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Women in Fitness — Part 3: Kristine Miller — finding the time

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editor's note July has shaped up to be quite the power issue for She magazine. Don’t get me wrong. I’m always inspired by the great women and topics we feature in the magazine, but this month takes it up a notch. I enjoy hearing about Columbus residents who go off to make a name for themselves in the great big world out there. Marja Harmon is one of them. The daughter of Columbus residents Tom and Mary Harmon was a star in local musical and theatrical productions in her youth. Since then, she’s spread her talent-filled branches to Broadway, all the while never forgetting her Columbus roots. I caught up with Harmon via e-mail. She’s in New York, and she’s lovin’ life. Hear (or rather read) from her in the pages to follow. We also continue with more girl power in the third installment of our Women in Fitness series. This time, we meet North Vernon’s Kristine Miller, who went from overweight and unhappy to Ironman tough. Miller’s story of health and family battles will inspire you, whether you’re an avid athlete or a woman just trying to make it through her day. Our you-go-girl-ness continues with a story about just a few of the fascinating women who are some of the more than 70 vendors at the Columbus Farmer’s Market. If you haven’t been to the market yet this year, number one, shame on you! And number two, that status will change after you read the story by Crystal Henry. There are so many exceptional booths at the farmers market every Saturday, selling items that showcase our local talents. Many, if not the majority, of these vendors are women, and Crystal couldn’t interview them all. She managed to find a good mix to demonstrate the diverse options available at this growing community event. There’s much more, including our intriguing regulars, such as Cash Talk and View from Mars, so hide away from the heat and get reading!

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Tee Time Women rally on the golf course to help fight cancer


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By Kelsey DeClue photos by april knox They gather to celebrate. They gather to grieve. They gather to support and to share. They gather to golf for a cause. On Friday women will gather at Greenbelt Golf Course for the 10th annual Rally for the Cure Golf Tournament. The nine-hole tournament raises money for awareness and research of breast cancer specifically through Susan G. Komen Foundation. Registration begins at 7:45 a.m. at the Greenbelt clubhouse. Tee time is 8:30 a.m. “We’ve grown considerably from where we started,” said Donna Tull, event organizer. “Of course the day isn’t really about golf. It’s about a cause.” In its first year in 2001, 44 players took the course and $800 was raised. Last year, 76 women participated and raised $3,570. The day is filled with door prizes and contests, picking winners for

most pink attire, longest shot and closest to pin on a par three. A new addition is hole sponsorship. Businesses and groups can sponsor a hole, starting at $25, and sponsorships are still available. Although united for one cause, each participant in Rally for the Cure has a unique story. One comes from Delores Walters, the rally’s longest-running participant. She has golfed in the tournament every year but one — the year she was recovering from a mastectomy. Walters, a registered nurse, began participating in the tournament because she loves to golf. In July 2006 she was diagnosed with breast cancer.

“I felt a fullness on the side of my left breast, and at first I ignored it, thought it was nothing,” Walters said. “Then I rolled over in bed one morning, and the pain was so great it shot me straight up. I thought, I have to get to the doctor.” X-rays and tests found 18 of 20 lymph nodes infected with cancer cells. Surgeons had to remove a massive lump. That August, cancerous cells were found in Walters’ left breast, which doctors then removed. She underwent radiation and chemotherapy for two years, working through the entire process.


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“I think I was just kind of on a treadmill,” she said. Walters also went through six different sets of medications before finding the right combination to combat the cancerous cells. “It was the support of my husband, my

family,” she said, as tears welled in her eyes, “that got me through it.” She plans to continue her streak and grace the greens of this year’s tournament with her team. The group of five women has been playing together for more than four years.

When: 7:45 a.m. July 23 Where: Greenbelt Golf Course

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She Reader COMMENTS Have Your Say The following are a few comments from She readers either sent directly to the editor or posted on the She fan page on Facebook. “‘Kelsey,

“‘Hi Kelsey, I forgot to mention how much I enjoyed the most recent edition of She (June). We have met Eve and Jim Jackson and spent one night at the inn and had a fantabulous time. I had purchased a raffle ticket for the Book Buddies fundraiser in May, and my name was drawn. I got to choose the room we wanted, and I chose Mrs. Tangeman’s Garden View Suite — so delightful. The delicious breakfast served on Mother’s Day morning was outstanding, and the presentation was beautiful. Every dish, bowl, cup, glass, etc. that was used at the breakfast tables was Pink Depression. We left later that morning feeling as if we had spent 18 hours in a long-ago world. The Jacksons couldn’t have been more gracious. I see Michell Jeffries (second in the series on Women in Fitness) frequently at Total Fitness and thoroughly enjoyed reading her story. Brooke and Mark Case are personal friends so it was very nice reading “Pet Vets.” We have known their parents, and them, since the late 1970s because of our children attending school and playing sports together at Hauser. I’ll be looking forward to the future issues of She..”

— Patsy Harris

I was so pleased with the article on the senior quilters (May). Great photos and story by Therese Copeland. Also to the photographer, April Knox, great shots. Anne Courtney article also great. P.S. Enjoy the summer — remodeling, married life, getting together with friends. You’re making memories to recall in later years.

