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Queer Thinker A Teen LGBT Magazine.

October Issue

Out Celebs Pride, Pride!!! Nottingham, Stoke and Bristol Pride Events 2010

“Coming Out?” Reece, Teigan and More...

Who is on our cover?? More inside.

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Welcome... Hello and welcome to the first and October Issue of Queer Thinker Magazine. We hope to put everything you’ll need all in one place and make it easy to find. We will be taking some of the hot topics in the TLGBT community with news, reviews and advice put together each month for you. So just sit back and read away...

Contents...

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Hot News surrounding

Who’s On the Cover???

10 Out Celebs? 12

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Some stories from some

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Coming “out”? Reece

Stoke Pride 2010

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LGBT’s

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Bristol Pride 2010

24 Top Ten films 25 26

Top Ten Music

Top Tens Books

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Do you need advice??

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Meet the team behind Queer Thinker Editor... Hello and welcome to the first ever Issue of Queer Thinker Magazine. I hope that this will be the first of many issues touching on what we hope are hot topics. Of course we would love to hear what you think and what you would like to see in the Magazine. But a little about me I think, I’m nearly 21 so I will not be young for much longer but I hope my youthful heart will keep a fresh look. Now you may think that this would be easy to do. Well you would be wrong, but it’s so fun working with new people getting to know them. So I can truthfully say that the team here will have fun and maybe one day someone may take this job of putting everything together... But for now I will try my best to bring the best for you and nothing less, so to get hold of any of the team email us. In the subject box please state who your email is for, this will help us greatly. Our email address is qtmag@hotmail.co.uk. I hope you enjoy what we have produced for you. Editor Dan Allen.

Hey everyone, I'm Teigan, I'm a 16 year old lad, who Is openly gay. I love life, and love everything to do with cars, and I want to race cars professionally when I'm older. I also love making dance music, as a hobby, and I'm also hoping to turn professional at some point. I will be starting a radio show at some point too, and if I’m lucky I will be writing about it in here very soon, and I want you all to be listening,.. .. :) In QT, I will be writing a few columns about different subjects. and I will be doing 'Teigan's Top 10' of, up to date, books, music and films, as well as other columns. I hope you enjoy reading this edition QT, and if you want to get in contact with me, to give me ideas on a subject to write about or top 10 ideas, or to ask anything else, just email qtmag@hotmail.co.uk and then address it to me! Thanks every one. Much love. Teigan x

Ross is a dear friend of mine. I asked him to write a section on Bristol Pride 2010. Like some of the others he might pop in from issue to issue.

Reece is a young teen who is doing the odd article for us when he can find time in his busy schedule. So he will be popping in and out from time to time.

As with some of our others I hope that he will contribute in the future because it was great working with him.

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I hope that he will be a future contributor to the Magazine as his input is good and well balanced.

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What’s hot in the news.... Jane Lynch: 'Chris Colfer is my hero'

Kurt gets a Boyfriend

Friday, July 16 2010, 16:33 BST. By Catriona Wightman, TV Reporter

The Editor here

Jane Lynch has described her Glee co-star Chris Colfer as "courageous". Colfer, who plays Kurt, presented Lynch with an award at the recent Outfest ceremony. Speaking at the event, Lynch told On The Red Carpet: "I'm so honoured to have Chris Colfer give me this award tonight because he's my hero. "Not only did he get a nomination for an Emmy today, which I think was just such good taste on the part of the Academy, but he's one of the nicest people I know." She continued: "He's just a courageous kid, you know. He's got a lot of pressure on his young shoulders because so many people look up to him, and he just walks with such dignity and grace." Glee will return for its second season on September 21 on Fox, and E4 in the UK sometime after.

It has been leaked that Kurt Hummel played by Chris Colfer is to get a boyfriend in the next season. It has also been said they will kiss on the show. It’s been reported that Chris has said “I don’t know how Middle America would feel about it, but it will be done in a tasteful manner”. Now if you don’t know Chris is openly gay himself and single; thus meaning it wouldn’t be difficult for him to do. But Kurt isn’t the only one with love on the set. Finn and Rachel are to get hitched and its rumoured that two others will too. This pairing comes in the shape of Brittany and Santana. So it’s going to be a great season on Glee. And of course all of us here at QT will be watching when it comes to our shores.

