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Hi. My name is Thomas. And to be honest I've had my reservations about making this video. Because I'm just a normal guy. But I have done something that some may see as unethical... ...I have taken techniques used by therapists around the world to cure people's phobias...added a little 'twist' to these simple techniques... and used them to seduce women. Lots and lots of women. And because I am not good-looking, famous or muscly, some people would say I am tricking women into sleeping with me. And I suppose in a way, I am. I mean, when you see what I look like, and you see what the girls I sleep with look like, you'll wonder how on earth I do it. It's OK though, they will never know what I do, because it goes completely under the radar. Women find themselves attracted to me and don't know why. They tell me I'm not their usual type. So why do they find themselves bent over and naked in a hotel room within a few hours of seeing me for the first time? Why do they find themselves pleasuring me with their mouth when usually they don't like sucking anyone, let alone a stranger they met that day? It's because I can turn any woman on by exploiting a loophole in the human brain which makes her connect me with the strongest orgasms she's ever had.


Legal? Yes. Ethical? Probably not. But if you are a geeky looking guy like I am, you have to "cheat" a little if you want to sleep with models. Listen, rich guys use money to attract women all the time! Is that unethical? Not really. Just part of the game. In my eyes, rewiring a woman's brain so she associates me with pleasure is just like having lots of money. But it's free! This is all about leveling the playing field so that guys who are short, fat, old, or ugly can still seduce and date beautiful women on demand. The girl will pick YOU over the rich, handsome guys she usually goes for. And what's even better about this system is when you use these tactics on women you make her feel great. She just does not know why. So whilst it's a bit sneaky, the end result is both you AND her feel amazing After first stumbling upon this secretive mind technology I have spent the past three years adapting and developing it. Now, I have got it down to a fine art... Within seconds of starting a conversation with a woman I've never met, I have bypassed her brain security and she feels pleasurable feelings toward me. Within minutes, she feels attracted to me. And within a couple of hours, she associates my face with her strongest desires and... The rest is too dirty to put here. Take your deepest, dirtiest fantasies....I've done it. You can do it, too.

Now, I know this all sounds like science fiction.


But as you will see in this free presentation, it is science fact. I will tell you about famous experiments that prove, without any shadow of a doubt, that this is possible. You can shape women to do what you want by getting them to associate your face with them feeling good. The more you do this, the more attractive you'll become to them. Then, you start chaining these associations together to orgasms and your face and... BOOM. You never need miss an opportunity again. So, if you struggle to sleep with the beautiful women you want, then this free video is for you. I am going to teach you the exact technique I stole from therapists. It's embarrassingly simple when you know how. Unless you're a homosexual, you'll want to watch this to the end. Right about not you may be wondering why I would teach you this? It's simple, really. For revenge. As you will see, I am out to get even. So be warned. This presentation is not staying up permanently. It can't because of the sensitive nature of what it contains. This video is going to piss off a lot of people who think I am doing something unethical. So, watch this today. Right now. It may be gone tomorrow. Before I tell you the technique, I want you to imagine something... If you could sleep with any woman on the planet, who would it be? It can be a celebrity. A porn star. A friend. The barmaid in your local bar or club. Doesn't matter. Now picture the following scene....


You walk into a bar and that woman is there. If she's a celebrity, maybe she's working on a film or making a music video in your area. You stand next to her at the bar and can't believe how beautiful she is. Big breasts. Nice ass. Wet mouth. You want her. Like, now. You ask her one of the questions I'll give you later in this presentation. She looks at you...pauses...and then a big grin spreads across her face. She answers you and you start chatting. You make her feel....different. She can't quite put her finger on it, but you make her feel really good inside. Yet you're not using any cheesy compliments or chat up lines. She finds you intriguing. After an hour or so, she suggests you both move on to somewhere else. She is staying in a hotel round the corner. You could get a drink in the hotel bar. Fifteen minutes later, she pushes you back onto her hotel room bed. She does a lap dance for you, getting you rock hard. After awhile, she undoes your belt and takes you in her wet mouth. Then you spend the entire night having sex in every position there is. When morning comes, you wake up and she's snuggled into your chest. You smile to yourself. She didn't stand a chance. Now...how do you feel? Like the thought of that? Good. Let's make that kind of thing a reality for you. Whilst I can't guarantee you will sleep with your favorite celebrity, I can guarantee you'll be seducing the most beautiful women in your town. Let's start your tuition by revealing the background behind the technique and how I stumbled across it...


At school I was a shy, geeky-looking kid. So geeky, in fact, I was bullied every day. The guys would hit me, but their punches were nothing compared to the pain I felt when the girls in class would call me ugly and laugh at me. Every day I would do my best to avoid doing anything that gave them an excuse to laugh at me or humiliate me. But they did it anyway. When I left school, I thought that I would be able to start again. A new me. Unfortunately, things didn't go to plan. You see, I started a new office job and everything was going well for a year or so. I kept to myself and whilst I didn't really have any good friends at work, it was nice to not be bullied every day! One day, things took a turn for the worse. I was asked to do a presentation in front of my colleagues. I was asked on a Friday and the presentation would be the following Thursday. As soon as I was asked, I started to feel really anxious about it. Then, as the day got nearer, I struggled to sleep. And on the morning of the presentation, I had a full blown panic attack. I rang up work and said I was ill. I just couldn't face it. The problem was my boss really wanted me to do this presentation. So he rescheduled it for the next week. Again, I had sleepless nights. And then another panic attack. I told my boss and whilst he was pissed off, he told me I didn't have to do the presentation. He also said I had to go and see a therapist or it may affect my job in the future.


Now, to say that I was angry about that would be an understatement. Me, going to see a therapist? No way! I'm not crazy. I'm not mentally unstable. I'm just low in self-confidence, that's all! I didn't want to go. But I knew I had to. Little did I know, those panic attacks which made me feel like even more of a loser... ...were about to turn me into a guy who had the sex life of a rock star! So there I was at the first session with the therapist. He asked me how I felt about therapy. And I told him I thought it was bullshit.

"I'm just born this way. You can't change me!"

"Anyone can be changed," he said. "Your brain is what is causing your panic attacks. It is triggering thoughts and emotions connected to your past. But it can be fixed! You just have to know how. And that's what you're paying me for." A big smile spread across his face. I thought he was crazy. Over the next few minutes though, he got me excited. You will be excited to hear this, too... He told me about a famous experiment by a physiologist, Ivan Pavlov. Maybe you've heard of him. His experiment in the 1890s is known as "Pavlov's Dogs". Pavlov would ring a bell each time he put food in front of his dogs. Then he would measure their saliva levels to see if their mouths watered. The dogs' saliva levels would increase each time the food was put in front of them. Much like a human's mouth would if a big steak was put in front of us.


He repeated this procedure several times. He put the food in front of the dog and rang a bell as he did so. Then he would measure the increase in saliva. Here's the interesting bit... After awhile, Pavlov could just ring the bell and the dogs' saliva would increase. Even when there was no food in sight. The dogs had formed a CONNECTION in the brain between the ringing of the bell and getting food. The result of this association was their mouths watered. This reaction in the dog happened instantly and automatically. The dogs had no choice in the matter. The bell would ring and their mouths would water. They had been unconsciously programmed to associate the bell with food. This is known as "Classical Conditioning". I had heard of this experiment before in class. But it meant nothing to me then and nothing to me now. What was he getting at?

He continued. "Psychologists weren't sure if humans could be conditioned in this way. So, in 1920, a man named John B Watson carried out another famous experiment known as 'The Little Albert Experiment'." Little Albert was 9 months old. He was shown a white rat, a monkey, a rabbit and various masks in order to scare him. But, he showed no emotional reaction. They did not affect him at all. He showed no fear. However, what did scare Albert was when a hammer was struck against a steel bar behind him. The sudden noise startled him and made him burst into tears. Once a week, for the next seven weeks, the rat was put in front of Albert, and at the same time, the hammer was struck against the steel bar behind him. Can you guess what happened?


By the end of the seven weeks, every time Albert saw the rat he would cry, even when the noisy hammer was not used. Whilst this experiment was not nice for the young boy, it did prove something. Human beings can be conditioned too, just like Pavlov's dogs!" "This is all interesting," I said. "But what has this got to do with me?" "Everything!" he answered. "You were bullied at school. That meant that you felt embarrassed and humiliated in front of your classmates. Is that correct?" I nodded. "Did you feel embarrassed when you had to talk in front of class?" "Yes. In fact, one time I stood up in front of the class to speak and everyone started chanting 'ugly'. They wouldn't shut up so the teacher made me sit down." The therapist smiled reassuringly. "With Pavlov's dogs, the ringing of the bell made their mouths water with pleasure because they had built up an unconscious connection between the bell ringing and food. With Little Albert, the rat made him feel fear because he built up an unconscious connection between the rat and feeling scared. You have built up the unconscious connection between speaking up in front of others and the feeling of humiliation." He then said the few sentences that will be very important later in this presentation. So listen up...

"Human beings, very quickly, make unconscious connections between things.

If they experience something that makes them feel good, they will want to experience more of it. If they experience something that makes them feel bad or scares them, they will avoid it. This is called 'The Law Of Effect'.


When you were asked to do the presentation, your brain unconsciously searched in your memory banks for similar experiences in your past and found your painful memories at school within milliseconds. This triggered anxious feelings and eventually, your panic attacks." The therapist paused and looked at me, waiting for a reaction. I felt a flutter of excitement in my stomach. Things were starting to make sense. "So...I wasn't born with low self-confidence and panic attacks?" I asked. "Absolutely not! Your brain just likes to protect you from getting into situations that are similar to ones in your past that made you feel bad. So, it causes you anxiety to try to make you avoid getting into similar situations. The problem is, the brain isn't always right. A bad experience in school does not mean every time you speak up in front of someone, you feel humiliated. In this case, the connection it has made is faulty. All we need to do is rewire those connections using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, and help you to develop self-confidence using Neuro Linguistic Programming, and you will be a brand new man." Brand new man. I liked the sound of that! Over the next few weeks, the therapist introduced me to some pretty cool tricks I had never known existed. Let me give you one that you can use to skyrocket your self-confidence (women find confident men irresistible!)... Neuro Linguistic Programming, or NLP, is a mind technology used by therapists around the world. One NLP technique is called "anchoring". This is how you can use Pavlov's Dogs and Little Albert for your own benefit. If you want to be able to develop a surge of self-confidence on demand, you can develop a confidence anchor by doing the following... Put on a piece of music that really gets you pumped up and excited. Something that makes you feel powerful and that you can achieve anything in life.


As you listen to the music and feel positive emotions, squeeze your index finger and thumb together hard on both hands. Do this five or six times throughout the song. And repeat this process five times a day. After a few weeks, you will be able to squeeze your thumb and forefinger together and feel the same power and positive emotions you did when the music was playing. But you'll be able to do it without needing the music. Your brain will have developed a connection between squeezing your fingers together and feeling confident. And you can use it anytime you want a surge of self-confidence. Pretty cool, huh? They should teach this shit in school. That trick alone would help a lot of people in their day to day life. Anyway, back to how this can help you sleep with the most beautiful women in your town... Over the next few sessions, we set up a few more of these "anchors" and other tricks to boost self-confidence. I'll talk more about these a little later. We also used Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to rewire the belief I had unconsciously created that public speaking equals humiliation. Soon, I had got rid of that belief and replaced it with a positive one. I eventually did the presentation and my boss said I was amazing! This whole process took just a few weeks. I now knew this "mind" stuff worked. But a little question had been rolling around in my head. I've always been a bit of a thinker, science was my favorite class at school. And I had a theory I wanted to ask the therapist about... "I know this may sound a little silly, but is it possible to get other people to connect you with the feelings of positive emotions and pleasure? In the same way Pavlov did with the dogs, the bell and the food, or the NLP anchoring trick?"


I held my breath as I waited for the answer. If my theory was right, I'd be able to lose my virginity in no time. He took off his glasses and smiled at me before saying the words that set me on my journey. He said... "That is one of life's greatest secrets. A secret that is out in the public eye for all to see, but people are so caught up in themselves, they miss it. If you make others connect you with pleasure, you will never be short of friends. It's very possible when you know how." It was music to my ears. I wanted friends. I also wanted women. Lots and lots of women. I left his office that day with my heart pounding with excitement. I knew, I just KNEW I was on to something. Over the next few months, I spent night and day on the internet doing my research. You see, I had a theory. If I could get women to connect ME with them feeling great, and even better, feeling PLEASURE, I'd be able to get women into bed, no problem. You may or may not know this, but you can access all kinds of reports, lectures and experiments online. Stuff 99% of the world doesn't know exists. Stuff therapists don't WANT the world to know exists. But they are there for other therapists and psychologists to read to further their own work. I was reading them to learn how to sleep with women who were way out of my league. Sneaky, huh? For example, online there is an audio lecture recorded at M.I.T, a private research university in the United States. In this lecture, a professor is speaking about the "Law Of Effect", just like my therapist had. If something feels good, you want more of it.


He talks about how, when he was a student himself, he and a few classmates decided to test the law of effect on a lecturer who had come to his university to do a talk on psychology. Whilst the lecturer was speaking on stage, if he walked to the left, a section of the class would smile and start taking notes. Not all of them, because it would have been obvious. But a quarter or so of the class who were dotted around the room. So, as the lecturer was speaking, if he walked to the left of the stage people would smile and take notes. If he stood in the centre or walked to the right, no smiles were given or notes taken. Can you guess what happened? By the end of the class, the lecturer was mainly over on the left hand side of the stage. Whereas at the beginning, he was mainly in the centre and the right.

After class, when he was told about the experiment, he laughed and said he was completely unaware of what had happened. His brain had unconsciously connected that when he walked to the left, his students did what he wanted and this made him feel good. This was all completely outside of his awareness. He had been unconsciously programmed by the students in the class. How crazy is that? This lecture is free to access online and available to the general public. I'll tell you about where you can listen to it later. So remember, if people carry out an action that makes them feel good they will continue doing it. And you can condition people to carry out these actions without them being aware of what is going on. I spent months and months researching this idea. I listened to lots of lectures and read about experiments and case studies until I really understood the concept. And then I decided to put it to the test. Here was my plan...


