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Exciting things are happening ’round here. Fall is approaching, and we are welcoming it with a bang. It seems the summer flew by. I know, I know, we have about a month yet, so I’m not kicking it out. I’m just so excited about what we have planned for the cooler season. It starts with a new contest, sponsored by The Republic’s She and Tipton Lakes Athletic Club. It’s a promotion like none other. In the past, we’ve hosted dinners and movies, we’ve pampered you (and we’ll continue to) and we’ve sent area teens off to prom in style. However this time we’re upping the ante. We’re answering Olivia Newton John’s plea and getting physical. This issue begins the call for the She Wants in Her Skinny Jeans contest, a weight-loss challenge designed to help 12 lucky women lose weight, eat right and feel great. Skinny jeans are more than just a pair of denim pants. They are a goal, a confidence booster, a head turner. No matter your style — low-rise, slimfit, boot cut, etc. — we’ll help get you into your “skinny jeans.” Learn more about this exciting challenge and find the registration form in the story to follow. We have more great stories, including one on how to make that annual exam we all dread (you know which one I’m talking about) a little less, well, dreadful. Local physicians weighed in on how to make the most of your next gynecological visit. Also, we continue our reputation of bringing you interesting and inspiring profiles. This month you’ll meet a female taxidermist and a young National Guard sergeant. So, I’ll waste no more of your time. First, sign up for your chance to be a She Wants in Her Skinny Jeans contestant and then, get reading!
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By Kelsey DeClue & Ian McGriff You slide them on and button them up with ease. They hug every curve just right. You turn in front of the mirror to discover, wow, your butt looks great! They are comfortable and casual, yet they make you look fierce. They go with almost every top from a white T-shirt to a sassy blouse.
The challenge is designed to help you change your body and your life forever. Through this contest, the professionals at TLAC will change your notion about how you should work out to blast fat and lose inches. You’ll be educated on nutrition and how your body works. There’s a reason why those little dinky weights just aren’t helping and why that boring 45 minutes on the elliptical just won’t get rid of the fat.
Our 12 contestants will work out with McGriff, learn how to eat right and transform their bodies. The program starts with a kickoff party Sept. 15 at TLAC. You'll hear from fitness professionals and everyday women on how to get healthy, lose the weight and thus fit in those skinny jeans.
Then we want you! “She Wants in Her Skinny Jeans” is a three-month fitness and nutrition program led by certified personal trainer Ian McGriff and his staff at TLAC.
Perhaps you’ve gained a little weight since college? Maybe you want your pre-baby body back? Maybe you’ve tried seemingly every way possible to slim down, but it’s just not working and those Lucky Brand denim works of art you’ve had your eye on just keep slipping further away?
Throughout the duration of this contest you will have weekly workouts and coaching, daily motivation and inspirations, meal plans and nutrition breakdowns, advice, tips, tricks and breakthroughs in fat loss and body transformations revealed.
Every woman deserves to fit in that perfect pair of jeans that makes her look and feel great. That’s why She magazine and Tipton Lakes Athletic Club are proud to announce the “She Wants in Her Skinny Jeans” contest. She magazine and TLAC are looking for 12 lucky women who want to get in shape.
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Pageant contestant sticks to her
guns in pursuit of military life
By Jennifer Willhite | Photos by Joel Philippsen
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hen Angi Halberstadt began competing in beauty pageants as a teenager, she never considered that one day she would temporarily hang up her evening gowns for battle fatigues. The 2003 Columbus East graduate’s interest in the military was sparked by her stepfather’s influence and further fostered by her experience in ROTC as an undergrad. When she enlisted in 2007, Halberstadt was sworn in by her stepfather, Craig Hawes, who is a major in the Army National Guard. She says that Hawes has greatly influenced her and is someone to whom she frequently turns for advice. Now a sergeant in the National Guard, Halberstadt says that her recent promotion will entitle her to be in more of a leadership role. “Not only do I have to maintain what I am doing,” said Halberstadt. “But I have to make sure they have the right equipment, the right uniform and that they are at the right place at the right time.” Though her decision to enlist initially took friends and family by surprise, Halberstadt has no regrets. Her mother, Diane Hawes, says that her daughter never “gave any indication that she had an interest in the military.” Halberstadt echoes her mother’s observation, but elaborates. “I never thought I would pursue a career in the military,” she said. Childhood friend Jessica Wright said that Halberstadt’s enlistment decision was completely unexpected. “I was shocked when she told me,” said Wright. “I knew she was going to school for nursing, so I thought she would stick with that path.”
After high school, Halberstadt enrolled at Xavier University in Ohio in pursuit of a nursing degree. However, she left classes for basic training in 2007. After sustaining an injury during training that left her unable to complete her nursing clinicals, she decided to
change her major to liberal arts. After graduating in 2009, Halberstadt returned home and discovered a career that had always been right under her nose. Having grown up watching her mother and grandmother in the kitchen cooking, she says that her mother’s party planning and catering work are what opened her eyes to the culinary arts and inspired her interest in the profession. She decided to enroll in Ivy Tech’s culinary arts program. “I cooked in the Army for a little over two years before I started culinary at Ivy Tech,” Halberstadt said. “You can see a huge difference in cooking for the Army and cooking in the civilian world.” Aside from learning to cook on a field kitchen, which she says is essentially a pop-up trailer, Halberstadt had to acclimate to other factors she wouldn’t normally face in the civilian world. As a field cook, one must make up for a lack of conveniences. “You have to consider the sanitary part of it,” Halberstadt said. “You are walking off of the field kitchen and walking around in mud or sand or whatever environment you may be in and then walking right back in your kitchen. And, also, you don’t have running water. So you have to go to your water source, fill up your water jugs, or pots and pans, and then come back and work with whatever water you have.” Halberstadt has been called up for overseas deployment and left Columbus for training from March through June. In under a month, she’ll be leaving again, for Iraq. While home, she is spending as much time as she can with family and friends. She says that her brother’s four children keep her busy. “I am definitely a family person,” she said. “Really, right now, that is the most important thing to do anyway.”
