Stepping into the Next Chapter of Life
Nature's Gift for the Senses
Lavender Oil Uses and Health Benefits
You are never too old for a
Want a More Youthful Complexion? Don't skip this step in your skin care routine
LIFESTYLE | WELLNESS | FASHION | BEAUTY | INSPIRATION
SUMMER 2017 19
Let the lazy days of summer begin!
Resilientista, The hottest season is upon us, and while work and every day to dos continue on, it's at more relaxed and acceptable slower pace. As a child I recall the summer feeling endless, but as the years flip by it seems there isn't enough time to squeeze in all that summer has to offer. What I have found really useful is compiling a summer bucket list and tacking it up where I will see it regularly as a reminder of the activities I hope to do and when they will be occurring (if it is date specific like a concert, play, festival etc). Â When I think summer, visions of lavender fields begin to dance in my head - one day I hope to experience the fields of Provence first hand. Until then, I have discovered many local lavender farms - that help fill the dream. One of my favourite isÂ Terre Bleu Lavender Farm in Campbellville, ON about an hour or so west of Toronto. You know I'll be going back this summer for the lavender ice cream it's that good! If like me you are dreaming of the lavender fields and a trip to France is a little ways off - why not find a lavender field close by. Lavender has many uses and health benefits, check out our feature contributor Julie Baumlisberger's article on all things lavender (pg. 4) Looking to spice up your summer? Well you are never too old for a summer fling (pg. 6) or check out the 3 super foods that you should be including through the summer months (pg. 11) Enjoy your summer lovelies! Until next time, Take Care of YOU!
You are never too old for a
This Skin Care Step for a Youthful Complexion
Lavender Nature's Gift Julie Baumlisberger
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Summer ... Season of Development Debra Jones
Resilientista Summer Reads
Summer - the Season of Fire
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Editor's Note Home & Garden Food & Drink Open Up & Inspire Angel Messages - Jennifer Cobb
Meet the Resilientista Contributors Let's Connect
3 Super Summer Foods
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Bluenote; gypsy shirt - Banana Republic : lavender icecream - Terre Bleu Lavender Farm
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Nature's Gift for the senses !
By Julie Baumlisberger
Lavender essential oil is a steam distillation of the flowers, harvested at their peak. Some of the best lavender in the world is grown in the Mediterranean climates of France and Bulgaria. Lavender. The very word conjures up an unmistakable aroma. Lavender means "to wash" in Latin, and the plant was used by the ancient Egyptians and Romans for everything from bathing, relaxation, cooking and perfume. Dried flower buds can be used for aromatic sachets, but it is the essential oil that has the most therapeutic properties. Lavender essential oil is a steam distillation of the flowers, harvested at their peak. Some of the best lavender in the world is grown in the Mediterranean climates of France and Bulgaria. Essential oils can be used in three different ways: aromatically, topically and ingested (if they have been rigorously tested and approved for internal use). Diffusing Lavender or making a linen spray with Lavender oil and distilled water is a beautiful way to promote a good night's sleep. Try putting a drop of Lavender oil on the bottoms of your feet or on your big toe before turning in for the night...try it, it works like a charm for me! Adding a drop or two to an herbal tea in the evening will also have a calming effect. Headaches and other minor discomforts can often be soothed by applying the oil, diluted in a carrier oil, to the temples, back of neck, or shoulders. Young crying babies may be comforted by applying a single drop of oil to your own clothing, where they can enjoy its aroma. 4
Another therapeutic way to use Lavender oil is for mild skin irritations. Use it on minor cuts, wounds and blisters to comfort, cleanse and promote healthy healing. I love using it in the kitchen for minor burns. Did you know that Lavender is a natural bug repellent? Simply add a few drops to an unscented lotion or a carrier oil. Otherwise, make a spray using a combination of Lavender and some Eucalyptus or Lemongrass, for more efficacy. So much safer to use on your children and pets than chemical-laden alternatives. Just remember to reapply every few hours.