I had never approached a woman before in my life. And I had definitely never approached a woman with the intention of getting her into bed. So, I decided to test the waters slowly rather than jumping in at the deep end. My goal, at first, was just to start a conversation with a female I'd never met and not get rejected. I just wanted to have a woman smile within the first ten seconds of meeting me. That was it. You may think I'm a loser for just wanting to get a smile from a woman, but remember at this time I was a virgin without any real friends. Give me a break! I wrote down two conversation starters that would make a woman feel good by triggering unconscious emotions in her. As I tell you them, see if you can figure out why they are so powerful. I picked up some travel brochures from my local travel agents and went to a coffee shop. I saw a girl sitting by herself, so I sat on the table next to her and flicked through the brochures. After a few minutes, I spoke to her... "Hi. Quick question. I'm booking my parents a holiday as a gift for their anniversary. Can you recommend anywhere nice? Money is no object. I have to book within a few hours and I'm struggling." The girl's face went blank at first, I think she was a bit shocked a stranger was speaking to her. But then after a few moments, I got what I wanted. A big grin spread across her face. "I went to Florida in the United States last year. It was amazing. Such a beautiful place." I ended up chatting to the girl for about five minutes about her trip to Florida. She was smiling and laughing and telling me about her trip. I didn't say much. Probably because I was stunned it had worked. After a few minutes, I thanked her and left. I walked round the corner and punched the air. I had got the reaction I had hoped for. And here's why...


...By asking the girl if she could recommend anywhere nice on holiday, her brain didn't have enough time to stop and think, "why is this guy trying to speak to me?" Instead, my words triggered her brain to zip through her memory to find her previous holiday experiences where she had a great time. It took milliseconds for her brain to find one. Because she was remembering something pleasurable, she felt good. I had made her feel good with one simple question. The blank look was her brain kicking into action...and then a big smile as she remembered Florida. Now, this is very, very important when it comes to seduction. Listen to this... From a young age, all children, especially women, are conditioned to not speak to strangers. This is one of the reasons it is so hard to start a conversation with a woman. As soon as you try to start a conversation with a woman you don't know her defense goes up unconsciously. This is also because she will have been approached over and over again by men who use cheesy lines or are clearly just after sex. So, she is conditioned to reject a man instantly, unless she is physically attracted to him. Which is no good for guys like me who don't have movie star looks.

However, by asking her a question that makes her feel good virtually straight away, you are stopping this conditioned response before it has time to occur. She hears your question and within seconds, feels good. This means she will be open to speak to you. I call this "Emotional Hijacking". And it is phase one of my seduction system.


Here's another conversation starter I used. Feel free to use it yourself. I'd approach a woman and say... "Excuse me. I need some womanly advice. My sister has just given birth and wants me to help name the baby. I'm so excited about the chance to name my beautiful niece but I've hit a blank. Any ideas?" Man, wait until you try this one. You'll see the faces of any women around you light up. Anything baby-related works amazingly well with the ladies, because it triggers the internal "mother" in them that has been built into women's minds since the caveman days. Not only does this conversation starter trigger happy feelings and excitement, it also shows you are a "caring uncle" thanks to the words "...my beautiful niece". You'll get an "Aww, how cute" response from the ladies. If you really want to make this one powerful, take a picture of a friends baby, or get one from the net, and use it on your mobile phone. Show them a picture telling them this is your niece. Isn't she gorgeous? Trust me guys, a man who loves babies sets off all sorts of crazy connections and desires within a woman. And just in case you're wondering, I don't have a niece. Can you see how genius this is? One of the reasons men are scared to approach a woman and speak to her is because of the uncertainty of how she will react. By asking her a question in this way, there is NO chance of her rejecting you. I have dozens and dozens of these rejection-proof conversation starters, and could talk about these for hours. But that's not the point. The point is my theory had worked.


If I can tap into things that already make a woman feel good, I can make her feel good within seconds of speaking to her. And if I can do that, I have a chance to build upon it. Now, I must admit they didn't all work. As well as the lectures and papers I was reading online, I also started to read seduction books by self-proclaimed "pick-up artists". At the time, I thought they were great, now I know they were written by children, for children. One of their techniques is to compliment a girl to start a conversation. So you might say something like "Hi, I'm Thomas. That dress is beautiful."

WRONG.

I tried this and the girl made me feel tiny and humiliated. It was like school all over again. Let me tell you something. When a guy compliments a girl straight away, or even within a few minutes of speaking to her, her defence goes up. It becomes obvious the guy just wants sex. And whilst women want that too, they like to be romanced first. What we do is approach a woman with one of my rejection-proof conversation starters that makes her feel warm inside instantly, due to her past experiences in life. You tap into the good stuff that is already in her brain. This way, when you start a conversation, she'll look at you and get a warm feeling, and YOU made her feel that way. Even if she thinks you are damn ugly, she'll still connect her feeling good with you. If you start a conversation with a woman in this way, will she want to sleep with you? Of course not. This is just laying the foundation. This is getting past her defences so she is open to speak to you.


This is the real world, not a fantasy game. If you want to seduce beautiful women, it takes more than a simple question. Thankfully, it doesn't take much more. Back to my research... Over a couple of weeks, I tested out these conversation starters over and over again. I tested them in bars, clubs, shopping malls, coffee shops....you name it, I tested one there. And I didn't get rejected once! Want to know why? Because women CANNOT reject you when you start a conversation in this way. Women can only reject you if they think you are trying to seduce them. But when you start a conversation in this way, you come in under the radar. You don't set off any of her pre conditioned defences against strange men trying to take advantage of her. Sure, a woman might say, "Sorry, I'm really busy at the moment" or "I haven't got the time to chat right now." But that's ok. It's not a rejection. You simply say, "OK, no problem. Have a nice day," and smile at her. In my experience, I'd say 97% of women will speak to you. Your conversation starter makes them feel good, remember. And those that don't, when you smile and say, "Have a nice day, "often end up stopping and speaking to you anyway, because you come across as a sweet guy and not a sexual predator. So, after a few weeks of proving these conversation starters do work, I decided to research the next level. Building attraction to the point she wants to take you home and do things you usually only see in porn films. I read all kinds of textbooks on many different topics. From Neuro Linguistic Programming to persuasion and even weird things like conversational hypnosis. Some of the tricks I found were nothing short of mind-blowing. For example, on page 174 of his book 59 Seconds, Professor Richard Wiseman says this...


"To help promote the chances of a successful date, choose an activity that is likely to get the heart racing. Avoid slow-moving, classical music concerts, country walks and wind chimes. Instead, look toward suspense-filled films, theme parks and cycle rides. Your date will attribute their racing heart to you, rather than the activity, convincing themselves you have that special something." Clever, huh? Get a woman's heart racing and she will attribute it to you. And when a woman's heart races when it comes to a guy, it is connected to desire. This is written in a book by a famous psychology author. It isn't a book on seduction, it is about the human mind. I read so many books and listened to so many lectures, I would pick up a tip here, a trick there, a strategy somewhere else... soon I had weapons of mass seduction that, if the expert therapists, professors and psychologists were right, could be used to sleep with the women I so wanted. It was time to put this to the test. Once again, I started small... It was a Thursday evening. I went to a bar after work with my colleagues. I had decided that I was going to test my theory that evening on an ugly girl. Because, if it doesn't work on an ugly girl, how would it work on the stunning blondes I planned on seducing very soon? Sidenote: I now know it's EASIER to sleep with beautiful women because no one else has the balls to approach them for fear of getting rejected. This means hot women often have low self esteem. I'll teach you how to take advantage of that by getting them to connect you to them feeling great. Anyway, there I am at the bar and I spot an ugly girl who fits my criteria. I use a conversation starter. I get her heart racing. I get her to tell me stories about when she felt confident. Then ask her questions about what turns her on....I started using all these tricks I had learned...


...and three hours later, I was inside her in an alley behind the bar. Not the most romantic way to lose my virginity, but I was on top of the world. As she pulled up her panties, she said the words that nearly got me hard again. "You're not usually my type and I never do one night stands. You are obviously "special", she said with a grin. "Not really," I thought. I just know some voodoo mind shit! This was the beginning of a sex life that all my friends envy. My work colleagues mocked me for sleeping with the ugly girl that night. But a few weeks later when I slept with the stunning barmaid they all tried and failed with, they couldn't believe it. Over and over again they watched as I left the bar or club with a hot girl and they'd be left sipping their drinks and going home to their right hand. The thing they struggle with is they are all better looking than me. One is a bodybuilder, one drives a flash car his daddy bought him, another has a massive dick (apparently)....yet I'm the one who gets all the girls. And I do it without ever having to risk rejection or use silly "Pick-Up Artist" techniques. I do it by using a four-step seduction system which makes women connect you, on an unconscious, emotional level, with excitement, pleasure and orgasms.

I call this the "Subliminal Seduction System".

It's been years since my fateful meeting with my therapist that set me off on my journey. Years since I started my research into the field of using psychotherapy to seduce women. Years of having sex and being sucked by some of the hottest chicks around.


And now, my friend, I want to teach it to you. You see I know your pain. I know what it's like to see a beautiful woman, be desperate to have her ride you to orgasm, but know you don't stand a chance. I know what it's like to have low self-confidence and be depressed that life is passing you by. I know what it feels like to be short, fat, ugly, and broke and hate the way you look. But I also know what it's like to have sex with a porn star from behind because you rewired her to associate you with pleasure she wasn't getting from guys with much bigger dicks than yours. And I know what it's like to live a life so exciting that every time you go out, you know you're going to have fun and a story to tell your buddies the next morning (as they listen to you wishing they could live one day like you live every day). Yep, I know all this. And that's why it's time I changed your life for the better. For the past six months, I have been writing down my Subliminal Seduction System. This is the world's ONLY seduction guide that covers the topic of getting women to quickly associate you with positive feelings such as confidence, pleasure, excitement, exhilaration...all the good stuff women are desperate to feel. Whilst other courses out there teach shitty lines and how to dress like an idiot to get attention, this course is based on techniques that have been PROVEN in experiments by professionals in mind research universities and labs across the world. We're not talking bullshit theory written by a desperate teen here, like other seduction courses. We're talking scientific research, baby! So, what I have done is write down my research, experiments, case studies, links to the books and lectures and web sites that PROVE my research is valid...and then put everything into a step-by-step "How To Seduce And Have Sex With Beautiful Women" training course.


This system will work no matter what you look like. No matter how ugly, fat, hairy or lonely you are, I can help you get laid. Because unlike other courses, this is not about YOU. It is about HER and HER EMOTIONS.

Let me illustrate what I mean...

Other seduction "experts" teach something called a "neg". This is where you say something intended to humiliate the girl you want to sleep with. The idea is you show her that you are not that bothered about her and this makes her want you. Now think about this for a second. You want to seduce a girl, so you make her feel bad. Absolute morons. If you buy into that kind of crap, you are not worthy of learning my system. Seriously, how stupid can you be? Seduction is about making a woman feel GOOD, not bad. It is about HER, not YOU. And this is why it does not matter what you look like. Women are not stimulated by visual appearance. That's not what turns her on. It's how you make her FEEL that turns her on. Want proof? How many women's porn magazines do you see? Hardly any. How many men's porn magazines do you see? They're in shops everywhere! Women are not excited by what they see, they are excited by the emotions they feel.

Want more proof?


Unless you've been hiding under a rock, you'll have heard of the book Fifty Shades Of Grey. It is a worldwide phenomenon that is getting women everywhere, wet. It is basically a written porn book for women. And it's sold faster than nearly every book in history. Why? Because the descriptions in the book emotionally stimulate women. There's no pictures. Just descriptions of the sex that women crave. That book has sold tens of millions of copies around the world, which proves two things. Firstly, that women are turned on emotionally, not visually. The words make them feel emotions like desire and pleasure. Secondly, it proves that women aren't getting the sex they want. If they were, they wouldn't need to buy a book to get their kicks. It's the same as guys watching porn because they can't sleep with the women they want. I could give you huge amounts of proof, case studies and links to experiments. But I have gone on for long enough and, quite frankly, a lot of it is boring. All you want to know is how can you use this stuff for your own pleasure, right? You've probably imagined a beautiful model who is looking you in the eye as she pleasures you deeply with her wet mouth. You can picture it, but how do you make it happen? That's what you want to know.

You can make it happen by learning my system. It's that simple. Look, you can try and figure all this stuff out yourself. You can try and find the "underground" web sites I did that contain the lectures and reports and books on the topic of conditioning someone to feel a certain way. Sure, you can try to do that.


But, it will take you years and you'll probably fail. The sites and lectures are kept secret for a reason. To stop people from using the findings for unethical means. Such as seducing women. Thankfully, I'm a whizz on the internet and found them after A LOT of searching. Even if you did find some of the lectures, you could spend another year working your way through all the written documents and listening to the hundreds of hours of audio I did. This is time you could be spending sleeping with as many women as you want.

So the question is this. Do you:

1. Want to continue life the way you are, missing out on experiences in life like getting sucked by models and sleeping with the hottest women in your town?

2. Do you want to spend a year or more locked away in your bedroom trying to find the same research studies I did and then humiliate yourself by testing theories that don't work?

3. Or, do you want the quick fix? Something where you can spend a few hours and have all the information you need to live the sex life you truly deserve?

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There was a time in my life when I thought that text messaging was worse than chewing on aluminum foil. Therapists live to have patients with the range of terrible emotions that it inflicted upon me.

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Confusion: sitting there, looking down at my phone. “come up with

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Nothing you haven’t experienced before, right?

And heck, if you turn on your phone right now and open up your "contacts"... I'm willing to bet there's at least one girl stored away in there who you're really attracted to.

Maybe you even have a straight-up crush on one of the girls saved in your phone...


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But right now, it's just a number. You've got it tucked away safely in your phone, so what next?

Well, for years and years men debated fiercely over the big dating question of the 20th century: "How long should I wait before I call her?"

