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Overcoming obstacles NEWS
Local brothersâ€™ â€˜free runningâ€™ film debuts Saturday at the Santa Barbara International Film Festival BY STEVEN LIBOWITZ
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When most people encounter a picnic table, tree branch, barricade or other obstacle in their path, they naturally step around, duck under or otherwise avoid whatever stands in their way. But parkour athletes see the objects as a challenge -- something to leap, bounce off of, roll over or swing around â€“ all in the name of sport. Now, two local filmmakers are taking viewers behind the scene to see how the parkour athletes â€“ as well as practitioners of two other peripheral extreme sports called â€œbreakingâ€? (which involves head spinning and other dance-like moves) and â€œtrickingâ€? (a cross between martial arts and flips) â€“ train, practice and perform the feats. â€œStunt Sports,â€? which premieres 2 p.m. Saturday at the Metro 4 as part of the 2012 Santa Barbara International Film Festival, represents the feature documentary debut of Samuel and Ian McKaig, brothers in their mid-20s who are fifth generation Santa Barbara natives. The two produced, wrote, edited, shot and did all the special effects for the film together, with Ian mostly handling the camera and computer work and Samuel writing and co-directing.
â€œItâ€™s all about getting from point A to point B as fast as possible, overcoming as many obstacles as you can with just your body.â€? â€“ Samuel McKaig, filmmaker
Samuel, who under the stage name Sammy Styles is a member of the LA Breakers, is also one of the subjects. The film follows him rehabbing from a fractured vertebrae so he can train to represent the US overseas as judge and competitor, plus focuses in on two other athletes, one each from tricking and parkour. â€œI train with all these guys from the other sports on regular basis,â€? he explained in an interview outside the film festival headquarters earlier this week. â€œTheyâ€™re all my friends. I just sort of said, â€˜Letâ€™s pull all our stuff together and show the world what weâ€™re doing.â€™â€? Film seemed an appropriate medium since so many of their athletes appear in the movies anway, performing dangerous and astonishing stunts for such movies as â€œTron,â€? â€œGreen Hornetâ€?
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Photo courtesy of www.hollywoodfilmandmedia.com Ian McKaig points to brother Samuel as the latter performs an aerial stunt. The McKaig's feature film debut "Stunt Sports" plays Saturday at the Metro 4.
and â€œTwilightâ€? â€“ the so-called â€œfaceless acrobats of show biz.â€? â€œSkating, BMX and roller blading have the X Games,â€? Samuel said. â€œBut this is the first thing â€“ movie or otherwise â€“
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Panel OKs bridge changes
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After several rounds of grousing, the Santa Barbara City Planning Commission approved a Coastal Development Permit for a new Chapala Street bridge. The bridge runs over Mission Creek near the corner of Chapala and Yanonali Streets and has been deemed structural-
“The unsafe bridge and the protection of pedestrians and bicyclists are most important in my mind,” – Commissioner John Campanella
ly unsound. After getting a grant from CalTrans, city staff undertook plans to upgrade the structure. The new bridge would sport a narrower design, running from 50 feet and widening to 87 at one end to accommodate turns, down from a width of 148 feet. Despite being smaller, the new design is more sound which removes a 15 ton weight limit placed on the bridge. That would allow larger vehicles, such as buses to the planned Children’s Museum on lower State Street, to run on the road. But the five-year plan came close to stalling at yesterday’s meeting after some commissioners felt the design had been flawed. Commissioner Mike Jordan felt the bridge could still be
smaller and questioned necessity of keeping the bridge twoway or even having the bridge at all. “I think this is what cities do,” Jordan said. “They get money and they build bridges.” Commissioner Bruce Bartlett also questioned the need for another bridge in an area with such a low traffic count. He said he’d rather see the money spent on habitat preservation in the creek or on structures that see more travelers. “Why are we throwing so much money at a bridge that hardly anyone drives over when there’s other bridges that are completely washed out and have a lot more traffic,” Bartlett said. Though not as ardent as her colleagues, commissioner Deborah Schwartz also had reservations. While she said she understood there might be some justification for a new bridge, she called the current proposal “unenlightened” and felt there should be something more in line with some of the neighborhood’s future developments. “I don’t see that vision and that enlightenment expressed in this project plan,” Schwartz said. Planner Jessica Grant pointed out that many options had been considered over the years. Eliminating the bridge would require building a cul de sac and buying property the city didn’t have. Making the street one-way would not have reduced the bridge size and required an ordinance from the city council. Project planner Michael Berman added that the city didn’t have the money to move on a project itself and the state requirements were final. See BRIDGE, page 8
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‘Civic Center Slapper’ strikes again NEWS IN BRIEF
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An elusive assailant known as the "Civic Center Slapper" -- or possibly a copycat -- has struck again in Los Angeles, punching a federal prosecutor in the jaw, police said on Thursday. The bold attacker struck his latest victim as he walked near a federal courthouse in downtown Los Angeles on Friday evening, knocking his head into the side of the building, a police spokesman said. The 51-year-old assistant U.S. attorney was not identified by authorities and it was unclear if he was injured. Police believe the suspect is responsible for two other such attacks in downtown Los Angeles over the past few weeks attributed to the so-called "Civic Center Slapper." One of those incidents came after police arrested another man, identified as Jermaine Moran, on January 20 on suspicion of carrying out a string of four similar assaults.
