karaoke Outlaw Karaoke White Horse Inn, C, 5pm Liquid Courage Karaoke Geo’s, U, 7pm
open mic Anything Goes Open Mic Night Hosted by Acoustic Duo: Jeremy Harper & Jim Kates Memphis on Main, C, 8pm
movies AWARE* Film Series 2009 presents Michael Klare’s Blood and Oil Champaign Public Library, C, 2pm
stage Necessary Targets Krannert Center for the Performing Arts, U, 3pm, $15, $14 seniors and students, $9 UI and youth Rappaccini’s Daughter Krannert Center for the Performing Arts, U, 3pm, $22, $20 seniors, $15 students, $10 UI and youth
literary UFL Reads At The Movies—Pride/Bride & Prejudice Urbana Free Library, U, 1:15pm Members read the book, watch the film based on the book, then discuss their findings and experiences.
Jason Bentley Boltini Lounge, C, 7:30pm Zmick and friends present Monday Night Miracle Canopy Club, U, 9pm
MCJS Karaoke American Legion Post 24, C, 7:30pm Dragon Karaoke The Clark Bar, C, 9pm
Day of the Drum: Traffic Jam Krannert Center for the Performing Arts, U, 5pm Day of the Drum: Kodo Krannert Center for the Performing Arts, U, 7:30pm, $45, $40 single, $30, $25 UI and youth Recommended for ages four and up. Day of the Drum: Afterglow Krannert Center for the Performing Arts, U, 9:30pm Rocky Maffit is joined by collaborators Chad Dunn and Neal Robinson for the final performance of the day.
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Open Mic Night 88 Broadway, U, 9pm Monday Night Improv Courtyard Cafe—Illini Union, U, 8pm The Abe Froman Project—Improv Comedy Mike ‘n’ Molly’s, C, 9pm
MCJS Karaoke American Legion Post 24, C, 7:30pm Liquid Courage Karaoke Geo’s, U, 9pm Dragon Karaoke The Clark Bar, C, 9pm Karaoke with Randy Miller Bentley’s Pub, C, 9:30pm
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dj Nekromancy Chester Street, C, 9pm, $2 ‘80s Night with DJ Mingram Highdive, C, 10pm
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Original Music Showcase Espresso Royale, U, 8pm Open Mic Night Memphis on Main, C, 8pm Open Mic Night with kids & families Mike Ingram O Baby! Cowboy Monkey, C, 10pm Champaign Public Library, Open Mic Night with C, 9:45am, 10:30am Steve & Lovejoy social issues Art Lab White Horse Inn, C, 10pm Anti-War Anti-Racism Orpheum Children’s Scilectures Effort Meeting ence Museum, C, 4pm, Urbana-Champaign In$42 for non-members, My Olympic Journey: dependent Media Center, $36 for members Justin Spring U, 6pm For grades K-2. University YMCA, C, 12pm lgbt tue, feb 24 The Naked Jesus: Forget Mpowerment the “God” Thing, Was He live music Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Even A Man? and Transgender Resourc- Fat Tuesday Party with Lincoln Hall, U, 8pm es, U, 5pm Big Grove Zydeco volunteer Mpowerment is a comIron Post, U, 7pm munity group for young Acoustic Tuesday with UC Books to Prisoners gay/bisexual men. Jeremy Harper work session Memphis on Main, C, Urbana-Champaign Infundraisers 7:30pm dependent Media Center, FriendShop Used Book Special Fat Tuesday: U, 7pm Store Open Jordan Kaye Trio kids & families Champaign Public Library, Huber’s West End Store, C, 2:30pm C, 8pm Babies’ Lap Time The Library Friends sell Corn Desert Ramblers Urbana Free Library, U, used books for $1 or less, Rosebowl Tavern, Ltd., 9:45am, 10:30pm plus CDs, videos, and U, 9pm Ages birth to 24 months. DVDs for $1.50, along The Piano Man Tuesday Twos with gift items. All sales Canopy Club, U, 9pm Champaign Public Library, benefit the library. C, 9:45am, 10:30am, dj 11:15am classes & Free Love Tuesday with Goodnight Storyshop workshops DJ Motion Champaign Public Library, Free Bike Repair Classes, Boltini Lounge, C, 9:30pm C, 6:30pm Open Hours, Bike Sales “Dusty Music” — DJ lgbt Urbana-Champaign InDelayney dependent Media Center, Mike ‘n’ Molly’s, C, Rainbow Coffeehouse U, 3pm 10:15pm, $1 Wesley-United Methodist Church & Wesley Foundaconcert mon, feb 23 tion, U, 6:30pm Day of the Drum: Interval live music Krannert Center for the wed, feb 25 Jazz Jam Hosted by The Performing Arts, U, 12pm live music MRS Trio Glen Velez and Lori CotIron Post, U, 7pm ler; Liam Teague and Rob- Donnie Heitler ert Chappell. Great Impasta, C, 6pm www.the217.com
State of the Art 2009: National Biennial Watercolor Invitational Parkland Art Gallery, C, 12pm
Traditional Irish Music Session Bentley’s Pub, C, 7pm Rocket Science Senator’s Bar & Grill, Savoy, 8pm Roy Zimmerman, Funny Songs About Ignorance War and Greed Urbana-Champaign Independent Media Center, U, 8pm, $12
dj Country Dancing at Bradley’s II Bradley’s II, C, 9pm, $5 Jeff Markland’s DJ’s all request Radmaker’s Rock & Roll Tavern, Tolono, 9pm DJ LEGTWO Boltini Lounge, C, 9pm Salsa Night with DJ Juan Cowboy Monkey, C, 10pm, $2 I Love the ‘90s Night with DJ Mingram Soma Ultralounge, C, 10pm Reggae Night with DJ Delayney Highdive, C, 10pm
dance music Tango Night Cowboy Monkey, C, 8pm Physical Challenge: An Indie Rock Dance Party Canopy Club, U, 9pm
concert 21st Century Piano Commission Award Concert Krannert Center for the Performing Arts, U, 7:30pm, $10, $7 seniors, $4 students
karaoke Outlaw Karaoke White Horse Inn, C, 5pm Paul Faber Dragon Karaoke The Embassy Tavern & Grill, U, 9pm Liquid Courage Karaoke Wendl’s, U, 9pm Karaoke Bomb Night Geovanti’s, C, 10pm
open mic Open-Mic Night Radio Maria, C, 10:30pm
stage Open Stage Comedy Night Memphis on Main, C, 9pm, $2
kids & families Storyshop Champaign Public Library, C, 9:45am, 10:30am Duct Work Savoy Recreational Center, Savoy, 5:30pm, $25 for residents of Savoy; $32 for non-residents Ages five to 12.
