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Planning Tips & Inspiration P26 2010 Emerging LGBT Wedding Trends Feature P08 Santa Barbara - America’s Riviera P21 Yes! You Can Do Your Own Wedding Flowers P19 Your Stylish Celebration in Chicago
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vitals Founders, Cindy Sproul & Marianne Puechl Senior Editor, Marianne Puechl Photo Editor, Cindy Sproul Design and Layout Assistant, Ira Adams Sales Team, Michael Wilson, Brian Fifield, Jeannette Oliver Web Assistant, Carol Puechl Contributing Writers Susan Hart Hellman, Dee Dee Meininger, Shanna Mac Lean, Lorraine A. DarConte, Daniel F. Whitehead, Cindy Matchett, Darryl Persello, Marianne Puechl Contributing Photographers Tourism Vancouver / Andy Mons, Matthew H. Smith, Cindy Sproul, Erin Kate Photography, Mary K. Wood, Peter Estenoz Photography, Shena Kaye / Poetic Images, Chris Litherland, Sarah Benoit, Schooner Fame, Margaret Singer Photography, Tourism Vancouver / John Sinal, Tourism Vancouver / Tom Ryan Cover Image Our thanks to Jenna Helf & Erika Skougard, for sharing the photo used for this issue’s cover image. Married in Salt Lake City on September 29, 2007, their ceremony was officiated by Rep. Jackie Biskupski (the first openly gay person to hold elected office in Utah.) Cover Image by Erin Kate Photography
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The Western US
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Firestone Vineyard - Los Olivos, CA
Legals & Logistics for Your Ceremony in the West Proposition 8 in California, Despite the legacy of the Western United
States generally continues to be one of progressive ideals and a vision of broader rights. After all, San Francisco brightly continues to shine on the coastline, a beacon for the LGBT community in looking up and looking westward. Harvey Milk called us to awaken here. Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon celebrated their commitment here, twice. There is a pulse of vitality for our minority here; like a heartbeat perhaps in echo to that which began in Greenwich Village back in 1969. In early 2010, a civil union bill passed the Hawaii state legislature; the governor has until July 6th to allow it to pass into law or veto the measure. Washington State offers very comprehensive domestic partnership benefits, thanks to the courage of many pro-
equality groups and individual citizens such as Charlene Strong. Oregon, Nevada and California also provide domestic partnership status to same-sex partners. Each state has its own set of laws and guidelines with regard to gay and lesbian commitments; itâ€™s important for couples to take the time to review their legal rights and responsibilities prior to their own ceremony. Couples are further encouraged to update their legal documents (wills, powers of attorney, etc) on a routine basis -every five years or so- as the laws do continue to change. Depending on your state, the city or county clerkâ€™s office should be able to assist regarding the process of registering as domestic partners as well as in providing other pertinent information.
Western States currently offering recognition to same-sex couples: California Nevada Oregon Washington State Hawaii Colorado
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Domestic Partnerships Domestic Partnerships Domestic Partnerships Domestic Partnerships Reciprocal Beneficiaries (civil unions pending) Designated Beneficiaries
To find screened, gay-friendly wedding professionals in your area, visit the Orange Pages in this issue, or our extended Directory online at RainbowWeddingNetwork.com. Orange pages for this section begin on p. 14
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America’s backdrop for numerous movies and TV shows, and the area is home to many celebrities, including Oprah! Santa Barbara’s rich history-studded ambience is due to other factors too, including clean white beaches and sand-side cafes, exceptional shopping and dining in tucked-away Spanish courtyards, the best in hotels, and all the services you need. This city is ideal for a Riviera-style destination wedding. Wedding planner, Percy Sales (sayless) of Percy Sales Events, who recently created a Santa Barbara wedding for clients Cesar Juarez and John Gonzales, explains that there is another mark in the Santa Barbara’s plus column too. “Santa Barbara is a The Spanish adobe-style Santa Barbara Mission is an icon of very LGBT-friendly place. Even the the city’s cultural past. current mayor married LGBT couples at the top of the picturesque clock If your wedding dream includes the Riviera, tower above the courthouse. From intimate why not consider America’s Riviera, Santa Oceanside venues to Grand Ballrooms, we have Barbara, on California’s sunny southern coast. it all here and we are happy to serve the LGBT community.” This quaint seaside city’s history began with the Chumash Indian settlers who canoed between Ceremony/Reception the mainland and the Channel Islands, now accessible by more modern-day vessels for Among those amenities are a variety of venues, hiking and camping. including The Canary Hotel, which Percy In the late 1700’s California’s tenth mission was established here, and its adobe and red-tile roof style is reflected throughout the City today. The mid 1800’s Rancho era remains influential too, evidenced by the still-existing ranchos, area agriculture, and vast vineyards. During the post-Civil War era Victorian-style residences sprung up overnight, but when many failed to survive the 1925 earthquake, City fathers declared that downtown Santa Barbara would officially return to the sturdier Spanish Colonial adobe. In contemporary times, the city has frequently “gone Hollywood,” providing a luxurious
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describes as “a beautiful boutique hotel located in downtown Santa Barbara.” The Canary boasts a roof-top, poolside wedding site with lighted fountains, massive fireplace, and a 360-degree view of the Mediterranean-style city below, and beyond, to the Santa Ynez Mountains and the Islands. Another unique venue is the Firestone Winery on the Firestone’s Crossroads Estate. Ceremony and reception areas include the Crossroads Polebarn situated in an oak-filled meadow; the Curtis Winery with wrought-iron chandeliers, high-beamed Mediterranean ceilings, and the Barrel Room with French Oak Barrels; and the Firestone Walker Brewing Company’s Taproom with an antique bar imported from London’s Liverpool Street Station.
B a r ba r a RivIera
by Susan Hart Hellman contributing writer
Santa Barbara also offers you a wedding where your guests might include giraffes, an elephant, and a monkey or two – the Santa Barbara Zoo! Percy says, “It’s the only zoo I know of that is located at the Pacific Ocean. The hilltop reception space has expansive views of the Santa Barbara Harbor and can accommodate up to 300 people.” To experience a true piece of history, also consider the San Ysidro Ranch in the Montecito area. The Ranch was originally a late-1700’s waystation for Franciscan monks, then a citrus ranch in the late 1800’s, and finally, a guest ranch, as it is today. Guests over the years have included Gloria Swanson, Somerset Maugham, Jean Harlow and Groucho Marx, and the honeymooning President and Mrs. John F. Kennedy. If an ocean-side wedding is more your style, the palm-tree studded Chase Palm Park Center (wedding site for Percy’s clients Cesar and John) features marine-themed art, a large patio for outdoor dining and dancing, and a carousel in the adjacent Chase Palm Park. But if a water’s edge ceremony is still not close enough to the water for you, why not have your event on the water, on the Channel Cat, one of the world’s largest sailing luxury catamarans, which coasts the gentle Santa Barbara Harbor. The Channel Cat has a 35-foot bar, which the owner calls “the John Wayne Bar.” And speaking of cowboys, if, in true oldwest style, you want to “cowboy up,” the perfect venue is the Carriage and Western Art Museum, with a backdrop of historic wagons, stagecoaches, and saddles once owned by Will Rogers, Clark Gable, and Jimmy Stewart. Accommodations There are many wonderful places to stay in Santa Barbara, including one of Percy’s favorites, the Orchid Inn. This boutique bed and breakfast features lush gardens, fireplaces, and jacuzzis, and is located in one of Santa Barbara’s most historic areas adjacent to the city’s first home, the Trussel-Winchester Adobe.
As a commitment destination Santa Barbara offers a diverse selection of venues such as the 35-foot luxury catamaran Channel Cat (pictured above)
Upham Hotel and Country House, constructed in 1871, is steeped in history too, and in fact is registered with Historic Hotels of America as Southern California’s oldest continuously operating hotel. There are sweeping redwood verandas, and each guest room, ranging from large master suites to intimate cottage rooms with garden entrances, is unique in its décor. Vendors Santa Barbara is also home to many LGBTowned and LGBT-friendly wedding vendors, including Creative Services Catering and Event Planning. Creative Services owner and chef, John Eric Savage, has developed a very unique Santa Barbara Menu, and also specializes in custom-designed menus created just for your event, whether you select passed hors d’oeuvres, a sit-down dinner or buffet, on the beach, in a mid-town garden, or the vineyards of a local winery. Kaleidoscope Flowers is another vendor you’ll want to visit. This family-owned business is known for its unique creations, incorporating what the designers refer to as “interesting elements” such as mosses, beautiful stones, curly willow, and seasonal fruits. Kaleidoscope can accommodate all of your wedding-theme wishes, and they offer some unusual ideas including dish gardens, dried florals, and gourmet baskets for gifts.
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The Western US On more of the relaxation end of the entertainment spectrum, your guests will want to take a Santa Barbara Trolley tour, with stops at Stearns Wharf, the West Coast’s oldest operating wharf; Mission Santa Barbara; the architecturally exquisite Spanish-Moorish Santa Barbara County Courthouse; the Andree Clark Bird Refuge, a 42-acre saltwater marsh; and other points of interest.
Working with an officiant with whom you are comfortable is essential, and you’ll find yourself immediately at ease with Alma Rose Middleton, owner of Weddings by the Sea. Alma explains that she is a non-denominational minister/ officiant, not discriminating against any faith, culture, or lifestyle. Although she has an affinity for beachside weddings, as you might guess from the name of her company, Alma is enthusiastic about a wedding in any setting. Your Santa Barbara Weekend In Santa Barbara the problem of boredom will never arise for your guests. In fact, the only problem will be deciding among the dozens of exciting activities the city offers. Your more adventurous guests will want to explore the Santa Barbara Sailing Center’s resources: sailing lessons, whale watching, kayak excursions. Or, they might like a very unique type of wine tasting experience, biking with Santa Barbara Wine Country Cycling Tours from vintner to vintner through the gentle wine country region. For a different type of adventure, the Chumash Casino, just north of
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The chic intimate dining space at the Orchid Inn epitomizes the revival of classic fused with modern influences, which give the property its unique style and atmosphere.
Santa Barbara, provides free transportation to and from area hotels.
Another way to indulge in all Santa Barbara has to offer is the Segway. Rentals are available at Segway of Santa Barbara, an ideal means to see the sights, including the 65-acre Santa Barbara Botanic Garden, with more than 1,000 species of native plants and miles of hiking trails; and Alice Keck Park, featuring botanic gardens and Koi- and turtle-filled lily ponds. There are countless museums, including the Santa Barbara Historical Museum, and on Sunday mornings, your guests will enjoy the traditional “Sunday morning stroll” along Cabrillo Boulevard, to dine and explore the blocks-long beach-side display of works by local artisans. And for the shoppers among your guests, Santa Barbara has it all, both along State Street
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The Western US (byway for Santa Barbara’s famous Fiesta and Summer Solstice parades) and in offthe-path Spanish Courtyards.
Mediterranean white stucco village, and El Paseo Spanish courtyard, built around the old de la Guerra family homestead.
A 16-foot tall Westminster clock welcomes you to La Arcada Courtyard, which features a Spanish motif, fountains, and bronze sculptures. Also visit Paseo Nuevo, in the style of a
There are hundreds of restaurants in Santa Barbara, including the El Paseo location Wine Cask. This restaurant incorporates produce from local farmers the owners say they know and trust.
Alice Keck Park 1500 Santa Barbara Street (at Arrellaga) www.santabarbaraca.gov Andree Clark Bird Refuge 100 West Cabrillo Blvd. www.santbarbaraca.gov Canary Hotel 31 West Carrillo St. (805) 884-0300 www.canarysantabarbara.com Carriage and Western Art Museum 129 Castillo St. (805) 962-2353 firstname.lastname@example.org Chase Palm Park Center 236 E Cabrillo Blvd. (805) 897-1983 www.santabarbaraca.gov/beachfront Chumash Casino 3400 East Highway 246 Santa Ynez, CA 93460-9405 (800) CHUMASH, toll-free www.chumashcasino.com Creative Services Catering and Event Planning (805) 965-9121 / (805) 637-4581, cell www.creativeservicescatering.com El Paseo Restaurant 812 State St. Firestone Vineyard 5000 Zaca Station Rd. Los Olivos, CA 93441 (805) 688-3940 www.firestonewine.com
Summarizing the Santa Barbara experience, Percy Sales says, “Santa Barbara offers one of the best surfing spots, and hiking the Santa Ynez Mountains is a
Paseo Nuevo State Street at de la Guerra Street Percy Sales Events (805) 637-7984 www.percysales.com Santa Barbara Botanic Gardens 1212 Mission Canyon Rd. (805) 682-4726 Santa Barbara Historical Museum 136 East de la Guerra Street (805) 966-1601 www.santabarbaramuseum.com Santa Barbara Sailing Center (Channel Islands Tours) Santa Barbara Harbor (800) 350-9090, toll-free www.sbsail.com Santa Barbara Trolley Tours www.sbtrolley.com Santa Barbara Wine Country Cycling Tours 3630 Sagunto St. Santa Ynez, CA 93460 (888) 557-8687, toll-free www.winecountrycycling.com Santa Barbara Zoo www.santabarbarazoo.org San Ysidro Ranch 900 San Ysidro Ln. (805) 565-1700 www.sanysidroranch.com Segway of Santa Barbara www.segwayofsb.com
Kaleidoscope Flowers 1341 State St. (888) 962-0032, toll-free www.kaleidoscopeflowers.com
Upham Hotel and Country House 1404 de la Vina Street (800) 727-0876, toll-free www.uphamhotel.com
La Arcada 1114 State St.