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Talking

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Columbus performer becomes roaring success on national stage Compiled by Kelsey DeClue Submitted photos Marja Harmon’s musical and theatrical talents lit up the stages of Columbus when she grew up here. Now living in New York, she’s gracing stages across the nation, including a current run as Nala in the Broadway smash hit “The Lion King.” Harmon caught her big break four years ago, and She magazine thought it was about time to catch up with the musical star. The following is a Q&A session between editor Kelsey DeClue and Harmon:

KELSEY: In 2006, The Republic did a story about your move to New York and your starring role in “Aida.” I’m sure it’s crazy to think that was four years ago. Tell me about life since then. How have things changed for you? MARJA: “Aida” was such a pivotal production for me. It was my first professional lead, my first role that was cast of out N.Y.C., my first tour, basically my baptism by fire. I learned so much about myself as a performer and what it is like to not only carry a show but to maintain a certain level of performance and stamina — eight shows a week while being on tour. The cast, director, everything about that experience was amazing. I grew so much that year and even surprised myself in what my voice and body were capable of. We would literally sometimes travel all day, do a show and continue to travel on to the next city in the same night. July 2010 • she magazine

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I was pushed that year in so many ways, and I am so thankful for that experience and the people I worked with. Life since then has been crazy. I’ve been consistently working since “Aida,” which is such a blessing, especially considering the current economy. After the North American tour of “Aida,” I did some regional performances of “Aida” and “Ragtime” and earned my Equity Card (which is the theater actors union). I came back to the city and after auditioning for a few months landed the all African-American

production of Tennessee Williams’ “Cat on a Hot Tin Roof” on Broadway, which was incredible. The cast included James Earl Jones, Terrence Howard, Phylicia Rashad, Anika Noni-Rose and many more film and stage icons. I played the role of Sookey in the show and also understudied the iconic role of Maggie the Cat. Having the opportunity to sit in a rehearsal room and watch James Earl Jones work still blows my mind. I learned so much from observing everyone’s process and character development.


"I was pushed that year in so many ways, and I am so thankful for that experience and the people I worked with."

— Marja Harmon


“Cat on a Hot Tin Roof” was such an overwhelming experience for me. I never thought that my Broadway debut would be a play. And to have the opportunity to be a part of an all African-American production of a show that is traditionally cast Caucasian will always be one of my greatest achievements. It is so lovely when producers/directors look outside of the box and think why can’t “Maggie the Cat” be African-American, Asian-American, Hispanic, etc. The casting process was long and crazy and at one point involved meeting Howard, Jones and Rashad. I remember thinking to myself that it was going to be so disappointing if I didn’t get the show because I’d gotten so far. “Cat” was also my first stab at being an understudy. I will forever have such respect for understudies, covers, swings, etc. As an understudy, you never get the chance to work with the actors you’ll actually be onstage with, which hinders your ability to feel comfortable in the role. Conversely, I think it was these challenging elements that allowed me to be open and spontaneous onstage. The experience also taught me the discipline of creating your own character development process as an actor. Being on a Broadway stage for the first time was terrifying and especially with the caliber of cast I was working with. My first performance as Maggie was so frantic. I remember reminding myself to “just breathe.” The second time I went on I felt much more relaxed, and the cast was very supportive. After I had a few solid performances in the role, James Earl Jones called me into his dressing room and told me, “Sweetheart, you play ‘Maggie’ just the way Tennessee Williams intended.” That will always remain one of the most memorable moments in my career.

KELSEY: Take me through some of your favorite roles. What makes them stand out? How do you prepare initially for a role when you accept it and then how do you prepare for each performance? MARJA: I love each role for different reasons. Aida and Nala are both such strong and amazing roles with incredible music. It’s always fun to play such powerful and commanding women and add the vulnerability to those types of characters. The role of Sarah in “Ragtime” was quite the opposite, very tragic. She is the heart of the show and the one character that everyone roots for, yet tragedy after tragedy befalls her. Harmon performs as Nala in “The Lion King,” top, and in the title role of “Aida.” Page 12

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Maggie the Cat has definitely been my favorite role thus far in my career. Maggie was such a treat! She had so many colors, so many different approaches to try and get what she wanted. Tennessee Williams writes such beautifully tragic and complex characters; it is really like being a kid in a candy store for an actor. In terms of preparation, I always memorize the role first and take apart the script line by line trying to get a hold of the character. It’s always important to know what you’re saying and why you are saying it. After that, you can really begin to put the piece off its feet. Most rehearsal processes last a few months before a first preview or performance, but of course the piece is always growing and changing as the actors become more comfortable and confident in what they are doing.

KELSEY: I’m sure now you have to pick and choose what you take on. How do you make those decisions? MARJA: Every actor has roles that they are dying to play. Nala was definitely one of those for me, as was Sarah. I really don’t audition for anything that I’m not interested in or excited about. When my agent approaches me about a project, I definitely do my research and decide if I want to throw my hat in the ring and audition. KELSEY: What’s an average day-in-the-life of Marja (when you’re not performing)? What about when you are on tour? What are those days like? MARJA: When I am home in New York City my days are filled with auditions even when I have job. It’s always important to maintain a sense of comfort with the audition process and keep your chops up! I also spend most of my time in dance, voice and acting classes. Keeping my skills sharp and trying to expand my training and knowledge, especially in the areas where I don’t feel as confident. I spend time keeping my body healthy. Physical activity is a big part of my day. I enjoy working out; it gives me energy, and it allows me to really relax my mind. It is also important, especially when doing a role that requires so much physicality, like Nala. Making sure you warm up, stretch and keep your body in the best shape possible to try to avoid injuries is crucial. Life on tour is slightly different. We spend a lot of time exploring since we are always in a new location. Our days will also include interviews, press events, etc. to promote the show. But every city is a new experience.

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KELSEY: Now for a little background talk. When did you first know you wanted to go into performing arts? When did you realize you wanted to be a Broadway star? What are some defining moments from childhood back in Columbus that led you to where you are today?