But it's the 21st century now, and a new question is clawing at single men around the world:

"WHAT DO I TEXT HER?" As one of New York’s top dating coaches, I’ve talked to more guys in recent years about this very topic than anything else.

I’ve also talked to a lot of women about it. And they all know what’s up:

Most guys are clueless when it comes to texting. Our screw-ups, awkward texts, and failed attempts are the hot topic of conversation on girls night out.

But with this report, and all of the material I’m putting it out on texting, I want to change that. Because it’s not our fault.


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Sure, there are some artsy poet laureate's out there who “just get it”... but for the rest of us, it’s a struggle.

The good news: there are some amazing breakthroughs in psychology that are going to turn the tables in your favor.

But before we can get to those, I want to give you a “lay of the land.” Understanding this stuff is your first step towards having an unfair advantage, so pay close attention.

WHAT SHE’S THINKING WHEN YOU’RE TEXTING HER You absolutely have to understand this:

When she gave you her number, it wasn’t a binding contract to see you again.

I can guarantee that she was not thinking “I really hope to have this guy’s babies.”


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She was experiencing positive emotions with you. When you got her number, her feelings toward you were pretty good. And she thought to herself “I’d like to see this guy again.”

Congrats! You made a girl like you.

Then she went off to meet her friends, or to class or work. A day or two passed. Her mood changed a hundred different times. And those positive feelings she had towards you began to fade away.

But it might be even worse than that. She might be getting texts from an ex she’s not totally over, and five other guys who also have her number. She might have had a date lined up for the night after you met her. Heck, she might not even remember giving you her number.

So by the time your first text to her arrives, her feelings about you have changed. She just doesn’t feel as strongly as she did about you in the moment when you got her number.

And what is the typical first text message that a guy sends?

“Hey”


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Short and simple. Cool. Yet it does absolutely nothing to get her feeling good about him again. Not surprising that girls think it’s the worst first text of all time. Let’s look at another one:

“Hey Jen, it’s John from the bar the other night.

Great to meet you!

Want to get together on Tuesday?”

It’s got a little more personality than “hey.” But again, it doesn’t do anything to change her mood, her emotions, or her feelings towards him.

And when it comes to making decisions, people are not logical - especially when it comes to love and dating.

A girl’s not sitting there with a spreadsheet, doing an analysis of the different guys she could be dating, so she can decide who she’s going to see on Wednesday night.

Nope, decisions like who to text back, who to go out with, who to sleep with, and who she wants as a boyfriend are emotionally-driven decisions.

Let’s consider another first text. I have a first text formula, which I used to come up with this one, and I gave it to a client. The night prior, he’d met a


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girl who was wearing this stunning dress, hit it off with her, and walked away with a great number. His first text read:

“ur dress last night = weapon of mass destruction.

i trust you put it

somewhere that the CIA won’t find it”

Good first text? You betcha. It does so many little things right, but the most important thing it does is to make her smile, and giggle. It activates her emotional circuitry. It makes her feel something.

A great start. But there’s still a long ways to go.

WHAT WAS DATING LIKE BEFORE TEXTING? Let’s recap: when a girl decides she wants to go out with you, it’s a decision that’s driven by her feelings and emotions towards you.

So basically, you have the best chance of getting her to say “yes” when she’s feeling really good about you.

Let’s take a little journey back in time to see how this worked before text messages.


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It’s 1984 again. Ronald Reagan just won re-election, theatre-goers can’t stop talking about Ghostbusters, and text messaging is unheard of. Caller ID is still a ways in the future. Even the answering machine hasn’t caught on yet. You called someone, and either they picked up, or you called back.

I was only four back then, but I’m told that in such ancient times, there were very few points of contact between when you’d meet a girl, and when you’d go out on a date.

You met her and took her number. You talked once or twice on the phone. And then you went out with her. Bada boom, bada bing.

So her feelings towards you - and whether she went out with you or not would depend on only one or two phone calls.

A woman would use this time to “screen” a guy out if he acted creepy or nervous, had a terrible phone voice, or otherwise made her feel “bad” on the call.

Those one or two phone calls were the only “data points” she could use when deciding if she wanted to see a guy again.


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I remember calling girls back in college (texting didn’t really catch on until I was in my mid twenties). It was definitely stressful, because you knew you had twenty minutes to rekindle the feelings she had when you met her, and ask her out again. But if you did well on that phone call, it was all good.

Ok, fast forward to modern times. On any given day, you get more calls, beeps and notifications on your smart phone than most people got in two weeks back in 1984.

In a little bit, we’re going to learn about how this makes for all sorts of interesting psychological “loopholes” that you can use to make girls really, really like you. The science is going to blow you away.

But for now, let’s think about how text messaging changes the “dating game” - and not in your favor.

WHY TEXTING HAS MADE IT MORE DIFFICULT FOR US GUYS


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Before text messaging, asking a girl out used to take place over a single, 20-minute phone call. But now it takes place over the course of days, with a bunch of tiny little messages.

This is both a blessing and a curse. If you’re great at texting, you can make her like you a lot more than you can with a mere phone call. We’ll get to that in a little bit.

But there are also a lot more opportunities to screw it up.

You can send a crappy first text, and ruin it from the start.

You can text too much, too soon, and make her think you’re needy.

You can text too little, too late, and cause her to lose interest or get bored.

You can send texts that are weird, misunderstood, or offensive (without meaning it).

And you can screw it up at any point. You might do ok for five texts, then send a sixth one that totally kills it. Things might go great all the way through the first date, then get ruined when you’re asking her out on the second date.


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Heck, I’ve seen clients who screw it up after they’ve had sex with a girl because they were texting the wrong thing. The following critique came from a client - this was the text exchange the day after he slept with a girl for the first time. He tried to be cool and nonchalant, but actually came across like a dick. ============================= 12:35&PM Her: Shit. Can you check your bag/car for my cell charger????? 12:36&PM Her: Just kidding I found itttt 12:46&PM Client: haha ok Ok&this&is&when&it&really&starts&to&go&wrong.&&A<er&sex,&you’ve&GOT&to&make&a& girl&feel&good&about&herself.&&You&HAVE&to&get&this&right.&&Instead,&you&got& back&with&“haha&ok”.&&What&does&that&tell&her?&&That&you&don’t&care&much.&& That&you’ve&had&sex&and&are&now&doing&other&important&things.&&This&was& SUCH&a&great&opportunity&to&get&back&to&her&with&something&sweet&like &

Niiiiice... the cell phone charger gods were looking out for you

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1:16&PM Her: Thanks again for inviting me. Your so sweet I had a wonderful time! 2:58&PM Well you’re always good company haha

Ok,&this&is&where&it&really&goes&wrong.&&I&know&you&were&trying&to&sound& nonchalant,&but&it&just&came&across&as&insensi\ve.&&I’ve&told&you&once&already,&but& it&bears&men\oning&again:&a<er&a&woman&has&given&herself&to&you,&make&her&feel& GOOD&about&it.&&So&I&would&have&called&her&5^30&minutes&later&and&had&a&nice&liXle& talk&^&about&how&you&loved&spending&\me&with&her,&and&how&sexy&she&was.&&Ask& her&what&she’s&up&to&for&the&rest&of&the&day.&&Then&say&something&like&“well,& something&tells&me&I’ll&catch&you&very&soon&on&text”.&&That’s&always&an&easy&way& back&to&tex\ng,&and&asking&her&out&again. =============================

In the previous example, the girl got really turned off and didn’t want to see my client anymore - she thought he was a jerk. He didn’t mean to be... he just didn’t know how to text her the right thing. Just one example (of many) of how easy it is to screw things up.


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Worst of all, if you’ve got her number, there’s a good chance that a few other guys do too... so her inbox is a literal battleground of guys vying for her attention. Every message you send is another entry in a competition for her time and her interest.

So that sucks. But we’re not out of the woods just yet.

DEALING WITH HER FEELINGS Remember - women make the decision about whether or not to see you again based on emotion, not logic. Based on how they feel about you.

Along those lines, here’s another important thing you need to understand:

Feelings are “transmitted” across a number of “channels.” Your eyes, your facial expression, your body language, your vocal tonality, and yes, the words you speak.

So the best chance you have of making someone feel good about you is to use all of your channels well. Good eye contact. Nice smooth vocal tonality. Solid conversation and flirtation. Great nonverbals.


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The fewer channels you have to work with, the harder it is to influence someone’s feelings.

Live, in-person is better than a video call. A video call is better than a phone call. A phone call is better than texting.

Given how “narrow” of a channel texting is, you’re already at a disadvantage. So why not just proclaim “I don’t do texting” and just call her?

Well, put yourself in a girl’s shoes for a second. She’s given her number out to a few guys. The right move for her is to sit back and let them “duke it out” for her interest. She can let the messages roll in, take her time to respond to them, and see who she’s liking the most.

Girls say they like it when a guy calls them, but in my experience, it’s almost never in your best interest. Especially with girls under 30. They rarely pick up, so all it really does is brand you in a girl’s mind as “that guy who really likes me because he called me.”

The one caveat - every now and then you need to do it when you’re coordinating times for something - a movie, for example. But in general, if someone is telling you that you should call a girl instead of texting her, you can pretty much ignore them. It strips you of your power and value.


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And make no mistake - most guys just don’t have the power when they’re trying to get a girl to go out with them. It’s just how the dating game is played.

A girl’s text message inbox is one of the most efficient “guy screening” tools ever invented.

So woe be upon you if - with this very narrow communication channel - you can’t make her feel good about you.

Not only do you have to avoid making any dumb mistakes or turning her off, but you also have to amplify her emotions towards you with every additional text you send.

Rather than making her feel good on one phone call, you’ve got to make her feel better and better about you over the course of five, ten or twenty text messages.

And it never really ends, does it? Until you’re in a proper relationship with her, you have to keep “getting it right” with texting. You really need to get good at this stuff, because text messaging is the bridge between every time that you see her.


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It’s become an integral part of the dating game.

High stakes. If you’ve ever felt like texting was unfair, annoying, or frustrating, you probably now have a better understanding of why it feels that way.

It’s literally a different form of communication than anything else out there. Comparing texting to real conversation is like comparing English to French.

To carry the metaphor further: if you visited France but only spoke English, it’d be pretty darn tough to connect with all of the beautiful women you’d meet there.

So let’s look at the “language” of texting.

SUBCOMMUNICATION AND THE LANGUAGE OF TEXTING When you text a guy friend, think about what’s going on.


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You’re probably already his buddy. You’re not worried about him “having other options” or “losing interest” if things don’t go right. And importantly, you’re not trying to get into his pants or get him out on a date. Rigggggght?

Think of a text conversation you had with one of your guy friends recently. Chances are it wasn't emotional, or flirty, or sexy... I mean, I hope it wasn’t.

And if your buddy texts or calls you up just to “say hi” or “chat” about whatever, chances are you’d wonder what drug he was on. I might even give my friend an emoji slap if he pulled something like that with me. It’s like “dude, we’ll talk when we hang out.”

The dynamics of texting your buddy just aren’t that complicated. It’s information exchange, pure and simple.

But the dynamics of texting a girl involve two things:

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We’ll get to the specific words in a little bit. For now, let’s look at subcommunication, because SO many guys mess this stuff up.

Here’s the deal:

When you text her, a girl is gathering so much more information than the specific words you’re pecking out. For example, she’s paying attention to stuff like...

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All of these dynamics are “under the radar” - that’s why we call them subcommunication.

But make no mistake, she can feel them.

If you mess this stuff up, it will absolutely KILL you. Funny thing is, I see a lot of guys who are great at talking to girls in “real life” who don’t get the texting subcommunication right.

Let’s look at another critique I did for a client. He had set up a date the night before, and was texting her this day to confirm it.

====================== 5:13&PM Client:&I hope you’re gearing up for a night you won’t forget. Did I say id get u at 6 or 630? Either works for me You&start&to&give&away&too&much&interest&at&this&point.&&Being&a&guy&who’s&a&“ten”& means&that&YOU’RE&a&busy&guy.&&But&the&subtext&here&was&“I&can’t&wait&to&see&you& and&it&can’t&come&soon&enough”.&&Also,&a&guy&who’s&on&top&of&his&shit&remembers& this&stuff.&&BeXer&would&have&been:


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Heyyyy [nickname], ready to get some delish on tonizzight?

Running a lil late, so !

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For sure.

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When you’re excited about a girl, you don’t think about stuff like this, but she’s able to pick up on the “under the surface” stuff, loud and clear.

So that’s subcommunication.

There’s also the specific word choice: you’ve got a LOT less space to work with than you do on a phone call or an in-person conversation. Every word matters. And I’ve seen guys screw it up in all sorts of ways.

Some guys don’t get texting, period. They’re formal, and act like it’s a real conversation.

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Some guys get WAY too silly or overeager, and the girl can’t take them seriously.

And so on...

Becoming “fluent” in the language of texting isn’t something that comes naturally to most of us.

Hey - no one said mastering a new language was going to be easy. But if you’ve read this far, you’re already ten steps ahead of the next guy.

Because you now understand the key dynamics of text messaging. You understand the “under the radar” stuff that most guys will never know. You understand why the odds of the game aren’t in your favor.

And if this report ended here, it’d be pretty depressing. Good thing for you that we’re just getting started.

A little later on in this report, I’m going to get into some very advanced psychology and brain science. It’s for guys who want total control, total power and total mastery.

But I know that not every client has the time or interest to devote to that. They just want to get a girl out on a date.


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If that’s you, I get it. But I hope I’ve impressed upon you that it’s in your best interest to get as good at this stuff as possible. I can give you some good texts that will get a girl out on a date, but that doesn’t mean you won’t screw it up somewhere else.

So I hope you’ll take advantage of everything that I’m making available to you. Consider yourself warned if you’re just skimming, or looking for quick tips.

Still with me? Nice.... onwards.

THE FIVE PHASES OF A TEXTING INTERACTION At it’s most basic level, the goal of texting is VERY simple: to see a girl again. As we discussed, texting is the bridge between when you see her, and when you see her again.


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The advanced stuff we’ll get to later will basically accelerate her feelings towards you so that she likes you a LOT more than she would if you were just doing basic texting.