Oakland hires female fire chief
In a career spent climbing ladders, Teresa Deloach-Reed of Oakland has grasped a landmark rung by being named to become the first black woman chief of a major metropolitan U.S. fire department. Deloach-Reed, 53, is slated to take the helm of the 580-person Oakland Fire Department in March, following her appointment to the position earlier this week. She already was part of a select group. As of 2010, fewer than 4 percent of the nation's firefighters were women, and just over 6 percent were African Americans, according to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics. "It's exciting," Deloach-Reed told Reuters earlier this week in a telephone interview. "There are still a lot of (fire) departments that don't have any women," said Deloach-Reed, whose last post was as assistant fire chief of San Jose, California. "We still have a long way to
Hacked companies remain silent
At least a half-dozen major U.S. companies whose computers have been infiltrated by cyber criminals or international spies have not admitted to the incidents despite new guidance from securities regulators urging such disclosures. Top U.S. cybersecurity officials believe corporate hacking is widespread, and the Securities and Exchange Commission issued a lengthy "guidance" document on October 13 outlining how and when publicly traded companies should report hacking incidents and cybersecurity risk. But with one full quarter having elapsed since the SEC request, some major companies that are known to have had significant digital security breaches have said nothing about the incidents in their regulatory filings.
Concentrated acetaminophen drops for infants is coming off the shelf
New dosing Your baby wakes up screaming in the middle of Fearing possible overdose and liver toxicity, the the night with teething pain or a high fever. You look PEDIATRICS in the medicine cabinet for your acetaminophen IN PARADISE makers of acetaminophen are in the process of phasing out the concentrated (80mg/0.8mL) infant drops. (generic for Tylenol) and you find two different botThe 160mg/5mL concentration will still be available tles. One says concentrated infant drops and the other for infants and older kids. This will hopefully allevisays child suspension. Which one are you supposed ate some confusion, not to mention a few emergency to give and how much? room visits and some late night calls to on-call docs. Many families have struggled with the dosing of Parents previously using the concentrated infant kids medications and there is nothing worse than drops should check in with their doctors to clarify corfinding out after the fact that you gave too much. rect dosing based on their child’s current weight. After years of confusing labeling, manufacturers Read the labels carefully of acetaminophen are attempting to simplify parents’ It may take some time before drug stores run lives by selling only one concentration of the popular through their supply of the concentrated infant drops, pain and fever reducer. Dosing kids medications DR. DAN so please be aware of what you are buying the next time you are shopping in the fever reducer aisle. The amount of medication prescribed for a child is generally based on his or her body weight. My BRENNAN Similarly, parents with acetaminophen in their medipatients are used to seeing me whip out my handy-dandy calcu- cine cabinet may still have stockpiles of the concentrated drops. They are fine to use as long as you check with your doctor and lator while I am writing out a script. know how much is safe to give. Old acetaminophen dosing When in doubt, it is always best to check with your friendly Acetaminophen has traditionally been available in a very concentrated form for infants (80 milligrams per 0.8 milliliters) pediatrician, advice nurse or pharmacist. and also a less concentrated (160 milligrams per 5 milliliters) Dr. Dan Brennan is a board certified pediatrician and proud suspension for older children. If a parent calls their on-call doctor in the middle of the night father of three. Dr. Dan’s columns can be found on the first and Please visit and he says to give “one teaspoon (5mL) of children’s Tylenol” third Fridays in the Daily Sound. a parent could be giving 160 mg or up to 500 mg if they acci- www.SBPediatrics.com or 805-563-6211. dentally give the more concentrated infant version.
NEWS Police give 60 citations in pedestrian crackdown The Santa Barbara Police Department issued 60 citations on Thursday in a pedestrian crosswalk sting. The enforcement took place at the intersections of De La Vina and Los Olivos street, Milpas and Ortega streets, and Coast Village Road and Butterfly Lane. The tickets were given for failure to yield the right-of-way to a pedestrian in a crosswalk. The number of citations issued at each location was as follows: De La Vina Street – 18, Milpas Street – 28, Coast
Village Road – 14. Twi of the motorists on Milpas Street were cited for being unlicensed drivers and had their vehicles impounded. The police set up the enforcements in response to complaints of vehicles speeding and not yielding to pedestrians while in a crosswalk. Since July 2007, twelve traffic fatalities have occurred in Santa Barbara, nine of which involved pedestrians.