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Hand Scrub Summertime means work in the gardens for me, and my hands always need some pampering at the end of the day. To make a simple
Spray A sun-soothing spray is easy to make up with 8 drops each of Lavender, Melaleuca and Peppermint, with 1 cup of Aloe Vera juice, 1/4 cup carrier oil and a teaspoon of Vitamin E in a spray bottle. Shake and apply as needed.
Mix 1 ½ cups of Epsom Salt, sea salt, or sugar with 1 cup almond oil, 20 drops Lavender essential oil, and 3–5 teaspoons vitamin E oil in a bowl. Place in a container with a tight fitting lid. Massage about a teaspoon of scrub into hands, then rinse lightly. Your hands will feel so soft.....and smell wonderful! Culinary Delights And I would be remiss if I didn't mention Lavender's delightful culinary uses! Add 1 to 2 drops to your next batch of shortbread cookies, or make your own Lavender Honey Butter: Mash together a 1/4 cup stick of softened butter with 1 drop of Lavender essential oil, ½ teaspoon vanilla, and 2–3 tablespoons of honey. I now add 2 to 3 drops of Lavender oil to my home made blueberry jam. The fragrance is amazing! (Again, please make sure that you are using an oil that is labelled to be safe for internal use. NOT all oils are created equally!)
Julie Baumlisberger is a Premier Wellness Advocate with doTERRA Essential Oils, and a Reiki Master Practitioner and Teacher. She believes passionately in supporting mind, body and spirit through a holistic approach and offers, Reiki, Aromatouch sessions, and Indian Head Massage at her homebased practice. Julie offers classes and workshops regularly, in addition to personal wellness consults. Julie and her family are the proud makers of Field Fresh Feeds, a non-GMO, non-soybean line of healthy animal feeds. Essential oils and Reiki are intrinsic to her family's health and an important part of their wellness routine!
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A Summer Fling! You are never too old!
By Sandy O'Shea Am I suggesting an extra-marital affair? Of course not. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have a summer fling with your significant other, a friend or a stranger. Summer flings aren’t just for the 20-something my dear Resilientista. They are for any woman who wants to add a little spice to their sex life.
Maybe you’re happily married but your sex life is a little … well … lackluster. You’ve been together a while and things are predictable. I have some suggestions for you. Outdoor sex is one of the best ways to add an element of danger and excitement into what is a safe relationship. Whether it’s in your own backyard, at the beach late at night or on a country road in the middle of the day, outdoor sex can certainly rev up a comfortable sex life.
Is there someone you know and you’ve had your eye on for a while but have been afraid to approach? Maybe they feel the same way and they’re afraid to approach you too. Why not put your high heels on and walk on over to that person and let them know that you are definitely interested in pursuing something with them? Fear keeps us from experiencing so much richness in our lives. Feel the fear … but do it anyway. And whether it’s a one-time thing or it develops into something longer term, at least you pursued something you really want. What about a stranger who catches your eye? Go over and talk to them. Get to know them a little. Maybe they’re worth pursuing, maybe not. Again you’ll never know unless you ask. There’s nothing wrong with a one-night stand with a stranger. Just make sure you play it safe with condoms and a good, healthy lube.
Toys are a great addition to your repertoire. Whether it’s a vibrator, dildo, handcuffs or nipple clamps, they add another element that is absent during our day-to-day life and can add an extra spark to your sex life. The possibilities are endless. Watch porn together. It just might give you some ideas on new positions to try. If it’s the first time you’ve watched porn together, you might be a little uncomfortable and that’s okay. That’s how we experience new things, by stepping out of our comfort zones. You can talk about what you’d like to try and what you can’t see yourself every doing. But I encourage you not to put too limits on yourself. Sometimes the thing we say “no way in hell to” ends up being the thing we love if we give it a chance.
