second mention was a gutsy juxtaposition that celebrated the courage of same-sex couples who marry with the likes of civil rights icon Martin Luther King Jr. and other American heroes. “If farmers and blacksmiths could win independence from an empire, if immigrants could leave behind everything they knew for a better life on our shores, if women could be dragged to jail for seeking the vote, if a generation could defeat a depression and define greatness for all time, if a young preacher could lift us to the mountaintop with his righteous dream, and if proud Americans can be who they are and boldly stand at the altar with who they love, then surely,” said the First Lady, “surely we can give everyone in this country a fair chance at that great American Dream.” The speech came on the same night the Democratic Party approved what Democratic LGBT activists say is the most pro-gay platform in history. Jamie Citron, national LGBT Vote Director for the Obama for America reelection campaign, said in May that the Obama campaign would try to win over gay Republicans. But there is no indication yet

“...Giving strong political support to people who are maintaining their anti-LGBT stance is hardly an effective strategy for getting them to change it.” -- Barney Frank its platform and convention speeches, took its strongest stand yet in support of equal rights for LGBT people. In his speech to the Democratic National Convention in Charlotte, President Obama essentially pushed back against Republican attacks on gays and other groups. He said, “we don’t think that government is the source of all our problems – any more than are welfare recipients, or corporations, or unions, or immigrants, or gays, or any other group we’re told to blame for our troubles.” And he applauded fellow Americans for being part of the change that has ensured that “selfless soldiers won’t be kicked out of the military because of who they are or who they love.” Numerous prime-time Democratic speakers made similarly supportive statements, and First Lady Michelle Obama twice referenced same-sex marriage in her passionate address to the convention. The first mention was a fairly routine reference to the need for people to be able to love who they love. “Barack knows the American Dream because he’s lived it and he wants everyone in this country to have that same opportunity, no matter who we are, or where we’re from, or what we look like, or who we love.”

that gay Republicans are being won over. And following Frank’s “Uncle Tom” remark, they could well be settling into a defensive posture. R. Clarke Cooper, executive director of the national Log Cabin Republican group, said, in response to Frank’s remark, that “Leaders committed to LGBT equality know that every victory our community has achieved has required bipartisan advocacy and bipartisan votes, and winning support from Republicans will only be more important in the days ahead.” Long-time Democratic gay activist David Mixner predicted this week that 75 percent of the LGBT vote will go to President Obama. The significance of that vote in the overall election depends largely on how close the election is, come November 6. An ABC/Washington Post poll September 7-12 found Obama with a 50 to 44 percent edge over Romney, with a four percent margin of error. A CNN poll September 9-12 found the Obama-Romney race at 52 to 46 percent, with a four-point margin of error. A daily Gallup Poll as of September 12 also showed a 50-44 split, with a three-point margin of error.

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NATIONAL NEWS

Eye Black Reflects Homophobia Instead of Sun

Blue Jays Player Yunel Escobar Sports Gay Slur During Game

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ajor League Baseball announced that it will be conducting an investigation into the use of a homophobic slur that written on the eye black of Toronto Blue Jays’ shortstop, Yunel Escobar. During Saturday’s game against the Boston Red Sox, Escobar’s eye black had “Tu ere maricon” written across them. “Maricon” is a rough Spanish translation of the English word “Faggot.” Even with Escobar’s spelling error in the middle, (the correct way would be Tu eres maricon) his message clearly makes an offensive remark. It is not known if Escobar was making a political statement or if the message was directed at anyone in particular. The Toronto Blue Jays released a statement in which they said they “do not support discrimination of any kind nor condone the message displayed by Yunel Escobar during Saturday’s game. The club takes this situation seriously and is investigating the matter.”

Yunel Escobar, Toronto Black Eye

A close up picture of Escobar’s offensive message was posted to Flickr by Twitter user @james_in_TO along with his thoughts on the matter. Escobar, who is Cuban born, could be facing sanctions from Major League Baseball if it considers his actions inappropriate.

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School speaks out for first time after fateful smooch

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players have been caught drinking, a violation of team rules; one underage player was detained by police after being caught in a 21 and up club. He goes on to say that some players have misdemeanor and felony convictions against them and are still on the team. In a statement to media, NDSCS President John Richman said that “despite how this is being portrayed by some, Jamie’s sexual orientation had nothing to do with his dismissal from the football team. NDSCS is a welcoming campus where individual differences are valued and respected.” School Athletic Director Stu Engen told WDAY that in his conversation with Coach Parsons “we didn’t talk about other man’s alleged to be 65 years of age. Our conversation consisted of … if this was a heterosexual incident, would we come to Submitted Photo

fter a long silence on the matter, North Dakota State School of Science has finally released a statement clarifying the exact reasons behind Jamie Kuntz dismissal from the team on Sept. 3. Kuntz said in an interview with Dan Savage that he had dreams of being a professional football player, but his unintended outing of himself has brought his football dreams crashing down. Kuntz was filming a game against Snow College in Pueblo, Colorado, while being sidelined with a concussion. He invited his 65-year-old boyfriend, who lives in Denver, up into the press box where they kissed. Head football coach Charles Parsons was reportedly alerted to the incident by teammates who witnessed it. Kuntz said that the press box was basically empty during his team’s 63-17 trampling. “We were getting destroyed,” Kuntz said. “The game was a total blowout. And I guess I got bored and so I kissed my boyfriend and some of my teammates saw us.” Jamie admits the kiss was more than a peck on the lips, but it wasn’t a “hardcore make out session.” After the game and before the 15-hour bus ride back to campus, Kuntz was confronted about the kiss by Coach Parsons. Kuntz denied the kiss and being gay, saying the older man was his grandfather. Kuntz then hinted at being suicidal on Twitter, which alarmed his roommate, and the police were called. Police determined that he was not a suicide risk. Kuntz then sent his coach a text message apologizing for lying and said that he was gay and that he had kissed the man who was with him in the press box. The next day Kuntz was summoned to Coach Parsons’ office for a meeting where he was dismissed from the team and presented with a letter outlining the decision. In the letter, Parsons wrote: “Your actions on the evening of 9/1/2012, while representing NDSCS and the NDSCS football program, reflected poorly on the program. Your decisions and conduct on the night in question clearly fall into the ‘Conduct deemed detrimental to the team’ category. Your actions/conduct during the game was a distraction to your teammates who were looking to the press box as the game was being played. This decision was arrived at solely on the basis of your conduct during the football game and because you chose not to be truthful with me when I confronted you about whom else was in the box with you. Any conduct by any member of the program that would cause such a distraction during a game would warrant the same consequences.” Kuntz told Savage that other members of the team have committed tasks that are far worse than a kiss. According to Kuntz,

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the same conclusion, and Coach Parsons’ answer was yes. Mr. Kuntz simply and plainly failed to perform his duties as assigned and was an ongoing distraction to the game.” According to the release, the distraction was Jamie inviting his boyfriend into the location where he was supposed to be working and engaging in behavior that was distracting. Kuntz is convinced that if he was kissing a girl that he would undoubtedly still be on the team. After his dismissal from the team, Kuntz removed himself from school at NDSCS. According to Dan Savage, Jamie is weighing his options on schools and hopes to be back on the field soon. Over the weekend, ousted North Dakota State College of Science football player Jamie Kuntz sat down for an in depth interview with Any K. Nelson of SB Nation. Kuntz story made national headlines, but had remained off cameras until now. In the video, Nelson talks with Jamie and his family, as well as NDSCS Athletic Director Stuart Engen, Jamie’s former teammates and people living in Wahpeton where the college is located.

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Furor fades a year after military’s gay ban lifted By David Crary, Associated Press openly gay general. Her wife, Tracey Hepner, did the honors of pinning on the general’s star during the promotion ceremony. Smith and Hepner were married in March in the District of Columbia, one of many same-sex couples inspired to wed when they no longer had to conceal relationships. Among other newlyweds are Air Force Major Adrianna Vorderbruggen and her civilian wife, Heather Lamb, who married in June, and are raising a 17-month-old son near Washington. Lamb said she’d attended a squadron family and spouse support event, and was recognized by the commander during Vorderbruggen’s recent promotion ceremony. “None of it could have happened before repeal,” Lamb said. Another couple, Alisdair Mackay and Stephen Peters, were married last December in New York shortly before Mackay, a Marine Corps major, began a one-year deployment to Afghanistan. Peters, a former Marine discharged under “don’t ask, don’t tell” in 2007, said the post-repeal experience had been wonderful, by and large, for him and Mackay. “The Marines he works with are completely supportive,” Peters said. “He’s able to be honest about me and our lives together.” The main downside, Peters said, is that the Pentagon doesn’t officially recognize same-sex couples when allocating medical coverage, housing and travel allowances, and other benefits. Peters is president of the American Military Partner Association, one of several advocacy groups which says the Obama administration could act on its own to extend these benefits, even without Congress repealing the 1996 law denying federal recognition to same-sex marriages. “We were told that once we won repeal, these types of things would be inevitable ... but now the defense leadership is dragging its feet,” said Alex Nicholson, who was ousted from the Army under “don’t ask” in 2002 and later founded Servicemembers United, an organization for gay military personnel and veterans which pressed for repeal. The Defense Department says it is studying the possibility of extending marital benefits to same-sex couples, but has announced no time frame. Otherwise, the Pentagon has been emphatic in declaring the repeal a success. The reasons, said Pentagon spokeswoman Eileen Lainez, include comprehensive prerepeal training, vigorous monitoring and enforcement of standards, and service members’ “adherence to core values that

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include discipline and respect.” Last week, the Palm Center — a research institute at the University of California, Los Angeles — issued what it described as the first academic study of the impact of repeal, which it had supported. Co-authored by professors from the military academies and Marine Corps War College, the study concludes that repeal had no broad negative

Readiness, says Obama “has recklessly used the armed forces for unprecedented social experimentation.” She welcomed a section of the Republican Party’s new platform pledging to review military personnel policies and correct problems that might be uncovered. Donnelly and her allies had predicted that repeal would infringe on the religious Jeff Sheng /Associated Press

NEW YORK (AP) — They are images Americans had never seen before. Jubilant young men and women in military uniforms marching beneath a rainbow flag in a gaypride parade. Soldiers and sailors returning from deployment and, in time-honored tradition, embracing their beloved — only this time with same-sex kisses. It’s been a year now since the policy known as “don’t ask, don’t tell” was repealed, enabling gay and lesbian members of the military to serve openly, no longer forced to lie and keep their personal lives under wraps. The Pentagon says repeal has gone smoothly, with no adverse effect on morale, recruitment or readiness. President Barack Obama cites it as a signature achievement of his first term, and his Republican challenger, Mitt Romney, says he would not push to reverse the change if elected in place of Obama. Some critics persist with complaints that repeal has infringed on service members whose religious faiths condemn homosexuality. Instances of anti-gay harassment have not ended. And activists are frustrated that gay and lesbian military families don’t yet enjoy the benefits and services extended to other military families. Yet the clear consensus is that repeal has produced far more joy and relief than dismay and indignation. There’s vivid evidence in photographs that have rocketed across cyberspace, such as the military contingent marching in San Diego’s gay pride parade and Marine Sgt. Brandon Morgan leaping into the arms of his boyfriend after returning from six months in Afghanistan. Tens of thousands of people clicked the “like” button for the photo on Facebook, and Morgan acknowledged it was “a great moment in history.” “But when it comes down to it, we didn’t intend for this go to worldwide,” he said. “We were just happy to be together.” There have been many such milestones since repeal took effect on Sept. 20, 2011: —In December, a lesbian sailor won the right to the coveted “first kiss” when the USS Oak Hill returned to port in Virginia after 80 days at sea. The crowd on hand to welcome the ship screamed in delight and waved flags as Petty Officer 2nd Class Marissa Gaeta shared a kiss with her partner, Citlalic Snell — a moment captured in a YouTube clip that drew 1.5 million viewers. —In June, Air Force Tech. Sgt. Erwynn Umali and his civilian partner were united in a civil union ceremony at the chapel at Joint Base McGuire-Dix-Lakehurst in New Jersey, with a Navy chaplain presiding. —In August, longtime Army officer Tammy Smith became the military’s first

Lutheran Navy Chaplain Kay Reeb officiated at the June civil union ceremony of Air Force Tech. Sgt. Erwynn Umali, left, and his partner, Will Behrens, at Joint Base McGuire-Dix-Lakehurst in New Jersey.

impact. “Contrary to expectations, the co-authors found evidence that repeal has improved trust among the troops, and has enabled service members to resolve problems in ways that were not possible while DADT remained law,” the Palm Center said. Anti-gay harassment and discrimination persist, according to the study. It cited an incident in April when a squadron commander told a female officer to stop dancing with her girlfriend at a military ball, swore at the women and called them an “abomination.” However, the study noted that harassment and bias had existed before repeal, and contended the problems had not worsened in the past year. Nonetheless, some critics insist repeal has been disruptive, and argue that the scope of the troubles is hard to gauge because some military personnel fear repercussions if they speak up. One opponent of repeal, Elaine Donnelly of the conservative Center for Military

liberty of chaplains from conservative denominations which condemn homosexuality. An inquiry by The Associated Press this summer concluded that such problems had not materialized on a widespread basis; officials from several conservative faiths said their chaplains were faring well in the post-repeal era. Nonetheless, Sens. Roger Wicker, R-Miss., and Jim Inhofe, R-Okla., introduced a bill on Sept. 11 that they said would protect chaplains’ freedom of conscience. The bill would prevent chaplains from being forced to preside at same-sex marriages and civilunion ceremonies — a policy that the Pentagon already follows — and would prohibit such ceremonies at military facilities. Under current policy, these ceremonies are allowed on bases where the marriage or civil union is legal under state law.