Weddings by the Sea (805) 705-8069 email@example.com
Mission Santa Barbara 2201 Laguna Street (805) 682-4713 www.santabarbaramission.org Orchid Inn 420 West Montecito Street (800) 427-2156, toll-free www.orchidinnatsb.com
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Their long wine list features options they define as “wines of consequence” - foreign, domestic, and very local, right out of Santa Barbara’s famous wineries.
Wine Cask 813 Anacapa St. (805) 966-9463
SANTA BARBARA Vendors
The Western US hiker’s paradise. You have the wine country in Santa Ynez, and you have lovely coastal and mountain drives. Additionally, Santa Barbara is one of Hollywood’s bedroom communities, so you never know who you may bump into while having your morning coffee at one of the local spots or while shopping at the many unique stores Santa Barbara offers.” He says that the best months weatherwise for your Santa Barbara destination weekend range from late June to mid-October, but he quickly adds that February and May are delightful too. Basically, the sky is almost always sunny in Santa Barbara, making America’s Riviera your ideal destination all year long.
Susan Hart Hellman is a freelance writer based in California. firstname.lastname@example.org
This Santa Barbara-inspired menu was created by Creative Services owner, Chef John Eric Savage
Starters Bruschetta Tapenade with Olive Oil, Garlic, Basil, Roma Tomatoes and Fresh Parmesan Cheese Served on Toasted Rounds
Lamb Empanadas with Roasted Vegetables served with Garlic Aioli Stationary Gourmet Cheese Display
Second Course Organic Wild Field of Greens Dried Cranberries, Candied Walnuts, Gorgonzola Cheese tossed in a Blood Orange Vinaigrette Dressing Main Free Range Grilled Herbed Crusted Lemon Chicken
Sliced, Cubed, and Softened Cheeses served with Assorted Nuts, Fresh Fruits and Crackers
With Corn Fed Organic Grilled Filet Topped with a Port Demi Glaze
Organic Farmers Market Fresh Seasonal Fruits
Portobello Mushroom Risotto
First Course Gazpacho
Organic Farmers Market Marinated, Grilled and Roasted Vegetables
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The Western US - Top Vendors
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2010’s Top LGBT Friendly Companies -serving the Western US Since 2000, it’s been our goal to screen wedding, home, travel & family-related businesses all across North America for you & your partner. After all, planning your wedding, dreaming about your vacation or meeting the unique needs of your growing family should be FUN, free from awkwardness and instead filled with moments of sincere respect and excitement. Remember, the categories listed here are general guidelines. Many of these businesses offer several services, so be sure to call them directly or visit their website. You won’t want to miss any fabulous details!
Bands, Musicians & DJs Mr. DJ Brian Lester "Your professional MC, DJ and coordinator. It's party time!" Based in Carson City, NV Serving Reno, Tahoe and the Carson Valley (775) 884-1118 email@example.com www.mr-dj.com Orchestra of the Americas 2500+ repertoire of 70’s disco, dance, R&B, funk and salsa! Offices and locally-based versions in 16 major U.S. cities (800) 767-6997, toll-free (773) 334-1532, local info@BacchusGroup.com www.bacchusgroup.com/Americas.html Wave Link Music Serving Washington State (425) 771-1167 firstname.lastname@example.org www.wavelinkmusic.com Banquet & Event Facilities/Reception Sites The Beda Place Life is Wonderful!! Celebrate! --- at The Beddah Place to Be! Serving Northern California 990 Meadow Gate Rd. Meadow Vista, CA 95722 (530) 878-2332 email@example.com www.thebedaplace.com
Churchill House VIP Events Style Redefined Serving Southern California 1484 Eastwind Circle Westlake Village, CA 91361 (805) 338-0490 (805) 496-3160 Jaimie@churchill-intl.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.churchill-intl.com Forest Suite Resorts One Lake Parkway South Lake Tahoe, CA 96150 (800) 822-5950, toll-free (530) 543-6538, local Stacey@forestsuites.com www.forestsuites.com JW Marriott Sp-NV Voted Best Ceremony Site in Las Vegas and Best Wedding Venue in Southern Nevada! 221 N. Rampart Blvd. Las Vegas, NV 89145 (702) 869-7777, Reservations (702) 869-7023, Catering email@example.com www.jwlasvegasresort.com Magnolia Hotel Denver Sp-CO Your elegant wedding setting, redesigned! 818 17th Street Denver, CO 80202 (888) 915-1110, toll-free (303) 607-9000, local www.magnoliahoteldenver.com Napa Valley Wine Train Your most unique Wine Country Wedding 1275 McKinstry Street Napa, CA 94559 (888) 721-8917, toll-free (707) 251-5202, local firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com www.winetrain.com
Portland Marriott Downtown Waterfront Let us create your memories for years to come. 1401 SW Naito Parkway Portland, OR 97201 (503) 499-6364 Amy.Ipina@Marriott.com http://www.marriott.com/hotels/eventplanning/wedding-planning/pdxor-portlandmarriott-downtown-waterfront/ B & Bs/Inns/Wedding Packages for Intimate Ceremonies Stevenswood Spa & Resort Beautiful Garden, Distant Ocean, Forest Views... Yours for the Day! 8211 N Highway 1 Little River, CA 95456 (On the Mendocino Coast) (800) 421-2810, toll-free (707) 937-2810, local firstname.lastname@example.org www.stevenswood.com Caterers/Restaurants Country Garden Caterers Since 1978 - Award Winning Presentation and Cuisine Serving Orange County - Los Angeles County 719 North Main Street Santa Ana, CA 92701 (714) 972-9069 email@example.com www.countrygardencaterers.com
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The Western US - Top Vendors Elephantâ€™s Delicatessen Perfect Parties with Fresh Local Food from Scratch 115 Northwest 22nd Ave. Portland, OR 97210 (503) 299-6304; (503) 937-1062 firstname.lastname@example.org www.elephantsdeli.com
The Flower Exchange.com Wholesale Wedding Flowers Direct from the Farm! We ship Nationwide (866) 423-4747, toll-free email@example.com www.theflowerexchange.com
TK & A Custom Catering The possibilities are endless, the ideas infinite, the outcome flawless. 9558 Camino Ruiz San Diego, CA 92126 (858) 444-8822 firstname.lastname@example.org www.tka-catering.com
Something Blue .... a fine bridal boutique Serving Seattle, all of Washington & British Columbia 107 West Stewart - Suite A Puyallup, WA 98371 (360) 466-0415 (253) 466-3888 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.somethingblueboutique.com
Dance Instruction DancewithChad.com Various Locations throughout Arizona! (602) 549-1916 email@example.com www.DanceWithChad.com John Cassese - The Dance Doctor Learn to Dance for The Most Memorable Day of Your Life! 1440 Fourth Street Santa Monica, CA 90401 (310) 459-3571, local (877) DR. DANCE, toll-free firstname.lastname@example.org www.dancedoctor.com Event Consultants & Designers A Memory Lane Event, LLC Dazzling Custom Events for You & Yours Based in Littleton, CO (303) 513-2364 (720) 981-9331 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.amemorylaneevent.com savvyplanners.com "A beautiful way to Celebrate" Teams in New Jersey, New York City, Pennsylvania, Los Angeles, Beverly Hills, San Francisco, Hawai'i and Key West (877) 529-0587, toll-free (732) 790-2605, local email@example.com www.savvyplanners.com Florals Art with Nature Floral Design Serving all of Southern California & beyond! 633 W. Fern Drive Fullerton, CA 92832 (714) 457-3296 firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com www.artwithnaturedesign.com
Formal Wear & Apparel
Gifts, Favors & Keepsakes American Institute for Cancer Research Wedding Favors for a Cause! 1759 R Street NW Washington, DC 20009 (202) 328-7226 firstname.lastname@example.org www.aicr.org/weddingfavors Candles, Gifts & More, LLC Custom Candles & Personalized Gifts & Favors. No minimums! Service Nationwide (877) 239-0027, toll-free (636) 629-0027, local email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.candlesgiftsandmore.com Classic Studio Labels Personalized labels for Your Special Day 653 Wilton Grove Road West London, Ontario, Canada N5Z 1Y6 (877) 668-6160, toll-free email@example.com www.classicstudiolabels.com The Great Spirits Baking Company The Gift of Friendship. The Spirit of Giving. Serving Nationally 2 West 67th Street New York, NY 10023 (866) 530-2384, toll-free firstname.lastname@example.org www.thegreatspiritsbakingcompany.com Jubili Beads & Yarns Superb custom wedding party jewelry and related wedding accessory gifts. Serving Worldwide via e-commerce 713 Haddon Ave. Collingswood, NJ 08108 (856) 858-7844 email@example.com www.jubilibeadsandyarns.com
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The Western US - Top Vendors TheMusicHouse.com, Inc. 938 Port Washington Blvd., Suite #1 Port Washington, NY 11050 (888) 884-2533, toll-free (516) 883-4433, local firstname.lastname@example.org www.TheMusicHouse.com PacificAlbums.com Photographic Wedding Albums Serving Nationwide 2161 Delaware Avenue Santa Cruz, CA 95060 (831) 476-2107 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.pacificalbums.com www.bayphoto.com Pelican Art Gallery & Custom Framing We're passionate about putting art in your life! 143 Petaluma Blvd. North Petaluma, CA 94952 (707) 773-3393 email@example.com www.pelicanart.com Honeymoon Getaways Lake Powell Resorts and Marinas Dramatic Red Rocks, Shimmering Sapphire Water, Secluded Coves & Beaches 100 Lakeshore Drive Page, AZ 86040 (888) 896-3829, toll-free (928) 645-1118, direct firstname.lastname@example.org www.lakepowell.com Outrigger Maui Eldorado Your Maui Home Away From Home Serving Maui 2661 Kekaa Dr. Lahaina, HI 96761 (888) 339-8585, toll-free email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.mauieldorado.com www.outriggermauieldoradocondo.com Rancho De La Osa Guest Ranch Where one rejuvenates the spirit and invigorates the soul. P.O. Box 1 Sasabe, AZ 85633 (520) 229-0103 (520) 823-4257 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.ranchodelaosa.com
Hotels & Resorts Gaia Napa Valley Hotel & Spa Sustainable yet affordable luxury in Napa Valley 3600 Broadway (Highway 29) American Canyon, CA 94503 (707) 674-2100 CWatson@hotelpros.biz BAlberigi@hotelpros.biz www.gaianapavalleyhotel.com Ramada Inn & Plaza We'll take care of you! Serving Northern California 1250 Halyard Dr. West Sacramento, CA 95691 (916) 669-3079 (916) 371-2100 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.ramadaplazasacramento.com Jewelers Zhaveri Caribbean Gems Breitling, TAGHeuer, Omega, Rado, Tissot, Ebel, MontBlanc, Guess, ChaseDurer, Citizen Serving Alaska, USA and the Caribbean 212 Front Street Ketchikan, AK 99901 (877) ZHAVERI (942-8374), toll-free email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.zhaveri.com www.caribgems.net Limousines Amaxlimo Inc. Driving Successful People 1001 Mohr Lane Concord, CA 94518 (866) 400-4227, toll-free email@example.com www.amaxlimo.com Officiants/Places of Worship HeartVisions Committing to a life of loving each other. Serving the Puget Sound area (425) 402-1457 firstname.lastname@example.org www.heartvisions.com/Weddings.htm Memorable Ceremonies Customized, inclusive weddings Serving Seattle, Tacoma, Olympia & beyond (360) 556-4849 Ruckercl@gmail.com
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Los Cabos Photography The best photography in Mexico zaragoza y 16 de septiembre L#3 Cabo San Lucas, Baja California Sur 23450 (619) 378-0034 email@example.com www.gildaphoto.com
En Route Travel The one to call for that perfect destination wedding & honeymoon. Serving couples Worldwide! 15221 Sunset Blvd. Pacific Palisades, CA 90272 (310) 459-9955, office (310) 890-7707, cell firstname.lastname@example.org www.enroutewithterry.com
Rick Carter Photography Capturing Moments... Preserving Memories! Serving throughout California, Western Nevada and Southern Oregon (530) 898-9501 email@example.com www.rickcarterphotography.com Wachsman-Staley Photography We offer you the finest in Wedding and Event Photography Serving Southern California 13458 Erwin Street Valley Glen, CA 91401 (818) 781-9955 firstname.lastname@example.org www.wspimages.com
InternationalGayTravel.com Helping you see your world your way! Based in the Phoenix Metro Area Serving Nationwide! (800) 548-9267, toll-free (623) 748-3377, local email@example.com www.InternationalGayTravel.com Thanks Babs The Day Tripper Discover OUTrageous Adventures Here! Serving Greater Las Vegas & Nevada, California, the Southwest, USA, and around the globe (702) 370-6961 firstname.lastname@example.org www.thanksbabs.com
Travel Leaders Travel Center From intimate escapes to the most exotic journeys… depend on us! 11116 Gravelly Lake Drive SW Lake Wood, WA 98499 (253) 582-2020, local (800) 935-0454, toll-free email@example.com www.travelleaderstravelcenter.com TravelWizard.com The Sophisticated Travelers’ Connection 100 Smith Ranch Road – Suite 110 San Rafael, CA 94903 (415) 446-5252 ext 202 firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com www.travelwizard.com Wedding Packages RD Travel Limited, Inc. Gay-owned travel agency specializing in San Francisco & Wine Country Weddings & Honeymoons (816) 454-3800 Russ@RDTravelLimited.com www.weddingscalifornia.net
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Legals & Logistics for Your Ceremony in the Central & Midwestern US owa?!
Iowa’s 1847 motto ‘Our liberties we prize, and our rights we will maintain,’ to date Iowa remains the only state in the region that provides full marriage rights to its gay & lesbian citizens. The legislation was passed in April 2009, and licenses began issuance on April 27th. Wisconsin does offer domestic partnership status, and motions toward considering same-sex marriage legislation have been made in states like Illinois.