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Talk about your fantasies. Whether you want to act on them one day or not is irrelevant. Just be clear to your partner whether these are simply fantasies or something you’d like to pursue with them one day. Fantasies range from sex with someone of the same sex, a threesome, bondage, submission or domination and so much more. Don’t fight your fantasies …. Let them come ;) You never know where they’ll take you. Sex is something many women are afraid to open up about. I understand. We’ve been conditioned to think that sex is something we HAVE to do rather than GET to do. If men can enjoy it just for the sake of enjoyment, then why the heck can’t women? Let yourself go … you might be amazed at the experience. “Yeah, that’s great Sandy but I’m so dry and sex hurts and my libido sucks.” That’s where lube and practice, practice, practice comes in. The old saying “if you don’t use it, you lose it” is so true. There are so many health benefits to having sex, even if it’s by yourself. Orgasms release endorphins and make you feel good, and really, who doesn’t want to be a happy woman!
"If men can enjoy it just for the sake of enjoyment, then why the heck can’t women? Let yourself go … you might be amazed at the experience."
So take the bull by the horns, step into your sexual power and have a summer fling.
Sandy O'’Shea is a certified holistic nutritionist with a focus on sexual wellness through hormone balancing and nutrition. Sandy is on a mission to motivate and inspire women to attain greater health and well being, through both online programs and individualized in-person programs. Passionate about helping women improve their sex lives through nutrition, Sandy’s consulting practice is located in Ajax, Ontario. Consultations are also available via Skype.
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Summer ... the season of development! "Summer, after all, is a time when wonderful things can happen to quiet people. For those few months, you're not required to be who everyone thinks you are, and that cut-grass smell in the air and the chance to dive into the deep end of a pool give you a courage you don't have the rest of the year. You can be grateful and easy, with no eyes on you, and no past. Summer just opens the door and lets you out." ―Deb Caletti By Debra Jones While Spring was the season of new beginnings, Summer’s energy is more stable and the time to focus on developing the plans we made in the Spring. Attuning your life to the seasons means that you can harness the intrinsic energies of each season to help you evolve naturally. Perhaps in the Spring, you intended to find your life’s work that is alignment with your soul’s path.
Action upon your New Year Resolutions or New Moon Wishes NOW!
In Summer, you need to take action to accumulate the necessary information to determine if there are existing jobs or businesses that match your job description or to create your own business. It’s a good time to talk to people who are already doing this work, or trained to help you get into this career. By talking to these people, you’ll discover and assess any obstacles in your way. This will allow you to create a strategy to work around these obstacles, or create a contingency plan.
The quiet, YIN energy of Winter was gently woken in Spring - like the emerging shoot of a young plant breaking through to the light.
Cosmic Support We have additional support in manifesting our desires every month too! The perpetual cycles of the moon are another way to align with nature. Every New Moon harnesses the energy of new beginnings and anything initiated, or planted, on the days surrounding the New Moon will be met with rapid growth; a business venture, a relationship, a creative project. You decide.
Now that we’ve moved into Summer, the vibrant YANG energies are alive and support finding ways to bring our wishes, dreams and desires to fruition – imagine that same plant opening its flowers. When we reach the Summer Solstice, the strength of the season will start to wane so its important to put your plans into action right away.
Debra Jones is a speaker, author, healer and teacher. Passionate about being a catalyst for change, harmony and peace, she’s excited when she sees the light shine where there was once only darkness. Helping you navigate and ‘master’ your major life changes, she empowers and reconnects you to your authentic self, where you can access your own higher wisdom. She sees herself as a bridge to help you get from where you are, to where you want to be. When she’s not healing or teaching, she’s using Feng Shui and space clearing to harmonize the environment, or creating new ways to help the world become a better place. 8
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Exercise Your Brain
Resilientista Summer Reads
With each passing year it becomes more important to keep our mind active reading is a wonderful tool to help us engage the various areas of our brains.When you read your brain is taking in lots of information – plot, sub-plots, characters, emotions, your own thoughts of what’s going on – all of this effectively gives your brain a “work-out”. We asked our readers for some summer reading suggestions and this is what they shared ...