David Crary can be followed on Twitter at twitter.com/CraryAP

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Peter Francis Ryskewecz

RNC and Republicans Are An Urgent Choice

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s a lifelong Democratic career school teacher I urge my Gay Brothers and Sisters to vote for Mitt Romney for President, Connie Mack for U.S. Senate, and Karen Harrington, Allen West and Ileana Roslehtin for the U.S. House if they are in your districts. Our Obama economy is in shambles and it is time to stop the contrived blaming of George W. Bush for the current President’s failures. Ronald Reagan and Reagan Democrat Bill Clinton inherited terrible economies that were dominated by hyper-inflation, joblessness and severely declining home values. But they produced 20 and 24 million jobs, respectively. The “Hope and Change, Food Stamp Economy” has produced a paltry 5 million with a record number of Americans not even bothering to look for a job. Can you hear our major creditor, China, chuckling ??? Bill Clinton, a super-hero to many Gays, once tried to switch parties and become Reagan’s running mate in 1984. While President, Clinton dramatically cut investment taxes, including the biggest capital gains tax cut in U.S. history. As Mr. Bill said, “There were more millionaires created under my Administration than ever before. And that’s a good thing.” Sadly, our hero Obama is neither Reagan nor Clinton. Today over 23 million Americans are unemployed and more are underemployed. At least 10 percent of those humiliated Americans are Gay people. The Gay American economy is devastated by shrinking home values, a bleak job market and all of our Gay small business owners are struggling to survive We can not continue to buy into the fatal conceit of class warfare and blaming every sniffle in life on the rich or homophobes behind every bush. The top 20% of income earners pay 80% of retail, income, capital gains and property taxes that are collected by our favorite hyperdrama class-warfare politicians. The rich pay for revenues financing our expanding universities, public schools, road, hospitals, Medicare and Medicaid for our AIDS friends, and our Social Security and charity groups... including AIDS-related programs. The bottom 80% of taxpayers, which includes nearly all of the Hate Queens from the Dolphin Democrats, pay only 20% of collected revenues -- We need to think long and hard about this reality. Tragically, most Gays succumb to the Obama rhetoric that all we have to do is raise taxes on the rich to achieve egalitarian Nirvana. Excuse me for mentioning this

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inconvenient truth, but most of the world has a corporate tax rate at 20 to 14% unlike the U.S. tax rate at 35%. And we wonder why U.S. capital is moving abroad and leaving millions of otherwise ambitious and hard-working honorable Gay people unemployed? OK....Mr. Obama signed on to Gay Marriage. What does Gay Marriage mean if a couple cannot pay the rent or we are losing our homes? Is the modern GOP really as homophobic as our young GLBT editors insist? I don’t think so. The Broward Republican Executive Committee gave two of their prestigious and exclusive “2012 Volunteer of the Year” awards to two well-known Gay fellows. Is that homophobia??? Not in my estimation. The lead attorney who represented the Log Cabin Republicans in their successful landmark lawsuit to reverse the California constitutional amendment to outlaw samesex marriage is Ted Olsen, a movement conservative and George W. Bush’s former Solicitor General. Yes, he’s the same lawyer who won the Bush v. Gore case in the U.S. Supreme Court that gave the 2000 election to George Bush after the Florida “hanging chad” debacle. In the last two national elections -- 2008 and 2010 -- 35% of self-identified Gays voted Republican, according to well known New York Times exit polls, and confirmed by both liberal and Gay watch groups. That proportion needs to expand. It is time that all Gays stop thoughtlessly believing in Homosexual Marxism -- and vote for prosperity in our communities. Mitt Romney has an intelligent plan to grow our economy and produce 12 million new jobs, and dramatically liberate our oil, gas and coal fields to produce two million new jobs. This would certainly help all Gay professionals wanting to be prosperous and gainfully employed. He would stop the reckless foreign borrowing that Mr. Obama relies on -fruitlessly -- and that results in $85 million being borrow every hour to create the delusion of “Hope and Change.” And Mr. Romney would save our Medicare and Social Security programs for our aging Gay population. Let’s get serious instead of campy. Gay people are profoundly gifted people who contribute enormously and heroically to Fortune 500 firms, Gay-owned small businesses historically excel in gentrifying many dilapidated neighborhoods in the U.S. They are true heroes who deserve better than Mr. Obama’s sophomoric rhetoric. Let’s vote as Americans determined to be successful...not as people mired in contrived “victim-hood.” All Gay Americans of whatever circumstances certainly deserve better....

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Mark Segal

DNC Historic In Many Ways Guest Columnist

Submitted Photo Jack Markell Governor of Delaware

Some personal notes. As I write this, I’m literally in a state of tears. You see, in 1984, it was inconceivable to me that we’d see an American president, vice president and first lady delivering speeches from the convention podium with upward of 20-million Americans watching on TV calling for LGBT equality.

I can personally attest to this. While the Republicans consider us a security threat, the Democrats embrace us. When I got to my hotel, I discovered I had been put into the vice president block of rooms: My partner Jason and I had a Biden on one side of us. There was another one across the hall, and all the rooms in our hallway were staff. We even had the pleasure of being under Secret Service protection: We had a Secret Service detail right outside our door. At the HRC/Victory Fund Lunch, I got a hug from the first lady. Submitted Photo

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et this: A majority of the speakers at the Democratic National Convention in Charlotte last week spoke in some way about LGBT equality. You read that right. From small-town mayors all the way to the president of the United States of America, our civil rights were front and center. Even the LGBT delegate events were highprofile. It’s easier to list those who didn’t speak at an LGBT event in Charlotte. I can only think of three. But the first and second ladies of the nation did. As did cabinet members, senators and an esteemed list of high-profile speakers. This was the fourth Democrat Convention I’ve attended. The first was in 1984, where you could have put our caucus in a small room. This year, the tally was about 555 out LGBT delegates, and at our caucuses, the rooms were filled to capacity and had lines waiting to get in. All the non-LGBT speakers at the caucus meetings were great but two stood out. Newark Mayor Cory Booker literally stole the hearts of the delegates with his knowledge and passion for our community. And Delaware Gov. Jack Markell called his LGBT legislative victories one of the highlights of his administration, and brought up to the podium Lisa Goodman from Equality Delaware to make clear that it was the LGBT community that deserves credit for what politicians take credit for. It has to be a partnership between elected officials and the community. 

Cory Booker, Newark Mayor

Now for the clincher. I wasn’t sure if I’d write this, but hey, I love to share with my loyal readers. Many of you know that, years ago, I was once considered the most radical gay activist in the nation for my disruptions of TV shows and zapping homophobic politicians. I’ve boasted that I can break almost any security. Now it’s been years, but a little voice in my head said, Give it one last try and see if you still have it in you. So I decided to attempt to gain entrance to the holy of the holies last Wednesday: the Clinton suite. I’ve never revealed my techniques before, and I won’t now, but I literally did it. As I successfully stood outside Clinton’s suite, Room 7 on Founders Hall floor in the Royal Suite, a security person appeared and uttered, “Now, Mark,” and smiled. The rest of that story will be in my memoirs. I can’t give it all away — and I promised not to — but as I left the hall that night, all I could think of was the old man still has it, the incredible road we’ve traveled, and the hope for the future is brighter than any of us expect.  Mark Segal, PGN publisher, is the nation’s most-award-winning commentator in LGBT media. He can be reached at  mark@epgn.com.

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PROFILE

By Donald Cavanaugh

Judy Ireland is a native of Waterloo Iowa where she attended Central High School and subsequently matriculated at the University of Northern Iowa for a degree in English. She later attended the University of Miami where she earned a master’s of science in management of technology. In addition to her work at General Electric (GE), Ireland has been an active member of the Bi, Lesbian, and Straight Together (BLAST) Meet-Up group since 2009. She is a published poet, and an adjunct professor of writing at Palm Beach State College in Lake Worth, so her special interests with BLAST are the writing groups and book groups. SFGN - When was the GLBTA Alliance started?

The group was started about ten years ago, in the business in which I work – GE Healthcare. Today, there are more than 400 members in GE Healthcare, and more than 2,000 members across GE.

SFGN - Did you start it? 

No, it was started by three employees who wanted to build a professional development network for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender employees.

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Ireland has worked for GE Healthcare in Jupiter for ten years as a product manager responsible for the company’s growth in the national biomedical asset management and service business. She is not only out at work, she’s an organizer in the work being done by the LGBT employees support group, The GE  Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, and Straight Allies Alliance (GLBTA Alliance) http://www.ge.com/company/ culture/people/glbt_alliance.html. South Florida Gay News caught up with Ireland to learn more about her efforts for diversity at this major U.S. company. SFGN - How long have you been involved with the group?

Almost since its founding. I became a member right away, and then held leadership positions at the business level, and global level. I am still an active member and a hub leader for my employee group in Jupiter.

SFGN - How long have you been involved with equality for LGBT employees?

I’ve been working toward inclusion for LGBT employees throughout my entire (almost 30year) working life, on an individual basis as a

coworker and manager, and in my roles with employee groups. I think it’s so important for employees to be able to bring their whole selves to work, and I think companies benefit greatly in terms of productivity and growth through diversity.

SFGN - What programs/benefits does GE provide?

every day knowing that what matters is how good we are at what we do. It’s very motivating to us, to know that we can be who we are as LGBT people, that our energies can be focused on our goals and the company’s goals, and that our achievements and rewards are based on the value of our work. Submitted Photo

Judy Ireland: American Activist

General Electric Alliance Promotes Diversity through poet, professor, manager

GE provides a wide range of benefits to all employees, and has had a written policy and domestic partnership benefits for many years. What’s even more important, though, is that GE fosters a day-to-day climate of inclusion that makes it a great employer for LGBT men and women. 

SFGN - What do you see as the greatest impact the group has on your company? 

The GE GLBTA Alliance is open to all employees and provides professional development opportunities to its members which helps GE attract and retain some of the most talented people in the world. That’s huge, for any company, anywhere.

SFGN - What do you see as the greatest impact you have had on the group and/or the company?  My being free to be “out” as a lesbian within GE is key to the welcoming atmosphere that GE creates for all people who come to work within its businesses. My ability to contribute, combined with the contributions of the many others who have led and are leading the Alliance, have been illustrative of GE’s commitment to developing employees professionally. We come to work

Judy Ireland

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PROFILE

Lesbian Activists Take On Romneys By Andrea Dulanto

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extended to a professional relationship. “To work with someone you love on something you are both extremely passionate about, it’s very rewarding,” she asserted. Although neither of them has had experience with political humor, their training as actresses includes sketch comedy, and part of their politics is centered on feminism. “One of our main goals [is] equal rights and awareness for women as well as the LGBT community,” Kam affirmed. Many of the reactions on YouTube are positive. However, derogatory comments have also surfaced. In several interviews, Bria and Chrissy candidly quote the explicit slander. “We show the negativity, because we want to illustrate the reason for the fight,” said Kam. Last week, Bria and Chrissy attended the Democratic National Convention in Charlotte, North Carolina. Their protest of an anti-gay demonstration at the DNC even made The Washington Post. According to Kam, fans can look forward to more YouTube videos, including one with a confused Mitt and Ann who have ended up at the wrong convention.

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ake the harmony of the Indigo Girls, the wit of The Daily Show and a dash of South Park shamelessness — and you get Bria and Chrissy, two lesbian performers based in Atlanta, who in one short month have gained 1,236 YouTube subscribers with their songs of political satire and protest. Whether Bria Kam, 25, and Chrissy Chambers, 21, sing about Chick-Fil-A or “legitimate rape,” their politics are laden with a sense of humor. Often the lyrics show a twisted comedy such as in one of their duets as Mitt and Ann Romney: “Rape is bad, but at least someone gets to be a dad.” The lines speak against Republican vice-presidential candidate Paul Ryan’s definition of rape as a “method of conception.” Chambers is in drag as Romney. Kam wears a blond wig. The mannerisms and costumes work well together to create a hilarious parody. “We spent a good amount of time watching the Romneys speak,” Kam told SFGN. When Kam and Chambers met at an Atlanta gay bar about ten months ago, Chambers had arrived via Clinton, Mississippi to work as an actress, model and singer. “Chrissy is simply stunning,” shared Kam, a cover musician and student. “I was instantly drawn to her.” Their romantic compatibility later

Bria Kam (Left) and Chrissy Chambers have gained over 1,000 subscribers on YouTube in the last month, after they began releasing satirical music videos.