Overview of Filing for Your Marriage License in Iowa: Always be sure to check with the County Recorder’s office for updated information! ● No residency restrictions ● Picture ID and Social Security ID
● 3-Day Waiting Period; no tests required ● One witness necessary when filing
● Proof of prior divorce decree,
if applicable to either partner
● Fees app. $30
Dean Genth & Gary Swenson of Mason City, IA held their Civil Union Ceremony in 2004, but on May 31, 2009 celebrated their legally recognized Wedding Day midst 400 joyful guests. Photo by Matthew H. Smith
To find screened, gay-friendly wedding professionals in your area, visit the Orange Pages in this issue, or our extended Directory online at RainbowWeddingNetwork.com.
Stylish Celebration in Chicago by Marianne Puechl senior editor
Swank. Trendy. Vintage. Artisticallyinspired. Truly, the possibilities are endless when it comes to your Fabulous Gay Wedding in Chicago. This lively city offers a vibrant and historic backdrop, with diverse flavors and cultural heritage from all over the world. Whatever your Dream may be, it’s absolutely possible in the Windy City. Same-sex marriage may not be legally recognized as of yet; however, every weekend finds couples throughout Illinois choosing to tie-the-knot. For locals, as well as those from out-of-state who envision a destination wedding in Chicago, this energetic hotspot has a draw that can prove irresistible.
The rich cultural influences within the city translate to a wide variety of options for you and your partner. As you plan your wedding, you’ll have the opportunity to pick and choose from virtually limitless settings and themes. Outdoor parks, with views of the many waterways or the expansive Lake Michigan, can provide a signature location as you exchange your vows. Weddings on the water are even a possibility, onboard a private vessel weaving its way along the Chicago River. Non-denominational churches abound, as well as gay-friendly
synagogues and other spiritual settings. Local officiants are often well-versed in many religious traditions, including Catholic, Muslim, Buddhist, Jewish and Interfaith.
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Photo: Cindy Sproul, Asheville NC
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Architectural delights reign in Chicago! Choose to party with your guests while overlooking the cityscape, enjoying the impeccable service and style available at gay-friendly venues such as The Mid America Club, Hard Rock Hotel or The Holiday Inn Chicago Mart Plaza (proud sponsor of the 2009 and 2010 ‘Same Love, Same Rights’ LGBT Wedding Expos.) A spectrum of unique venues can be found throughout the city, including the Brookfield Zoo, where couples can choose an entire package to create the wedding of their dreams. …Lush, landscaped grounds for the ceremony itself, cocktails ‘with the animals’ midst a backdrop of one of the exciting desert, rainforest or underwater habitats, and a fully catered reception in one of the tented Pavilions. Or consider a gala at the renowned Navy Pier, with stunning panoramic views of the lake as well as -schedule permittingthe opportunity to end your once-in-alifetime evening with the famed Navy Pier fireworks display. Visions of a Garden Party? No problem. Dinner Cruise onboard a private yacht? Absolutely. A black & white classic affair in the Theater District? Why not! It’s all possible in the Windy City!
Within the neighborhood of Lakeview, incorporating the popular stretch of North Halsted Street, is the first officially recognized gay village in the United States... namely Boystown. Everything you’d expect is right here in the district: a buzzing nightlife, savory cuisine (including vegetarian and vegan options), faddish shopping & fashion, coffeehouses and lots of rainbow flags. For a fun day’s outing after the nuptials, Boystown is a necessary stop and one in which you and your partner will not hesitate in announcing proudly that you’re newlyweds.
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If music is your passion… Chicago is of course noted as the Blues Capital of the World. With Blues Clubs (as well as fierce jazz clubs) throughout the area, enjoying lively dinner dates with your new spouse or dancing the nights away will be an integral part of your honeymoon in the city. This year’s Blues Music Festival is scheduled for June 11-13th in Grant Park. With over twenty miles of lakefront access, tourists have the opportunity to swim, picnic, fish and explore at their leisure. Ranked as the tenth most bike-friendly city in the country (Bicycle Magazine, 2010), Chicago offers an extensive network of bike lanes, bike culture as well as environmentally-conscious amenities. Museums are another wonderful way to spend time together, such as the History Museum, Frank Lloyd Wright’s Robie House in Hyde Park, or the famed Chicago Art Institute, with an astounding collection of over 260,000 works and artifacts. Chicago may be known for its hot dogs and deep dish pizza, but with its diverse cultural heritage there are more dining options than you can possibly indulge in during a short week or two! Be sure to make it a priority to at least consider some of the ethnic specialties – you’ll be glad that you did!
Bringing It All Together
The key to making the most of your Wedding Celebration in the city is to remember that just about anything is possible. Seriously consider including a local event planner, who knows the area thoroughly and has a strong network of contacts: he or she will ensure that you & your partner are informed about all the opportunities available. Whether your guest list is in the hundreds, or you’re envisioning a small intimate gathering... the Ceremony of Your Dreams awaits right in the heart of Chicago!
YES you can do your own
Wedding Flowers! by Dee Dee Meininger contributing writer
ne of the growing trends in the floral industry for weddings in 2010 is for couples to do their own wedding flowers. In the past, many people feared this task but now they are embracing it as a way to get exactly what they want and save money at the same time. If you think you might like to give it a try, here are some great ideas that might inspire you.
Doing your own wedding flowers is an investment of your time but can be very satisfying and fun. Many “do it yourselfers” invite friends, relatives or their wedding party to help. It is even better if you can offer your helpers drinks and something yummy! Be prepared with fresh flowers, gloves and scissors and you are well on your way to creating your own artistic floral creations and lasting memories.
Some products to consider when doing your own wedding flowers are fresh rose petals, roses, seasonal flowers and greens and pre-made wedding garlands. All of these products are available from wholesale flower companies and can even be purchased online. Here are some great ideas on how to use each of them.
Fresh Rose Petals are one of the easiest products to use because they take absolutely no special skill. All you do is scatter or toss where you want them. Many people create a wedding aisle with fresh rose petals or place fresh rose petals around a centerpiece. You might also like to scatter fresh rose petals on your cake table and welcome table or float fresh rose petals in a bowl. It is a lot of fun to fill your flower girl’s basket with fresh rose petals or to have your guests shower you and your new spouse with petals as you leave the ceremony. Of course, you may decide to just lay fresh rose petals on your bed or any romantic place. Remember fresh rose petals add color, drama, fragrance and elegance to any setting; just use your imagination. Roses are another popular flower for creating romantic arrangements because they come in so many colors and they are available year round. You can easily create a classic and romantic handtied bouquet with roses and,
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for ceremonies with two grooms, designing a simple but glamorous table arrangement with wedding roses provides an elegant and fragrant polish to the festivities. You may like to use spray roses for your petite flower girlsâ€™ accessories and these add a natural garden look to your arrangements. For those of you who desire a more seasonal theme, you may choose to fill your vases with loose seasonal filler flowers as an informal centerpiece. You might want contrasting colors as your bouquet or try creating a monochromatic design with different types of fresh flowers,
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all in one color. There are also many different varieties of fresh foliage that can be used to make your designs look unique and professional. They add structure to your bouquets but they can also be used as the focal point of an arrangement. Garlands are another way to use foliage and sometimes you can purchase them already made. You can drape a pre-made garland over an archway or along your aisle from chairs or pews. They are stunning on a mantle or encircling a candle on a table. If you decide to design your own wedding flowers, make sure to do your research and find a flower company that you can rely on. You will want to order your flowers well
in advance and have them arrive several days before you need them. Once you have placed all of your flowers into buckets of fresh clean water, you are well on your way. Have your containers ready and an inspirational photo available for everyone who is helping with the arrangements, so they create the look you want. This process is a lot of work but it can be a lot of fun as well. You really can take part in creating your own visual and fragrant memories you will surprise and delight yourself and your guests! DeeDee Meininger Fresh Petal (866) 738-2573, toll-free firstname.lastname@example.org www.freshrosepetals.com
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The Central/Midwestern US - Top Vendors
RainbowWeddingNetwork proudly presents:
2010’s Top LGBT Friendly Companies
-serving the Central & Midwestern US
Since 2000, it’s been our goal to screen wedding, home, travel & family-related businesses all across North America for you & your partner. After all, planning your wedding, dreaming about your vacation or meeting the unique needs of your growing family should be FUN, free from awkwardness and instead filled with moments of sincere respect and excitement. Remember, the categories listed here are general guidelines. Many of these businesses offer several services, so be sure to call them directly or visit their website. You won’t want to miss any fabulous details! Bands, Musicians & DJs
Event Consultants & Designers
Orchestra of the Americas 2500+ repertoire of 70’s disco, dance, R&B, funk and salsa! Offices and locally-based versions in 16 major U.S. cities (800) 767-6997, toll-free (773) 334-1532, local info@BacchusGroup.com www.bacchusgroup.com/Americas.html
Lon Lane’s Inspired Occasions Unique Ideas, Unforgettable Events 6306 Morningside Dr. Kansas City, MO 64113 (816) 444-8372 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.inspiredoccasionskc.com
Banquet & Event Facilities/Reception Sites
Skyway Classic Events Serving Minneapolis to Iowa & beyond! (952) 374-5220 email@example.com www.skywayclassicevents.com www.aarceeclassicevents.com
Ameristar Casino 2220 River Road Council Bluffs, IA 51501 (712) 328-8888, main (712) 396-3117, direct firstname.lastname@example.org www.ameristar.com/council_bluffs_hotel_ weddings.aspx Chicago Marriott Downtown Magnificent Mile Joy. Your Dream Wedding. 540 N. Michigan Avenue Chicago, IL 60611 (773) 754-8511 email@example.com www.chicagomarriottdowntown.com Holiday Inn Chicago Mart Plaza Sp-IL Chicago’s #1 value, located in the heart of the city. 350 West Mart Center Dr. Chicago, IL 60654 (312) 836-5000 firstname.lastname@example.org www.martplaza.com Hyatt Regency Austin Sp-TX On the shore of Lady Bird Lake, the ideal location for Your Special Day! 208 Barton Springs Austin, TX 78704 (512) 477-1234, Reservations email@example.com http://austin.hyatt.com/hyatt/hotels/index.jsp
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Florals The Flower Exchange.com Wholesale Wedding Flowers Direct from the Farm! We ship Nationwide (866) 423-4747, toll-free firstname.lastname@example.org www.theflowerexchange.com Formal Wear & Apparel The Tux Shoppe by Going Formal Going Formal since 1985 16909 Burke St #130 Omaha, NE 68118 (402) 510-2437 (402) 390-0228 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.thetuxshoppe.com www.goingformalomaha.com Gifts, Favors & Keepsakes American Institute for Cancer Research Wedding Favors for a Cause! 1759 R Street NW Washington, DC 20009 (202) 328-7226 email@example.com www.aicr.org/weddingfavors
The Central/Midwestern US - Top Vendors Candles, Gifts & More, LLC Custom Candles & Personalized Gifts & Favors. No minimums! Service Nationwide (877) 239-0027, toll-free (636) 629-0027, local firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com www.candlesgiftsandmore.com Classic Studio Labels Personalized labels for Your Special Day 653 Wilton Grove Road West London, Ontario, Canada N5Z 1Y6 (877) 668-6160, toll-free firstname.lastname@example.org www.classicstudiolabels.com The Great Spirits Baking Company The Gift of Friendship. The Spirit of Giving. Serving Nationally 2 West 67th Street New York, NY 10023 (866) 530-2384, toll-free email@example.com www.thegreatspiritsbakingcompany.com Jubili Beads & Yarns Superb custom wedding party jewelry and related wedding accessory gifts. Serving Worldwide via e-commerce 713 Haddon Ave. Collingswood, NJ 08108 (856) 858-7844 firstname.lastname@example.org www.jubilibeadsandyarns.com TheMusicHouse.com, Inc. 938 Port Washington Blvd., Suite #1 Port Washington, NY 11050 (888) 884-2533, toll-free (516) 883-4433, local email@example.com www.TheMusicHouse.com
Photographers Grayscale Studios, Inc. Seeing all shades of the world in equal amounts Based in Chicago (773) 459-2910 firstname.lastname@example.org www.grayscalephotography.com Pret a Poser Photography Storytelling Photography Serving Chicago, Nationwide & Internationally (312) 642-2211; (847) 942-6262 email@example.com www.pretaposer.com www.pretaposerphotography.com Travel Services RD Travel Limited, Inc. Gay-owned travel agency specializing in San Francisco & Wine Country Weddings & Honeymoons PO Box 165414 Kansas City, MO 64116 (816) 454-3800 Russ@RDTravelLimited.com www.weddingscalifornia.net Videographers Mystic Image Video Productions Award Winning Wedding-Day Cinematography Serving the USA 1907 Oaklawn Dr. Parma, OH 44134-3032 (216) 351-6717 firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com www.mystic-image.com www.cleveland-wedding.com
PacificAlbums.com Photographic Wedding Albums Serving Nationwide 2161 Delaware Avenue Santa Cruz, CA 95060 (831) 476-2107 firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com www.pacificalbums.com www.bayphoto.com
Jewelers Zhaveri Caribbean Gems Breitling, TAGHeuer, Omega, Rado, Tissot, Ebel, MontBlanc, Guess, ChaseDurer, Citizen Serving Alaska, USA and the Caribbean 212 Front Street Ketchikan, AK 99901 (877) ZHAVERI (942-8374), toll-free firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com www.zhaveri.com www.caribgems.net For more comprehensive information, photos & more, visit RainbowWeddingNetwork.com -over 5,000 businesses await you, each screened to uphold a policy of non-discrimination!
