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Mean girls turn into mean women...are you one?

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As bonnie evolves into its sixth month of production, finding out what’s happening in the capital region month after month hasn’t been a challenge. With each change of the season, there’s always something new in Sacramento to be discovered. The amazing women behind each scene, event, or movement always teach us something we didn’t know. This month, we visited the Sacramento music scene highlighting two special ladies, Nanci Zoppi, and Dana Moret, and up and coming all-woman band, Cave Women. If you’re thinking, wow, I haven’t seen live music in awhile—just go. Need a little bit of inspiration to get off the couch? Google Dana Moret for her rendition of “Natural Woman,” or Nanci Zoppi’s hilarious rendition of “I dreamed a dream” (R & B version). Each woman had us charmed, and we couldn’t be more excited that they’re part of our community.

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I don’t know how many times I’ve thrown out steel containers because the drinking caps somehow got moldy— after being left in the car too long, or if one of the kids lost them and they turned up three weeks later under the bed. I love this new fangled stainless steel water bottle, The Square by Clean Water. The leak proof bottom and top screw off for easy cleaning, they don’t roll around since they’re square shaped, and I can clip this onto my day bag with a small carabiner or carry it by it’s built in handle. My favorite thing about using any steel container for water? I no longer use plastic water bottles for a greener family footprint.

This issue is packed with everything I love about summer—fresh produce, local secret destinations, music, fab finds in local stores, and hot clothes.

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Wondering where you can drink a nice cold beverage and just relax, either with kids, by yourself, or romantic partner? You must check out writer and photographer Michelle McDaid’s article about her five secret spots in the area. Some are tried and true less popular places, some new, and all worth the short trip. I plan on taking the kiddies to all the spots—we’ve got a glorious summer to indulge in! But, I also have to work, so having the places close to home is a treat for after hours and weekend fun.

+ Women, talk to ME! I’d love to hear what you thought about this issue— what you liked, what you could do without, and what you’d like to see in the next issue. gayle@readbonnie.com

For our summer fashion editorial we took behind-the-scenes photos for our readers to get a glimpse into what it takes to accomplish this seven-page feat. Don’t forget to also read up on outdoor entertaining must-haves, our list of resources for celebrating National Fresh Fruit and Vegetable Month in June, why mean girls suck (and why you don’t want to be one), and more. Wear a hat, bring the dog wherever you go, go barefoot, and just have FUN!

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ntuition offers a direct line to your inner being force, and to some, to a divine intelligence. Intuitive experts believe that it’s important to learn to fully tune into your intuition. What is intuition? Intuition is constantly evaluating what gives you positive energy and what dissolves it. You know ladies… it’s that feeling you have when you go on a date with someone and all of a sud-

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den you feel those “butterflies,” or when you get a callback for a second interview for a potential dream job, and you get the chills. That’s it. That’s your intuition talking to you, loud and clear. But for some people, most people actually, it’s not loud and clear. Tapping into your intuition—following your gut—is something that takes practice. But you can become more and more familiar with and thus more trusting of your intuition. “Intuition is like a muscle. The more you exercise it, the stronger it becomes,” says Susan Rueppel, Ph.D., chief intuition officer. “A great beginner’s technique to learn to better connect with your intuition is to keep an intuition journal. Log your moments of gut feelings and learn to identify what makes you tick. Good and bad.” Rueppel is an international business intuitive, author, speaker, and trainer who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and corporate executives use intuition to grow their business. She assists clients in expanding their vision, gaining clarity, focus, and confidence by providing specific strategies and a prioritized path forward. She continued on page 18

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INTUITION continued from page 17 provides immediate, intuitive answers for tangible results in business. She says as a business intuitive, it’s similar to being a business consultant, but with the benefit of X-ray eyes—tuning into the brilliance of your business and providing a portrait of what is going on, including where you can maximize your business to move it forward quickly and easily. Including how to resolve challenges associated with moving forward. She believes that women can get practical and actionable intelligence from their business through intuition including help with direction, decision making, planning, and implementation. Based out of an office on J Street right in the heart of downtown Sacramento, business was not always the focus for Rueppel. Early in her intuition

career, she studied medical and general intuition. She would help clients focus on the source of their medical problems and find ways to heal from within that source, rather than from the symptom zone. For example, just because you carry stress in your upper body potentially causing horrendous headaches, it doesn’t mean that’s where the source of the stress is. Rueppel says although she believes in the power of medical intuition, she recommends all clients continue to see a licensed physician as part of a healthy, balanced medical practice. Similarly, local Sacramento writer and author Danea Horn believes that “everyone has an internal system that hints toward the path they should be on. Whether we listen to it or not is another story.” But she assures it is there. Horn was born with VACTERL Association – a constellation of birth disorders that impacts six

“Intuition is like a muscle. The more you exercise it, the stronger it becomes” Susan Rueppel//Ph.D., Chief Intuition Officer

Recognize Positive and Negative Intuitions Here are some examples of positive and negative intuitions that can help you learn to better tune into your own intuition on a day-to-day basis:

Positive Intuition Vibes

• feelings of comforting familiarity or brightness; you may sense you’ve known the person before, as with the experience of deja-vu • you breathe easier, chest and shoulders are relaxed, gut is calm • you find yourself leaning forward, not defensively crossing your arms or edging away to keep at a distance • your heart opens; you feel safe, peaceful, energized, expansive, or alive • you’re at ease with a person’s touch; whether a hand shake, hug, or during intimacy

Negative Intuition Vibes

• sick feelings in the pit of your stomach or increased stomach acid which may prompt an unpleasant deja-vu • your skin starts crawling, you’re jumpy, instinctively withdraw if touched • shoulder muscles are in knots, chest area or throat constricts; you notice aggravated aches or pains • the hair on the back of your neck creepily stands on end • sense of malaise, darkness, pressure, agitation, or being drained

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Tune In and Act on Vibes It’s important to learn to tune in, trust your body, and make choices based on the vibes you sense. Intuition helps you act from instinct, not impulse - a look before you leap wisdom that points you to positive energy. Here are some tips to help guide you to tuning in. • Choose a relationship or situation that needs clarification about whether or not to go forward. Perhaps a friendship, vacation or move. Begin with an easier target before you take on higher stakes. Run it by the criteria above for positive and negative intuitions—or others you find reliable. It’s helpful to make a top five list of the biggest indicators of positive attraction. For some, this includes feeling energized and safe, or perhaps an increased aliveness and peaceful sense. Write your top five in a journal to keep track. • It is so much easier to simply tune into rather than to act on vibes. Insecurity, ego, lust, stubbornness can obscure better judgment. If the vibes feel overall positive, go for it; explore possibilities. If the vibes are mixed or you’re unsure, take a pass or at least wait. If there’s just negative, have the courage to walk away, no matter how tempting the option seems. Now ladies, start listening, and really tune into yourself! Intuition is a truth detector and it can help you live a happier, healthier more energetic life.


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Danea Horn is a Sacramento-based writer and author who helps women cope with the unique pressures of illness.

systems in the body and causes closures at both ends of the digestive tract — and is now working to help women cope with the unique pressures of illness. After seven years in corporate finance, Horn’s kidney health began to decline and she felt the fire under her rear to do what she felt called to do. That’s when Horn started www. creativeaffirmations.com parttime and eventually became a certified life coach. She started speaking to small civic groups about the theories she was exploring. Today, Horn is a full-time writer and speaker focusing on her very important message and spending more time caring for her health. She has used her experiences and training in personal development to create a tool kit that helps manage unique challenges. Horn offers this to others through her website (www.ChronicResilience.com), guest posts, and her new book Chronic Resilience: 10 Sanity-Saving Strategies for

Women Coping with the Stress of Illness. “Women believe intuition is more mysterious than it actually is. When you learn to recognize the way you receive your intuitive messages, you realize that it is always with you.” Horn guides women to follow their intuition when they feel ready to. She says it takes some women time to gain confidence in their intuition and that is perfectly okay. “Rethink your gut if your feelings change and/or if life’s circumstances begin clearly pointing in a different direction. It is okay to adjust course, just be sure that it’s not fear that’s leading the charge.” For more information on Susan Rueppel, chief intuition officer, visit her website www. chiefintuitionofficer.com. For more information on Danea Horn and her upcoming book, visit her website www.chronicresilience.com. b

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We Fancy Nanci Meet Nanci Zoppi, Sacramento’s most sought-after singer and actress who’s making a living as a performing artist in a technologyladen world. She’s beautiful, quirky, flamboyant, and witty. She sings and she acts, and she’s working on an upcoming one-woman musical at New Helvetia Theatre in downtown Sacramento. She’s also currently in pre-production for a ten-song album that hopefully will be finished by the end of the year. Is there anything she can’t do? Yeah, she can’t dance and she doesn’t play an instrument—and that’s okay. In the past few years, the singeractress has made waves in the Sacramento theater scene through performances with the New Hel-

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vetia Theatre Company, B Street Theater, and her cabaret series at Graham-a-Rama. Zoppi didn’t fall into a singing career, it just sort of happened. “I don’t remember it being a realization. It’s one of those things that just ‘was’. My dad was a professional singer. So, I would compare it to a kid that grows up within the family business. You just assume you’ll do it too, that being said, it started to morph from professional singer to musical theatre actress around the age of six after I did a school play.” Although naturally talented, her father, Bobby Zoppi, did try to train her. “I trained as much as one can with my father. I was rebellious in only one area of life: telling my dad ‘I’m singing for fun right now. Leave me alone!’” She started taking opera lessons at age 15 at the Pease Conservatory of Music located in midtown. At 19, she moved to New York City to attend Circle in the Square Theatre School, where she received further training in musical theatre with an emphasis on acting. “While in New York, I also took private training from one of the top vocal coaches out there, whom I really give credit for my voice today.”

