CURIOSI Y W
By Autumn Leigh Chaulklin
e’ve all been there. Imagine driving down a busy San Antonio highway, when someone speeds by and cuts you off to exit at the very last minute. Some of us respond with anger, honking horns, giving hand gestures, saying bad words and allowing blood to boil. In tragic cases, some parties retaliate in response to a perceived offence, and the outcome is never pretty. We hear about these cases in the news and hope it never happens to us. How different would the outcome be if we were simply curious? In this situation, have you ever stopped to wonder if the crazy driver perhaps had diarrhea? Seriously, stop and think. We’ve all been there. We have all experienced a stomach emergency, rushing to the nearest gas station or clean fast food restaurant, praying to God that the bathroom is unoccupied. We have been these crazy drivers. And at those times, we were deserving of other’s curiosity, or benefit of the doubt. Apply this to your professional or personal life, and your relationships will most certainly change for the better. Jumping to conclusions is not profitable. Some of the worst decisions are made out of anger or by being easily offended. In this life, you can never control the actions or words of someone else. But you can absolutely control the story you tell yourself, and being curious is the olive branch that allows you to relate to others in a responsive manner, rather than a reactive one.
So, how can one start to be more curious? It’s so simple. Start asking more questions in a disarming sort of way. Understanding is the goal. The following phrases are easy to practice and you can start incorporating these in professional and personal conversations today:
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Tell me more… Help me understand… Is everything okay? What happened? How can I help?
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