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Jenna Helf & Erika Skougard, married in Salt Lake City on September 29, 2007. Their ceremony was officiated by Rep. Jackie Biskupski (the first openly gay person to hold elected office in Utah.) Image by Erin Kate Photography
2010 Emerging What’s old that we’re keeping; What’s new that we’re incorporating; What’s borrowed to use as a theme;
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by Susan Hart Hellman contributing writer he year 2010 ushers in a new decade, and new trends in weddings. To help with your planning, three prestigious event planners, below, have provided you with their insights and suggestions.
Frank J. Andonoplas, owner of the Chicagobased Frank Event Design, is a frequent guest on such programs as 20/20 News Magazine, CBS Evening News and Early Show, Fox News, ABC News, and he has been featured in Modern Bride, Special Events Magazine, and Brides. Bernadette Coveney Smith is the President of 14 Stories and It’s About Time Events, working with weddings in Massachusetts and New England and destination weddings. She is the author of Gay Wedding Confidential: Adventures and Advice from America’s #1 Gay Wedding Planner. Marcinho Savant, Senior Event Coordinator at savvyplanners of Manhattan, Key West, Hawaii, San Francisco, and Beverly Hills, and a Travel Agent for Savvy Travel™, is also a course developer and instructor for Lovegevity’s Wedding Planning Institute. Their advice on trends, invitations to honeymoons, will be especially important in 2010 because one trend these professionals recognize is larger weddings. Marcinho, whose work has been lauded by Martha Stewart Weddings, says he’s noticing increases in guest lists, between 150 and 300+ invitees. “In years prior, we’ve designed weddings for as few people as the couple and one or two close friends, but the trend is now upward.” Frank, designer of social and corporate events nationwide since 1992, recommends using event size as a planning starting place. “I think guests are important, and couples should start
there and work their budget around their guest count. People make the party.” Bernadette, who also has a degree in Film and an MBA, says that although weddings have averaged 75 to 100 guests, for 2010 she also expects increased numbers, and for gay weddings to be more elaborate. “There is more momentum around this issue politically, so with more mainstream support, comes bigger and more elaborate weddings.”
hemes and venues
For many couples, this also means more elaborate themes, and Bernadette recommends this as a starting place for your design. “Every wedding tells a story,” she advises, “and a wellplanned event tells that tale in delightful ways that you and your guests will remember forever.” Marcinho believes that anything can become a theme in 2010. “GLBTI couples will make the thematic choices that match their individual sense of style, their nature, and their likes.” He provides some examples. “I’m inspired by creating subtle yet sumptuous elegance in every form from minimalist, impressionist, cubist forms, Viennese Royal Court lavishness or Japanese simplicity, Van Gogh, Seurat, and Rembrandt. There are so many inspiring sources for your 2010 wedding, including your venue’s architecture.” Those venues in 2010 will range from a backyard Weeping Willow canopy to the grandest ballroom, and Bernadette has noticed a trend toward boutique-type hotels. “Creative venues almost always attract LGBT couples. If couples are traveling to a state where it’s legal for them to marry, they are likely to stay in these properties such as Kimpton Hotels. Although this is often the case, each couple has different tastes, and an LGBT wedding may be in a hotel, historical home, country inn or somewhere else entirely.”
Wedding Trends And what’s blue (or red, or yellow, or green or any other color of the rainbow we’ll be using this year)
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Marcinho anticipates the use of boutique properties too, but says every type of venue will be popular including large hotels and estates. “Church notwithstanding,” he adds, “we are suggesting many ‘out of this world’ venues including 1930’s and 40’s theaters, rainforests, botanical gardens, yachts, castles, even private islands.” He can even design events on zero gravity flights.
Whatever the venue, ceremonies will be innovative too and Frank reports that one new trend is the ceremony in-the-round. “I’ve done this in all types of venues, from hotels, to lofts, to art museums.” He explains that the circular configuration features a main aisle for the processional, and usually two others where guests enter and exit. One trend Bernadette has noticed is the desire to make guests feel comfortable and relaxed.
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“One of the strongest trends I’ve noticed is that guests are often greeted with champagne or sparkling water. Immediately following the wedding processional, the officiant leads the Validation and Affirmation, where guests toast and bless the couple. This serves to truly help everyone relax and set the tone that this is not your typical wedding.” Vows will change for some couples too, but for others, will remain strictly traditional. Marcinho explains, “As the number of denominations increases which will embrace and honor our unions, so will the more traditional vows. We have had some deeply religious couples for whom traditional rites were vital.” But, he is also seeing more couples working with nondenominational celebrants to customize vows. Bernadette sees this trend also. “The legitimacy aspect is huge for LGBT couples, and many are turning to celebrants who are writing personal, meaningful and memorable wedding ceremonies, or couples are asking friends to officiate.”
Initiating a lighter, celebratory atmosphere while also setting the guests at ease, the Best Man serves champagne as the event begins.
Frank agrees. “If you marry in a church or synagogue, they may insist you use there vows. Most couples in a non-liturgical setting will want something more personal, however.”
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Even wedding attire will be different, and Frank says what is worn will coordinate with the type of wedding, and that brides’ dresses will feature lots of ruffles and rouging. “There will be layers of fabric with just some beading and embellishment, and bridesmaids will be wearing the same color and fabric, but with varying styles based on what looks best on any individual attendant.” Marcinho predicts, “Well-tailored and dripping with classic couture style for men.” He adds, “Wedding attire will follow more of the trends and fashions shown in the latest tent shows at New York Fashion Week. There is a sleekness and comfort of fit juxtaposed against an homage to ‘Mod” styles of the past. Think 50’s and 60’s formal dress attire, but with contemporary details. “Twenty-first century brides and grooms will focus on no-fuss, low-maintenance styles. Light and airy, draped or wrapped dresses, and wrinkle-free fabrics are going to rein, and satin & taffeta will fall to natural–feel fibers such as raw silk, hemp, and microfiber material.”orals
The gown above represents a departure from the weight seen in many traditional bridal fashions. Draping is used to create depth and volume. Light & airy is the predicted trend for 2010.
Florals will also change, and Frank predicts a mix of the styles of centerpieces, but using the same florals, or centerpieces featuring the same color, but different flowers (monobotanical) at each table. Marcinho says, “Next season we’ll debut some very innovative presentations using two opposing elements of nature. I see many more submerged florals in large containers.” Music These planners predict changes for the musical portion of the ceremony too, and Frank says, “Classical and timeless is usually the way.” However, he adds that one of his couples has chosen “Clocks” for the processional and “Sweet Child o’ Mine” for the recessional. “The music must match the couple’s style.” Marcinho emphasizes that processionals will become “the heralding moment.” “The best thing brides and grooms can do for themselves is to choose a tune of great personal significance. It could be Mendelssohn, but couples might find the family favorite soothing to their nerves as well.”
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A mono-chromatic arrangement of roses. Photo by Mary Wood, Atlanta
Bernadette predicts more “greening” in 2010 weddings. “Some couples are already using potted plants or gorgeously designed vegetables instead of cut flowers in their arrangements. LGBT weddings typically have a huge green advantage in that with most, the ceremony and reception are in one location, saving energy and fossil fuels in the transportation.” Marcinho’s firm has gone so far as to develop an initiative, savvySustainability™, a pledge to help couples be more eco-savvy, protecting
feature our planet, Marcinho explains. “There will certainly be, and should be, more recycled items. We can still have glamorous, stunning and memorable events but eco-stewardship is the new black!” estinations Where will weddings be occurring in 2010? Destinations, another new trend, with definite “hot spots.” “We’re seeing an increase generally in destination weddings, and in our Key West and Hawai’i locations,” Marcinho explains, adding that these destinations are so popular, in part, due to their gay-friendly nature. Bernadette explains another reason for an increase in destination weddings: legality. “Gay couples are going to go where it’s legal to get married. There may be big celebrations in their hometowns, but the bottom line is that LGBT couples want to legitimize their relationship. There is nothing more dramatic than the historical pronouncement at each legal gay
wedding – “by the power vested in me, by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts (or other state), ‘I now pronounce you legally married.’” Frank predicts a definite trend in theme color too. “I think the new hot color for 2010 will be yellow mixed with something -- kind of like we saw with light blue a few years back.” He says lighting will continue to advance in importance too. “Lighting makes a huge difference. I urge my clients to work this into the budget.” Black and white, jewel tones, and splashes of color are in sight for 2010, Marcinho suggests. “Classic combinations such as black and white will be adjusted to include dark grays and eggshell as a possibility in lieu of more traditional black and white.” He thinks shades of the same color will become more popular than one hue of a single color, and adds that continuity between ceremony and reception will become the norm.
Likewise for Bernadette. “Whether it’s a color or design scheme, the first impression you leave with your guests is an image that can be cohesively carried throughout the wedding or event.” And she believes in conveying your theme to guests immediately. “Let the invitations begin the narration of your story and make your event unforgettable right from the beginning.” With the influence of The Food Channel and food-themed movies, cuisine will continue to dominate our minds, and Marcinho says one key word in wedding cuisine is: sustainability – using sustainably-harvested or local food products. “That’s going to be big in 2010. It’s simple to do, he explains, with the food being fresher than anything shipped in, and it’s ecosavvy. “Themed cuisine such as Japanese, South Asian, Korean, and others will win the day.” Sit-down dinners will be important, Frank reports. “This is the most elegant service, and I
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feature dessert; sweets stations; passed desserts, including monogrammed petit fours; and the increasingly popular pie bar. Regardless of the choice of additional desserts, Marcinho says a wedding cake is a must-have. “It’s a critical food and décor consideration. The unbelievable creativity in cake design today is understandably desirable.” He says his couples become ecstatic when he tells them the TV cake designers available to them. After that, he quips, let them eat cake, practically becomes a couples’ motto!
There are changes in beverages coming too. “If a couple doesn’t like Champagne,” Frank explains, “they shouldn’t serve it. Toasting with wine is becoming very popular.” In fact, a wine bar was a special feature at a recent gallery wedding he created. Marcinho says even the water served will change. “Couples want clean water, such as local spring water. He suggests that couples will also be scheduling tastings at local wineries and making decisions from among the local “masterworks.”
Trends for 2010 will reflect the diversity of the LGBT community with ceremony venues ranging from private yachts (top) to a more traditional church setting. Including pets within the ceremony is also a growing trend. Susan & Kelli, wed onboard private yacht in Key West; simple ceremony with no guests. Tropical floral garland encircling railing. Three course meal prepared below decks by a private chef and servers. Wedding designer Marcinho Savant says, “This created an intensely private, personal & intimate wedding for our couple.” Top Image: Peter Estenoz Photography 2nd Image courtesy of Shena Kaye, Poetic Images
One trend reported by wedding planner Frank Andonoplas is the inclusion of family pets in the ceremony. Above, Frank (left) and partner Shawn, and Bichon Frise, Fenwick Ambercrombie Gaylord.
see a duet entrée still very popular, or orders taken tableside, instead of picking on your response card. This costs more, but it’s worth it.” Dessert, of course, is a trend that will never lose importance, and in 2010 there will be new options. Frank says, simply, that dessert should be an event. “It’s a splurge for the guests to indulge in.” If there is a cake, he says he saves that creation for last. “The cake should pull in the whole event.” But he adds other options, saying that in 2010 there will be wonderful plated
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How about a reception with Geishas, Taiko drummers, female impersonators, or living statues? Innovation will become a trend in entertainment, and Marcinho says, “Couples want an unforgettable good time at their reception. It’s their way of thanking the guests who came to share the big day!” Nothing will be too far-fetched. “Why not a famous circus with a French name? Why not strolling dessert tables?” Marcinho asks. “The new approach to events is that it is theater! We’re rejoicing in our recognition!”
What’s new in recording your dream wedding? Responses were unanimous: in with the old. “Couples still want a mix of black and white and color,” Frank explains. “Posed and photojournalistic.”
“Black and white is classic and offers much more depth and texture in many photos,” Marcinho states. “It’s here to stay. And candid is the trend because it is clearly more communicative and ‘real’. “
“By now, couples need to de-stress,” Marcinho says, explaining the increasing popularity of taking some official time off, with Hawai’i and Key West representing new hot spots for honeymoons even if the wedding is held elsewhere. Frank has seen a surge in the popularity in several locations too. “Hawai’i is huge right now. I had one couple who backpacked in the wine country, and Europe, Paris, Italy and Greece are also popular.”
ne final trend
Marcinho offers one final trend for 2010. “GLBTI couples are not bound by tradition because our weddings are ‘uncharted territory’. Our weddings are new and rare and precious and hard won! I would love for a trend for 2010 to be that couples don’t deprive themselves of the day they really want. It’s your day and it must be the way you envision it.” Susan Hart Hellman is a freelance writer based in California. firstname.lastname@example.org
Frank Event Design Frank J. Andonoplas 5555 North Sheridan Road - Arcade Level Chicago, IL 60640 (773) 275-6804 email@example.com www.frankeventdesign.com It’s About Time Events / 14 Stories Bernadette Coveney Smith Based in Boston, MA (617) 733-2965 info@14Stories.com www.14Stories.com savvyplanners.com Marcinho Savant Teams in New Jersey, New York City, Pennsylvania, Los Angeles, Beverly Hills, San Francisco, Hawai'i and Key West (877) 529-0587, toll-free (732) 790-2605, local firstname.lastname@example.org www.savvyplanners.com
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Legals & Logistics for Your Ceremony in the South A that offer any kind of legal recognition for same-gender relationships. However,
t present, there are no states in the South
there are important differences between many regions that couples ought to consider when planning a ceremony, or choosing to grow their family. In Atlanta for instance, co-parent adoptions are permitted for same-gender couples; however, in North Carolina they are not. In Florida, it is simply not legal for gays and lesbians to adopt a child at all.
midst hundreds of overjoyed and tearful guests. Legal rights and benefits may not be provided by the state (nor by the federal government) but couples continue to create their own meaningfulness and sense of validation. Ultimately, the laws will change; but for now, there is Love. To find screened, gay-friendly wedding professionals in your area, visit the Orange Pages in this issue, or our extended Directory online at RainbowWeddingNetwork.com. Orange Pages for this section begin on p. 40.