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Zoppi has built a commendable list of accomplishments while touring nationally. However, her favorite moment happened at the age of nine, when she sang the national anthem for the pre-Olympic volleyball games at the Cow Palace in front of 8,000 people. Zoppi resides in Sacramento and is now making a living from her talents. “I make my living from the arts, for which I am grateful. I’m an equity actress, so I am able to and have performed for professional theatres, of which Sacramento has several.” Recently, Zoppi added the title singing coach to her repertoire. “I started to do this to supplement my income, but now I count it as a great joy in my life,” she said. “It’s fulfilling to see changes in people as they become better at something they love to do. I am also a crafter, and fill my time making wonky objects from sewing, knitting, or crochet. I’m prematurely 80.” One of her most rewarding highlights thus far is seeing one of her students accepted into her alma mater theatre school. Zoppi credits “a strange array of people” that inspired her in the art world, the first and foremost being Steve Martin. “I’ve toyed with get-

ting a paper doll tattoo of him and fashion taping outfits for different occasions.” She also loves funny women icons like Madeline Kahn, Lauri Metcalf, Bernadette Peters, and Carol Burnett. “But, I find a lot of inspiration from people who are different than my type, and I think that’s more important than we think.” Like many vocalists, Zoppi writes her own songs, but unlike many, she chooses to not sing them. “I do write my own songs, but I find it considerably harder to want to perform them for people. Sometimes I think it’s an artist’s desire to create something they would love as an onlooker, but that just isn’t always the case. I prefer, at this point, to interpret other people’s songs and stories.” When asked if she has any superstitions or pre-performance rituals, Zoppi reveals something she has never told anyone. “I give myself a pep talk that goes a little something like this: ‘Universe, please help me to know my strengths so I may push them out, and know my weaknesses so I may fix them and grow. Just help me give this audience something that they’ll connect with.’” The future looks very bright for


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the 30-year old performer, as she continues to live her dream as an artist and make a living doing what she loves. “For me, it’s been about keeping it simple. I want to continue to support my life and family off the arts. I’ve been keeping close to my Northern California community, but in five years, I’d love to be performing my own album around the country and beyond.” We would be front and center rooting you on Miss Zoppi. Find out more about Zoppi at www.nancizoppi.com

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All in the family “May dad was a professional singer. So, I would compare it to a kid that grows up within the family business. You just assume you’ll do it too.” —Nanci Zoppi, Singer-Actress Hair // Cassandra Moore, Luxe Hair Lounge + Day Spa. Makeup // Tessa Joy Cooper, Luxe Hair Lounge + Day Spa

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Look out for this group // Cave Women on the Prowl CAVE WOMEN, an all-woman band based out of Sacramento, are stepping out of the cave this fall to bring you their debut album. The band’s sound features lush, four-part harmonies, and rich textures that include a combination of accordion, mbira, bass, flute, drums, and guitar. Drawing from diverse backgrounds, their music combines jazz, classical, folk, a cappella, gypsy, Brazilian, and African music. Their upcoming album includes nine tracks, all of which are written and performed by Cave Women. www.cavewomenmusic.com

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Delightful Sounds of Dana Moret When she’s not working her nine-to-five gig as a PR consultant, Dana Moret, 32, is the lead vocalist and front chick for the band Mr. December. Her raspy voice and bluesy tones will leave you wondering why she isn’t starring on one of those mainstream singing competitions on television. Perhaps the answer is told on stage, with her love of her band, and her true passion for performing. bonnie magazine

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As a child, Moret remembers making up songs as young as threeyears-old. “My first hit, ‘Open the Door to Heavens Gates, Hallelujah’ was penned when I was in Preschool,” she said. Professionally, she has been singing for about 12 years. “I think I knew I wanted to be a professional singer when I was around nine or 10. I used to be fascinated with how people came up with new songs all the time. Music always made me calm and happy. I had a tumultuous upbringing and so sometimes singing to myself was the only way to calm myself down.” Self-taught, Moret has had no professional voice training and instead uses her intuition and experience to make adjustments in her voice. “As I began to further my career, I received many opinions by close friends who had been in the business a long time, some saying I should and some saying not at all. I made up my mind when a respected Jazz singer friend of mine had told me that her career was ended by her excessive vocal lessons causing polyps and she never sang again. I am now just always mindful of when I’m pushing it too hard and have come to know when to make adjustments.”


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A calming effect “Music always made me calm and happy. I had a tumultuous upbringing and so sometimes singing to myself was the only way to calm myself down.” —Dana Moret , Lead Singer, Mr. December

Moret is used to singing to thousands at festivals, concerts, and fairs, but said her biggest moment was singing at her wedding, in her wedding gown. “I’m going to go with playing at my wedding in my wedding gown, with my groom and my band sharing that moment with me. It was definitely a BIG moment in my career. It was so cool.” Many singers might find touring to be the hardest part of being a musician, but not Moret. She and her husband/band mate, James Papastathis, do everything together. “It’s so cool to be married to your band mate. We love all the same things.” Moret looks to her family as a source for inspiration and support. “My husband for sure has shown me that you can still be a rock

star and enjoy the quiet moments too. My parents, who let me be a kid until it was ridiculous, and not only encouraged—but facilitated—my career for many years. My band, because every day they make me feel like a peer and not just the rookie, and have afforded me so many opportunities I would have never had, had it not been for them. And then there are the musical inspirations…and then there are musical inspirations…how much time do I have,” she laughs. Moret loves to write her own songs. “I used to be fascinated by how people could come up with new songs all the time…I got my answer as I grew up. It could be that was my whole reason for getting into music in the first place!” As a group, Moret hopes that in the future they will find some mo-

mentum as songwriters. “That is where all the money is in music these days.” Singing is her passion, but during the day, Moret is a publicist and marketing director for a couple of venues and artists in Sacramento. She also volunteers at a few charities that involve kids, veterans, and animals. “I try to be as involved in my community as I can, when time allows.” Moret would love to see her band touring within the next five years. In the meantime, you can see her and Mr. December Summer Concert Series on June 22. For upcoming show and music, visit Moret and her band online at www.mrdecembertheband.com. b

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hen was the last time you celebrated a vegetable? Extolled the virtues of fruit? If it’s been a while, start now because June is National Fruit and Vegetable month, and what a month for produce! The seasonal fruits and vegetables available in June are so vast that even the pickiest eater can find something to please their taste buds. Sacramento is an especially abundant area for produce. Foodies everywhere are envious of the region’s climate and soil that creates California’s real gold mine— produce for the area and the world. Consider yourself lucky for living in close proximity to the riches and take advantage of the food motherlode California is known for.