Scandinavian airline to hold first mid-air gay wedding

Gay Olympic diver Matthew Mitcham urges footballers to come out

By Caroline Jackson • Pink News September 2, 2010 - 11:14

A Scandinavian airline hopes to host the world’s first mile-high gay wedding. SAS Scandinavian Airlines is running an online competition to find a lucky couple to walk down the aisle during a flight from Stockholm to New York on December 6th. “Love is in the air” is the airline’s social online campaign and it is accepting entries from couples wishing to celebrate their nuptials up in the air. The winning couple with the most online votes will then marry onboard. The winners will receive return business class flights with SAS to New York, with three nights’ luxury accommodation in New York. The couple will then be whisked away to Los Angeles to enjoy another three nights’ accommodation at Hollywood's Andaz Hotel. The company says it has been conducting onboard weddings for straight couples for years but believes this will be the first time a gay couple marry in the air. SAS chief commercial officer Robin Kamark said: “SAS is the national airline of three of the world’s most liberal and progressive countries, especially when it comes to LGBT rights, so we feel this is a natural celebration of love."

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Edit: - It has been confirmed that all the rumours are true and there will be lip locking for all six of the characters in Glee. This is good to hear.

By Caroline Jackson • Pink News September 2, 2010 - 15:22

Gay Olympic diving champion Matthew Mitcham has encouraged gay Australian Football League (AFL) players to feel safe and open about their sexuality. Mitcham was speaking several months after AFL player Jason Akermanis wrote in a newspaper column that gay footballers should stay in the closet. The diving champion, 22, accused Akermanis of being “narrow-minded” for the remarks. Mitcham told the Herald Sun: “If their environment allows them to feel comfortable enough to come out, I see absolutely no reason why not. “All the footy codes have been doing so much work to stamp out homophobia in their sports, and I think it’s brilliant and such a proactive thing on their part.” Although a gay Olympic athlete is not new, few sporting figures have come out. But Mitcham, who came out in 2008 just before winning a gold medal at the Beijing Olympics, said he embraces his sexuality. He said: “It’s a part of me that I love and enjoy and I like being known as gay. I see it as something positive, so it’s just another positive thing to be known as.” Mitcham believes the backlash against Akermanis’ column should urge gay men to not be afraid of keeping their "secret".

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'Oaks Actor comes out, and confirms gay plot By Ryan Love • Digital Spy September 15, 2010

Kieron Richardson has come out as gay in an interview with ITV's This Morning. The Hollyoaks actor, who also appeared on Dancing On Ice, divulged his sexuality to Phillip Schofield and Holly Willoughby. Richardson also revealed that his character Ste would be involved in a plot in which he would question his feelings for Brendan Brady (Emmett Scanlan). The soap confirmed that the plot would see the pair form an "unusual friendship" as Ste becomes captivated by the bad boy. The pair kiss on a night out but a disgusted Brendan then rejects Ste, who later admits that he has been attracted to another male before when he spent time in a young offenders' institute. However, the longterm storyline is set to take a shocking twist when Brendan beats Ste up badly, marking the beginning of a turbulent and troubled relationship. Hollyoaks series producer Paul Marquess said: "This is a long running storyline and while it is dark to begin with, the lessons that Ste learns are ultimately positive and life affirming. "This story is about not being afraid to be who you are and while this is something Brendan struggles with, Ste is refreshingly accepting of his feelings towards another man," he continued. "I hope viewers will be glued throughout the twists and turns as we unravel how Brendan came to be the twisted person we have been watching on screen." Richardson admitted that he was "shocked" to learn about the storyline but added that he was honoured to be given the plot. He added: "Having understood the long-term storyline I am honoured and very excited to have been given this challenge. Brendan is a dangerous character and it will be interesting to see how Ste copes when he himself is the victim of domestic violence.”Scanlan confessed that he is glad that Brendan is a becoming "a complex character" and "not a gratuitous soap villain, but a multi-layered character with depth, a troubled past and an unsure future". He continued: "I hope that as the storyline develops, viewers will be able to understand why Brendan has become the villain they see today. Brendan is compelled to manipulate and control everyone who crosses his path. At the moment this makes him dangerous but when we identify why he behaves this way, we will discover his vulnerabilities and this is exciting..." The scenes will air later next month.

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Hollyoaks actress to open trans support centre By Caroline Jackson • Pink News September 3, 2010 - 12:03

A Hollyoaks actress who plays a trans character will unveil an innovative trans support centre. Located in Hull, GenderShift will be opened at 2.00pm on Sunday by actress Victoria Atkin, who plays 15-yearold Jasmine/Jason Costello in the soap. Organisers believe it will be the UK’s first support centre exclusively for people facing gender identity and sexual orientation issues. As part of Hollyoaks’ new family the Costellos, Atkin's character feels trapped in a female body and yearns to dress and live as a man. Last month, viewers saw the character's mother discover hidden boys' clothes in the house. Atkin hopes her role will bring public attention to the difficulties faced by trans people. The centre is funded by a £262,000 grant from the Department of Health, which was part of a £25m budget to fund new and innovative approaches to tackling health issues. GenderShift plans to work closely with sexual health clinics, mental health trusts, local authorities and social services. The NHS estimates that one in 4,000 people in the UK is receiving medical help for gender identity issues, although it is thought that many more may not come forward. Gendershift support centre is located at 44 Portland Street, Hull. For more information call 01482 755600.

