(P)referential parenting and guidance from A to Z

Page 119

more prudence and a slower progress. First (knowing) to know and feel and then only doing. Multiple buffers For example, we notice that several buffers surround us who ensure safety and avoid too great risks with serious consequences. In this way we have the already mentioned mental buffer of estimating and feeling. Closely connected to this is the signal buffer. Signals that point in a particular direction can be more direct or indirectly read from what is being said, from what the person shows and from what the person let feel. Also related is the incoherence buffer. What someone says, does not correspond with reality or with what someone does. In addition, there is the social buffer, the others on which we can count, who accompany us or on which we can appeal. They provide a large dose of safety and security. Furthermore, there is the communicative buffer. We can address, agree, inform, warn, and more. Not to mention is the behavioral barrier, such as proximity or distance-winning, respecting habits and rituals, etc.

119


Issuu converts static files into: digital portfolios, online yearbooks, online catalogs, digital photo albums and more. Sign up and create your flipbook.