Currently a TV series on Bravo. In this multi-award-winning, bestselling novel, Margaret Atwood
Hailed by critics and loved by readers of literary and historical fiction, Beautiful Ruins is the story of an almost-love affair that begins on the Italian coast in 1962...and is rekindled in Hollywood fifty years later.
has created a stunning Orwellian vision of the er the new social order who have only one purpose: to breed. Three murders. Three innocent victims. What secrets did they share with their killer?
Wherever Chelsea Handler travels, one thing is certain: she always ends up in the land of the ridiculous. Now, in this uproarious collection, she sneaks her sharp wit through airport security and delivers her most absurd and hilarious stories ever.
A bottle of bubble bath and colourful, plastic boats were scattered in small puddles on the floor. In the bathtub lay Linda Upton, fully-clothed, her lips a shade of blue, and her bloodshot eyes wide open. When a young mother is found drowned in the bath, clutching a receipt saying ‘all debts paid’, Detective Robyn Carter knows it’s just the beginning of a harrowing case.
In these pages you will read about the real life challenges of being a woman in a man's world, what it means to be a working mother, what it's like to be an older woman in a youth-obsessed culture, the sometimes changing, often sweet truth about marriages, what being a feminist really means, and that you are in good company if your adult children don't return your phone calls.
Combining hard-edged prose and savage Southern charm, Mary Miller showcases biting contemporary talent at its best. Fast on the heels of her "terrific" (New York Times Book Review) debut novel, The Last Days of California, she now reaches new heights with this collection of shockingly relatable, ill-fated love stories.
So come, sit down, make yourself comfortable, (and for some of you, don't forget the damn reading glasses). You're in for a treat.
** All descriptions provided by the individual book's publishing houses or Indigo. **
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Summer - The Season of Fire By Maggie Chilton
As a Holistic Nutritionist, we are taught that a large part of menu planning should incorporate eating seasonally and locally and in Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) it is believed that the seasons play a huge role in human growth and wellbeing. We are highly influenced by climate changes and should live in harmony with them whenever possible to live optimally. As summer (or the yang) comes into being we bring in more cooling foods.
Keep your meals light and natural, staying away from heavy meats, and excess of nuts and grains will also help keep a sense of coolness. If you have a patio, or have access to one, create an oasis of shade and sun. Be outside as much as possible, keep to the shade on sunny days, but when going into the sun try to avoid sunscreen if you’ll only be out for a maximum of 20 minutes a few times a day. This will allow the amazing powers of Vitamin D to soak into your skin without resistance.
Summer allows us to use plenty of brightly coloured fruits and vegetables, cook lightly (sauté), mix raw with sautéed, and remember to add a little spice to your dishes to create internal heat. It also offers us an abundance of fresh produce so try to get as much variety from this season as possible.
Traditionally this is the time to shed our winter “weight” and we do this by being more active, eating lighter and being happier. Summer is said to rule the heart and small intestines, the heart not being just the organ its self but also the feeling of the heart and we tend to be more sociable in summer, going to parties, having drinks on patios, able to travel further, be more patient and show more patience.
Berries are in season now so stock up on fresh organic berries. Fruits and berries are amazing antioxidants that protect us against cell damage, disease and premature aging. They also have a low glycemic load which makes them the perfect sweet snack without the added sugar. To get maximum nutritional value out of your fruit they should be organic whenever possible (particularly berries), avoid fruit with bruises, visible mold or mushy flesh, berries should be bright in colour, plump and firm, avoid fruits that are tinged with green as they are usually unripe and for optimum benefit wash and cut fruit just before eating. Most fruit, leafy greens, lettuces should be washed in cold water with a dash of apple cider vinegar before use or storage due to the knife that you use to cut them can pick up pesticide residue and transfer it to the interior of the fruit or greens, even if you buy organic at the store.
Get outside, be sociable, eat light and smile, open your heart and bring in the Vitamin D.
