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2049 Ridge Avenue | Evanston, IL 60201 847.475.5800 | www.cradle.org CHIEF EXECUTIVE OFFICER Julianne S. Tye, President
BOARD OF DIRECTORS Margarita E. Kellen, Chair James G. Connelly III, Vice Chair Anna M. Hajek, Vice Chair Stephen S. Cole, Secretary/Treasurer Caryn Rowe Africk Pamela F. Amos John K. Barth Richard C. Burnstine, M.D. Margaret A. Cartier Paula M. and John F. Dix, Jr. Therese K. Fauerbach Mary L. Fisch Raymond Grady Andrea I. Herchenbach Melville H. Ireland, Jr. Catherine C. Klettke John Salvatore Luce, Psy.D Lawrence G. Macy David E. Mason Janet S. McDonald Judith A. Muhlberg Priscilla A. Newman Elizabeth Parkinson Kevin J. Rochford Lawrence H. Rubly Thomas F. Ryan Robert E. Sargent Ardythe E. and Gale E. Sayers Barbara S. Sereda Beth Bronner Singer William R. Stasek Virginia L. Uhlenhop Griswold L. Ware
HONORARY DIRECTORS Margaret M. Adams Harold S. Bott, Jr. John L. Fairfield Joan S. and Stanley M. Freehling Jane and Allan Gunn Rose Ann and Addison C. Hoof Nancy M. and Charles F. Hovey, Jr. Margaret K. Mason Suzanne S. Meyer Aidan I. Mullett Mary T. and Michael E. Phenner William C. Rands III Corrine V. Reichert Jacqueline L. Schoellhorn Mary H. and Bernard F. Sergesketter Paul B. Uhlenhop
LATE SPRING 2008 06/09
CRADLE | Calendar
THE CRADLE CLASSIC GOLF TOURNAMENT Conway Farms Lake Forest 10:00 a.m. - 7:00 p.m. HOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN, WITHOUT LOSING YOURSELF Adoptive Parent Workshop* The Cradle, Evanston 6:30 – 8:30 p.m.
*Open to the community. Fee: $20 per person per workshop, $10 for second family member, non-refundable. Register online at www.cradle.org/ ed_workshops or by calling 847-733-3233
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A DAY AT THE RACES Arlington Park, Arlington Heights 12:30 – 5:00 p.m.
LAKE FOREST ANTIQUE AUTO SHOW Deerpath Middle School, Lake Forest 9:00 a.m. – 3:00 p.m.
THE CRADLE BALL The Ritz-Carlton, Chicago 6:00 – 11:00 p.m.
BEING A CONSPICUOUS FAMILY Adoptive Parent Workshop* The Cradle, Evanston 9:00 – 11:00 a.m.
The Foster family in the courtyard at The Cradle Open House on Sunday, May 4.
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A SPECIAL CONNECTION
To Cradle Cousins
ably the finest. They taught me to be proud of the fact that I was loved twice; once by the biological mom whose unselfish choice made it possible for them to become parents, and then loved the second time by The Cradle, who cared enough to place me in the home of my adoptive parents.
The DeVincent family at home in 1969
Deborah DeVincent recently posted her story on The Cradle’s online forum. It’s so moving that we wanted to share it with our extended Cradle family:
don’t know if the Cradle is still using the term “Cradle Cousins,” but my caseworker always referred to Cradle babies as “cousins.” Whether you find your family or not, we always have each other. I love being adopted. It is a wonderful thing to have been the beneficiary of so much love. My caseworker was Mae Golin. Mom and dad named me “Deborah May” so that I would feel a tie to Miss Golin, and a sense of family. She was a serious woman, as I recall, but I liked her a lot. I used to write to her when I was in elementary school, and she always replied. My parents admittedly were not the richest or even the smartest two people who ever came to The Cradle to ask for a baby. They were undeni-
Although I was born in February of 1960, I was not placed with mom and dad until July of that year. At the time, babies weighed 10 pounds before they were placed. In my case, I sense that the termination of parental rights may have been an extremely difficult decision for my birthparents, and perhaps there may have been some challenge with finding the right family for me. The nurses and staff at The Cradle were definitely my guardian angels on my birthmother’s behalf. Mom and dad knew shortly after they brought me home that something was wrong, because although I was attentive, smart, animated and expressive, my legs were limp. After examining me, the family doctor determined that I had what he called “some form of paralysis.” My parents’ hearts broke – for me, not for themselves. Although the adoption was not final, I was already a daughter, a grandchild, a niece, a cousin and a godchild, and a neighborhood favorite. Everyone cared. Everyone worried. Everyone was willing to step in to help. This is what a family is really all about. (Continued on page 2)
CRADLE Events THE CRADLE CLASSIC Monday, June 9, 2008 Conway Farms Golf Club, Lake Forest
A DAY AT THE RACES Sunday, June 29, 2008 Arlington Park, Arlington Heights
LAKE FOREST ANTIQUE AUTO SHOW Sunday, July 20, 2008 Deerpath Middle School, Lake Forest
THE CRADLE BALL Saturday, September 27, 2008 The Ritz-Carlton, Chicago
David and Vanessa Schweihs are thrilled to be taking their son Nicholas home on May 1.