But hey, if - with some basic texting - you can consistently go out with every girl whose number you get, you’re already in the top 10% of guys. Most guys can’t even do that.

That’s because they don’t understand the 5 different “phases” of a texting relationship:

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Obviously, the goal is to go from Phase 1 to Phase 4, without ending up in Phase 5. And the biggest mistake I see - besides sending lousy first texts is that guys just wait too damn long to ask a girl out.

You can and should ask her out in Phase 1. Here’s an example from my phone. Quick backstory: there is a pizza place here in New York called Artichoke that is absolutely amazing. Also - when I met the girl who I’m texting here, I mentioned that I was on a pretty strict low-carb diet.

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1:47&PM me: yeah, I can’t stop fantasizing about the white pizza at artichoke. best in the city. 2:25&PM her: I’m slightly embarassed to say I’ve never had it :( 2:52&PM me: whaaaaaaaa... I was impressed to hear about all of your acting and where your heart is in it, but this is a new and disappointing side of you. 4:01&PM her: I know I know, I really need help. 4:57&PM me: ok I know what we’re doing next time I see you. your pizza crispy and delicious 5:15&PM her: I do I do! sounds amazing!

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5:35&PM me: niiiice.

let’s make this dough/cheese/sauce-fest happen... how’s ur

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From “first text” to “asking her out” in five texts. And notice that there were fairly large time gaps between our texts. This is all in the “sporadic” phase of our exchange.

It doesn’t always happen this easily, but a good first text can go a long way in setting the right tone and making it easy to ask her out. There’s a lot of other great stuff going on here, as well - specifically with the word choice.

But the important point is that it’s not hard to ask her out after just a few good text messages.

Once you get further along into the phases, you can really start to have some fun. Here’s an example of a technique that I call “Fauxmance” a.k.a. false romance. It’s a very fun way to flirt with a girl. I’m using it here in Phase 3 (She’s Leading).

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4:35&PM her: Hey Mr. Important, so what are you up to today? 4:57&PM me: getting my hustle on so we can go on that romantic cruise we’ve been talkin about, and enjoy champagne under the mediterranean moon.

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Obviously, I have no intention of taking a girl who I’m just getting to know on a mediterranean cruise. But it’s a funny and romantic sentiment. Girls love this sort of stuff if you do it at the right time.

Notice something else in there. I didn’t end the my text with a question like “how about you?” That’s because I already know she’s leading, and will be sending me a follow up. When she’s leading, the goal is to make sure that she keeps leading, asking more questions, and moving things along.

Why? Well, let’s flip the situation for a second. Think about a time when you were texting a girl, and you felt like you had to keep putting effort and work into the interaction. It made you feel like she was a little more important than you, didn’t it? It kept you on the edge of your seat, making sure that you wrote the right thing.


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Well, that’s the exact thing we’re trying to do here. I use the fauxmance technique because it gives her a “shot” of emotional energy that will get her feeling really good, and will ensure that she keeps leading for awhile.

Once you know which phase you’re in, it’s easy to apply the right technique at the right time, and make the next date happen.

And the faster you can do that, the more fun you’ll have, and the more that YOU will be the one in control of your dating life.

HOW TO TURN THE GAME ON IT’S HEAD AND BEAT THE ODDS Think about all of the things that drive you nuts about texting...

- spending five or ten minutes on each message because you want to it to be “perfect”

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- feeling like you have no power or control - that your fate is in her hands

Wouldn’t it be great if you never had to deal with those things ever again? And even better, what if you could flip them around, so that...

- she spent five or ten minutes on every message she sent you, wanting it to be perfect

- she nervously wondered if you would respond favorably to what she wrote

- she sat by her phone anxiously, hoping beyond hope that you’d write her back

- she felt like you had all the power and control - that her happiness was in your hands

Well, it just so happens that I’ve discovered some psychological “hacks” and “backdoors” with texting that can consistently and reliably make that happen.

Use them right, and you will literally get a girl addicted to you. The science behind this is going to blow you away.


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Become a master of this, and she will be sitting by her phone, anxiously awaiting your next text... trying to prove herself to you in every message she sends... and vividly fantasizing about what will happen when she meets up with you.

The techniques are based on proven, inescapable science and psychology. Learning this stuff is going to give you powers that few men will ever possess.

Sound good? Then let’s get on with it.

THE PSYCHOLOGICAL “HACK” THAT GIVES YOU CONTROL I need you to follow me here. This is important.

There’s a chemical in your brain called dopamine. It’s the neurotransmitter that gets released when you’re rewarded by something - think sex, or a delicious bite of food.

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And not surprisingly, dopamine is released when you get a text from a girl you like.

But you’re not the only one who gets the dopamine squirt. When you “speak the language of texting” properly, her dopamine system gets activated too.

And when you get really good, you can put a girl into a "dopamine induced loop" where she is literally addicted to texting you (and the only thing that will satiate her addiction is to be with you).

It all happens with word choice and subcommunication, and the emotions they create in her. It’s the ultimate psychological hack.

Sounds insane, I know. I couldn’t believe it when I discovered this either. Stick with me.

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It's not just a "tool for communication".

The cell-phone is a pleasure device.

Whether you want to get her on a date... whether you want her as your girlfriend... whether you want her in your bedroom... you're going to know without a shadow of a doubt that she wants what you want.

After I discovered this, it saved my clients hours of time and effort that they used to put into dates. It cut out the uncertainty of not knowing what would happen when they met up with a girl. It was the ultimate dating short-cut.

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WOMEN ARE NOT DOGS. DON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT GOING THERE.

I absolutely love the women in my life. I respect their humanity and do everything I can to celebrate their inner and outer beauty. I hope you will do the same with the women in your life.

With that said...both men and women react like dogs in response to text messaging.

We’ll use you as an example.

Let's say you are texting back and forth with a girl you're really attracted to. She's doing some of the texting tricks that I’ll give you in a moment (women are naturally good at this stuff).

Every time you get a message from her, you feel a rush of positive emotions.

But let's say she hasn't texted you back for a few hours... you're beginning to get worried... when all of a sudden you feel your phone buzzes, alerting you that you've got a new message.


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As you reach for your phone, your heart rate increases, and the dopamine starts pouring into your neural receptors. You feel a wave of anticipation as you open up the message...

Only to discover that the text message was from your Mom!

Bummer... the emotion dies down down as you feel a twinge of disappointment.

But that doesn't change the fact that you still felt a burst of desire when your phone went on.

Why did you feel these things?

Because it was a conditioned response to her previous text messages. You had been trained to feel that way, based on the messages she sent you earlier.

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Hereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s how it works with humans: when John creates positive emotional responses in Mary, she can be conditioned to associate those responses with an outside stimuli.

To put it simply - it means that you can condition her to feel a rush of positive emotions, and immediately think of you, the second her phone goes off... every time.

I hope you understand what this means for you...

Anytime she gets a text... even if itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s not from you... she thinks of you, and gets more excited about seeing you again.


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Just imagine the emotions that are going on inside of her...

You've done everything right. You've activated her dopamine system, and successfully associated it with you.

She is sitting by herself, in hot anticipation of your next message to her.

And when someone else messages her, all in the span of less than 10 seconds, she feels a positive rush of dopamine, and a negative feeling of disappointment.

That mix of positive and negative emotions is exactly what causes addiction, on a psychological level.

It's like drugs - the positive feeling of an intense high, and the inevitable comedown. That's how people become addicted to anything.

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...AND NOW SHEâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S ADDICTED TO HEARING FROM YOU A study of teens who frequently used text-messaging in the Seattle area came to this conclusion:

"They get withdrawal-like systems if they don't have their phone or someone doesn't return a text quickly" (source = Q13 Fox News).

Are you beginning to see how this stuff can bring on a climatic feeling in her?

It's because this rush of chemicals activates a girl's "pleasure center".

Yep, the same pleasure center where she experiences sexual fulfillment.

If you have a hard time believing that girls can get completely turned on with a simple message on their phone, then how about this one:

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same as an addict using heroin."

And it happens because you followed the proven formula to activating her pleasure center with your text messaging.

Look, don't get me wrong... this is some intense stuff we're talking about here.

And most guys will never be able to elicit these responses in a girl they like.

But youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re going to be one step ahead of all the other guys in her phone who are texting her.

And we've gone into a lot of theory, and jargon. So let's tie it back to what you actually want to do when you text her.

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HOW TO TAP INTO HER PLEASURE CENTER WITH YOUR PHONE There are three things that every guy who’s great at texting knows how to do:

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When you do all three of these things right, you’ll stir up a potent cocktail of dopamine in her brain, and make her very excited about you.

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Because, when you get them right, they get the girl to invest in you.

Her first “investment” is small. A quick response to your first text.

Then there are a few texts exchanged, and she starts investing a little more. She starts thinking about the “right” thing to send you.

Soon, she’s thinking about you a lot - about the fun times she’ll have with you. She’s “investing” in you even when you’re not texting her.

Before you know it, she’s sending you naughty texts about stuff that she wants to do with you. She doesn’t do this for just anyone - she’s WAY invested in you.

And if you play poker, or know anything about it, then what’s the ultimate form of investment?

Going all-in.

When you do the three things I just told you about, you’ll build her investment in you to the point where she’s literally all-in.


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Her subconscious thought process goes something like this, "well... I’ve been texting him a LOT... and I put a lot of thought into my texts... so I MUST really like him."

Psychologists call this an "escalation of commitment".

Doctor Barry M. Staw, expert in Behavior and Psychology at University of California Berkeley, Haas School of Business, first discovered this principle in 1976. And the rule is that humans justify their actions based on previous investment.

My larger Text God Program is full of texts and exchanges that show you how to make this happen. But let’s cover some high level stuff right now.

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And a great place to start is by making her smile and laugh. Think about two of the good first texts you’ve read about so far:

“ur dress last night = weapon of mass destruction.

i trust you put it

somewhere that the CIA won’t find it”

“carb withdrawal is bad today.

just saw a child eating pizza and

thought about bribing him for a bite.”

Both of those are engineered to make her smile and laugh. There is some funny visual imagery, and there are some “hooks” for her to grab onto. Another Phase 1+ technique (i.e. you can use it in Phase 1, or any point thereafter) I’ll use with a girl is the multi-line - you take multiple lines to type out a few words. It’s silly and childish, but it has never failed to get a great response from a girl.

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This messages will also make her smile and laugh, “stimulating” her emotions in a way that gets her feeling good. And if she always felt good when she texted you, she’d probably want to keep texting you, right?

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But there are other emotions that take you texting from “enjoyable” to “addictive” for her. And that’s where we get to point two.

BE UNPREDICTABLE Dopamine is stimulated by unpredictability.

Behavioral Psychologist Susan Weinschenk, in a study on texting, discovered that, "When something happens that is not exactly predictable, that stimulates the dopamine system... texts show up, but we don't know exactly when they will or who they will be from. It's unpredictable."

This means that you CAN'T be predictable in your texts or responses to her texts. If she knows that every message you send is going to be funny, or make her laugh, she’ll be able to “peg” you as predictable... and predictability is boring... so you can’t keep hitting the same emotional buttons again and again.

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One of my favorite second dates in New York City is to start somewhere swanky - usually the Oak Room bar at the Plaza Hotel - then head somewhere dive-y. And my dive of choice is called Ace Bar. Besides the rock n’ roll ambiance, Ace Bar has two skeeball lanes. Makes the date fun, active and even lets us do some betting for kisses and more. Here’s an example of me switching things up in a text message, challenging a girl, and her getting a little defiant.

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This sort of texting can “charge up” her emotions heading into a date, and create some really good, playful tension that only gets released when kissing happens ;)

There’s a LOT more you can do with unpredictability. Of course, you’ve got to be careful with this one. In Text God , I include case studies where a guy tries to trigger defiance, but doesn’t have enough investment, and ends up pissing the girl off royally.

But when you get this stuff right, oh man... it takes you from “a guy she likes texting” to “the only guy she wants to hear from.”

Even better - there’s still one more “psychological hack” we can use to get her even more into you.

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In other words, you secrete more dopamine in the moments leading up to a kiss, than you do when youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re actually kissing.

Applying this to texting, the key is to build anticipation that sheâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll feel for your next text, by sending texts that leave her wanting more.

For example, a lot of guys send long text messages to girls. They leave no stone unturned in their message, and they go into great detail about things. They tell a girl every little detail about their lives.

But in order to build anticipation, you can't give her EVERYTHING at once. You should text her incomplete responses.

This works because of the "Zeigarnick Effect", the psychological effect that proves that when we transmit an incomplete thought to someone... when we leave certain key details out of our text messages... their mind fixates on it until it's completed.

When you use my texting techniques that employ the Zeigarnick Effect, you have to be careful... you will quickly develop the power to make her instantly fixated on you and even obsessed with you, because every text message causes her mind to associate you with an array of addictive emotions.


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One of my favorite ways to create anticipation is with what I call the “short text.” You use it when you’re in Phase 2 - Rapid Rapport. As a reminder, this is when she’s quick to reply to your texts, and you’re texting her fairly frequently. That usually starts to happen after the first date, or with a girl who you’ve met through a social circle.

So let’s say you’ve been texting back and forth with her for about 30 minutes straight, and she asks how your afternoon is looking. you’re going to send her a one or two-word, very short text, and then drop it.

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4:42&PM me: heyyyyy got pulled into a meeting... damn crazy day, I think a gin and tonic is in my near future ;) 5:13&PM her: oh no!

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Why does this work? Well, after 30 minutes of back-and-forth, she’s conditioned to expect a fast response from you. Then... boom: a one-word response, and no follow up for three hours. It creates all sorts of questions in her mind: did she say the wrong thing? Is everything ok with you? What’s happening that she doesn’t know about?

It’s all happening in the subcommunications. It’s unpredictable, and for those next three hours, her brain is releasing some dopamine every time a text message comes in... she’s hoping it’s from you, so she can get “closure” on why you didn’t write back to her.

Critically, when you finally reply, it needs to be something sweet, fun, and explanatory. I’ve seen guys screw up the short text by being too nonchalant when they get back to the girl. Doing that will only make her put her guard up.