MARJA: I became interested in the arts at a very young age and participated in community theater, drama club, choirs and sang locally at different community functions. So my passion for performing started very early. Mill Race Players was a big part of my middle school and high school experience in Columbus. I did their productions of “Wizard of Oz,” “Annie,” “GodSpell,” “Grease,” etc. Janie Gordon, the (former) choral director at Columbus North, was one of my biggest mentors while growing up in Columbus. I studied voice with her for almost eight years. I grew to love theater because of its spontaneity. The ability to live in a character night after night and find new moments with your fellow actors, the energy you get from the live audience, and the agility needed to stay on your toes if something goes wrong (which in live theater it inevitably does) is thrilling. It is also the performance medium that combines all of the things I love to do. KELSEY: Tell me about what you try to bring to the role of Nala. MARJA: Playing Nala has being such a wonderful experience. It’s so exciting to watch audiences respond to the show, especially children. Most people come into the experience having seen the movie so they can already identify with the characters and are excited to see them onstage. However, this show is such an unforgettable piece. “The Lion King” transformed the theater experience. Julie Taymor’s creation of spectacle mixed with cinematic dimensions onstage gave the audience a new experience. It’s also a great cultural experience. The audience is exposed to every type of dance, music and even the South African languages. The uniqueness of the show in this regard has contributed to its longevity. “The Lion King” has been on Broadway for 12 years, and the tour has been running for eight.

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We move cities about every month, sometimes longer. With crew, musicians and cast we travel 123 people. It is definitely the biggest show out there, and so far there is no end in sight in terms of its run. When I came into the show I rehearsed for five weeks. It was different than any show I had been a part of because not only are you singing, dancing, acting, but you are also manipulating a mask or puppet and emulating an animal.

Learning how to master the leonine movement and control the mask was the hardest part for me at the beginning. I also learned a lot about breath and vocal control doing this role. This is the first role I’ve done that requires a lot of physicality and a cumbersome costume. I literally run and jump around onstage before singing my big number, all while wearing an 8-pound corset and having a lion on my head. It was definitely challenging for me at the beginning. Touring with this production has been such an incredible journey, and being able to visit parts of this country I haven’t seen like Alaska was unforgettable. “The Lion King” really is a masterpiece, and I feel very fortunate to have been a part of its history.

Harmon joined a distinguished cast in “Cat on a Hot Tin Roof” that included Phylicia Rashad, Terrence Howard and James Earl Jones.

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Good and Plenty

Farmers market helps vendors in their growing businesses By Crystal Henry Photos by Kerri Kinker

Sande Hummel

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The warm summer breeze that blows through the First Financial Bank parking lot carries the aroma of freshly baked breads, sizzling pork sausage, fragrant soy candles and bold morning coffee on summer Saturday mornings at the Columbus Farmer’s Market. In the early morning hours as the vendors begin to erect their tents and booths, the lot is transformed into a lively and bustling center of commerce and community. It is a place where fresh produce and fresh ideas collide, and it’s a time for old friends to catch up and new friends to meet. And for the women who make it all happen, it is a labor of love. Managing the market For years Sande Hummel dutifully sold her flowers at the farmers market in Fishers. On Thursday nights and Friday mornings before work, she would cut her flowers, then load them up ready to take them to the Fishers market on Saturday morning. The flowers sold well, but as much as she loved the market, the distance became tiresome. She knew that bringing a farmers market to Columbus would be popular. “I just thought it was a necessity for the community,” she said. Hummel took three people she thought could help on a farmers market road trip to Fishers, Noblesville, Carmel and Zionsville. The group was sold on the idea, and with help from the city, the market was on its way. She put a small ad in the newspaper looking for potential vendors, and they scheduled the first farmers market to begin in June. But the first day of the market was not an easy one. It was the day of the infamous 2008 flood, and only four vendors showed. The market was called off because of the weather, but Hummel wasn’t one to give up so easily. The next Saturday more vendors came. Those who were not flooded out showed up and helped to bring some happiness to a town that was suffering. SHE m a g a z i n e • J u l y 2 0 1 0


To this day on any given Saturday, you can find Hummel, clipboard in hand, hopping from booth to booth to ensure that everyone has everything they need. The first year of the market Hummel managed 20 vendors. The second year she had 60, and this year she has 72. As the market continues to grow, she does all she can to ensure its continued success. In addition to working a 40-hour week at her full-time job, Hummel spends 15 to 20 hours each week coordinating vendors and preparing her own goods for the market. She sells herbs, peppers, mosaics, sunflowers and zinnias in her booth. She also attends classes for six weeks each year to keep up with the latest information for vendors at the market. She learns about everything from new farming methods and health department guidelines to proper livestock slaughtering and marketing. “You can never have enough education,” she said. Hummel said the market is all about the vendors, and she attributes its success to them. She said it is a great place to try to launch a business, and she encourages vendors to market themselves while they’re out there. Flourishing farm Lori Moses, co-owner of Double Oak Farm, does just that. When her children went from being home-schooled to parochial school, she started selling her produce at the market to help pay tuition.

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Christin Stuhrenberg, co-owner of Redbud Tree Bakery, sells homemade treats like chocolate buttermilk cupcakes every weekend at the farmers market.

Moses said the first year went really well, and she started selling out of produce earlier and earlier each week. She enlisted the help of her good friends who are farmers, and in May of last year she opened Double Oak Farm Green Grocery. She said people kept asking where they could get her produce during the week, so she needed a way to get it to them. “We wouldn’t be where we are without the farmers market,” Moses said. She loves being able to meet new people and catch up with old friends each week. “It's like a party every Saturday morning.” Moses said she strives to use sustainable and organic methods to produce the best crop. But it does take time. Before she had the store, she spent several hours each day in the garden and all day Friday preparing for the market. She’d be in the garden picking produce with a headlamp until midnight. Then she would wake around 5 a.m. Saturday to prepare for the market. Glass creations Mary Kate Haza was also looking to jump-start her jewelry business, and when she saw an ad in the newspaper about the farmers market information session, she decided to check it out.

