but for what I am when I am with you.” -Elizabeth Barrett Browning “If God had wanted me otherwise, He would have created me otherwise.” - Johann von Goethe “The Bible contains six admonishments to homosexuals and 362 admonishments to heterosexuals. That doesn’t mean that God doesn’t love heterosexuals. It’s just that they need more supervision.” -Jewish, lesbian comedian, Lynn Lavner
● Eclectic treats:
Set up a goody station with sweets from each country reflected in your heritage. Include little flags or description cards, so guests know the country of origin along with fun facts. Invite each guest to fill a bag with whatever global mix suits their fancy.
● Religious freedom:
If you are having a ceremony outside of the church/synagogue/mosque, you can incorporate elements from a variety of religions that may be represented in your heritage or your partner’s, or that are otherwise meaningful to the two of you. Consider including a reading from religious texts of two or three different
religions. If you aren’t sure where to begin, a nondenominational or Interfaith minister can usually make great suggestions. You might also consider incorporating a ritual from a tradition not directly represented by your heritage but that is symbolic to the two of you in some way—perhaps lighting a candle for each relative that has passed on, whom you would like to honor (as is often done in European cathedrals) or calling in the four directions as in the Native American tradition.
● Equal rights:
Your commitment ceremony doesn’t have to make a political statement, but it can be an opportunity to showcase what matters to you—in however broad or subtle a way as feels right to you. Work with LGBTQ friendly vendors. Ask specifics about their experience with same-sex unions, and their commitment to equality. How about inviting the local gay or women’s choir to perform at your wedding? Consider doing a theme of equality, incorporating homages to your favorite activists and politicians, or showcasing your
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