Potty Training 101
Rebekah Diamond, MD
Safe, stress-free and scientific tips from a pediatrician “I can’t wait to potty train my toddler,” said no one ever. As parents face various challenges while preparing toddlers to become functioning little humans, helping them pee and poop on the toilet can truly be a pain in the butt. While there are almost always stressors associated with the process, the angst is unnecessary. The biggest challenges around toilet training are often the product of a society that makes the basics of parenting overcomplicated. Here’s how to approach potty training with confidence and minimal worry. 1. Formal toilet training is optional.
This might be hard to believe, but there is no evidence to support the need for an official method or schedule to help children learn how to use the toilet. I was surprised to discover this through my personal journey. Initially eager to potty train my eldest daughter, instead I had little motivation. It was a perfect storm of circumstance, personality and privilege. I had no daycare deadlines, could afford diapers and was dealing with a happy, growing toddler who started to explore using the toilet on her own. In my situation, the effort of formal training was more headache than it was worth. I followed my daughter’s lead, encouraging her interest to sit on the toilet, and creating awareness when she started (or finished) urination and bowel movements. I used potty training strategies, including verbal praise, matter-of-fact bodily discussions, timed “toilet sits” and even some rewards.
The best training method is the one that’s right for your family. 2. Consider your child’s readiness milestones.
There are a host of interconnected factors that determine when to start the toilet-teaching adventure. While it can be a complicated decision, start with your child’s readiness. To gauge readiness, consider these physical and cognitive milestones that will make potty training easier for children. Physical milestones: • Awareness of the urge to void • Ability to hold in urine (and usually later, stool) • Relaxation of appropriate muscle groups when on the toilet • Awareness of when bowel and bladder are empty • Ability to take pants off and on • Ability to perform developmentally appropriate hygiene Cognitive milestones: • Ability to communicate that they have to go potty or need help • Goal-oriented motivation or behavior
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