Archbishop of Westminster's aide says gay rights have made Britain a 'wasteland' By Staff Writer, PinkNews.co.uk • September 2, 2010 - 14:42

An advisor to Vincent Nichols, the Archbishop of Westminster, has attacked gay rights and the "feminisation of masculinity". Edmund Adamus, the influential director of pastoral affairs for the Diocese of Westminster, was speaking three weeks before Pope Benedict XVI visit Britain. Using biblical language, he spoke about the role of women and the importance of heterosexual marriage. He said that Britain was a "selfish, hedonistic wasteland" and blamed liberals for the "commercialisation of sex". "Britain in particular, with its ever-increasing commercialisation of sex, not to mention its permissive laws advancing the gay agenda, is such a wasteland." Mr Adamus also claimed that the contraceptive pill causes infertility. He said: "The rising levels of sub-fertility and chronic infertility due to long-term use of hormonal contraception is a key factor to address, because the pain of being childless can put such a huge strain on Gay activist Peter Tatchell told the Independent that the remarks were "insulting but not unexpected", while Keith Porteous-Wood, of the National Secular Society, claimed that "most" British Catholics were "sickened" by church teachings on homosexuality and contraception.a marriage."

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Sports person and being gay?? So can I be gay and a sports person? The answer is yes I can, because there are whole lists of sports persons who have come out. From Rugby star Gareth Thomas to the late footballer Justin Fashanu there are scores of gay people in sport. I could end it here, but I’m not going to because it’s not so long ago left sport because I am gay. It sounds like its normal for most of us to at some point to give up sport because we are gay. But looking at it now I wish I had not swooped rugby boots for a priest in Jesus Christ Superstar at high school. But I kept on swimming because who cares if you’re gay and a swim in a non competing club. This was also around the time when I knew that other things were off the books for me. Like Church of England Priest; but I digress, the main point is sport doesn’t care if you are white brown yellow straight bi gay, it’s the fans. Though these fans need to know that it doesn’t matter if a

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Player is gay or straight. He or she will score the points just as well as their straight team mates. My tip to any young or older sports person reading this is 1. Don’t give up on your dream of playing your sport. 2. If you do get abuse from fans then don’t let them get to you. 3. Focus and use whatever is thrown at you in a positive way. 4. And foremost be yourself and be happy to be you. I think that if we the younger folk start to change the look of our community then we will have no problem playing for Man U or Chelsea. In future we do hope to run this as a main topic and we might get Gareth in. Editor.

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Who’s on the Cover ?

Who is on the Cover? Daniel Raven. He is a Seventeen year old guy from Southendon-sea UK and is gay. He offered to be on our first front cover so I said yes and here we are. The first of many interviews. QT Hello and welcome to QT. How are you today? DR Hi; I'm fine thank you QT When did you know you were gay? DR Erm; I was 11ish QT And when did you start to tell people? DR Few months ago QT How did those people take it?

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DR They were like meh that’s alright don’t really care lol QT That’s good, anyone say that they aren't going to be friends with you or have stopped talking to you? DR Nope no on everyone was like “cool” do I care no I don't men and women QT That is lucky. you are lucky to have people around you like that. did you think it would be that easy? DR Nope I was absolutely petrified QT Do you feel that you were lucky to have friends who don't care if your gay bi straight or up a tree? DR They are like as long your happy QT And do think you’re lucky not to lose a friend? DR I think myself lucky I haven't lost my closest friend lol QT so how many boyfriends have you had? (i know personal) DR Errrrrr..... 5ish lol QT any you regret? DR 2 lol QT Any you would like to start again in the future? DR Nope lol

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QT and are you single now? DR Nope I'm afraid not lol QT Oh that's too bad but I suppose good you're in a relationship what's he like? (keep it clean please) DR Fun talkative QT That’s nice, do you have any crushes? besides your bf? DR Erm... This guy called Danny and Sean and another Dan QT You like your Dan`s then? DR Ooo yes QT And would you tell these people you had a crush on them? QT If you had the chance to DR Maybe ;) lol

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QT Ok so we are going to move on to what you like doing in your spare time if that's ok, so what do you do in your spare time? DR I'm a bit of a gamer like making models and collect model trains lol QT I think that's rather cool, do you do any volunteering at all? DR Yes scouting and charity work QT That’s good, what charity work do you do? DR I help out with all sorts of charities DR Fundraising walks Raffles QT That's cool, so besides this do you have a job as your 17?