Halberstadt with her grandparents, stepdad Craig Hawes and during training. Opposite page: Halberstadt and her mother, Diane Brown-Hawes
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â€œI have done so many things with the military that I would never have done in my entire life. I have pushed myself physically, mentally and emotionally to aspects that I never thought I would go to.â€?
Halberstadt says that she wants to finish her culinary studies when she returns from serving, possibly complementing her culinary degree with a master’s degree in business and hospitality.
One unique facet of her life is the juxtaposition her diverse interests create, namely her love for pageantry. She says that many people have a difficult time wrapping their minds around the idea. “They can’t believe that I have both worlds,” Halberstadt said. “But it’s so much fun … and it gets me out of the military world.” Pageantry is something that Halberstadt would suggest to any young woman for the diverse opportunities the experience offers. She credits it with building her selfconfidence and communication skills. Her interest in pageantry was prompted by a solicitation letter offering her the opportunity to compete. As with all her pursuits, she aspired to compete on a grand scale, demonstrating her independent, yet bubbly, personality — qualities her mother says she’s exhibited since she was young.
“She has always been a headstrong individual and would always keep trying to succeed regardless of the obstacle. Never tell her she can’t do something,” said Hawes. “She will push herself that much harder to do it just to prove you wrong. She knows that anything is possible when you push yourself.” Halberstadt would also readily recommend the military to others. She said the experience makes one view life in a different way, especially when it comes to things that people may normally consider trivial. “I will never take the smallest things for granted anymore,” Halberstadt said. “The smallest things being a pillow or running water or a real fork instead of a plastic one.” She says being away from home and facing the dangers of war make soldiers reassess what is important. “When I am walking in uniform and people stop me and shake my hand or thank me for my service, I sometimes don’t really know what to say,” she said. “I am just doing my duty. I don’t really see myself as being a hero. I am just doing my job.”
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Prepared foods often supply convenience but not enough nutrition By Kelsey DeClue
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With consumers — and thus retailers — becoming more health conscious, it seems that endless options for healthy and nutritional eating abound. Words such as “natural,” “whole grain” and “antioxidant rich” grace the labels and nutritional information boxes of foods all over supermarket shelves. But just how healthy are these items, and what are the right choices for our families? Thanks to the help of registered dietitian Julie Knight, She magazine has deciphered the fancy words and hidden meanings in many of the store-bought foods we eat daily to determine the best picks and worst culprits in the following categories:
Frozen Meals While not ideal, frozen meals are inevitable, especially in busy families with varying schedules. If dinner has to come from a frozen box, DON’T choose Hungry Man Classic Fried Chicken. “With a whopping 1,050 calories, 65 grams of fat and 1,610 milligrams of sodium, you could eat an entire KFC meal (fried chicken breast, mashed potatoes with gravy, green beans and a biscuit for 410 less calories and 38 less grams of fat,” Knight said. DO choose low calorie meals that come with a whole grain and nonstarchy vegetables. According to Knight, Lean Cuisine and Healthy Choice have good options within those guidelines. She also suggested Kashi Mayan Harvest Bake. At 340 calories and just 16 percent of the recommended daily sodium intake, this frozen meal makes a much better choice. Knight said those often left wanting more from their frozen dinners should consider adding a side of steamed vegetables. “The freezer section is full of individual servings of steam-in-bag vegetable mixes if you can’t find fresh,” she said.
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Frozen Pizzas DON’T choose 3-Minute Supreme Micro Pizza. At nearly 500 calories and 1,000 milligrams of sodium, this personal-size pizza won’t fill you up with anything more than excess calories and fat. “If you must keep frozen on hand, avoid pepperoni and sausage,” Knight said. “Small amounts of these ‘meats’ pack on the calories. Stick with vegetables and Canadian bacon.” DO choose: Kashi Margherita Pizza. One-third of the pie is only 260 calories. Want an even better option for pizza night? Make it a Boboli. “Boboli whole wheat pizza crusts usually hang near the frozen foods aisle and are a great kitchen staple,” Knight said. “Add some pasta sauce, leftover vegetables and some cheese. The result is a fresher, healthier pie in the same time as a frozen pizza.”
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Fast-food burgers Fast food is right up there with frozen meals on the should-be-avoided list; however there are ways to make decent choices in the drive-thru line. Hardee’s Western Bacon Six-dollar Burger is a big DON’T. Its 1,020 calories are more than half of the recommended daily allowance. It also packs 53 grams of fat and 2,520 milligrams of sodium.
