How to Start an Online Dating Conversation By Jill Crosby After browsing profiles, you found someone you can relate to and have a ton in common with, and you find them very attractive. You’re excited and want to make a good first impression. So what’s the best way to begin an email dialog that engages that potential partner? There’s a three-step process you might use called R.C.A.: Reference, Compliment, and Ask. Reference something they mention in their profile you relate to or have in common. Maybe you both have dogs, love reggae music or practice Ashtanga yoga. Compliment them. Be genuine and acknowledge something you admire about who they are, just not their looks. If you’re impressed by what they do for a living, you could say, “Wow, I love that you’re an environmental engineer! Sounds like you are really working on some wonderful, earth-saving projects.” Ask a question that requires an answer: “What do you like the best about your work?” Or “Who are your favorite reggae artists?” Don’t go too deep with your first question, but do get there within a few emails so you can really start getting to know each other. Also, don’t get in email purgatory. Make sure to talk on the phone and meet in person, or video chat if they don’t live nearby, as soon as you feel comfortable. Have fun and in-JOY the process! It does work! Bio: Jill Crosby is the founder and CEO of SpiritualSingles.com, the oldest, exclusively conscious/spiritual dating site online. Jill is known for her candor, honesty and humor as she helps singles thrive in the world of online dating and ultimately meet their life partners.
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