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QT Well it sounds like you have a plan and a back up one too DR Oh yes if not psycholoy, media if not that then the forces as a technician QT You have got it planned out DR Oh Yes! QT And one last thing, what advice would you give our readers on relationships, coming out or even sorting out a career plan? DR Well relationships are tough and both parties need and want it enough to work. Coming out I'd say if you think people can handle it then just come out and say it like I did. And careers well follow your dreams but have a fallback plan QT Thank you for taking the time to use and we hope to hear from you in the future. DR Thank you for asking me to do this. And I’m sure I could do another feature in the future too. DR Yep I work at Primark Lol QT And is that fun? DR Yeah it’s alright DR more like slave labour QT but at least it's a paying job. DR Yer I know QT So what do you see yourself doing in 5 years time from now?? DR Hopefully my dream job as an archaeologist :-P QT Cool that's a great job. And I take that in 20 years time you hope to be still doing that?? DR Yeah if not psychology of some sorts lol

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Out Celebs Christopher Biggins, Born 16 December 1948 – British, Actor/Television Personality/King (or Queen) of the Jungle Simon Amstell, Born 29 November 1979 - English, Comedian/TV Presenter Michael Cashman MEP, Born 17 December 1950 – British, Actor and Politician

Carol Ann Duffy CBE, Born 23 December 1955 - Scottish, Poet/play write and UK Poet Laureate George Hosato Takei, Born 20 April 1937- Japanese American, Actor Ellen Degeneres, Born 26 January 1958 – American, Entertainer Jodie Foster, Born 19 November 1962 – American, Actor

Brain Paddick, Born 24 April 1958 – British, Retired Police Officer; Lib Dem candidate for Mayor of London

Stephen Fry, Born 24 August 1957British, Actor/Comedian/TV Presenter

Samantha Fox, Born 15 April 1966 – British, Model/Singer

Sir Ian McKellen, Born 25 May 1939British, Actor

John Barrowman, Born 11 March 1967 - Scottish, Actor/Musician/TV Presenter

K.D. lang, Born 2 November 1961Canadian, Musician

David Paisley, Born 2 February 1979Scottish, Actor Colin McAllister, B. 10 January 1967 and Justin Ryan, B. 11 February 1966 – Scottish couple, Interior Designers/TV Presenters Andrew Hayden-Smith, Born 5 November 1983- British, Actor & Presenter

Rosie O'Donnell, Born 21 March 1962American, Entertainer Amy Lamé, Born 1970- American, Entertainer Stephen Gately, Born 17 March 1976, Died 10 October 2009- Irish, Singer & Songwriter Gareth Thomas, Born 25 July 1974 – Welsh, Welsh Pro Rugby Footballer in both Union & League and still Plays.

Matt Lucas, Born 05 March 1974English, Comedian

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Out Celeb continued...

Tila Tequila, Born 24 October 1981- American, Model/Presenter

Kristan Digby, Born 19--, Died 2010 – British TV presenter.

Will Young, Born 20 January 1979British, Musician

Tanner Cohen, Born 1989 – American Actor, Were the World Mine.

Portia de Rossi (Ally McBeal) Robert Newton (athlete) Cynthia Nixon (Sex & The City) Mark Feehily (Westlife) Alex Parks (Fame Academy) Jill Jackson (Speedway) Rupert Everett (Shrek, My Best Friend's Wedding)

John Cameron Mitchell (Hedwig & The Angry Inch, Shortbus) Anne Heche (actor) Darren Hayes (Savage Garden)

Martina Navratilova (Tennis player) Jake Shears (Scissor Sisters)

Rhona Cameron (comedian) Edwin Morgan (Scottish national poet)

Marc Almond (Soft Cell) Evan Davis (journalist, Dragons' Den (UK) presenter)

Peaches (musician) Tegan and Sara Quin (Tegan & Sara, band) Robert Stadlober (Summer Storm, De: Sommerstrum) Lance Bass (N Sync)

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Scott Mills (BBC Radio 1 DJ) Russell T Davies (writer; Queer As Folk, Dr Who) Darren Brown (magician, illusionist)

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Coming "Out"?

I was talking to one of my friends the other day and he told me he was gay. He wanted to tell people that he was but he was too scared of what people might think! He asked me what I thought was the best way of "coming out of the closet". I told him to man up and just tell people! But obviously this is a lot easier to say then actually do. Chances are that if you are reading this magazine that you are interested in the same sex and might be "in the closet" so to speak. The best thing to do? "Come out!" and tell people! As soon as you start admitting yourself to others is when you yourself and start living life to the full!

