Real Weddings Adds Jonathan, “I didn’t know he was in a relationship at the time. He didn’t mention it.”
blossoms falling from the trees. We had a great dinner and talked all night long.”
After nearly a year had passed, Derek found his thoughts straying to the guest from the radio show. He was no longer involved, and considered looking up Jonathan once again. “But I hadn’t saved his number or anything. So I had to track him down. I looked for him on the internet… I had to do a bit of searching and then I found him and emailed.”
One characteristic that attracted Jonathan to Derek was his dedication to his family. Even today, the couple often visits Derek’s cousins or other family members on the weekends. “Even though he’s from a big city,” Jonathan remarks, “he has a family focus.”
Finally, as fate would have it, Derek and Jonathan met for their second meeting, and their first official date.
Getting to Know One Another… As it turned out, their date that evening was indeed romantic. Springtime in Madison, and the flowers were just beginning to bloom. “We walked through the university grounds,” Jonathan describes. “There were crabapple
“We do have our different cultures,” Derek adds. “Jonathan is from up north and he’s Jewish. I’m from Madison and I’m African American. Our experiences are a lot different.” Lightly, he continues, “I think you’re kind of a product of your upbringing in some ways. And Jonathan is very trusting and I get the impression that if a new neighbor moved into the town where he was raised, everybody would bake a pie... You know, they don’t lock their doors at night. Whereas where I grew up, here in Madison, you didn’t even know your neighbors.”
Despite their differences, as the men began dating what struck Derek about Jonathan was his outgoing personality, his depth and his sincerity. “He was different than other people,” Derek says. “Jonathan didn’t like the typical bar scene kind of thing... You know, so many others are just shallow – it’s about presentation and such. Things that are important to you at 20 just aren’t important to you at 40,” he adds with a chuckle. “And Jonathan wasn’t like anybody I’d ever met. He’s just genuine and has a way about him. I’ve never heard him say a bad thing about anyone. He complements some of the things I have weaknesses in... and I guess I’m a complement for him too. “People say you meet your significant other volunteering or doing something you like to do – and that’s actually how it happened for Jonathan and me.”