support groups Among Women: A Lesbian and Bisexual Women’s Support Group Asian American Cultural Center, U, 5pm Coming Out Support Group Illini Union, U, 7pm
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d o i n ’ i t w e l l by Kim Rice & Ross Wantland
Should I Stay, or Should I Go? Navigating Gender After our “Man Up!” (1/22/09) column exploring ways to redefine masculinity, we received several responses from readers. So Doin’ It Well decided to again explore what gender means and what, if anything, it has to do with what’s between our legs.
Tastes Great, Less Filling One reader commented on our blog: “Please. While I totally applaud the ‘progress’ in the question and the answer, I ask loudly that the ‘answer’ NOT repeat man’s history. It’s a waste of time if you do. Do you really believe that Men changing the ‘definition’ and ‘ideas’ of manhood will change things? One swift look at sexual histories will show that changing definitions of Manhood is a constant continual way that Man maintains power. Try being fully human instead of ‘partial human’ ... I suspect male is fully human, and so is female. Start there. Just give up man and woman terms because there is no valid truth to the terms outside of social, and question opposite sex, which totally demolishes these outdated terms for humans, unless of course you want to keep the idea of Man as superior and supreme. Changing definition of a word does not disturb the practice ... we already learned that. New language seems to facilitate change.” This is a great question, and it’s an argument that many people have (and we probably won’t solve here): Should men concerned about sexism be “men,” or should we refuse? Can we live outside of masculinity, or do we live inside of it? We agree that in many ways, gender is kind of meaningless. As we’ve said before, gender is very different from biological sex. Sex is about “body parts,” while gender is all the stuff we assign to those parts. Certainly, there are some physical differences, but there are many more differences that we exaggerate or fabricate to maintain this gender system. Sex doesn’t wholly determine who a person is or how much they’re worth or how they should act in a certain situation. But in our society, gender is supposed to determine those things, and sometimes, it works. Gender is a lie we’re told often enough that we believe it about ourselves. Take Bud Light. Bud Light is essentially a diet beer. When its formula was sold to Budweiser by a microbrewer, they had the Herculean task of getting men to buy something that was imbued with “feminine” meaning — a beer for someone who is watching calories, who in our culture is presumed to be a woman. But Budweiser set about an ad campaign showing manly men — football players — talking about how much they enjoyed this beverage, making it “manly” to drink diet beer. Bud Light does not inherently have anything to do with masculinity, but the meaning we assign to it allows drinking Bud Light to be a “manly” activity.
But we don’t believe gender is so simple that we can just will it away. Gender is “real” because we make it real every day (like Bud Light). Like a white person addressing racism, we can’t change our whiteness, even though the ideas we have about race are constructed, just as we can’t change our masculine gender identity, even though gender is constructed. If as men we’re going to be allies to women and trans-folks, we have to accept and celebrate who we are while we figure out our responsibility to change.
Gentlemen’s Club Another reader wrote: “One area (you) didn’t address is the difficulties and importance of men building support networks amongst other men. The young man who wrote the question might, with some effort, find women supportive of him (presuming he moved in profeminist directions). Ofttimes, however, if he had that type of a support network, eventually he might be left out as male. Until or unless he found Men he could relate to and share his feelings with, he would likely find it difficult to continue his growth and maintain ‘sanity’ in a fairly crazy world.” —GM We agree; finding a group of men can be a real and important struggle. Men’s relationships to other men should be fairly superficial, according to the “rules,” and getting too intimate with another man can set off all sorts of homophobic alarms. Patience and trusting that other men (and women) wish to be “fully human” are the best ways to approach these relationships and work toward sanity. We’re also cautious, though. A group of men can easily become a place to examine men’s “problems” (or even fix women’s problems) without considering men’s impact upon women. For a man to really challenge what it means to “be a man,” he has to examine his interactions with both women and men.
Sex 411: Feeling Your Manhood Bornstein, K. My Gender Workbook. Kivel, P. Men’s Work. Stoltenberg, J. Refusing to Be a Man.
Stay tuned until next week as we ask, “What’s up, Doc?” Kim is a woman. Ross is a man (and a proud new papa to a boy). But they both like e-mails and questions. Contact them at buzzdoinitwell@yahoo.com, and comment on their blog at www.doinitwell.blog.com.
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