Haza is the artist behind Dandelion Glass, a fused glass jewelry business. She took a stained-glass class in North Vernon, got interested in fused glass and has been making her jewelry for about five years. She’s taken her jewelry to a few shows, but the market is the first long-term commitment for her business. “This has been great,” she said. Haza said she’s received a lot of positive feedback, and people always ask if she will be at the market all summer. Though the fused glass pieces are works of art, she said it is a very technical process that takes precision and patience. Her husband, Bryan, said she probably spends 20 to 30 hours per week creating her jewelry and that does not include the time she spends waiting while it is in the kiln. Although he is by her side each week at the market, Bryan said she does all the work. “I don’t have that kind of talent,” he said. They agree that the market is a great place to test the waters of a new business. The exposure she’s gained from just having her booth at the market each week has been great, she said. Baked with love Christin Stuhrenberg and her sister, Denise Zaharako, have also benefited from the buzz about the market. The Redbud Tree Bakery is a home-based business the two started because of their love for baking. “(The market) is a wonderful opportunity,” Stuhrenberg said. On their first Saturday at the market they sold out and had to turn away orders. They are licensed by the health department to sell only on Saturday mornings, so people can pick up their orders only that day.


She and Zaharako grew up baking, and Stuhrenberg said her favorite memories are baking cutout cookies during the holidays. “It's something enjoyable to do with children,” she said. Stuhrenberg is a full-time nanny, and Zaharako teaches art once a week during the school year. They put in four hours of bakery work on Wednesdays, Thursdays and Fridays. Each week they feature cookies with a theme. The first week of the market was “eat your veggies,” and they had cookies decorated as vegetables. The second week was “the last of the strawberries,” and Father’s Day weekend they had cookies shaped like tools. Stuhrenberg said she is the engineer and Zaharako is the artistic one. But both put in the time to make their booth a success. And they said they love the sense of community and reconnecting with family and friends. Hummel said it is incredible to see the market come to life each Saturday. “If I had a slow motion camera, it would be fun,” she said. Rain or shine, the vendors arrive, and a simple parking lot is transformed. And it seems that whether it’s carrot-shaped cookies, carrots fresh from the earth or carats of gold on a necklace, the wares of the farmers market are labors of love.

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By Kelsey DeClue Ah, the age-old question: to date or not to date a co-worker? On average, we spend about one-third of our lives at work. We’re surrounded by like-minded individuals with whom we most likely have similar interests because we chose the same line of work. So it’s not a stretch that sparks can develop between two people working together 9-to-5. However, as easy as it is to conceive how workplace romances can begin, it’s even easier to realize how problems arise. “As in many things, the workplace dating relationship often is just fine as long as both the relationship and the work are going well,” said John Goll, marriage and family therapist. “When conflict arises in one area however, it very often spills into the other. Work issues spilling into relationships are one thing, but relationship issues that spill into work can get particularly messy. “I have seen many cases where the messy grew to nothing short of devastating for individuals, relationships, families and businesses. The risks are real for both the couple and the business.” Co-workers should strongly weigh the risks and rewards of dating before initiating anything. Most companies have policies regarding interoffice dating and appropriate co-worker interaction. Those policies should be obeyed. “The best case would be for the work relationship and the dating relationship to be entirely separate and each not influenced by the other,” Goll said. “I don’t really think that is possible with human beings, but it may be worthwhile to see that as a goal.”

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Goll suggests that co-workers considering an intimate relationship should talk about how they plan to keep their “dating behavior” out of the workplace. “If the couple happens to be in the most uncomfortable and hazardous situation of one being a boss of the other, I believe they should seriously reconsider either the dating relationship or the work position for one or both,” Goll said. “Surviving that kind of situation would be a severe challenge for most any blossoming relationship.”

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ne o t s a e l n.” o “At i t o m o a pr t o g s u of — Bill Kennedy

However the payoff of an office romance can be huge — potentially finding the love of your life and for the company, keeping two happy and thus successful and productive employees on staff. That’s exactly what happened for Columbus residents Bill and Jane Kennedy, who met while working at Cummins. In 1980, Bill interviewed Jane for a job opening in his parts distribution department. She also interviewed with his best friend in a separate corporate department at Cummins. When offered both jobs, Jane chose to work in the corporate department. “Shortly after she started, I took a new position in the corporate group,” Bill said. “While we worked in the same general area, we never worked in the same department and did not work on the same projects.” Bill decided to ask Jane out, and this year the couple celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary. “The best part of dating someone I worked with was that we did have a large part of our lives in common. Not only our careers in information technology but at the same company,” Bill said. “There weren’t many times one of us had to explain a work item to the other, as would be the case if we were in different fields or at different companies.” He said the two had no problems keeping their professional and personal lives separate while at work because they worked on different assignments. “A couple times a year there would be management discussions of employee

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performance and assignments,” Bill said. “During those sessions, I made it clear that I would abstain from comment. “Fortunately Jane was a very good employee, so I had no problem where I was even tempted to intervene.” He said it was also nice to be able to go out with co-workers after work and have Jane there. “There was no explaining to your girlfriend (and later, wife) that you were stopping off for a few drinks after work,” he said. “She was there with me.” Although it was all too easy to talk about work, the two had to remind themselves it wasn’t necessary. Even as their roles changed in the workplace, the Kennedys didn’t let issues get in the way of their marriage. “At one point, Jane had advanced in her career, and we actually interviewed for the same job, and she was selected,” Bill said. “The fact that we were married made the sting a little easier. At least one of us got a promotion.” Bill retired in 1998 t of "The best par and Jane in 2008. She began working at e I worked n o e m o s g in t Breeden Realtors in da a 2009. we did have t a h t s a w h wit “Although we don’t our lives in work together any more, I large part of l Kennedy do get to help her put up a Bil common." ‘For Sale’ sign or two now and then,” he said. © Thinkstock