The Cradle's m ission is to benefit ting choices. children... by providing education, guidance and life-long support on paren ies. Our commitment is to ser ve as a partner in creating and sustaining nurturing famil
MESSAGE FROM THE PRESIDENT Dear Friends, For those of us who live and work in the Chicago area, spring has been a long time coming – a very long time. And yet, the seemingly endless winter months were marked by an abundance of new life and a flurry of activity at The Cradle. The most obvious example of this can be seen in The Cradle Nursery, where the dramatic spike in Nursery admissions that began last fall shows no sign of diminishing. The total number of infants admitted to the Nursery in 2007 was 98. In the first six months of our 2008 fiscal year, we had already provided care for 78 babies. With a census of between 10 and 15 babies on any given day, the Nursery is literally hopping. We are grateful to our nurses, infant aides and Cuddlers for being flexible and taking on extra shifts as needed to meet the challenge of caring for so many babies. Placements in our domestic adoption program have exceeded projections as well. By the end of the second quarter, 58 domestic placements and home studies had been completed, including 24 babies placed through the Sayers Center. Our Cradle Russia program is also flourishing. Fifteen adoptions have been finalized this year to date and interest in the program remains consistently strong. The Cradle Foundation has entered its major event season, with a variety of spring and summer offerings designed to appeal to a broad audience and raise critical funds for Cradle programs and services. Like the advent of spring, recent developments at The Cradle are signs of renewal – a continual growth of the organization and “blossoming” of new families. Warmest regards,
Julie S. Tye
CRADLE COUSINS, from page 1 We were referred to the 1960’s “god” of pediatric neurology, and waited six months for the appointment and diagnosis: mild cerebral palsy. I weighed only three pounds at birth. This was a post birth trauma, typical of premature babies. I had also been a twin, but my twin died on the day of our birth. What an ordeal for a birthmother – two babies, one death and a premature daughter. She had to be a wonderful woman. My dad was quick to state that they were blessed with me. I’m lucky to have been a special needs child, and luckier to have been a special needs adoption. My mother had an invalid, bedridden father and an aunt who acquired polio as a young child. She grew up helping her aunt. We walked to my grandma’s daily, so that mom could visit grandpa and sometimes feed him lunch. Our extended family embraced these issues. My half leg braces and physical therapy were ornaments and games, never burdens to anyone on either side of my family. Today, I am not at all modest about the fact that my parents did an excellent job. I have always been an outstanding student. Mom and dad said I “owned my brains because of blood.” My handicap turned out to be a “non-issue.” It was tough when I was a young child, but with the love of my family, the care of physicians, and the nurturing of nuns at Trinity High School, I found the beauty within myself to marry, the courage to divorce, and the time to pursue and finish my education at Harvard, where I am now a student, at 48 years old. I look forward to practicing law. During my marriage I gave birth to three beautiful children. Mary Catherine Rose is almost 27 years old, Rosemarie Ann is 25, and Neil Peter is 22. The greatest joy of my life was naming my children after my parents. I see what my twin brother might have looked like in my son. My sister Darlene, adopted from The Cradle in 1962, married and had two sons. The younger became deaf as a result of meningitis, further proving that our family is designated by God as a place for children with special needs. We lost mom 13 years ago to breast cancer. The street where my dad still lives, where Miss Golin visited, is now named in honor of my mother. I have been blessed with my first grandchild. Her name is Sophia, after my birthmother, whom I have never met. Every one of my Cradle Cousins is fortunate, but none more fortunate than I have been.