Despite these circumstances, gay and lesbian couples continue to marry every day throughout the Southern states, in intimate ceremonies with a few friends as well as in elaborate and elegant celebrations
Southern Gay Hot Spots ♥ Asheville, NC ♥ Atlanta, GA ♥ Birmingham, AL ♥ Eureka Springs, AR ♥ Fort Lauderdale, FL ♥ Key West, FL ♥ Miami, FL ♥ New Orleans, LA
A Destination for your Commitment? How About Beautiful, Gay-Friendly Eureka Springs, Arkansas? by Shanna Mac Lean contributing writer
Spring Street with the Flat Iron Building. Photo: Chris Litherland creativecommons.org
Nestled in the Ozark Mountains amidst sparkling lakes and rivers, with spectacular sunsets and its own captivating Victorian charm, Eureka Springs has been one of the best kept secrets of the wedding
world. Second in the number of “hitching” ceremonies performed only to Las Vegas, this small capitol is a natural destination for gay and lesbian commitment ceremonies and Holy Unions. If you are looking for a charming, intimate, unique and special place for a meaningful commitment ceremony and a beautiful vacation together, consider this one of a kind historic town.
Eureka Springs has long been a mecca for artists, writers and those who choose an alternative life to crowded cities and the corporate jungle. Its large gay population makes Eureka a haven for diversity and adds a unique
flavor to this small but cosmopolitan locale. Two diversity weekends each year, including Valentine’s, bring parades, parties, glamour and general merriment. From March through November, almost every weekend has a featured theme from Antique Cars to Blues and Jazz Festivals. A small opera company performs in June and July, and the first weekend of July is Africa in the Ozarks. Eureka Springs was known as a popular place of healing waters in the mid 1800’s. To this day it offers luxurious body comforts such as massage and all manner of spa treatments. The number of massage therapists is only exceeded by the number of ministers ready and waiting to perform ceremonies of differing kinds. There are 800 or 900 ministers registered at the City Hall in a town where the population of the inner city numbers under 3,000. There is plenty to do in Eureka Springs!
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The Southeast For those who enjoy the out of doors, there is plentiful fishing, boating and rafting on Beaver Lake and the White River. In the summer, camping facilities are readily available and comfortable and there are caves to explore in the area.
A woodland stream in the heart of the Ozarks. Eureka Springs is situated ideally to offer a variety of outdoor activities.
Aside from pampering the body, there are outstanding restaurants here, art galleries galore, a writer’s colony and endless shops with unique temptations. Theatre, popular night clubs, live entertainment at the Eureka Auditorium, hoe downs and the famous Passion Play fill the evenings. The décor is Victorian, with many beautiful restorations from the 1860’s. This includes stunning hotels and many charming bed & breakfasts and inns.
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Beaver Lake is a special asset of Eureka Springs, located twenty minutes west of downtown. Here you will find many beautiful cabin facilities with jacuzzis, kitchenettes and fireplaces, right on the lake. There are many idyllic ceremony sites, including a gay-friendly chapel overlooking a spectacular view of the water. A gourmet restaurant nearby makes the lake area a complete hideaway in itself for those wanting privacy. Eureka Springs is a welcoming and unique destination for gay and lesbian couples wishing to seal their commitment to each other. We invite you to explore its many charms. It is a place to which you will want to return again and again on every anniversary!
Shanna Mac Lean Circle of Light Wedding Chapel 3969 Mundell Road Eureka Springs, Arkansas 72631 Phone: (877) 825-4448, toll free email@example.com www.alt.circleoflightweddings.com At Circle of Light Wedding Chapel in Eureka Springs, we offer beautiful Soul Mate Commitment Services/Holy Unions, including outdoor services on our spectacular Circle Deck overlooking Beaver Lake with receptions up to seventy. Eureka Springs, the wedding capitol of mid-America, is a charming gay-friendly Victorian town in a magnificent natural setting. The Eureka Springs Court House has a Domestic Registry you & your partner can sign. We are totally committed to Love and to serving you.
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Engagement Portrait Tips by Lorraine A. DarConte contributing writer
here are a number of reasons couples should consider having an engagement portrait taken. The obvious one, of course, is to create a record of the occasion and preserve those special memories. Another reason is to spend some quality time getting to know your wedding photographer (and vice versa), so everyone feels less like strangers at the big event. Hence, I recommend couples hire a photographer who includes engagement portraits in his/her wedding packages. As a photographer, engagement sessions are important to me because they allow me to see how comfortable a couple is in front of the camera (some are naturals, others need a lot of help); and, believe it or not, how at ease they are with each other (some couples are so anxious in front of the camera, they act like they just met!)
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More importantly, an engagement photo session clues me in on what the couple (and each individual) thinks of his/her smile, profile, eyes, etc. These likes and dislikes are revealed both at the time of the shoot (“This is my best angle!) and when the couple sees the photos (“My nose is so big!”) What I might consider a regal nose, strong profile, or athletic figure, they may consider their least attractive feature. Being armed with this information before I photograph the actual wedding lets me devise ways to minimize those so-called “flaws” and/or try to avoid photographing them altogether. Choosing a Location Choose a spot that has meaning to you— the movie theater where you met, the park where he/she proposed, etc. If nothing comes to mind, ask your photographer for suggestions.
Also, think about your personalities and how you want to present yourself to friends and family. Do you want a casual, fun, on-location photo, or a more formal, posed shot in a studio setting? To help you decide, ask yourself these questions. Which scenario best suits the two of you? At which location will you feel most at ease? Will you be sending the photo to friends and family as part of an announcement, and if so, what style -fancy or informal- is the announcement? And, which type of photograph are you more likely to display? What—and What Not—to Wear The photo should focus on the two of you -your faces and your body language- not your clothes. Yes, clothing says a lot about you, but don’t let your duds do all the talking. Wear simple, comfortable outfits, preferably in dark, solid colors (you’ll look slimmer) and try to coordinate your look. This does not mean
The Southeast you should show up dressed as twins (but if that’s your thing, do it!) Don’t wear colors that clash such as pink and red, and try to avoid “holiday” combinations like black and orange (Halloween) and red and green (Christmas) as that’s what will come to mind every time you look at the photos. Yes, it’s okay to wear black and/or white, as a good photographer will not have issues with that. Finally, steer clear of prints unless it’s subtle, and even then, one of you should be wearing something solid. Don’t wear stripes if he/she’s wearing polka dots, etc. Not sure what to wear? Bring a few outfits and let the photographer help you choose. Hair, Makeup and the Sun Contrary to popular belief, this is a good time to try a new hairstyle or lipstick, for some, but not all, of the shots. If you can make a quick change (a bun instead of your usual ponytail) that will help you decide on your wedding-day “do,” then go for it. Keep makeup to a minimum and avoid glossy lipsticks, sparkly eye shadows, and oil-based foundations as the sun and/or the camera’s flash can “bounce” off these slick surfaces and make you look like an alien.
Relax and Have Fun Finally, ignore the photographer (trust me, he/she will be thrilled) and focus on each other. Have fun, look into each other’s eyes, run, jump, and wrestle; tease each other, flirt, and kiss. PDA (public displays of affection) is de rigueur! If you can relax and be yourself, you’ll more than likely be pleased with the results. Surprise Photos About to pop the question? Then surprise your bride or groomto-be not only with a ring and a proposal, but also with photos of the momentous occasion. You can hire an “Engagerazzi” to hide in the bushes and record the joy, the tears, and the kisses!
Lorraine A. DarConte is a freelance writer and photographer working in Tucson, Arizona. Her work, both written and photographic, has appeared in numerous publications including Shutterbug, The Desert Leaf, Budget Traveler, Arizona Bride, Phoenix Home & Garden, Nevada Magazine, The Rangefinder, and Picture Business. Her work is also part of several corporate collections including the LAX Hilton, and has been exhibited at the Tucson Museum of Fine Arts, International Center for Photography (NYC), and Washington Museum of Fine Arts (MD). firstname.lastname@example.org www.ldarconte.com web.mac.com/darconte (520) 731-3214
On hot days, bring some blotting tissues to help deal with sweat (and drink plenty of fluids to keep skin hydrated and “plump” for the pics.) Excessive tanning, whether at a salon or poolside, should be avoided as you run the risk of looking “muddy” on film.
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Southeast - Top Vendors
RainbowWeddingNetwork proudly presents:
2010’s Top LGBT Friendly Companies -serving the Southeastern US Since 2000, it’s been our goal to screen wedding, home, travel & family-related businesses all across North America for you & your partner. After all, planning your wedding, dreaming about your vacation or meeting the unique needs of your growing family should be FUN, free from awkwardness and instead filled with moments of sincere respect and excitement. Remember, the categories listed here are general guidelines. Many of these businesses offer several services, so be sure to call them directly or visit their website. You won’t want to miss any fabulous details!
Bands, Musicians & DJs Bradenton DJ Master Musical Entertainment Specialists Serving entire West Coast Florida, Sarasota, Venice, St Pete, Tampa 6106 61st Street E Palmetto, FL 34221 (941) 531-3204 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.bradentondj.com www.djapril.com Orchestra of the Americas 2500+ repertoire of 70’s disco, dance, R&B, funk and salsa! Offices and locally-based versions in 16 major U.S. cities (800) 767-6997, toll-free (773) 334-1532, local info@BacchusGroup.com www.bacchusgroup.com/Americas.html White Rose Entertainment DJs with a Balance of Elegance and Fun Serving: Orlando, Daytona, Melbourne, Lakeland, Lake Mary, Altamonte Spring, Winter Park, Lake Buena Vista, St Augustine, Apoka, Mt Dora 9401 American Eagle Way, Suite # 200 Orlando, FL 32837 (407) 601-3765 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.orlandodj.com
Hotel Palomar Atlanta - Midtown Sp-GA a Kimpton Hotel Artful, sophisticated... the ideal venue for Your Day! 866 W. Peachtree Street NW Atlanta, GA 30308 (678) 412-2308 Heather.email@example.com www.hotelpalomar-atlantamidtown.com Hyatt Regency Pier Sixty-Six Resort & Spa Sp-FL Everything you're looking for, delivered with the Hyatt touch. 2301 SE 17th Street Ft. Lauderdale, FL 33316 (954) 525-6666 www.pier66.hyatt.com The Inn on Fifth 699 Fifth Ave South Naples, FL 34102 (888) 403-8778, toll-free (239) 403-8777, local firstname.lastname@example.org www.innonfifth.com Sofitel Miami Combining exacting standards with a charming French touch 5800 Blue Lagoon Drive Miami, FL 33126 (305) 503-8309; (305) 264-4888 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.sofitel.com www.sofitelmiamiweddings.com
Banquet & Event Facilities/Reception Sites
Courtyard by Marriott Boynton Beach Hidden Jewel between Palm Beach and Ft Lauderdale 1601 N Congress Ave. Boynton Beach, FL 33426 (561) 853-1010, Dania (Director of Catering) (561) 853-1014, Jason (Group Sales) email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.marriott.com/pbibb
Food by Chef Lars Serving Miami & beyond (786) 268-0025 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.miamicateringonline.com
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Seasons 52 Celebrating living well through seasonally inspired dining… 52 weeks a year! Serving Orlando & Altamonte Springs 7700 Sand Lake Road Orlando, FL 32819 (407) 902-3164 email@example.com www.seasons52.com Décor, Lighting & Special FX Balloonacy Balloon and Floral Decor that POPs! Based in Atlanta (404) 351-0538 firstname.lastname@example.org www.balloonacyatlanta.com Orlando Special Effects Fireworks, Indoor pyro, Decorative flame & fire, Fog & More! Serving the Southeast 14222 Lake Mary Jane Rd. Orlando, FL 32832 (407) 648-1867 email@example.com www.orlandospfx.com Event Consultants & Designers conceptBAIT, inc. Re-inventing the art of attraction while bringing your vision to life! Serving Florida & Nationwide (available for travel) 4123 8th Avenue St. Petersburg, FL 33711-2005 (727) 321-5350 firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com www.conceptBAIT.com Directory Key Host Sponsor of 2010 ‘Same Love, Same Rights’ LGBT Wedding Expo, produced by RainbowWeddingNetwork
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Southeast - Top Vendors Peachtree Weddings and Events Absolute detail. Pure calm. Perfect organization. 2221-D Peachtree Road, Suite # 601 Atlanta, GA 30309 (404) 783-6941 firstname.lastname@example.org www.peachtreeweddings.com savvyplanners.com "A beautiful way to Celebrate" Teams in New Jersey, New York City, Pennsylvania, Los Angeles, Beverly Hills, San Francisco, Hawai'i and Key West (732) 790-2605 email@example.com www.savvyplanners.com Xquisite Affair The One Affair You Should Have! 4613 N. University Drive #470 Coral Springs, FL 33067 (561) 713-7261 firstname.lastname@example.org www.xquisiteaffair.net
Your Special Day by Joni Dedicated to making your vision a reality Serving Miami Dade, Broward, Palm Beach and portions of Martin counties. (561) 756-6760 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.yourspecialdaybyjoni.com Florals The Flower Exchange.com Wholesale Wedding Flowers Direct from the Farm! We ship Nationwide (866) 423-4747, toll-free email@example.com www.theflowerexchange.com Formal Wear & Apparel Savvi Formalwear Gowns, Dresses & Tuxedos Nationwide & in Raleigh - Pleasant Valley Promenade 6212 Glenwood Ave. Raleigh, NC 27612 (919) 783-8911 denise@savviNC.com www.savviNC.com www.savviNCgowns.com
Gifts, Favors & Keepsakes American Institute for Cancer Research Wedding Favors for a Cause! 1759 R Street NW Washington, DC 20009 (202) 328-7226 firstname.lastname@example.org www.aicr.org/weddingfavors Candles, Gifts & More, LLC Custom Candles & Personalized Gifts & Favors. No minimums! Service Nationwide (877) 239-0027, toll-free (636) 629-0027, local email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.candlesgiftsandmore.com Classic Studio Labels Personalized labels for Your Special Day 653 Wilton Grove Road West London, Ontario, Canada N5Z 1Y6 (877) 668-6160, toll-free email@example.com www.classicstudiolabels.com