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The principle here is to create anticipation... then release it in a way that makes her brain go “ahhhhhhh.”

And if I had to take a guess, I’m willing to be that a girl has done something like this to you... right?

Now you know why it made you feel the way it did, AND how you can use it too.

THIS WORKS ESPECIALLY WELL IF SHE STOPS RESPONDING You’d be surprised how easy it is to get a girl to start responding to you again.

Even if you've already been on a date or two, and things have dropped off...

You need re-activate her pleasure centers again. It's a little more work this time, because she's not as invested.


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Here's how you should think of it...

Pretend that you had bet on (or in other words, “invested in”) a horse at the racetrack. You think it’s a winner, but it loses the race. The jockey would probably have to put in a little work to make you bet on it again.

... But the possibility is still there because you really wanted it to win in the first place.

You'd be skeptical, but you'd be even more invested the second time around because you really wanted your belief to pay off.

So once you get that investment back again, she will feel even more powerful emotions for you than before.

And not every guy has the power to do that. Very few do. But it’s yours if you want it:


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HOW TO “SOLVE” THIS TEXT-MESSAGING THING FOREVER I care about the success of the guys who want to learn from me, and I put a lot of time and effort into creating QUALITY material. I research the stuff I put out, I live it, and - because my real name is on it - I make sure that it’s good.

There is a lot of gimmicky marketing out there, but I’m going to assume that you’re smart enough to discern between the good stuff, and the snake oil.

As I look back through this report, I’m thinking to myself “wow, there was a lot of good stuff in there.” And I hope you feel the same.

You should now have a basic understanding of why and how you need to shift the dynamics of a texting interaction into your favor. We went over the proven psychological principles that, when used properly, will cause any girl in your phonebook to feel attraction towards you - and ultimately start liking you a lot, and even becoming addicted to receiving your messages.

My goal is always to help clients understand why something works before getting into the nitty-gritty "how-to" stuff.


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I need to teach you how to fish, instead of just giving you a fish, because new women will always be coming up with new stuff to keep you on your heels.

With what you’ve learned here today, you are going to have a huge leg up over just about every other guy who’s sending texts to the girls you’re interested in. I’ve given you a lot of theory, and a lot of practical techniques that you can use to text the girls in your phone book. First texts, tips on how to ask ‘em out... and how to start getting that dopamine loop kicking ;)

So you can take what you’ve learned here, and go it alone. If you spend some time on this stuff, and don’t mind burning through some numbers along the way, I’m sure you can take these principles and get some really good results with them.

The other option: if you want access to my whole texting playbook everything I know about texting... all of the messages I send, all of the examples and breakdowns, and how to make sure that you are a total master at this, you can upgrade to my Text God Program .

The goals of the program are:


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I created Text God Program so that you don’t have to do the work to figure this stuff out.

And I’d love to have you onboard with me :)

Talk soon, Robbie

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Multi Orgasmic  Lover   Owner’s  Manual   Waiver  of  Liability     Multi  Orgasmic  Lover  is  an  intensive  course  that  involves  performing  physical   practices.  If  you  have  physical  injuries,  have  had  prostate  surgery  or  have  other   medical  issues,  consult  a  doctor  before  proceeding.  Always  proceed  at  your  own   speed  and  stop  immediately  if  anything  hurts  or  feels  uncomfortable.   By  proceeding  with  this  training  you  agree  to  assume  all  risk  of  injuries  associated   with  participation,  including  but  not  limited  to  pulled  muscles,  pain,  relationship   issues  or  death.   You  hereby  acknowledge  that  you  are  physically  fit  and  mentally  capable  of   performing  the  exercises  in  this  program.  If  you  have  medical  issues,  you  agree  to   consult  a  doctor  before  proceeding.   After  having  read  this  waiver  and  knowing  these  facts,  by  proceeding  with  this   program,  you  agree  to  HOLD  HARMLESS,  WAIVE  AND  RELEASE  Jim  Benson,  Evoka   Media  and  all  its  officers,  agents,  employees,  organizers,  representatives,  and   successors  from  any  responsibility,  liabilities,  demands,  or  claims  of  any  kind  arising   out  of  your  participation  in  the  Multi  Orgasmic  Lover  Training  program.    

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Welcome!

The  Multi  Orgasmic  Lover  training  is  a  journey.  By  the  end  of  the  journey,  you’ll  be  a   different  person  and  a  different  lover.  You’re  about  to  learn  bedroom  skills  that’ll   pay  off  for  the  rest  of  your  life.   This  is  your  opportunity  to  deeply  explore  yourself  as  a  sexual  being;  to   breakthrough  old  blocks  that  have  kept  you  from  loving  yourself  and  others,  and  to   carve  new  neural  pathways  of  pleasure  in  your  mind  and  body.   By  the  end  of  the  course,  you’ll  …   Ø Learn  how  to  systematically  expand  your  capacity  for  pleasure,  so  both  you   and  your  partner  can  enjoy  lovemaking  a  lot  more.   Ø Know  how  to  relax  during  sex,  so  you  can  stop  worrying  about  performing  or   about  “doing  well”  and  be  in  the  moment  instead.   Ø Find  out  just  how  powerful  breath  can  be.  You’ll  learn  how  to  use  breath  to   manage  your  arousal  levels,  to  increase  sexual  bliss,  and  to  connect  more   powerfully  with  your  partner.   Ø Learn  to  master  your  ejaculation.  You’ll  choose  if  or  when  you  want  to   ejaculate.   Ø Begin  to  have  full-­‐body  or  multiple  orgasmic  experiences  without  ejaculating.   Everything  you’re  about  to  learn  in  this  course  has  been  tested  by  thousands  of  men   from  all  over  the  world.  It’s  based  on  ancient  practices,  modern  research  and  my   own  personal  experiences  as  well  as  that  of  my  students.    

What you’ll  be  doing  in  this  training   You  will  be  retraining  your  body  to  experience  pleasure  in  a  new  way.  You’ll  do  this   by  doing  a  number  of  exercises  designed  to  open  new  pathways  in  your  body  and   expand  your  capacity  for  pleasure.  You  will  be  masturbating,  and  applying  these   exercises  to  your  masturbation  sessions.  (You  may  notice  that  when  I’m  referring  to   masturbation  in  the  context  of  these  new  exercises  that  I  replace  it  with  the  term   “self-­‐pleasuring”  to  distinguish  it  from  a  more  results-­‐focused  or  ejaculation-­‐focused   outcome.)     The  idea  is  to  pleasure  yourself  close  to  “the  point  of  no  return,”  beyond  which  you   would  surely  ejaculate.  You  then  apply  some  of  the  techniques  you’ll  be  learning  in   this  training  until  your  arousal  drops  down  —  not  entirely,  but  somewhat.  You’ll   Owner’s  Manual  for  Multi  Orgasmic  Lover  

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return to  self-­‐pleasuring  until  you’re  close  to  ejaculating  again.  Then  you’ll  apply  the   techniques  once  more.  Over  time  the  techniques  become  as  easy  and  natural  and   effortless  as  sex  itself  (well,  at  least  as  sex  should  be!)   That’s  the  bare-­‐bones  plan.  You  may  have  heard  of  this  practice  before;  it’s  also   known  as  “edging,”  as  in,  coming  close  to  the  edge  of  ejaculation,  but  not  going  over   it.  When  guys  “edge”  during  intercourse,  it’s  often  called  “karezza,”  or  “coitus   reservatus.”  But  what  distinguishes  this  program  from  the  standard  practice  of  just   stopping  before  you  ejaculate  are  the  following  aspects  of  the  Multi  Orgasmic  Lover   program:   • • • • • •

Releasing blocks   Healing  shame   Learning  to  relax   Adding  the  “ME  Breath”   Connecting  sex  and  heart   Using  sound  and  vocalization  

These parts  of  the  program  not  only  will  serve  you  well  as  you  learn  how  to  master   your  ejaculation,  they  are  hugely  important  keys  in  helping  you  become  a  multi-­‐ orgasmic  man.     You  can  —  and  should  —  practice  all  of  the  techniques  in  this  program  solo,  in  your   own  self-­‐pleasuring  sessions.  In  Module  10,  I  talk  about  how  to  include  partners  in   these  practices;  at  any  time,  you  can  skip  ahead  to  that  module  to  learn  more  about   how  to  do  that.  But  I  highly  recommend  learning  to  fly  solo  before  carrying   passengers!  

How to  get  the  most  out  of  this  training  

Over the  years  that  I’ve  offered  this  program,  I’ve  noticed  that  guys  who  follow  the   guidelines  below  seem  to  get  maximum  results  from  the  program.  If  you  follow   these  suggestions  and  keep  them  as  your  context  while  you  proceed  through  the   modules,  you  are  almost  guaranteed  to  end  up  with  the  results  you  want.  

Determine your  intention.    

What do  you  want  to  accomplish  in  this  program?  When  you  imagine  yourself  as  a   lover  five  years  from  now,  what  will  you  want  to  have  experienced?  In  the  realm  of   sexuality,  what  do  you  want  your  inner  state  to  be?  Write  out  these  goals  and  refer   to  them  frequently  throughout  the  program.    

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Do these  modules  in  order.    

This program  has  been  carefully  designed  to  give  you  maximum  chance  for  success.   If  there  are  exercises  that  you  don’t  resonate  with,  it’s  OK  to  skip  them,  but  only   after  you’ve  given  them  a  good  testing  period  —  usually,  in  my  experience,  at  least  a   week.  The  exception  is  Module  10  where  I  discuss  integrating  these  practices  with  a   partner.  Once  you’ve  reached  Module  5,  you  can  refer  to  Module  10  at  any  time.  

Set time  aside.    

I’ve designed  Multi  Orgasmic  Lover  so  that  it  can  accommodate  a  busy  lifestyle.      

There are  two  kinds  of  practices  in  this  program:  Self-­‐pleasuring  and  supplemental.   The  self-­‐pleasuring  sessions  are  generally  20-­‐30  minutes  long;  depending  on  how  full   your  life  is,  you  can  do  between  1  and  5  of  these  sessions  per  week.  Like  anything   else,  the  more  time  you  give  to  the  self-­‐pleasuring  practices,  the  faster  you’ll   progress.  The  supplemental  practices  can  be  done  as  part  of  a  morning  ritual,  or   right  before  your  self-­‐pleasuring  practices.  Usually  they  are  between  2  and  5   minutes  long.     To  give  yourself  maximum  chance  for  success  with  this  program,  do  what  you  can  to   clear  time  in  your  calendar  for  the  practices,  and  actually  schedule  them.  Add  your   practice  time  to  your  calendar  as  soon  as  you  get  your  “home-­‐fun”  assignment  from   the  audio  recordings.  If  you  live  with  your  sexual  partner,  let  them  know  that  you’ll   be  setting  aside  time  to  practice.  Remember,  you’re  worth  it!  

Be kind  to  yourself.    

You’re going  to  be  engaged  in  the  process  of  re-­‐wiring  an  outdated  system.  You’re   changing  old  habits  and  beliefs.  You’re  diving  directly  into  pockets  of  fear  and   anxiety.  This  process  of  change  will  go  more  smoothly  if  you  make  room  for  your   frustration,  your  struggle,  and  feelings  of  failure.  Give  yourself  a  break.  Imagine  that   you’re  teaching  a  child  to  tie  his  shoes  —  would  you  yell  at  him  for  not  getting  it   right  away?  Probably  not.  I  would  hope  you  would  be  supportive  and  caring.  Treat   yourself  in  a  similar  way.  

Be willing  to  change  your  patterns.    

Even though  you  may  not  be  able  to  fully  see  the  habitual  patterns  that  lock  you  into   undesirable  behaviors,  simply  cultivating  the  willingness  to  change  can  make  a  huge   difference.  I  know  guys  who,  as  they’re  engaged  in  their  supplemental  practices,  add   Owner’s  Manual  for  Multi  Orgasmic  Lover  

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simple spoken  affirmations  like,  “I’m  willing  to  change  my  old  habits  and  beliefs   about  sex,”  or  “I’m  changing  and  growing  as  a  sexual  man.”  

Stop if  something  hurts.    

I’m serious  about  this  one.  If  you  experience  sharp  or  dull  pain  in  your  genitals  or   surrounding  areas,  stop  the  practices  immediately  and  make  an  appointment  with   your  doctor  to  talk  about  it.  Only  resume  the  training  once  the  pain  has  subsided,   and  even  then,  proceed  with  caution.    

Learn technique,  drop  technique.    

You are  training  your  body  to  forget  your  training  and  simply  take  the  action  that  it   is  designed  for.  In  this  case,  that  means  multiple  orgasms  without  ejaculation!  I  don’t   want  you  to  become  a  sex  technician.  I’m  encouraging  you  to  learn  a  practice,  and  as   soon  as  you  can,  forget  about  it.  Let  your  body  take  over.  My  intention  is  that  you   become  so  unconsciously  competent  with  these  practices  that,  in  your  lovemaking,   you  barely  notice  you’re  doing  them!  

Don’t get  preoccupied  with  your  “blocks.”    

If your  energy  flow  is  a  river,  and  your  energy  blocks  are  boulders  in  the  river,   remember  that  the  river  keeps  flowing  around  the  blocks.  If  you  focus  only  on  the   boulders,  you  never  get  to  enjoy  the  river!  The  Multi  Orgasmic  Lover  program  is   designed  to  wear  down  those  boulders,  or  even  roll  them  out  of  the  river  entirely.   Over  time,  as  you  stay  with  these  practices,  those  boulders  turn  to  stones  and   pebbles,  and  your  “energy  river”  gets  smoother  and  wider.    

Get support.    

Support can  take  many  forms.  Some  guys  recruit  their  friends  to  join  them  in  the   program  and  use  each  other  to  stay  accountable  to  the  practices.  If  you  have  a  coach,   a  therapist,  or  an  accountability  partner,  you  can  enlist  them  to  help  you  stay  on   track.  And  if  you  haven’t  already,  you  can  also  join  our  online  community:  The   Sexual  Mastery  Inner  Circle.  It’s  a  great  way  to  share  your  experiences,  bounce  ideas   off  other  men,  and  get  your  important  questions  answered.  

