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Sue Ann

Werling ventures from successful printer to community supporter

The midday sun peeks through the fall foliage of the Brown County hills and sprinkles warmth across a large, open meadow that serves as a safe haven for deer and other wildlife. A quiet pond is tucked into the bottom of the hillside, and for Nashville resident and entrepreneur Sue Ann Werling, this breathtaking view of her backyard represents her successes in business, her passion for animals and her desire to make a difference in her community. Sue Ann grew up in Seymour, and after earning a degree in print management from Indiana State University, she set out to make her mark in the world of printing. After gaining experience working for a large company as a printing project manager, she spent the next seven years helping a small printing company in her hometown become a thriving business. Her next venture brought her to Moore Langen Printing Co. in Terre Haute, where she met her future husband. “She was the first employee I hired because of her technical experience,” said Evan Werling, who found his success as the CFO of a public company at a young age. “Had I not found Sue Ann, (the company) would not have been successful.” Although the company had been in financial trouble, the Werlings turned it into a success. They began developing technology that set them apart from other printers, including perfecting precise hologram printing that eventually earned them accounts with National Geographic, Houghton-Mifflin, Harcourt and other major education publishers. “I received an e-mail one day from National Geographic, and

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when I called I said, ‘Is this the National Geographic?’” Sue Ann said. “They were looking for someone to replace their supplier for specialty, high-end book covers.” Phil Schlosser, vice president of manufacturing at National Geographic, traveled to meet with the Werlings two weeks later. “We asked him to give us a try,” Sue Ann said. On the cover Within eight months, Moore Langen was the domestic cover printer for National Geographic’s entire line of books, and Sue Ann notes this was the highlight of her career. “Sue Ann’s level of enthusiasm ranks among the highest of anyone I’ve ever met,” Schlosser said. “She was able to influence us with her quality of people, craftsmanship and personal attention. Sue Ann knew what she was talking about, she knew the equipment, and she did everything she said she’d do.” Moore Langen continued its success and secured many of the textbook covers that can be seen in schools today. Sue Ann, owner, president and CEO of the nationally certified WomanOwned Business Enterprise (WBE), was recognized by Printing Impressions magazine as one of the top women business leaders in the U.S. In 2005, the couple decided to sell Moore Langen and build their home in Brown County, which brought them closer to Sue Ann’s family. The Werlings are now focused on helping people in the area with their new venture capital firm.


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“We don’t see a lot of new businesses,” Sue Ann said. “Having more than 40 years (combined) of hands-on entrepreneurial success, we want to help other people pursue their American dream.” The goals for their venture capital company will be to invest in start-up businesses with promising growth potential, to buy out existing companies to keep them local and to assist other local enterprises in need of financial and strategic guidance. “We would also like to provide support to aspiring entrepreneurs,” Sue Ann said, “And assist women-owned businesses to obtain their WBE certifications.” Animals welcome Sue Ann is an active member of the community, volunteering at the Brown County Humane Society, and fosters mainly injured or sick animals at her home. The Werlings have adopted six rescue dogs and six cats, and nurtured many of them back to health in their pet-friendly home. “The Werlings are marvelous people,” Tony West, Brown County animal control officer, said. “We wish we had more people like them who have the resources and the time to be able to help foster these animals with special needs.” Among the foster dogs nurtured back to health was Rainbow, an abused shepherd mix who had a torn ear and a bare leg that had been badly burned. With consultation from Purdue University’s School of Veterinary Medicine, the dog recovered from his injuries.

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The Werlings also support Purdue’s veterinary school in its research for a cure for animal and human bladder cancer. This research has extended the quality of life for one of the Werlings’ rescued dogs, Brandi, by 18 months. “My passion for animals came from my mom,” Sue Ann explains. “We always had animals at home, when growing up.” Sue Ann, who is an avid photographer, has taken photos of humane society animals and is working on videos for shelter animals to display on Web site. She has also found that serving on the board of the Rotary Club of Brown County has enabled her to contribute to the

community even more. As president-elect, she has helped with fundraising and Mother’s Cupboard and was in charge of this year’s fair booth. The Werlings also work with the Columbus Chamber of Commerce Maverick Challenge, a business-planning competition for Columbus North and East high school seniors, where Evan serves as a mentor and Sue Ann as a judge. “Evan supports me 100 percent,” she said. “We have that special combination of goals that at the end of the day are the same.”