Victory Garden Redux During World War II, victory gardens were a fun, yet necessary way for families to make sure they had enough nutritious food to eat during times of ration. Today, people are planting their own fruit and vegetable gardens to avoid pesticides and to help loosen tight budgets. You can join the backyard gardener movement by starting your own with help from the UC Cooperative Extension’s handout, “Vegetable Gardening 101.” It’s full of information and it’s free. You can get a copy at Sacramento County master gardener’s website, or by sending a stamped, self-addressed business-size envelope to: Environmental Horticulture continued on page 26

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FOOD JACKPOT continued from page 25 Notes No. 96, UC Cooperative Extension, 4145 Branch Center Road, Sacramento, California, 95827. Slow Food Sacramento Sacramento is also home to a chapter of Slow Food USA, which provides education and introductions to producers of our region’s best food, farms, and restaurants. Slow Food USA is a grassroots movement to connect the community and the environment with the pleasure of food. The foundation of the movement is that all food should be “Good, Clean, and Fair.” It’s a way of living and eating that recognizes the connection between plate, planet, people, and culture. In a nutshell (figuratively), the movement envisions a world where people can access good food that is good for them, good for those who grow it, and good for the planet. Coral Henning, the president of Slow Food Sacramento and Janel Inouye, owner of Magpie Caterer’s Market & Café sat with me to discuss how people are embracing their local community and foods. Inouye believes that people in Sacramento like foods that are as close to “what they are” and are very educated in seasonal foods. “Five years ago, we had to explain why we wouldn’t serve tomatoes out of season, and now no one asks,” she says. “They know why,” Inouye adds. Magpie serves simple food that tastes as it should. Fresh, clean, and flavorful, her seasonal vegetable platter may contain vegetables you’ve never heard of, let alone tasted, but are grown locally and promoted in their glory. A simple risotto with peas and asparagus looks and tastes so enticing that you want to run out and shake the farmer’s hand for growing it, and hug the chef for making it. Magpie Café offers menus inspired by fresh, high-quality, seasonal ingredients, with a particular emphasis on products from Northern California. They believe their food provides a “simplicity of quality” combined with “complexity of variety.” The café itself is named for a bird native to the Sacramento area – the Yellow-

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“Five years ago, we had to explain why we wouldn’t serve tomatoes out of season, and now no one asks.” Janel Inouye // Owner, Magpie Caterer’s Market & Cafe

Billed Magpie. They are well-known for their catered events, from weddings to box lunches. Henning knows the region has a bounty of farmers, ranchers, and wineries that support good, clean, and fair philosophies. As president of Slow Food Sacramento, she organizes events to showcase these products and the restaurants that use them. Slow Food Sacramento also offers various classes, like the upcoming “Makin’ Bacon” where people learn how to take a pork belly and make it into nitrate free

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bacon, learn the difference between bulk and artisanal bacon, and taste three bacon tapas and beer. Supporting slow food producers helps build communities by building a trust and connection to your neighbors and environment. You know where your food comes from when you eat at supporting restaurants. Community Supported Agriculture Another way to partake in local fare and support the community is

to purchase a weekly CSA (Community Supported Agriculture) box. This is a direct-to-consumer program where you buy a share of a local farm’s projected harvest. Payment up front for the boxes helps distribute the risks and rewards of farming between both you and the farmer. Several Sacramento, Yolo, and Davis locations make produce boxes with enough fruit and vegetables for two to four people. Boxes are reasonably priced and bring a host of different edible items like daikon, beets, lettuce, and garlic in the colder months,


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Magpie Caterer’s Market & Cafe serves local, fresh, vegetables in their dishes.

and asparagus and fresh cut flowers in the spring. Fruits like peaches, apples, and pomegranates are also box inhabitants and CSA members can also order organic chicken and lamb. Delivered to your door fresh from the farm, a CSA box could be one of the easiest food choices you can make for your busy family. An added bonus—it is also surprisingly affordable, almost the same cost or cheaper than buying fruits and vegetables at a grocery story. Natural Foods Co-Op Joining Sacramento’s Natural Foods Co-Op is another way to bring sustainably produced agriculture into your home. Since 1973, the Co-op has been a trusted source of natural foods and products and provides

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educational resources and lots of interesting classes. Basic organic gardening, pickling and fermenting, and healthy cooking are just a few of the vast menu of courses offered. Starting in July, they’ll begin a Kid’s and Teen summer cooking camp. The CoOp provides a “Walk, Talk, & Taste” tour to anyone who is interested in learning more about the Co-op itself or exploring Co-op ownership. During the “Walk,” you’ll have an opportunity to enjoy an interactive presentation, food sampling, and store tour. Just visit the customer service counter or their website to register. Pick-Your-Own-Farms Another way to have a fun day, yet teach your children about fruits

and vegetables is to visit a local “pick your own” farm. There are several in our region, such as Johnson Farm in Butte County, where you can pick local blueberries and save $3.00 a pound over already picked berries. Peppers, squash, beans, plums, grapes, and more are available from late June to September and provide a happy day in the sunshine. Farmer’s Market Certified farmer’s markets are all over town and are a great way to get farm fresh produce at a price fit for your budget. Farmer’s markets are also a way to support sustainably farm practices and buy locally produced products. Food is fresh with nutrients intact, with the majority of produce sold at the markets

DOUBLE DOWN ON THESE RESOURCES To learn more about any of the programs mentioned above, visit, call, or email these resources for more information: National Fruit and Vegetable Month: http://healthymeals.nal.usda.gov/ Sacramento Master Gardener’s: at http://ucanr.org/sites/sacmg/Growing_Vegetables Slow Food Sacramento: http://slowfoodsacramento.com/, coral@slowfoodsacramento.com Magpie Caterer’s Market & Café: www.magpiecaterers.com/cafe, (916) 452-7594 Community Supported Agriculture Boxes (CSA): www.ecovian.com/s/sacramento/csa Sacramento Natural Foods Co-op: www.sacfoodcoop.com, (916) 455-2667 Johnson Farm: http://gridley.wix.com/johnsonupickfarm, (530) 846-5871, johnsonupickfarm@yahoo.com Sacramento Certified Farmers Markets: www.california-grown.com/Market-times.html

picked shortly before getting to market. Shopping a farmer’s market also helps preserve local produce that may not survive the rigors of packing and storage. You might find something locally that you can’t get anywhere else, such as unique heirloom produce, their seeds passed down through family generations. It’s Time to Eat Now and for the Future In the end, the National Fruit and Vegetable month and slow food is about the future. Supporting local farms keeps them in your community—more than a million acres of farmland are lost each year to residential and commercial development. Buying from local farmers and ranchers helps them thrive and stay on their land, and helps preserve open space. You reap the benefits of eating food at the peak of its flavor and nutrients, and you are keeping that money in your community, making your purchase twice as efficient in keeping the local economy alive. It’s a good plan for everyone. b Barbara Bassett is a locally produced freelance writer and executive assistant and loves her dogs.

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UNIVERSITY This month’s stylist Kushinda Little helped bring a little more sass to our fashion editorial (see page 8). Raised in the Sacramento area, she’s been a New York City stylist for the last six years. After missing West Coast living, she’s back!

Easy Fashion It can be a picnic in the park BY KUSHINDA LITTLE

Sweet and Casual Vintage isn’t just for cashmere cardigans and wool dress sets. You can wear vintage summer clothing. But to keep from looking like June Cleaver, update your vintage pieces by mixing new with old pieces. You can look like model Jessica, on page 8, by keeping your look simple and relaxed with a simple pleated vintage dress (or vintage-looking dress) and use jewelry to add a pop of color. A belt that has texture and a neutral flat pulls the whole look together. Dressy Demure Just because your taste level is on the demure side, there is no way that you still can’t turn heads. Model Anjelica on page 11 looks gorgeous with a dramatic, but tasteful silk pantsuit. The finishing touches are her hair and accessories. To have a mysterious and refined look about you, make sure that your chosen dress is the most dramatic item you wear. Everything else plays second to the dress, and hair has to be simple. Subtle colors in chiffon or silk will give you a feeling of lightness and fluidity, which is the look I created for. Fashion Forward Edgy does not always mean that you have to scare people away with your look. There is a very subtle way to look cutting edge effortlessly. When I create edgy looks that push the envelope and are more unique, I make a choice what is going to be unique about this outfit, the clothing or accessories? For instance, if you’re wearing a simple jumper, funk it up with a metallic belt with texture, wear a variety of bracelets, and rings. If clothes are the focal point, then wear a graphic printed dress and add simple brass or gold detailing as accessories. See page 12 and model Ariana’s outfit. I used a strong t-shirt and leggings for her look, and complimented it with simple brass or gold details. Yes You Can—and Should—Look Good I always tell clients that your style is the packaging of your product—and you’re the product. Unless you create an appealing package for yourself that you’re comfortable with, no one will ever get to the know substance beneath the exterior. What you wear can play a large role in how you’re perceived, and is part of your arsenal when winning social and economic battles. The most successful women have found that combining substance with style, elevates their sense of self, and gives clarity to who they are. So have fun with looking good and enjoy the most authentic and stylish you— it’s a part of who you are.