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Santa Maria police grieve over shooting death DAILY SOUND STAFF REPORT
The Santa Maria Police Department issued a statement on Friday urging the community to support the police department after the recent shooting death of a police officer. Officer Albert Covarrubias Jr., had been under investigation for sexual misconduct with a minor. A week ago Covarrubias became aware of the investigation while on duty, according to a statement by the SMPD. That necessitated arresting Covarrubias immediately. When officers came to take him into custody at the corner of McElhaney Avenue and Broadway Street, he allegedly resisted officers taking him into custody, drawing his gun and firing.
Another officer on the scene shot Covarrubias once. He died later at Marian Medical Center. “The past few days have been among the most difficult in the history of our police department,” said Chief Danny R. Macagni, in a news release. “Regrettably, one of our own was implicated in a serious crime. We had credible information that he likely was about to harm himself and also a member of the public “In an effort to protect the officer and the public, we felt we had to move as quickly as possible to detain somebody who we believed posed a dangerous threat to himself and others. Our goal, as it is in every situation, was to secure the accused officer with minimal risk to everyone involved. Nobody anticipat-
Vandals hit Mesa banks, ATMs The Santa Barbara Police Department is investigating a spree of vandalism on Santa Barbara’s Mesa. The acts have taken place at ATMs and banks. The most recent act of vandalism took place on Wednesday about 2:30 a.m. Vandals smashed a Wells Fargo ATM screen and spray painted “class war” across the front. Police also said the marks somehow referenced the Occupy Oakland movement. That same day, about 1:50 a.m., police officers said that someone shattered the glass doors of Santa Barbara Bank and Trust, 1960 Cliff Drive. The ATM screens were also damaged. Then, about 4:10 a.m., police officers responded to Starbucks, 1990 Cliff Drive, after a food delivery employee arrived and
saw that the front glass doors were smashed and cracked. The Police Department is investigating the acts and is attempting access video surveillance from the surrounding businesses and ATM machines. This week’s acts of vandalism followed similar incidents between Jan. 10 and Jan. 24, when Wells Fargo Bank ATMs were vandalized. The ATM screens were shattered and messages were sprayed on the exterior wall of the next-door CVS Pharmacy at 1835 Cliff Driv). The reporting party stated that these incidents occurred on January 10, 12 & 24, 2012. Residents with any information are encouraged to contact SBPD Detective Mike Brown at (805) 897-2340 or to call anonymously at (805) 897-2386.
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ed that events would unfold so tragically. “ The statement also said that the department will continue the process of reviewing our policies and procedures to ensure they meet the highest possible standards. The Santa Barbara Sheriff’s Department is currently handling the investigation. The findings will be reviewed by the District Attorney. An expert on internal affairs, from outside the department is also looking into the matter “I encourage the public to continue to support our police officers,” Macagni said in a statement. “We are pleased to have secured the assistance of the FBI’s Crisis Management Team to work with department personnel during this difficult time. We have added additional crisis counselors to assist us.”
California lawmakers eye revenue from Facebook IPO
California lawmakers are already drawing up plans for spending revenue generated from wealth tied to selling shares in Facebook, which took its first step toward its highly anticipated initial public offering on Wednesday. Republicans in California's Democrat-led legislature see the potential for a windfall for the state from Facebook's initial public offering and would spend the money on schools and paying down the state's debt, two of their leaders said on Wednesday. The proposal by Senate Republican Leader Bob Huff and Assembly Republican Leader Connie Conway reflects the keen interest in the Democrat-led legislature in revenue the Silicon Valley-based social network giant's shareholders could generate to help bring stability to California's finances.
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Komen struggles to defuse Planned Parenthood crisis
On Facebook and Twitter, Americans expressed anger that a widely supported cancer charity appeared to have taken sides in the polarizing debate. "Susan Komen would not give in to bullies or fear. Too bad the foundation bearing her name did," writer Judy Blume, known for her books on girls growing up, said via Twitter. Democrats in the U.S. Senate urged Komen to reconsider. "It would be tragic if any woman, let alone thousands of women, lost access to these potentially life-saving screenings because of a politically motivated attack," more than 20 U.S. Democratic senators said in a letter due to be sent later on Thursday. Activists on both sides of the abortion debate cited evidence of a political shift within Komen. Abortion rights advocates saw it as part of a turn toward the AIRMON E EP
Planned Parenthood, already barred from using federal funds to provide abortions, has seen the U.S. tax dollars it still receives for family aid to poor women come under intensifying Republican scrutiny in Congress. "Politics have no place in health care. Breast cancer screening saves lives and hundreds of thousands of women rely on Planned Parenthood for access to care," Bloomberg said in a statement, pledging $250,000 to the group. Planned Parenthood has also come under attack from lawmakers in several states over the past year, including North Carolina, Indiana and Kansas, who have attempted to block state funding. In Kansas, some local prosecutors are pressing criminal charges against Planned Parenthood, alleging it failed to maintain paperwork related to the abortions it provided.