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Southeast - Top Vendors The Great Spirits Baking Company The Gift of Friendship. The Spirit of Giving. Serving Nationally 2 West 67th Street New York, NY 10023 (866) 530-2384, toll-free firstname.lastname@example.org www.thegreatspiritsbakingcompany.com Jubili Beads & Yarns Superb custom wedding party jewelry and related wedding accessory gifts. Serving Worldwide via e-commerce 713 Haddon Ave. Collingswood, NJ 08108 (856) 858-7844 email@example.com www.jubilibeadsandyarns.com TheMusicHouse.com, Inc. 938 Port Washington Blvd., Suite #1 Port Washington, NY 11050 (888) 884-2533, toll-free (516) 883-4433, local firstname.lastname@example.org www.TheMusicHouse.com PacificAlbums.com Photographic Wedding Albums Serving Nationwide 2161 Delaware Avenue Santa Cruz, CA 95060 (831) 476-2107 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.pacificalbums.com www.bayphoto.com Jewelers Zhaveri Caribbean Gems Breitling, TAGHeuer, Omega, Rado, Tissot, Ebel, MontBlanc, Guess, ChaseDurer, Citizen Serving Alaska, USA and the Caribbean 212 Front Street Ketchikan, AK 99901 (877) ZHAVERI (942-8374), toll-free email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.zhaveri.com www.caribgems.net Officiants/Places of Worship Ceremonies by Cindy Supporting Your Right To Marry. Serving South Florida (954) 781-8822 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.ceremoniesbycindy.com
Circle of Light Weddings We believe in Love! Serving Mid-West and destination weddings 3969 Mundell Road Eureka Springs, AR 72631 (877) 825-4448, toll-free (479) 253-2774 email@example.com www.alt.circleoflightweddings.com www.circleoflightweddings.com Wedding Vows by Earth, Air and Faith Serving Lee & Collier Counties, Florida (239) 209-4822 firstname.lastname@example.org www.floridaweddingvows.com Photo Booth Rentals Shutterbooth Rentals Premier Photo Booths from Tampa Bay to Orlando PO BOX 7662 Tampa, FL 33673 (813) 600-3636 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.ShutterBooth.com Photographers Basia Mille Photo Serving Tampa & beyond! (813) 453-8840 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.basiamillephotography.com Brides in Bloom Photography Photography that tells your story! 14030 Mann Lane Alexander, AR 72002 (501) 847-2635 email@example.com www.bridesinbloomphotos.com EO Studios a division of Elegant Occasions Specialists in Commitment Ceremonies with Beautiful Photography, and Videography Serving Nationwide 6435 W Commercial Blvd. Tamarac, FL 33319 (954) 722-2223 firstname.lastname@example.org www.eoep.com Shari Zellers Photography Award-winning Photography Capturing the Magic and Moments of Your Life Serving Atlanta & beyond! (404) 299-2800 email@example.com www.sharizellers.com www.sharizellers.wordpress.com
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The Northeast and Mid-Atlantic
Washington Monument Midst Cherry Blossoms Same-Sex Marriage Legislation was enacted in the early 2010 Resource Guide 43 Vol.nationâ€™s 5 Issue capital 1 2010 in LGBT Planning
Legals & Logistics for Your Ceremony in the Northeast/Mid-Atlantic ost of the states that recognize gay and lesbian marriages are in this dynamic and historic region of our country: Massachusetts, Vermont, Connecticut, New Hampshire, Washington DC. New Jersey provides civil unions, while Maine and Maryland offer domestic partnership benefits. It is anticipated that other states, like New York, will soon follow. And now, non-residency laws no longer limit couples who wish to travel from distant parts of the country to take advantage of the same-sex marriage legislation in place in states like Massachusetts or in Washington DC. Itâ€™s an inspiring region for Your Fabulous Big Gay Wedding! However, even in states where there is legal recognition either partially or in full for gay & lesbian couples, it is important to note that there is no federal statute in
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place. Therefore, a gay couple who marries in New Hampshire will have state benefits and protections, but should they move to Texas, these will not be upheld. This is yet another reason that personal documents or legal contracts are so important for samegender couples... preferably drawn up with the assistance of an experienced lawyer who will keep your best interests in mind, as well as your long-term goals. To find screened, gay-friendly wedding professionals in your area, visit the Orange Pages in this issue, or our extended Directory online at RainbowWeddingNetwork.com. Massachusetts celebrates the one-year anniversary of the Goodridge Decision / May, 2005 Photos: Sarah Benoit, Asheville NC
The Witch City Sheds its Persecuting Past and Embraces the LGBT Community by Daniel F. Whitehead contributing writer
by Daniel F. Whitehead cotributing writer
The Salem Witch Memorial
Looking for a romantic, cultural, adventurous and historical vacation all in one? How about a wedding celebration set midst world class restaurants, museums, nostalgic charm and an emerging gay & lesbian community? Did you know that Salem, Massachusetts offers these exciting opportunities, along with 2 TAG approved full-service hotels, and several LGBTfriendly or gay-owned inns and B&B’s? It’s all this and more, that makes Salem an ideal location for same-gender weddings! As you stroll through the historic cobblestone streets of Salem, you find yourself surrounded by some of the best shops, boutiques, art galleries, museums and finest dining options in the Northeast. Hailed as the “Witch City” worldwide, Salem is a charming seaport town, easily accessible to Boston, 17 miles by car or the Salem Ferry to/from Long Wharf North. Many couples have chosen Salem as a destination of choice for their wedding because of its openness to everyone - not just one group, religion or way of life.
Mayor Kim Driscoll says, “Salem is proud to be a no-place-for-hate community. We have learned and teach lessons of tolerance from the tragic Witch Trials of 1692, and today Salem’s visitors, guests, and residents find a welcoming environment regardless of their lifestyle.” This is clearly the message that is spotlighted within the recent exhibit “Witches - An Evolving Perception,” at the Salem Witch Museum. Although the local community has monthly gay events, friendly bars and entertainment, it’s the culture and history, both mystical and nautical, that has evolved Salem into an ideal LGBT ceremony-reception location. The city boasts gay-owned shops, restaurants and B&B’s including the Morning Glory Bed and Breakfast that is consistently rated as the #1 B&B in Salem on Tripadvisor.com. The Finz Restaurant, located on picturesque Pickering Wharf, offers great views of the harbor and an ideal location for rehearsal dinners: sumptuous local flavors accented with signature martinis. Salem also boasts
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Northeast/Mid-Atlantic concession that will donate a small portion of the proceeds from your wedding package to the Human Rights Campaign or NAGLY, the local LGBT Youth organization, on behalf of your wedding party.
Fort Pickering Lighthouse and the Schooner Fame of Salem, at Winter Island Maritime Park. Photo courtesy Schooner Fame
two distinct TAG approved hotels that feature reception halls, full service catering, pubs and restaurants. Hosting your wedding at the Salem Waterfront Hotel and Marina provides a one-stop destination for planning and concierge. This hotel also offers a special
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“Salem is a unique, diverse community that welcomes people regardless of religion, ethnicity, or lifestyle,” says Kate Fox, executive director of Salem’s Office of Tourism & Cultural Affairs, “The witch hunts of the seventeenth century are long past, and today Salem is a great city for celebration, vacation & even relocation.”
For legally recognized weddings or a great holiday, we recommend the following websites for more information: Salem Witch Museum- www.salemwitchmuseum.com Finz Restaurant- www.hipfinz.com Destination Salem – www.salem.org/lgbtsalem.shtml Peabody Essex Museum- www.pem.org The Morning Glory Bed and Breakfastwww.morningglorybb.com The Gulu-Gulu Café- www.gulu-gulu.com Treasures Over Time- www.treasuresovertime.com The House of Seven Gables- www.7gables.org
Article written by: Daniel F. Whitehead, Area Sales Manager Salem Waterfront Hotel and Suites Proud Sponsor of the upcoming ‘Same Love, Same Rights’ LGBT Wedding Expo – Sunday, September 26, 2010 (978) 619-1105 firstname.lastname@example.org www.salemwaterfronthotel.com
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Words and Blessings for a Meaningful Wedding Ceremony by Cindy Matchett contributing writer
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Kristen’s father read the above excerpt from Winnie the Pooh when she and Nancy got married last winter. Standing on the dance floor of Boston’s Milky Way restaurant in Jamaica Plain, he read directly to the two women from a page he had decorated himself, just after we had honored the memory of Kristen’s dear mother and Nancy’s beloved father. Everyone knows that Kristen is a big kid at heart, which Nancy adores, and the sweet and poignant passage was perfect for them. Drawing on special words that have meaning to you both can be a wonderful way to personalize your wedding. Wedding readings—poems, blessings, excerpts and favorite passages included throughout the ceremony—convey your thoughts and beliefs on love and marriage. You certainly do not have to have readings, but words that reflect your unique relationship, your
work with to have fun with this! So, where to start? There are many resources out there, on the Internet and in bookstores, but the best place to start is with you — your own bookshelves and computers and music collections.
For Stephen and Glenn, the selection of a passage from Giovanni’s Room, one of Stephen’s favorite books, meant a lot to both of them. We Kristen an chose and condensed a scene in d Nancy smile as K reads from risten’s fa Winnie th which the two lovers of the story ther e Pooh at ceremony their in Jamaica first met, and how their romance Plain. developed. It was read beautifully by a good friend of the couple as values, and your personalities let your we stood with friends and family in front of guests learn a little more about you, and the fireplace at their home. Over the years, therefore add richness to the experience I have incorporated Harold and the Purple of the day. Passages can be playful or Crayon, Rilke’s Letters to a Young Poet, dramatic, funny or romantic, spiritual or Rumi’s love poems, Buddhist teachings, and secular, and can be performed by family, sections of novels into wedding ceremonies. friends, or your officiant. At Bernadette For couples who love books and reading, and Jen’s waterfront wedding held at the this can be an easy way to bring in your Exchange Conference Center in July, history and passion, although choosing Bernadette’s sister read some of the which of your favorite books to include couple’s favorite lyrics from the Broadway might be hard! Brief passages can be read show, “Wicked.” For another couple, we by one reader, while longer ones can be designed a spiritual community blessing divided up for several friends or family to be read aloud by all the guests to the members to read together. A selection of couple just before the two said their vows one to three paragraphs is a good length for to one another, beginning with, “May the a reading; listeners can’t take in much more Lord bless you and keep you…” If you than that at a time. are designing your own ceremony with a Celebrant or non-denominational officiant, you have a lot of freedom in what you choose. I always encourage the couples I
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Ceremony Reading Tips Appoint readers who are good performers. Not everyone is comfortable reading in front of a group! Think carefully about how your readers speak, how they feel in public, and what their experience is. It is a gift to deliver special words in a ceremony; it works best if you choose people who will enjoy their role. You can find other ways to honor and include shy people, such as helping you dress that day, handing out programs, making flowers or decorations, or tending to any young children in your party. Consider length. Listening to a reading is very different than being able to see the words and follow along. Generally, no more than three formal readings in a ceremony, with each one only about one to three paragraphs, is best. Choose the right reader for the passage. You probably don’t want your 12-year old nephew reading to you about “The Art of Marriage,” or a college roommate sharing your first love letter to your spouse. Think about the reader’s personality as well as your own, and select something that will feel appropriate coming from them. This will help make your readers most comfortable as well. Prepare properly. I always print extra copies of the readings for the ceremony, in large type, double-spaced, on a good cardstock so the page looks nice at the ceremony. It is more challenging for a reader to read directly from a program, or from a tiny, folded scrap of paper stashed in a jacket pocket or purse! Send your readers their texts as early as you can, and invite them to your rehearsal so they can practice in the ceremony space, and can ask any questions they may have. Amplify. Be sure that your officiant, or your venue, has a good sound system for the ceremony. Microphones can either be handheld, if the reader will be standing near the front, or attached to a podium. Make sure all your readers have a chance to practice with the microphone beforehand. It is important that your guests be able to hear these words you have worked so hard to find!
Important Moments It can be very empowering to include passages that have been an important part of your relationship already. Standing under their favorite tree, Cory and Amanda read e.e. cummings’ poems to each other as part of their vow exchange, poems they had given each other years before at a very significant time in their courtship. They were overcome with tears (as were many of us), as they read those emotional words from a time that was very powerful, now holding hands on their own wedding day. Love letters, or even early emails, can be very heartwarming to share as well. These are best read by the couple, or their officiant—it would be awkward to hear such personal words from friends or family. Find a passage that communicates on both
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a personal and universal level, so that your guests can learn from it, rather than feeling excluded by something too private. If you share a little of the story behind your choices, or your officiant does it for you, it helps to include your guests in your journey. Of course, only impart what you feel comfortable with; the wedding is generally a ritual of celebration, acknowledgment, and looking forward.