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amily life By Shannon Palmer photos by joe harpring As a wife and mother of three busy children, two of whom have special needs, Kristine Miller of North Vernon always makes sure her family comes first. Aidan, 14, Zoe, 12, and Eliana, 8, all keep the Miller family hopping. Her husband, Dr. Trevor Miller, owns Miller Chiropractic Clinic in North Vernon, and Kristine has logged long hours helping the office run smoothly and ensuring their clients receive the best care. Zoe and Eliana have been diagnosed with a movement disorder termed genetic dystonia. It affects eye movement and motor skills. This means everyday actions that most individuals take for granted are more difficult for their girls. “Buttoning clothes, opening doors, writing, as well as walking have been more of a challenge for our daughters. But we have all worked hard, and my children are happy and lead normal, healthy lives,� Kristine said. In years past numerous visits to therapy sessions, neurologists and, of course, regular play dates left Kristine with little free time, and her weight was on the rise. She had finally had enough when shopping for a New Year’s Eve outfit in 2008.

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“Kristine was hesitant with weights at first but quickly bumped up her workout sessions from once a week to three times a week. ”

“I was looking for something to wear for a small gettogether, and I realized I was just trying on outfits that hid my body. I didn’t feel good about myself, and I knew I was gaining weight,” she said. “It wasn’t until I saw the photos from our New Year’s Eve celebration that I decided I was done.” Too embarrassed to sign up for a membership at the gym, Kristine had her husband enroll the whole family at the newly opened Anytime Fitness in North Vernon. Once she received the go-ahead to attend, her workouts consisted mainly of cardio. “I spent a lot of time on the elliptical machines and the treadmill,” she said. Page 28

— trainer Steven Morgan

Despite the miles logged on the equipment, she still wasn’t satisfied with how her body was responding to these sessions. Finally, she decided to take advantage of the offer to try a free personal training session and realized that what she needed was the extra push that only a trainer can give. In came Steven Morgan, one of the gym’s certified personal trainers, who encouraged Kristine to push herself to her personal limit by designing a strength training and cardio workout suited to her fitness goals. “Kristine was hesitant with weights at first but quickly bumped up her workout sessions from once a week to three times a week. She never complained and really pushed herself,” Morgan said. SHE m a g a z i n e • J u l y 2 0 1 0


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cation and drive that have made her successful.” “To me it was a major ordeal to leave the house for 30 minutes. I had a lot of anxiety as many moms do, but when I came home the house was still standing, and everyone was happy. I learned to plan my workouts into our daily lives,” Kristine said. Once reassured that gym time would not hinder her family’s well-being, she began to take her training sessions seriously. After approximately four months, she began to see a difference in her body. She was losing weight and getting more toned and stronger in the process. Off and running She eventually traded time on the elliptical for running. At first it was just running to the mailbox and back, and then she would push herself a little bit farther. Modest about her weight loss, Kristine insists that the goal is to be healthy. Now, after a year and a half and 50 pounds lighter, she has her sights set on competing in a half-Ironman race in September and is scheduled to challenge herself in her first marathon come January. “Her half-Ironman race in September is to raise money for the Mitochondrial Disease Foundation, so once again she is putting others in front of herself,” Trevor said. Besides the exercise, she also attributes her weight loss and lifestyle change to the type of foods she eats. “Our family has always led a healthy lifestyle. We have been eating organic for a long time, but we would eat a lot of red meat, steak, etc.,” Kristine said. “However, I was researching online about nutrition and found a book on clean eating by Tosca Reno, and it really inspired me.” She praises breakfast and says it is the largest meal of her day. To stay fueled she keeps nuts and fruit bars handy at all times. She does a fair amount of cooking to provide her family with nutritious meals that avoid processed foods. Her advice for other women who want to make a lifestyle change: “Make time for yourself. I know it sounds so cliché, but it is so true. Do it for yourself and try to find like-minded people to surround yourself with.”

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“Make time for yourself. I know it sounds so cliché, but it is so true. Do it for yourself and try to find like-minded people to surround yourself with.”

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eauty and the beach

Cutouts, lingerie looks and retro details are making waves By Associated Press For some, a new swimsuit is a rite of the summer season. “It’s always fun to buy a new bikini,” says Colleen Sherin, fashion director at Saks Fifth Avenue. “It’s small, doesn’t take up a lot of closet space. And it’s always tempting because you’re usually buying one because something fun is happening, whether it’s relaxing or a vacation or just the start of summer. It’s an easy pick-me-up.” The bikini is the top seller at Saks — with the favorite silhouettes being string and halter necks — but Sherin has seen a steady increase in one-pieces, especially those with plunging necklines or bandeau tops.

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• Cutout

swimsuits.

Designers translated the cutouts, rips and slashes seen on fashion runways for the spring season in a way that’s sexy and glamorous without being vulgar, revealing just the right amount of skin. Designer Melissa Odabash says everyone is asking for cutouts. “They end up being my best-sellers because I make them not really for the water,” she said. “They are more for just showing off your body.” Red Carter, who designed a suit for Victoria’s Secret that looks like it’s sliced from side to side all over, called it an evolution of the monokini, a bikini held together with strategically placed fabric linking the bottom and top.

• Lingerie looks.

The bustier-style bodice, in both one-piece suits and tankinis, is popular this summer, says Rosemarie DiLorenzo of Swimwear Anywhere. You’ll also see delicate lace trim, especially on suits targeting youthful consumers. Bra tops — with both band and cup sizes — mean many more choices than the old small, medium and large, and, just like in lingerie, a properly fitted bikini will be much more flattering, DiLorenzo adds. Some brands — flirty Juicy Couture, among them — are bringing back underwires.

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• Feminine details.