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Blade Wars It was a close shave, but we have some favorites

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Many of us come armed for battle each time we commit the seemingly simple personal hygiene act of shaving. The mission: to eliminate hair, at least temporarily. The risks: casualties in the form of razor burn and cuts. To help mediate the conflict between our legs and the wily razor, it’s time for Blade Wars. In this first (and only) competition, for just over a month we compared five types of disposable razors: • Bic Twin • Noxzema three blade • Venus Spa Breeze • Schick Quattro • Bic Soleil Each razor was ranked in aesthetics, scent (if applicable), grip, conditioning, sharpness, endurance and nick factor. When I started this mission, I found myself standing in Wal-Mart staring at a seemingly endless row of possible test subjects. The colors ran together and so did the names — many that evoke feelings of comfort or an exotic tropical locale. I finally settled on a variety of prices and range of blades.

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1 Bic Twin

$2.94 for pack of 10 This razor is scary even at first glance. The bright girly colors are its only up side. It has no scent and with two blades, minimal endurance past one or two shaves. One definitely needs shave gel in order to do the job without losing precious skin. This razor has no conditioning strip, nothing to grip but its standard, round plastic tube of a handle. Obviously it’s a deal, but use with caution. Aesthetics: D Scent: n/a Grip: D Conditioning: F Sharpness: C Endurance: D Nick factor: C



$2.97 for four The cool design drew my eye, but that’s about all this razor has going for it. Virtually no conditioning (a thin, tiny strip adorns the top) makes for a rough shave. It’s apparent the handle’s unique design is for looks mainly, because it provides a rather uncomfortable grip. It caused razor burn, but no nicks on its first use, so it wasn’t used again. Aesthetics: B Scent: n/a Grip: C Conditioning: D Sharpness: D Endurance: D Nick factor: A

3 Venus Spa

4 Schick



$6.57 for two At first sight, this is one heck of a razor. Surrounded by two fat conditioning strips, its design puts your mind at ease. The razor has a nice comfortable grip, but I had to press harder than I normally would because of those conditioning strips. Even the first use didn’t provide the closest shave I’ve ever had, but it was very comfortable and it left no stubble. My legs remained nick free and felt smooth and unirritated. The strips do have one down side: making it more challenging to get those hardto-shave places such as around the ankle. I’m also disappointed that the razor doesn’t come with a cap to prevent the conditioning strip from gooing up shower walls and shelves. Aesthetics: A Scent: A Grip: B Conditioning: A Sharpness: C Endurance: C Nick factor: A


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$6.46 for three Now we’re getting somewhere. The Schick Quattro has a nice grip and comes in a variety of fun colors. It’s comfortable and sturdy with excellent swivel capacity for getting around kneecaps. This razor provided a comfortable shave, and its rubber strip at the bottom of the blades lifted hairs for a close shave without discomfort. No nicks. It conditioned well through several shaves and then began to wear. Aesthetics: A Scent: n/a Grip: A Conditioning: A Sharpness: B Endurance: B Nick factor: A

5 Bic


$5.77 for four This razor proved to have the best grip of all tested. It provided a close shave, but did leave some irritation. The razor has a rather small conditioning strip, especially for its four blades. I suffered a few small nicks on my shin and knee, but that could be chalked up to my own carelessness. The Bic Soleil provided close shaves multiple times; however irritation increased because the conditioning strip quickly wore out. Aesthetics: A Scent: n/a Grip: A Conditioning: C Sharpness: A Endurance: B Nick factor: C page 11

By Jennifer Willhite Photos by Joel Philippsen

Mary Ann Ransdell gives love and

second chances to her It starts before the sun rises. At 7:15 a.m., Principal Mary Ann Ransdell has 30 minutes before the bell rings, and it’s just enough time to get a sense of what the day may hold. No matter what awaits on the other side of the bell, she is prepared with a smile, soft-spoken voice and compassionate nature. And a huge fan club. Ransdell’s dedication to her students for the past 23 years and her outstanding work as principal at Fodrea Community School are why she is the winner of She magazine’s She Deserves It contest, a series that highlights exceptional women nominated by She readers. Each winner receives a gift from contest sponsor Fair Oaks Mall. Having grown up with 11 siblings, Ransdell has always been around children. Reading has been the Western Kentucky alumna’s passion, and she’s worked to pass on that enthusiasm through teaching. “Knowing why some kids can’t [read] has always just been a mystery to me,” she said. “That’s what you’re always looking for the answer for. What can you do to help this one read? What can you do to help that one read?” According to Ransdell, providing a caring atmosphere in which students “feel safe and comfortable” is essential. One way she reaches her students is by making herself available to them and establishing and maintaining personal contact.