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Here Today, Gone Tomorrow HIV-Positive Deportations

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eportation of HIV-positive foreigners is still a common occurrence in too many countries. Imagine this: You have lived 10, 15, maybe 20 years in a foreign country. Your life partner is with you. Your job is here. All your friends are here with you. You bought an apartment, a house, maybe. Maybe you have uprooted yourself completely and don’t maintain contact with your home country. You might have been invited to come by your adopted home because of your work skills. Because of the patriarchal or racist or xenophobic laws in the new country, you cannot get a passport. Or because there are no gay marriage laws, or other obstacles, you can never become a full citizen. But you’ve managed to adapt and lead a fulfilling life. Now imagine you develop a cold. You go to the hospital, and the doctors find you are HIVpositive. They call the national CDC, your family and/or relatives (not a joke!), and then the police. You have exactly seven days to leave the country or be expelled by force! You can’t get your things in order fast enough, and by the end of the week, a police patrol car shows up at your house and escorts you to the airport, where you are put on a plane. A note is made in your records (and passport) that as an HIV-positive person, you can never return. You think that’s fiction? Think again. This happens every day on this planet. According to UNAIDS, there are still 49 countries (50 if you include Taiwan) that impose restrictions on the entry, stay, and residence of people living with HIV based on their HIV status. Not all countries are as cruel as the example above, but plenty of them will insist on getting rid of you as fast as possible: 22 countries deport HIV positive foreigners within days. (Full list.) The question is why they do it. The surprising answer is that it’s not just about money. By the way national health insurances act, you would think the cost of giving medicine to HIV-positive foreigners would be the main reason for these absurd laws, but that’s not the case. Most people pay for their own insurance anyway. Countries with good insurance programs or free health care are in fact more welcoming to

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HIV-positive foreigners. Money really is not the reason; after all, regulations don’t force foreigners with cancer to leave, even though cancer treatment also imposes a heavy financial burden on the health-care system. The real reason is pure and simple xenophobia, and often homophobia: These evil (often “evil, gay”) foreigners brought immorality into the country. Evidence? Their HIV infection. “Why should we support them?” asks a bigoted, uneducated public. In closed, xenophobic societies “foreigner” is synonymous with “outsider,” regardless of the exact legal status. The gay community of the U.S. West coast, for example, has many links to the countries of the Pacific rim. Yet Malaysia, Taiwan, and Singapore are some of the countries that still keep xenophobic HIV laws on their books. They are in such illustrious company as Armenia, Iraq, Mongolia, North Korea, Oman, Uzbekistan, Russia, and Saudi Arabia. Branding people as “undesirable” based on their health status is outrageous. Health authorities need to do more to educate the public. Voters need to understand that someone who has built a life in their country, pays taxes, and supports the community with work and family is playing a valuable part that deserves to be recognized. Leaving people in legal limbo because they don’t share certain DNA, blood type, or racial profile is not acceptable. Naturalization laws in these countries need to change. The blood-ties laws of many racially biased countries are discriminatory, unfair, and antiquated. Basing citizenship on paternal blood relationship, as many Asian countries do, is unfair to women and perpetuates a racial superiority myth. Such laws have no place in the global world of the 21st century. The naturalization issue is not limited to HIV. I recently co-financed  a movie that highlights the problems of gay marriage and deportation in America. However, gay marriage is foremost a legal issue. Destroying someone’s life because he or she has a virus in his or her blood stream is simply inhuman.

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ill you ever receive a sizable inheritance? You can’t plan on it. But if you do get one, you can plan on using it to help achieve some of your key financial goals. Once you get word of an inheritance, what steps should you take? Above all, don’t rush to act. If you are in the midst of the grieving process, it’s hard to make good decisions about money. Consequently, you may want to consider “parking” your inheritance temporarily in a liquid vehicle, such as a cash or cash alternative investment. Don’t fret if your inheritance isn’t really growing much for a few months — you’ll have time to put it to work later. After you’ve parked your money and some time has passed, you can think about what to do with your inheritance. Here are a few ideas: • Get rid of debts. Use your inheritance to pay off as many debts as you can, especially those consumer loans that are not tax-deductible and that carry high interest rates. • Establish an emergency fund. This fund should contain six to 12 months’ worth of living expenses. Without it, you may be forced to dip into your investments to pay for unexpected costs, such as an expensive car repair or a hefty medical bill. • Review and adjust your financial strategies. If your inheritance is large enough, it may be a “game changer” in terms of how you pursue your financial strategies. For example, you may now be able to speed up your timetable toward retirement, if that’s what you want. Or you may be able to pay more of your children’s college education, thus freeing up more funds for your own retirement savings. In fact, by investing your inheritance in certain ways, you can influence many desired outcomes that you’ve identified in your overall financial strategy. Your financial advisor can help you make those moves that are most appropriate for your individual needs. • Plan for taxes. Unless you are “inheriting” your spouse’s assets, you may be subject to some type of taxes when you receive an inheritance. Some types of inheritance, such as the proceeds from a life insurance policy, are tax-free. On the other hand, if you inherit a non-spousal 401(k) plan and are forced to take the money as a lump sum, which is likely because most 401(k) providers would prefer to remove the account from their books, your inheritance will be subject to federal, state and local income taxes. However, thanks to recent tax law changes, as a non-spouse ben eficiary you can now transfer an inherited 401(k) to an IRA, which allows you to avoid immediately paying taxes on your inheritance. You’ll still be required to take annual withdrawals, which are taxable, but the amount will be based on your life expectancy, so you can spread out your tax burden. To make sure you’re making the right moves with an inherited 401(k), consult with your tax advisor. You may get only one inheritance in your life — so do whatever you can to make the most of it. This article was written by Edward Jones for use by your local Edward Jones Financial Advisor. Edward Jones, its financial advisors and employees do not provide tax or legal advice. You should consult with a qualified tax or legal professional for advice on your specific situation.

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Financial Column

Keeping your Hard Earned Gay Money

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pending well is the basis of financial health and the cornerstone to building wealth. No matter how much you earn you will find it impossible to build wealth until you learn to spend well. Spending is when you transfer your wealth to another. Those who have money are little different from those who don’t. Most who have some money earn and spend with the exception that they have learned to cease spending before all their money is gone. Over time they actually have extra money which can become wealth. What do they know that you might learn? Those with money know it is easier to get money than it is to keep it. A good visual example is a person facing an unending number of outstretched hands all grabbing to take away their money. The money holder must continually choose who to give money to and which hand to slap away. There are those to whom money must be given, some on a regular basis. There are those to whom money should seldom be given. There are those to whom money should never be given. You make one of these three choices each and every time you spend. Taxes have to be paid. Well, they don’t really have to be paid you can choose to go to jail but that doesn’t help much so let’s just count taxes as money that has be spent. It is also a good idea to pay the electric bill even though they send one every month. Same with the water bill, car insurance, phone bill and the cable bill. Paying the rent or mortgage payment is also recurring spending that is best done on time. Sometimes you have to spend to repair the car, change the oil and buy new tires. Every few years you even have to spend to get a new car depending on how well you took care of the last one, how much you used it and how good a car it was to start with. Going to the doctor isn’t a usual event, though when needed it’s probably a bad idea to put it off. Maintaining your house is a form or good spending since maintenance spending is an example of the stitch in time saves nine rule; or as I like to put it, pay me now or pay me later. Maintenance spending can make the place look improved and you probably feel better about being there. Then there is spending that should never happen; spending that takes your money and returns nothing. A speeding ticket, or any traffic ticket for that matter, is a good example. Paying a few hundred dollars for the possibility of arriving a few minutes earlier is always a false economy. Just leave a few minutes earlier. If you exceed a 60 mph speed limit by 10 mph for one hour you will arrive at your destination 10 minutes sooner. How hard is it to get in the car 10 minutes

earlier, leisurely drive along enjoying the view while cars wiz by? Let someone else be the rabbit, bait for the speed trap. Investing with a stock broker and buying stock you know nothing about usually results in a loss. Relying on another person to make better financial decisions for you than you can make for yourself does not generally pan out. No one will ever care about your money more than you will. The surer route is to learn everything you can about a few investments and then make your own decision which to invest in, how much to invest in each and diversify across several investments. In the event that one or some of your choices fail to perform you have not lost everything, Being in control of your money is always preferable to yielding that control to another. Paying a travel company for the possibility of future travel is simply a bad idea. This is an industry with a less than stellar reputation and as a result is heavily regulated by many states. Any seller of travel, reputable or not is required by law in most states to include their license number on all advertising and materials. When a travel reseller does perform it is doing what you can do yourself with the use of Travelocity, Expedia or any number of airline, hotel, resort and attraction companies. Putting your trip together yourself guarantees that all the pieces are in place and paid for. You will not arrive at a hotel to find one that you don’t want to stay in. You will not arrive to find the non refundable tickets you purchased are for something other than what you want. You will control your travel spending and maintain flexibility to purchase what you want, when you want and where you want; travel resellers tend to usurp all three. There is a perception, accurate or not, that gay people have more money than the general population. As a result there are many opportunities to overspend your gay money, or to be outright taken advantage of. Keep your eyes open and your wallet closed. The trick to building wealth is keeping some of your hard earned money and putting it into your capital savings account. Over time the capital savings account will grow to provide sufficient income to live on. It’s not important what you earn. It’s important what you spend. Ric Reily is the author of two books, Money Is The Root Of All - Skip The Debt Habit, and Gregory’s Hero; his firm CFO On Call provides small business finance and operations consulting. Ric is married to John, his partner of 26 years, and lives in South Florida with their Havanese dog, Buckley.You can reach Ric at ricreily@gmail.com

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Brian McNaught

Expecting to Suffer

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ow we know that we should not stop giving CPR to a victim of a heart attack when there are no signs of life. A new hospital study shows that nine more minutes of pumping the chest can often make the difference between life and death. Imagine being the spouse or child of a recently-deceased person who might have lived if only the doctor, nurse, or EMS technician had known to keep pumping. You expected that they knew what they were doing. You expected that your beloved was getting the best care possible. What feelings come up for you knowing that they might still be with you, and what do you do with those feelings? Of less significance, but nevertheless unsettling for those who buy the more expensive, organically-grown fruit and vegetables, is learning that organic produce is no better for you than regular produce. The recently-released Stanford University study on the zero benefit of paying extra for food that often doesn’t taste as good as that produced

with chemicals will undoubtedly make some people feel very confused, and maybe angry. They expected that what they had been led to believe about the healthiness of naturally-grown carrots and apples was true. Some people may even feel betrayed by the health food industry. Not being a health food consumer, I had little emotional reaction to the news. A few years ago, though, I went through a painful procedure during which my urologist snipped several pieces of my prostate to determine whether I had cancer. He was startled to learn that, despite my low PSA number, I did indeed have early stage prostate cancer, and I followed his counsel to immediately have radioactive seeds planted in my prostate to “microwave” my cancer. The operation was a success, and I suffered no major side effects, other than losing my ability to have a normal orgasm, and needing to be on drugs for the rest of my life so that I can pee. Not long ago, I read a report that said doctors were causing more harm than good with their prostate checks and recommended

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procedures. Prostate cancer is rarely lethal. It was certainly unsettling to learn that my surgery was unnecessary. However, I was more fascinated than I was angry about being a victim of misinformation. Like the farmer who grows vegetables without pesticides, my internist, urologist, and radiologist truly believed they were doing the right thing. I expected that they knew what they were doing, and so did they. Sometimes, things just happen opposite of our well-supported expectations. Some gay people expect that once they come out, they will finally be happy. That’s what the self-help books promised, even those written by me. Some transgender people expect that once they have gender-confirmation surgery, all of their feelings of angst will end. Some lesbian and gay couples who get married expect that they will now feel totally secure in their relationship. Our expectations that we can rely upon things we are told to be true can create greater suffering than we can imagine. When our trust in people, places and things proves unfounded, we can become depressed, angry, and bitter people. Having expectations is human. But, it is apparently also divine. In the story of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, God expected that Adam would not eat from the Tree of Life. It seems that even God has expectations, and when those expectations are not satisfied, God gets angry and punishes. For not living up to His expectations, Adam and Eve were thrown out of Paradise. God has a lot of

expectations, and is disappointed every second. It’s hard to believe that He really experiences the serenity of heaven. Buddha taught that our expectations create suffering. So, God created His own disappointment in Adam. Buddha also taught that within each of us is the Enlightened One. So, the question is, do enlightened people have expectations of others, or of themselves? Do enlightened people create their own suffering? Most human beings create suffering for themselves all day long. I do. I expect e-mail messages and phone calls will be returned. I expect to be thanked for doing something nice for someone. I expect to be treated fairly. I’m often disappointed. Most people don’t see themselves as living in the Garden of Eden. Though we’re conscious that most other people have it a lot worse than we do, we still don’t feel that we have in this life a permanent address in Paradise. Why? Because we expect that we should, and, to make matters worse, we expect that we will in our next life. If we expect nothing, we don’t suffer. Take the pill that the doctor prescribes, but sit loose in the saddle. She or he only hopes that what they’re telling you is true. Brian McNaught was named “the godfather of gay diversity training” by The New York Times. He works with corporate executives globally, is the author of six books, and is featured in seven educational DVDs. He and his spouse Ray Struble divide their year between Ft. Lauderdale and Provincetown. Visit Brian-McNaught. com for more information.