“At fast food, the low-calorie bet is grilled chicken breast,” Knight said. “But you can get a burger and still keep the calories in check.” Even without mayo, Burger King’s Whopper gives you 520 calories and 880 milligrams of sodium. The McDonald’s Big ’n Tasty is a slightly better bet at 460 calories and 720 milligrams of sodium.
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Flavored drinks “Artificial colors are almost always found in foods that have little nutritional value,” Knight said. “Juice drinks and ‘ades’ are loaded with them. In fact, some studies suggest a link between hyperactivity in children and artificial colors.” The biggest DON’T in flavored drinks, Sunny Delight, is marketed as a healthy choice, however it is “little more than colored sugar water, aka liquid candy,” Knight said. Among its 18 ingredients an eight-ounce glass has 90 calories, 20 grams of sugar, two types of
artificial sugars, 170 milligrams of sodium and two artificial colors. “Compare that to the one ingredient in Tropicana orange juice, which has no sodium and 450 milligrams of healthy potassium,” Knight said. DO create a healthy refreshing drink by squeezing lemon or lime in water. However, for those wanting yet more flavor, Knight suggests brewing Celestial Seasonings Herbal Teas and pouring them over ice. “These teas come in many flavors and don’t use traditional black tea leaf so they aren’t caffeinated or bitter. No artificial colors needed,” she said.
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Breakfast cereals An easy healthy pick, right? Wrong. According to Knight, the quest to find a quality nutritional cereal can be a difficult one. “Many of us are looking to start the day with a high-fiber boost,” she said. “Unfortunately food companies have realized this and have begun adding cheap filler fibers to otherwise unhealthy cereals, bars and snacks.” DON’T fall for the deception of Kellogg’s Fiber Plus Antioxidants Berry Yogurt Crunch. The cereal contains 10 grams of fiber, however, according to Knight, a good portion of that comes from chicory root fiber and inulin. “Excesses of these fibers are known to cause stomach upset.” The cereal’s 41 ingredients include five types of sugar. DO look for cereals with less than 10 grams of sugar per serving and a small list of ingredients that starts with the word “whole.” Knight suggested Wheat Chex.
Cereals with an excess of fiber, like Kellogg's Fiber Plus Antioxidants Berry Yogurt Crunch
Cereals with less than 10 grams of sugar and lots of "whole" ingredients
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Lunch meats and breads Sodium sneaks its way into storebought sliced breads and deli meats as well. Those malicious fibers and fillers are also found in breads in both the grocery bakery and on the shelves. “Look for 100 percent whole wheat flour to be the first ingredient and avoid anything with enriched flour,” Knight suggested. DON’T pick labels that mislead you, such as golden wheat, multi-grain and honey wheat. DO pick Sara Lee Classic 100 percent Whole Wheat. It has only 100 milligrams of sodium per slice. Sara Lee doesn’t do quite as well with lunch meats. The company’s “no fillers” Oven Roasted Chicken Breast has four sodium-based preservatives, flavoring, sugar, dextrose and caramel coloring. If you can find it at the deli, DO choose Boars Head All Natural deli meats. “Each has 400 milligrams or less of sodium in a twoounce serving and no added nitrate or nitrites,” Knight said.
Sweet treats The kids are screaming for candy, and frankly you could use a little something sweet yourself. Throw them a bag of fruit snacks, right? At least those are somewhat nutritious. Wrong. “The first three ingredients are sugar: corn syrup, sugar and fruit juice concentrate, giving you 100 calories and 13 grams of sugar in one tiny pack,” Knight said. “Don’t be fooled by the (word) ‘fruit’ in the title.” Dark chocolate, paired with real fruit, is the better way to go. How about dark chocolate-covered strawberries? If you’re on the go, Knight suggests an eighth of a cup of Raisinets for something sweet and chewy. With all the choices, guidelines and august 2010 • she magazine
false claims floating around the food industry, it can be tough to ensure you and your family are getting good nutrition. Just remember to forgo fancy labels and look at the flip side. Read the nutritional information and look for items high in whole grains and low in sodium and saturated fat. When you can, choose fresh fruits and vegetables to keep everyone’s tummies, and bodies, healthy and happy.
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Stacy Stater extends herself in two new roles She’s a county leader in home economics, and she’s also a taxidermist. Think the two don’t go together? Stacy Stater begs to differ. Following in her great-grandmother’s footsteps, Stater accepted humbly the role as president of the Bartholomew County Extension Homemakers Council. Blazing an unconventional path, she also has started Stater’s Taxidermy Studio, which she operates from her home west of town off Road 200N. Both interests thrive on creativity and a love of, well, preservation.