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NOTEWORTHY THE CRADLE RECEIVES HAGUE ACCREDITATION! The Hague Convention is an international treaty formulated in 2000 to ensure that intercountry adoptions are in the best interests of children, and to prevent the exploitation or trafficking of children. Under this treaty, agencies and persons providing adoption services in cases involving Convention countries are required to be accredited or approved. On February 15, 2006, the U.S. Department of State issued the final rules (Hague Regulations) that govern the accreditation and approval process. The Cradle received e-mail notification on February 29, 2008 that we had received formal accreditation. Richard Klarberg, President and CEO of the Council on Accreditation, wrote in his message that “The Cradle’s achievement of Hague Accreditation demonstrates [our] commitment to the children and families [we] serve both here and abroad.”
NATIONAL NURSES WEEK National Nurses Week is celebrated each year from May 6th to May 12th, Florence Nightingale’s birthday. This year’s theme, “Nurses: Making a Difference Every Day” perfectly epitomizes the contributions of our own Nursery staff. In honor of Nurses Week, and in light of our continuing “baby boom,” we would like to take this opportunity to recognize the loving and devoted service of Cradle nurses and infant aides, who take such exceptional care of our Cradle babies.
NEW FROM ALP
POST ADOPTION WORKSHOPS Open to the Community HOW
TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILD, WITHOUT LOSING YOURSELF Wednesday, June 18, 2008, 6:30 to 8:30 p.m. The Cradle, Evanston Sometimes a child’s misbehavior is more than just defiance. This workshop is about trying to understand your child’s behavior and different ways to approach it. Parents will learn techniques to discipline in ways that build empathy and responsibility in their children. Guest speaker Kay Holler, LCSW, is a therapist in private practice and an adoptive parent.
BEING A CONSPICUOUS FAMILY Saturday, October 18, 2008, 9:00 to 11:00 a.m. The Cradle, Evanston In adoptive families, parents and children often don’t look alike. In addition to questions, comments or even stares from other people, your child may experience prejudice. It is important to consider how you will respond to different situations over time and how you can support your child. You will have the opportunity to share your experiences and talk with other adoptive families about navigating these issues. This workshop will be moderated by a panel of parents who adopted transracially. Fees: $20 per person per workshop, $10 for second family member, non-refundable. Register online at www.cradle.org/ ed_workshops.html or by calling 847.733.3233.
In May, Adoption Learning Partners (ALP) began hosting the online course, “From Foster Family to Forever Family,” created by the National Adoption Center. The Center’s mission is to expand adoption opportunities for children living in foster care throughout the United States, and to serve as a resource to families and agencies who seek the permanency of caring homes for children (www.adopt.org). The Cradle is thrilled to be partnering with other child welfare organizations through ALP to expand our online educational offerings.
FOUNDATION BRIEFS $45,000 IN SIRAGUSA SCHOLARSHIPS AWARDED The Siragusa Scholarship Committee met at The Cradle on February 7 and awarded grants totaling $45,000 to 52 Cradle families who have children with special needs – the largest number of scholarships awarded since the program was launched eight years ago. We are extremely grateful to The Siragusa Foundation for making this program possible, and to the Topfer Family Foundation for granting The Cradle additional funds for the scholarship program since 2006. These scholarships support a wide range of needs including psychological assessments, specialized equipment, respite care and physical, occupational, speech and equine therapy. Left: A section of the lovely thank you note written by eight-year-old Elizabeth Brookfield, whose family received a 2008 scholarship.
ROCK-A-BABY FUND SURPASSES GOAL As most Cradle Cuddlers will attest, the rocking chairs in the Nursery have grown quite creaky and uncomfortable through constant use. Thanks to this dedicated and generous group of volunteers, however, the Nursery will have a new set of rockers. The Rock-a-Baby Fund drive was launched in March and spearheaded by longtime Cuddler Sheila Patt, with a goal of $5,000 to purchase ten new rocking chairs. Cuddlers were asked to contribute $25 each; a gift of $500 would cover the cost of one chair and offer the donor the opportunity to have a small plaque affixed to the back of the chair. By April 30th, this special appeal had brought in $6,400! The rocking chairs will be custom ordered to meet Nursery specifications, and will have ample padding for extra comfort! Left: It’s time to update the rocking chairs in the Nursery!