Maggie Chilton is a hormone specialist. As a Holistic Nutritionist and Mentor she helps pre & peri menopausal women relieve their anxiety, lose weight and sleep better. Maggie is passionate about helping women embrace change and celebrate their life.
Contrary to what you might think, drink warm/hot beverages to encourage sweating and take warm showers to cool the body. Of course, you can’t beat the refreshing feeling of a cold beverage but just try to drink these away from food. As summer is the season for salads, cold beverages and ice creams, this can lead to contraction and a weak digestion, try adding in peppers and fresh ginger to salads or using paprika or chilli powder to a fish dish. . 10
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to Stay Active & Enjoy the Outdoors this Summer!
Now that the weather has warmed up, and our days are filled with more daylight hours, it can be a challenge to keep up with an indoor fitness class. This summer check out your city's website for activities that provide an opportunity to maintain a fitness ritual, have fun and enjoy being outdoors.
Garden Circle Evergreen needs you to help our gardens thrive! Join us this spring every Wednesday beginning May 3 from 9-12pm for a new weekday drop-in program called the Garden Circle. www.evergreen.ca
Paddle Board osha osha is the leader when it comes to SUP (Standup Paddle Boarding) in Toronto, providing SUP lessons, SUP tours and SUP yoga. www.oshaosha.com
Park Yoga Each year from Summer Solstice to the Fall Equinox, The Flying Yogi® studio takes yoga out of studio and into the parks offering donation-based classes that are open to the entire community. www.theflyingyogi.ca/park-yoga/
Rowing Rowing offers a unique recreational experience and low impact, all around work out in a fun, social, outdoor setting. Conveniently located in the Port Lands, close to downtown, Hanlan is the ideal spot in the GTA to take up the sport of rowing. www.hanlanboatclub.ca
City Walks Walking tours of Toronto. ROMWalks encompass the diverse aspects of Toronto's vibrant neighbourhoods including history, architecture, arts of all varieties, education and more. Most tours are free. www.rom.on.ca/en/whats-on/romwalks
** All descriptions courtesy of the individual organization's website. **
FASHION & BEAUTY | Summer 2017
Want a More Youthful Complexion? don't miss this skin care step By: Jodie Johnson Skincare and makeup can be a very overwhelming experience for some women, not to mention expensive if you keep buying the wrong products! So, let's chat about one of my favorite skincare products. Toner. Facial toners help to balance the pH, or potential hydrogen levels, of your skin. PH levels are an indication of the acidity level of your skin and are measured on a scale of 0 to 14, with 7 being the most neutral level. Having a balanced pH level means your skin is less prone to oiliness and infection, creating a more vibrant and smoother appearance. Many toxins that affect the health and appearance of your skin come from industrial-made chemicals. Facial toners work to remove environmental toxins such as smoke, smog and other chemical residues from your skin. This helps your skin to look brighter and healthier, and long-term benefits may include less acne, less severe acne scarring and fewer wrinkles. Large facial pores allow more dirt, oil and toxins to enter the skin and cause irritation and infections. Facial toners tighten your facial pores, allowing fewer oils and toxins to settle into the skin. This creates a fresher, cleaner and less oily appearance while preventing acne. By removing oily buildup, residue and dead skin cells, facial toners assist in reducing the amount of facial blemishes and acne you may already have and work to prevent future breakouts. Facial toners also provide hydration to your skin, which is essential to maintaining elasticity, smoothness, moisture and a more youthful appearance. Proper skin hydration reduces the signs of aging skin and provides an effective base for the application of facial cosmetics. Many facial toners also provide vitamins and other essential skin nutrients to keep your skin healthy and balanced. Facial toners can also be used for cleaning in and around your ears and for reducing oily deposits on your back, chest and arms, where acne and possibly skin tags also tends to form. Now that you know how much toner can do for your skin, I highly recommend you incorporate it into your daily routine. If you want good looking skin, you MUST take care of it. Your skin is the largest organ in your body and it is what people see first. So, take some time for yourself and invest in your skin!