“I love to work with my hands,” she said. “To create something, to look at it and say, ‘Wow, I made that.’” Although the jobs remain separate entities in her life, she brings joint skills and enthusiasm to each. After losing a 15-year career in the plastics industry, Stater examined closely what she wanted from life. She had loved her job; however the constant 60- to 70-hour work weeks wore her down. “I wanted something that allowed me to work from home, make my own hours and use my artsy skills,” she said. She had seen shows on taxidermy and always had an
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interest. After some research, she found the Dan Rinehart School of Taxidermy in Wisconsin. “It’s the oldest taxidermy school in the country,” she said. With the support of her husband, she took off for chilly Wisconsin in January. New skills Stater is state-certified in game heads, mammals and fish and birds. “It’s not as gory as people think,” she said. “It is about preserving wildlife. I am creating a permanent moment for the people that caught that game. “I can look at it and say, ‘I created that. It feels so good.’” In order to provide her customers with the best possible service, Stater obtained her hunting license, learned the sport, including how to field dress a deer, and is looking forward to “catching the big one,” she said. Observing the wildlife allows her to preserve her clients’ game in the most natural way possible, positioning the animals in the same way they would move in their habitats. Stater is also certified in tanning hides and provides that service on-site, something a lot of taxidermists have to outsource, thus raising their costs. “It is my goal for this to be a full-time career,” she said. “I would love to get my husband involved and share this with my nephew. It is so much fun, and I get so much joy from sharing my knowledge.” Stater’s Taxidermy Studio has already had clients in the short time since officially opening. She expects more as hunting seasons get into full swing. History in homemaking From cousins to aunts and even husbands and brothers, Stater’s family maintains a long history and involvement in home economics in Bartholomew County. Her grandmother, Dorothy Shireman, served as Extension Homemakers Council president for 60 years, and her mother served as president in the 1980s. “The whole family has been involved in home economics and 4-H and Rural Youth,” Stater said. “It’s how we stay connected.” As a child, she attended the homemakers council meetings with her mother and grandmother. She officially joined the group as soon as she could — right out of college in the 1980s. “When my mother passed away (in the late ’80s), my grandmother is who kept me in the council,” Stater said. The Extension Homemakers Council consists of 30 clubs and more than 300 members, a number Stater august 2010 • she magazine
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hopes to increase. “Stacy’s late mother, Terrilyn Shireman, was a wonderful woman and set a great example for her daughter, serving in the church and being involved in the community,” said Patsy Harris, who serves on the council and has known Stater since childhood. “(Shireman) was never afraid of a challenge, nor is Stacey. “How many women do we know who are taxidermists?” The council and its clubs provide continuing education and leadership opportunities to their members as well as encouraging community service. “We want to break the stereotype — it’s not just for women; it’s not just for farm families,” Stater said. “Anyone of any race, gender or background can be involved.” She also said the groups’ continued success will be a team effort and not the work of one woman. “We all take it on together,” she said. “The members are such wonderful people that are very passionate and excited. “I will be reaching out for help from those longtime members whose skills are unmatched.” Stater’s first major order of business, helping the council host the annual district meeting, will take place in Columbus this month. “It’s a big job, but very exciting for our area,” she said. “I’m a little nervous, but we’ll tackle it together, and it will be a success.”
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LOS ANGELES — There’s an adage that finding the perfect wedding dress is like finding a perfect partner: You want one that hugs your body, offers support, lifts you up and makes you feel beautiful. So wouldn’t it be great to get a dress from a brand that, like your future spouse, you trust to give you these things on an average Wednesday as well as on what’s supposed to be the most memorable day of your life? That seems to be the philosophy behind the slew of major mass-market retailers now offering bridal gowns. It was an idea popularized by J. Crew, which launched its Weddings and Parties collection in 2004 after noticing women were buying some dresses in multiples to use for bridesmaids or in white to use for themselves. The notion then grew to include Isaac Mizrahi’s Target dresses, Viktor & Rolf’s design for H&M and others. The trend seems to be exploding now, tapping today’s market of more budgetconscious brides with gowns from the Limited, Ann Taylor and White House/ Black Market. Next spring, bohemian brides-to-be will be able to sift through Anthropologie’s wedding gown selection, while discount divas with their eyes on luxury names can check out Vera Wang’s designs for David’s Bridal. And there are lines like BCBG Max Azria, which doesn’t have an official bridal august 2010 • she magazine
line but has figured out why its loyal customers are fighting over the last off-white column strapless dress in their stores. The company has added to its website a “wedding shop” dedicated to its more formal dresses, including white ones that can pass for bridal gowns. “These gowns are completely specific to their brands,” says Heather Levine, fashion editor at wedding website TheKnot. com. A wedding gown from J. Crew “has the same vibe as any piece in the store,” she says. “These companies are creating designs in their own brand. You’re getting the same product from (these stores) as you would from your local salon boutique, but what it really comes down to is your style. If you want something really over the top and ornate, you’re not going to be shopping at these online retailers.” J. Crew doesn’t break out wedding dress sales from its overall revenue, a spokeswoman said. But the company has seen enough business to add five or six new designs each season, and it opened a full-on bridal store in May in New York. It also has in-store salons with limited selections at outposts across the country.
