How To Write Thank-You Notes THE art of writing thank-you notes has really fallen on hard times of late. In place of a handwritten expression of delight in a wedding gift, guests are apt to receive a telephone call, an e-mail, or a pre-printed card with “thank you” hastily scrawled across it. Or, worse still – an impersonal note written by a commercial service that has signed the bride’s name. So, don’t miss out on the pleasures of the old-fashioned thankyou note, it really is a pleasure and not a chore. In today’s hightech world, a note written by hand conveys the message that you value your friends and relatives. These relationships are important and we should never be careless of them. Simple white or ivory fold-over notes or correspondence cards on heavy stock are always in good taste. Traditionally, when you personalise notepaper, you use your maiden name or initials if you send the notes before the wedding; your married name or initials if after the wedding. Though that’s still correct, you may also use a monogram consisting of both your initials. Photographers also can provide postcards featuring one of your favourite wedding photos to serve as your thank you notes. You may want to invest in a fountain pen. Try several before you buy; pens differ in feel and writing style. A good rollerball or felttip pen is also acceptable, but never use a messy ballpoint. And if you are fearful your handwriting will be illegible, practice!
52 • REAL BRIDES • 1 March 2012
Even before you address your first invitation, refer to the alphabetical list of the names and addresses of each person or couple to whom you sent a wedding invitation. When a gift arrives, jot down the date and a detailed description of the item. Writing a thank-you note is a ceremony, one that should be a pleasant experience for both the writer and the recipient. To create a sense of calm, set aside a comfortable area for the job, where you keep your list, paper, envelopes, pens, and stamps. Start the notes as the gifts arrive, acknowledging those received on or after the wedding at least within four weeks of returning from your honeymoon. No acknowledgment at all is just downright rude and will lead to guests asking or forever wondering if in fact their gift actually ever reached you. As you’re writing, refer to both of you when you say how pleased you are, but sign only your name. If your spouse shares the task, he does the same. Specify the gift by name and say how lovely it will look in your home. If you receive money, don’t mention the sum, but do indicate how you’ll be putting the money to use. Although your creativity may crumble after a dozen notes, try to think of something special to say in each one. Think of it as your gift to the people who love you.
Published on May 6, 2012
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