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fficials at the Stonewall Library and Archives are fending off charges of censorship after a controversial photography exhibit was removed just days before its opening. Four photographs from a series titled “Men in Living Rooms” by photographer Jeff Larson had been scheduled to be on display from Sept. 4 to 29. The exhibit was coordinated with the library by ArtsUnited, an LGBT arts group, and featured pictures of semi-clothed gay men in the environs of their own living rooms. On Sept. 5, ArtsUnited’s John Coppola was informed by Stonewall President Bryan Knicely via email the exhibit was “causing quite a stir and we had one person on a committee remark that she was not going to bring a group to the Library because of the content of the photographs is a bit too graphic for the kids….” Knicely added, “While I do not believe in censorship, the current photos push the boundaries…” further stating the photographs made a group of LGBT straight allies uncomfortable. For Larson, the decision to remove his show was completely unexpected: “Sample images of my work were given to (Stonewall) this summer, the press release that ArtsUnited produced was approved by

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(Stonewall), which has one of the four images in the show, and after the show was hung, a staff person of the museum was consulted to the hanging and they were approved.” Larson immediately reached out to supporters, many of whom were members of the library. Christopher Reed, author of Homosexuality: A History of Ideas, fired off this evaluation of the situation, “In fact, there is something profoundly disturbing in the idea of an institution that takes the name of Stonewall—a site of seminal disruption by the most marginalized queers— now acting to censor a part of our community in the interests of what... Currying favor with disapproving straight people? With (sic) conservative homosexuals anxious to disown exactly the people and ideas that made Stonewall work.” University of Miami Art Professor Dr. Gema Perez-Sanchez, a member of the Library, along with her partner and a former academic advisor to Larson, calls his photography an important link to “the long tradition of bourgeois and middle-class portraiture of Dutch painters from as far back as the 15th century… with an excellent and celebratory twist in support of our LGBTQ community.” The library did allow Larson to hold his opening night reception on Wednesday,

Sept. 12, but the compromise provided little solace. Tom Tabor, chair of the Stonewall board of directors, admitted in an interview that the entire situation was “regrettable” and could have been handled better. The museum did not have a formal approval process for art exhibits and he made the decision to cancel the exhibit, an action affirmed by the Library’s board of directors, on Saturday, Sept. 15. He said the “provocative” nature of the photographs endangered Stonewall’s attempts to reach out to broader audiences and risked long-term plans to develop an educational role in public schools and attract greater corporate funding. With schools clamoring for programs that promote LGBT history, understanding and tolerance, Stonewall has an important national role to fill, said Tabor, citing the rise in high profile anti-bullying initiatives and increasing number of children being raised by same-sex parents. “We have our nose in the door, we don’t need to have the door slammed in our face,” he insisted. Tabor also blamed the lack of space at the Sunrise Blvd. facility and the fact the exhibit was hanging right in the main entrance. He said the library is exploring options for exhibit spaces on Wilton Drive and in The

Pride Center for works deemed too mature for student groups. Currently, students make up the vast majority of visitors to the library with busloads of school groups arriving weekly. “With our current new outreach in working with schools in response to the demand for LGBT history education, Stonewall did not want to limit this opportunity by an overreach now that schools have been in,” he wrote in a statement provided to South Florida Gay News. “The museum, library and archives have thousands of wonderful, provocative and explicit pieces and Stonewall is proud to share and exhibit them. The issue is how best to do so, and also best work to contribute to student LGBT education.” Tabor said he has personally responded to every email about the exhibit. The Stonewall board also agreed to establish a formal policy for any outside exhibits to be displayed at the library. To see Tom Tabor’s full statement regarding the matter, go to www.sfgn.com.

The Art Exhibit Here are the four photos that caused all of this controversy:

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Editor’s Note: This is one of the more controversial pictures, which caused concern and consternation for the Stonewall Library Board.The board did not allow this photo and others to be exhibited at the public library on Sunrise Boulevard.

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MARY’S Moving PLACE Past By Mary Bondi

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n healthier families, the development of self occurs in stages and is supported and rewarded by increasing responsibility and independence. Those who have been raised with conditions attached to parental love often have difficulty knowing who they are. This can be accompanied by residual feelings of anger, shame and resentment that have not yet had an opportunity to be processed or healed. Until we are comfortable with responding to our own inner promptings, we can still be considered big kids trying to please or anger our original caretakers. Many theories corroborate that the tendency exists for humans to seek out partners to fix their early emotional wounds

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deep resentment and anger with those that have caused us any wrongdoing. Letting go of toxic feelings and moving towards forgiveness helps the journey toward inner peace. The motivation to release unhealthy feelings can come from a desire to improve relationships, increase self-esteem, and/ or to dissolve feelings of shame that were developed in response to earlier treatment. As a result of healing and letting go of past hurts you will learn to have an increased sense of self-respect and create more room for positive, loving emotions to enter your life. When individuals eliminate the blocks associated with bitter feelings they will often open themselves up to gain more access to spontaneous emotions and a brighter

Resentment is defined as the feeling that one has at being injured or insulted by re-enacting them with their current love interest. If there are issues that have not been cleared and still attached to anger and fears of early childhood they will often be inflamed by the dynamics of a relationship and one’s partner. A more positive way to view emotional difficulties that present themselves in relationships is to see them as opportunities to transform and heal old patterns and resentments into healing and forgiveness. Resentment is defined as the feeling that one has at being injured or insulted. If we are truly to become autonomous, empowered individuals, at some point we must let go of

outlook on life. They start choosing people and behaviors that support their journey toward strength and wholeness and learn to handle conflicts with assertiveness and confidence. Moving past resentment takes a lot of hard work, effort and willingness. It is worth every moment for you to reach this joyful place where you can embrace the whole loving person that you are. You are worth it! Mary L. Bondi, a licensed psychotherapist in Fort Lauderdale, gives insight to positive thinking. To make an appointment with Mary, call (954) 467-2500.

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Mombian

Even with ‘New Normal’ TV Rainbows Lack Color

By Dana Rudolph

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BC’s new sitcom The New Normal breaks new ground this week as the first mainstream show starring same-sex parents--two gay dads. ABC’s Modern Family, which features two gay fathers in its ensemble cast, won an Emmy for Outstanding Comedy Series last year. Yet these shows, for all the tremendous good they are doing to raise the visibility of lesbian and gay parents and our children, follow a tradition of mainstream depictions of LGBT parents as upper middle class and White. When we will see LGBT parents of color, or LGBT families in lower income brackets? Most of the best known regular or semi-regular gay and lesbian parents on television are White and at least reasonably well off: Melanie and Lindsay of Showtime’s Queer as Folk, Michael and Ben of the same, Carol and Susan of Friends, Leslie and Maureen of Showtime’s Nurse Jackie, Abby and Kathy of ABC’s NYPD Blue, Laurie of Ellen (the 90’s ABC sitcom), Fran and Kal of the HBO movie If These Walls Could Talk II, Janine and Sandy of the Lifetime movie What Makes a Family, and Nora and Anne of ABC Family’s The Secret Life of the American Teenager, as well as Cam and Mitchell of Modern Family and Bryan and David of The New Normal. The new lesbian mom on TV this fall, Anne of NBC’s Go On, is dealing with the death of her partner—a fresh and worthy plotline. But she, too, adds no color to our palette. We have seen just a few lesbian and

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gay parents who are people of color or multiracial. They, too, are always solidly middle class—and always one half of a couple with a White person: Kerry and Sandy on ER (Kerry is White; Sandy is Latina), Tina and Bette on The L Word (Tina is White; Bette has a White mother and a Black father), and Hiram and LeRoy (Rachel’s dads) on Glee. (Hiram is White; LeRoy’s race is never specified, but actor Brian Stokes Mitchell, who plays him, is African American, German, Scottish, and Native American.) Gay and lesbian parents in mainstream movies are also a White bunch. They include Nic and Jules of the Academy Award-nominated The Kids Are All Right (2010), Robert of The Next Best Thing (2000), Armand of The Birdcage (1996), Renato of La Cage aux Folles (1978), and Tick of The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert (1994). A rare exception is WaiTung of The Wedding Banquet (1993), who is Taiwanese (but whose partner Simon is White). Eddie and Chance of Noah’s Arc are, as far as I know, the only fictional same-sex parents on television who are both people of color—but the show was broadcast first on LGBT-focused network LOGO and rebroadcast one summer on BET J, a spinoff of the Black Entertainment Network. That means there have still been no samesex parent couples as regular or semiregular characters on a general network who are both people of color. Transgender parents in mainstream TV and film are still even rarer than gay or lesbian parents—but the most well known, Bree in Transamerica, upholds the predominantly White image. The truth is far different. Researchers at UCLA’s Williams Institute have found that Black and Latino/a individuals in samesex couples are roughly twice as likely to be raising children compared to White ones. (There is little data on transgender parents and single gay and lesbian parents.) And children being raised by samesex couples are twice as likely to live in poverty as children being raised by married, opposite-sex parents. We rarely see those aspects of our community on TV or film, however. On a possibly promising note, though, singer and actor Jennifer Lopez is producing The Fosters, a pilot for ABC

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Family that features a lesbian couple with a “multi-ethnic mix” of four foster, adoptive, and biological kids. It is unknown yet what race or ethnicity the parents are. Lopez, who is Latina, will not be one of them, but perhaps her influence will mean they show some variety. Deadline has also reported that one of the mothers is a cop, and the other is a private school teacher— moderate-paying jobs that could mean it is hard for them to support their large family. The problem, of course, is not just with depictions of LGBT parents, but of LGBT people in general. But gay and lesbian parents are a hot item right now, as witnessed by the success of The Kids Are All Right and Modern Family, and the buzz about The New Normal and The Fosters. I hope their success leads to more new shows—shows that highlight even more facets of real LGBT families. I welcome The New Normal and know it will help people continue to see lesbian

and gay parents as part of the tapestry of American life. Such representation is vitally important. But until mainstream America can see LGBT people in all our diversity—and not simply as LGBT reflections of the White, upper middleclass American ideal—we will not have made progress towards true equality for our whole community. In fact, insofar as media images of LGBT parents continue to reinforce being White and upper middle-class as the ideal, they may be hindering progress towards the broader goal of inclusion for all people. The problem is not with any one show or film— but collectively, they create an image that is not that of our multiracial, multiethnic, economically varied America. Dana Rudolph is the founder and publisher of Mombian (www.mombian.com), an award-winning blog and resource directory for LGBT parents.

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After the AIDS Conference... By Marsharee Chronicle

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re we finally on a path to ending the HIV/AIDS epidemic? This July, as one of the organizations that make up ViiV Healthcare’s Positive Action Southern Initiative, Compass was invited to attend the International AIDS Conference in Washington D.C.  This was the first time in 22 years that this conference was held in the United States; which was made possible as a result of the U.S. finally lifting the ban on HIV positive travelers entering the country.  The conference theme, “Turning the Tide Together,” was a call to action for everyone to build the momentum to turn the tide on HIV and AIDS.   The first day of the conference, as I walked through the “Global Village” and visited the booths, I got to network with people from all around the world.  Although I met several amazing people and learned about the impact of HIV/AIDS in other parts of the world, the main thing I left with was a feeling of exhilaration from seeing so many young people in attendance and involved.  I remember being drawn to a particular networking zone by a booming sound of hip hop music and a large crowd gathered around a group of youth who were promoting condom usage through dancing and rapping.  The energy of the youth attendees

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was infectious.  I, like other attendees, truly got the sense that this generation could be the generation to end AIDS.  Part of my commitment when I returned from this conference was to ensure that for any other national HIV/AIDS conference, Compass would have representation from our younger staff members so that they can get a sense of how important it is that their generation gets involved and stays involved in the work. I am happy to report that through sponsorships from ViiV Healthcare Foundation and funding from the Elton John AIDS Foundation, we have two staff members in their early and mid twenties who will be attending this year’s United States Conference on AIDS (USCA) in Las Vegas, Nevada where the very first USCA was held in 1987.  This year’s USCA is focused on continuing the conversation that started at the International AIDS Conference--coming together to end the HIV/AIDS epidemic.  Since Compass began as the “Stop AIDS Project of South Florida” in 1988, we are looking forward to participating in these discussions and planning activities and do our part in the work to end HIV/AIDS.  Marsharee Chronicle is the Health Services Director at Compass Community Center. She can be reached at marsharee@compassglcc.com.

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COMMUNITY ANNOUNCEMENT

Strip Steaks for Equal Rights O

Vets group to hold fancy dinner fundraiser

By SFGN Staff

n Sept. 22, The Florida Gold Coast Chapter of the American Veterans for Equal Rights (AVER) wants you to come eat steak and donate to the cause. It’ll take place at an American Legion Post in Fort Lauderdale on a Saturday evening, all proceeds from the event going to the Poverello Food Bank, the Health Annex and other critical services provided by AVER. They’re calling it the “Cook-Out for Life” event, and the idea is to stray from the “run of the mill hot dog and hamburger BBQ that are normally promoted at such fundraisers and for only a few dollars more,” according to a statement. This will be the second time the cookout’s held, and anyone can decide to hold the event, according to Jim O’Hay, Poverello’s

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fund raising coordinator. The mission of the center is to help people with HIV/AIDS get through the week with food and other essentials. Events like these help the center get the funding it needs to carry out its mission. “It seems to be catching quite well, too,” O’Hay said. He’s a veteran himself, having served during Desert Storm. “As far as I know, [AVER]’s one of the only two organizations out there catering to the LGBT veteran population.” But O’Hay emphasized that they do need help, and this is the way to get it. Other than the food, attendees will also enjoy a full bar.

If you go When:

Saturday, Sept. 22, 4 p.m.

Where:

American Legion Post #36 1620 W State Rd. 84 Fort Lauderdale, FL 33315

How Much:

Free for the Celebration Meeting with a special guest speaker $17/$19 for the dinner and social at 5 p.m.

For more information, go to www.

poverello.org and www.aver.us/aver.

