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DECEMBER Volume 5 | 2014
Chic is Showing Erikaâ€™s Picks
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TANGERINE DREAMS Styled By Erika from Your Chic is Showing www.yourchicisshowing.com
Whether sleek and slender or a curvalicious babe, you'll make heads turn when you walk into the room wearing this bold color! Tangerine is outside of the traditional holiday color spectrum but it is still as festive as ever when paired with a sparkly skirt, sexy dress, or modern silhouette. A subtle shoe can add a pop of color to an edgy look while a bold skirt or dress makes a strong statement for the more adventurous fashionista. Pair it with black and white to really make the color shine. When you step out wearing this bright shade you're sure to be the life of the party!
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Each year, on January 1st, millions of people hit the reset button on our lives and make a list of New Year's Resolutions. By January 2nd most of us have already broken them. Not to worry! You'll be sure to stick to our list of ten New Year's Resolutions below: 1. No More Fashion Shaming. Or Fat Shaming. Or Skinny Shaming. Or Shaming. The internet can be a really cruel place and it is very easy to get very nasty behind a glossy computer screen. And, the phrase "everyone's a critic" has never been more true than in places like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. In mere seconds, we are able to make snap judgements about who wore what best or why someone is too skinny/fat/tall/short/insert adjective here. In 2015, let's back away from the keyboards and refrain from labeling someone's outfit as slutty or trashy or not fashionable enough. Instead, let's make an effort to find the positive in every ensemble (easier said than done) - whether it's a pair of fabulous earrings, a great tote, a confident strut down the street. 2. Dress Like an Adult I once read a quote that said "clothes are our uniform for the battle of life." Each day we are faced with challenges and obstacles and we need to be mentally, physically, and fashionably prepared to take them head on. That means dressing like and adult - whatever "like and adult" means to you. It doesn't have to mean a three-piece suit, though it could, or the highest, scariest stilettos in all the land. It could simply mean tailored jeans, clean lines, and high-quality fabrics. Regardless of how you define "adult" be sure to always dress the part. 3. Ignore the Size Label Sometimes we gain weight, sometimes we lose it, and sometimes manufacturers have no idea what size they are making. We can get so caught up in a size that we totally miss out on awesome clothing. When shopping go for the right fit NOT the right size. Plus, you can always, always, always cut the size label out when you get home! 4. Wash Off Your Make Up Every Night One of the easiest ways to take care of your skin is to make sure you remove your make-up each night before bed. This doesn't necessarily involved some long drawn out ritual; it could be as simple as keeping make-up remover wipes on your nightstand. Erika's Pick: LA Fresh Make-up Remover Wipes and Mary Kay Oil Free Eye Make-up Remover 22 | December/January 2014
5. Take a Risk Great fashion is all about taking risks. Truthfully, great anything is all about taking risks. Nobody makes history by playing it safe! Sure, a dress over trousers sounds crazy; but how will you know if it looks good until you try it (Emma Watson nailed this look in Christian Dior at the 2014 Golden Globes, btw)? So go mix those prints, cut that hair, throw on a hat, or layer that jewelry. 6. Get Fitted for the Right Sized Bra It makes me so sad to see women walking around everyday wearing the wrong undergarments. Take the time to head to your local lingerie shop or department store and have them fit you for the correct sized bra. Then, take the time to try on different styles and sizes to make sure you’re wearing the proper bra and getting the coverage you want. Also, invest in different types while you’re there – racerback, convertable, demi cup, t-shirt . . . you get the idea. And finally, get any bra accessories you might need, like chicken cutlets (if you don’t know, ask), bra extenders, etc. It will take some time but it is a trip well worth it. Erika's Pick: Nordstrom has the best bra fitters around! 7. Step Away from the Sale Rack We ALL love a good sale; but so often we get locked into bad fashion simply because "it was on sale." A shapeless sweater in an ugly color is not suddenly fashionable because it was 70% off. It was ugly full priced and it's ugly on sale. Fight the urge to grab something just because there is a big red sign on the rack. Take a critical eye to every piece you are considering it and only buy it if you LOVE it - whether it's on sale or not. 8. Learn Your Body Type and Dress for It Understanding your body type will revolutionize the way that you go shopping. You will avoid clothing that is unflattering and be drawn to silhouettes that flatter your shape and size. Though it is a bit of a time investment, learning about your body shape will pay dividends in the end. You'll save yourself time, money, and a whole lot of heartache if you learn how to dress for the body that you have. Erika's Pick: To get started, check out "The Power of Style" by Bobbie Thomas. 9. Pay Attention to the Details Details and small touches can take your style from good to great! Although we may not want to admit it, things like nails, jewelry, and hair are an important part of how we look. It is important to make sure we give these small details the same attention we give the major components of our look. 10. Love Yourself Confidence is always the best accessory. When you love yourself and embrace who you are it shows. So while we're banning all that shaming, let's add another to the list - self shaming. Instead of beating ourselves up about our perceived flaws let's vow to build ourselves up each day. Whether you start each day with a positive mantra or end it writing in a gratitude journal take the time to reflect on all of the positive, unique, and wonderful things that make you YOU! Erika's Pick: Moleskine Cahier Pocket Journal's are perfect for a gratitude journal that's easy to take on the go.