Blessings of Faith For couples whose faith is a significant part of their lives, readings from sacred texts are often central to the wedding. Many lesbian couples choose the biblical passage from Ruth, “And Ruth said (to Naomi), “Entreat me not to leave you or to return from following you; for where you go I will
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go, and where you lodge I will lodge; your people shall be my people, and your God my God…” Another passage that is often chosen, for couples of all walks of life, is I Corinthians: “Love is patient; love is kind…” This is always a lovely reading, but when I heard it read in an interfaith church service celebrating the one-year anniversary of the first legal same-sex weddings in Massachusetts, it took on a whole new, and incredibly powerful, meaning for me, especially this part: “(Love) does not insist on its own way… it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.” A strong reader, who knows what these passages mean to you, will be able to deliver them with the energy you wish. Prayers, offered either by your officiant, or by loved ones, certainly have a place in your spiritual ceremony; at the opening, before or after the vows, and at the end,
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are good times to pause and pray. The Jewish Seven Blessings, sheva b’rachot, have been adapted in many forms, and can be especially meaningful when read by friends and family to you at the end of the ceremony. This can be a gentle and tactful way to include step-parents or significant others as well, inviting each person to read one of the lines in turn. One of my favorite versions ends with the blessing, “May you be best friends, better together than either of you apart.”
Cultural Connections When partners come from different cultures or countries, your lives already contain the richness of these experiences. Your ceremony can honor this as well. Readings from favorite authors can be read in their native language, and then read in English if you wish. I suggest reading it in the native language first, and then having someone special follow with the translation.
You might also include both versions in a program, so people can follow along. Becca and Teresa included a South African prayer in their outdoor ceremony held at the Stevens Estate in North Andover, to acknowledge the years they had both spent in Africa (at the same time, but didn’t know each other yet!) A groom from Brazil was delighted when his mother agreed to read a passage in Portuguese at his wedding; his father had passed away just a few years before, and she brought his Bible from their hometown to read from at the ceremony.
Family Support When you have open support from your family for your celebration, it means so much. When Matt and Mike got married at Hamilton Hall in Salem last fall, they asked their brothers, with whom they are very close, to read, and both were excited. Mike’s brother read the enchanting poem called “Pathways,” by Rainer Maria Rilke,
Mike, Matt and Cindy share a laugh at words offered during their wedding in Salem. Photo: Margaret Singer Photography
and Matt’s brother searched and searched for the funny and perfect poem he adapted from “The Promise,” by Eileen Rafter, ending with: “’Do you think then, my love, we should marry - do you?’/’Yes, (he) said smiling, ‘I do.’’” The groundbreaking “Goodridge” decision by the Massachusetts Supreme Court is a favorite reading at same-sex weddings all over the country, but it took on even more significance at Becca and Teresa’s wedding when Becca’s grandmother opened the ceremony with it as an invocation. It was fantastic! There is so much honesty and integrity in this passage; for more focus and personalization, you can select the parts of it that speak to your own marriage and the journey to this big day for both of you. Simply have your reader introduce it as “excerpts from…” to be accurate.
Musical Choices When is a reading not a reading? When it’s a song! A vocal piece, classical or contemporary, can be an unforgettable part of your wedding. A beloved friend or family member with a beautiful voice would most likely be honored to perform for you. Do ask respectfully, rather than assume. Lyrics make wonderful spoken readings too – I have quoted Alicia Keyes, Nora Jones, Andrea Bocelli, and Hoagy Carmichael in ceremonies. It can be a nice connection to the processional song, or even a “teaser” for your first dance later!
And don’t overlook the possibility of doing a reading yourselves in the ceremony! One couple chose to offer “A Prayer for Friends” by Michael Leunig to their guests at the end of the ceremony, as their first words as husband and husband, thanking their friends and family for all their support.
Weave It All Together
There is a psychological order to ritual, which you and your officiant can use as a guide in placing your readings throughout your ceremony. Words about your history, passages that reflect your backgrounds, or poems read by your families all might come early in the ceremony, as they reference where you each have “come from.” As the focus shifts to your relationship together, more romantic readings about love and commitment help provide context for your own vows and promises. And blessings and wisdom about marriage are ideal at the end, sending you on your newly-married way! Favorite passages can also be woven throughout the ceremony, quoted in the words your officiant says for you, or incorporated into promise vows or ring vows, or be read as prayers or invocations. Your ceremony can be very much a reflection of your love, and your creative and thoughtful choice of passages that reflect your values will truly make your wedding your own. Cindy Matchett is a Celebrant licensed by the state of Massachusetts. She helps couples of all faiths and walks of life design personal and spiritual ceremonies to mark the major passages of their lives. For more information about Cindy and her ceremonies, visit her website at www.meaningfulweddings.com.
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Northeast/Mid-Atlantic - Top Vendors
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2010’s Top LGBT-serving Friendly Companies the Northeast & MidAtlantic Since 2000, it’s been our goal to screen wedding, home, travel & family-related businesses all across North America for you & your partner. After all, planning your wedding, dreaming about your vacation or meeting the unique needs of your growing family should be FUN, free from awkwardness and instead filled with moments of sincere respect and excitement. Remember, the categories listed here are general guidelines. Many of these businesses offer several services, so be sure to call them directly or visit their website. You won’t want to miss any fabulous details!
Bands, Musicians & DJs
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3 Way Street Sound If you bring the guests, we’ll bring the party! Serving: Philly, Wilmington, South Jersey, Main Line, Lancaster, Harrisburg, Reading (484) 432-0222 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.3waystreetsound.com
Ceresville Mansion Twenty-five riverside acres exchange vows in your own Mansion! 8529 Liberty Rd. Frederick, MD 21701 (301) 694-5111 email@example.com www.ceresville.com
Amaryllis Ensemble Elegant Classical Music for Your Day! Serving the Tri-State Area 229 Grove Avenue Verona, NJ 07044 (973) 857-7599 firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com www.amaryllisensemble.com
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Matt Ferrante and Modern Times Music for the Best of Times! Serving Pittsburgh, Eastern Ohio and Upper West Virginia 1170 Morningside Ave. Pittsburgh, PA 15206 (412) 362-5266 firstname.lastname@example.org www.mattferrante.com Orchestra of the Americas 2500+ repertoire of 70’s disco, dance, R&B, funk and salsa! Offices and locally-based versions in 16 major U.S. cities (800) 767-6997, toll-free (773) 334-1532, local info@BacchusGroup.com www.bacchusgroup.com/Americas.html Rittenhouse String Quartet and Ensembles PO Box 29405 Philadelphia, PA 19125 (215) 739-0713 RSQmusic@aol.com www.RSQ.com
Hilton Garden Inn Norwalk 560 Main Ave. Norwalk, CT 06851 (203) 523-4039 email@example.com www.norwalkhilton.com Hilton Garden Inn Staten Island Lorenzo’s Restaurant, Bar & Cabaret Nicotra’s Ballroom - Hampton Inn & Suites Your Perfect Destination Wedding: Elegant Ceremony & Reception, Rehearsal Dinner & so much more! 1100 South Avenue Staten Island, NY 10314 (718) 477-2100 www.NicotrasBallroom.com www.LorenzosDining.com Holiday Inn Albany Just the Place for You Serving Albany, Saratoga, Upstate NY 205 Wolf Road Albany, NY 12205 (518) 458-7264 x 482 (518) 458-7250 firstname.lastname@example.org www.hialbanywolf.com
Lessing’s Inc. Trust, Understanding & Commitment 398 Great River Rd. Great River, NY 11739 (631) 581-0022 email@example.com www.long-island-gay-marriage.com/ The Mansion Inn Are you dreaming of finding the perfect place? 801 Route 29 Rock City Falls, NY 12866 (518) 885-1607 firstname.lastname@example.org www.themansionsaratoga.com OHEKA Castle OHEKA Castle – Imagine the possibilities. 135 West Gate Drive Huntington, NY 11743 (631) 659-1400 email@example.com www.oheka.com Pond Restaurant Perfect Private Events in the Most Beautiful Setting on the Main Line 175 King of Prussia Rd. Radnor, PA 19087 (610) 293-9411 firstname.lastname@example.org www.pondrestaurant.com Renaissance Washington, DC Dupont Circle Hotel Sp-DC Joy. The ever after kind. 1143 New Hampshire Avenue NW Washington, DC 20037 (888) 803-1298, toll-free (202) 775-0800 ext 6807, Sales & Catering http://www.marriott.com/hotels/travel/wasrwrenaissance-washington-dc-dupont-circle-hotel/ Directory Key Host Sponsor of 2010 ‘Same Love, Same Rights’ LGBT Wedding Expo, produced by RainbowWeddingNetwork
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Northeast/Mid-Atlantic - Top Vendors Salem Waterfront Hotel Sp-MA The perfect boutique property to experience Your Big Moment! 225 Derby Street Salem, MA 01970-5145 (888) 33-SALEM, toll-free (978) 740-8788, direct email@example.com www.salemwaterfronthotel.com Seamens Inne at Mystic Seaport 105 Greenmanville Ave. Mystic, CT 06355 (860) 572-5305 firstname.lastname@example.org www.mysticseaport.org Sheraton Bucks County Hotel Sp-PA Inspiring Moments Begin Here... 400 Oxford Valley Road Langhorne, PA 19047 (215) 547-4100 http://www.starwoodhotels.com/sheraton/ property/overview/index.html?propertyID=674
Sheraton Parsippany Hotel You’ll be Pampered Like Royalty! 199 Smith Road Parsippany, NJ 07054 (973) 560-5158 (973) 560-5162 email@example.com www.sheraton.com/parsippany Sheraton Harborside Portsmouth Sp-NH Make your own history in ‘Historic Portsmouth!’ 250 Market Street Portsmouth, NH 03801 (603) 431-2300, Reservations (603) 559-2608, Catering www.sheratonportsmouth.com Westminster Hotel Serving: Essex, Morris and Bergen Counties 550 West Mount Pleasant Avenue Livingston, NJ 07039 (973) 548-0049 (973) 533-0600 firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com www.westminsterhotel.net www.theglaziergroup.com
B & Bs/Inns/Wedding Packages for Intimate Ceremonies Sparrow Hawk Bed & Breakfast 4496 Route 209 Stone Ridge, NY 12484 (845) 687-4492 firstname.lastname@example.org www.sparrowhawkaffaires.com Beverages Renault Winery 72 North Bremen Ave. Egg Harbor City, NJ 08215 (609) 965-2111 email@example.com www.renaultwinery.com Cakes & Bakeries Creative Cakes by Donna Creative and Unique Serving: Connecticut, Massachusetts, New York & Rhode Island P.O. Box 247 Haddam, CT 06438 (860) 345-8847 firstname.lastname@example.org www.cakesbydonna.com
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Event Consultants & Designers
Auletto Caterers Serving New Jersey, Pennsylvania & Delaware 1849 Cooper St. Almonesson, NJ 08096 (856) 227-3800 email@example.com www.Auletto.com
savvyplanners.com “A beautiful way to Celebrate” Teams in New Jersey, New York City, Pennsylvania, Los Angeles, Beverly Hills, San Francisco, Hawaii and Key West (732) 790-2605 firstname.lastname@example.org www.savvyplanners.com
Currier & Chives Exceptional Food, No Exceptions! 24 Main Street Maynard, MA 01754 (978) 897-3687 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com www.currier-chives.com Elements Fine Catering and Events Serving all of CT and surrounding areas (203) 706-0995 firstname.lastname@example.org www.elementsfinecatering.com Greenwich Tavern 1392 East Putnam Avenue Greenwich, CT 06870 (203) 698-9033 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org La Cuisine We Cook. You Eat. You Smile. We Smile. 750 East Main Street Branford, CT 06405 (203) 488-7100 email@example.com www.lacuisine.net Dance Instruction Start Dancing NYC Social ballroom & wedding dance instruction taught in your own home. Serving the New York Metropolitan Area & Northern New Jersey (646) 250-4507 firstname.lastname@example.org www.startdancingnyc.com Décor, Lighting & Special FX INTRIGUE - Floral Design & Décor Serving the Mid-Atlantic (Maryland, DC, Delaware, Virginia) 98 Edgewood Ave. Annapolis, MD 21401 (443) 362-0044 (443) 362-2345 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.intrigue-designs.com www.intrigue-designs.blogspot.com
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Northeast/Mid-Atlantic - Top Vendors Gifts, Favors & Keepsakes
American Institute for Cancer Research Wedding Favors for a Cause! 1759 R Street NW Washington, DC 20009 (202) 328-7226 firstname.lastname@example.org www.aicr.org/weddingfavors
Oasis Guest House Great walking location, living room available for small groups with notice. 22 Edgerly Road Boston, MA 02115-3007 (617) 267-2262, local (800) 230-0205, toll-free email@example.com www.oasisgh.com
Candles, Gifts & More, LLC Custom Candles & Personalized Gifts & Favors. No minimums! Service Nationwide (877) 239-0027, toll-free (636) 629-0027, local firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com www.candlesgiftsandmore.com Classic Studio Labels Personalized labels for Your Special Day 653 Wilton Grove Road West London, Ontario, Canada N5Z 1Y6 (877) 668-6160, toll-free firstname.lastname@example.org www.classicstudiolabels.com The Great Spirits Baking Company The Gift of Friendship. The Spirit of Giving. Serving Nationally 2 West 67th Street New York, NY 10023 (866) 530-2384, toll-free email@example.com www.thegreatspiritsbakingcompany.com Jubili Beads & Yarns Superb custom wedding party jewelry and related wedding accessory gifts. Serving Worldwide via e-commerce 713 Haddon Ave. Collingswood, NJ 08108 (856) 858-7844 firstname.lastname@example.org www.jubilibeadsandyarns.com TheMusicHouse.com, Inc. 938 Port Washington Blvd., Suite #1 Port Washington, NY 11050 (888) 884-2533, toll-free (516) 883-4433, local email@example.com www.TheMusicHouse.com PacificAlbums.com Photographic Wedding Albums Serving Nationwide 2161 Delaware Avenue Santa Cruz, CA 95060 (831) 476-2107 firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com www.pacificalbums.com www.bayphoto.com
