unfollow or mute them. There doesn’t have to be any deep thinking into this. It’s okay if following someone who posts beautiful images is aspirational for you. It is also okay if it is not. Social media should be fun, not make you feel less than, especially as a mother. Set Boundaries in Your Life Saying no or simply shutting down negative situations is a personal challenge. In the last year, I have become much better at choosing things and situations that work for me and my family unit. I only have myself to blame when I allow in a person or situation that is negative. Boundaries. It is essential to know what is going to tip you over. And it’s fine. Whatever your threshold is, is good, as you do not have to measure up to anyone else. You are magnificent, and doing a great job. Say this to yourself every day. Believe it. The Kids Will Be Alright My closest mom friends and I frequently share how we feel that the more we work, the more intense the kids seem to get. The
Believing you are doing your best will help when the mom guilt sets in. emotions are a rollercoaster, and there have been sleepless nights, on both sides, especially when the day has not always gone as planned. Something I have started to do is step back or walk away to another room to not be reactionary. I have found that four out of five times I get an apology or a snuggle. Sometimes it’s my turn to apologize. And within minutes, we are all good. Depending on the disagreement or moment, it may be best to let it slide. Other times, talk it out, especially if your child is old enough and open to working through tough conversations. Accept or Ask for Help This is something of a work in progress for
me. I have a hard time reaching out and asking for help. Lately, I have been so busy that the offers to pick up one child or stop by early to take another to school have been a tremendous support in my day to day. Time to not carry every burden. If you have the means to hire more help, hire away. If your mother in law would like to visit and the worst thing she does is fill your dishwasher wrong, who cares — she provides love and hugs, so a win-win for all. Ask away. Reach Out to Friends. Know You’re Not Alone When it comes to mom guilt, it is essential to remember that most of us experience this at some point in our lives. Many seasoned parents have told me that especially when kids are young, we experience it more. Go out and get your nails done. Sit and have a warm latte, even if it is only for five minutes. Reach out to friends, whether in person or through a mom group. Supporting each other and sharing our stories is how we all get through these rough moments and most importantly, we’re all in this together.
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