Become friends  with  your  shame.    

I’ve done  a  lot  of  research  in  the  multi  orgasmic  arena,  and  no  one  out  there  is   talking  about  sexual  shame.  I’m  convinced  that  unacknowledged  shame  is  at  the  root   of  a  vast  majority  of  sexual  issues,  and  also  why  most  guys  drop  out  of  programs  like   mine.  I  want  you  to  get  to  know  your  shame;  to  de-­‐fang  it;  and  to  help  you  know  that   you’re  not  alone.  Everyone  has  sexual  shame  in  one  form  or  another.  And  it  doesn’t   need  to  run  your  sex  life.    

Focus on  your  internal  experience.    

I’m encouraging  you  to  give  up  porn  and  mental  fantasy  for  the  length  of  time  you’re   actively  engaged  with  these  modules.  Why?  Not  because  they’re  inherently  bad,  but  

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because they  direct  your  attention  away  from  yourself.  You’re  masturbating  to  an   external  object,  a  fantasy  woman  or  a  porn  princess.  Cultivating  greater  awareness   of  your  sensate  experience  requires  you  to  bring  your  attention  to  yourself  and  your   experience  in  the  moment.  Think  of  this  internally-­‐directed  focus  as  a  way  of   expanding  your  “pleasure  palette.”  

Cultivate a  no-­‐agenda,  no-­‐goal  attitude.     The  mind  loves  to  create  a  goal  and  reach  it.  But  I  want  to  encourage  you  to  balance   your  desire  to  attain  a  high  level  of  mastery  over  your  sexual  energy  with  a  “let  go”   attitude.  Living  this  paradox  is  like  walking  a  razor’s  edge,  and  is  a  very  high  level  of   functioning.  Some  guys  will  fool  their  minds  by  setting  a  goal  to  not  have  an  agenda!   Other  guys  will  regularly  remind  themselves  that  the  journey  is  as  important  as  the   destination.  Do  whatever  works  for  you.    

Treat yourself  to  pleasure.    

It sounds  simplistic,  but  saying,  “yes”  to  pleasure  is  an  important  step  in  becoming  a   fully  orgasmic  man.  In  the  section  below  I  describe  how  to  use  a  Pleasure  List  as  a   way  of  structuring  your  life  so  that  you  spend  more  time  doing  things  that  bring  you   joy.  Just  do  it.  Trust  me,  this  may  sound  trivial  but  it’s  not.  This  will  make  a  huge   difference  in  you  reaching  your  goals.      

Learn to  receive  and  surrender.    

I can’t  emphasize  enough  how  important  it  is  to  learn  to  receive,  and  ultimately,  to   learn  to  surrender.  A  lot  of  people  associate  surrender  with  weakness  but  that   couldn’t  be  more  inaccurate.  The  strength  IS  in  your  ability  to  surrender.  You  could   do  all  of  these  practices  in  this  program,  but  if  you  didn’t  expand  your  capacity  to   receive  and  let  go,  you  probably  wouldn’t  be  able  to  achieve  full-­‐body,  non-­‐ ejaculatory  orgasms.  I’ll  say  more  about  this  right  now.  

Expanding Your  Pleasure   1.  Receiving  from  yourself   Nearly  all  men  these  days  have  been  trained  to  pay  attention  to  the  woman  we’re   with  rather  than  ourselves.  This  phenomenon  creates  an  internal  dialogue  that   further  separates  us  from  our  in-­‐the-­‐moment  experience.  We’re  asking  questions  in   our  head  such  as,  “Is  she  enjoying  herself?”  “Am  I  good  enough?”  “What  should  I  do   next?”  And  we  forget  about  directing  those  same  questions  toward  ourselves:  “Am  I   enjoying  this?”  “Does  this  feel  good  to  me?”  “What  would  feel  better  for  me  right   now?”     Techniques  are  great  and  have  their  place  —  I  teach  and  use  plenty  of  them!  —  but   they  are  better  off  serving  the  situation  instead  of  dominating  it.  Again,  many  of  us   have  become  fixated  on  a  partner-­‐pleasing  technique  that  we’ve  adopted  when  in   Owner’s  Manual  for  Multi  Orgasmic  Lover  

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fact our  energy  would  be  better  spent  learning  to  1)  more  completely  enter  our   “animal  bodies”  and  experience  our  “fuck”  energy,  and  2)  feel  and  appropriately   express  our  own  needs,  wants,  desires,  and  preferences.     Receiving  from  yourself  also  means  setting  time  aside  for  pleasure,  and  learning  to   touch  yourself  in  a  way  that  gives  you  the  most  pleasure.  This  may  be  an   “unlearning”  for  many  of  us.  We’re  used  to  giving  to  others,  and  then  if  there’s  any   left  over,  we  get  a  little  bit.  Especially  regarding  self-­‐pleasuring:  Many  of  us  were   raised  in  sexually  repressive  environments,  and  the  times  we  spent  touching   ourselves  sexually,  in  our  childhood  or  adolescence,  were  most  likely  short-­‐lived   and  furtive,  with  the  specter  of  “getting  caught”  hanging  over  us.     The  Pleasure  List.  As  we  begin  to  give  to  ourselves  first,  we  create  new  pathways  of   pleasure.  I  want  to  encourage  you,  right  now,  to  create  a  “Pleasure  List”  that   includes  activities  you  can  do  that  give  you  a  sense  of  joy  or  renewal.  These   activities  can  cost  money  or  not,  and  can  be  enjoyed  solo  or  with  another.  Examples   from  my  personal  list:   • • • • • • • • • •

Take a  hot  tub   Sitting  meditation   Self  Pleasuring   Walk  in  nature   Bounce  on  trampoline   Receive  a  massage   Dance  to  music  (solo  or  with  others)   Sex  with  my  partner   Play  frisbee  on  the  beach   Visit  a  hot  springs  for  a  minimum  of  2  days  

Make this  a  long  list  for  yourself,  and  keep  adding  to  it  over  time.  Post  it  in  a   noticeable  location  —  or  even  make  it  as  digital  wallpaper  for  your  phone,  tablet  or   computer.  Then  do  at  least  one  thing  from  your  Pleasure  List  every  day,  and  even   more  than  that,  if  you  can.  Working  with  your  Pleasure  List  is  a  great  way  to  make   the  process  of  giving  to  yourself  more  conscious.   Slow  down.  Make  the  time.  No  matter  how  busy  you  are,  you  can  always  find  time  to   do  something  for  yourself  during  the  day.  Some  days  it  might  seem  that  all  you  have   time  for  is  taking  a  deep  breath  and  giving  thanks  before  eating  a  meal!  But  if  you   can  take  a  little  more  time,  there’s  a  chance  for  you  to  deepen  your  experience  of   yourself.  Give  yourself  an  hour  if  you  can.  Set  an  intention  to  relax  and  receive.   Warm  the  room,  if  it’s  not  already  warm.  Light  candles,  put  on  some  music.  Take  a   bath  with  scented  oils.    

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For some  guys  this  can  feel  like  an  intimidating  thing  to  take  on  because  it’s  easily   associated  with  something  that  only  women  would  do  for  themselves.  However,   when  you  start  to  relax  into  honoring  the  sensations  of  your  own  body  it  directly   opens  the  path  to  more  pleasure  and  thus  the  experience  of  being  able  to  let  go  into   multiple  non-­‐ejaculatory  orgasms.     Self-­‐massage  is  a  great  way  to  attune  to  what  feels  good  to  you.  What  kind  of  touch   do  you  most  enjoy?  Deep  and  slow,  light  and  ticklish,  percussive  and  intense?  Do   you  like  a  variety?  Perhaps  different  areas  of  your  body  prefer  different  kinds  of   touch  at  different  times.  Practice  giving  this  kind  of  massage  to  yourself  before  a   self-­‐pleasuring  session.  Experiment  with  touching  your  entire  body  before  focusing   on  your  genitals.  Change  positions,  writhe  and  make  some  sound.  Try  using  a  little   massage  oil  everywhere  on  your  body.   If  you  want  to  focus  on  your  genitals,  again,  take  time  to  explore  what  feels  good  to   you.  Do  your  best  to  break  out  of  your  adolescent  habits:  Allow  the  journey  of   sensation  to  be  the  goal,  NOT  a  quick,  ejaculatory  orgasm.  Explore  your  perineum.   Play  with  your  balls.  Experiment  with  different  strokes  on  the  shaft  and  head  of  your   cock.  Meanwhile,  continue  to  touch  yourself  everywhere.  Continue  to  writhe,   breathe  deeply,  and  make  sounds.     And  again,  understand  that  your  masculine  nature  may  not  particularly  enjoy  this   process!  That  part  of  you  is  more  interested  in  goals,  results,  analysis,  and  challenge.   But  this  self-­‐massage  exploration  is  a  chance  for  you  to  cultivate  your  inner  multi   orgasmic  nature.  Be  willing  to  move  through  your  discomfort  and  explore  this   softer,  less  “driven”  aspect  of  yourself.  

2. Receiving  from  a  partner  

Once you  know  what  most  turns  you  on,  you’re  better  able  to  communicate  your   wants  and  desires  to  your  partner.  For  many  men,  this  is  even  more  challenging   than  spending  time  consciously  self-­‐pleasuring.  Perhaps  you’ve  been  wounded  in   the  past  by  partners  who  rejected  your  requests  and  you’ve  made  an  internal   decision  not  to  ever  let  that  happen  again.     If  you  notice  that  you’re  tentative  in  communicating  your  desires,  then  it  may  be   that  learning  to  receive  from  a  partner  is  a  process  of  recovery  of  a  lost  part  of   yourself.  You  can  learn  to  ask  for  what  you  want  as  an  adult  who  can  take  care  of   himself  no  matter  what  happens.  This  adult  knows  how  to  talk  to  himself  to  get   through  challenging  moments  in  life,  knows  how  to  hear  “no”  without  taking  it   personally,  and  knows  how  to  negotiate  to  get  needs  met  as  best  he  can.     Directly  asking  for  sex.  Many  of  us  are  afraid  of  saying  something  like,  “I’ve  been   noticing  how  beautiful  you  look  today,  and  I’d  love  to  make  love  with  you  tonight.”   We’re  afraid  of  rejection,  and  would  rather  try  another  route,  like  giving  our  partner   Owner’s  Manual  for  Multi  Orgasmic  Lover  

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a shoulder  massage  and  hoping  she’ll  get  “in  the  mood.”  Try  the  direct  approach   instead.  Even  if  she  says  No,  she’ll  probably  be  watching  to  see  if  you  react   negatively.  If  you  don’t,  she’ll  find  that  attractive,  and  you  may  find  that  her  No   changes  to  a  Yes  later  on.   Asking  for  the  kind  of  touch  you  want.  One  of  my  early  sexual  partners  was  not   interested  in  my  cock  at  all,  it  seemed,  and  I  started  to  make  up  a  story  that  my   genitals  weren’t  attractive  or  desirable.  Many  times  I  wanted  my  cock  held,  without   sexual  stimulation,  but  I  wasn’t  able  to  say  anything  for  fear  of  rejection.  Later  I   found  out  that  often  a  woman  will  not  touch  a  man’s  genitals  because  she’s  afraid   that  doing  so  will  make  him  think  that  she  wants  sex.  So  I  eventually  learned  (it  took   many  years)  to  say  something  like,  “I’m  not  feeling  particularly  sexual  now,  but  it   would  be  deeply  comforting  for  me  if  you  would  hold  my  cock.”  If  she  agreed,  then   I’d  tell  her  just  how  I  wanted  to  be  held,  which  was  another  great  practice   opportunity  –  learning  I  could  be  held  exactly  how  I  wanted.  Most  women  are  happy   to  oblige  with  this  kind  of  thing,  if  they’re  asked  directly.  Remember:  you’re  not  a   nerdy  adolescent,  or  a  “beggar  with  a  bowl,”  looking  for  scraps  of  sexual-­‐loving   attention.  You’re  an  adult  male  who  loves  himself  enough  to  get  his  needs  met.   This  process  of  asking  for  what  you  want  in  the  bedroom  has  a  ripple  effect  on  the   rest  of  your  life.  When  you  take  more  charge  of  getting  your  pleasure  needs  met,   you’ll  find  out  pretty  quickly  the  areas  of  your  life  where  you’re  not  living  fully.  You   then  naturally  begin  asking  for  what  you  want  in  those  areas.   OK,  let’s  begin  to  move  into  our  curriculum.  

Before Starting  the  Program    

1. Print out  this  manual.  Having  it  physically  next  to  you  will  make  it  much   easier  to  follow  the  home-­‐fun  and  to  review  modules.   2. Read  the  release  waiver  above.  You  are  proceeding  through  this  program  at   your  own  risk.   3. Create  your  Pleasure  List  in  the  space  below  and  then  remove  it  from  this   manual  and  post  it  in  a  place  where  you’ll  see  it  every  day.  Place  at  least  three   of  the  items  on  your  to-­‐do  list  for  the  next  week,  or  even  more  times  if  you   can.     _________________________________________________________________________________________   _________________________________________________________________________________________   _________________________________________________________________________________________   _________________________________________________________________________________________   _________________________________________________________________________________________  

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Module 1:  The  Six  Core  Principles     This  module  is  the  launching  pad  for  the  rest  of  the  program.  In  this  module,  you’ll   learn  the  six  core  principles  of  mastering  sexual  energy,  having  multiple  orgasms,   controlling  ejaculation  and  experiencing  full  body  pleasure.     You’ll  learn  the  six  different  types  of  male  orgasms.  Chances  are,  you’ve  only   experienced  the  first  type  —  The  standard  “garden  variety”  ejaculatory  orgasm.   We’ll  cover  the  five  other  types  that  you  might  experience  on  the  path  to  sexual   mastery.   We’ll  talk  about  the  pace  of  the  program,  so  you  can  figure  out  exactly  how  fast  you   want  to  work  at  the  skills  and  practices.  Like  anything  else  in  life,  the  more  you   practice,  the  faster  you’ll  master  the  skill.  Fortunately,  you  only  need  about  20  –  30   minutes  of  practice  3  times  a  week  to  learn  this  skill.  However,  to  master  it  in  a  short   period  of  time  and  have  the  most  powerful  results  I  recommend  that  you  simply   make  it  a  part  of  your  daily  practice.     Owner’s  Manual  for  Multi  Orgasmic  Lover  

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(Research into  neuroplasticity  shows  that  it  takes  about  30  consecutive  days  to  form   new  neural  pathways  in  the  brain  and  create  new  habits.)  