Jodie Johnson discovered her passion for makeup and skincare in 2012. She is a recognized freelance makeup artist as well as a Spa owner located in Durham Region. Jodie's passion for everything artsy has lead her down many paths of being creative. When she is not applying makeup on someone, you can find her in her office painting a custom mural or in her spa creating designs on someone's nails.
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Growing Lavender Quick Tips
Lavender is a beautiful perennial whether planted in flowerbeds, or in pots , the purplish/bluish colour and delightful fragrance conjures up visions of what summer must be like in the countryside of Provence.
It is a hearty plant that thrives best in a sun filled area, well-drained soil, and does very well in dry conditions. During extreme dry spells - watering is most welcomed by this plant. The flowers can be harvested to use in a variety of culinary and therapeutic ways; to create natural mosquito repellent and even a sun cooling spray - (see page XX for suggestions).
- In a sunny spot - Well draining soil - Plant about 2' apart - Use a small amount of fertilizer when first planting - Once established do not over water - Prune once or twice a year
Pruning - Once plant has awaken after winter (you see new growth) - If you prune in autumn - early October is suggested - Trim back to look like a ball - Trim 2/3 of plant or 2" above the wood Do you have some DIY home projects, entertaining tips or gardening tips you would like to share? Email us at Hello@HighHeeledLife.com
FOOD & DRINK | SUMMER 2017
Lobster & Butternut Squash Ravioli Delight Cooking just for you doesn't have to take a lot of time nor does it have to be boring meals. The next time you are cooking for yourself give this recipe a try. It also makes a great dish to serve guests - just up the ingredients accordingly.
Ingredients: 3 - fresh small lobster tails (2-3 oz each) 3-5 pieces of fresh butternut squash ravioli handful of fresh herbs (coriander, basil, oregano) fresh ground pepper 1 - 2 TBsp of salted butter 1/4 C. of Prosecco 1/4 C. of cooking cream 1-2 TBsp. Olive Oil
Create the Magic: Cook pasta to al dente - strain and set aside. While pasta is cooking chop fresh herbs - set aside. Remove lobster meat from shells (discard shells), and cut into 1-inch pieces. Heat skillet on high heat - when hot, reduce heat to medium, add 1 TBsp of butter and let melt. Add lobster pieces, give a couple twists of pepper mill and saute about 2-3 minutes. Slowly pour in
Prosecco stirring as you go; add 1 TBsp of olive oil - stir in cooking cream, and add cooked pasta, using tongs gently turn pasta pieces to coat. Lower heat to low, (you may choose to add remaining butter/olive oil to stretch sauce) sprinkle in chopped herbs and using tongs turn pasta and lobster pieces.Use tongs to transfer pasta to plate, top with lobster pieces and drizzle any remaining sauce from skillet over pasta and lobster. Serves 1 Suggestions: You can use any pasta ... just make sure to use fresh pasta (available at most food markets like Longo's, Whole Foods, Pussateri's in Toronto) If using frozen lobster tails - thaw in fridge over night. Serve with a Caprese salad and olive & rosemary sourdough bread. 14
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By Maggie Chilton
Ingredients 2 cups Rhubarb (chopped) 2 cupsStrawberries (sliced) 1 1/2 cups Cashews (soaked for 1 hour and drained) 1 cup Water 2 Banana (large, ripe)
2.Combine cashews, water and banana in a blender. Blend very well until smooth and creamy.
Create the Magic: 1.Place rhubarb and strawberries in a sauce pan over medium heat. Stir occasionally for about 10 minutes or until rhubarb starts to break down and a sauce starts to form. Turn off the heat and set aside to cool while you prepare the rest.
3.Divide the stewed strawberry rhubarb in between small glasses or jars and spoon the cashew banana cream over top. Garnish with extra fruit or nuts. Enjoy!
• Toppings: Sprinkle with shredded coconut, pistachios, slivered almonds or extra fruit. • More Protein: Add protein powder or hemp seeds into the blender before blending the banana cashew cream. • Chocolate Lover: Add cocoa powder into the blender before blending the banana cashew cream.
