Northeast because it demonstrates an attempt to have a legal connection. This can provide protection that may be useful. Unfortunately you never know when you will need that protection. Courts in other states have acknowledged the legal connection of couples when they are making decisions. Of course, there are some people who have very compelling reasons not to become legally wed. We have found GLAD to be an excellent resource for couples who are wrestling with these questions. RWN: Are there any drawbacks to a destination wedding? GN: A destination wedding may not be the right decision for all couples because of the time and money involved. Friends and family may not be able to devote the time to come so the wedding may be smaller than if a couple married at home. On the other hand, when a destination wedding is the right fit, family and friends often welcome the opportunity to spend time with each other. Brides and their guests have reported to us that they have made memories that will last a lifetime. RWN: Obviously, the Highlands Inn has been an
established destination for lesbian travelers for decades now. What was your vision when you first bought the property back in the 1980’s? Has it grown to fulfill that vision, or have there been unexpected changes over the years? GN: My vision, when I opened the Highlands Inn in 1983, was to provide quality, comfortable hospitality to women and an alternative to the traditional “gay destinations.” I wanted women to not have to choose between women-only space and high-quality lodging. The many accolades from the travel industry and the many returning guests indicate that my efforts to fulfill that vision have been fruitful. As far as unexpected changes, I would not have envisioned the pervasiveness of the term “gayfriendly” and the scramble of the travel industry at large to attach that label to themselves. Travelers must be discriminating if they are interested in supporting those businesses that truly have the interest of the gay and lesbian community in mind. Because many businesses, particularly in travel and now in wedding-related businesses, think there is “money to be made” and are less interested in being truly welcoming as much
as they are interested in getting their piece of a “market.” RWN: Do you have insights or thoughts you would like to share regarding the LGBT community’s ongoing pursuit of marriage and family equality throughout the nation? GN: I think it is just a matter of time until marriage equality is the law of the land throughout the United States. As more couples from every state join legally it will become harder and harder to deny us our civil rights. We must all work together to help make that reality happen as soon as possible.
The Highlands Inn Grace Newman, owner P.O. Box 118 Bethlehem, NH 03574 (877) LES-B-INN (537-2466) firstname.lastname@example.org www.highlandsinn-nh.com
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