or extracurricular activity helps our kids to learn to communicate better, to practice social skills and to come together with a group of kids in the same age group (some from different schools!) who learn to be part of a team. I am excited and nervous about going back to the running around and the evening practices. But I’m ready, and I have begun to mentally prepare myself to go with the flow and enjoy the ride. A few tips I learned during my hiatus: When it comes to after-school or weekend classes — what does your child want? I never asked my son what he wanted to do. When one activity wasn’t his thing, we just moved onto the next. I never considered that maybe he didn’t like sports. He was excelling in after-school classes like theater and dance and yet I continued to put him in sports classes. I felt if his friends are in these classes, shouldn’t he be as well? During our year break, I stopped pushing, and I was surprised when he asked to play baseball this year. He has had a hand in the league we chose,
committed to the time and days he will be practicing and agreed to the time we will be getting up for games. He is genuinely excited, which helps us feel united in having this be a great experience for us as a family. Step back if you have overscheduled your kids If the classes, activities or weekend sports leave you or your family feeling like you’re losing it, step back. This doesn’t mean quit. Skip a game or two. Talk to the coach and let him or her know you’ll be missing a few classes. Take some time to ask why is this not enjoyable. It may be the wrong fit for your child? Perhaps they are in too many activities? Finish the class if you can, set new limits and work within the limitations you set up for your family when choosing the next set of classes and activities. Ease up during the classes and games My husband was the assistant coach for my son’s soccer team, which put added pressure on my son. The games, especially if the
team lost, could be intense. He was four. We need to lighten up as parents, and I am as guilty as the next. I found myself being quite competitive, but it’s not worth it unless you have a future NCAA player on your hands. Work on having a healthy sense of competitive balance, especially when it comes to sports, so your child sees you are happy, win or lose. Know your bandwidth Learning from past mistakes — I am scheduling classes and activities that are close to home. This is what works for us, as we are always crunched for time even on a Saturday. The baseball league my son will be joining is 10 minutes from our apartment. This will help when we have to run to practice and on those frigid mornings when we need to hurry to a weekend game. I also know parents in this league, which will help if I need someone to tag team when it comes to dropping off and picking up during practice. All the classes, sports and dances are part of our kids growing up. Enjoy, breathe it all in. These are what memories are made of!
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