Décor included potted plants, which guests took home as gifts, and a caterer friend prepared a delectable array: prawns on ice with gourmet shrimp dip, skewered marinated beef and chicken with vegetables, bacon-wrapped grilled asparagus, sausage stuffed mushrooms, and a dark chocolate cake with red and black raspberries. Crayola and Carrie exchange vows before friends and family (May 10, 2009.)
Culinary delights at the reception (May 10, 2009.)
marriage, Carrie told Crayola this time it was her turn to ‘pop the question.’ “Later that day,” Carrie recalls, “when I least suspected it, she got down on one knee and said, ‘You are the love of my life and I want to be with you forever.’” Carrie replied, “Are you asking me to marry you?” When Crayola said ‘yes,’ Carrie said ‘yes’ too. The couple planned on an April 11 wedding, a second anniversary celebration, but because licenses weren’t issued until April 27, Crayola and Carrie -who has three children and two grandchildren- chose Mother’s Day instead.
Rev. Rich and Rohn Davenport, Iowa residents Rohn Rich and Rich Hendricks, pastor of Metropolitan Community Church of the Quad Cities (MCC QC), married on May 3, 2009 at the MCC Church. Rohn is an independent consultant for insurance companies and Rev. Rich is a full-time pastor, who says he has a deep interest in social justice issues. He is also a licensed Illinois attorney. Prior to their marriage, the couple had been committed to one another for nine years. Rohn and Rev. Rich met at Holy Covenant MCC in Hinsdale, Illinois. “I had met the pastor there,” Rev. Rich explains, “and asked if he knew of anyone who had space to rent, as I was moving from Mississippi to Chicago. The pastor suggested Rohn, and when I went over to his place we really clicked and the rest is history.” On the first anniversary
of their relationship, they exchanged rings in a private ceremony. In August 2004, Rev. Rich began officiating ceremonies himself. “I was contacted by my denomination to come to MCC QC to perform “I Do” ceremonies,” he explains. “Couples had applied for and been denied wedding licenses.” In response, they were organizing a series of non-legally-binding ceremonies, to bring attention to the issue. Rev. Rich continues, “They wanted to have lots of people attend their holy unions publicly to make a statement about the need for equality. Twenty-one couples were united in God’s Love during that weekend, and I performed 16 of the ceremonies. Twelve of them were held jointly at MCC QC.” During that time he realized how much he liked MCC QC, and since the Church needed a pastor, he applied. He and Rohn knew that when Iowa legalized same-gender marriage they would marry again, and when the announcement of legalization came, they knew when and where to wed. “When the Church began planning a special ceremony,” Rev. Rich explains, “we knew it was the right thing for us to do.” This historic event was to be a shared ceremony with seven other samegender couples from the Church. ●● cont’d
Rev. Rich married several couples on May 3, 2009 including Daren & Curtis, pictured with Rev. Rich (top middle) and Cara & Erin (top right.) Rev. Rich and partner Rohn (lower right) were also among the couples to tie-the-knot. After all the ceremonies were performed, couples joined in a group reception to celebrate the day (left vertical.) Photos: Cathy Bolkcam
The May 10 ceremony was all about spring, Carrie says. She chose a spring-patterned dress and Crayola wore light blue and white to reflect the theme. Their eleven-yearold granddaughter played piano and sang “Ave Maria,” and their officiant, Reverend Amy, read a Laguna Pueblo prayer the couple requested, stating “I add my breath to your breath, that our days may be long on this earth, that the days of our people may be long, that we shall be as one person, that we may finish our road together.” They exchanged the rings worn since their first ceremony in 2008, after a blessing from Reverend Amy.
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