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Kushinda Little is a wardrobe stylist and creator and designer of Yummy Honey Swimline. For Kushinda’s complete portfolio, check her out at www.kushindalittle.wix.com/1980.


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alifornia Women Lead was proud to host our 3rd annual Women’s Empowerment Day at the Capitol. This sold-out event brought women from throughout the state together to hear from women representing the business community, appointed office, and the state legislature. The morning “Empowered Women Leaders” panel was moderated by Oakland City Auditor Courtney Ruby and included panelists Christi Black, Edelman executive vice president; Lauren Hammond, former Sacramento City council member and current commissioner, California state gaming commission; and State Assemblywomen Joan Buchanan and Kristin Olsen. The discussion centered on experiences the women faced in their individual fields, but also included a frank discussion about the many roles women play and how to “keep all the balls in the air at once.”

Board of Equalization Member Betty Yee joined the group as the luncheon keynote speaker. Yee, who is also a candidate for state controller in 2014, talked about her journey in the political arena. Starting as a fellow, working on the staff in the department of finance and then moving to the board of equalization, Betty shared her personal experience as a woman of color and the challenges she has overcome. She shared with the group the importance of moving forward and not being deterred – personally, professionally or politically—when people say you can’t do something. “Put your head down and keep moving forward,” Yee said. Cassandra Pye, senior vice president, APCO Worldwide, talked to attendees about empowering their personal brand. Some women struggled with verbalizing who they were and what they stood for. Once Pye walked them through the process of identifying what was important to them personally, what their passion was, and their goals

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Board of Equalization Member Betty T. Yee addresses attendees.

Marcey Brightwell and Natomas USD Trustee Teri Burns.

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Join California Women Lead at our Summer Reception as we Honor our MOVER Awardees: Making Our Vision of Equality a Reality In 1974, a new organization called CEWAER, now California Women Lead, was created and was the first of its kind nationwide. The need for a new organization had seemed apparent for a long time, partly because of the general dissatisfaction with the male power structure, the disproportionate number of elected women, and the sense of aloneness felt by women who are elected and then must function in an isolated situation. Many women felt that elected women were more than role models, that they could use their influence and clout to help the aspirations of all women. Women recognized that they needed supporters, buddies, and a communication network in other words, the counterpart to the “old boys club.” Today, under-representation continues and women in California have not achieved parity. So our work continues. California Women Lead hosts training events throughout the state and has encouraged thousands of women to successfully run for continued on page 30

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WOMEN’S EMPOWERMENT DAY continued from page 29 for the future, women were able to stand up and publicly articulate their personal brands. Karen Moore, CEO, Moore Communications Group, followed that session by providing women with specific public speaking and presentation skills they can use to communicate their personal brand in their personal, professional, and political lives. The day-long event concluded with the “Empowered Women Reception” and attendees were joined by members of the state legislature. Guests included Assembly Minority Lead Connie Conway, State Senators Jean Fuller and Hannah Beth Jackson, and Assembly Members Sharon Quirk-Silva, Beth Gaines, Katcho Achadjian, and Ken Cooley among others.

Assemblywoman Sharon Quirk-Silva.

Assembly Minority Leader Connie Conway, Assembly Member Katcho Achidijian, and Catherine Baker.

SUMMER RECEPTION continued from page 29 office or apply for an appointment at the state or local level. California Women Lead remains the only statewide, nonpartisan women’s organization in the state committed to providing women the training and support they need to be successful in the political arena. CA Women Lead/CEWAER is successful today because of the remarkable women who have left their mark on the organization, women who not only believe in the mission—but live it. Each year, California Women Lead hosts our annual Summer Reception when we recognize our MOVER awardee – Making Our Vision of Equality a Reality. Past recipients include Secretary of State Debra Bowen, school board members Patricia Lock Dawson and Kristen Schreder, Contra Costa County Supervisor Candace Anderson and former Executive Director for the California Commission on the Status of Women Mary Wiberg. On August 21, 2013 at the Park Ultra Lounge we will again recognize women leaders from throughout the state who are working to help ENGAGE // EMPOWER // ELECT women in California. At the same event, California Women Lead will induct two new women to our “Women’s Hall of Fame.” Past inductees include former Sacramento County Supervisors Sandy Smoley and Muriel Johnson, former Santa Barbara County Supervisor Susan Rose and former Kern County Supervisor Barbara Patrick. These women continue to be trailblazers by inspiring other women and helping them become successful community leaders. For more information about our MOVER awards, Hall of Fame, or Summer Reception, visit www.cawomenlead.org. Tickets are on sale now! bonnie magazine

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Assemblywoman Beth Gaines.

Have You Ever Thought of Running for Elected Office? Running for office is a big decision. It is a life-changing event that not only affects the candidate, but their family, friends, and community. Any level of government is only as good as those people who are willing to get involved, but this is especially true at the local level. The decisions local elected officials make can directly impact the constituents they represent—that means one day the local elected official can be the hero and the next the worst enemy. Making the decision to run can be difficult. Family obligations, job responsibilities, and the fear of putting yourself out there can make it easy to make the decision not to run. However, if we don’t have women willing to be leaders, willing to make the tough decisions, then the very basis of what our country is based on ceases to exist. On the other hand, local campaigns can be a lot of fun and as a candidate you can learn about your community and about yourself. You can learn how much you enjoy meeting new people; how to overcome your fear of public speaking; and how to advocate for yourself as you ask your friends, colleagues, and neighbors to financially support your campaign. When you ask most candidates, even those who have lost, about their experiences on the campaign trail, many will list the positive things they took away from the experience. Serving in elected office can be one of the most rewarding experiences you have. You won’t make a lot of money, it may infringe on your free time, and there may be moments when you wonder “why did I do this?” But when you see a project from beginning to end, when a constituent stops you at the local coffee shop to thank you for a job well done, when you leave a board meeting knowing you and your fellow board members made decisions that will provide greater opportunities for your community, it is all worth it. You will know that you are making your community a better place to live! California Women Lead wants to help YOU become a successful candidate! Consider applying for our “If Not You, Then Who” six-week leadership training. Topics include how to put a campaign plan together, the basics of fundraising, and using social media to get your message out and complying with campaign finance law. Join a small group of women from the Sacramento region who are also interested in running for office. Visit www.cawomenlead.org for more information to apply!

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Western States Horse Expo Cal Expo The Western States Horse Expo is one of the country’s leading equestrian experiences with vendors, events, and clinicians for every horse enthusiast.

Cost: $18. (800) 352-2411

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As the year-round source for Sacramento events, Sacramento365.com features comprehensive listings of arts, cultural, and recreational activities, allowing you to see and experience all Sacramento has to offer. Here’s what’s happening this month.

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Twilight Thursdays Sacramento Zoo Come enjoy seven themed Thursdays filled with hot cars, live music, good food, and cool drinks. Cost: $11.25. (916) 808-5888

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Annual Puppet Festival Fairytale Town Children and adults can enjoy live puppet show performances inside Fairytale Town’s Children’s Theater.

Cost: $5-$7. (916) 808-7462

Doggy Dash & Bark at the Park Festival William Land Park Bring your four-legged friend for the Doggy Dash & stay for the Bark at the Park Festival featuring a pup show, disc contest, pug races, and more.

Cost: $25-$30. (916) 504-2868

Sleep Train Arena

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Sacramento History Museum

Community Center Theater

Cost: $24-$476. (916) 557-1999

Cost: Free. (916) 442-8575

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This legendary musical is complete with glorious new staging and dazzlingly reimagined scenery inspired by the paintings of Victor Hugo.

These weekly, all ages concerts feature hometown favorites and new acts, plus DJs spinning between sets.

Adults Only Underground Tours Entertaining and knowledgeable guides lead evening walking tours that explore some of the dark secrets and racy tales lurking in Old Sacramento’s underground history.

Broadway Sacramento: Les Misérables

Cesar Chavez Plaza

Cost: $20. (916) 808-7059

7th Annual Raley Field Brewfest Raley Field Taking place on the Raley Field outfield, enjoy tastes from more than 55 local breweries, live music throughout the event, and food available for sale.

Cost: $30-$50. (916) 376-4676

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Sacramento Gay Men’s Chorus: ExtrABBAganza! Crest Theatre Take a trip to the ‘70s with the music, costumes, dancing, and vibe of the chart-topping Swedish pop group ABBA.

Cost: $25-$50. (916) 442-7378

Pitbull Electronic hip-hop artist Pitbull has seen success with #1 hits in more than 15 countries. Come see him in concert!