Many of the spring fashion trends translate to swim, especially floral prints and ruffles, says Sherin. The one-shoulder top is another style that has leapt from the runways to the beach. It’s a sophisticated touch to swimwear, says DiLorenzo, and elongates the torso, which is a bonus when it comes to bathing suits.

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• Vintage inspiration.

Ruching and draping make for a glamorous, old-Hollywood silhouette — and is also great camouflage for figure flaws, DiLorenzo notes. Adding to the retro pinup vibe is the downward shift of the leg line, she says. “Fashion designers are always looking back and then modernizing.” The skirted suit is also getting a lot of play at all levels of the swimwear market.

• Peach, pink and makeup colors.

Designer Carmen Marc Valvo likes to see women in colorful suits — it just seems tropical, he says. And, he adds, white looks great against sun-kissed skin. Still, black suits are the bulk of the business, says Valvo, estimating 65 percent of his swimwear sales are black. “The black swimsuit is the equivalent of the little black dress.”

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CHICKEN DELIGHTS

Serves: Makes: About 130 chicken balls Rolling the mixture into balls is the only time-consuming part of the recipe.

Ingredients • 3 pounds ground raw chicken breast

• 1 teaspoon salt

• 2 shallots, peeled, minced

• 2 cups dry stuffing mix such as Pepperidge Farm, crushed

• 2 large ribs celery, washed, finely minced

• 1 teaspoon black pepper

• 2 eggs, lightly beaten

• ½ cup almonds, coarsely ground, optional

• 3 tablespoons Dijon mustard

• Nonstick cooking spray

• 1 tablespoon curry powder

• Hot water as needed

• 1 jar (12 ounces) mango chutney, divided

In a large bowl combine the chicken, shallots, celery, eggs, Dijon, curry powder, 8 tablespoons chutney, lemon juice, salt, pepper, stuffing and, if using, almonds. Mix together thoroughly, trying not to work the mixture too much. Refrigerate for 30 minutes. When ready to cook, preheat the oven to 400 degrees. Lightly coat a sided baking sheet with nonstick spray. Place the remaining chutney in a food processor or blender and puree until smooth. Add a little hot water if the mixture seems too thick. Using about a heaping teaspoon of the chicken mixture, roll into balls about 1 inch in diameter. Place the balls on the baking sheet. Bake about 12 minutes or until thoroughly cooked. Remove from the oven and immediately brush with the chutney. Serve immediately or store and reheat just before serving.

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GRILLED PORK TENDERLOIN RUB

Serves: Makes: 32 (1½ ounce servings) The marinade and rub make enough for 2 pork tenderloins. Try the marinade on one and the rub on the other.

(optional)

• 4 tablespoons brown sugar • 1 teaspoon Morton Nature’s Seasons Seasoning Blend • 1 teaspoon salt

2 pork tenderloins (about 1 ½ pounds each)

• 1 teaspoon black pepper

MARINADE (optional)

• 2 teaspoons onion powder

• ½ cup orange juice

Trim the pork tenderloins of any silver connective tissue. If marinating, whisk together all the marinating ingredients in a glass measure. Place the tenderloins in a plastic sealable bag and pour the marinade over. Seal bag and marinate at least 4 hours or overnight. If using the rub, combine all the rub ingredients in a small bowl. Rub the mixture all over the tenderloins. Place

• 1 tablespoon garlic powder

• 1/3 cup canola oil • 1 tablespoon sesame oil, optional • 5 tablespoons reduced-sodium soy sauce • 1 tablespoon hoisin sauce, optional

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in a sided dish and refrigerate for at least 1 hour and up to 4 hours. When ready to cook, preheat the grill to medium-high. Oil the grill grates. If you marinated the tenderloins, remove them from the marinade and discard the marinade. For either method, grill each tenderloin about 3-4 minutes on all sides to get nice sear and grill marks. Reduce the heat to medium or move the tenderloin to a cooler part of the grill. Continue grilling until the center reaches 145 to 150 degrees, about 8-10 minutes. Remove from the grill and let rest about 5 minutes — the tenderloin will continue to cook. Slice on a slight diagonal into 16 slices about ¼-inch thick. Place on a platter and serve.

GREEK PASTA SALAD

Serves: 48 (½ cup servings) Adjust the salt as needed.The olives and feta cheese will contribute to the saltiness.

Salad • 2 packages (16 ounces each) cavatappi pasta or elbow macaroni • 2 pints grape tomatoes, washed, halved • 1 jar (7 ounces drained) kalamata olive pieces in brine, drained • 10 ounces feta cheese (use half regular and half reduced-fat or fat-free), crumbled • 1 large red onion, peeled, diced • 1 hot house cucumber, seeded, diced July 2010 • she magazine

• 1 large bunch radishes, washed, ends removed, thinly sliced • 1 cup chopped flat leaf parsley

Dressing • ¼ cup red wine vinegar • 2 cloves garlic, peeled • 4 ounces fat-free, reduced fat or regular feta cheese, crumbled • 1 tablespoon dried oregano • 1 tablespoon sugar • ½ teaspoon salt • 1 teaspoon black pepper • 1 teaspoon all-purpose seasoning • 1½ cups olive oil

To make the salad: Cook the pasta according to package directions. Drain and rinse with cold water. Spread the pasta out on a baking sheet to dry for 30 to 45 minutes. Meanwhile, prepare all the remaining salad ingredients and place them in a large serving bowl. Add the pasta and toss together. To make the dressing: In a blender or food processor place the red wine vinegar, garlic, feta cheese, oregano, sugar, salt, pepper and seasoning blend. Pulse to chop up the garlic and cheese. With the machine running, slowly and in a steady stream add the olive oil and process until emulsified. Taste and adjust seasonings as needed. The dressing should be salty enough from the feta cheese; try not to over-salt. Pour the dressing over the salad. Toss to thoroughly combine and serve. Or you can make both the salad and the dressing a day in advance, pouring the dressing over the salad and combining just before serving.