Her one-on-one time lets students know that they are each important. And, as a result, lunch with the principal has become very popular at Fodrea. Students commonly ask, “Can I have lunch with you today?” “Sometimes I’ll take a whole class, and we’ll just sit in the community ed room,” she said. “And they’ll bring their lunches up, and we’ll just chat. And then they’ll all go to recess. And … in some kids’ cases, you think they just need that one-on-one time with you. And I’ll just let one or two come with me.” Time to celebrate Rewarding positive behaviors is part of the structure and consistency that fill the halls of Fodrea. Celebrations, and sometimes costumes, play a role in that recognition. At the beginning of each nine weeks, there’s a festivity to recognize the good behaviors that occurred during the previous term. As the mother of three recently demonstrated, a great sense of humor is a crucial part of the lighthearted atmosphere of celebration. Recently she donned a chicken costume and danced the chicken dance. It was met with tremendous approval and calls for future appearances. “My sixth-grade students asked me if at graduation they could have a picture of me with them in the chicken costume,” Ransdell said. “I told them, ‘Yes’.”

students Her positive attitude and sense of humor are welcomed by students and admired by staff. “Mrs. Ransdell is not always the serious one. … She has been known to dress up in a red nose, Dr. Seuss hat or bedroom slippers,” said Judy Lunsford, who teaches third grade. “She has also been heard singing a silly song for the winter holiday program, been seen dancing, and one can’t forget seeing her have wet sponges thrown at her face during the Spring Fun Fair.” Hanging on the wall opposite her desk is a framed picture drawn by a second-grade student whom she helped through a difficult time. Standing below a rainbow are the student and Ransdell. Above the two figures the student wrote that when she grows up she wishes to be a principal like Ransdell so she, too, can make a positive difference in children’s lives and give second chances, just as she’d received a second chance. “That is what I look at each morning and make sure that I do — to make sure that I give them lots of love and lots of chances,” she said. “’Cause we all know children. It’s not their nature to be perfect. So we keep trying. Start each day anew.” Matter of trust Ransdell believes that rapport built with a child goes a long way. A sense of trust is critical.




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“That is what I look at each morning

and make sure that I do — to make sure that I give them lots of love and lots of chances. ’Cause we all know children.

It’s not their nature to be perfect. So we

keep trying. Start each day anew.” ~ Mary Ann Ransdell, principal of Fodrea Community School

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Ransdell with second-grade teacher Martha Heidt, left, and physical education teacher Jill Garris.

“A lot of children do not know how to verbalize what the first thing is [to] calm them down. Sometimes if a child is take them aside and have just a short conversation with them. Say something funny to make them laugh.” Page 16

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Her dedication, compassion and optimism are also felt and appreciated by her staff. According to Lunsford, Ransdell leads her staff by her own example. “Not only does Mrs. Ransdell care for the children, but she also has deep compassion for her entire staff,” Lunsford said. “She genuinely cares about the well-being of each staff member.” Music teacher Beth Anne Brooks has worked with Ransdell for five years and says she is “one of those people you can’t help but admire.” “Mrs. Ransdell [makes] a difference in the lives of our students because she creates a consistent, loving, firm but accepting environment in which our students are able to learn,” Brooks said. “She shows our students that they matter to her. What greater gift can one give to a child?” When she isn’t at school, Ransdell’s focus is on her family, especially her grandchildren. Married for 37 years, she says that she and her husband, David, do get the travel bug. “My husband and I try to do something once a year. Both of us agree that we want to see Alaska.” She considers herself very blessed. “I am so fortunate to work with such a wonderful group of teachers,” Ransdell said. “That makes my job so much easier because we all are on that same page and we all have the same focus. And that focus is on helping children to be successful.”

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St. Nicholas - A Story of Joyful Giving The story of young Nicholas who made a discovery in Bethlehem that changed Christmas forever and the understanding that we give because God first gave to us. Ark Book & Gift 2622 Eastbrook Plaza, Columbus (812) 376-9548

Coach eyewear Give the gift of style with Coach eyewear. We have hundreds of top name selections for women and men. VanArsdall Family Optometry Dr. Ken VanArsdall 11th and Jackson streets, Columbus 812-376-3068 Give the gift of health and happiness Offer those in your lives a gift card so they may choose a quality bicycle, accessories or apparel. A gift that they will enjoy for years to come. Bicycle Station 1201 Washington St., Columbus 812-379-9005 Boots, belts, jewelry ... Cell phone covers and more. Discount Boots & Tack 1931 N. Ewing St., Seymour 812-523-3728