Cost: $39.50-$125. (916) 320-9573

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12th Annual Sacramento Juneteenth William Land Park Sacramento’s Juneteenth celebration spans three days and features Gospel Under the Stars, a run, fishing derby, golf tournament, performances, and more.

Cost: Free. (916) 808-7739

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29th Annual Sacramento Pride

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Cyndi Lauper Crest Theatre Singer/songwriter Cyndi Lauper, of “Girls Just Want to Have Fun” fame, comes to Sacramento on her She’s So Unusual Tour.

Cost: $35-$65. (916) 442-7378

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Placer County Fair Placer County Fairgrounds & Event Center From livestock shows to stock car racing this year’s Fair will entertain all. Plus, continuous country favorites are booked to play all kinds of your favorite and original styles.

Cost: $5. (916) 786-2023

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Sacramento French Film Festival Crest Theatre This annual event celebrates the present as well as the rich history of French cinema featuring new releases and rarely seen classics.

Cost: $10-$90. (916) 455-9390

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Sacramento Natural Foods Co-op’s 40th Anniversary Bash 28th & R Streets Enjoy performances by local bands, a Farm + Chef cooking challenge that pairs local chefs and farms, and local farms selling their wares in an open air market.

Cost: Free. (916) 455-2667

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Sacramento Beer Train Sacramento RiverTrain – West Sacramento The three hour trip includes a scenic train ride, custom souvenir glass, 10 tastings, live music, and a good time.

Cost: $45. (800) 866-1690

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Sacramento Pride consists of a parade and festival celebrating lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender equality.

Begins from The Citizen Hotel

Cost: Parade: Free; Festival: $10. (916) 307-5130

4th Annual Red Shoe Crawl Don your best red shoes and join in a leisurely stroll through beautiful downtown and midtown Sacramento, enjoying a variety of culinary delights from local restaurants in the region.

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Fairytale Town Celebrate the classic works of William Shakespeare while enjoying all-youcan-eat Crystal ice cream at this magical midsummer evening inspired by the popular fairy-themed play.

Cost: $15-$20. (916) 808-7462

Fleetwood Mac Sleep Train Arena Fleetwood Mac is one of rock’s most enduring, beloved, and successful bands. This tour also marks the 35th anniversary of the release of their classic Rumours album.

Cost: $49.50-$149.50. (916) 928-0000

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1409 Del Paso Blvd. Join on the first Sundays in May-December to celebrate Northern California’s most dynamic gathering of innovative and artisan food and design.

Cost: Free. (916) 692-5560

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1 An Opening of the Field: Jess, Robert Duncan, and Their Circle Crocker Art Museum Check out the first exhibition to explore the artistic production and relationship of artists Jess Collins & his partner, the poet Robert Duncan..

Cost: $10. (916) 808-7000

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Cost: $45-$65.

Cost: Free. (916) 808-7235

Cost: $22-$38. (916) 995-5464

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The Sacramento Japanese Film Festival began as a one day festival in 2005, and has since expanded into screening seven films over three days.

Crest Theatre

Cost: Free.

Cost: TBD. (916) 421-1017

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Sacramento Food Bank & Family Services

Cost: Free. (916) 263-3000

Capitol Mall Greens The bad guys will tremble this Father’s Day as thousands of superheroes storm the Capitol Mall in this larger than life 5K run/walk. On race day make sure to rep a chosen cause by decorating and wearing a cape unique to a chosen charity.

This play slams together thrilling spectacle, incredible characters, and geopolitical allegory into an invigorating theatrical experience you can’t find on pay-per-view.

Come take part in Sacramento’s oldest running event—the 37th Annual 4th of July 5-Miler (a free 5-mile run/walk). There is a Kids’ Half-Mile for children age 10 and younger.

The Independence Day Celebration is a family-oriented collection of activities focused around the Nation’s birthday, including the largest-scale pyrotechnics display in the area’s history.

Various Recreational Parks This annual series of free evening concerts includes performances by Tom Rigney & Flambeau, Mercy Me, The John Skinner Band, and Mick Martin & The Blues Rockers. Pops in the Park raises money for underfunded neighborhood parks.

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Superheroes 5K Run/Walk

Capital Stage

Glenn Hall Park

Independence Day Celebration

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Pops in the Park: Saturday Concerts in June

The Elaborate Entrance of Chad Deity

Sacramento Japanese Film Festival

4th of July 5-Miler

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The food truck community will gather for a family-friendly event featuring some of the region’s best local food, live music, and a fireworks extravaganza.

Cost: $18. (916) 558-2228

A Midsummer Night’s Dream & Crystal Ice Cream Fantasy

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Race for the Ring Teams of two solve riddles and complete challenges on their smart phone while biking or racing on foot throughout Sacramento.

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Pretty Muddy: Women’s Mud Run

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160th Annual California State Fair

Granite Park

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Pretty Muddy is a 5K adventurous obstacle course mud run or walk for any woman who wants to get outside, spend time with friends, and have fun. The event features mud (lots of it!), architectural obstacles, and a Pretty Epic Finish Line Party with entertainment, music, drinks, and celebration galore.

The 17-day California State Fair is a robust celebration of the State of California, its industries, agriculture, and diversity of its people. Experience this family summer tradition of enjoyment with plenty of entertainment, fascinating exhibits, popular livestock venues, and mouthwatering food.

Cost: $69.50-$94.50. (414) 467-1354

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40th Annual Eppie’s Great Race American River Parkway The race features a 5.82-mile run, a 12.5-mile bike, and a 6.35-mile paddle held along the scenic American River Parkway in Rancho Cordova and Sacramento.

Cost: $105+. (916) 480-0270

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Music Circus: Sugar Wells Fargo Pavilion In this play, based on the film Some Like it Hot, two male musicians, disguised as women in an all-female band, experience a series of comical mishaps while fleeing from the mob.

Cost: $30-$59. (916) 557-1999

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Cost: Free. (916) 714-2527

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6th Annual Fab 40s 5K Run/Walk East Lawn Memorial Park One of the fastest and most scenic 5K courses you will ever run, the race begins at East Lawn Memorial Park and traipses through the fabulous forties neighborhood.

Cost: $30-$35. (916) 482-8966

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Courtland Pear Fair Courtland Pear Fair The day is filled with a fun run, pancake breakfast, arts & crafts, wine tasting, children’s area, parade, music all day, and lots of food.

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{i love...} BY // CHERISE HENRY

We want to know what the ladies are lovin’ every month in our I Love…section. This month we stopped by the Sunday Sacramento Farmers Market on 8th & W Streets to find out what women love about this popular farmers market.

Melina DelBuono // 34

“I love the variety here. I love the smell of all the fresh fruits and vegetables. I love how friendly all the people are—vendors, shoppers, everyone!”

Erica Oropeza // 25

“I love getting to know all the farmers and being able to chat with them and get to know more about the produce. And of course just being able to find special things that I can’t find at a grocery store.”

Rosa Duran // 37

“I love the fresh fruits and especially love the people. Every weekend you see familiar faces, so it’s kind of like an unspoken family. One of my favorite places to stop by here sells dill, Havarti and other fresh cheeses, it’s so good.”

Shirley Emery // 63 “I love the diversity… all different kinds of people from all over. I get my flowers and herbs here, everything!”

Akili Moses Israel // 44

“I love the farmers market because you get to meet the farmers. I love the people, I love the smell. Sacramento is the best place to live and eat.”

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“I love all aspects about the Sacramento Farmers Market. This one is huge and has so many options for shoppers…you can come down here and get anything you need all week for groceries. You know you’re getting healthy food and helping local farmers—I love that.”

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“Oh, we’ve been here a long time! We have great business and enjoy all our customers.”

Kristy Lyn Levings // 33

“I own this business, I’m the farmer! I love the people! This is one of my favorite farmers markets because of the people. As a vendor, you get the chance to have close, direct relationships with your customers. A lot of them are more like friends we see every week!”


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Dear MKIA, I just met a man that I hope to marry. We are both fit, both physically and financially. We are also childless and we hope to remain that way. It seems like all our stars are aligned, except for one thing—in my early twenties, I was a stripper. I have worked very hard to distance myself from that life and who I was then. I graduated college, I have a conservative career, and friends who are supportive, and my boyfriend is the best. I really think that this secret could ruin what we have built. I am perfectly happy not telling my secret, but my little sister made a reference to my former life on Facebook, and although it didn’t blow my cover, I’m scared that eventually my past will haunt me. What should I do? >>Oh if I had a dollar for every “I stripped before the Internet” letter… and now all of these secrets are coming up and being posted online. I want to laugh at you, but actually I feel really bad for you. It seems like you really got your shit together and made something out of yourself and I think that is very commendable.