Cucumber, Tomato & Goat Cheese Stacks
By Sandy O'Shea
I literally will stack a slice of English cucumber, half (or a whole) grape or cherry tomato and a little slice of goat cheese cheddar or mozzarella then pop them in my mouth. It’s the perfect time of year to add a basil leaf to the mix too!! It’s like Summer just burst in your mouth! I’m growing English cucumbers and cherry tomatoes and basil so I’m really excited to do this from my own garden.
MATCHA Smoothie 1 frozen banana 3 TBsp Greek Yogurt 1/2 C. coconut or almond milk 2 tsp. Matcha powder Place frozen banana in a blender, add Greek yogurt. Whisk Matcha powder into milk of choice and pour into blender. Blend until smooth ... makes one glass of refreshing bliss!
"Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world." Lucille Ball
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"It doesn’t have to cost a lot to look and feel pretty..." By Kristin Schmidt
How I got My PRETTY Back ... For years I felt I wasn’t worth taking care of myself. I felt badly about myself… too fat, not pretty enough, smart enough… simply not … ENOUGH. I was a teen mom, didn’t go to college. So I measured myself against others. And I always lost. Always. I spent so much time thinking badly about myself it became my truth. I didn’t want to go to parties and events because of my weight and how I saw myself. I missed wonderful times with family and friends. I had two outfits I wore to EVERYTHING. It was my uniform for going out. A plain black dress or black pants and a black top. They fit. They worked. I certainly didn’t feel pretty. Ever! So much time wasted. What a shame.
Bringing pretty back isn’t just about appearance. It’s about YOU. What makes you laugh? What makes you feel pretty? Good friends? Music? Books? As women we take care of everyone else and we forget to take care of US. Self care is NOT selfish! You are worth it! As I worked on bringing my pretty back I saw so many women struggling with self love and acceptance. I decided to help other women on their journey to bring THEIR pretty back! I wrote a book, started my own show called Pretty Coffee With Kristin, do live events and workshops sharing my journey and encouraging women to find the pretty in their lives. Helping women get their Pretty Back has become my passion! What can you do today to bring pretty back into your life? Maybe a new outfit, take a class, start reading again, plant some flowers in your favorite color, call a friend you’ve been meaning to call. Start finding YOU again. Don’t wait for the perfect time. Don’t wait until you have more money, lose weight or have more time. Don’t waste another minute. Life is so very short. The time to start living is NOW. You’re worth it. You’ve always been worth it.
"What changed? Was it my weight? No. Not an ounce. I changed. My attitude, and how I saw and spoke to myself." How did I do it? I simply decided I WAS WORTH MORE! It didn’t happen overnight. It took effort on my part. I was so used to treating myself badly, I had to take baby steps to change. I started small. I started taking care of myself. I started painting my nails. It was a little visual reminder I was worth the time to pamper myself. I invested in a few new things to wear! I added my favorite color to my wardrobe. Pink. I started wearing jewelry again. I found all of these things on clearance. It doesn’t have to cost a lot to look and feel pretty.
"I simply decided I WAS WORTH MORE!" Kristen Schmidt, woke up one day and realized she had lost herself and her pretty. She had hit rock bottom, but knew life didn't have to be that way. She started a blog in 2010 to express her thoughts and feelings on her journey to getting her pretty back. The evolved into evolved into a book! She turned the life of discontent and unhappiness into a life she loves! Kristin is passionate about helping women Bring Pretty Back into THEIR life as well! Kristin may be reached at Kristin@bringprettyback.com 17
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Moving Forward – Next Steps… By Shirley J Gossack
Continued ... from Spring 2017 issue
In addition, there may be times when you just become overwhelmed because everything is happening at the same time and you are asked to respond and make multiple complex high impact decisions at the same time. Having been there myself, I know how exhausting this is and I usually follow up by second guessing myself if I made the right choices. Don’t be surprised if you suddenly find it beyond your ability to make simple decisions as you may have reached decision fatigue. Again don’t be afraid to get help.. it’s not a weakness but rather a strength to know and understand your limitations.