Perfect gift for the holidays Treat everyone on your list to a gift basket from Simmons Winery. Gift baskets are made to order and priced at $15 and up. Add an extra special touch by adding a personalized bottle of wine to the basket. Simmons Winery 8111 E. Road 450N, Columbus 812-546-0091 Edinburgh Premium Outlets 812-526-4199

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Spray-on bed liners HardLine linings are strong and great-looking and provide protection at a tremendous value. They come with a nationwide warranty. Prices vary on bed size. Rhino Linings 2685 N. National Road, Columbus 812-378-9040

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A special gift that will last forever Cedar chest and curio cabinet Brad’s Home Furnishings 729 Washington St., Columbus 538 Washington St., Columbus

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Jacket of all trades

Winter coats and accessories add zip to cold days Winter is coming on strong, and it’s time to bundle up in snug and protective outerwear. However, warmth doesn’t have to sacrifice fashion. Coats, hats, gloves, scarves and boots should be considered an extension of or an addition to your daily wardrobe. This season’s styles and fits are varied enough to suit anyone’s body type and personal style. Perhaps the most important item is a winter coat. Paula Hartwell, assistant manager at Edinburgh Premium Outlets, provided these tips for selecting the right style and making the most of your investment:

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v Take note: Heavy coats are not necessarily warmer. Fabric content is more important. Check if the coat is lined to provide extra protection. v Be sure to examine how the coat is made. Are seams properly stitched and finished, are shoulder seams reinforced, does the collar sit straight and lay flat? v Consider your lifestyle. Shorterlength coats are more convenient for getting in and out of vehicles and climbing stairs; a longer coat could be beneficial for extended periods out in the cold because it covers and protects.

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v Remember this rule … if it doesn’t match, cover it. If your coat doesn’t complement the outfit you’re wearing, make sure the coat covers it. To get maximum mileage out of a coat, consider a neutral color and conservative style. v Wear a thick sweater when shopping for a winter coat to make sure it’s roomy and will accommodate layering underneath. Be sure to stretch your arms to test for easy movement around the shoulder area. v A single-breasted coat looks best on a heavier silhouette because it creates a strong vertical line. v A wrap-style coat generally adds roundness to a silhouette. v Petite women should avoid sweeping, floor-length coats. Short, fitted coats are more flattering. v Taller women should choose a belted coat to break their vertical line and de-emphasize height. A long coat is a great option. v For women with ample hips, avoid any coat that ends at the hips. It will only accentuate this area. Look for a coat that is broader at the shoulder. Once you’ve selected a coat, it’s time to find accessories, such as a hat, scarf and gloves. If you’ve chosen a neutral coat (black, brown, gray, tan), you can jazz it up with a colorful or patterned accessory set. Boots are the last aspect of the winter outfit and perhaps most varied, depending on their intended use. Hot styles this season for casual and work wear are flat boots and ankle boots. Page 30


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Flat boots provide comfort and are great options with skirts or over jeans, especially if you’re tall. If you want to add a little length to your figure, try a boot with heel or wedge. When traversing through snow or rain, it’s best to choose a boot with a fabric that won’t be damaged by moisture (so, stay away from suede). With a little research you can find the perfect outerwear to keep you warm and looking great during these dreary Indiana winter days.

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Lori Erfmeier perfect s the fine art of jewelry making By Kami Ervin | Photos by Joel Philippsen

Splendor in the glass

The process of making fused

glass involves careful cutting, design and color matching.

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With her father’s influence, a creative touch and the support of her family, one Columbus resident has proven that jewelry making is indeed a work of art. Lori Erfmeier, who originally hails from Sidney, Ohio, graduated with a degree in social services from the University of Kentucky. She moved to Columbus after meeting her husband, Shawn, who is native to the city. They resided in the area for a few years before Shawn Erfmeier took a job in a small town in western New York. However, after being offered a job closer to this area, the family was ready to plant their roots permanently back in Columbus. While working full time and raising two young sons — 8-year-old Leyton and 5-year-old Spencer — adding a working hobby to her agenda was the last thing on Erfmeier’s mind until she received a call a little more than a year ago from her father, a retired artist. “I remember the date — it was August 8th, 2008. Dad told me that he wanted us to come home to Ohio that weekend and learn how to do this jewelry together,” Erfmeier said. Looking forward to spending some time with her parents, she agreed. After being shown the unique, fused-glass art jewelry, she was immediately hooked but concerned about the equipment and materials she would need for start-up. “I was kind of nervous about making the investment,” Erfmeier admitted. “But Shawn was very supportive and said, ‘If you don’t like it, we can always sell the stuff on eBay!’” The process of making fused glass involves careful cutting, design and color matching. The piece then spends about an hour in a kiln and requires an additional five hours of cool down until it is finished.