However, you might be happy now but you should think forwards in the future because, guarantied, you will want to have a relationship and you will want someone to love you, and that is going to be extremely hard if nobody knows about you, the real you. Like I said earlier though, you need to be yourself ready to tell people that you are gay. You need to feel confident enough with yourself to tell others, even more if you're shy. Building self confidence is key to being happy and you will be a lot happier when you are out! No more secrets and no more lies from all your friends and family is like having a thousand tonne weight lifted off your shoulders. You might not think it now but it’s one of the best feelings in the world.

My Story My "coming out" was actually really unplanned. I found out that I liked guys at quite an early age and so I decided to tell someone when I was 13.

Why should I tell people? I'm Happy as I am. If you are happy about people not knowing then it isn’t anyone’s place to say otherwise.

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"What should I do?"

I was sat with my English class and basically I just told my three best friends. They really weren't that surprised! That was that until I got my first boyfriend, which was suppose to be a secret, two whole hours later everyone knew! Nobody was really that surprised and I had a lot of people come up to me to ask if it was true. After about two weeks nobody really cared anymore and that was it for my friends knowing. I was still reluctant to tell my Family though, which is usually everyone’s main fears because if your family turn around and reject you, then who else are you suppose to turn to? My Mom and Dad are Divorced so I live with my Mom and I see my dad every week. My Mom actually asked if I had a boyfriend and I simply said yes and that was it for my Mom! She is my Mom and she loves me for being her son and nothing is going to change that. My Dad? Truth is that I actually haven't told my Dad.

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You need to come out when you are ready too. That is probably the most important thing. Telling your close friends usually helps a lot because then you have someone to talk to about it. Don't be worried about whether they will treat you differently because the truth is, they probably already know! They won't treat you any differently because they're your friends! They like you for you and nothing can change that. Same for your family. I would always advise that you tell a female member of the family first because, let’s face it, women are more accepting! And like I said earlier, the chances are that they already have an idea of this and are just waiting for you to admit to them. You could sit them down and tell them but that can get a lot more emotional then you really want. Another thing, don't boldly say "I'm Gay" even though it might be true, it’s just a little bit forced, say something more mature like; "I think I like Guys/Girls", "I think I might be Gay". Add something more than just two syllables. Once that you've told your close friends and family then things get a little easier and then you can start acting yourself around them. There will always be them few people who will try and give you grief about being different but they are just low lives and bullies that have nothing better to do with their lives. You're better than them and that will show when you see them 10 years later with no life and job, and you are stud tall with a family and a career of your own. Reece ^-^ x

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My Coming out Story... I was about 10 or 11, when I started to wonder if I liked boys or not, these feelings were unknown to me, and I wasn't sure what to think at all, and at that age, you can understand, I had been 'experimenting' with a boy, if you can call it that, from the age of about 8, but as I said, I was never sure what I was really doing, at the age of about 14, I was watching the Olympics on telly, and Tom Daley, the Olympic diver appeared, and that was really when I thought, “oh my god! I think I like boys” (As I did, and still do have a big crush on him), and then from there, I had mixed emotions in my head, and I was getting confused, I then confided in one of my best female friends, and my nerves were wrecked by that point as I had been planning to tell her for weeks, but never plucked up the courage and then I finally decided to do it, because I knew she was my friend and she would accept me, as we had a very close relationship, I pretty much just told her that “ I need to tell you something, I, erm, think I may be gay”, and she turned round and accepted me straight away, and I thought after that, oh it will just be like that with everyone. How naive I was, looking back, I had confided in a few friends over the next few weeks, and they all reacted in pretty much the same way, until one of my supposed friends, went round and told everyone, then in every lesson, there would be one or two of my annoying classmates who liked to torment me, and said stuff like “gay boy”, or shouting stuff across the room, for instance! Queer Thinker Magazine™.

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“you like dick up your arse”, to most of these comments I just ignored, or made a sharp retort, like “ yeah, with you”, as a lot of the people in the class didn't give a s*it to be honest, and just went along with it and ignored it, that’s when all my other friends found out and they were all okay too, this happened up until year 10, so I was 15, and then it seemed to die down as I never cared what anyone thought, so from then on I just ignored all the comments and it seemed to stop. Next was my mum and dad to tell, mum was first, as my parents are split up, I was so nervous, I asked the help of a bisexual friend in my school, and she told me how she had managed to tell her parents, and I did the same, I went up to her and said, mum, “I am sorry, but I don't care what you think, I am gay!” and she just hugged me. My dad on the other hand, just seemed to say “ I don't care” but I think his feelings are different to what he has said, but even I have to admit, it was a fairly good response from them both, as I know and have heard from friends,. My coming out was easy. But I just want to say to all you out there. Take it step by step, don't just go charging into telling people, think, people may not react like the way they did with me, but just be happy and be yourself. And don't change for anyone. Thanks all. Teigan xx

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Some of your stories...