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Planned Parenthood had received about $700,000 annually from Komen to provide poor women with breast cancer screening, education and access to affordable mammograms. As the outcry intensified, Komen founder Nancy Brinker took to national television and the Internet to deny the charity's decision was the result of lobbying from anti-abortion groups. "We will never bow to political pressure," she said in a video posted on the Komen website. "The scurrilous accusations being hurled at this organization are profoundly hurtful to so many of us," said Brinker, who founded the group following her sister's death in 1980 of breast cancer. "More importantly, they are a dangerous distraction from the work that still remains to be done in ridding the world of breast cancer." But philanthropy experts said it would be difficult for Komen to convince people it was not playing politics. "There's a long-term weakening of the Susan G. Komen brand from this decision," said Melissa Berman, chief executive of nonprofit Rockefeller Philanthropy Advisers, which counsels wealthy donors who give more $200 million a year. "We would see donors reluctant to be involved with a charity
right. Brinker served as an ambassador to Hungary under President George W. Bush. In 2011, she appointed Republican Karen Handel to a senior policy position with the foundation. Handel, a former Georgia secretary of state, ran unsuccessfully for state governor in 2010 on a platform that called for defunding Planned Parenthood. Brinker "is overseeing a fundamental transformation of her organization. It has become a political organization. It is no longer an organization whose mission is to advance women's health," said Terry O'Neill, president of the National Organization for Women. Jeanne Monahan of the conservative Christian group, Family Research Council, described some of the pressures Komen faced. "Groups didn't even know there was a formal relationship between Planned Parenthood and Komen until the last few years, and Komen got a lot of negative feedback about that from people who are right to life," she said. About 15,000 anti-abortion activists sent e-mails to Komen in support of its decision, FRC said. There were signs of dissent within Komen's ranks. Media reports said the Komen foundation's top public health official, Mollie Williams, had resigned after the decision was made in December. Williams declined to comment on her exit because of a confidentiality agreement with Komen. "The divide between these two very important organizations saddens me," she said in an email. "I am hopeful their passionate and courageous leaders ... can swiftly resolve this conflict in a manner that benefits the women they both serve."
"Breast cancer screening saves lives and hundreds of thousands of women rely on Planned Parenthood for access to care," â€“ Michael Bloomberg, New York City Mayor
whose decision-making gets influenced by short-term pressures and politics because you would always wonder who is really in charge." The Christian Science Monitor reported that the Komen foundation nevertheless reported a 100 percent increase in donations received during the past two days, although it said no hard numbers were available. Komen representatives could not immediately be reached for comment on the report. A Dallas-based charity, the Lee and Amy Fikes Foundation, said it was making a $250,000 donation to Planned Parenthood to allow it to continue providing breast-screening services in the absence of Komen's support. "Our family is saddened that the far right has relentlessly and successfully pressured (Komen) to cut funding for breast screening, referral and education support to low-income women who, until now, have been able to depend on the partnership between Komen and Planned Parenthood for their health," the Fikes Foundation said in a statement. The Komen foundation, known for its pink ribbon symbol and Race for the Cure fundraisers, has collected more than $1.9 billion for breast cancer research and programs. It has affiliates in more than 100 U.S. cities and 50 countries. Komen said its decision reflected a move to eliminate duplicate grants and tighten eligibility rules. That includes barring money to groups under investigation by authorities. Planned Parenthood is the subject of a probe by U.S. Rep. Cliff Stearns, a Florida Republican who opposes abortion.
The world's leading breast cancer charity, Susan G. Komen for the Cure, struggled on Thursday to defuse a growing crisis over its decision to cut funding for Planned Parenthood, which provides abortion and birth control services. The sudden rift between the two top U.S. women's health advocacy groups triggered a furious debate on social media sites between supporters and opponents of abortion rights. Democratic lawmakers called on Komen to reconsider its move as the organization was thrust into the center of an intractable dispute that some say will hamper its work for years to come. New York Mayor Michael Bloomberg pledged his own money to help Planned Parenthood recoup the lost funds.
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