Preparation

__I’ve completed  all  items  under  “Before  Starting  The  Program”    

Slide Show  for  Module  1  Audio    

The Module  1  Audio  refers  to  a  Slide  Show.  We’ve  included  the  slides  below  to  make   it  easy  for  you  to  follow  along.  

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Listen to  Module  1  audio:  Introduction  to  Multi  Orgasmic  Lover  (72  minutes)  

__ Check  when  completed  

Watch the  Module  1  video:  Self  Massage  (11  minutes)  

__ Check  when  completed  

Home-­‐fun

1. Consider how  you’d  like  to  relate  to  porn  during  your  training,  including   considering  refraining  from  viewing  porn  completely.  Commit  to  your  

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decision.   Give  yourself  2-­‐3  self-­‐massage  sessions  during  the  next  week.  Take  a  day  or   two  off  between  them,  allowing  20-­‐30  minutes  for  each  one.     If  you  masturbate  during  the  week,  do  your  best  to  not  ejaculate.     Re-­‐read  the  “Expanding  your  Pleasure”  section  above.  Make  your  Pleasure   List.  Do  a  different  item  from  your  Pleasure  List  three  times  per  week.     Set  up  a  system  of  support,  communicating  with  a  friend,  therapist,  or  other   “safe  person”  about  what  you’re  trying  to  accomplish.  (Or  journal,  if  you   prefer.)    

How you  know  you’re  ready  to  move  on  to  Module  2  

___ I’ve  completed  all  of  my  home-­‐fun  assignments.  

___ My  perineum  and  pelvic  floor  feels  soft,  relaxed  and  pliable.  For  some  guys  this   will  be  the  case  right  away;  other  guys  may  need  ten  or  more  self-­‐massage  sessions   before  the  area  around  their  genitals  feels  soft  and  spongy.     •

For guys  whose  pelvic  floor  is  already  soft:  You  can  immediately  move  on  to   Module  2  after  a  single  self-­‐massage  session.  Give  yourself  an  occasional   (monthly)  self-­‐massage  session  as  a  kind  of  “sexual  health  maintenance.”  

If you  have  some  amount  of  genital  armoring:  Spend  a  week  of  2-­‐3  sessions   of  self-­‐massage.  Then  move  on  to  Module  2  while  continuing  to  self-­‐massage   twice  a  week  until  you  notice  a  significant  softening  of  the  musculature  in  the   pelvic  floor.  

Module 2:  Dissolving  Sexual  Shame   Listen  to  Module  2  audio:  Shame  and  Trauma  (59  minutes)   __  Check  when  completed  

Watch The  Module  2  videos:  Pelvic  Rocking  and  PC  Pump  (11  minutes  total)  

__ Check  when  completed  

Home-­‐fun

1. Pick one  example  of  Toxic  Shame  that  comes  up  for  you  in  your  solo  sex  life,   and  one  that  comes  from  how  you've  been  with  a  partner  in  the  past.  Go   through  the  5  A's  practice  with  these  feelings.  

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2. How is  Self-­‐Massage  going  for  you?  If  it's  benefitting  you,  keep  it  up.  If  not,   drop  it  and  start  'no  agenda  self-­‐pleasuring'  practice.  This  is  gentle,  healing   self-­‐touch  through  the  whole  pelvic  area  and  the  rest  of  your  body  without  a   goal  or  agenda.   3. Begin  daily  PC  Pumps.  30  per  day,  in  three  sets  of  10.  Do  the  “pulsing”   version  for  the  first  9,  then  squeeze  and  hold  the  tenth  one  for  6  or  7  seconds.   Rest  before  beginning  the  next  set.  OK  to  do  while  driving,  standing  in  line,   etc.   4. Do  the  Pelvic  Rocking  practice  daily  for  3  minutes  minimum.  Ultimately,   you’ll  choose  the  position  that  is  most  comfortable  for  you,  but  make  sure  to   try  at  least  2  different  positions  at  the  beginning.   5. Continue  to  do  three  items  from  your  Pleasure  List  (You  DID  write  your   Pleasure  List,  right?).  Pick  three  things  that  bring  you  pleasure  and  do  them   this  week.  Remember,  this  is  a  key  piece  to  reaching  your  goals.     6. Continue  to  stay  true  to  your  commitment  to  watching  less  or  no  porn.    

How you  know  you’re  ready  to  move  on  to  Module  3  

__ I’ve  completed  all  of  my  home-­‐fun  assignments.  

__ 3  sets  of  10  PC  Pumps  are  easy  for  me.  I  can  hold  the  squeeze  on  the  tenth  one  for   6  or  7  seconds,  no  problem.   __  The  Pelvic  Rocking  exercises  are  starting  to  feel  like  second  nature;  the  motion  is   easy  and  fluid  for  me,  and  I  don’t  have  a  problem  isolating  my  pelvis.     __  I  am  feeling  eager  to  add  new  skills  to  my  practice.  

Module 3:  Relaxation  and  Sex   Listen  to  the  Module  3  audio:  Relaxation  (61  minutes)   __  Check  when  completed  

Watch The  Module  3  video:  Sexual  Breathing  (6  minutes)  

__ Check  when  completed  

Home-­‐fun 1. 2. 3. 4.

Practice Sexual  Breathing  for  3  minutes  a  day,  minimum.   Do  the  Pelvic  Rocking  practice  daily  for  3  minutes  minimum.     Continue  with  30  daily  PC  Pumps  in  three  sets  of  10.     If  you  haven’t  explored  it  already,  I  want  you  to  check  out  the  Bonus  Module   entitled  “Moving  Sexual  Energy.”  It’s  a  video  demonstration  of  a  practice   called  “Streaming”  that  comes  with  an  mp3  soundtrack.  I  want  you  to  try  the   practice  for  a  minimum  of  3-­‐5  minutes  every  day  for  at  least  a  week.  If  you  

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like it,  you  can  increase  your  practice  time  to  10  minutes  and  continue  to   make  it  part  of  your  daily  routine.   5. If  you  want  to  pleasure  yourself,  go  ahead!  Continue  the  practice  of  no-­‐ agenda  pleasuring  from  Module  2.   6. Get  out  that  Pleasure  List  and  add  ways  of  physically  relaxing  to  it.  Massage,   hot  tubs  or  baths,  guided  meditations  –  those  kinds  of  things  that  I   mentioned  earlier.  Then  DO  them!  That’s  right,  move  them  from  your   Pleasure  List  to  your  To-­‐Do  list  for  the  day.  Do  at  least  three  items  from  your   Pleasure  List  each  week  that  you’re  following  the  program.  

How you  know  you’re  ready  to  move  on  to  Module  4  

__ I’ve  completed  all  of  my  home-­‐fun  assignments.  

__ The  Sexual  Breathing  practice  is  starting  to  feel  like  second  nature  to  me.  I  find   that  during  other  daily  activities,  I’ve  become  more  aware  of  my  breath.  As  a  result,   I’m  beginning  to  make  subtle  changes  in  how  I  breathe  throughout  the  day.   __  I’ve  experimented  with  the  Bonus  Module  “Streaming”  practice  for  at  least  seven   days,  3-­‐5  minutes  a  day.  I  either  1)  Don’t  enjoy  it,  and  am  ready  to  move  on,  or  2)   Enjoy  it  and  can  integrate  it  into  my  daily  practice.   __  I’ve  integrated  my  current  skillset  and  feeling  ready  to  add  new  skills  to  my   practice.  

Module 4:  Sexual  Confidence   Listen  to  the  Module  4  audio:  Confidence  (52  minutes)   __  Check  when  completed  (Includes  listening  to  the  Evolved  Lover  meditation)  

Watch The  Module  4  video:  ME  Breath  (11  minutes)  

__ Check  when  completed  

Home-­‐fun 1. Schedule  and  commit  to  up  to  five  (but  no  less  than  two)  30-­‐minute  self-­‐ pleasuring  sessions  over  the  upcoming  week.  In  your  self-­‐pleasuring   sessions,  apply  the  ME  Breath:  Go  up  to  an  8,  then  slow  down  or  stop,  and  use   the  "ME"  Breath  in  that  moment.  Bring  yourself  back  down  to  a  5,  then  work   up  to  an  8  again,  repeating  the  process  at  least  3  times!     2. Increase  your  PC  pumps  to  60  a  day.  6  sets  of  10.  Squeeze  and  hold  on  the   10th  one  for  about  6  or  7  seconds.   3. If  there  is  any  practice  that  you’re  getting  great  benefit  from,  continue  that  –   based  on  your  time  and  interest  level.  That  means  if  you’re  still  doing  the   Owner’s  Manual  for  Multi  Orgasmic  Lover  

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self-­‐massage and  benefitting,  continue  that.  If  you  enjoy  pelvic  rocking,  or  the   Streaming  practice,  continue  that  –  but  not  necessarily  as  part  of  your  self-­‐ pleasuring.  If  you  don’t  have  the  time,  just  focus  on  self-­‐pleasuring  with  the   ME  Breath.     4. Stay  committed  to  your  no-­‐  or  reduced-­‐porn  commitment.   5. Review  and  update  your  Pleasure  List.  Anything  else  you  can  add?  Do  you   want  to  step  up  your  game?  Do  1  item  minimum  per  day  from  the  list.  This   week,  choose  something  from  your  list  that  you  haven’t  done  lately,  and   enjoy  that.      

How you  know  you’re  ready  to  move  on  to  Module  5  

__ I’ve  completed  all  of  my  home-­‐fun  assignments.  

__ I’ve  completed  at  least  two  self-­‐pleasuring  sessions  using  the  ME  Breath,  and  I   have  questions  about  the  practice.  (The  ME  Breath  is  the  backbone  of  this  program,   so  we’re  giving  it  a  lot  of  attention,  and  Module  5  will  definitely  help  you  deepen   your  experience.  Check  out  Module  5’s  audio  after  two  self-­‐pleasuring  sessions   where  you  use  the  ME  Breath.  In  Module  5,  I’ll  answer  more  questions,  review  the   ME  Breath  in  greater  detail,  and  bring  out  what  I  call  the  Helpful  Suggestion  Bucket   that  will  help  you  get  the  most  out  of  the  practice.)   __  I’m  easily  able  to  handle  60  PC  pumps  a  day,  and  squeezing  for  6-­‐7  seconds  at  the   end  of  each  set  of  10  is  no  problem.  

Module 5:  Sexual  Training  Q  &  A   Listen  to  the  Module  5  audio:  Midterm  Assessment!  (59  minutes)  

__ Check  when  completed  

Review The  Module  5  video:  ME  Breath  (11  minutes)  

__ Check  when  completed  

Home-­‐fun

You may  have  noticed  that  some  home-­‐fun  repeats  every  module.  Let’s  talk  about   that  for  a  moment.     1. There’s  your  Pleasure  List.  I’m  going  to  stop  reminding  you  about  it,  but  I   want  you  to  continue  to  use  it  in  a  way  that  works  for  you  for  the  rest  of  the   program.    

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2. Same for  your  no-­‐  or  reduced-­‐porn  commitment.  Maybe  it’s  second  nature   for  you  at  this  point,  to  spend  time  pleasuring  yourself  instead  of  looking  at   images  of  naked  women.  If  so,  WOW,  congratulations!  In  any  case,  I  won’t   remind  you  any  more  about  your  porn  commitment  –  but  keep  it  up,   whatever  you’ve  committed  to.   3. You  should  be  doing  6  sets  of  10  PC  pumps  every  day,  squeezing  and  holding   on  the  10th  one  for  about  6  or  7  seconds.  Keep  these  going  for  the   remainder  of  the  program;  for  some  of  you,  they’ll  turn  out  to  be  one  of  the   most  important  factors  in  becoming  multi-­‐orgasmic.  But  I’m  not  going  to   continue  to  add  them  to  your  homework  list.     4. Self-­‐pleasuring  practice:  I  will  continue  to  modify  this  for  your  home-­‐fun  in   each  of  the  next  three  modules.  But  the  basics  remain  the  same.  And  they  are:   Set  aside  from  2  to  5  half-­‐hour  pleasuring  sessions  per  week  for  each  week   you  stay  at  this  module  level.  You  can  make  them  15  or  20  minutes  if  time  is   tight,  or  an  hour  if  time  isn’t  an  issue.  You  will  be  self-­‐pleasuring  (as  I’ve   described  in  the  audio)  using  the  ME  Breath.  In  your  self-­‐pleasuring  sessions,   go  up  to  an  8,  then  slow  down  or  stop,  and  use  the  "ME"  Breath  in  that   moment.  Bring  yourself  back  down  to  a  5,  then  work  up  to  an  8  again,   repeating  the  process  at  least  3  times.   5. If  there  is  any  practice  that  you’re  getting  great  benefit  from,  continue  that  –   based  on  your  time  and  interest  level.  That  means  if  you’re  still  doing  the   self-­‐massage  and  benefitting,  continue  that.  If  you  enjoy  pelvic  rocking,  or  the   shaking  to  the  dissolving  blocks  music,  continue  those.  But  if  time  is  tight,  let   them  go  and  focus  on  your  pleasuring  sessions  instead.   6. Do  at  least  one  item  from  the  list  of  Extracurriculars  on  the  audio,  and  do  it  at   least  5  times  before  the  end  of  this  program.  That  means  5  yoga  or  martial   arts  classes,  or  getting  5  breathwork  sessions,  or  5  hours  of  ecstatic  dancing   on  5  different  occasions.   7. There’s  no  video  for  this  module,  but  you  can  always  review  the  ME  Breath   video  and  follow  along  with  me  to  make  sure  you’ve  got  the  fundamentals   “under  your  belt.”  