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Write What You Know Miami Writer Explores Sex By J.W. Arnold and I always say that I have inside of me a straight guy, a fag, a dyke, a couple of bisexuals and straight girls,” Goyanes says. “I’m very fluid. At different times, I feel like each of those people.” Despite her somewhat traditional upbringing in a conservative Cuban Catholic family in Homestead, her childhood was also in many ways unconventional, thanks to a mother she describes as “a bit crazy” and “Bohemian.” She came out at 17 in a “cinematic” way, after her mother caught her making out with a girlfriend after a date at the movies. She later confessed her sexuality to her father after a night of drinking, her way to “cope with the gay thing.” Years later, Goyanes describes herself as “omni- or pan-sexual, really starting to identify with ‘queer’ because it captures the fluid definition that I have internally. It’s

Bartenders, Boxers and Briefs Auctions brings in over $13,000 to local charity

Jackson Padgett and Mark Negrete, owners of Bill’s Filling Station, present a check for $13,072 to Chuck Nichollsand friends of Tuesday’s Angels from the 2012 Bartenders Boxers & Briefs Auction that was held on July 23 at Bill’s in Wilton Manors. The crowd was packed and the money was flowing! A big thanks goes out to the bartenders and generous bidders!

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s a kid, did you ever swipe one of your dad’s Penthouse magazines? Remember the letters in the back with the most amazing tales of real life sexual encounters? Chances are they weren’t written by just any guy down the street. Believe it or not, some of them may have been written by a 38-year-old queer woman in Miami. Ily Goyanes pays the bills as a freelance writer. She writes the usual stuff: corporate manuals, advertising copy, news items and blog posts for the Miami New Times — oh, and porn. As a young girl, Goyanes was an avid reader. “I just devoured books,” she recalls. “They were an escape from everyday existence.” By the age of 11, she was writing in journals and experimenting with poetry

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From Left to Right: JennyLee Molina, James Echols, Deborah Magdalena and Ily Goyanes.

before moving on to prose and fiction. She never thought she’d become a journalist, but sort of “fell into it.” She was introduced to erotica as a reviewer for the LGBT Erotica Examiner (“Some of it was so bad.”) and eventually pitched her own ideas for a book to one of the specialty publishers in the industry. “They liked it and then a bunch of porn stuff just fell into my lap,” she says with a chuckle. “It was raining porn. I realized I can write about sex all day long and get paid for it.” Now she pens all sorts of porn stories, especially confessionals. Her stories cover the gamut from gay and lesbian, straight and threesomes to bondage and fetish topics. “They say you write what you know

everything, I’m not restricting myself.” “When I write about these characters, it captures moments when I’ve felt that way,” she adds. Recently, Goyanes celebrated the release of her first anthology, Girls Who Score: Hot Lesbian Erotica, by Cleis Press and available from Barnes & Noble at BN.com and also at Amazon.com. Each of the 16 stories in the book focuses on the sexuality of female athletes, Goyanes says. “Women who play sports have an easy confidence about them, a natural nonchalance, and usually a killer bod, that draws all kinds of women to them — straight, bisexual, lesbian, curious.” Goyanes is always researching new projects, but for now, she is excited to hit the road to promote her new book.

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Congregation Etz Chaim On the campus of Temple Beth Torah

5700 NW 94th Ave, Tamarac, FL 33321 www.EtzChaimFlorida.org • 954-564-9232

High Holiday Service Schedule 5773 Rosh Hashanah: Sunday, Sept. 16 & Monday, Sept. 17 Yom Kippur: Tuesday, Sept. 25 & Wednesday, Sept. 26

All services are at Temple Bat Yam, 5151 NE 14th Terrace, Ft. Lauderdale EXCEPT concluding services, at 5700 NW 94th Ave, Tamarac.

Join us: Lunch on Rosh Hashanah & Break Fast after Yom Kippur Guest tickets are $100 for all services, $50 for one service Meals are $25 each For more info please go to www.EtzChaimFlorida.org

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Please join us for our free and welcoming

Grand opening

Saturday, september 29, 7pm On the campus of TBT, 5700 NW 94th Ave., Tamarac, FL

Featuring Special Guest Speaker

Debbie Wasserman Schultz And a performance by the Ensemble of

The Gay Men’s Chorus of South Florida Shana Tova!

VILLA TERESA ON THE RIVER The Luxury you deserve...The location you desire!

Completely renovated interiors, within walking distance to Wilton Drive, Featuring: • Stainless Steel Appliances • Porcelein Floors • Dishwasher • Central A/C • Granite Countertops • Pet Friendly

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A&E

Key West’s Womenfest Larger Than Ever Key West Business Guild estimates one million dollar revenue By SFGN Staff

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omenfest is over, hopefully to the dismay of the approximate 5,000 women who attended the Key West

A Party on Bourbon Street

Straight from the Key West Business Guild, here are a few shots from this year’s festival:

Photos Courtesy of Key West Business Guild

festival. The September festivities generated over a million dollars for the island, according to local businesses — from shopping to excursions to restaurants to bars. During September, which is a quiet season touristwise in all of South Florida, which makes the

event an important summer staple to Key West business. In the last five years, attendance has doubled for Womenfest, making more and more mainstream businesses willing to inch in on the party. The next Womenfest will take over the island from Sept. 3 to Sept. 8, 2013.

Rude Girl and Molly Blue

A Comedienne performing at Pearl’s Resort

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OPINION

Hilton Hits Home

This is how a hotel should treat you

By Brian Swinford

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all wet, though, check out the mini golf, tennis, and basketball courts. From the moment you arrive you encounter elegance and are greeted by a

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he Hilton Orlando is located on Destination Rd just minutes from all of Orlando’s theme parks. This year during One Magical Weekend in June I stayed at the Hilton Orlando, with my boyfriend and a couple of friends. This hotel has every thing that you are looking for when you go on vacation. When I visited I had the opportunity to stay in one of their suites. The one I stayed in had Hospitality parlors, a living room area and dining room table for 8, workstation, kitchenette and full bath. Most suites connect to guestrooms on one or both sides. Presidential and Signature Suites feature King master bedroom, parlor area, additional bathroom and kitchenette. But what’s really amazing about The Hilton Orlando is that it has one feature that separates it from the rest: its own waterpark featuring a lazy river, water basketball, water slides and more. If you’re not looking to get

The recreation area at the Hilton Orlando features a waterpark.

you come to you don’t want to leave, because everything you could think of is right here. After winding down from One Magical Weekend I thought that I would try one of the hotels’ fine restaurants: David’s Club Bar and Grille. Davids is an American “Gastro Pub” showcasing creative, contemporary, and comfort food. This elevated pub experience offers a high-energy environment with local craft beers and eclectic wines by the glass. At the Hilton Orlando, dining options are designed with you in mind. Start the day with a hearty breakfast or nutritious light bite; savor innovative dishes prepared with only the freshest ingredients, or simply relax with a cup of coffee in the hotel lounge. From business brunches to pre-dinner drinks and everything in between, the options at Hilton are endless. Visit www.TheHiltonOrlando.com for more information.

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SPOTLIGHT: The Arts By J.W. Arnold

By Brian Swinford

Have an event you want to list? If so send me an email at Calendar@sfgn.com.

Theater Palm Beach County *Romeo and Juliet

Palm Beach State College¹s theatre department will be presenting Romeo and Juliet on October 17-20 times varies. Tickets are $12 for general and $5 for students with ID. This play will take place at Duncan Theatre, which is located at Palm Beach State College. Visit Palmbeachstate.edu/theatre/ duncan-theatre

IL Volo

Coming off their acclaimed PBS TV special, Il Volo Takes Flight - Live From the Detroit Opera House, this trio of teenage tenors from Italy have become an international sensation. These three amazing singers will be at the Alexander W. Dreyfoos, Jr. Concert Hall at the Kravis Center on Sept. 13 at 7:30 p.m. Tickets start at $39.50. Visit Kravis.org

Jethro Tull’s Ian Anderson

One of the best-known and most popular progressive rock bands of all time, Jethro Tull released the groundbreaking album Thick As A Brick in 1972. Four decades later, Jethro Tull flautist and composer Ian Anderson is revisiting the musical genre, imagining the various characters young Gerald might have become in his journey to adulthood. This concert will be Sept. 19 at 8 p.m. at the Alexander W. Dreyfoos, Jr. Concert Hall at the Kravis Center. Visit Kravis.org

Jake Shimabukuro

Renowned for lightning-fast fingers and revolutionary playing techniques, this ukulele sensation’s concerts – featuring an array of genres including jazz, blues, funk, classical, bluegrass, folk, flamenco and rock – are a high-energy, jaw-dropping musical treat not to be missed. Jake Shimabukuro will be at the Alexander W. Dreyfoos, Jr. Concert Hall at the Kravis Center on Nov. 2 at 8 p.m. Tickets start at $15. Visit Kravis.org

Miami-Dade *ArcAttack

Creators of the original musical tesla coils, ArcAttack takes the stage on Sunday, Oct. 7 at Miramar Culture Center from 1 and 4 p.m. as part of the Family Theater Series presented by WastePro. This high-energy concert mixes science and the arts to create an electrifying performance. As seen on the popular TV show America’s Got Talent, ArcAttack’s six members use high tech wizardry, Tesla coils and robotic drums to produce rock, electronica, indie and punk music. Individual tickets are $15 with subscriptions offering savings of up to 15 percent. Visit Miramarculturalcenter.org

*Otherwise Known as Sheila the Great

Judy Blume’s best-selling book Otherwise Known as Sheila the Great from the Fudge series of books comes to life on Saturday, Oct. 13 at 11:30 a.m. and 1 p.m. as part of the Family Theater Series presented by WastePro. Sheila Tubman learns how to face her fear of dogs, swimming, spiders and more in this poignant coming-of-age musical. Individual tickets are $15 with subscriptions offering savings of up to 15 percent. Visit Miramarculturalcenter.org

*An Encounter with Simone Weil

The life of the French philosopher and political activist Simone Weil brings to light profound questions of moral responsibility in the film An Encounter with Simone Weil on Thursday, October 11 at 7:30 p.m., which will be screened as part of the Southern Circuit Independent Film Series. From the battlefields of the Spanish Civil War to anti-war protests in Washington D.C., from intimate exchanges between the filmmaker and her older brother, to captivating interviews with people who knew Weil, the film takes viewers on an unforgettable journey into the heart of what it means to be a compassionate human being. Tickets are $15. Visit Miramarculturalcenter.org

Rock of Ages

Rock of Ages, an arena-rock love story told through the mind blowing, face-melting hits of Journey, Night Ranger, Styx, Reo Speedwagon, Pat Benetar, Twisted Sister, Poison, Asia, and Whitesnakeand. Don’t miss this awesomely good time about dreaming big, playing loud and partying on! Oct. 9-14 at the Ziff Ballet Opera House at the Adrienne Arsht Center. Visit Arshtcenter.org

Idle Warship: Talib Kweli & Res

Talib Kweli’s buzzworthy duo act Idle Warship, with singer/ songwriter RES, will make its anticipated Florida debut at the Center’s Knight Concert Hall on Oct. 19. In 2009, the famed rapper joined longtime collaborator RES to form Idle Warship. The hip-hop/electro group released their first official album, Habits of the Heart, in November 2011. Visit Arshtcenter.org

Lenine

For his Arsht Center debut on Oct. 26, Lenine will perform hits from his highly-acclaimed career, including award-winning favorites “Ninguém Faz Idéia” and “Martelo Bigorna,” as well as new songs from his tenth album, Chão (Ground in English), produced by Bruno Giorgi, JR.Tostoi and LENINE himself. Chão consists of ten songs marked by intriguing, unconventional sounds like a canary’s chirp, a kettle’s whistle, a child’s heartbeat, waterfalls and a hypnotic digital ping-pong noise courtesy of a Facebook chat. Visit Arshtcenter.org

Light/The Project

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Humanity

Through Nov. 4, at the Arsht Center is convening community organizations, in partnership with the Anti-Defamation League, in a county-wide calendar of performances, activities, education programs and public forums. This program will be a three-month, county-wide human rights collaboration that will focus attention on the work that is being done in Miami-Dade County toward the protection of human rights against bigotry and hate. Visit ArshtCenter.org

Broadway in Miami 2012-13

This season Ziff Ballet Opera House on Oct. 9 to May 12 will hold the Broadway In Miami spectacle. Experience the return of the world’s greatest musical spectacle - Les Misérables - in its lavish new 25th anniversary production, along with the Miami premieres of Broadway’s biggest fun-filled hits - including the high-stepping Mary Poppins, the outlandishly colorful Priscilla, Queen of the Desert, the awesomely cool Rock of Ages, and - the 2010 Tony Award Winner for Best Musical Memphis, a triumph of explosive dancing and powerhouse songs. Visit Arshtcenter.org

C o m m u n it y Calendar Broward County *Rio at Rosie’s for Charity

On Thursday Sept. 20 from 6 p.m. to 9 p.m. Coldwell Banker Cares Foundation and Rosie’s Bar and Grille combine to provide a festive night of food, drinks, silent auction, raffles, DJ, music, and surprise visitors. The gorgeous Lady Fancy will MC and proceeds will go to local charities. Support our community while meeting old friends and making new ones. Only $35 per person, food and cocktails, plus free valet. Contact Thomas Dwyer at 954-847-5000 ext. 1169

*Pride Center Hosts Senior Health Expo

The Pride Center’s third annual LGBT Senior Health Expo will be held from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. on Saturday, Oct. 20 at The Pride Center, 2040 North Dixie Highway in Wilton Manors. The Expo will again provide Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) seniors with a unique, comprehensive overview of available healthcare services. Over fifty LGBT-friendly medical, professional, support and financial providers in the fields of healthcare, aging and geriatrics will showcase their services and products through this popular event. Contact: Kristofer Fegenbush, Pride Center Deputy Director at 954-4639005 ext. 111

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Nikolai Gogol’s The Diary of a Madman will be showing at the Mosaic Theatre until October 14.