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Emotional Eating: A Prime Ingredient for Obesity
Sandra found her weight ballooning 60 pounds after her separation from her husband. While part of the weight gain was apparently tied to the medication she was taking, the rest appeared to be the result of what can be described as emotional eating. In recent years, greater attention has been focused on the problem of emotional eating for both women and men. In fact, some experts have gone so far as to claim that most weight gain can be blamed on emotional eating. According to Women Today magazine, it has been estimated that as much as 75 percent of overeating is attributed to the emotions. For a number of people, overeating stems from anxiety. For instance, if you find yourself consuming an entire bag of potato chips, it’s possible that anxiety is the cause. While many people realize that alcohol and illegal drugs are not an antidote to anxiety, they may not understand that indulging in comfort food in order to combat anxiety can be dangerous as well. In other cases, overeating may be the result of depression. If you feel tired, hopeless, and have lost interest in your normal activities, you may be suffering from a depressive episode. In order to deal with these uncomfortable feelings, people may turn to food in an effort to cheer up. The problem is that the food can lead to weight gain, which can lead to further depression. At times, overeating may be a symptom of boredom. An individual may figure that he or she has nothing better to do than overeat. This can be particularly true when one is watching television or surfing the Internet. Rather than trying to determine a cause for the boredom, an individual may just try to “fix” it by indulging in high-fat, high-calorie food. How do you know if you are an emotional eater? Ask yourself some key questions: Do I tend to eat when I’m worried? Scared? Sad? Do I find that eating lifts my spirits? Am I spending more time eating than engaging in other activities I enjoy? Do my binges come after I’ve suffered disappointment? Am I turning to food in order to deal with the death of a loved one…a divorce…or the defeat of my favorite team? If the answers to any of these questions is “yes,” you may be overeating purely for emotional reasons. After you’ve identified yourself as an emotional eater, you’ll need to take steps to correct your behavior. Perhaps the most effective technique is diversion. In other words, if you find yourself reaching for the cookie jar, find another activity to engage in. The answer could be taking a walk, kickboxing, or dancing. Or it could be something less physically demanding, such as needlepoint or crochet. The idea is to get your hands…and perhaps the rest of your body…moving. In time, you might find the urge to overeat subsides as you become involved with other activities. Another effective step you can take is to identify the triggers for your emotional eating. Do you tend to binge in mid-morning, mid-afternoon, or right before bedtime? Are you snacking while watching television, while at the computer, or when you’re sitting in your favorite chair? By asking yourself these questions, you can identify the time of day when you overeat, as well as the location for your binging. With this information, you can learn to re-direct your behavior to less fattening pursuits. Yet another helpful technique is to develop a support network to help you combat overeating. The members of your support team could include your spouse, children, parents, friends, or other over-eaters. You may even consider joining a support group which specializes in helping those who engage in binge eating. If you feel the need to overeat, contact a member of your support team. Talking through your emotions could provide you with the emotional release you need, making overeating unnecessary. If your anxiety or depression persists, consider seeing a psychotherapist. He or she can help you develop more effective coping mechanisms. If you find it difficult to talk to friends or family about your overeating, a psychotherapist can provide you with the talk therapy you need to overcome your problem.
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Celebrity Art Series A F.L.O.A.T. Exhibit aboard the South Beach Lady courtesy of Liv Alive Social Group
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Photos By Johnny Cortes
Felix & Marchet Photos By Jermaine
#REVOLTBlendedCultures Named one of the best moments at Art Basel by Mashable, along with exhibits from Shen Wei, Andre 3000, Hank Willis Thomas, and Baz Luhman
Solo Artist Demont Pinder paints at the #REVOLTBlendedCultures event at Art Basel on Saturday, Dec. 6, 2014, in Miami Beach, Florida. (Photo by Marc Serota/Invision for REVOLT/AP Images )
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BY MILES MCCONNEY
â€œI am an artist by nature. I believe that my FAITH increases my talent. I believe that the quality of art should not be based on itâ€™s medium nor canvas, but rather by the skill of the artist. I give a little of myself in creating which adds soul to my subjects. I am committed to expounding a newfound respect for the use of charcoal in Fine Arts. " ~Adrian Pickett
n this new day and age various types of art are held in high regards. It is easy to get lost in the sea of different styles and mediums in which modern art is presented, but once in a while amongst this overcrowded landscape you can spot a few gems. One of these is Florida Artist Adrian Pickett.