If this is really the guy for you, forever, he should be able to look past this small blurb on your past. I would sit him down and tell him exactly what you said to me. Explain to him lovingly that you were young, and it was a decision you regret. Hopefully he will be very understanding and then you can thank him with a little private lap dance.

Dear MKIA, I have a friend who is a stay-at-home mom and cares for her twoyear-old daughter. It seems to me that all she does is let the baby watch television all day long. Every time I go over there, which is a few times a week, her kid is planted in front of the TV with a snack or a drink. I think this is extremely bad for the child and I want to talk to my friend about it, but I don’t want to upset her. How should I approach the subject? >>You should approach the subject by NOT approaching it at all. Is the kid happy, healthy, and loved? Yes? Then it’s none of your business how much television or fast food or sharp objects she is exposed to. I really wish you would have given me more info, like, are you a parent? If so, what type are you? Are you the mom who doesn’t allow television at all? Are you a helicopter mom who is so far in your child’s business that they can’t fart without you posting it to the Internet? Are you a working mom who’s simply jealous that your friend is home, and you just KNOW you would do better? If the answer is YES, then good for you! I applaud you, because guess what? All of these moms are doing their best to raise happy kids, so get off your high horse and keep your opinions to yourself. As moms, we have so much to deal with on a daily basis. If we want to sit Junior in front of the boob tube for a few hours a day—so what? Likewise, if we choose to not allow TV, Internet, or food with wheat in the house—SO WHAT? That is our business, not yours. Judgmental moms like you make me sick. I hope this friend reads this and immediately unfriends you.

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Dear MKIA, I have a friend who I grew up with. We are in our late thirties now and are both divorced, single mothers of teenagers. We went through high school, college, weddings, births, and ultimately, divorces together. Both ex-husbands are our friends, and for the children’s sake, we all get together to celebrate birthdays, and other events. At the last barbeque, my friend’s ex made a pass at me and hinted that we should go on a date. I was shocked, but flattered. I immediately told my friend about it and get this—she said we would be a “cute couple” and she wants me to go out with him. I feel weird about this, but I really want to go out. I am just afraid that it will ruin a good friendship. >>So basically, you’re telling me that your social life is so small that you are resorting to recycling husbands? That’s stupid. Don’t do it. Well, now that I said that, it will seem hotter if you DO because we all want what we can’t have. I have a feeling that you’re looking for someone to give you a seal of approval, and sorry sister, you won’ find it here. Look, if this is a sexual chemistry thing—bang it out once and see if there’s anything left. You obviously know this guy and have for a long time. But I can’t cheer you on because that’s your BEST FRIEND’S EX-HUSBAND—so, unless this is going to be love, and for the long haul, steer clear. Dicks come and go, but your friend is not replaceable.

Dear MKIA, One of my best girlfriends is getting married. I want to support her during this happy time, but getting to her destination wedding is going to be a huge financial strain on me and my family. Even if I had the money to go, I’m still very hurt by her past refusal to be my son’s Godmother (she had a good reason- there was a death in her fiancé’s family the week of the christening). We’re still close on the phone- we talk at least once a week, but we never see each other physically since she moved away to the East Coast. She still visits her family on the West Coast every holiday season, but she has never made an attempt to visit my family, except once in the past five years. I’ve visited her family and made attempts to drive over and see her when she’s been in town. She’s very adamant that I must go to her wedding. But with the cost and also the past hurt I’ve felt from her slights in the past, I’m not sure if I want to be there for her. Am I being immature? Or should I just whip out the credit card and let bygones be bygones? She is after all, one of my dearest friends. >>Well, well, well…looks like you got your feelings hurt a long time ago, and then it happened again, and then again, and now, because you never communicated your feeling to your socalled “best friend,” you’re faced with a real problem. Normally, declining your invite would be no big deal, but because you have festered resentment toward this person, I have a feeling that this will ultimately be the reason you all aren’t going to be friends anymore. I am sure she owns part of this. However, if she was truly a best friend, you should have been able to discuss your feelings of disappointment with her as the incidents happened. Time and distance create a strain on relationships, but that isn’t an excuse for not communicating. A lack of communication builds resentment. Here’s what I would do—call her. “Hey Girl, yeah, sooo, I’m not going to be able to afford to attend your special day and I really apologize. Financially, we simply can’t swing it, and I hope you un-

derstand. Perhaps when you visit later on this year, we can spend some time together and try to reconnect.” If and when she accepts your apology for not attending, then start to work on what the inevitable meeting will look like. What do you want to accomplish? The one thing I do not want you to do is tell her that you didn’t make her wedding because you were upset with her for the other things. These should never, ever be mentioned in the same sentence. You’re not trying to “get her back” or win. You’ve just got yourself into a pickle here and it’s going to take some time to work it out. Now, if she flips out on you, then bring it sister because it will probably be the last time you ever talk. In the future, discuss things as they happen, don’t let little things build resentment. It’s not fair to her, you, or the friendship, and it can ultimately be the thing that ends something beautiful.

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Folsom Community Supports Albie Aware It’s Just Your Style & Friends hosted the Spring Power of Pink fashion show at the Folsom Community Center, Tuesday, May 30. Tickets were $6 and all proceeds went to the Albie Aware Breast Cancer Foundation. The fun event included refreshments, raffles, and shopping with over 25 vendors. For more information about It’s Just Your Style, visit www. itsjustyourstyle.com. For more information about Albie Aware, visit www.albieaware.org.

LEFT Model//Elina Jimenez//From The Circle of Models Ensamble//It’s Just Your Style, Historic Folsom Hair & Make Up//Cosmo Beauty Academy Location//Folsom Community Center, Folsom CA Photography//David Alvarez MIDDLE Model//Alexis Pinkney//From The Circle of Models Ensemble//It’s Just Your Style, Historic Folsom Hair & Make Up//Katherine Joy Location//Folsom Community Center, Folsom CA Photography//Leann Holtsman RIGHT Model//Mykala Bridgman//From The Circle of Models Ensemble//It’s Just Your Style, Historic Folsom Hair & Make Up//Cosmo Beauty Academy Location//Folsom Community Center, Folsom CA Photography//Kathy Gee

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Five Alarm Heat PHOTOS BY // KIMYETTA BARRON On Friday, May 4, the Del Paso Boulevard Partnership hosted the second annual Smoke & Fire Rib & Tri-Tip Cook-Off Competition Fundraiser for Sacramento City Fire Volunteer Reserves. Fire station teams were pitted against each other for the guest judged winner’s title for producing the best meats. BBQ meals were also offered for $10 a plate, with live music. For more information on ways you can help support next year’s event, contact Del Paso Boulevard Partnership at (916) 9236200. For more information about the Sacramento Fire Volunteer Reserves check out www.firereserves.com.

1. THE BOYS FROM STATION 99//Kyle O’Brien, Shawn Anderson, Oliver Tolick, and Kenny Henderson. 2. SFD CAPTAINS// Engine 5 Captain Dwayne Felcan and Engine 4 Sacramento Fire Department Captain Dave Storck. 3. TOUGH BEING A JUDGE// Jared Katzebarger (Dickey’s Barbecue Pit), and Phil Serna (Sacramento County Supervisor District 1), Allen W Warren (City Councilman District 2). 4. DERBY GIRLS IN ATTENDANCE// Sassy Long Leg, Spiked Wheels, and Annie Anklebiter. 5. HERE’S THE RESERVES//Yoshi Ishii, Danny Valdes, and Jon Brody. 6. CHEERING ON THE TEAM//Isela Perez (Sacramento King’s Dancer) and Wendy Brown (Raider’s Cheerleader). 7. BBQ FANS //Edward Lam and Goalie Laeh. 8. RED, WHITE, AND BBQ//Brad Thomas, Brandon Bullock, Wayne Lowi-Teng, Brayton Vanni, Ryan Ehlers, Jonathan Williams, and Ben Vakulich.

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g n i # @ F* Girls: n a e M t? i f o t u o w o r g r e v e n e om w o D BY // CHERISE HENRY

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ou may remember the infamous, F wordlaced letter sent by an executive board member of the Delta Gamma sorority’s University of Maryland chapter to her fellow sorority sisters. She started the letter by stating: “If you just opened this like I told you to, tie yourself down to whatever chair you’re sitting in, because this email is going to be a rough f*@#ing ride.” She went on to say Delta Gamma girls have been “f*@#ing UP in terms of night time events and general social interactions with Sigma Nu, and that they’ve received texts about people LITERALLY being so f*@#ing AWKWARD and so f*@#ing BORING.” Classy. Sure, she is probably a classic mean girl from high school turned college brat studying bitchiness in her early twenties. Immature at best, we see right through it.