SUPERVALU SUPPORTS THE CRADLE For the second year, the SUPERVALU Foundation made a generous contribution to The Cradle through the company’s “Chip in, it’s for the kids…” fundraising effort. Minneapolis-based SUPERVALU is one of the nation’s largest retail grocery chains. The “Chip in” initiative, launched in 2007 by SUPERVALU associates who work in the company’s IT departments, raises funds for child welfare and adoption agencies across the country through associate donations, which SUPERVALU Inc. matches. Left: SUPERVALU Senior Vice President and Chief Information Officer Paul Singer (also an adoptive dad) presents Julie Tye with a check at a ceremony in Chicago on April 22nd.
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RETURN OF | The "A&P" Twins
Above: From left, Cradle babies Alan, Karen and Peter Booth in 1946. Right: Peter and Alan Booth visit The Cradle on April 18, 2008.
CRADLE VOLUNTEERS Help in so Many Ways In every corner of The Cradle, signs of our volunteers’ dedication can be seen. On a typical day, adoptive parents and birthparents gather in a meeting room as they prepare to take part in an “Adoption 101” presentation. In another room, event volunteers meet to plan a Cradle fundraiser. On the third floor, Cuddlers feed and comfort the babies in our Nursery. In the Foundation offices, student volunteers complete a mailing project. Beyond the walls of The Cradle, additional volunteers contribute their skills and service. In a high school classroom, a speaker with Volunteers for Adoption Education provides students with vital facts. On a busy expressway, a volunteer driver takes a pregnant woman to a medical appointment. In a Chicago office building, a Finance Committee member reviews an investment report. Each April, National Volunteer Appreciation Month, we pause to thank the more than 500 volunteers who assist The Cradle each year. If you would like to get involved, please contact Lynne Firestone, Volunteer Coordinator, at 847.733.3229, or firstname.lastname@example.org.
lan and Peter Booth are twin brothers who were born on February 28, 1943 and placed later that year with their adoptive parents, Mary and Jack Booth of Danbury, Connecticut. In celebration of their 65th birthday, they decided to pay a visit to The Cradle in April – the first time they’d been back since their adoption. Peter, who is a few minutes older than Alan, was a community hospital CEO in Maine for over 30 years and resides in Kennebunk. Alan is a retired executive of the Owens Corning Fiberglas Corp. and lives in Tucson, Arizona. Their sister Karen Booth Hutchison, adopted from The Cradle in 1944, lives in Travelers Rest, South Carolina. Between the three siblings, there are 8 daughters, 2 sons, 7 grandsons, 2 granddaughters and 2 grandchildren to be born this summer. Following the brothers’ visit, Peter wrote, “Returning to The Cradle was the high point our birthday reunion in Chicago. We were reminded of how blessed we were to have had birth parents and adoptive parents who loved us and cared greatly about our well-being. How fortunate for the parents and children that The Cradle is there for them at a most important time in their lives. The Cradle and Mrs. Walrath certainly contributed positively to a happy start in life for Alan and Peter Booth!”
Celebrating 85 Years of Placing Children First
SUMMER EVENTS I Something for Everyone Whether you’re a golfer, a horse racing enthusiast, an antique car buff, or someone who simply enjoys a good party, The Cradle Foundation has an event for you. This summer we are offering a variety of fun-filled events that generate essential support for The Cradle. We hope that you will join us for one or more of these exceptional outings: THE CRADLE CLASSIC: Our 8th annual golf tournament will be held on Monday, June 9th from 10 a.m. to 7 p.m. at Conway Farms Golf Club in Lake Forest. More than 100 golfers turn out for a great day including lunch, 18 holes on an award-winning course, challenging contests with fabulous prizes, a raffle, silent auction and post-tournament reception. This year, legendary Chicago Bears running back and Cradle dad Gale Sayers plans to tee off with us in support of adoption. Tickets are $600 per golfer; $100 for the reception only.
A DAY AT THE RACES: This family-friendly event, also in its 8th year, offers guests of all ages an exciting afternoon of horse racing and more at Arlington Park. Parents will enjoy a gourmet lunch buffet before placing their bets or bidding on terrific auction items, while the little ones sample from the children’s buffet or participate in Kids’ Corner activities. The event will take place on Sunday, June 29th from 12:30 to 5:00 p.m. Tickets are $80 per person and $40 for children ages 4-11 (no charge for children 3 and under).