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Hot and cool Erfmeier started her business, HOT Glass COOL Jewelry, about a year ago and makes bracelets, necklaces, earrings and rings. Each piece is different and can be customized for anyone’s tastes. She has made jewelry for a bridal party and birthday parties and has designed several gifts for her customers. “This type of jewelry isn’t for everyone,” she said. “But it’s a unique piece of art that you can give someone.” Neighbor and friend Heather Krebs has gotten to know Erfmeier over the last couple of years and has become a steady customer as well. “I’ve bought jewelry from Lori for gifts, and she also made the jewelry for my niece’s bridal shower,” Krebs said. “I enjoy going down and looking at all of her pieces. She has quite a gift.”

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Shawn makes the leather cords used for the necklaces, helps maintain the kiln and sometimes even makes jewelry. “I’m not very creative,” he laughed. “I’m here more for technical support when something needs fixed.” Erfmeier has set up a studio in her basement, where she keeps her supplies, kiln and several of her pieces. Because her art involves glass, she is especially careful when her children are in the workshop. “There is a yellow line marked on the floor,” she said. “The boys aren’t allowed to cross that line without wearing shoes, and they know the rules. I cut myself all time!” Another talent While Erfmeier makes many pieces for friends and repeat customers, she also submits photos of her work to art shows, where handmade jewelry is popular. Photography is another of her loves, and she set up a special booth in her studio to take pictures of her pieces. “Art shows are hard to get into,” she explained. “They are juried, and you have to be selected to be able to show.” The family takes the jewelry art on the road to festivals, farmers markets and other events. “It’s a great experience to see all the art,” she said. “It’s a family affair for us, and it’s good family time.” Erfmeier enjoys the weekends when her parents come to visit and she and her father can spend time in her studio working together. Discovering a talent she didn’t know she had has opened her eyes to the many different types of materials she can use for her art. “Wine bottles and scrap glass are a great available source of glass,” she said. While Erfmeier spends several hours a week on her jewelry, her full-time job is with Bartholomew Consolidated School Corp., where she works as a parent/child specialist in the Title 1 program helping families of prekindergartners prepare for school. Her experience as a social worker at Quinco during her first few years in Columbus fueled her passion for children. “It’s a great job,” she said. “I love working with these kids and their parents, helping them prepare for kindergarten.” Erfmeier puts that same passion into her jewelry making. “Life is busy, and this is my getaway,” she said. “This makes a good balance.” p a g e 37

“I believe small communities

are the heart of the country� Kathy Harless, left, and Terri Stoebick outside the newly opened Persnickety gift shop in Freetown.

~ Terri Stoebick

Persnickety about preservation Friends’ gift shop adds one more piece in Freetown’s revival Story and photos by Marcia Walker

No. That was Terri Stoebick’s immediate response when Kathy Harless, her friend and co-worker, asked her to become her business partner, opening a small gift shop and art gallery in the tiny Jackson County community of Freetown. “I meant no until I thought about it,” Stoebick said later, reflecting on the initial conversation. But the next day, she had second thoughts. What prompted her change of heart are the artistic members of her family, including a daughter-in-law who quilts, a daughter who does wood-burning and a son who makes inlaid wooden boxes. “So many family members have talents but no place to sell their work,” Stoebick explained. “I think this is a neat thing to do for my family. (And) it’s real exciting to bring something back to life. I’m happy to be a part of that.” What the two friends are helping bring back to life is the town itself, with a population numbering in the hundreds and where many businesses have packed up, moved on or closed down. Their shop, Persnickety, is the latest small business to open in the tiny town, offering a unique variety of merchandise, including jewelry, quilts, candles, woodcraft and purses.