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A self taught artist, and consequently a self made man, and in this way he is a quintessential American. From a very early age he decided he would become an artist, and there was no denying his passion or conviction. Since his childhood, he certainly mastered the artistâ€™s mindset, adopting an obsessive and unstoppable drive to perfect and master his techniques in the fine arts. He has been quoted as never seeing the use for school subjects, and thus never had a use for school. Thus, he only attended art class as a young man. Since then he has developed a unique work ethic and lifestyle, helping many people, notably some very important political leaders and musicians. Today Adrian showcases his masterpieces in his own Adrian Pickett gallery, whereupon he shows the world his works capturing personalities such as President Barack Obama and Muhammad Ali. Nowadays, he almost exclusively specializes in charcoal painting. Using this medium he aims to capture the realities and vision of the world through the eyes of others in his paintings. The realism of these particular paintings is remarkable to say the least. When performing and perfecting his artwork, he often draws in front of people. He is stated as saying he is most comfortable when he is working, and when finished one of his works, only needs to see it once before it is taken away. The mark of a true master has always been having a love and obsession for the process in which their work is done, and Adrian Pickett surely embodies this persona.
However, giving in the form of his beautiful work is not the only way he contributes to the art community. Aided by his fiancé, Adrian also teaches up and coming talented artists his masterful ways in how to perfect your own art work. He holds classes for young adults and children who have the work ethic and the passion for art that he sees in his young self. He knows that painting and displaying his artwork is only one half of the overall picture, and that giving back and passing on his talents to the younger generation is very important to him and his future wife. This past Summer Adrian went on tour to exhibit at a number of galleries across the nation. In the past he has been featured as a “Living Legends Artist”, and done personal work for celebrities and congressmen alike such as Rapper Drake and Representative John Lewis. Pickett’s gallery is located at 1611 San Marco Blvd in Jacksonville, FL. If you are a lover of impressionist painting, and would like to experience the work of one of the United States premier artists, The Adrian Pickett Gallery will surely not disappoint. If you are interested in any artwork from Adrian please contact email@example.com. Social Media Twitter: @adrianpickett Facebook: Artist Adrian Pickett / The Adrian Pickett Gallery Instagram: iam_thestroker www.adrianpickett.com
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EDITOR’S PICK Zane's The Other Side Zane's Addicted: A Novel
Before there was E.L. James’s 50 Shades of Grey, there was Zane’s Addicted. Once described as “the hottest paperback in the country” by the New York Times and now a major motion picture distributed by Lionsgate, this wildly popular novel by the Queen of Erotica follows one woman’s life as it spirals out of control when her three extramarital affairs lead her down a dark and twisted path. For successful African-American businesswoman Zoe Reynard, finding the pleasure she wants, the way she wants it, is not worth the risk of losing everything she has: marriage to the man she has loved since childhood, a thriving company, and three wonderful children. But Zoe feels helpless in the grip of an overpowering addiction…to sex.
The New York Times bestselling Queen of Erotica, Zane is back with a new novel about a testy love affair that emerges between a woman who’s had enough and a man who’s had it all. Jemistry Daniels is a bitter woman and not trying to hide it. Even though she is beautiful, intelligent, and makes six figures a year as a high school principal in Washington, DC, one man after another has failed her. So she decides to give up and join the party by adapting the entire “friends with benefits” mentality with a couple of men that she beds on the regular but refuses to hold any kind of real conversation with, in fear that she might actually catch feelings.
Everything is going according to plan until she meets Dr. Tevin Harris, a prominent vascular surgeon, one night at a poetry slam. Tevin listens to her deliver her Finding a compassionate woman therapist to help her, Zoe finally male-bashing poem and instead of steering away from summons the courage to tell her torrid story, a tale of guilt and desire as shocking as it is compelling. From the sensitive artist with her like most men with any common sense would do, he asks her out. Tevin has been casually dating for whom she spends stolen hours on rumpled sheets to the rough and years, ever since his failed marriage to Estella. They violent man who draws her toward destruction, Zoe is a woman had suffered several miscarriages and the emotional desperately searching for fulfillment—and something darker, deeper, and perhaps deadly. As her life spins out of control and her pain had become too much for either one of them to sexual escapades carry her toward a dangerous choice, Zoe is racing bear and still wake up with each other every morning. against time to uncover the source of her “fatal attraction”—as chilling secrets tumble forth from the recesses of a woman's mind, and perilous temptations lead toward a climax that can threaten her sanity, her marriage…and her life.
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