Ann Taylor silk georgette Grecian gown The Limited “Elegant” wedding dress
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BCBG Max Azria usually has items in stores, but the White House/Black Market dress is for sale only by phone or via the store’s website. In fact, for the most part, the mass market gowns are available only to brides embracing the Web, but Levine says shopping for them online shouldn’t be a problem. “While we would never recommend buying a couture gown online, these gowns are more true to size, so that you can feel more comfortable about making that purchase online,” she says. Plus, she says, you’d probably have to make alterations — like sewn-in bras for added support — to boutique store gowns too. The mass-market phenomenon is more than just a case of brand loyalty. Brides spent an average of $1,134 on their gowns in 2009 (making this an estimated $1.7 billion annual industry), according to the more than 21,000 couples who answered TheKnot.com’s annual survey. Dresses from these mass-market retailers can go for less than half that. “We are back-peddling away from this wild fashion party that we’ve been enjoying until the recession hit,” says David Wolfe, creative director of New York trend forecasting firm Doneger Group. “Everyone recognizes that people are not willing to go into massive debt for a wedding dress. ... We have a lot of young women who don’t want to dress in a really establishment kind of label. It’s sort of modern, hip and cool to dress in your favorite everyday wardrobe.” He adds that in the giant retail landscape of bridal wear, these trusted brands offer a jumping-off point. “If you know you’re an Anthropologie sort of girl, then that’s where you’re going to gravitate,” says Wolfe. “Those brands have their own integrity.” But is a reasonably priced, easy-to-buy dress too good to be true? We asked some brides-to-be to give some samples a test walk down the aisle. Their opinions follow:
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We love that the retailer’s three soft, romantic, no-fuss gowns are available up to size 18 and are priced under $500. Much like J. Crew’s dresses, these gowns are lightweight, comfortable blank canvases that would work best for informal, casual weddings.
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"We have a lot of young women who don’t want to dress in a really establishment kind of label. It’s sort of modern, hip and cool to dress in your favorite everyday wardrobe.” —David wolfe, doneger group creative director
listed under its website’s wedding category simply because they’re white.
The brides loved the look and feel of the lightweight, casual J. Crew dresses — even if the prices can be a bit higher that the ones from other brands (this season’s dresses run from $225 to $3,500). Most of the dresses showed a lot of arm, but some of this brand’s full-length dresses also had a bit of sleeve for those who want something more conservative. J. Crew and the Limited were the only brands to take a stab at a full ball gown. J. Crew is a one-stop shop for everything else, including veils and the groom’s outfit, so you can create a cohesive look.
Though we appreciated the creative, romantic layers on the strapless dress skirt ($298, up to size 12) and how well the full skirt flared out on the ball gown (also $298 and up to size 12), the minimal bodice support made both dresses seem more like the department-store-quality gowns the brides expected from the low price. The ball gown’s pockets took it down a notch from formal.
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A modern choice for the retailer’s sole current entry in the bridal gown category, this number with a sexy raised hem was a hit with the brides with strong personalities and came as a surprise to those who’d written off the brand as a bit staid. For every reference to model/actress Stephanie Seymour’s frothy mini in Guns ‘n Roses’ “November Rain” video, there were exclamations of delight about the form-fitting bustier, seemingly quality material and sexy look that showed some leg and decolletage.
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Women’s annual exams are vital part of healthy lifestyle By Shannon Palmer
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Ah, the dreaded gynecological exam. It sneaks up on us, like the holidays, but without the gifts and treats. However uncomfortable, this yearly responsibility shouldn’t be avoided. Most women prefer not to discuss their annual visit when having drinks or hanging out with their girlfriends, but it should be on their calendars. Why is it so important to go to that yearly exam anyway? Of course, for some women the main reason is to keep their birth control method up-to-date and to prevent pregnancy. For other women it is to discuss menopause and a mammogram. Regardless of the stage of life you are in, the annual exam with your physician is one of the most important steps a woman can take to stay healthy. “The woman in the family is the keeper of the health care. If the woman is healthy, then the whole family, children, husband, sisters and brothers, are more likely to stay healthy,” advises Dona Thomas, nurse practitioner at St. Vincent Physician Network in North Vernon. “Annual exams screen for cervical cancer, but also this type of preventative visit gives the patient the opportunity to be an informed health care consumer. “Just asking why a Pap is being done and how often is a good start. Also, be sure to ask if the Pap checks for sexually transmitted diseases and remember that no question is too trivial to ask,” Thomas said.
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the screening/preventive health plan the annual exam is intended to address. It can be uncomfortable to address issues such as sexual activity or breast health, especially when sitting in a gown in a rather sterile environment; however, being an advocate for your own health care puts you in control of your body and will enable your physician to understand your needs in an efficient manner. Rachel Reed, a physician at OB/GYN Associates in Columbus, suggests being mindful of the type of preventive health maintenance one should be having. “This can include Pap smears, checking for sexually transmitted infections, vaccinations, mammograms, colonoscopies, bone density studies and laboratory studies,” Reed said. “Asking about the birth control options, the vaccine to prevent cervical cancer and options regarding perimenopausal changes and hormone replacement therapy are all topics that can be discussed.” Some of the most common complaints Reed says she hears from female patients is heavy, irregular or painful periods, urinary incontinence and depression symptoms. Reed and Thomas agree that knowing your body is essential to being healthy. Stay informed of health care changes and know what you need to do to get healthy, even if that includes making lifestyle changes. “I wish every patient would be more mindful of their basic health habits — no smoking or drug use, drinking alcohol in moderation, enjoying at least 30 minutes of exercise daily, and maintaining an average, reasonable body weight,” Reed said. “Your overall health has more impact on your gynecological health than anything else.”
Sexual health is important, too.
“Choosing sexual partners wisely is also a way to ensure smart gynecological care and to use condoms. Sexually transmitted diseases are increasing in the under 25 and over 55 age groups,” Thomas said. “Cervical cancer increases in the proportion to the number of sexual partners a woman has in her lifetime.”