How you  know  you’re  ready  to  move  on  to  Module  6  

__ I’ve  completed  all  of  my  home-­‐fun  assignments.  

__ The  ME  Breath  is  feeling  easy  for  me.  You’ll  know  this  because  —  like  when  you   started  to  find  your  groove  driving  a  stick  shift  car  for  the  first  time  —  you’ll  be   feeling  comfortable  with  the  technical  aspects  of  the  ME  Breath:  Pelvic  Rocking,  PC   Pump  and  Sexual  Breathing  will  all  be  merging  in  an  integrated  experience.  For   some  guys  this  might  take  one,  two  or  even  three  months.  Other  guys  will  get  it  right   Owner’s  Manual  for  Multi  Orgasmic  Lover  

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away. But  even  guys  who  get  it  immediately  should  still  spend  a  minimum  of  at  least   a  week  on  this  module  before  proceeding.  Don’t  rush  to  the  next  one!  Our  next  three   modules  will  include  variations  of  this  same  breath,  so  make  sure  you’re  grooving   on  the  ME  Breath  before  you  move  on.     __  I’m  enjoying  my  self-­‐pleasuring  sessions  and  generally  look  forward  to  them.  Yes,   there’s  often  resistance  to  self-­‐pleasuring  practices,  but  generally  you  should  enjoy   them  rather  than  see  them  as  another  item  on  your  to-­‐do  list.  If  you’re  feeling   obligated  to  do  them,  take  a  break  for  a  week  and  come  back  with  fresh  energy.  

Module 6:  The  Heart  and  Sex  Link   NOTE  FOR  MODULES  6  –  10:  Watch  the  videos  before  listening  to  the  audios  for  all  of   the  remaining  modules.    

Watch The  Module  6  video:  Heartgasm  (9  minutes)  

__ Check  when  completed  

Listen to  the  Module  6  audio:  The  Heart/Sex  Link  (42  minutes)  

__ Check  when  completed  

Home-­‐fun

1. Schedule and  commit  to  up  to  five  (but  no  less  than  two)  30-­‐minute  self-­‐ pleasuring  sessions  this  week.  In  your  self-­‐pleasuring  sessions,  apply  the  ME   Breath:  Go  up  to  an  8,  then  slow  down  or  stop,  and  use  the  "Me"  Breath  in   that  moment  to  draw  the  energy  up  to  the  heart.  Exhale  the  energy  out  or   down,  as  the  video  demonstrates.  Bring  yourself  back  down  to  a  5,  then  work   up  to  an  8  again,  repeating  this  process  at  least  3  times!  

2. If you  think  you  grew  up  in  “Camp  Wimpy,”  do  one  of  more  of  the  practices  to   activate  your  Fuck  energy.  These  include:     •

Learn to  box  

Take a  contact  martial  arts  class  (where  you  will  hit  and  get  hit)  

Connect with  your  anger  and  find  ways  to  physically  express  it   (review  the  audio  for  details)  

Stomp your  feet,  squat  in  a  horse  stance  and  slap  your  thighs  like  a   sumo  wrestler  

Focus on  your  genitals  while  loudly  speaking  swear  words  

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3. If you  think  you  grew  up  in  “Camp  Bully,”  do  one  of  more  of  the  practices  to   activate  your  Heart  energy.  Those  included:     •

Contact the  pain  of  your  guarded,  broken  heart  (alone,  or  with   support)  

Think of  those  you  love  or  care  deeply  about  

Practice a  loving-­‐kindness  meditation  

Imagine you’re  seeing  the  world  through  the  “eyes  of  the  heart”  

Date and  have  sex  with  heart-­‐centered  partners  and  allow  yourself  to   love  them  

Watch heart-­‐wrenching  movies  or  listen  to  songs  that  make  you  cry.  

Look up  sad  movie  moments  on  youtube.com  

4. If this  whole  idea  of  different  Camps  doesn’t  work  for  you,  just  do  the  ME   Breath  practice.   5. Set  up  a  time  for  a  Summit  Meeting  between  your  Heart  and  your  Genitals,   and  then  do  it.  Give  yourself  half  an  hour  or  so  to  set  it  up,  execute  it,  and   then  write  about  it  afterwards.    

How you  know  you’re  ready  to  move  on  to  Module  7  

__ I’ve  completed  all  of  my  home-­‐fun  assignments,  including  a  minimum  of  six   Heartgasm  self-­‐pleasuring  sessions.   __  The  ME  Breath  —  all  the  way  to  my  heart  —  is  feeling  smooth  and  natural  for  me,   and  I’m  aware  of  an  increase  in  connection  between  my  heart  and  genitals.   __  I  want  to  experience  even  more  than  what  I’ve  experienced  so  far.     Many  guys  will  be  ready  to  move  on  to  the  next  module  —  where  we  will  be   working  with  the  throat  —  after  half  a  dozen  individual  sessions  of  doing  the   Heartgasm  ME  Breath.  Other  guys  might  take  a  month  or  more  on  this  module.  It’s   not  highly  common  but  I  do  know  at  least  two  guys  that  didn’t  get  much  out  of  the   next  two  modules  and  simply  returned  to  this  one!  A  great  example  of  how  One  Size   Does  Not  Fit  All  in  this  program.     __  I’ve  been  doing  my  Extracurricular  (from  Module  5)  and  it’s  feeling  great.  (If  this   isn’t  the  case,  try  another  Extracurricular!)  

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Module 7:  Your  Wild  Animal  and  The  Upper  Limit   Watch  The  Module  7  videos:  Key  Sound  and  Crazy  Throat  (15  minutes  total)   __  Check  when  completed  

Listen to  the  Module  7  audio:  Your  Wild  Animal  and  the  Upper  Limit  (39   minutes)  

__ Check  when  completed  

Home-­‐fun

1. Schedule and  commit  to  as  many  as  five  (but  no  less  than  two)  self-­‐ pleasuring  sessions  per  week,  30  minutes  each,  using  the  ME  Breath  to  draw   energy  up  to  the  throat  and  back  down  when  you  get  to  an  “8”.  Use  the  Key   Sound,  as  described  in  the  video,  on  every  other  exhalation  during  the  ME   Breath.     2. Try  both  the  “high”  and  “low”  Crazy  Throat  practice.  Do  one  or  both  of  them   for  a  minute  or  two  each  day.  Bonus:  Experiment  with  a  few  seconds  of  Crazy   Throat  as  part  of  a  normal  conversation  with  a  friend.     3. Pillow  work  and  growling  every  day!  Remember  to  do  your  best  to  feel  that   connection  between  your  root  –  the  bottom  of  your  pelvis  –  and  your  hands   and  arms,  as  well  as  your  throat.  Make  it  a  full-­‐body  experience.  

How you  know  you’re  ready  to  move  on  to  Module  8  

__ I’ve  completed  all  of  my  home-­‐fun  assignments,  including  at  least  6  self-­‐ pleasuring  sessions  using  the  Key  Sound.   __  I’m  feeling  comfortable  using  the  Key  Sound  during  the  ME  Breath.  I’m   experiencing  a  significant  shift  as  a  result  of  using  more  sound  in  my  self-­‐pleasuring   sessions,  and  I’m  ready  for  more!  (If  the  Key  Sound  doesn’t  work  for  you,  return  to   the  Heartgasm  breath  and  stay  there.)   __  I’m  feeling  comfortable  with  the  pillow-­‐choking  practice  and  even  enjoying  it.  

Module 8:  Physical,  Emotional,  and  Mental  Surrender   Watch  The  Module  8  video:  Brain  Orgasm  (17  minutes)   __  Check  when  completed  

Listen to  the  Module  8  audio:  Surrender,  Part  2  (43  minutes)   __  Check  when  completed  

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1. Schedule and  commit  to  up  to  five  (but  no  less  than  two)  30-­‐minute  self-­‐ pleasuring  sessions  this  week.  In  your  self-­‐pleasuring  sessions,  continue  to   apply  the  ME  Breath,  drawing  the  energy  up  to  the  brain.  Try  both  different   Brain  Orgasm  breaths:  Ring  the  Bell  (bringing  the  energy  back  down  the   Central  Channel),  and  Shooting  the  Crown  (bringing  energy  out  the  top  of   your  head  and  all  around  you).     2. For  Ring  the  Bell,  hold  the  breath  for  6-­‐10  seconds.  Touch  the  tongue  to  the   roof  of  your  mouth  and  exhale.  Optional:  Make  the  Key  Sound  on  every  other   exhale.   3. For  Shooting  the  Crown,  hold  the  breath  for  a  few  seconds,  touch  the  tongue   to  the  roof  of  your  mouth  and  exhale  in  an  “energy  shower.”  Optional:  Make   the  Key  Sound  on  every  other  exhale.     4. Consider  where  you  might  have  blocks  in  your  energy  stream  and  design  a   strategy  for  working  with  them.     5. Write  about  a  time  when  you  experienced  surrendering  to  a  power  greater   than  you.  Recall  the  details  of  what  brought  that  time  about.  Find  a  practice   that  helps  you  move  closer  to  that  place  of  surrender    

How you  know  you’re  ready  to  move  on  to  Module  9  

__ I’ve  completed  all  of  my  home-­‐fun  assignments.  

__ I’m  comfortable  breathing  all  the  way  from  my  root  to  my  brain  and  I’m   experiencing  good,  pleasurable  results.  (If  Brain  Orgasms  are  not  comfortable  for   you,  return  to  the  last  module  that  worked  well  for  you  and  stay  at  that  level.)   __  I’m  actively  engaged  in  softening  the  blocks  I  can  sense  in  my  body  using  the   practices  that  work  best  for  me.   __  I’ve  explored  my  resistances  to  surrendering  and  am  getting  more  comfortable   with  the  idea  of  “letting  go”  to  a  power  greater  than  myself.  

Module 9:  Exploring  the  Backyard   Watch  The  Module  9  videos:  Butt  Basics,  and  Bed  Butt  and  Beyond  (14  minutes   total)   __  Check  when  completed  

Listen to  the  Module  9  audio:  Shame  and  Surrender  (29  minutes)  

__ Check  when  completed  

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Home-­‐fun

1. Do your  favorite  ME  Breath  practice  and  include  an  external  prostate   massage.  That  is,  while  you’re  self-­‐pleasuring,  touch  yourself  on  the   perineum,  pressing  just  above  the  anus.  

2. If that  feels  good  —  and  you’re  willing  to  go  further  —use  a  lubed  or  oiled   finger  to  play  with  your  anus.   3. If  that  feels  good,  explore  putting  a  finger  inside  of  your  anus  a  knuckle  or   two.  Go  VERY  slowly  and  use  plenty  of  lube.  Remember  to  relax  and  breathe   as  you  explore.   4. If  that  feels  good,  use  a  toy  to  reach  your  prostate  (most  guys  will  have   trouble  comfortably  reaching  it  with  their  own  fingers),  and  rub  your   prostate  with  the  toy  while  you  pleasure  yourself.  Notice  how  the  prostatic   stimulation  changes  the  sexual  experience  for  you.  Do  you  get  harder?   Softer?  Ejaculate  more  quickly?  (Most  guys  will.)  If  you  haven’t  experienced   an  ejaculatory  orgasm  with  prostatic  stimulation,  go  ahead  and  have  one  or   two  of  them.  And  then  continue  to  explore  how  to  use  this  new  energy  source   to  increase  your  multi-­‐orgasmic  pleasure.   5. If  you  have  a  willing  partner,  set  a  time  to  give  backyard  healing  sessions  to   each  other.    

How you  know  you’re  ready  to  move  on  to  Module  10  

Backyard stimulation  and  how  it  relates  to  the  practices  you’ve  already  learned  is   something  you  can  spend  years  exploring.  Enjoy!  And  feel  free  to  move  on  to  Module   10  —  the  final  module  —  at  any  time.    

Module 10:  Integrating  This  Program   Watch  The  Module  10  video:  Chi  Generating  Breath  (7  minutes)  

__Check when  completed  

Listen to  the  Module  10  audio:  Real  World  Sex  Energy  Mastery  (46  minutes)  

__ Check  when  completed  

Home-­‐fun

1. Spend 5  minutes  per  day  doing  the  Chi  Generating  Breath.  How  is  it  for  you   to  move  energy  DOWN  the  body  instead  of  up?     2. Customize  your  Multi  Orgasmic  Lover  experience.  How  can  you  mix-­‐and-­‐ match  what  you’ve  learned  to  create  a  path  to  pleasure  that’s  unique  to  you?   Now’s  the  time  for  you  to  create  your  own  home-­‐fun  practices.  

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Where to  go  from  here   __  View  the  “Energy  Cock”  Bonus  Video.   __  If  you  haven’t  already  joined  the  Sexual  Mastery  Inner  Circle  for  mentoring  from   myself  and  other  experienced  students,  you  can  do  so  by  sending  an  email  to   info@multiorgasmiclover.com. __  Return  to  any  previous  modules  that  you  want  to  review.   __  Create  your  own  custom  practice  schedule  to  continue  training  on  your  own.   __  Enlist  the  help  of  a  partner  to  support  you  in  moving  energy  in  your  body.  

Closing Words  

If you’ve  completed  all  the  modules  and  you’re  still  not  where  you  want  to  be  yet,   don’t  worry.  Sometimes  all  of  this  material  takes  a  little  time  to  integrate.  Lots  of  my   students  have  come  to  the  end  of  the  training  and  it  took  them  a  little  longer  before   —  in  their  words  —  “All  of  my  training  just  came  together!”     You’re  doing  something  extraordinary  here,  so  just  keep  going  with  what  I’ve  taught   you  so  far  and  soon  enough  you’ll  cross  over.  The  Sexual  Mastery  Inner  Circle  is  a   great  place  to  get  support  on  your  journey,  so  I  hope  to  see  you  there.  And  please   share  with  me  your  success  stories  as  well.     I’m  right  here  on  this  journey  with  you!     All  my  best,     Jim                 Owner’s  Manual  for  Multi  Orgasmic  Lover  

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