Mosaic Kicks Off 2012-13 Season

Award-winning veteran actor Ken Clement takes the stage at MosaicTheatre this weekend in the regional premiere of Nikolai Gogol’s The Diary of a Madman. Clement stars as a lowly civil servant who ekes out a meager living in czarist Russia until driven mad by the mundane workings of the bureaucracy. Immobilized by the rigid social hierarchy, he cuts adrift from reality: hallucinating a canine love affair, imagining himself at a higher station in life, and conjuring up incredible new realms, all the while dragging the audiences deeper with him. Betsy Graver costars in the production at Plantation’s American Heritage School, 12200 W. Broward Blvd.Thursdays – Saturdays at 8 p.m., Sundays at 2 p.m. through Oct. 14. Tickets $36-40 at www.MosaicTheatre. com or call 954-577-8243.

Great Pas de Deux of the Classical Ballet

South Florida Ballet Theater presents one performance only of “The Great Pas de Deux Series V” on Sunday, Sept. 23 at 6 p.m. at the Broward Center. Executive Artistic Director Lynda DeChane will bring some of classical ballet’s most famous pas de deux to the Amaturo Theater, danced by some of the most celebrated

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performers of our time. Christine Hodges, a former principal dancer with Ballet Florida, Ballet Gamonet and SFBT, and Samuel Beckman, also a principal dancer who just completed a European tour, will perform the famous Carmen. The twilight matinee will also include the Coppelia pas de deux, danced by Rita Duclos and Ricardo Graziano of Sarasota Ballet, and Diana and Actaeon,danced by Sara Sardelli and Ricardo Rhodes, soloists Ballet.To Brunoalso Bernard, thewith manSarasota who “discovered” concludeMonroe, the program, all his thework dancers will at Marilyn will have on show take the stage for the popular ballet, Peter the World Erotic Art Museum from Sept. 12 to and the Wolf. Tickets are $20-50 at www. Nov. 30. BrowardCenter.org.

Jazz in Delray

The ArtsGarage continues its Jazz Project series on Saturday, Sept. 22 with percussionist Sammy Figueroa, one of New York’s most sought after session players. Figueroa is well known for his versatility, equally comfortable playing everything from R&B, rock and pop to electronic, bebop, Latin and New Age. He has been featured on numerous albums and film scores, appeared live with both the David Letterman Band and the Saturday Night Live Band, and recorded and toured with Miles Davis, Chaka Khan and Mariah Carey. Tickets are $20-30 in advance, $25-35 at the door. For tickets and more information, go to www. ArtsGarage.org.

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By Brian Swinford

Have an event you want to list? If so send me an email at Calendar@sfgn.com.

*Whitney Houston and Donna Summer Tribute

Songs we all know and love made famous by the one and only Whitney Houston and Donna Summer will come to life when Lips, the ultimate in drag dining, presents “A TRIBUTE” to benefit Women In Distress on Sunday, Sept. 23 at 7 p.m. This one night only dinner and show, hosted by leading female illusionist Diva. Visit Womenindistress.org/divas-glitz-glam or call 954-760-9800, ext. 1253

*Fort Lauderdale Zombie Walk

Fort Lauderdale Zombie Walk is an annual event that encourages the community to dress up like zombies and march around downtown Ft Lauderdale This event will take place Oct. 12. Doors at Green Room open at 6 p.m. for an all ages crowd. Make-up will be provided by Body Art By Keegan and an army of make-up artists inside Green Room from 6 to 10 p.m. (costs TBA). Entertainment throughout, including carnival-style games, DJs, live entertainment, and an art show. Visit Zombieftl.com

*Fort Lauderdale Gay and Lesbian Film Festival

For the fourth annual Ft. Lauderdale Gay and Lesbian Film Festival (FLGLFF), Oct. 4 through 7, the schedule of films showcased will expand to nearly 40 films, including a mix of men’s and women’s interest screenings, short films and documentaries, including a special documentary, “I Stand Corrected,” on transgender jazz bassist Jennifer Leitham, who has performed with Mel Torme and Doc Severinsen among others. Visit Flglff. com or call 305-751-6305

*The South Florida Gay Flag Football League

Boys and Girls of South Florida, are you ready to play some football? The South Florida Gay Flag Football League (SFGFFL) http://sfgffa.com/FallSeason is right around the corner! South Florida’s most exciting and social sports league will hold mandatory new player clinics for all new and returning players on Saturday, Sept. 29 at Noon to 2 p.m. The SFGFL welcomes players from every skill level. As an inclusive league, we welcome all players regardless of their gender or sexual orientation. Visit Facebook.com/groups/286707928027779

*Fort Lauderdale Garden Club Presents “Gardening in South Florida”

Learn about gardens and gardening in South Florida. Garden club members will be available to answer your questions. On Oct. 5 at the Garden Center at Hugh Taylor Birch State Park with Coffee at 9:30 a.m. and the program starts at 10 a.m. Contact Donna Parker at 954-464-3928.

Adventure Bears - Fall 2012 Caribbean Cruise

Adventure Bears offers a truly unique travel experience where you can relax/recharge from a stressful job or be social with other like-minded traveler -- all while being pampered on one of the finest cruise lines in the world, Princess Cruise newest ship, the Ruby Princess. Call or email Paul B. Stalbaum at paul@crusiedesignstravel.com or 954-566-3377

Breast Cancer “PINKOUT”

Join Gallery 101 as they host another Great Fashion and Art Exibit for a Wonderful Cause. Gallery 101 has had a Breast Cancer event for the past 2 years. One which included a Full Runway Fashion Show with Breast Cancer Heros. They will again revisit this Tradition as we Present “PINKOUT.” Live Singing Proformances By Florida Opera Tenor Rolando Polo and special guest. Sept. 29, 7 p.m. to 10 p.m. Visit Rapunzelproject.org/OurStory.aspx

Broward House presents Wanda Sykes, A World AIDS Day Benefit Concert

Sykes will make her only South Florida appearance in 201213 in this one-night only engagement during World AID Days weekend on Dec 2, at 8 p.m. at the Broward Center Au Rene Theater as a benefit for Broward House, Broward County’s oldest and largest HIV/AIDS community service organization. Wanda Sykes is considered “one of the funniest stand up comics” by her peers and ranks among Entertainment Weekly’s 25 Funniest People in America. Visit BrowardCenter.org

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Pozitive Attitudes 

Life Coaching

Topic driven Peer lead support group for gay and bisexual men who are infected or affected by HIV/AIDS.  Meets every Wednesday 7-9 p.m. at the Pride Center 204 N.Dixie Hwy Room 204.   Refreshments, no charge, open meeting. PAHereandNow@aol.com  www.PozitiveAttitudes.com

Latinos Salud’s Life Coaching program is for Latino gay/bi guys ages 18-44. Come by Monday through Friday 11 a.m. to 7 p.m. for free one-on-one life coaching with certified CRCS coaches. Set your goals, and meet action steps to make them come true. 2330 Wilton Drive. Call 954-765-6239. Visit Latinossalud.org

Queer Youth Friday Nights

S.L.A.A. believes that sex and love addiction is a progressive illness which cannot be cured but which, like many illnesses, can be arrested. It may take several forms -- including, but not limited to, a compulsive need for sex, extreme dependency on one or many people, or a chronic pre-occupation with romance, intrigue, or fantasy. Meets at The Pride Center at Equality Park in Bldg A, Room 200 Fridays 7 p.m. to 8 p.m. Visit Slaafws.org

LGBTQ and allied youth group for people13-21. This Is a drop in group anytime from 6 p.m. to 10:30 p.m. This youth group will be SunServe building on 1480 SW 9th Ave on the second floor. A Safe Space to be yourself! Queer Themed Movie showing at 7 p.m. on Friday nights. This group is a safe hangout to meet new friends, free Wi-Fi to bring your laptop or your iPad, plus board games that you can bring or play the ones that they provide at the group. Visit Sunserve.org/youth/index.htm

GLBX Business Advantage Referral Group

GLBX Business Advantage Referral Group will be held at the chamber offices on the 1st and 3rd Wednesday of the month from 8 to 9 a.m. The leads group is looking for additional members. If you are interested joining, please contact Ken Stollar at Kenneth.Stolar@sci-us.com to see if your category is open and to attend as a guest. Visit Ftlchamber.com/index. php?src=gendocs&ref=GLBX_home&category=GLBX

Queer Youth Nights

LGBTQ & allied youth 13-21 are welcome any time after 6 p.m. at the SunServe building on Wilton Drive for a great place to meet new friends, play board games and a Queer Themed Movie at 7 p.m. Email Afrosch@sunServe.org

Latinos Salud’s programs

Multiple programs and groups for bi/gay Latino guys. Latinos Salud’s SOMOS program is for guys 18 to 30. All proceeds will benefit Latinos Salud in our efforts to educate on HIV Prevention and testing. Every Thursday night at 7 p.m. join the Core Group, and help plan alternative activities. Also offers Popular Opinion Leader group for guys ages 25 to 44 and a Life Coaching program for guys ages 18 to 44. Come by Monday through Friday 11 a.m. to 7 p.m. for free one-on-one life coaching with certified CRCS coaches. Located at 2330 Wilton Drive. Call 954-533-8681 or visit Latinossalud.org

Man2Man Discussion

Man2Man Discussion Group meets at the Pride Center on Mondays from 7 until 8:30 p.m. Any subject may be discussed. Members regularly reassemble afterwards for ‘repast’ at The Courtyard, PeterPan Diner. Visit Glccsf.org

Meditation After Work

On Mondays from 6-6:30 p.m. there will be Guided meditation w/ western Buddhist teacher Gui Passow. Looking for a way to rest and re-charge before starting your evening? Come in for a free guided meditation to clear your mind at the end of the day. This class is free at Drolma Buddhist Center. Call 954-537-9191 or visit meditationinfortlauderdale.org

Buddhist Meditation Classes

All the happiness there is in the world arises from wishing others to be happy. By abandoning self-centered thoughts and replacing them with the belief that others are important, we will overcome our suffering and find true happiness inside our own hearts. $10/class or $30/series includes vegetarian food after class. Call The Drolma Buddhist Center at 954-537-9191.

Dream Car Classic

Every Sunday of the month from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Pre-1980s classic cars, modern classics and custom cars from 1981-2012 will be showcased. $10 car registration from 8 a.m. to 10 a.m. (Show Car Entrance: 20th Avenue & Tyler Street). People’s Choice Award - 2 Classes; Top Ten Vehicles Award. Call 954214-2457

Living Healthy

Fusion in Wilton Manors will be having a free workshop on healthy choices, and healthy living on Tuesdays from 6 p.m. to 8 p.m. This workshop provides interactive learning, practice and mastery techniques for a healthier and more active life, and positive changes for quality of life. Call 954-630-1655

Sex & Love Anonymous

Survivor Support

A Survivor Support Group is being held on the first and third Wednesday of each month at the 211 Community Center, 250 NE 33rd Street, in Oakland Park. The Florida Initiative for Suicide Prevention (FISP) is sponsoring this free support group and is open to all family members and friends of those who have died by suicide. Call 954-384-0344 to register. Meets from 7-8:30 p.m. Visit Fisponline.org.

Eating Disorder Support

Meets Friday evenings from 6 p.m. - 7:30 p.m. At Sun Serve’s Wilton Manors location at 2123 Wilton Drive, second floor. A “drop-in” psycho-educational support group. Free. No registration required. Donations welcome. Call 954-764-5150

Sunday Jazz Brunch

First Sunday of every month. An ideal way to relax and enjoy Fort Lauderdale’s scenic Riverwalk. Live, outdoor concert series bringing the area’s best local jazz artists. Listen to the soulful sounds on four different stages. Well-behaved, leashed pets welcome. Plenty of room for chairs, blankets and picnic baskets.