Some of the merchandise is handmade, some is purchased wholesale, but one rule that is strictly followed is that everything must be unique in some way. The theme of the shop is “uniquely refined, simply elegant.” A small back room does duty as an art gallery; the works of three local artists are on display: Jeff Harris, George “Chip” James and Kyle McIntosh. Harris, a Freetown native, and Harless have been friends since childhood. He makes his living doing freelance construction and helped Stoebick and Harless set up shop. But Harris is also an artist. He started painting as a teenager and hasn’t put his paintbrush down yet, primarily using acrylics and watercolors. One of his specialties is portraits, working off photographs of his subjects. “I paint anything and everything,” he said. “How much fun to give people who love to do something like that a place to put it,” Harless said. The reason behind the work All this is another piece of a dream nurtured by longtime Freetown residents, Donna and Russell Fritz. If there is a community project going on in Freetown, it’s a safe bet the Fritzes are involved in some way. The couple purchased a handful of small buildings in the heart of the community, some vacant and most in need of extensive repair, and renovated them. Donna has opened an ice cream shop; Russell a hardware store. There is an antique shop, and other family members have reopened one of the community’s grocery stores. There are two more buildings waiting for occupants. Other community groups have jumped on the bandwagon. The local improvement association purchased the building that used to be a drug store, planning to make it a museum focused on the history of the town and township. That group has also joined forces with Pershing Township and the community’s Fourth of July committee, pooling their funds to purchase property adjacent to the town park to expand it. “I’m excited,” Donna said, when asked for comments about Persnickety. “I think the town’s excited. Slowly but surely it’s all falling into place. ... Kathy and Terri, they are great people.”

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about a year and that Stoebick helped fill a void when her mother, Wanda Smith, died. Wanda was a graduate of Freetown High School, which closed its doors long ago, and Kathy has lived in the community since eighth grade. A graduate of IU with a major in forensic studies and a minor in art history, Harless lived in Ohio for a while but found that wasn’t where her heart was. “I just missed home,” she said. “I moved back here and have been here ever since.” Harless is also involved with Seymour Main Street, a downtown revitalization effort focused on that community, and serves on the board of District 11 Legal Aid. Her son, Jacob, is 13. “He’s my hobby,” Harless joked, explaining she follows Jacob on his sports beat — basketball and baseball.

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Stoebick has lived in many places, most recently Indianapolis, before moving to Brown County, settling with her husband, Tom. She retired from a bank in Indianapolis, but that retirement lasted all of nine months, when a recruiter found her and she opted to take the job at Jackson County Bank. Her interests revolve around her home, including gardening and canning; she also has a flair for decorating, and much of the shop’s decor is a result of her skill. The furnishings came from whatever the two women found in their attics and basements; they managed to pull things together in just 40 days. “This was so much fun, putting it all together,” Stoebick said. “It was hard,” Harless admitted. “We signed the lease on Sept. 1 and opened on Oct. 9.”

The two know it’s going to be a challenge balancing work, family and the shop, so for now, Persnickety is open only on weekends. “We’re not going to do both at the same time. We’ll do this weekends and give each other breaks,” Stoebick said. She also hinted that if she ever does retire, she might run the shop full time. Although technically a business, neither Harless nor Stoebick uses that word. “It’s heartfelt,” Harless agreed, when that observation was shared with them. “I believe in small communities. Our bank is a community bank. … I believe small communities are the heart of the country. If we let them go into decay, we’re losing something.” Persnickety is at 4779 W. Indiana 58, in the heart of Freetown.

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Apple Cake makes flavorful Thanksgiving dessert By Lynne Rossetto Kasper Scripps Howard News Service

This cake begs to be enjoyed at this time of year, including as a Thanksgiving dessert. It delivers so much elegance for a minimal amount of effort. It’s fluffy yet buttery with moist chunks of apple. It has a zigzag topping of crackly meringue and at its base is a layer of crisp, rich pastry. To create the pastry all you do is rub together flour, sugar and butter until it’s crumbly and pat some of it into the bottom of a cake pan. The rest becomes the cake’s batter when you add eggs, milk, apples and lemon. Top it with streaks of soft whipped meringue and bake.

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(Serves 8 to 10)

Shredded zest of 1 large lemon

2 cups (10 ounces) unbleached all-purpose flour

2 large eggs (4 ounces)

(organic preferred)

3 tablespoons unbleached all-purpose flour

1½ cups (10.5 ounces) sugar

1 tablespoon baking powder

Generous pinch salt

1½ sticks (6 ounces) cold unsalted butter, cut into small pieces

¾ cup milk

2 large (about 1 pound) apples (Granny Smith, Braeburn or Gala), peeled, cored and cut into ½-inch pieces