But does the mean girl thing ever really go away? Or does it instead follow us into our adult social or professional lives throughout our late twenties, thirties, forties, and even fifties? Say it isn’t so! Women who hold onto the mean girl attitude are simply insecure and throw their shortcomings onto others in order to feel better about themselves. We’ve all heard this before. And, unfortunately, it doesn’t always end in the teen years. We’re seeing the mean girl syndrome

thrive in adults, mothers, and professionals, as well as in all types of relationships throughout our lives. You know the type. Competitive moms who scrutinize parenting skills left and right, showing no mercy at weekly play dates. Or the strategic coworker who claims she’s not at work to make friends, only to climb her way up the corporate ladder. Or even the mother-in-law, tempted at making passive aggressive remarks at everything you do, insisting you’re not good enough

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for her beloved son/daughter. Yup…we’ve all been there, done that in some way. I’ll be the first to admit, it’s much more difficult to take the high road when faced with an “adult bully.” I sure would like to give someone a piece of my mind to prove a point and feel as if I’m standing up for myself, but it sure is not [always] the way to go. Whether someone gave you some rude advice in front of others knowingly to cause drama, judged your skill set as a “fill-inthe—blank,” or straight up said some nasty things behind your back, the natural reaction is to attack back in full force. Half of the battle is to prevent yourself from becoming the mean girl, too. Avoid fighting fire with fire and save some face by doing one or all of the following: Take the time to cool off. Katherine Crowley, psychotherapist and coauthor of Mean Girls at Work: How to Stay Professional When Things Get Personal, guides women to release continued on page 44

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3 ford’s daughter, Christina, wrote “Mommie Dearest,” alleging that she and her brother suffered physical and emotional abuse at the hands of their famous and beautiful mother. Christina alleged that Crawford once abused her because she used wire hangers to hang her expensive clothes. 6. Boo-hoo Sue// Sue Sylvester, the hated and loved advisor of the Cheerios in Glee, is a classic bully. She’s manipulative, conniving, and uses people. Without her, the weekly TV show wouldn’t have its resident villain. 7. Whoa Nellie// Nellie Oleson tormented Laura Ingalls and any boy who came within 3 feet of her in the 1970’s television show, Little House on the Prairie. 8. Flipping Crazy// Teresa Giudice made a lasting impression with the flipping of a table on the Real Housewives of New Jersey.

MEAN GIRlS continued from page 43 those negative feelings through exercise. Take a yoga class or an action-packed kickboxing class to release the tension. Then look for a way to solve the problem professionally, without getting into a personal combat. Talk to other women. We’re not talking about gossiping here. It’s not healthy to keep it all in! Talk to a trusted friend or advisor outside of the mean girl circle who can help advise as to what they’ve done before in a similar situation or even just allow you to vent. Find your contribution to the problem. Dr. Robyn Silverman, child/teen development specialist, says sometimes it’s not always the other person playing the mean girl card. Did you do bonnie magazine

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or say anything that may have led to this situation? Take responsibility for your own actions and expect the same from others. Approach her about it. Tackle the problem and/or situation head—on by going right to the source—the mean girl. Discussing the problem out in the open isn’t easy, but it can lead you in the right direction and clear the air for neutral ground. Walk away and be grateful for the real friends you do have. Enough said. Truth is—and I think we can all agree, bitches will be bitches mean girls will be mean girls no matter what. Regardless of age, immaturity follows some women throughout life, attempting to drag others in the mud along the way. b


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haring my lifestyle changes over a span of six-months with bonnie readers was daunting. But I did it!!! I can’t believe it’s over and after all the mood swings, fruit and vegetable smoothies, and tortured thoughts of bacon, I’m almost 25 pounds lighter, my skin has better color and texture, and I’ve changed for the better. I used to eat out at restaurants (usually fast food) more than three times a week. Now I’m down to only once a week, sometimes none at all. I eat a fruit and vegetable smoothie for breakfast and have transitioned my family to accepting this change as well. I opt most times for meatless and dairy-less dishes, and no longer drink coffee in the morning. I started exercising at home with a cardio and weight lifting DVD three times a week after my doctor cleared me for light home exercise five weeks ago. The result? A me that has more energy to hang out with my kids after work, more stamina to commit to personal passions (reading, writing, and gardening), and I’ve gone down three dress sizes.

Last month, Roseville trainer and 81-year-old fitness expert Skip Rochete told me, “Once you start to exercise, your mind starts to change.” Mine has definitely, and for the better, which was something I didn’t expect. I expected to lose weight on this transformation, but I didn’t expect my whole outlook on life to change. My mind has opened up to the possibility that I could eat more fruits and vegetables. I had to learn new ways of cooking, and I’m in love with salad. I have never been a person who even thought of salad as a food choice. I remember one friend asking me last year, astonished, “you don’t eat salad?” Nope. I didn’t even bother planting lettuce in my garden because I hated salad. This year? I planted three rows of salad greens. I knew I changed and couldn’t go back when my doctor recently told me my lab results. Six-months ago, my total cholesterol was 235. Normal levels are under 200. According to the American Heart Association, high cholesterol levels (the bad kind that build up in your artery walls,) are indicators that you’re at an increased risk for a heart attack, stroke, or coronary heart disease. Today, after

making lifestyle changes that included increased fruit and vegetable intake and little to no consumption of meat or dairy, my total cholesterol is now 182. Yes, I went down 53 points in my cholesterol levels. When he told me that, I almost cried and felt like I was on top of the world. It didn’t dawn on me that I could control my health in such a precise way. My doctor was just as shocked as I was that my cholesterol went down so much. But he told me to keep it up, and I intend to! Thank you bonnie readers for keeping me accountable. If it wasn’t for you and the pesky pictures I had to take monthly for all to see, I would have binged every other day, and made sure I didn’t commit to myself. Thank you to all the experts I talked to who gave me helpful tips and strategies for making these lifestyle changes. As I found out and what behavioral scientists have known for years, is that changing diet is not accomplished by just being “disciplined.” I would also like to thank MYSELF!!! Really, truly, after making these changes in food, which were huge for me, I feel like I can do anything and I can finally, give myself some credit. If I can do this, YOU can do it. To read my past articles and helpful tips on getting radiant and healthy in 2013, check out www.

Baseline Statistics Cholesterol: 235 LDL cholesterol: 143 HDL cholesterol: 62 Weight: 178.6 lbs. // Waist: 41 ¾” Thigh: 25 ½” // Chest: 43 ½”

Workout: Fitness and weight lifting DVDs three times a week.

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5 Secret Places to Chill Out BY // MICHELLE McDAID PHOTOS BY // MICHELLE McDAID

Float Away at the “Other” Lake

Do Movie Night Without the Babysitter

It’s approaching 100 degrees and you need to dip your feet in some cool water, stat. Where do you go? Crowded Discovery Park? One of the many inlets onto the American River? Or perhaps Folsom Lake? You may be overlooking our local waterway’s jewel in the crown, Lake Natoma’s Negro Bar. Situated just downstream from its big brother, Folsom Lake, Negro Bar is less Coors Light and more Kool-Aid. There’s a good sized “beach” with plenty of tree shade and that leads off in a kid-friendly slope into the water. With no powerboats, visitors instead bring kayaks, or on weekends, rent one onsite, paddling down the lake and under the Folsom Boulevard Bridge. My husband and I actually “found” Negro Bar on a bike ride along the American River Bike Trail and now go regularly in the summer when we don’t have time to drive to the coast. Cycle at a leisurely pace from Nimbus Dam on Hazel, flanked by the lake on one side and the Rollingwood Bluffs on the other, and then stop at Lake Natoma to dip your feet before continuing on to old Folsom’s Sutter Street restaurants for lunch.

Ditch the baby sitter: texting, talking, fidgeting, and bringing your own food are all no problem at Sacramento’s only remaining Drive-In theater. If you have kids who are tough to handle in a regular cinema, a Drive-In can really take the stress out of the experience. Plus, most movies are a double-feature meaning you can satisfy the kids’ excitement for the latest Pixar movie then, while they fall asleep in the back seat, you and hubby can enjoy the latest Iron Man flick. For couples, there’s still nothing to beat the romance and intimacy of your own car for date night (wink-wink!). These days the sound booms from your car’s audio system, even giving you complete control of the volume knob. It’s like movie night at home, only with more atmosphere and excitement than your family room can muster. West Wind Drive-In is located just off the 50 freeway at Bradshaw.