Young Adult GLBT

A social group open to all LGBT people ages 18-35. Meets Fridays at the Pride Center in Wilton Manors from 7:15-9 p.m. Meeting starts with a discussion on current events followed by introductions and then a group activity. Visit PrideCenterFlorida.org/contact-us

Boardwalk Friday Fest

Come out to Hollywood Beach Theatre East of A1A at Johnson St and the ocean. Admission: Free every Friday of every month. Live jazz, blues, pop and everything in between along Hollywood’s signature 2.5 mile boardwalk. Charming oceanfront cafes and restaurants serve up delicious innovative cuisine while you enjoy the best array of live music and tropical ocean breezes. Visit Hollywoodfl.org or call 954-924-2980

Toastmasters

Most Toastmasters meetings are comprised of about 20 people who meet weekly for an hour or so. Participants practice and learn skills by filling a meeting role, ranging from giving a prepared speech or an impromptu one to serving as timer, evaluator or grammarian. Toastmasters meet at the GLCC/ Pride Center Monday at 7:15 p.m. Call Ted Verdone at 954-5662074 or email: Tedverdone@comc​ast.net

Tuesday Night Eatin Meeting

Tuesday Night Eatin’ Meeting will be held at The Alternative MC Clubhouse at 4322 NE 5th Ave in Oakland Park. Fun, food, and fellowship. There will be hamburgers, hotdogs, all the fixins, cold drinks, desserts, and snacks. Meeting begins at 8 p.m. and ends at 9 p.m. Visit Alternativemc.com/events/ florida-events

Gay Male Empowerment

Topic discussions include issues and concerns about being a gay man in South Florida. Meets Thursdays at the Pride Center from 7 - 8:30 p.m. Call 954-353-9155

PFLAG

Meets on the 2nd and 4th Tues. of the month at the Sunshine Cathedral at 1480 SW 9th Avenue to support the parents of LGBTQ youth in Broward. No charge. Visit Community.pflag.org/ pflagfortlauderdale

SunServe Therapy Groups

Provided for the LGBT community at SunServe on a regular basis. Call the Intake Coordinator at 954-764-5150 to learn which therapy groups have openings. Groups Include a Gay Men’s HIV+ Long Time Survivors’ Group, a Safe “T” support group for gender variant adults, an Intimate Partner Abuse group and others. Visit SunServe.org

Fusion Wilton Manors - Connections

Gay men’s group discussion. Different subject every week. Dr. David Fawcett, a gay therapist, who has been in private practice in Fort Lauderdale for the last ten years, leads the event. No charge. Starts at 7 p.m. Call 954-630-1655.

Women4Women Support

A safe and loving place to explore all the concerns and topics raised by group members. This open drop-in meeting is held Wednesdays at 6 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. at the New Sun Serve Building at 2312 Wilton Drive in Wilton Manors. Call 954-764-5150

Man2Man Discussion

Man-2-Man talk is an informal discussion group of gay men, with all age ranges and backgrounds welcomed. Bldg A, Room 206. Visit Glccsf.org/calendar/

Palm Beach County *Flavor Palm Beach

Savor the best of local dining from Sept. 1 to 30 with Flavor Palm Beach as it showcases the culinary delights found throughout The Palm Beaches and Boca Raton. From surf and turf to burgers and fries, Flavor Palm Beach along with local restaurants invites you to enjoy a three-course lunch for $20 and/or dinner for $30 or $35 per person. Visit Flavorpb.com

*Palm Beach Food & Wine Festival

Foodies have a reason to celebrate as a flood of epicurean talent descends upon the area for the Palm Beach Food & Wine Festival 2012. Award-winning chefs and culinary personalities, authors, winemakers, journalists, and mixologists are creating a culinary event of a magnitude never before seen on the illustrious island and beyond. This sixth anniversary year of the Festival includes an expanded lineup, growing from five nights of culinary delights to nearly a dozen events with both day and evening programming, including a star chef golf tournament and trade-only panel discussion. On Dec7-11 at various locations. Visit Pbfoodwinefest.com

*Palm Beaches Marathon & Run Fest

December in Florida and striding through tropics. Now that will impress your friends and family. Palm Beaches Marathon & Run Fest isn’t just a race or a way to keep in shape before the holiday parties and cheer; it’s a vacation onto itself. This event will start and finish on Flagler drive on Nov 20-Dec 2. Visit Runpalmbeaches.com

*Oktoberfest

Next to the Christmas tree, Oktoberfest is the most popular custom Germany (actually Bavaria) has ever exported to the rest of the world. The American German Club of the Palm Beaches proudly hosts its time-honored Oktoberfest on the second and third weekends of October. A yearly celebration of beer and good times held on ten acres of ground, under pavilion and massive tent; making this “Original Oktoberfest” one of the largest in the country. Visit Americangermanclub.org/ oktoberfest.html

Lake Worth Bike Night

The Lake Worth bike night is fun, and it’s for a cause. Join loads of people in downtown Lake Worth every Thursday from 7 p.m.-10 p.m.. The event is free and open to bikers and nonbikers. Visit Lakeworthbikenight.com

Alternative Life Style Show Featured guests contribute to the community. All are welcomed to call in. Many give aways and prizes including a contest for free buffets at  Isle Capri Casino in Pompano. You can also listen by adding W4CYRADIO to SKYPE or call in at  561-623-9429. Up coming spotlights on parties of interest and special events.

PFLAG

PFLAG is a monthly support, coming out and rap groups for families of & for Gay, Lesbian, Bi, and Transgender people. Meeting in Palm Beach County is at 6:30 on the third Wednesday of the month. Call or email Carol at 561-716-9464 Pflag@ pobox.com

New Alternatives

Social group with regular outings and social mixers for LGBTQ ages 18 to 30. This meeting will take place at The Gay & Lesbian Community Center of Palm Beach County. Email matthew@ compassglcc.com or Visit Compassglcc.com.

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Sober Sisters AA

Support group is dedicated for lesbians who are recovering from alcoholism. Meeting happens every Monday at 7 p.m. at Lambda North Clubhouse. Visit LambdaNorth.net

PBC Gender Support

All ages support group dedicated for transgender individuals. This meeting happens the 1st and 3rd Thursday of every month at 7:30 p.m. These meeting will take place at The Gay & Lesbian Community Center of Palm Beach County. Visit Compassglcc.com

Good Orderly AA

These meetings now take place at Lambda North at 18 S. J Street, and geared toward recovering alcoholics. Every Tues. and Thurs. at 7 p.m. and on Sat. at 5:30 p.m. These meetings will help recovering alcoholics cope with the stress of everyday life without the use of alcohol. Email tcamie@aol.com

Seniors vs. Crime

Seniors vs. Crime is a free service that provides help to seniors who have been victimized by businesses or service providers and need assistance. This event will take place at Mae Volen Senior Center at 1515 W. Palmetto Park Road. By appointment only so call 561-736-3820 or 561-395-8920.

Paths

Paths is a social/discussion group held at Compass in Lake Worth. This men’s group takes place every Monday from 7:30 p.m. to 9 p.m. Paths men’s group will be discussing relationships, coming out, safer sex issues and more. Visit Compassglcc.com

Yoga

Yoga with Deborah will change your life. Bring a mat and get ready to stretch the stress away every Tuesday at The GLCC in Palm Beach from 6 to 7 p.m. This yoga experience will uplift and transform your life. $6 Entry Fee. You must bring your own mat. Visit Compassglcc.com

Living Buddhism

On the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 7 p.m. Compass in Lake Worth will be holding a discussion group for overcoming obstacles and obtaining happiness. This group is great for getting internal enlightenment. Release your inner stress, and become free. Visit Compassglcc.com

Miami-Dade *Aqua Affair

Lake Pavilion at 101 S. Flagler Drive, West Palm Beach, FL / Yoga On The Waterfront in downtown West Palm Beach on Wednesday Evenings at 5:45 p.m. Residents $40 per 8 week session, Non-Residents $50 per 8 week session, Drop-ins $10 per class. To register, please call 561-804-4902.

The whole community is invited to Aqua Affair at the sultry red room in the Shore Club on Sat Sept. 29 from 7 p.m. to 10 p.m. This event is to celebrate our scholarship recipients and to bis on one of the best silent auctions ever. This event will have open bar, light fare and sexy sounds. Sponsored by Grey Goose Cherry Noir and Bacardi. Email robin@aquafoundation. org

YOGA Among the Orchids

*Hispanic Art Expressions Exhibit 2012

Yoga On The Waterfront

It’s time for Yoga Among the Orchids at the American Orchid Society, 16700 AOS Lane, Delray Beach. Relax and replenish the flower inside with an hour of breathing exercises, toning, and yoga poses under a canopy of lush orchids. Classes are Wed. at 9 a.m. Cost is $20 and RSVP is suggested. Call 561404-2011. Visit OrchidWeb.org

Jazz on the Palm

Jazz on the Palm - Downtown West Palm Beach Waterfront - Gather with friends and family to enjoy the diverse vibrant sounds of jazz under the stars every 3rd Friday of month at the new Downtown West Palm Beach waterfront concert series. Free and open to the public. Guests are encouraged to bring blankets and chairs. From 8 p.m. to 10 p.m. Visit Wpbgo. com/2010/06/jazz-on-the-palm

Sunday on the Waterfront

Sunday on the Waterfront is a free concert series, which takes place the third Sunday of most months in the beautiful downtown West Palm Beach waterfront area. Bring blankets, chairs, and coolers or purchase treats at the concert. Free parking in all city lots and at city meters. 4:30 p.m. to 7 p.m. May through October. Visit OnTheWaterFront.com

BrothasSpeak

This group is a black gay men’s discussion group that is held at the Compass in West Palm Beach. Every Wednesday from 7 p.m. to 8 p.m. this group will be directed toward issues for and about black men. Visit Compassglcc.com

Dolphin Mall will showcase the 13th year of the Hispanic Art Expressions Exhibit on Sept. 28 from 8:30 p.m. to 10:30 p.m., which includes the work of 35 local Hispanic artists, representing various countries. The Hispanic Art Expressions Exhibit aims to raise awareness of visual art as a form of Hispanic culture and help Miami-Dade citizens foster a better understanding of each other’s roots and cultures. Visit Shopdolphinmall.com.

Drag Queens at Sea

Join ALandCHUCK.travel and CRUISE on Dec 1, with the largest gathering of Drag Stars ever! Join nearly 40 stars along with Celebrity Hostess Michelle Visage for an incredible 8 day cruise with cocktail parties, drag performances, comedy shows, Q&A panels and so much more. Visit Facebook.com/ events/148246971907863/

ORGULLO Festival

Rainbow Circle

Rainbow Circle is a peer-led LGBTQ support & discussion group. Topics covered often include coming out, relationships, bullying, peer pressure, drugs & alcohol, depression and self-esteem. You pick and develop discussion topics and are able to express your thoughts and feelings without fear in a safe and supportive environment. This group will take place every Monday from 6 p.m. to 8 p.m. at the University of Miami, Flipse Building #302. Visit Pridelines.org

Sex Talk

Sex Talk: Peer Health Educators are young LGBTQ adults who learn how to talk to other young adults about sex, sexuality and HIV/STD prevention. You’ll conduct outreach events, record video messages, participate in a series of performances and organize special events with a purpose. This event takes place the second and fourth Thursday every month at Pridelines Headquarters located at 9526 NE 2nd Ave #104 In Miami Shores from 6 p.m. to 8 p.m. Visit Pridelines.org

AIDS Quilt Panel Workshops

Miami Beach Community Health Center’s “Making Memories” will assist those interested in creating an AIDS Quilt panel as a way to pay tribute to a life lost to AIDS. Workshops are held the fourth Saturday of every month through October. 1 p.m. to 3 p.m. Workshops are free. Visit Miamibeachhealth. org or 305-538-8835 or 1-800-393-1290

Lambda Dade Clubhouse

A meeting place for the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgender communities and friends in recovery. Hosts Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Al-Anon, Crystal Meth Anonymous (CMA), Debtors Anonymous (DA), Narcotics Anonymous (NA), and Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA), meetings. (305) 573-9608. 212 NE 24th Street. Miami. Visit Lambdadadeclubhouse.org

The Depot Cabana Bar and Grill

2935 N. Federal Hwy, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33304, (954) 5377076. Voted the “Friendliest” Gay Bar in Fort Lauderdale. Monday’s $1.99 Drinks and $.50 wings open to close

Dudes Bar

3270 NE 33rd St Fort Lauderdale FL 954-568-7777. Sexy hot men starting to shake the booty daily from 6 p.m. to 9 p.m. On Sundays enjoy karaoke with Peter Petrucci. Great drink specials every Monday with $1 well drinks from 9 p.m. to 2 a.m.

Georgie’s Alibi

2266 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305, (954) 5652526. Fort Lauderdale’s best & longest happy hour. Wednesdays $2 Domestics & $1 Schnapps after 9 p.m.

Johnny’s

1116 W. Broward Blvd., Fort Lauderdale, FL 33312, (954) 5225931. Monday Dragon with TP Lords, Daisy D. and DJ Rob Sky Some of the hottest guys around with great happy hour drink specials. Bring all your friends to this sexy Bar.

The Manor

2345 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305 (954) 626 0082 - Come Dine, Dance, Drink, Mingle and of course Relax. 2 for 1 happy hour Tues-Friday 3 to 9 p.m. Indoor/Outdoor Dining. Dance the night away Thursday through Sunday. Live music Wed., Fri., Sat., Sun. Visit themanorcomplex.com

Matty’s on the Drive

2426 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305 (954) 564-1799. Matty’s is one of the few bars in Wilton Manors that’s just that –a bar. Wild Wednesday’s $.75 Drinks, 13 Drinks for less than $10. 5 p.m.

Mona’s

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321-Slammer

Bathhouse. 321 W Sunrise Blvd, Fort Lauderdale, Florida, 33311. Slammer sex club the best place to cruise for the hottest gay men. Thursday’s is leather night, Friday and Saturday night live DJs. Monday & Tuesday -- $9 entry fee

502 E. Sunrise Boulevard, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33304, (954) 5256662. The eclectic décor and a friendly staff makes. Mona’s a great place to have fun in Fort Lauderdale. Thursday’s College Boy’s Night 8 p.m. Enjoy College Boy’s Choice 2 for 1

Monkey Business

2740 North Andrews Ave, Wilton Manors, FL 33311. (954) 514-7819. The Monkey Business Bar is a Small Outdoor Bar Among The Shops Just off Marina Blvd. No Frills But Comfortable and a Great Place to Stop and Meet Good People. Happy Hour 8 a.m. to 9 p.m.