1 teaspoon vanilla

Meringue Topping: 1 large egg white 2 tablespoons sugar Place the rack in center of the oven and preheat to 375 degrees. Grease and flour a 9-inch springform pan. In a large bowl, with your fingertips, rub together the first measures of flour and sugar with the salt and butter until crumbly. Remove 1 cup of the crumbs and press them onto bottom of the springform pan and about ½-inch up the sides, making a crust about 1/8-inch thick. Make a well in the remaining crumb mixture. Pour into it the milk, eggs, vanilla, lemon zest, the second measure of flour and baking powder. With a whisk, blend this mixture thoroughly without incorporating the crumbs. Then with a wooden spoon stir in the crumb blend until well blended but still a little lumpy. Fold in the apples. Scrape the batter into the pan. Make the topping by beating the egg white until foamy. Beat in the 2 tablespoons sugar until whites barely stand in peaks. Zigzag it over the top of the batter, leaving two-thirds of the batter uncovered. Don’t cover the cake entirely with the meringue or it won’t bake properly. You need only stripes of it, with much of the cake not topped with the whites. Bake 65 to 75 minutes, or until a knife inserted in the center comes out clean. Remove from oven and cool 30 minutes on a wire rack. Slip off sides of the pan and finish cooling cake. Serve at room temperature. Covered in plastic wrap, the cake holds well at cool room temperature for two days. It keeps a week in the refrigerator. Warming in the oven makes it even tastier.

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shape - up

How to exercise when there’s no time to work out

By Shayla Holtkamp “Jingle bells, jingle bells, stress is on its way!” That’s a familiar old tune, unfortunately. There are ways to reduce your stress level and keep up your activity level throughout the holiday season. It’s very tempting to throw your exercise routine away with all the demands of chaotic schedules, but the holidays are not the time to do it. Stress is high with added shopping, increased food preparation, house guests, financial stress and more demands on your time. Exercise reduces stress by releasing endorphins, those “feel good” little hormones, and exercise additionally provides an outlet to release pent-up stress.

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Here are some tips on how to maintain your exercise program within the midst of holiday chaos: • If you shop at a mall, go early and lap the mall before you start shopping, in the middle of shopping and before you leave the mall. • Make sure that you park your car as far away as possible whenever you shop, go to dinner or visit someone. • Keep your walking shoes in your car to be prepared for those unexpected walking opportunities. • Tell your guests to bring comfortable walking shoes and inform them ahead of time that you will be going out for a walk after dinner. • Get some daily fitness passes from your gym to pass out to guests and take them to class with you. • Tour decorated neighborhoods by foot rather than by car. • Bundle the family up and do some old-fashioned Christmas caroling.

If you are traveling: • Take advantage of the waiting time in airports to get in some brisk walking in the terminal.

• Invest in some portable, lightweight exercise equipment, such as resistance bands, a jump rope or a deflatable exercise ball. • Google “exercises you can do without equipment” and set aside 15 to 20 minutes every day to do them. • Some hotels have exercise videos you can check out if the exercise rooms are too busy or you don’t like working out in public. • If you are fortunate enough to be in a location with snow, go outside and build a snowman or fort, help neighbors shovel their driveways and take the kids sledding. • And most important, don’t get down on yourself if you don’t get in your usual fitness routine. You will get back to it. In the meantime find those lifestyle activities that will increase your caloric output. Exercise for health benefits is not an all-or-none situation. Just be creative in finding more ways to move and enjoy the holiday season. Shayla Holtkamp is a personal trainer for Columbus Regional Hospital’s Wellness Program.

• Find a gym in advance in areas where you will be traveling that will allow you to work out for a minimal charge.

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viewfrommars Baby, it was a life-changing trip

By Ryan Brand June 2009. The final arrangements for our trip to San Francisco to attend my cousin Kelsey’s wedding were in place, and what a trip it was shaping up to be. Both a Christian and a Hindu ceremony, a trip to wine country, an afternoon among the giant sequoias and a chance to catch up with family and old friends. It was going to be seven days in the city by the bay, and no one could have predicted how this trip was going to end. My parents made reservations to rent a house for the week, and 10 family members joined us in the Presidio. It was a busy place. We had a full itinerary, and coordinating things in our house with the rest of the family and members of the wedding party was difficult to say the least. First item on the schedule was the wine tasting in Sonoma. Fifteen of us on a party bus sampling the finest Sonoma had to offer. The afternoon before the trip, Gretchen pulled me aside to tell me that she hadn’t been feeling well since we arrived in San Francisco. She said she felt “pregnant.” Now considering that I had visited a physician to prevent the pitter patter of additional tiny feet in our household 14 months prior, I attributed her condition to dinner from the night before or the stress of travel with our two daughters. Regardless of my assurances that all she needed was some rest, she couldn’t shake the feeling. There was a drug store just a few blocks away, and along with antacids she decided that a pregnancy test would put her mind at ease before a day of drinking wine with family and friends. Thirty minutes later I arrived back at the house with a bottle of Tums and the first pregnancy test I could find. Gretchen disappeared to the bathroom and 15 minutes later called me back to our bedroom. Now, I had picked up one of the tests that use strange hieroglyphics to depict a positive or negative result. P a g e 46

