WRITTEN BY STAR BOBATOON, ESQ.
is necessary so that we can do the things that need to be done. I don’t deny the necessity of the mask; the mask has its place. But after a while the question becomes, “Are you controlling it or is it controlling you?” In his book A New Earth: Awakening Your Life’s Purpose, Eckhart Tolle – a German-born writer and teacher whose writings in the areas of spirituality and psychology have touched millions – says, “What we fight, we strengthen; what we resist, persists.” The very thing we try to ignore, hide, or push away is the very thing that stays with us the longest and affects us most deeply. It not only stays with us, it impacts our thoughts and feelings, dictating our actions and reactions. The closer negative emotions come to the surface, the more we fight them, and the more we fight them, the stronger they become. Why do we fight so desperately to keep our emotions at bay? We fear if we let our emotions show for even just a moment, they may take control of us, and we will lose our minds and perhaps our hearts. We all know that uncontrolled emotions can run rampant and lead us astray. We can imagine the man who flies off the handle at the slightest provocation, or the woman who completely falls apart and can’t function. And so we resist – believing that if we let our emotions out, we risk losing control and becoming one of those irrational, ineffective people. We, therefore, wall up our emotions and call ourselves functioning. We may well be functioning, but at what cost? Our feelings and emotions have us so tightly wound up at times it seems as if there is no space to breathe. It’s a constant battle, a draining and tiring battle, which, if left unchecked, can become dangerous to our health. As Tolle explains, when we refuse to face the harsh negative emotions we have inside, we don’t get rid of them – a remnant of pain always remains. It remains and grows larger. With every unexpressed emotion that we feel, the pain inside grows larger and more taxing on our immune system and our spirit. One way to relieve that pressure is to simply acknowledge the negative emotions that exist. We can take a moment to squarely face what we sometimes feel toward the uninvited diseases that show up in our lives; and, by doing so, we begin the journey toward healing.
Published on Jun 7, 2011
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