LAKE FOREST ANTIQUE AUTO SHOW: Hosted by the Lake Forest/Lake Bluff Rotary Club, with proceeds benefiting The Cradle, the Antique Auto Show will be held on Sunday, July 20th from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. at Deerpath Middle School in Lake Forest. See article below for further details. To learn more about Cradle Foundation events, call 847.733.3234 or go to www.cradle.org.
60TH ANNUAL LAKE FOREST I Antique Auto Show The Lake Forest/Lake Bluff Rotary Club is gearing up for its annual Lake Forest Antique Auto Show on Sunday, July 20th, with proceeds to benefit The Cradle. This premier family summer entertainment is hosted by the 70 member local Rotary Club in partnership with the Illinois Region of the Antique Automobile Club of America. Now in its 60th year, the Antique Auto Show features classic vehicles and vintage sports cars with models from 1946 to 1983. The crown jewel of this event will be a rarely-displayed “Car of Tomorrow,” a Tucker sedan from 1948. The Auto Show will be held at Deerpath Middle School in Lake Forest, and runs from 9:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. General admission is $10.00.
The Cradle is honored to have been selected by the Lake Forest/Lake Bluff Rotary as the beneficiary of funds raised at the Antique Auto Show. These funds will be used to purchase new cribs for our onsite Nursery, which has been sheltering and nurturing Cradle babies since 1923. We are delighted that The Cradle’s 85th anniversary coincides with the 60th anniversary of the Lake Forest Antique Auto Show, and that we are partnering with Rotary this year to celebrate these milestones while benefiting children. For more information about the Antique Auto Show, visit www.lakeforestcarshow.com.
Rotary, whose motto is “Service Above Self,” is an international organization of business and professional leaders united worldwide who provide humanitarian service, encourage high ethical standards in all vocations, and help build goodwill and peace in the world.
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A NIGHT OF PROMISE I Celebrates Russian Culture
wo key elements of Russian culture – music and food – were highlighted at the third annual Night of Promise, “Borscht & Balalaikas,” held on Saturday, April 26 at Abt Electronics in Glenview. Co-sponsored by The Cradle Foundation and the Cradle Cares Humanitarian Aid Program, A Night of Promise raises funds to support children living in orphanages in Russia. More than 160 guests gathered in Abt’s spacious atrium to sip on signature cocktails, bid on artwork created by children in Russian orphanages and listen to Russian music. Golosá, a Russian folk choir based at the University of Chicago, performed sacred and secular Russian folk songs a capella. Russian music and song ensemble Chicago Cossacks played traditional musical instruments including the domra, balalaika and bayan. Nine of Chicagoland’s top chefs – all of whom donated their time and talent to our event – stationed themselves in the model kitchens ringing the atrium and prepared a delectable variety of dishes, including Russian favorites such as beef stroganoff, blini with caviar and borscht with pelmeni dumplings. At the end of the evening, each guest took home a goody bag that included a booklet of recipes and description of Russian folk customs prepared by Cradle Cares committee member Janet McDonald, along with an assortment of sumptuous Russian candy donated by Janet. Since the founding of Cradle Cares in 2004, the group has raised more than $70,000 in direct aid to Russian orphanages for the purchase of day-to-day essentials such as cribs, medication, space heaters, fire escapes and updated plumbing. Last year, a grant from Cradle Cares enabled an orphanage in Nizhny Novgorod to acquire a van to transport the children safely to doctor and court visits. Thanks to the generosity and hard work of everyone involved with our 2008 Night of Promise, the evening raised $17,000 for the Cradle Cares program. We are very grateful to Abt Electronics for donating such a wonderful space for this event, and for extending a discount to our guests who made purchases that night. We would also like to recognize event chair Matt Zagorski and the Night of Promise committee, as well as our volunteer chefs, whose commitment made the evening a success. To our generous sponsors and silent auction donors, we offer our sincere appreciation.
Top: Russia adoptive parents Scott and Nicole Olsen and Brandi Talaga, also a Night of Promise committee member, enjoy the festivities. Above: Northshore Cookery of Highland Park set up their station in this pretty Abt kitchen for the night.