Don’t forget the ta-tas
Whereas the Pap is usually only once a year, self breast exams should be done once a month, ideally the week after your monthly period. Thomas suggests doing the exam in the shower and starting in the same place on the breast every month. “Make sure to use the flat part of your fingers, moving your fingers in a circular motion so not to miss any breast tissue. Don’t be afraid. The idea is to get to know your breasts so that if something changes you will recognize the change,” Thomas said. “Self breast examination saved my life; it could save yours, too.” © Thinkstock
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WASHINGTON — Most women who’ve had a C-section, and many who’ve had two, should be allowed to try labor with their next baby, say new guidelines — a step toward reversing the “once a cesarean, always a cesarean” policies taking root in many hospitals. The announcement by the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists eases restrictions on who might avoid a repeat Csection, rewriting an old policy that critics have said is partly to blame for many pregnant women being denied the chance. Fifteen years ago, nearly three in 10 women who’d had a prior C-section gave birth vaginally the next time. Today, fewer than one in 10 do. Last spring, a National Institutes of Health panel strongly urged steps to reverse that trend, saying a third of hospitals and half of doctors ban women from attempting what’s called VBAC, for “vaginal birth after cesarean.” The new guidelines declare VBAC a safe and august 2010 • she magazine
appropriate option for most women — now including those carrying twins or who’ve had two C-sections — and urge that they be given an unbiased look at the pros and cons so they can decide whether to try.
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Women’s choice is “what we want to come through loud and clear,” said Dr. William Grobman of Northwestern University, coauthor of the guidelines. “There are few times where there is an absolute wrong or an absolute right, but there is the importance of shared decision-making.” Overall, nearly a third of U.S. births are by cesarean, an all-time high. Cesareans can be lifesaving, but they come with certain risks — and the more C-sections a woman has, the greater the risk in a next pregnancy of problems, some of them life-threatening, like placenta abnormalities or hemorrhage. page 37
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Of the women who attempt a VBAC, between 60 percent and 80 percent will be successful. The main debate with VBAC: That the rigors of labor could cause the scar from the earlier surgery to rupture. There’s less than a 1 percent chance of that happening, the ACOG guidelines say. Also, with most recently performed C-sections, that scar is located on a lower part of the uterus that’s less stressed by contractions. Of those who attempt VBAC, between 60 percent and 80 percent will deliver vaginally, the guidelines note. The rest will need a C-section after all, because of stalled labor or other factors. Success is more likely in women who go into labor naturally — although induction doesn’t rule out an attempt — and less likely in women who are obese or are carrying large babies, they say.
Thus the balancing act that women and their doctors weigh: A successful VBAC is safer than a planned repeat C-section, especially for women who want additional children — but an emergency C-section
can be riskier than a planned one. Because of those rare uterine ruptures, the obstetricians’ group has long recommended that only hospitals equipped for immediate emergency C-sections attempt VBACs. Many smaller or rural hospitals can’t do that, and that recommendation plus high-dollar lawsuits have been blamed for some hospital VBAC bans. “Restricting access was not the intention,” the new guidelines say. They say hospitals ill-equipped for immediate surgery should help women find care elsewhere, have a plan to manage uterine ruptures anyway, and not coerce a woman into a repeat C-section. Educating women about their options early enough in pregnancy for them to make an informed choice is key, said Dr. F. Gary Cunningham of the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center, who chaired the NIH panel on repeat C-sections. It requires a fair portrayal of risks and benefits that can differ by patient, added
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Dr. Howard Minkoff of Maimonides Medical Center in Brooklyn, N.Y., which has women sign a special VBAC consent after counseling yet has a higher-than-average VBAC rate of 30 percent. “There’s no doubt that how things get framed influences how people act,” he said. While the guidelines cannot force hospital policy changes, some women’s groups welcomed them. “I feel like ACOG has really listened to how their previous policies have impacted women,” said Barbara Stratton of the International Cesarean Awareness Network’s Baltimore chapter, adding that she’ll advise women seeking a VBAC to hand a copy of the guidelines to caregivers who balk. But she called for reducing overuse of first-time C-sections, too, so that repeats become less of an issue.
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TOFFEE COOKIE ICE CREAM SANDWICHES The classic combination of oatmeal cookies and milk. Together at last in a cool summer treat. These ice cream sandwiches start with oatmeal cookies speckled with flecks of chocolate. Nestled between them is vanilla ice cream that gets dressed up with bits of toffee. Of course, these ice cream sandwiches also are easily adapted to whatever flavors you’re hankering for. Finely chopped dried fruit, dark or white chocolate chips, or other small candies could be substituted for the chocolate in the cookies or for the toffee bits in the ice cream. And just about any flavor ice cream can be used.
Start to finish: 2 hours (15 minutes active) Makes 12 sandwiches For the cookies: 2/3 cup all-purpose flour ½ teaspoon baking soda ¼ teaspoon cinnamon ¼ teaspoon salt ½ cup (1 stick) unsalted butter, softened 1/3 cup packed dark brown sugar 1/3 cup granulated sugar 1 egg 2 teaspoons vanilla extract 1½ cups rolled oats ½ cup finely chopped chocolate, bitter or semi-sweet For the ice cream: 1 pint vanilla ice cream 1 cup crushed toffee bits (found in the baking aisle)
To make the cookies, heat the oven to 350 F. In a small bowl, whisk together the flour, baking soda, cinnamon and salt. In a large bowl, use an electric mixer to beat the butter and both sugars until light and fluffy. Add the egg and vanilla and beat well. Stir in the flour mixture and beat until just combined. Stir in the oats and chocolate. Divide the dough into 24 tablespoon-size balls and arrange on 2 ungreased baking sheets, leaving about 3 inches of space between them. Bake for
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10 to 12 minutes, or until golden brown around the edges. Transfer the cookies to a rack and cool completely. Soften the ice cream until it can be stirred but is not melted. The easiest way to do this is to transfer the ice cream to a microwavesafe bowl and heat in 10-second intervals until it reaches the desired consistency. Add the toffee bits and mix well. While the ice cream is soft, scoop a bit onto the bottom of a cooled cookie, then top with another cookie. Freeze until the ice cream is solid. Store in an airtight container in the freezer.