As I mentioned in my first chapter, we need to move beyond the ‘why me’ and control the spiral as best as we can. It’s having faith in yourself that you can do this! Everyone will offer you all kinds of solutions. Your family and friends are well-meaning and for many of them it truly comes from their heart. People will share the adage “that which won’t kill you will make you stronger” from the German philosopher, Friedrich Nietzsche. I believe that it makes us different from the “before”.
You may also find that during times of flux that your world may become smaller and more limited especially if you are in pain or dealing with medical issues and/or intense family or work situations. With all that is going on it can be challenging to prioritize as everything is URGENT with multiple competing demands. There have been times when I was physically in one place and my head was focused on being somewhere else and wondering how soon could I leave so that I can deal with the other. Sometimes all we can do is just stop and take a breath. It’s also learning to say NO where you can and manage the expectations of the people around you as best as you can. You will quickly learn who you can count upon as a resource. Don’t be hard upon your family and friends if they are not as available as you would like as life may be happening to them too. We truly understand the generosity of others at times like this and how we can better reciprocate or pay it forward in the future. You will, if you are open to the possibility meet others who somehow come into your life at this time. Remember it is the trial and error of finding your own solutions and coping mechanisms. They are constantly being discovered, explored, tested and modified and you can do it.. We are a work in progress!
A solution only works if it makes sense to YOU in your current head space and how able, willing and receptive you are to expend your energy and commitment. The reality is that there is not one solution but many smaller solutions with multiple options which include managing your resources of people, time and money. From brain research, we also know that the logical parts of the brain shut down when we are under stress. This is part of the body’s fight and flight responses so don’t be so hard on yourself if you find yourself unable to clearly process your thoughts. It can also be a result of not sleeping and eating properly, being dehydrated or a symptom of a medical condition so explore what works for you to reduce these stressors and don’t be afraid to get help if this continues.
Shirley J Gossack MSW CSFC is a Certified Solution Focused Coach living in Toronto. She has a background in higher education and supporting people of all ages and stages. You can reach Shirley through her email at email@example.com
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Angel Messages For Summer 2017 By Jennifer Cobb
So many choices, what’s a girl to do? You may wonder where to start and which deck to use. Truth be told my advice for everything begins with these simple words…. “Use your intuition…” So, when I was asked to do the group Angel Card reading for the summer edition of Resilientista it seemed very natural that I instinctively reached for my Flower Therapy deck. I never know what type of card spread I am going to do, until I sit down and pull the card (s). I felt for Summer less would be more and went with a simple one card reading, and sure enough the card supported this intuitive feeling. Looking at the Summer of 2017 the Angels encourage you to SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE! Flower - Daisy: You’ve had so much going on that you’re spread too thin. This has to change now so your vitality can recharge. It’s commendable that you’re involved in so many activities, but you may want to rethink some of them. Your angels know that you have a drive within to support those in need. This is beautiful, and something they’d never want to change. However, you’re becoming tired because you’re devoting yourself to so many things. Instead, narrow your focus, bringing your full energy to bear on a few select things. . You want to help those around you, but while you take care of others, it’s important that you remember to take care of yourself as well. If you forget about you, then you will not be in good enough shape to be of service. Find self-care activities that nourish your being, and make them part of your daily ritual. Explore new skills such as painting, sewing, photography or meditation. You may also enjoy reading, exercising, or spending time in nature. You might think that indulging in pleasant hobbies helps no one except yourself; but in truth your well-being does bring immense benefits to those around you. Additionally: remove yourself from drama: release negative friendships; and remember the easy solution is typically the right one. I wish you all a wonderful summer full of simplified, fresh new patterns that fuel you!
RESILIENTISTA Summer 2017
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Published on Jun 22, 2017
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