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FIRST LOOK

LETTER FROM THE FOUNDER

The paddle out for my close friend Benny Millburn brought friends and family together to celebrate someone who truly lived in the moment and whose generosity and contagious grin will live on for years to come. PHOTO: AARON HERSHEY

THE FRAGILITY OF LIFE By TYLER FOX

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hen the Dalai Lama was asked what surprised him most about humanity, he answered, “Man, because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present—the result being that he does not live in the present or the future. He lives as if he’s never going to die, and then he dies never having really lived.” That Dalai Lama is one wise dude. I’ll sometimes read this quote to recalibrate my overly anxious self. The pressure of achieving success

(whatever that really means) can weigh heavily on our psyche. Millions of people deal with the dilemma of self-worth in a society enamored with image, wealth and celebrity.    In our ongoing race to riches, sometimes the jarring reality of a death is what it takes to break through the fog of fantasy and bring us back to the present. I’m not going to lie, 2017 has been a rough one for me. I’ve had multiple friends deal with the death of someone close and I, too, recently lost one of my best friends. It’s an awful experience that often leaves you with the feeling that you could’ve done

more—been there more and spent more time with that person.      However, deaths can also offer opportunities to grow or to learn from a loved one, whether it’s as simple as honoring the way a person smiled or their generosity to those in need. I think one of the best ways to celebrate a life is to emulate the person’s golden qualities and take those onward with us. Spread that contagious smile and stop and reach out to someone less fortunate. By doing this, that person's light will continue to shine and his or her spirit will live on and thrive for years to come.  

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Santa Cruz Waves Oct/Nov 2017 Issue 4.3  
Santa Cruz Waves Oct/Nov 2017 Issue 4.3  
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