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BLUEBERRY-PEACH CUSTARD PIE Here’s a real reason to celebrate — pies don’t have to be banned from a healthy diet. The problem with many pies is that they are loaded with excess fat and sugar. The crust usually is the biggest culprit, with up to 220 calories and 15 grams of fat per serving. But the fillings can be trouble as well. Even fruit fillings, which seem healthy enough on the surface, can be hiding more sugar than you think, and sometimes are laced with butter. Rather than give up your favorite pie, you could take the road of moderation and just enjoy a tiny slice.The other strategy for keeping pie in your diet is to make one you can feel good about indulging in.A good place to start is getting rid of the top crust, which immediately lops off a good chunk of fat and calories. As for the filling, fruit is the right idea, just try to limit the sugar. Consider sweetening fillings with fruit juice concentrates or even purees, such as applesauce or apple butter. Cream and custard pies, which often are made with full-fat dairy thickened with egg yolks, usually can be made lighter with low-fat milk using cornstarch or tapioca as a thickener. This single crust blueberry-peach custard pie uses several of these techniques to produce a more virtuous slice. Several cups of fresh fruit are baked into a light custard made with only two whole eggs, skim milk and nonfat Greekstyle yogurt, which adds body and a hint of tanginess that balances the natural sweetness of the peaches and blueberries. Start to finish: 3 hours (15 minutes active) Servings: 10 1 cup sugar ¾ cup skim milk ¾ cup (6 ounces) nonfat plain Greek-style yogurt 2 large eggs 2 tablespoons all-purpose flour 2 teaspoons cornstarch ¼ teaspoon almond extract Pinch of salt 1 store-bought, refrigerated pie crust 1 cup blueberries 1 cup peeled, sliced peaches Position a rack in lower third of the oven. Heat the oven to 400 F. Coat a 9-inch pie pan with cooking spray. To make the filling, in a medium bowl, combine the sugar, milk, yogurt, eggs, flour, cornstarch, almond extract and salt. Whisk until smooth. Set aside. On a lightly floured surface, roll a sheet of pie crust into a 12-inch circle. Place the crust in the pie pan and trim so it overhangs evenly by about 1-inch. Fold the edges under and crimp or flute the edge with your fingers or a fork. Place the pie pan on a baking sheet. Arrange peaches in the bottom of the crust and top with the blueberries in an even layer. Pour the filling on top (the fruit will float but this won’t affect the final reaugust 2010 • she magazine
sults). Bake for 25 minutes. After the pie has baked for 25 minutes and the filling is beginning to set, remove from oven and cover the edges of the crust with foil to help prevent over-browning. Reduce heat to 350 F and return the pie to oven. Bake until a knife inserted at the center of the pie comes out clean, another 20 to 25 minutes (the pie may puff up quite a bit but will settle during cooling). Let cool for 1½ hours. Serve warm or refrigerate until cold and serve chilled. Nutrition information per serving (values are rounded to the nearest whole number): 200 calories; 58 calories from fat; 6 g fat (3 g saturated; 0 g trans fats); 41 mg cholesterol; 34 g carbohydrate; 4 g protein; 1 g fiber; 163 mg sodium. page 43
common-sense investment strategies to keep your portfolio on track By Sarah Cannon
As we look back, 2008 and 2009 certainly gave us quite a ride. Investor fear escalated in October 2008 when the S&P 500* Index closed below 1000. Feeding the fear were headlines like: “Worst Stock Market Crash Since 1937.” From there, things took a turn for the worse, eventually leading us to a market close of 676 on March 9, 2009. We were reading headlines like this one: “Stock Market Rally: First Stage of A Primary Bull Trend?” At that time, no one knew for sure when we would start to see a recovery. However, by
the end of 2009, investors were feeling much better. Many had recovered their losses or had at least seen great progress in their portfolios. As we move through 2010, there hasn’t been too much in the way of celebration, but the outlook among investors and most analysts is drastically different from the gloom that was present when the markets closed on March 9, 2009. The market is still very volatile. One day the news is good; the next day the news is worrisome. It’s important to keep in mind
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that this is a normal stage in the process of market recovery, and all of this is the market behaving like “the market.” So, as an investor, what should you do? Unfortunately, we don’t have a “get rich quick” investment idea to share. However, there are some common-sense strategies that we should all keep in mind as the market fluctuates from day to day. • Secure a financial cushion. It is much easier to live with market swings if you have a safety net. Some experts recommend having a financial cushion of at least three to six months of income. However, the amount of cash you need will vary depending on your financial situation. A wealth adviser can recommend a savings goal and plan based on your individual needs. It’s important to make sure you have enough reserve funds to feel secure the next time the market slides. • Seek assistance. Many investors believe they are better off on their own. While that may be true for some, most investors need guidance from a professional. So, never be afraid to ask for help. Why would you want to work with a financial adviser? No one knows where the market will go, but working with a professional provides you information and insight that you may not otherwise have access to. Financial advisers will not offer bullet-proof investment ideas or market-timing strategies that will make you wealthy overnight. Instead, a good adviser will help take the emotion out of investing. Fear and greed are an investor’s worst enemies. Your adviser can assist in keeping these emotions at bay while helping you determine when enough is enough.