Lake Natoma’s Negro Bar Facility Address: Greenback Lane // Folsom (916) 988-0205 www.parks.ca.gov

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Leave Town Without Ever Leaving Home

Enjoy a Sunset Picnic with a View

Eat Good and Do Good

You’re sitting at a shady picnic table, with a cathedral-like canopy of redwoods towering above you. The air is moist and the atmosphere calming. No, you’re not at Redwood National Park. In fact, you’re only blocks from the crowds of downtown Davis. It’s hard to believe, but it’s true. Hidden in plain sight, just off the main drag, are 100 acres of gardens featuring trees and plants from around the world, including the largest collection of coast redwood trees outside their native range. Walk along the lazy, green river from Northern California to Australia in a matter of moments, and then stop in East Asia to enjoy a picnic on the gently sloping grass. My husband, daughter, and I visited on a warm, weekend day, but found only a sprinkling of people on the trails. Despite living in Sacramento for 10+ years, we had no idea the arboretum existed. We’ll surely be going back, possibly for June’s Family Day, or one of the many live performances held throughout the year. The Arboretum is open 24/7 and, best of all, is free. There is also a teaching nursery to purchase plants.

Although there are many beautiful parks in the Sacramento area, few rival the view from Kalithea Park in El Dorado Hills. Perched on the side of a hill, Kalithea is a relatively small and quiet upscale neighborhood park with a big secret: amazing westward views of the setting sun and Folsom Lake. By the time the sun begins to go down, the large, open, grassy area has been deserted by the neighborhood families. Lay out a blanket, uncork some chilled champagne, and enjoy the view as the sun sets over the lake. Kalithea Park is located just off El Dorado Hills Boulevard.

Just minutes from the lunch crowd and rush in downtown and midtown is a relatively unknown oasis of calm and friendliness. Casa Garden Restaurant truly is a diamond-in-the rough. Sitting inconspicuously next to the Sacramento Children’s Home on Sutterville Road, the restaurant is surrounded by beautiful gardens, which provide the calming view through the dining room’s large windows. For almost forty years, Casa Garden has operated on a staff of, almost exclusively, volunteers, donating their time so that the restaurant can return a portion of its profits to the Children’s Home. To-date the restaurant has raised around $2.7 million dollars for their next door neighbors. There are only two seating times—11:30 and 1:00pm—which keeps things fairly laid-back as far as lunch time dining goes. I went with my husband and daughter, and the volunteers made an extra special effort to greet her, chatting about Disney princesses and vacation plans. The warm welcome and personal service is unusual in this day of “turnand-burn” restaurants, but the price tag remained affordable. While you’re there, ask one of the volunteers to tell you the story of how one woman lobbied the Children’s Home’s reluctant, all-male board, to get the restaurant off the ground back in 1973.

University of California, Davis Arboretum LaRue Road // UC Davis (530) 752-4880 www.arboretum.ucdavis.edu

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Casa Garden Restaurant 2760 Sutterville Road // Sacramento (916) 452-2809 www.casagardenrestaurant.org

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Christmas in July? You Bet Start Planning Now for the Holiday Travel

BY ANNE ROSE Imagine this—the children happily sharing their new toys in front of the Christmas tree. The festive house decorations giving off a warm glow, adding to the ambiance of family conversations and laughter in the living room. The dinner menu— perfect and

TOP: Christmas Market welcome in front of the Cologne Cathedral. BOTTOM: Most homes and commercial buildings in Germany get into the spirit of holiday decorations.

everyone helping in the cleanup. Now, imagine the reality of the holidays. Kids fighting over toys— “Mommy, Jason hit me!” “I did not— Sarah took my toy, and it’s MINE.” Relatives irritated with each other over political conversations. Even better, the kitchen is a disaster, with dirty dishes, pots, and pans piled high. So much for the reality of family holiday get togethers messing up everything you lovingly planned. I say, for your next Christmas/New

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Year’s holiday, get out of town and leave the stress behind. Seriously. Ok, if you must, take the extended family, but we have found that when family travels together, the petty squabbles disappear with the lack of stress and the focus is on intimate family time. Nurture those relationships. Build those family memories. When you take away the stress of menu planning, house preparations, the crowds battling for that trendy gift at the mall, the discomfort of knowing that two relatives can’t be in the same room without fireworks exploding, the focus reverts to what it should be: quality time with those you love. For years now, one of our newer family traditions is to head to Europe for their enduring Christmas Markets. You don’t need to be Christian to enjoy the Christmas Markets of Europe— these are mostly village markets that hark back to medieval times. And it’s not a market like you’ve ever seen in the Sacramento region. Wooden huts, festooned with pine trees, lights, and handmade decorations cluster around the village square, selling everything from artisanal crafts to gingerbread to local sausage specialties to the ubiquitous gluhwein (mulled wine). Christmas music wafts through the air, mingling with the laughter of locals and travelers alike. You don’t need to be a shopper to enjoy the Christmas Markets of Germany, Austria, or France (my husband who usually shuns crowds or stores of any kind is a super devotee of Europe’s Christmas Markets). It’s the warm atmosphere of camaraderie, even among strangers who offer you a bite of some regional food that looks intriguing—the smells, the sounds, the joyfulness. Add a dab of gently falling snow and you have the picture-perfect Currier & Ives postcard. In the Christmas Markets of Europe, you truly feel ‘goodwill toward men.’ I think it’s the essence of the Christmas spirit. Germany, Austria, and France really have hundreds-years-old Christmas

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TOP: Draft horses pull Santa’s sleigh in Germany. BOTTOM: Tudor hotel estates, like this one in London, are particularly welcoming in the winter. Market traditions that are not to be missed. But if you’re more of an Anglophile, head over to England for more of a Dickensian spirit. Victorian-costumed carolers, the winter wonderland of a transformed Hyde Park, the incredibly creative store front displays of iconic Harrods, the diversity of food courts at Fortnum & Mason (where the Queen shops!), or the 150 –year-old Hamley’s toy store bring out the celebratory mood of anyone. For Europe, I prefer river cruising the waterways to take in the Christmas Markets of fairytale villages that sprang up along the banks of the Rhine, Main, and Danube. You unpack once and all your meals and local entertainment (think local Bavarian quartet or gingerbread baker whose gingerbread-making skills hark back for generations) are included. No stress. No logistical planning. Just sit back and let the festivities come to you. It’s impossible to be a Scrooge amid all the undiluted joy. River cruising is my favorite mode of travel for traversing Europe’s Christmas Markets, but there are also escorted land tours that follow a similar route. I’ve done both, and one of the big benefits of river cruising is the hotel floats along with you, so no getting up at 6 a.m. to pack and check out of daily hotels. This way is much more restful. And the key is on reducing stress, right? There are several really terrific river cruise companies that focus on American tastes and service expectations. I should mention Europe winters since that question always arises, ‘but isn’t it cold there?” Hello. We don’t escape winter in the Sacramento region; Eu-

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rope’s winters are similar in temperature. And on a river cruise, you always come back from an outing to a warm welcome of gluhwein or mulled cider and gingerbread cookies. I don’t get that kind of welcome at my own home in the wintertime! But if your idea of a stress-less holiday celebration is basking by a turquoise ocean with a tropical drink in hand, then head over to Hawaii for a tropical take on surfin’ Santa. Put aside the notions of Europeimported traditions and embrace Polynesian customs: bright lights wrapped around graceful palm trees, Santa arriving by surfboard instead of sleigh, gifts of handmade fruits, or wood, nut, or shell jewelry, fireworks that light the sky and illuminate the mountains and verdant valleys. In Hawaii, you give each other the gift of spending time with each other to music, dancing, and of course bountiful buffets of ethnic dishes. Many wholesalers are offering air credits and other discounts if you choose your travel dates wisely. As you can see, regardless of whether you want to experience the ancient traditions of Europe, or the warmweather escape to Hawaii for your holiday, it’s easy to avoid the usual holiday stress and let someone else deal with the meals, the decorations, the hassles. Get back to basics, and make your holidays about fun and love again! You can let everyone know, instead of buying gifts this year, everyone can just buy themselves family time spent in a wonderful location, without all the added stress. b

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Anne Rose is a travel designer and President of CelebrateTravel, Inc, a Cameron Park-based boutique travel agency. She welcomes your feedback and suggestions and questions at either annerose@celebrate-travel.com or (530) 677-6454.


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