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She directed me to take a look on the bathroom sink. When I first saw the test, it was unclear, at best, in my mind. Was it a plus? Was it a minus? Was it a fuzzy division symbol? Hard to tell, I thought. She was certain, but I was still skeptical. Back to the drug store I went. I spent time reading every test label, reviewing every option. I returned with a pregnancy test for dummies, one that says “pregnant” or “not pregnant.” We discussed waiting for the next morning to take the second test, but impatience got the better of us. The results were quite clear. Pregnant! Our family of four became a family of five before our very eyes. The flood of emotion that overcame us is hard to describe. We were as unprepared for this news as you could imagine. Of course there were tears of joy, but also lots of concerns. What would our friends and family think? Our daughters? It was time to turn our lives upside down again and head down the path we had taken twice before. Needless to say, I beat the procedure’s odds of a 0.6 percent chance of conception. Gretchen called her doctor the next morning to schedule an appointment for as soon as we returned. We decided it would be best to wait to make the announcement until after we got back home. What a secret to keep for the next five days, and it was the morning of the trip to wine country, a trip Gretchen had been looking forward to. Trying to fool friends and family that Gretchen was indeed tasting wine at the six stops on our tour was a difficult task, but we were committed to keeping the secret. We played the upset stomach card, but I still ended up drinking most of her servings that she couldn’t discreetly pour out. By the time we got to the last vineyard we figured out how to make an arrangement with our guide to secretly have white and red grape juice poured into Gretchen’s glass during the tasting. I was stumbling a bit by this time. We made it through the first day, but with a bachelorette party, rehearsal dinners and two wedding ceremonies yet to come, we were far from out of the woods. The next morning our anticipation overcame us, and we decided to reveal our secret to my parents, hoping they would help to keep this under wraps. They were, of course, elated and happy to act as accomplices to our plan. Gretchen and I knew how hard this secret was for us to keep, but grandparents? Who were we kidding? Over the next couple of days everyone knew and thank goodness. No more charades, just joy and congratulations. The rest of the week’s events came off without a hitch. The two wonderful wedding ceremonies rekindled our 10-year love affair. The trip to the sequoias reminded us that there are things at work much larger than our own lives, and family and friends reinforced that nothing is more important than the love that keeps us together. What a trip. It sounds clichéd to say something like “life works in mysterious ways,” but thank goodness. Mysteries and miracles are separated only by the smallest of margins, and it all depends on how you see your world. This was a miracle. Ryan Brand lives in Columbus with his family. He is the vice president of Brands Inc. November 2009 • she magazine

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just a

Minute Recommended reading “The Great Lakes Reader: Essays on the States that Make the Great Lakes Great.” $10.95. 137 pages. Various authors. This collection of 13 essays about the states surrounding the Great Lakes offers intriguing personal views of the Midwest. One of the two Indiana essays was written by Viewpoint’s Terry Whittaker, and although it

talks of the influence of high school basketball as he grew up in Elkhart, the experience could easily translate to Columbus. You will enjoy these snapshots, road trips and memories. — Viewpoint Books

Landscape logic Preparing your tools and equipment for their winter with a little bit of attention now will be rewarded with years of good service. You can start to prepare your tools by giving them a thorough cleaning. Remove caked-on soil from shovels, hoes, trowels and spades. Scrub the blades and handles with soap and water and allow them to dry completely before storing. Putting a little linseed oil or similar protector over wood handles will keep the wood from drying and splitting. Sharpening your tools now will help ensure a quick start in spring when the gardening bug bites.

Drain water from garden hoses and sprinklers and hang them to dry before coiling the hoses for storage. Rinse and dry your fertilizer/pesticide spreader and oil all moving parts. Pesticide sprayers should be rinsed and allowed to drip dry before storing. When your lawn has seen its last mowing for this season, run your mower until it is out of fuel. Changing the mower’s spark plug and sharpening the blades now will save you some time next spring. — Purdue Extension educator Mike Ferree

HEALTHY HABITS Floss your teeth. Recent studies make a direct connection between longevity and teeth flossing. Nobody knows exactly why. Perhaps it’s because people who floss tend to be more health conscious than people who don’t?

Thought for the day: Floss and be your body’s boss. — Columbus Regional Hospital

Grab the girls and see a showing of “Julie and Julia,” starring Meryl Streep at Yes Cinema in downtown Columbus. The heartwarming film chronicles the rise of renowned chef Julia

Child. P.S. Husbands might like this film, too; they just won’t admit it. For show times visit

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