• Steer clear of some sources of advice. Be wary of your uncle, your next-door neighbor or your co-worker who tells you how successful she has been with investing. What is working for your friends and family might not be the right strategy for you. Don’t look for great advice from TV gurus either. Think about it. If you had a great system for beating the market or picking the next Google, would you jump at the chance to share that with millions of TV viewers? The nightly market recap broadcasts do a great job of stimulating emotions like fear and greed. Remember, the experts on these programs are in show business. Evoking your emotions is really good for their ratings.
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• Know your goals and invest accordingly. An adviser or financial planner will help you define your goals and help you track your progress. When you have identified your most important investment goals, you can develop appropriate strategies to achieve them. For example: Let’s say you are 30 years old. You are currently investing to retire in 25 to 30 years. You are also planning to invest in a new home in five years. In this situation, you could use different investment strategies to achieve each goal. Based on the length of time you have until you reach your goal, you may also be able to take bigger risks (maybe not big but bigger). For investment goals that are 30 years away, you have time to weather the ups and downs of the market. On the other hand, if your time horizon is five years, you will want to remain more conservative. • Assess your risk tolerance. This will help keep the volatility of your investment portfolio within your ideal range. Regardless of your time horizon, it is important that you understand your own tolerance for risk. When the market is doing well, investors have a high tolerance for risk (translation: an increased willingness to assume more risk in order to make lots of money). When the market is not doing well, risk tolerance diminishes significantly. We all need to be honest with ourselves about how much risk we are willing to take. Our risk tolerance is generally closer to what we feel in a “down” market than what we feel in an “up” market. • Be engaged. After all, it’s your financial future. Be involved, let your adviser help you learn about investment strategies, ask questions and know that ultimately you are responsible for your future well-being. — Sarah Cannon is a certified financial planner practitioner and LPL financial adviser with First Financial Investment Services. *Standard and Poor’s 500 (S&P 500) is an index made up of 500 stocks. Each is selected for liquidity, size and industry. The index is weighted for market capitalization. The S&P 500 is the benchmark of the overall market and is frequently used as the standard of comparison in terms of investment performance.
and I’m still a believer By Andrew Larson Recently, Megan and I celebrated our 10-year anniversary. For 10 years, we’ve shared the births of three children and the deaths of five family members. Together, we purchased our home, a few bikes and a lot of diapers. We started out young, optimistic and a little naïve and find ourselves today still feeling quite young and optimistic, but with that veteran glint that says, “We know what we’re doing.” And when we say that we know what we’re doing, it’s because we’ve taken the cues that have shaped our lives for the past decade: serendipity brought us to-
gether, fate made us parents, and interdependence has made our marriage a rock solid establishment.
We were married two years later, almost to the day, and that chance encounter is the reason why my family exists today.
Serendipity is how it started. Like so many before us, we met at summer camp (talk about an incubator for romance). After I went back to college and she didn’t return to camp the next summer, we drifted apart. One summer evening five years later she came out for a visit, not knowing that I was even there.
Fate is why our dog, Elly, who once was the recipient of all of our combined attention, now has three little brothers. I have always felt that Megan was a born mother (among many other things); our sons are the manifestation of her destiny. And though we don’t yet know why all of that fate came in the male variety, we are both certain that there’s a reason for that, too.
When I saw her (as we refer to it, “the first time for the second time”), it was a Davy Jones moment: My eyes got all starry, and suddenly I wasn’t too worried about much else other than making up for lost time. There was no turning back.
Furthermore, the fact that we have three children instead of two was a purposeful decision to let fate rule our future, and it is absolutely impossible to imagine our
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two “big guys” without a little guy watching their every move. Fate has served us well so far. Interdependent is what we are today. The act of parenting is way too much for just one, but it’s too narrow of a view to say that we need one another simply to earn enough money, negotiate child care logistics or change diapers. We are each one another’s wing man, reality break, accountability checker, confidant and teammate. They say that the way one knows if a teammate is truly crucial is whether or not things start to fall apart when he’s gone.
Serendipity brought us together, fate made us parents, and interdependence has made our marriage a rock solid establishment. Well, if I were gone, the furnace filter would never get changed, and if she were gone, the shelves would never get dusted. Either way, sneezing fits for all. No, seriously, though. Don’t lose sight of the most important message of all from this, my musings on our 10-year anniversary: Even now, it’s still about Megan and me. As much as our kids dominate our lives in all of the best ways imaginable, we need each other more than ever. The “magic” is still there, the “leaps of faith” will still keep happening, and we will continue to make completing one another a top priority.
Andrew Larson is a teacher at Columbus Signature Academy New Tech High School. He lives in Columbus with his wife and three boys. august 2010 • she magazine
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