My Coming out story

My Coming out story

It was January, I can’t remember the date. I asked my mum if I could have a word. I sat here down on the sofa and asked. “If I was gay would you still love me?” the answer was yes. So I sat there and thought, do I tell her or not. I chose to and said “Mum, I’m gay.” What I got in return was not what I expected after the minute before. “Marcus, you are not gay, you’ve had girlfriends. How do you know you’re gay?” I simply said “How did you know you’re straight? You like boys; I like boys, very simple.”

Well, my coming out story is an odd one. I decided to come out when I was 15, that’s when I decided I was sure. I came out to one of my close friends that later became my boyfriend; and then my mates at school. They didn’t take it as well as I hoped, making fag jokes and avoiding me, so I left them. My best coming out episode was when I told my mum. We were in a Morrison’s car park in Dorset whilst on holiday. We had just finished our shopping and we were in the car park driving out. For some strange reason I decided to tell her. So I goes “Oh by the way mum...I’m gay”. She slammed on the brakes in the Middle of the Morrison’s car park and said “Really?!!?”, and then we drove home talking about it. Now I have new much better gay friends, so a happy ending after all!!

So ever since that day my life has been hell. I now live with my dad as I couldn’t cope with the stick and pain my mum gave me, mentally and physically and also the loss of so many friends. So I decided to move out and have now lost her she doesn’t associate with me and I don’t associate with her. I’m happy now too, I have friends and family that care. So yeah, I came out. Got a crap response from mum, but the rest of family and friends are fine. I’ve made so many new friends through this process to and some distant friends I am so incredibly close too now. All in all I have a happy life and have a hugeeeeeee crush too. Lol  Marcus Carlisle

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For next month’s magazine, we would like to hear your stories of coming out and the problems you have faced, or the happier parts of your stories, and we will then pick the ones we feel are best, and publish them. We would also love to hear if you or if a friend has any problems, if so you can email us at qtm@hotmail.co.uk . And if you wish to address it to one specific member of our team, please write their name on the email. Thanks all :)

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This was my first time at Stoke pride, and I was staying at a friend’s house for a weekend, and this was my first time in stoke, I was in an unusual place with people I barely knew. But believe me; Stoke pride 2010 was amazing..... :) Walking through the gates with a group of about 12 of us, all of us buzzing, wanting a good time, most of us not knowing each other, coming from all over the country, and in one case America, but getting along anyway. You walk through the gates, get a wristband put on, to show you have come to the stoke pride through the proper entrance, you then walk down a path, and come to stalls, selling and advertising different pride stuff, and all sorts of things, you then come to a bustling area, on the right, down a little hill is the main stage, which is crowded with people waiting for the first act on. Then on the left if you look up the hill is the Community or second stage and, a food and alcohol tent, which we went to a lot, and a few more stalls, selling sexual objects, for example, whips and chains. Kinky; I know. Queer Thinker Magazine™.

Then, after a quick look around to get my bearings, we headed down to the main stage to see some of the acts, I wasn't really sure who or what was going to be on, but I had vaguely looked at the line up, and saw there was a Lady Gaga tribute along with Amy Winehouse and Boy George tribute's, there was also a drag artist, Sandra, who is known all over the UK for being a very good, professional and most of all convincingly ladylike drag queen, who likes to interact with the crowd, and pick of people, if it can be called that. First up a man and woman appeared on stage to present who was on first and had a little chat with us, I wasn't paying too much attention to this part, as I was getting my free condoms, which are obviously compulsory at any gay pride event, and on stage came Sandra the drag queen, and rapturous applause filled the main stage area, as she walked on, she had a little talk to the crowd and had a bit of a piss take with a few people, then she decided to have a little sing, to Lady Gaga's poker