Naked Grape Wine Bar

2039 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305. (954) 563-5631. A Casual, Hip, Fun Experience and if You Have a Taste for Deliciously Unique Wines, You Need to Make This Your Next Stop! Happy Hour All Night on Thursday

The world-wide Hispanic LGBT community will gather in Miami Beach on October 6th for the Celebrate ORGULLO Festival. The event is the first of its kind in the U.S. and showcases the community during the month of October, Hispanic Heritage Month. Miami Beach is world renowned for their gayfriendly atmosphere that city organizations such as the Miami Beach Visitor and Convention Authority help cultivate through services like the Pink Flamingo Program and the LGBT Welcome Center on Miami Beach. More information on the festival can be found at Unitycoalition.org.

Atomic Boom

Fiona Apple at The Fillmore

1721 N. Andrews Ave, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33311. (954) 463-6969. A Cute Little Hangout in Fort Lauderdale.

924 North Flagler Drive, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33304, (954) 533-0257. One of The Most Diverse Bars in Fort Lauderdale. $2 Drinks Every Wednesday, Spades Every Thursday

Pool-room/game room on one side and a bar/strip club on the other. Mondays $3 Well & Dom, after 9 p.m. $3 U-Call-It Shots

Ramrod

The Fillmore in Miami Beach will have Fiona Apple performing Fiona Apple is an American singer-songwriter and pianist. Apple garnered international acclaim for her 1996 debut album, Tidal, which was a critical and commercial success. She received a Grammy Award for Best Female Rock Vocal Performance for the single “Criminal” from that album in 1998. Sept. 30. Fillmore in Miami Beach. Visit Fillmoremb.com

Ransom Mondays

Need an excuse to keep partying well after the weekend is over? The Monday-night party at the recently renovated Collins Park lounge. This amazing party will take place at Mokai in Miami Beach. The party, hosted by Mark Lehmkuhl, sort of takes now-defunct Bella Rose’s Black Sunday murder mystery theme but gives it a Patty Hearst twist. Every week, some prominent nightlife fixture gets held for ransom, and the only way it gets returned is if you party your ass off. Only $20 to attend. Visit Mokaimiami.com

2232 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305, (954) 630-3556 Best Sound & Light Show in Broward County. Mondays “porn bingo” with Desiree Dubois. $3 Margaritas, $1 Draft

Bill’s Filling Station

2209 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305, (954) 567-5978. Large bar/ nightclub, amazing drink specials in Wilton Manors! Wednesday’s after 9 p.m. $10 Miller Lite Beer Bust

Boardwalk

The Club Fort Lauderdale

Bathhouse. 110 NW 5th Ave., Fort Lauderdale, FL, (954) 5253344 Good. Clean. Fun. 1/2 price rooms...Tuesday Nights and 1/2 price Lockers. Thursdays Nights. Always busy.

Clubhouse II

Bathhouse. 2650 E. Oakland Park Blvd, Fort Lauderdale, Florida (954) 566-6750. A Private Club for Bi/Gay men. “bear and cub” Thursday $4 Off For Bear & Cub. Tuesday leather night - $4.off wear any type of leather.

Corner Pub Bar

1915 N. Andrews Ave, Wilton Manors, FL 33311, (954) 564-7335. Redefining what a bar should be. Thursday’s margarita madness $4, Monday’s “Underwear Night. 2 for 1” until 9:30 p.m.

Cubby Hole

823 N. Federal Highway, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33304, (954) 728-9001. The Cubby Hole is one of Fort Lauderdale’s most unique and popular Neighborhood bar for men. Underwear Wednesday’s. “Boxers n’ Briefs” get 2 for 1 drinks 9 p.m. to close

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New Moon

2440 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305, (954) 563-7660. Your neighborhood lesbian bar in the heart of Fort Lauderdale and just minutes from Fort. Lauderdale Beach. Wednesday All the fun, half the price 2-4-1 All Day, All Night

PJ’s Corner Pocket

1508 NE 4th Ave, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33304, (954) 763-8219. South Florida’s Leading Levi, Leather and Uniform Bar/Club. Every night is Bear Night. Bear Happy. Hour Every Thursday. Caged Hunks Sat Night

Rosie’s Bar and Grill

2449 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305, (954) 567-1320. Wilton Manor’s Best Burger in Town. Try the Fat Elvis. Happy Hour 5 p.m. to 9 p.m.

Scandals Country Western Bar

Oakland Park, FL 3334, (954) 567-2432. Scandals Gay and Lesbian Country Western. Dance Bar in Wilton Manors. Tuesdays Pool League, and Free Dance Lessons

Sidelines Sports Bar

2031 Wilton Drive, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33305, (954) 563-8001. Sidelines Sports Bar and Billiards is a unique, friendly, and accepting place to relax with a cold beer, great drinks and Martinis. Happy Hour M-F 4 p.m. to 2 a.m.

Smarty Pants

3038 North Federal Hwy, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33306, (954) 561-1724. Great Local Hangout in Fort Lauderdale with Great Drink Specials. Saturday’s Free Breakfast to Order – 8 a.m.

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205 East Oakland Park Blvd., Oakland Park, FL 33334, (954) 565-4506 A neighborhood bar with a different theme every night, from drag shows and bingos, to bears and underwear.

Torpedo

2829 W. Broward Blvd., Fort Lauderdale, FL 33312, (954) 587-2500. Your Dance Destination Till Dawn. Open Late for You To Devour The Night. Open 7 nights a week till 4 a.m.

Palm Beach County

The Cottage (Tea-Dance Sundays)

522 Lucerne Ave, Lake Worth, Fl, 33414. (561) 586-0080 Great Service, Great Food, Full Stocked Bar, Great Professional Tea-Dance every Sunday

Fort Dix

6205 Georgia Ave, West Palm Beach, Florida 33405 Directions, (561) 533-5355. Mostly local crowd looking to mingle and relax. Place rocks with a Fabulous DJ on Fridays, Saturdays, and Sunday T-Dance.

H.G. Rooster

The Mad Hatter

1532 North Dixie Hwy ,Lake Worth, FL 33460. (561) 547-8860. Cheap drinks, friendly bartenders, and free pool SundayThursday. Stop by and relax at this no-attitude haunt.

The Bar Lake Worth

2211 North Dixie Highway Lake Worth. (561) 370-3954 Thebarlakeworth.com. Men and women share this mostly-locals space as a calm and friendly watering hole. The bar often features live music which can be a nice break from thumping bass.

Tag Bar

25 Northeast 2nd Avenue, Delray Beach, FL 33483 954-801-3247. Delray Beach’s only gay bar. Mon - Sun: 4 p.m. - 2 a.m. Awesome Drink Specials.

Miami-Dade Club Space

34 NE 11th St ,Miami ,Florida, 33132,(305) 350-1956 Space Miami Voted Best U.S Club IDMA 2011. The go-to venue for any nightlife enthusiast in the nation, the club is proudly marching on into its second decade of operation.

823 BELVEDERE ROAD, WEST PALM BEACH FLORIDA 33405, (561)-832-9119. H.G. Roosters is West Palms oldest gay club. Sunday’s Complimentary BBQ 5 p.m., Hot Male Dancers 6 p.m., Karaoke 11 p.m.

Club Sugar

Mara (Thurs-Sat)

Discotekka

1132 North Dixie Highway, Lake Worth FL $3 Drinks. No Cover. Open till 5 a.m. Ladies night on Thursdays and Karaoke on Fridays.

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2301 SW 32nd Ave, Miami, Florida, 33145, (305) 443-7657. All the sweetness you’ll need in one club. Every Thursday “drag wars” with TP Lords. $5 house drinks & $4 Domestic beers all night. 950 NE 2nd Ave, Downtown Miami, Florida 33132,(305) 3509084. One of the best night clubs In Miami. Every Saturday the hottest DJ’s from the top performers. Drink Special Every Saturday

Johnny’s

The Bourbon St. Pub

Miami 62 NE 14 Street Downtown Miami Florida (305) 640-8749. Open Wed. through Sun. The hottest men in the universe strip shows nightly from 6 p.m. sexy from wall to wall. Free entrance. Free parking. Free VIP rooms. Featuring the Hottest Male Dancers and The Best VIP ROOMS and always $5 Drinks. Full Lineup at ed at 

724 Duval St. (305) 296-1992. Key West’s premier video bar with LIVE DJ’S nightly. A taste of N’Awlins in the heart of Old Town – Enjoy Key West’s hottest music videos on the large screen while the boys entertain on the bar. No Cover.

http://www.Facebook.com/JohnnysMiami Score

La Te Da

727 Lincoln Rd, Miami Beach, Florida, 33139. (305) 561-5521. Score is located in the heart of South Beach in the thriving and infamous promenade, Lincoln Road. Bigger Saturday’s sexy male dolls.

1125 Duval St. 305-296-6706 Fun Gay-Friendly atmosphere. Cabaret entertainment during season including Randy Roberts and Chris Peterson. Enjoy great live music Tuesday thru Sunday with Lenore Troia. Cover charge may apply. Great outside bar if you just want to enjoy a cocktail and chat while people watching on Duval Street.

Swinging Richards

Club Aqua

Twist

Kwest

17450 Biscayne Blvd, N Miami Beach, Fl 33160 954-357-2532 Tuesdays-Saturdays from 6 p.m. to 6 a.m. Come and enjoy fully nude guys dancing to the best music in South Florida. 1057 Washington Ave, Miami Beach, Fl, 33139. (305) 538-9478. Never a Cover…Always a Groove. Resident star DJ Mika spins tribal. Every Saturday TWIST is full of the hottest men in Miami. Muscle boy dancers taking it off in the Bungalow Bar.

Key West 801 Bar

801 Duval St., Key West, Florida,(305) 294-4737. Cabaret shows upstairs with nightly performances by famed performers Sushi, Kylie, RV Beaumont, Margo, and others. Happy hour specials daily from 11 a.m.- 8 p.m.

711 Duval St.,Key West, Florida,(305) 294-0555. Monday’s Dueling Bartenders. Your Bartender’s sing, shake, and stir their way through happy hour 5:30 p.m. - 8:30 p.m. 705 Duval St. , Key West, Florida,(305) 292-8500. Key West AllMale Strip Club. Daily Happy Hour from 3-8 p.m. And a piano sing-a-long every Wednesday night.

Pearl’s Patio Bar

525 United Street, Key West, FL(305) 293-9805 ext. 156. Pearl’s Patio is a great place to enjoy a drink and relax. Happy Hour – every weekday from 5 p.m. to 7 p.m. Friday’s are Extended Happy Hour 5 p.m. - 9 p.m.

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Lipstick & Violence T

Lips Tribute Dinner Benefits Victims of Domestic Violence

By J.W. Arnold

he music world lost two great artists this year, but the anthems of Donna Summer and Whitney Houston will live on at Lips at a special tribute dinner and show on Sunday, Sept. 23 to benefit Women in Distress. For five years, Lips has been a popular destination for dinner and a drag show, but for this one-night tribute, the cast, led by Diva, will take the stage for an important cause, performing to favorites such as Bad Girls, She Works Hard for the Money, I Will Always Love You and The Greatest Love of All. “This is a cause that is close to the hearts of all of us at Lips,” explained spokesman Michael Goodman. “This year is even more special because we’re paying tribute to Whitney Houston and Donna Summer, two artists who had such a big impact on the music industry.” Goodman said the performers at Lips — some of the most experienced female impersonators in South Florida — found

the music inspirational, a perfect fit, because both singers addressed life’s challenges and empowered their fans. “Some of their struggles were more public and it’s about empowerment,” he says. Lips is a unique venue, he says, that bridges the gaps between young and old, gay and straight, black and white: “People may assume drag may only be for gay audiences, but in fact, our audiences are diverse every single night. It makes the experience even more fun as we come together for a worthwhile cause.” Women in Distress is the only certified domestic violence center serving residents of Broward County, providing free, confidential services to anyone who is a victim, says Courtney Holshouser, development manager. “People are surprised to find out that includes men,” she says. “Domestic violence is about power and control and can involve physical, emotional, financial and sexual kinds of abuse. Men can

absolutely be victims.” The charity, which operates an emergency shelter, 24-hour crisis line group and individual counseling and education programs, moved last year to a new 132-bed facility in Deerfield Beach, allowing Women in Distress to better serve larger families with teenage boys, men and other special populations. Recently, the shelter provided support to a father with an infant baby and a transgendered person. The organization frequently works with the Pride Center and SunServe to educate LGBT youth about domestic violence and healthy relationships. The Lips tribute dinner is one of the charity’s most popular fundraisers, says Holshouser: “We love it! It’s an awesome opportunity for us because it’s fun and our supporters get a show and do good when they buy a ticket. We can’t thank everyone at Lips enough.” Over the past two years, the show has raised more than $19,000, which

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Diva (center) with Lips’ cast including Nicolette (left) and April (right) will relive the music of Whitney Houston and Donna Summer to benefit Women In Distress.

Holshouser says funds more than 200 nights of emergency housing. Tickets are $50 and include a threecourse dinner with one glass of wine or frozen drink, tax and gratuity. To make reservations, call 954-760-9800 ext. 1253 or go to www.WomenInDistress.org/divasglitz-glam. For more information about Women in Distress, go to www. WomenInDistress.org or call the 24-hour Crisis Line, 954-761-1133.

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