Hotels & Resorts The Beacon Hotel & Corporate Quarter The perfect combination of stylish accommodations, service and ‘Absolute Hospitality!’ 1615 Rhode Island Ave. NW Washington, DC 20036 (202) 296-2100 firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com www.capitalhotelswdc.com/BeaconHotelWDC_com/ St. Gregory Luxury Hotel & Suites An Elegant And Welcoming Hotel That Complements Your Lifestyle 2033 M Street NW Washington, DC 20036 (202) 530-3600, St. Gregory (202) 530-3608, M Street Bar & Grill M.firstname.lastname@example.org p.Koucourek@MStreetBarAndGrill.com www.stgregoryhotelwdc.com www.MStreetBarAndGrill.com Jewelers Bellman’s Portsmouth, A Fine Jewelry Boutique Be dazzled today, Be dazzling tomorrow! 104 Congress Street Portsmouth, NH 03801 (603) 431-9050 (603) 431-9060 email@example.com www.bellmansportsmouth.com Harmony Jewelers (Hadley Center) 4949 Stelton Road South Plainfield, NJ 07080 (908) 756-5525 firstname.lastname@example.org Skouros Jewelers The right wedding band for the right commitment Serving Long Island 218 Lakeville Rd., Suite 1 Lake Success, NY 11020 (516) 482-1010 email@example.com www.gskouros.com
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Northeast/Mid-Atlantic - Top Vendors Zhaveri Caribbean Gems Breitling, TAGHeuer, Omega, Rado, Tissot, Ebel, MontBlanc, Guess, ChaseDurer, Citizen Serving Alaska, USA and the Caribbean 212 Front Street Ketchikan, AK 99901 (877) ZHAVERI (942-8374), toll-free firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com www.zhaveri.com www.caribgems.net Limousines All Over Town Limo & Formalwear Serving Philadelphia & New Jersey (856) 227-0018 firstname.lastname@example.org www.allovertownlimotux.com U.S. Open Limousines 98-17 Northern Blvd. Queens, NY 11369 (888) 917-2400, toll-free (718) 457-2418, local email@example.com www.usopenlimo.com Officiants/Places of Worship Church of Ancient Ways - Pastor April Gismondi Let your ceremony express your thanks, your joy, your happiness. Serving New York City & Long Island (516) 785-4191 firstname.lastname@example.org www.churchofancientways.org/commitment.html Unitarian Universalist Meeting House Dedicated to helping committed couples celebrate their relationships with joy & integrity! Commercial Street Provincetown, MA 02657 (508) 487-9259 (508) 487-9344 email@example.com www.uumh.org Photographers CB Photography Serving Worldwide! Based in Palmyra, VA (434) 589-9674 firstname.lastname@example.org www.cbphotography.com Fine Art Fotos & Videos Getting Married? Let’s have some fun! Based in Staten Island, NY (718) 273-2130 (917) 273-7883 fLINT@FineArtFotos.com fLINTfotos@yahoo.com www.weddingsByFlint.com www.fLINTfotos.BlogSpot.com
Grazier Photography Award-winning husband & wife team offering artistic documentary coverage. Based in Boston, Service Nationwide (617) 323-8718 email@example.com www.grazierphotography.com Heartprint Wedding, Event, & Portrait Photography Simply Timeless and Elegant Fashionable Custom Wedding & Event Photography Serving Connecticut, Massachusetts, Rhode Island, New York, Vermont 94 Valley Stream Lane Southbury, CT 06488 (203) 598-9718 firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com www.heartprintphotography.com www.heartprintphotography.com/events Pereda Photography Serving Northern Virginia (703) 496-7942 firstname.lastname@example.org www.peredaphotography.com Still Photo PORTRAITS, Events, Stories, Intimacies, Daily Life Serving New York, Massachusetts, Connecticut & Worldwide! (860) 596-4111 (860) 596-4332 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.patriciadecker.com Zorz Studios Exquisite blend of Romance and Edge Based in NYC (646) 873-8734; (718) 873-3100 email@example.com www.zorzstudios.com Travel Services All Points Vacations, LLC Let us take you away! Located in Wall, NJ Serving Nationwide! (732) 280-7015 firstname.lastname@example.org www.allpointsvacations.com Wedding Packages Ceresville Mansion Twenty-five riverside acres exchange vows in your own Mansion! 8529 Liberty Rd. Frederick, MD 21701 (301) 694-5111 email@example.com www.ceresville.com
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hy a destination wedding in Canada? Imagine, an entire country standing behind you & your partner, in upholding the validity of your marriage!
Other countries that currently offer same-gender marriage rights: The Netherlands Belgium Spain Norway South Africa Sweden Portugal
Wisconsin residents Jonathan Garber & Derek Tyus, married 6/2/2007 in Ontario
American couples flocked to cities like Montreal, Toronto and Vancouver once same-sex marriage was legalized in 2005... and today many still make the trip in order to experience the wonderful feeling of legitimization inherent in such a declaration of vows. But there are other benefits as well: even if your home-state in America does not recognize your Canadian nuptials, the fact that you & your partner did enter into a legally binding relationship does show intentionality, with regard to future children or assets or other possible circumstances that may arise. And, when same-sex marriage is legalized across the United States, the fact that you and your spouse married once in Canada will in fact become recognized here as well!
Legals & Logistics for Your Ceremony in Canada
The Vancouver skyline set against the towering North Shore Mountains gives perspective to the city’s unique geography. Photo: Tourism Vancouver / Andy Mons
Vancouver Your Intimate Wedding in
by Darryl Persello contributing writer
onsistently rated as one of the best cities in the world to visit, and in which to live –as well as the recent host of the 2010 Winter Olympic and Paralympic Games- we welcome you to visit Vancouver, Canada. … And why not get married while you’re at it?! -Not simply a domestic partnership, not a civil union, an actual marriage like every other couple in Canada regardless of their sexual orientation. Same sex legislation was passed in the province of British Columbia in July 2003. Since that time, thousands of same-sex couples have recited their marriage vows to one another in this fair city. And many are not residents of Vancouver. Many gay and straight couples see Vancouver as a place for their ‘destination’ wedding. Couples come from all over North America, Mexico, Europe, Australia and Asia to get married here.
So what does Vancouver have to offer? -A unique and innovative approach to nuptials which will surprise and delight you and ensure that when you leave this dynamic city, it will be with the intention of returning to repeat the pleasure of the experience. Do you want to marry on a snowy mountaintop or alongside the surf? Do you want to indulge your guests with a reception at the Aquarium, the Art Gallery, an elegant Mansion or a country Bed & Breakfast? It’s all possible in Vancouver. Where do you & your partner want to stay? High above the city in a penthouse overlooking the water, or tucked away in a mountain retreat where only the bears are witness to your celebration? You can do either… or both! Vancouver and the surrounding areas boast some of the most exquisitely beautiful scenery in the world. Add to that the abundance of gay-friendly hotels and B&Bs, with welcoming staff eager to cater to your every need…
and your Dream-Come-True is much more accessible than you may think! Need specific ideas for your wedding ceremony? Some couples prefer “traditional” and others lean toward the innovative. You can calmly walk down the aisle as a harp serenades or you can pledge your vows to one another as you jump out of a plane or plunge off a cliff with only a bungee cord attached to your ankles. Wedding cakes offer the same variety. Your cake can be a two tiered square with an elegant smooth fondant icing or instead you may delight in the idea of a three tiered oval cake set in the shape of a cascading fountain. The top of your delectable creation might be adorned with traditional soft rose petals or you & your partner may opt to send off your photos and have custom made resin figurines designed to resemble your sweetest moment. For those couples who have guests in attendance, you will want to make the
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▲ Tourism Vancouver / John Sinal
▲ Tourism Vancouver / Tom Ryan
As a destination, Vancouver offers a wide variety of activites that are sure to speak to the unique tastes of any couple or guest. Whether it’s a trip to the famous Robson Street Shopping District (above) hitting the slopes of Grouse Mountain or enjoying the peaceful serenity of whale-watching, you’re sure to find your niche.
experience memorable for them too. Remember, you’ll have the joy of taking home a spouse; guests need something to take home too! Consider having place cards and take home gifts even if the parties are intimate. It is a small token that acknowledges your friends and family, and their choice to come and lovingly support this important occasion. Chocolates remain the most popular takehome gift, and for international guests and newcomers to Vancouver, local delicacies like maple syrup, smoked salmon or Aboriginal crafts are a wonderful reminder of the journey. Monogrammed ribbon or boxes lend a memorable touch. It is wise to take into account the seasons… If you have always dreamt of an outdoor ceremony, it’s recommended that your event should be scheduled between June and September. And it’s always beneficial to have a “Plan B” (which may simply be a nice white tent) in case Mother Nature decides to shed tears of joy at your wedding!
can choose to spend your valuable time guessing about outcomes, but why bother when they can be guaranteed? The cost of a wedding planner is approximately 15-20% of the overall budget. Choose to be headachefree and dedicate your time to enjoying the city with your partner, rather than wondering if all will go smoothly. Leave the details to your planner and all you will have to think about is whether you should walk -or skip- down the aisle! Come see us soon! 2DQ - Two Dears and a Queer Wedding Planning Dedicated personal and professional wedding planners in Vancouver Canada. firstname.lastname@example.org www.twodearsandaqueer.com Phone: 604-306-1340
Now you may ask, “Why use a local wedding planner when we can make our own arrangements?” Easy Answer! Local professionals are familiar with the area, the vendors, and details that you and your partner might never even consider as an option. You
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RainbowWeddingNetwork proudly presents:
2010’s Top LGBT Friendly Companies -serving throughout Canada Since 2000, it’s been our goal to screen wedding, home, travel & family-related businesses all across North America for you & your partner. After all, planning your wedding, dreaming about your vacation or meeting the unique needs of your growing family should be FUN, free from awkwardness and instead filled with moments of sincere respect and excitement. Remember, the categories listed here are general guidelines. Many of these businesses offer several services, so be sure to call them directly or visit their website. You won’t want to miss any fabulous details!
Banquet & Event Facilities/Reception Sites The Lodge at Weir’s Beach Victoria’s premier destination for Weddings, Family Reunions & Group Vacations Serving North America & Europe 5195 William Head Road Victoria, British Columbia, Canada V9C 4H5 (888) 478-4761, toll-free (250) 478-5000, local email@example.com www.thelodgeatweirsbeach.com Oaks Bluff Lodge Weddings & Honeymoons - One of the most spectacular views in British Columbia. 5901 Pirates Rd. Pender Island, British Columbia Canada V0N 2M2 (866) 228-4397, toll-free (250) 884-6945, local firstname.lastname@example.org www.bcislandviews.com Event Consultants & Designers An English Rose Wedding & Event Planning Bringing a European Flair to Montreal Serving Montreal and surrounding areas Let us do the running around, while you sit back & make all the decisions! (514) 448-2480 email@example.com www.an-english-rose.com Gifts, Favors & Keepsakes American Institute for Cancer Research Wedding Favors for a Cause! 1759 R Street NW Washington, DC 20009 (202) 328-7226 firstname.lastname@example.org www.aicr.org/weddingfavors
Candles, Gifts & More, LLC Custom Candles & Personalized Gifts & Favors. No minimums! (877) 239-0027, toll-free (636) 629-0027, local email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.candlesgiftsandmore.com Classic Studio Labels Personalized labels for Your Special Day 653 Wilton Grove Road West London, Ontario, Canada N5Z 1Y6 (877) 668-6160, toll-free email@example.com www.classicstudiolabels.com The Great Spirits Baking Company The Gift of Friendship. The Spirit of Giving. Serving Internationally 2 West 67th Street New York, NY 10023 (866) 530-2384, toll-free firstname.lastname@example.org www.thegreatspiritsbakingcompany.com Jubili Beads & Yarns Superb custom wedding party jewelry and related wedding accessory gifts. Serving Worldwide via e-commerce 713 Haddon Ave. Collingswood, NJ 08108 (856) 858-7844 email@example.com www.jubilibeadsandyarns.com TheMusicHouse.com, Inc. 938 Port Washington Blvd., Suite #1 Port Washington, NY 11050 (888) 884-2533, toll-free (516) 883-4433, local firstname.lastname@example.org www.TheMusicHouse.com
PacificAlbums.com Photographic Wedding Albums 2161 Delaware Avenue Santa Cruz, CA 95060 (831) 476-2107 email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org www.pacificalbums.com www.bayphoto.com Honeymoon Getaways Shady Shores Beach Resort Beautiful Secluded Beachfront Resort and Log Home 6695 Island Hwy West Bowser, British Columbia, Canada V0R 1G0 (888) 863-4455, toll-free (250) 757-8595, local email@example.com www.shadyshoresbeachresort.com www.beachloghome.com Wedding Packages Toronto Gay Weddings Private Gay Weddings, Gay-friendly Accommodations, Downtown Toronto! 33 Beaty Avenue Toronto, Ontario Canada M6K3B3 (416) 536-1455 firstname.lastname@example.org www.torontogayweddings.com Victoria’s Mansion Guest House 68 Gloucester St. Toronto, Ontario, Canada M4Y 1L5 (416) 921-4625 email@example.com www.victoriasmansion.com
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