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face first then a few more iconic songs that everyone can sing along to, as she walked off stage to applause once again, a few more smaller acts came along, had a sing and a bit of banter with the crowd, and at around 4.45pm the Amy Winehouse tribute came on, and she was very good, but at this point, I decided to go up to the smaller, community stage, as my friend was performing with his local youth group, doing a dance show, which I may add, was amazing, the crowd was very large for this performance, which is hard to do, in what was pretty much a tent, with some speakers, but it was very good, had the crowd singing and dancing along, and was a very entertaining time. After they had finished, we all slowly moved back to the main stage, as next on they had various DJ's, playing mainly dance and techno tunes, which we were all jumping up and down too, probably making our selves look like complete dicks, but hey, who cares, we carried on raving for about another 2 to 3 hours, and eyeing up, very hot lads, and drinking beer and just having a very good, enjoyable time with our mates, celebrating who and what we want to be. And I must say, to sum Stoke pride up, it was amazing, and if you haven't been, I would say. Bring on 2011!! :) Teigan xXx

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Nottingham pride, I have to say, was a little bit of a disappointment, you walk down the long path leading to the entrance onto the massive field that holds Nottingham pride, and you see, maybe 12 stalls, selling different types of stuff, key rings, flags, necklaces, and some advertising everything from Nottinghamshire police service to aids awareness, and then to the right, one stage with a small crown, and to the left, what I assume was the Main stage, which in all fairness, was quite enjoyable, as some of the acts were unknown, there were three that stood out during the time I was there, which were a 'pink' tribute act, which was very good, and had everyone singing along, also what stood out was Lisa Scott lee, an Ex Steps band member, who sung some of her new songs, and few Steps classics, and she winked at me, I felt honoured. The final act to impress me was a band called Inju5tice, five very hot lads, who pranced around the stage singing their good songs; they attracted a big crowd, not just because of their music, but because of their amazingly hot bodies. But to be honest, I had a wander and a look around, and to be brutally honest, I was bored after a few hours, so me and my friend left. But I’m hoping next year will be more lively and more enjoyable.. :) Teigan XxX

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Dr Anna Rutherford, Daryn Carter and Amy Wilson, among many others, worked nonstop for six months; Anna and Daryn put their careers on hold and living off savings, so that they could all work from before dawn until after dusk, week in, week out. The committee and charity they set up has drawn from the skills of over two hundred people, from press officers, businessmen and students like me. By all accounts, Bristol's first Pride was an allround success. In the course of providing my services where possible, I've attended most events, and it constantly amazed me what variety they could provide, and how much it was appreciated by the public.

Bristol shows its Pride Ross Harrison shares his experience of what Bristol Pride had to offer this year. Bristol, a medium-sized city with an LGBT community of 25 000 - twice that if you include Bath and South Gloucestershire has never had a proper Pride celebration. Sure, there have been marches, scene-wide events, and even a gay-friendly Mardi Gras (which flopped due to bad management) - but these have been about the gay scene, marketing the venues, and not so much what Pride should be about.

Pride Week in mid-August included literary events by LGBT authors in the Arnolfini museum, comedy from Rhona Cameron and Bethany Black, a specially written dance performance, an LGBT choir, and a series of film screenings at the Watershed independent cinema and the Hippodrome. Scattered around this week were specialist events of intrigue for sub-communities, such as a trans issues night, men- and womenonly fundraisers, and student-friendly bar crawls.

Late last year, a group of inspired, enthusiastic and above all dedicated individuals decided to make a Pride that Bristol could be proud of - one that celebrates all aspects of L, G, B and T people, provides a platform for their still all-too-often marginalized culture, and includes the entire city.

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Pride Day on the 21st of August, despite the torrent or rain in the late afternoon, drew in around 25 000 people from across the south, with coaches organised from neighboring cities. Castle Park was the perfect venue; Bristol City Council agreed to let Pride hold a free festival there as an experiment, and it provided an excellent backdrop for the main stage, the market square, and the youth, men's, women's, VIP and trans areas, nestled among the trees and the castle ruins alongside the River Avon. With performances from local and national LGBT acts, up-andcoming bands such as Wilder, and Sonique headlining, the opportunity for all to find something of interest and enjoyment. Riding on the success, marketing and experience of this year's festival, the organisers are looking to expand, diversify and extend Pride Bristol into a nationally recognized, locally championed and valued event that sustains itself into an ever-growing movement. Look out for next July's festival, for something unique, Bristolian and above all exciting. Visit www.pridebristol.com for all the info you could want. Ross Harrison is a student, Bristol LGBTsoc president and Pride volunteer, please visit www.gayinbristol.com and twitter.com/UoBLGBTsoc.

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Top Ten: films Teigan's top ten film count down for this month At 10 we have Summer Storm At 9 I love you Phillip Morris And at 8 is Milk

At 7 its Get real 6 is Newcastle Australia And now the top 5 And at 5 Shelter

Flying in at 4 is Guys and Balls At 3 its Brokeback Mountain Just missing the number 1 spot is Were the world Mine at 2 And this month’s number 1 is Beautiful Thing Queer Thinker Magazine™.