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Cash talk

With whom are you

trusting your money? By Jalene Hahn

What’s in a name? The financial meltdown and investment scandals of the past few years have focused attention on the inner workings of the financial services industry. If you are confused about the differences among stock brokers, investment advisers and financial planners, you are not alone. These are the three basic categories of financial service providers. Each category has its own registration requirements and legal obligations. Determining what services you require and how you want to pay for those services is a good first step to identifying a provider to meet your needs. Securities laws were established following the Great Depression and recognized two distinct types of providers — investment advisers and brokers. Comprehensive financial planning as a concept developed in the 1960s and began to blur the lines between product sales and investment advice. This trend has accelerated in recent years as brokerage firms offer services that look like investment advisory or financial planning services. Investment adviser is a legal term for an individual who is in the business of giving advice about securities (defined as stocks, bonds, mutual funds and annuities). Investment advisers are obligated to provide a fiduciary duty of care, which means they must act in their clients’ best interests at all times. They also must provide upfront disclosure of their qualifications, services provided, compensation and any potential conflicts of interest. Investment advisers provide ongoing advice and management of a client’s investments. Brokers are in the business of buying and selling securities on behalf of customers. Brokers who provide advice “incidental to the sale of securities” do not have to register as investment advisers or meet a fiduciary standard. Page 42

They adhere to a suitability standard, which means they need to understand some basic information about your financial © Thinkstock needs and may make recommendations as long as those recommendations are not unsuitable for your situation. None of the terms financial planner, wealth manager, investment manager, portfolio manager or wealth counselor is defined or regulated independently. Financial service providers offering comprehensive financial planning may end up with three different licenses — insurance, brokerage and investment adviser — each requiring a different standard of care and accountability to consumers. It is not always clear to consumers when a provider’s role changes, and therefore the standard they are held to changes. Katy Marquardt from U.S. News and World Report writes, “It probably goes without saying, but a faceto-face meeting with a prospective planner, broker, or investment manager is a must. Relying only on recommendations from your most trusted friends and family members won’t suffice.” To help consumers the Coalition on Investor Education published a brochure, “Cutting Through the Confusion,” that explains the differences between financial service providers and what questions you should ask when selecting a provider. There are also very good resources available online to help you find the right service provider for your situation. Get your mouse going and get started today. Your future is at stake. — Jalene Hahn is a certified financial planner with Warren Ward and Associates.

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Questions to ask yourself before you invest • Do you need help developing strategies to reach your financial goals or do you simply want suggestions on appropriate investment products to implement your goals? • Do you want assistance with a few targeted areas, or do you need a comprehensive plan for your finances? • Do you already have a portfolio of investments you would like help managing? • How involved do you want to be in decisions about your specific investments? • Do you prefer paying for investment services through a fee, commissions, a percentage of assets in your account or a combination of these? • Do you prefer working with someone who is primarily considered a salesperson, an adviser or a combination of the two? • How important is it to you that your provider has a legal obligation to act in your best interests and disclose potential conflicts of interest?

Questions to ask your investment services provider • What services do you offer? • What qualifications do you have to offer those services? • How do you charge for those services? Do you receive compensation from other sources if you recommend that I buy a particular stock, mutual fund or bond? • Would my account be an advisory account or a brokerage account? • Are you required by law to always act in my best interests? Will you put that commitment in writing? • What potential conflicts of interest do you have when recommending investment products to me and will you disclose those conflicts? • Will you provide me with a written record of any disciplinary history for you and your firm? • Will you give me your Form ADV (the registration form that must be filed by investment advisers) and/or your Form U4 (the registration form used by people who work with brokers)?

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Additional resources • Consumer Federation of America is a nonprofit association of approximately 300 national, state and local pro-consumer organizations. It was founded in 1968 to advance the consumer interest through research, education and advocacy. www.consumerfed.org • The Certified Financial Planner Board of Standards Inc. is the organization that grants the CFP certification and upholds it as the recognized standard of excellence for personal financial planning. www.cfp.net • The Financial Planning Association is the membership organization for the financial planning community. Its 28,500 members are dedicated to supporting the financial planning process in order to help people achieve their goals and dreams. www.fpanet.org • The National Association of Personal Financial Advisors is the nation’s leading organization dedicated to the advancement of fee-only comprehensive financial planning. www.napfa.org

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Diet and exercise

help women cope with joint disease By Aubrey Jackson-Conner More than 16 million women suffer from osteoarthritis, one of the most common types of joint disease. Osteoarthritis is the degeneration and loss of cartilage in the joint. Cartilage acts as a cushion for joint surfaces, allowing for healthy movement and prevention of friction between the bones. As the cartilage breaks down, inflammation within the joint can lead to decreased mobility, pain, bone spurs and ultimately lack of function. Osteoarthritis is most commonly found in the hands, feet, spine, hips and knees.

Why are women more susceptible? The female pelvis is wider, to assist in childbirth, which changes the alignment and forces placed on the hips, knees, ankles and feet. This structural difference increases a woman’s risk of injury and onset of osteoarthritis. Hormonal changes that take place during pregnancy and menopause have also been proven to increase the risk of joint disease. One of the most common risk factors contributing to osteoarthritis is obesity. Excessive weight places stress on the joints, leading to more wear and tear. For every pound that we gain, it increases the load on the knees by three pounds and on the hips by six pounds.

How can women minimize their risk? The two most beneficial factors in preventing joint disease and especially osteoarthritis are diet and exercise. Exercise keeps your joints lubricated and the surrounding muscles strong, which promotes stability and reduces pain. It is important to choose the appropriate exercises. If you have not recently participated in an exercise routine, it is important that you get clearance from your doctor prior to starting an exercise program. Your health care provider may recommend physical therapy. A physical therapist is specially trained to evaluate fitness, provide education, improve mobility restrictions and develop a custom exercise program for each patient. Walking, bicycling and aquatics are great ways to get aerobic exercise with a minimal load on the joints. A well-balanced and nutritional diet has also been proven to positively affect the joints.

