12 Simple Steps To Loving Life
peace with our past. We don’t want history repeating itself or coming back to haunt us. In this Step, we identify our mistakes and learn from them. We see patterns in our behavior manifesting from childhood and can recognize why we act. When we are burdened by yesterday, we are crippled from creating the futures we desire and deserve today. We clear the slate by taking Step 4. We begin by identifying the trials in our lives we need to reconsider and reevaluate. We list every slight issue, imagined or otherwise, causing us discomfort. We document all ill will, misgivings, and confusion we cling to. It matters. We list our regrets, embarrassing and shameful memories, people we are angry with, and things we’ve never forgiven or gotten over. Notate every life event that stirs an emotional response so we can take a closer look. It helps to see things in black and white. The Big Book suggests we make a three column list: the first column is of whom or what we are resentful toward, the second is why, and the third is how it
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