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Top Ten: music Teigan's top ten music count down for this month At 10 we have Sway Ft. Donaeo – Pop Bottle At 9 DJ Fresh Ft. Ce'cile – Gold Dust And at 8 is Stormae – Alors on Danse At 7 its Beatbullz – Skills 6 Tinie Tempah Ft. Eric Turner – Written In The Stars. And now the top 5 And at 5 Magnetic Man – I Need Air In at 4 is Travie McCoy Ft Bruno Mars – Billionaire At 3 its Example – Last Ones Stading Just missing the number 1 spot is Katy B – Katy On A Mission at 2 And this month’s number 1 is Devlin – Brainwashed

And if you want something else here is my Classic tune; T2 – Heartbroken. Banging Remix; Tinie Tempah & DJ Taezer – Pass Out (D&B Remix)

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Top Ten: books Teigan's last top ten this month is books, so here is his count down At 10 Cut hand by Mark Wildyr In at 9 it’s Got Men by G.A. Hauser Flying in at 8 is Helpless by M.J. Pearson On at 7 is Gypsy Boy by Mikey Walsh 6 and its Mahu Men by Neil Plakcy At 5 The Eagle Kite by Paula Fox In at 4 is Dammed strong love by Lutz van Dijk Coming in at 3 is Am I Blue? Coming out from the silence edited by Marion Dane Bauer Just missing our number 1 is Rainbow Boys by Alex Sanchez at 2 And this month’s number 1 and book at bed time suggestion is

Cry myself to sleep by Joe Peters

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Do you need advice??? For one Issue only we are giving a guide to coming out that might help you come out yourself, or if you have a friend you can pass it on to them.

Ok so you think you could be gay. Well your world has not come to the end yet. So you have come to the end of the road from here on you have a choice of three roads. Road 1 your straight, you have no feelings of love for men. But you can move on to Road 2 or 3 at any time. Or Road 2 your bi, you have feelings for both sexes, you like a bit of both that's fine. You can move to roads 1 or 3, but moving to road 1 could cause some hurt for you and others. Or Road 3 your outright gay, you love men and girls are just normal people nothing much more than friends. You can move to road 2 at anything but you cannot jump straight to road 1, but you must choose wisely. Ok so your making your mind up here are some questions to get you thinking. 1. Do you have feelings for the same sex? 2. Do you have feelings for both sexes?

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3. Do you have a supportive group of friends you trust? Ok so three questions to think about. There will be more. This is what you have to look at. Know you need to look at if men make you horny and make Mr. 3rd leg move or do women do that or do both; as soon as you now that the roads become clearer. Know which ever road you choose you need to make sure it’s what feels right for you. Friends can want to change your mind so once you have made up your mind stick to it and don’t let people change it; it only confuses you. Once you have made your mind up think long and hard it is the road you want. Now is the time to tell friends you trust not to sway your decision and not to go tell it off a mountain to all and sundry. So you have come to your decision accept it feel happy with what you done. Ok get your parents together and you MUST tell them at the same time it critical that that happens otherwise it can cause problems.

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They both need to know at the same time if you tell them at different times they can get funny with you. 4. Do you have support from your parents from whatever roads you choose? 5. If you feel you cannot tell your parent’s there another family member you can tell? 6. Is there a friend that can help you, (this friend may have gone through this too)? Ok so how do u tell your parents your bi/gay. Well you bring them together and say "mum dad there is something I need to tell you both. It’s important very important. I don't want u to get upset or thing anything bad, but I need your help and support", this shows that you want to include them and you are not excluding them, and may make them think you have thought about what you’re about to tell them. So next.... “Mum dad this has not been easy and I have found it hard to tell you this but I'm gay or bi". At this point the room will go silent, you wait till they say something do not say anything after telling them. You then have to answer questions they may have, they may hurt so be prepared for anything.

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If you think you cannot tell them on our own then if you have a Boyfriend if you tell them you’re gay take him he can be there to support you and help answer questions. He may answer some questions before they are asked, this shows he is there and he supports you, and if your parents see you’re happy with him it puts their minds and rest a bit. Tell them your bi u may need to do it on your own but you can have friends waiting outside. What ever you choose you can still have friends, Boyfriend and Girlfriend there. But as long as they see your happy it should be fine. If there is a problem then tell them you wanted to tell them because you love them and you wanted their support. So it is your choice now.

So for next month we would like to know of any problems you would like sorting and we will try our hardest to help you. Or if you have a friend who has a problem we will also help. We will try to sort all the problems we get and we may publish some of them in the magazine. So email us at qtmag@hotmail.co.uk and we will try and help.

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