What if you are already suffering from symptoms? Many people living with the diagnosis of osteoarthritis are able to manage their symptoms and at times live with minimal to no pain. Addressing your diet and exercise can still make changes in pain levels and joint mobility. Studies have shown that weight reduction takes a significant amount of pressure off the joints, which can reduce pain. It is important to have an accurate diagnosis that will help determine appropriate treatment. We are lucky to have talented orthopedic surgeons in our community who offer options when all other attempts at pain management are unsuccessful. Women have many important roles in life. They are daughters, sisters, friends, professionals, workers, wives, mothers and grandmothers. Sometimes, it is hard to find time for ourselves. However, research continues to prove that lifestyle choices have major effects on our bodies and our risk for disease. Therefore, it is vital that we take the time to minimize our risk for disease in order to maximize our quality of life. Aubrey Jackson-Conner is a licensed physical therapist at Columbus Regional Hospital’s Marr Road office.

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By Daniel Schuetz So, the other day I was having a conversation with a friend about Facebook. Our dialogue could have been about social networking in general, certainly, but we were not speaking in the abstract. I was unabashedly extolling the virtues. “OK, but what about people I don’t want to be friends with?” “Don’t respond to their friend request,” I explained, “or accept their request, then un-friend them.” This concept was acceptable — perhaps even desirable — to my real-life friend. I think there was a certain satisfaction in the notion of secretly clicking a button and kicking someone out of your virtual life. “But won’t they know?” “Eh, maybe. But they don’t get an announcement or anything.” “Aha … so they might have to figure it out …,” my friend speculated. “But what about personal information?” “Oh, there are all sorts of security preferences you can control.” We chatted for a while about the mechanics of the thing. The adjustments that could be made. The pros and the cons. I suggested that perhaps the best way for him to either learn how to use it, or to cross it off the list of things to do, would be for me to get him started on it, then for him to just play around

for a while. This seemed acceptable. I was not really trying to convert the masses or anything. I’m not going to start greeting people at the airport, handing a flower and asking if they have found Facebook. I do not hold an ownership interest. I just like it. And I thought my friend would like it. Both for business and for pleasure. “Here’s the thing,” I said. “I have cousins and aunts and uncles and such to whom I can send messages on their respective birthdays. I would never have done that otherwise, and I like to do it. “Same with births of classmates’ children. I am in touch with people with whom I would not otherwise be in touch.” I am not so sure if this last bit was taken as a pro or a con. Perhaps there are people in our lives with whom we should not have ongoing contact: the cute girl from summer camp who creeps into consciousness at unexpected times, the longlost former neighbor, the person from school that we kind of knew. Perhaps there is supposed to be an ebb and flow to the tide of people in our lives and not an ever-growing pool of individuals whom we know with varying degrees of intimacy. I think I have a potential convert, but the conversation quickly shifted. “I think I would enjoy World Cup, but I don’t know much about soccer,” my friend said. “Oh, well. What we should do is sit down and watch a game together. Have a few beers and

watch. That’s the best way. Random questions and subtle points are much more easily addressed that way. So much better than just reading about it.” My friend thought that this sounded like a good idea — or he was being polite. But I know my friend well enough to know that he likely would have made it quite clear if he were not at all interested in this prospect. Whether I said it out loud, I do not remember, but the point that I would have made is this: Regardless of the ability to be in virtual contact with thousands — millions — of people, I would never trade that for lunch or beers or both with a real-life friend. In person. Face-to-face. Sharing the same environment. The sounds, the smells. The passersby. A true shared experience. So, a discussion about Facebook, I realized, was even more satisfying to me than actually using the thing. Sharing a soccer match with someone was more appealing to me than the prospect of watching alone. I remembered that I have a very high opinion of my own instructive abilities. And I was reminded to savor face-to-face time with my real-life, fleshand-blood friends. Daniel Schuetz lives in Columbus with his wife and two children. He is an attorney with Eggers Woods.

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Minute B e au t y b its Frizzy hair is a nightmare for women with curls, and summer humidity and rain can wreak havoc, turning glossy curls into frizz within a matter of minutes. So how to fight back? One secret lies in conditioning. It’s important to deep condition hair every time you wash it. Keep a thick conditioner on hair for at least five minutes before rinsing and consider adding a stay-in conditioner once you leave the shower. — beauty.about.com © Thinkstock

Healthy habits Try to spend at least one hour outdoors on warm, sunny days. Sunlight triggers the release of serotonin, a brain chemical that makes you feel good and

helps ease food cravings. — Columbus Regional Hospital

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Beautiful Leukemia” is an unflinching look at her battle with this life-threatening disease but in the end affirms her lust for life and ability to find beauty in the face of pain and fear. Some of the poignant drawings Jan created throughout her recovery add a depth to the work that words alone cannot convey. —Viewpoint Books

Landscape logic The summer heat and humidity bring several common vegetable diseases. Two of the most common are early blight and septoria leaf spot on tomatoes. The classic symptoms of these tomato diseases are spotting, browning and death of the lower leaves on the plants. In severe situations the infection will work its way up the plant and cause major leaf loss. Even with severe infections the plants will continue to grow, but yield Page 48

will be less and some sun scalding may occur on the tomatoes because of the loss of leaves. The most effective thing someone can do at this point is to supplement the plants with fertilizer to encourage new leaf grow. Dead leaves and plants should be removed to reduce further infection. — Extension educator Mike Ferree SHE m a g a z i n e • J u l y 2 0 1 0


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